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Unlock Your Warrior Gene: Watch This When You Feel Like Giving Up! – Phil Daru · Motivation Mindset Podcast

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  Speaker 1: I'm gonna show you. Oh great, I am. They're always
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  Speaker 1: searching for the arduous task. If you're sitting at home
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  Speaker 1: and you're constantly just worrying, watching TV and letting your
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  Speaker 1: time just fade by, you're never truly taking advantage of
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  Speaker 1: what life gives you.
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  Speaker 2: Feel the room, that guy's very respected, yeah, highly respected. God, yeah,
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  Speaker 2: and he's helped me out a lot.
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  Speaker 1: If you want to be the same throughout your years
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  Speaker 1: and just be complacent with that, that's on you. But
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  Speaker 1: the ones that are ambitious, the one that have goals,
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  Speaker 1: they have the ability to make those changes happen. And
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  Speaker 1: if you don't do that, then you're doing yourself a disservice.
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  Speaker 1: Don't let failure be your downfall. The saddest thing in
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  Speaker 1: life is wasted talent. They call it a warrior gene.
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  Speaker 1: Everybody has some level of fight in them, they just
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  Speaker 1: have to be able to dig it.
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  Speaker 2: Out of themselves.
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  Speaker 1: You know, you got a guy from Detroit, then you
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  Speaker 1: got a kid from Dagastan, Then I got a kid
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  Speaker 1: from Japan. So you have not only just backgrounds, but
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  Speaker 1: like upbringing and different regions of the earth, and you
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  Speaker 1: go well. Their approach to life is totally different than
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  Speaker 1: this person's approach, but I can still relay over information
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  Speaker 1: appropriately for them. So Phil Darue and I am performance
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  Speaker 1: coach for mostly combat sport athletes. I've been doing this
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  Speaker 1: for fifteen plus years, and I've been martial art since
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  Speaker 1: i was four years old. My mother was a firefighter,
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  Speaker 1: so I used to help her work out when I
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  Speaker 1: was a kid, and so it allowed me to really
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  Speaker 1: understand how to push myself physically, mentally and also spiritually.
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  Speaker 1: Learning proper priortization protocols, programming methodology of training, things like
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  Speaker 1: that that were going to help me evolve. So I
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  Speaker 1: had to figure out ways to make me a high performer.
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  Speaker 1: So by the time I got to high school, you know,
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  Speaker 1: I was looking at some of the programming that we
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  Speaker 1: were doing.
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  Speaker 2: I was like, this is not going to work.
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  Speaker 1: So I ended up actually running the programming for my
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  Speaker 1: high school football team. Fast forward though, and I'm in
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  Speaker 1: my college career and my mother actually developed LOOPIS, which
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  Speaker 1: is an autoimmune disease, and ended up attacking her organs
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  Speaker 1: or organs started attacking herself. And my father got into
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  Speaker 1: a bad car accident so they couldn't afford any money.
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  Speaker 1: No money was coming in. It's like man, I had
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  Speaker 1: to make a decision of basically canceling my scholarship going
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  Speaker 1: back home a poverty stricken area, gang related a lot
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  Speaker 1: of drugs, things like that. Fortunately for me, I found
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  Speaker 1: a gym that was close by that was owned by
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  Speaker 1: an American Top Team affiliate.
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  Speaker 2: His name is Dean Thomas.
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  Speaker 1: He's a UFC veteran, and eventually I ended up getting
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  Speaker 1: my own spot at twenty two years old, training Dustin Poier,
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  Speaker 1: Hector Lombard, Tisha Torres, and these are all different types
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  Speaker 1: of fighters, right, so it allowed me to truly understand
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  Speaker 1: people at that point. When you're working with such an
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  Speaker 1: eclectic group, right, you have to be able to understand
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  Speaker 1: people right and be able to communicate to them appropriately.
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  Speaker 1: When it comes down to jiu jitsu or judo or boxing,
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  Speaker 1: it's all different, but it's also the same because it's
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  Speaker 1: combative sport.
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  Speaker 2: Right.
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  Speaker 1: We're born with this sense of combative approach. Everybody has
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  Speaker 1: some level of fight in them. They just have to
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  Speaker 1: be able to dig it out of themselves. First things first,
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  Speaker 1: sit down, map it out, write it down. Go over
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  Speaker 1: everything that you feel that you want to do, everything
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  Speaker 1: that you feel will make you whole sit there and
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  Speaker 1: really figure out what you want and then from there
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  Speaker 1: evaluate their limitters. We have to evaluate their strengths and weaknesses, right,
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  Speaker 1: knowing exactly what your weaknesses are and then finding out
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  Speaker 1: how we can make them a strength. And when you
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  Speaker 1: get stronger in any aspect of your life, it allows
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  Speaker 1: you to grow and it allows you to get better.
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  Speaker 1: And at that point you go, well, all right, I
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  Speaker 1: want that again.
