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What are the 9 Traits of Narcissistic Personality Disorder · The Mental Healness Podcast

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  What is going on, beautiful people.
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  Today we're talking about the nine traits of narcissistic
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  personality disorder according to the DSM 5.
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  If you're new here, my name is Lee Hammock and I'm a clinically
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  diagnosed narcissist. And welcome to another episode
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  of the Narcissist Code. So finally, finally, finally,
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  not everybody's a narcissist. Lee, you got to be clinically
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  diagnosed to be a narcissist. Yeah, duh.
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  You don't have to be clinically diagnosed to be a narcissist.
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  That's what that's the thing that kind of blows my mind
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  because I have narcissistic personality disorder, right.
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  And although I am clinically diagnosed, if I would have never
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  went to therapy, would I not be? So does that not make me a
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  narcissist? If I never went to therapy and
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  got clinically diagnosed, would I not be a narcissist?
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  You said that argument flips, people flips on people's heads.
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  It's just like it flips, it flips people's arguments on, on
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  their heads. It's like, no, you got to be
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  diagnosed. So if I wouldn't have gotten
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  diagnosed, so does does that mean I'm a narcissist?
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  You see, you see, you see. So, but today y'all, we're
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  talking about the nine traits of narcissistic personality
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  disorder, the 9 traits that the psychologists and people use,
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  clinicians use, therapists use to diagnose people with NPD.
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  And the crazy thing about this is y'all you don't is 9 traits.
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  You only have to have 55, it says.
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  The definition of MPD states that that it comprises of a
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  persistent matter of grandiosity, A continuous desire
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  for admiration, along with a lack of empathy.
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  It starts by early adulthood and occurs in a range of situations,
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  as signified by the existence of any five of the next 9
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  standards. So you don't have to have all
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  nine to be diagnosed as a narcissist.
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  You only have to have 5 in each and every single one of these is
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  toxic in and of his own nature. Y'all, you know that's what I'm
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  just telling people. So the first trait that they
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  have listed on here is a grandiose logic of self
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  importance. Yes, grandiose logic of self
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  importance is absolutely true because that's how it goes right
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  there. Y'all.
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  If you think, if you, if you think about it, narcissistic
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  people think that they are super important people just because we
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  are US, you know, just because I'm me, it means that I'm
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  important. It means that I, I, like I said,
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  it just means that I have importance because I am me.
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  That's all it means. Like I'm important because I'm
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  me and you are you and I'm more valuable than you to this world
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  because I am me. No matter how much success you
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  have, no matter how much, how many goals you've hit, no matter
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  how much money you have, no matter how much taller than me,
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  stronger than me, faster than whatever it is, better looking
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  to me, whatever it is, I'm still better than you.
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  I'm more important than you because I am me.
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  And you know that you dealt with most narcissists.
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  I think most narcissists have this trait right here.
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  You know, most narcissistic people have this trait right
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  here. They do, you know, they
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  absolutely do. It just gets into that space
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  right there where they just feel like they're super important to
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  the world. Like the world, the world should
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  be blessed to have me in it. You know what I mean?
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  The world should feel blessed to have me as a part of it, which
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  is a wild mindset to have, which I understand when people just
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  look at, you know, and y'all know people like this all the
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  time. People that haven't accomplished
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  anything in life but just feel like I'm better than you.
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  It should have been me or the jealousy, boy.
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  Oof. The jealousy, the jealousy, the
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  jealousy, the jealousy. So that's trait #1 y'all trait
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  #2 I'm walking down my time limbs is a fixation with
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  fantasies of infinite success, control, brilliance, beauty, or
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  idyllic love. Fixation with fantasies of
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  infinite success. Like, yes, yes, I want it all.
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  Like this is this is one of my this is one of my traits, right?
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  Yeah. Like seriously, I am like
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  literally y'all seriously, since I was younger, I want to be a
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  famous actor or playing NFL. I needed to do stuff that set me
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  apart from everybody else because I, I had those delusions
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  of grandeur that kick in right there, right?