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  Speaker 2: Physically, I can pretty.
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  Speaker 1: Much deal with any situation right to a degree, right,
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  Speaker 1: But psychologically it's hard because, especially when you have a
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  Speaker 1: tough time paying attention for a long period of time,
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  Speaker 1: a lot of ADHD going on around here, right, and
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  Speaker 1: I know that that's a weakness, that's a limitter for me.
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  Speaker 1: So again it goes back to introspection. There is gonna
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  Speaker 1: be times where it's gonna get tough and you have
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  Speaker 1: to go back and revisit the why. And that goes
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  Speaker 1: with anything if I talk to and I have clients
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  Speaker 1: now that are just regular people, general people. Anything they do,
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  Speaker 1: whether they're or the pedic surgeons or lawyers or you know,
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  Speaker 1: stay at home moms, even there has to be a
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  Speaker 1: level of correlation to what they do on an everyday
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  Speaker 1: basis so that they can truly understand why they're doing
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  Speaker 1: what they're doing.
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  Speaker 2: What happens if the song call, find a why, like
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  Speaker 2: what should they do?
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  Speaker 1: It takes some time, It takes some reflection. Sometimes you
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  Speaker 1: have to sit in solitude, you know. And I do
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  Speaker 1: this daily. I wake up about four four thirty in
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  Speaker 1: the morning right now. Some people say why you wake
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  Speaker 1: up so early, Well, because that's the only real time
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  Speaker 1: that you have for yourself. Everybody else is sleeping or
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  Speaker 1: at least nobody's gonna bother me at that time, right
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  Speaker 1: and I'll do some level of physical activity that puts
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  Speaker 1: me in an uncomfortable situation, which allows me to reflect
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  Speaker 1: on what I'm feeling in that moment in time. And
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  Speaker 1: then from there you try to fully understand why you're
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  Speaker 1: doing what you're doing.
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  Speaker 2: And why you're here. Takes prayer.
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  Speaker 1: I'm a man of faith, so I make sure that
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  Speaker 1: I'm constantly talking to the man above to make sure
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  Speaker 1: that he can give me some guidance or give me
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  Speaker 1: a level of understanding of why I'm doing what I'm doing. Sometimes,
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  Speaker 1: and trust me, I wake up at four four thirty
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  Speaker 1: and it's cold, and I could stay in bed. But
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  Speaker 1: the level of understanding that I get from getting out
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  Speaker 1: of bed is the first step to conquering the day.
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  Speaker 1: And so when I do that, it allows me to
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  Speaker 1: understand my purpose. It allows me to understand why if
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  Speaker 1: you want to be high level, you have to be
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  Speaker 1: able to give that maximal intent. You want to train optimally.
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  Speaker 1: You never really want to train to the point where
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  Speaker 1: you're fully fatigued to where you can't do it again.
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  Speaker 1: And a lot of the guys in like let's say
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  Speaker 1: Daghistan or even in Thailand, and these guys that have
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  Speaker 1: been engulfed in a certain aspect of martial art, they
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  Speaker 1: go in there and it's consistent effort that's about eighty percent.
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  Speaker 1: What that does do it allows that to compound over time,
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  Speaker 1: so the frequency of training becomes more than a person
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  Speaker 1: that goes out and gives it.
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  Speaker 2: They're all but drains everything.
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  Speaker 1: Now they have to take two days off, right because
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  Speaker 1: they're gone. What I found with all the elites is
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  Speaker 1: that they go in there and they give it their
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  Speaker 1: maximal intent for that particular day on what they have available. Right,
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  Speaker 1: So you have to look at two things. You have
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  Speaker 1: to look at objective indicators and subjective indicators. Your objective
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  Speaker 1: indicators can be an HRV, could be a heart rate
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  Speaker 1: in the morning, could be something that is going to
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  Speaker 1: be quantifiable, something that we can measure. Then you have
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  Speaker 1: a subjective indicator, something that you need to know for yourself.
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  Speaker 1: You need to feel it right. So you have to
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  Speaker 1: know your body. You have to know you know how
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  Speaker 1: things are working. Are you waking up with brain fog,
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  Speaker 1: Are you waking up feeling lethargic, are you waking.
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  Speaker 2: Up feeling achy? You know?
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  Speaker 1: And so you have to have a level of understanding
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  Speaker 1: and ought to regulate that day based upon how you're feeling.
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  Speaker 2: Well.
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  Speaker 1: Now we need to or to regulate pretty much, bring
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  Speaker 1: down the volume and at least get what we need
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  Speaker 1: to get out of that. But that day is a
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  Speaker 1: win because we did what we could do that day,
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  Speaker 1: and a lot of those elite people understand that process.
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  Speaker 1: The ones that don't usually tend to dig themselves deeper
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  Speaker 1: into a hole and end up getting burnt injured, and
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  Speaker 1: now they can't consistently get better because they're dealing with
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  Speaker 1: an injury, or they're dealing with a nagging pain or
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  Speaker 1: something along that line, and they end up getting burnt out.