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  You know what I mean? The delusions that I deserve a
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  better life, that I wanted so much success.
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  Because right here, and a lot of narcissists have this right
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  here, y'all, they have these delusions of infinite success,
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  fantasies of infinite success or control and brilliance and
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  whatnot because they want to be happy.
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  They think that going after these goals will somehow, some
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  way, shape or form, finally make them happy.
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  It will finally help me be me. It will finally make me give my
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  life meaning when I'm ultra successful, right?
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  But that's the crazy thing about it.
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  Because I've achieved a lot of success and it doesn't make you
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  happy. Happiness is intrinsic.
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  Happiness is internal. And I've come to realize that
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  because I've been in therapy for the last six years.
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  That happiness, you have to go. You have to earn it from the
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  inside out. Happiness is inside out stuff.
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  It comes from the inside and works his way outside.
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  But narcissistic people are different.
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  They try to go outside in. You see, I'm saying like
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  success, control, brilliance, beauty, idyllic love.
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  I want people to idolize me. All that stuff is external.
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  You see all that stuff, right? There is external things.
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  Control is external. Brilliance is external, beauty
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  is external. All this stuff is external.
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  Brilliance can be internal a little bit, but because you know
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  the mind, but it's the illusions of brilliance.
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  So it's external, but all this stuff is external things that
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  that you think is going to make you happy.
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  Like I've experienced this on so many different levels where I
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  think that this is going to make me so happy when I hit the
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  success. This is going to make me so
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  happy when I fall in love, when I get married, when I have kids,
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  when I get the job of my dreams, when I graduate from school,
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  when I hit a million subscribers on TikTok or something like
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  that. You think it's going to make you
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  happy. But in the end, it really,
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  really doesn't. You know, it really doesn't.
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  So that and that right there when they hit these goals or a
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  lot of times they self sabotage them themselves on the way to
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  try to hit these goals. So that happens quite a bit
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  right there. They self sabotage themselves on
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  their way to trying to hit one of these goals.
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  So they never hit it. So they can't, they can say they
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  tried, but they didn't succeed. So that gives them the reason to
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  try to keep going to get this, this type of stuff.
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  But it just doesn't make you happy to get there.
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  And that can make them resentful towards the people around them.
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  So when they hit success, when you have a successful
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  narcissist, they'll still be angry at the people around them.
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  They'll still treat the people around them like lesser beings.
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  Because you go back to the first one, grandiose logic of self
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  importance, you know? So trait #3 trait number 37
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  minutes, 7 minutes. A credence that he or she is
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  extraordinary or exceptional and can only be understood by or
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  connect with other extraordinary or important people or
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  institutions. Here's right here.
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  I'm special and nobody understands me but other special
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  people. Nobody understands me but other
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  special people, other people that are in charge.
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  And you wouldn't get it because you are a lesser being.
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  You don't understand my point of view because I'm up here.
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  I think up here. You think down here, you know,
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  like this is my first time reading through the non trades,
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  which is crazy. Oh, but you think up here.
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  I mean, I think up here, you think down here.
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  So I'm just a higher being. Like you don't understand.
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  I speak. It's like I'm speaking Latin.
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  You're speaking English. We don't, you don't understand
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  me because we're speaking, we're on different wavelengths.
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  We're speaking different languages.
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  In my language is the most important language.
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  You need to get on my level. You need to get to my level of
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  understanding, even though my level, my level of understanding
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  might be delusional, it might be conspiracy theory oriented.
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  You know, it might be just wildness, but that's how I used
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  to feel. That's how I used to feel like.
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  That's why you get a lot of narcissistic people that feel
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  like even in a crowd of a lot of people, they feel like they
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  stand out even if they fit in, even if they look exactly like
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  everybody in the crowd. Even if I was in a crowd of 6 to
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  250 LB people with dreads, Black people with dreads, I would feel
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  like I'd stand out. I'm different.
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  I'm different than everybody here because I'm different.
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  I'm me. You said nobody else gets me.
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  I'm on an island by myself here. That's the mindset of a lot of
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  narcissistic people right there, y'all?
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  It's wild. It is a wild mindset to have.
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  They feel like nobody else understands you, but that's why
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  nobody else gets you. That's why you an outcast,
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  because nobody understands you. You feel like you've been
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  castaway from people because nobody gets it.
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  You may nobody's gonna understand me.
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  Nobody. Nobody here gets me.
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  So that's why I'm unhappy. That's why people I get always
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  get in trouble, because nobody understands me.
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  This how this how to explain away the bad stuff that they do.
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  This how to explain away the bad stuff that they say, the crazy
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  delusional stuff that they say. You just don't get it.
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  You understand me? Your level of thinking is down
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  here. So trait #4 is a desire for
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  unwarranted admiration. A desire for unwarranted
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  admiration. Like you go after the, the, the
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  you think you, you want it y'all.
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  You want the attention. You want all the attention on
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  you. You know what I mean?
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  You, you want it on you. And you don't deserve it like
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  you don't deserve. You feel like all eyes should be
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  on me. But what do you have?
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  What have you done to deserve it?
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  What, what, what can I just what, what have what can I say?
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  What have I done to justify admiration?
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  Why should people? Why should I like this is how
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  he's the crazy thing about this. How I used to feel on TikTok.
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  This is kind of how it's be honest with you.
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  This is kind of how I still feel on TikTok on any social media
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  platform. When I see somebody doing good,
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  I always think like when they have, when somebody else is
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  doing good, right, Let's say on YouTube per SE, like they'll
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  have like this is back when I first got started, they would
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  have like 100K Subs and I'd be like, why don't I have 100K
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  Subs? I I talk better than them.
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  I have the best information. Why don't I have 100K Subs?
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  I wouldn't wish I know, so I would.
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  I'm not wishing bad on people debt had 100K Subs.
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  I just felt like I deserved it. Why I needed more attention or
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  more eyes on me because I'm me. You see how all this stuff works
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  in together? The delusions of grandeur, the
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  fantasies of success and unwarranted attention like you.
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  All this stuff works in together.
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  You feel like you deserve more because I'm me.
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  It all ties in together. Like why I need more attention
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  because I'm me. I need to stand up because I got
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  dreads. You see?
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  Let's, it is a wild mindset, man.
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  Just read these traits. It is kind of crazy because
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  that's how, because how the mind works and whatnot.
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  Y'all, It is wildness. So #5A sense of entitlement, you
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  know, a sense of entitlement. It just says that clearly you
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  feel like you're entitled for because I'm me.
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  A lot of this stuff is just based.
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  You say a lot of these traits are based on this, the serious,
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  like delusions of grandeur and thinking you're more important
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  than everybody else. Like you feel like you're
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  entitled to certain benefits because you were born, because
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  you are here, because you exist. You know, I feel like I deserve
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  more following because I me, I provide the most, the best
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  information, which I wasn't at the time, You know, I just
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  thought I did. I thought, hey, our diagnosis
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  nurses. Who else knows more than me?
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  So many other people know more than me.
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  But in at the beginning, I thought I deserved more.
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  I was entitled to more followers.
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  I was entitled to more views, you know?
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  But going to therapy, being in therapy so long, I've come to
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  understand that you had to work for it.
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  You had to earn it. Y'all see me earn it?
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  Yeah, but three years, Three years pumping.
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  I've been pumping hard for three years on YouTube.
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  I've been pumping hard for three years, for three years, a 3 1/2
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  years on TikTok. And this is your I've been
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  pumping hard. Yeah, I know.
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  I've been on Facebook. I've been pumping hard because I
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  know there's that sense of entitlement still.
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  Is it? Is it still there?
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  Yeah, it's still there. But I understand it.
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  You know, my, I tell people just to people all the time.
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  My first thought is still self-serving.
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  My first thought is still the thought of a narcissist.
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  Like it doesn't go away. Like you, there's no cure for
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  narcissistic personality disorder, right?
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  So my first thought is still going to be the narcissistic
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  thought. But I've learned over the years
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  is to be I'm able to slow myself down and rationalize with myself
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  to understand it. Like, yeah, I have a sense of
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  entitlement, but I also have a sense of common sense to
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  understand that I have to earn it.
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  You know, like the, the entitlement kicks in first, but
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  then the common sense in the, the therapy work comes in and
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  they're just like, OK, you feel entitled, but why?
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  I asked myself the question, why?
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  Why do you deserve this? And be real with yourself?
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  I have to be real with it. You know, I'm real with it.
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  So why do you deserve this? I come from a place of realness.
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  I have to keep it real. I have to keep it hot with
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  myself, you know, so I do feel entitled sometimes, but I work
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  on it. You get a lot of narcissistic
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  people. They feel like they're entitled
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  to stuff that they haven't earned just because they exist.
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  You see the just because I they were born and they are here or
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  they suffered more or they are taller or they're better looking
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  or they're faster or they're harder worker or they whatever,
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  whatever it is y'all. They feel like that because they
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  feel entitled to other people's bodies.
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  They feel entitled to your space.
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  They feel entitled to your money.
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  They feel entitled to your support for no reason for how
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  have they earned it without earning it.
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  They feel entitled entitlement without earning it.
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  You know into being entitled without earning being feeling
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  entitled without earning it is a narcissist is a narcissist.
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  They trait you out. So trait number six, what are
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  they 14/14/14 is interpersonally oppressive behavior.
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  So interpersonally, oppressive behavior is number the 6th trait
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  of narcissistic personality disorder.
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  It means that you think that the the idea that one group is
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  better than another and has the right to control the other.
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  You feel like you are better. The narcissistic person feel
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  like they are better. So they feel like they deserve
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  control over you. They feel like they are again,
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  go back to the entitlement. They thought they're entitled to
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  the control over you. They feel like they can oppress
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  you because they are better than you.
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  They are, you know, more better at it than you.
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  So that's why a lot of people in relationship with narcissists,
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  they feel like they have to control every single thing that
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  you do. The children of narcissists,
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  they oppress their personalities, they oppress
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  their ingenuity, they oppress their happiness.
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  They oppress everything about them.
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  They want to control everything around them.
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  You know, they feel like if you want to do something with your
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  life because they control you, because they own you, because
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  you belong to them, they feel like you need to ask them
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  permission. You know, they feel like they
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  they are part of the dominant, like the dominant class.
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  It's kind of like they think that they're above everybody, so
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  everybody should listen to them. You need to listen to me because
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  I'm this person. I'm me, so you need to listen to
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  me. You belong to me.
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  That's why a lot of times when you get married to narcissists
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  or you get in a relationship or engaged or you were born to a
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  narcissist, it's like you're signing a contract for them for
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  you to, for them to own you. You know, it's like you're
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  signing a contract for you to belong to them.
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  Like, Hey, you belong to me right now.
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  You know, I own you. You know, you have to earn, you
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  have to earn, you have to earn it.
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  And they take, they take financial control, they take
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  emotional control, they take mental control, they take
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  control in the bedroom. They can take control of
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  everything. Like they try to dominate you.
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  They literally, literally try to dominate your life.
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  That's why so many people get stifled out in toxic
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  relationships with narcissistic people because you lose your
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  sense of identity. They take, they control your
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  identity. It's like literally right here.
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  This is like, this is the part of narcissistic personality
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  disorder when you're with them where it feels like you're a
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  member of a cult. This is like, this is, this is
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  what a cult? The cultish behavior kicks in
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  right here. They feel like you're a member
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  of the cult. Like I think for you right now.
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  I think for you. I breathe for you.
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  You breathe for me. Like you do as I say, not as I
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  do. You see what I'm saying?
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  This happens a lot of times in these spaces right here.
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  They, they, they, they just want to control you.
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  They put you down. They control the finances, they
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  control your whereabouts. They isolate you from your
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  friends or family. They do a lot of this stuff to
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  dominate your life and to destroy your life, to destroy
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  your, your relationships with other people.
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  This happens quite a bit in toxic relationship spaces,
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  y'all. This is one of those things that
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  happens a lot with a lot of narcissistic people, you know,
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  So be very wary of that right there.
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  I ran along with that one, but that that needed a little extra
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  time, you know, 1720, So trait #7 it says no form of empathy.
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  So right here, this is where it's kind of got for me.
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  This kind of shows you that like, you don't have to, like
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  most narcissists are going to lack empathy.
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  A lot of narcissists are going to lack empathy right here.
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  It says no form of empathy, but I think a lot of narcissists
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  like so you to be diagnosed with narcissistic personality
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  disorder, I told you, you have to have five of the nine, right?
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  So you can have a little bit of empathy and still be diagnosed
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  as a narcissist. Like you don't have to fall into
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  the no form of empathy for this diagnosis usually.
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  Like you don't have to fall. Like you can be a narcissist and
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  have a little bit of empathy. According to need, only needing
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  five of the 9 criteria. Only only needing to meet five
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  of the 9 criteria. So you can have you be a
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  narcissist with a little bit empathy.
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  You see, that's how it works there.
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  That's why I said this. There's a spectrum of
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  narcissism. There's probably going to be a
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  difference in a narcissist with five of nine and a difference of
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  a narcissist with nine of nine. You see, if you have all nine of
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  these, you got, you got some stuff going on.
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  You know, I'm not laughing at them, but you have a lot of
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  stuff going on in this space. But you know, empathy is the
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  ability to put, put, put themselves in the shoes of other
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  people, you know, put themselves in the feelings of other people
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  and understand the feelings of other people.
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  A lot of narcissists can't do that.
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  That's one of the things that a lot of narcissists lack the
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  ability to do is to put themselves in your shoes.
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  That's why when you ask a narcissist to, you ask a
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  narcissist to put themselves in the shoes of other people.
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  Like how would you feel if you were in this situation?
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  They can't do that. They're going to give you a
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  logical explanation of how they would survive and be better than
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  you in this situation. But like they can't date.
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  Like the tears, the feeling like to feel the way that you feel.
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  A lot of narcissists cannot do that because showing empathy and
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  being vulnerable like is weakness to a lot of
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  narcissists. Like showing tears and being
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  vulnerable, showing compassion is weakness to a lot of
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  narcissists because showing like a lot of times when we were
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  growing up being compassionate, being empathetic, we got
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  punished for it. You get punished for it.
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  Like especially in certain societies and certain cultures,
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  like you get called soft, especially as a man, a little
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  boy, you get called soft or girly for being emotional, for
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  crying, for showing tears, for showing compassionate people.
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  Stop being a girl. You act like a girl.
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  You see what I'm saying? That's how we grew up.
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  That's how a lot of us grew up in a lot of these different
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  spaces. Like we were told you can't be
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  empathetic, you can't be compassionate, you know?
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  So we sealed it up, you know? So I do think a lot of,
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  especially me, a lot of narcissists, well, some
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  narcissists have what, you know, to me, there's two different
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  types of empathy. There's emotional empathy and
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  then there's cognitive empathy. Most, I feel like a lot of
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  narcissists lack emotional empathy, the ability to
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  emotionally connect like that, the ability to put themselves in
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  the emotional shoes of other people.
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  But some narcissists have cognitive empathy, which they
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  they can understand why you feel the way that you feel.
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  They can understand why you were crying.
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  They can understand why you were happy.
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  They can understand why you feel under the way that they feel.
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  They just might not connect to those emotions with you.
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  They can understand it. They don't feel it with you.
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  You know, they don't connect with you on that level because
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  of something that's going on within the, you know, behind the
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  scenes within the narcissist's head.
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  That happens quite a bit right there.
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  Yeah. Yeah.
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  So it says no form of empathy, but that's right there, you
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  know, I think. But like I said, you can be a
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  narcissist and have a little bit of empathy right there.
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  So I think we have, when you have 0 empathy is when you can
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  get diagnosed as a sociopath or a psychopath.
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  I think that's when it happens right there in those spaces
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  because there's a lack of empathy for most nurses because
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  they say it's the definition of MPD states it says a lack of
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  empathy. Lack means there's still
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  something there. You have a lack of water.
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  There might still be a little bit of water left in the cup.
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  You know, there's AI have a lack of juice.
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  There's a lack, there's a little juice in here, you know, but no
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  juice means that bottles empty. He says no juice, but that's how
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  it goes. Yeah.
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  So trait number 82130, resentment of others or a
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  conviction that others are resentful of him or her.
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  Like this one. The jealousy component kicks in
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  for a lot of narcissists, y'all? And a lot of narcissists resent
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  you for being you, for being you, for having the ability to
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  be you. Like I said this in a lot of my
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  other videos that when you are happy, narcissists resent you
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  for being happy. They resent you for having the
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  ability to be happy and be to express yourself like that.
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  Because a lot of narcissists don't.
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  They have the ability to be happy but they don't want to
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  express it because they feel like it's weakness.
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  They they are jealous of you. This is where the resentment
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  kicks in y'all. Especially if you're like, if
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  you get a narcissist, right, this comes from like humble
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  beginnings or lack of resources or something like that.
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  And you were born like what's the, what's the term with a
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  silver spoon of you off or you came from, you know, you were
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  up, you didn't struggle growing up, right?
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  They resent you for that. They resent you for how you were
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  raised you were at reigns like this.
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  How dare you. Like they feel like you didn't
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  earn anything in your life so they that's why they resent you
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  for your accomplishments. You only got that because you
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  were born over here. You you know I had to struggle
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  and fight for everything I have. You were given everything.
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  They will resent and just diminish and invalidate
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  everything that you do because they're jealous of you.
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  Jealousy runs rampant with narcissist.
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  Y'all get jealousy and envy like they sometimes they want to take
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  what you have, you know, they don't want to just have it
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  because they feel like they deserve it.
• 23:19
  They want to take what you have because they resent you for
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  happiness. They resent you for having
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  empathy. They resent you for having
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  friends. They resent you for having a
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  close relationship with your family.
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  You know? But this is the flip side of
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  that. It says a conviction that others
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  are resentful of him or her. Like a narcissistic person
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  thinks that you resent them for being them.
• 23:38
  They think you were jealous of them.
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  Like this is the delusions right here.
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  We always like the delusions and the paranoia kicking right here.
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  We always feel like we're being watched, right?
• 23:48
  We always feel like somebody's watching us or somebody's out to
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  get us and whatnot. So that drive that hits us in
• 23:54
  the head. It really does.
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  Like we always feel like there's a set of eyes on us.
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  So we are always behaving in a certain way, right?
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  We are always acting in a certain way.
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  We we always move and like people are jealous of us.
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  That's why you get a lot of narcissism out.
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  When they do have the resources they have to shine.
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  They have to try to outshine everybody.
• 24:12
  They, some of them want you to be, let's be real, some of them
• 24:15
  want you to be jealous of them. Some of them want because that
• 24:18
  your jealousy and your envy, your resentfulness, it empowers
• 24:21
  them. They live for it.
• 24:23
  Some of them absolutely live for it.
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  They live to make you resentful. They live to make you jealous.
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  They live for it. So that happens a lot, y'all.
• 24:31
  They like I said, we always think eyes are on us.
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  Y'all hear a lot of my videos I say I used to feel like I was
• 24:37
  alone when I'm in a group of people when I was growing up
• 24:41
  when I was inside a big group of people, I just always feel like
• 24:44
  everybody was watching me but I was like, I feel like I was
• 24:46
  alone but our eyes on on me. For some reason I always feel
• 24:49
  like I stood out again. I can be a crowd of people who
• 24:52
  look exactly like me, but I feel like I would stand out in some
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  way shape before I always, I always feel like that.
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  But yeah, that's, that's it right there.
• 24:58
  Yeah. So the last trait #9 this is the
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  longest video I've ever done on YouTube.
• 25:04
  Y'all the longest one I've ever put up.
• 25:06
  Other than other than a live video, this is the longest one,
• 25:09
  which is kind of wild. A display of egotistical and
• 25:14
  conceited behaviors or attitudes.
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  Ego. I got a big ego.
• 25:20
  Ha, ha, ha, yes. Huge egos.
• 25:25
  So this is where the difference between a lot of covert and
• 25:28
  overt narcissists kick in the playoff.
• 25:30
  Covert narcissists, who are the more subtle passive aggressive
• 25:33
  narcissists still have big egos. They just demonstrated in a
• 25:36
  different way. Overt narcissists, you know,
• 25:38
  they have big egos and they show you.
• 25:40
  Covert narcissists, they have big egos and sometimes they show
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  you and they tell you, you know, they just, you know, I think
• 25:46
  over a narcissist will show and tell you as well.
• 25:48
  But covert narcissists kind of whisper while over narcissists
• 25:51
  scream it they still the same because one of my friends with
• 25:54
  my old friends, he's an overt narcissist.
• 25:57
  I'm more covert most times, right.
• 26:00
  So we have the same, we would have the same goals, but we go
• 26:03
  about getting them in different ways.
• 26:05
  Still, both of us still narcissist, highly narcissist,
• 26:07
  highly toxic, but we go about getting them in different ways.
• 26:10
  Everybody knows he's toxic. People didn't know I was, you
• 26:13
  know, it was like he oh, he's toxic and he would over shadow
• 26:15
  me with his toxicity and I'll be cool.
• 26:18
  People look at me like I was less no toxic.
• 26:19
  I was a nice guy. You see, that's why you see how
• 26:22
  that happens. But egos, y'all?
• 26:25
  Egos. Jealousy kicks in.
• 26:27
  It says a display of egotistical and conceded behaviors and
• 26:31
  attitudes. Think they think they're better
• 26:32
  than you. So you see, narcissistic people
• 26:35
  have huge egos, but they're huge fragile egos.
• 26:39
  Like huge glass tower egos. Like egos as tall as as tall as
• 26:45
  the highest mountain, but as fragile you can break it with a
• 26:48
  little baby rock. That's why narcissists don't
• 26:50
  like criticism, an aversion to being criticized in any way,
• 26:54
  shape or form, right? You get a lot of narcissists
• 26:56
  that all it takes is a little bit of criticism and it breaks
• 27:00
  them down. All it takes is a little.
• 27:02
  Yeah. All it takes is a little bit of
• 27:03
  criticism and it breaks the narcissistic person now little
• 27:07
  bit. You know, you criticize them.
• 27:09
  You hurt their ego. They'll lose their damn minds.
• 27:12
  They attack you. They try to come at you.
• 27:14
  They rage out on you. They start stalking you,
• 27:16
  harassing you because you hurt their ego.
• 27:18
  You did something small to them, and they take it in a major way.
• 27:21
  They have these big egos. They have these grandiose egos.
• 27:24
  They, you feel like they're the most confident people in the
• 27:26
  world, but they're fragile people that are easy to hurt.
• 27:30
  How do you hurt a narciss? Criticize them a little bit.
• 27:34
  Tell them that they're not. Tell them that they're not as
• 27:36
  good as they think they are. It's all it takes, y'all.
• 27:38
  It's not very hard to hurt a narcissist.
• 27:40
  It really, really isn't. That's why I tell people, y'all,
• 27:43
  it happens all the time in these spaces.
• 27:45
  It happens all the time in these dynamics and whatnot, y'all.
• 27:47
  So I hope this video Bushes and clarity.
• 27:51
  Bushes and peace I got all this information from itself there
• 27:55
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• 27:58
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