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  Speaker 1: Psychologically and also physically. The ones that stay longer in
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  Speaker 1: the game become the elite, so ones that can maintain
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  Speaker 1: their level of progress, that stay above the rest.
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  Speaker 2: They're always searching for the arduous task.
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  Speaker 1: But every moment that you achieve certain little goals, it
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  Speaker 1: helps you elevate the next step and the next step,
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  Speaker 1: and so you try to find these new tasks to conquer.
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  Speaker 1: And I think that every moment that you have the
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  Speaker 1: opportunity to put yourself in an uncomfortable situation that allows
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  Speaker 1: you to really dig deep and find out who you
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  Speaker 1: are and what you're made of. And so you're constantly
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  Speaker 1: seeking the arduous task. There was a fight that I
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  Speaker 1: had one of my was my second profight, or always
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  Speaker 1: talk about this, where I was literally feeling like I
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  Speaker 1: was going to die in there. All I can remember
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  Speaker 1: was just don't give up, you know, just keep working,
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  Speaker 1: keep pushing, keep pushing, and whatever the case, whatever the
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  Speaker 1: end goal or end result may happen, you know that
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  Speaker 1: you put yourself through something that is very difficult, and
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  Speaker 1: it allows you to take that into your life whatever
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  Speaker 1: you do after. Throughout my life, I've had to deal
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  Speaker 1: with difficult situations and I've always made it out. So
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  Speaker 1: another task, another hard situation comes and you're confident enough
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  Speaker 1: to get over that task because you've done it so
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  Speaker 1: many times before. You're still living, you're still breathing. So
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  Speaker 1: if you're still here, you're still kicking. You got plenty
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  Speaker 1: more to give in order for you to grow. Just
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  Speaker 1: like anything with a gym, you have to go through
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  Speaker 1: a little bit of pain to cause adaptation. After the
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  Speaker 1: fact of you getting done with it, you feel so accomplished,
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  Speaker 1: you feel so at ease, and there's so many endorphins
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  Speaker 1: and you get a huge dopamine rush because of the
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  Speaker 1: fact that you went through something that was arduous and demanding, not.
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  Speaker 2: Only physically, but mentally and emotionally.
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  Speaker 1: My mother was the first person to really instill a
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  Speaker 1: level of work ethic in me and not give a
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  Speaker 1: shit attitude because back in I'm dating myself, probably ninety
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  Speaker 1: in the nineties.
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  Speaker 2: Let's just say the early nineties.
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  Speaker 1: Women weren't accepted in the fire department, and they're probably
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  Speaker 1: not still to this day. But that builds her up
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  Speaker 1: in all in terms of purposes or you could say
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  Speaker 1: no pun intended fire inside of her to want to
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  Speaker 1: get stronger, faster, more equipped, to deal with the pressure
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  Speaker 1: of let's say a fire breaks out and she has
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  Speaker 1: to carry a full grown man out of the situation.
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  Speaker 1: I've always saw that as a strength that you can
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  Speaker 1: acquire through constant training. Strength is your ability to manage pain,
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  Speaker 1: and so I think it every time, whether it be
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  Speaker 1: in the gym, whether it be in the ring, whether
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  Speaker 1: it be going for a rock, whatever it is. It
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  Speaker 1: allows you to grow as an individual. And if you
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  Speaker 1: don't do that, then you're going to stay the same.
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  Speaker 1: And if you want to be the same throughout your
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  Speaker 1: years and just be complacent with that, that's on you.
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  Speaker 1: But the ones that are ambitious, the one that have goals,
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  Speaker 1: the ones that want to help change people's perspective, they
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  Speaker 1: have the ability to make those changes happen.
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  Speaker 2: And if you don't do that, then you're doing yourself
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  Speaker 2: a disservice.
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  Speaker 1: It's almost like a hidden talent, right, And always say,
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  Speaker 1: you know, the saddest thing in life is wasted talent.
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  Speaker 1: And if you can't fulfill those talents, then you're doing
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  Speaker 1: yourself a disservice and you're doing everybody else around you
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  Speaker 1: that follows you for guide into the service. And if
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  Speaker 1: it's as small as taking the dog out for a walk.
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  Speaker 1: It allows you to keep that momentum going and then
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  Speaker 1: each and every time it gets bigger and bigger. Right,
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  Speaker 1: it compounds and progresses. But that gets people out of depression.
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  Speaker 1: People don't understand that. It's like if you're sitting at
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  Speaker 1: home and you're constantly just worrying, or you're watching TV
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  Speaker 1: and letting your time just fade by. Right, So if
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  Speaker 1: you are sitting at home, if you are finding no
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  Speaker 1: real fulfillment in life, just do something small. Just start
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  Speaker 1: something very minute in your mind, whether it being always
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  Speaker 1: talk about with the gym, because I think training in general,
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  Speaker 1: strength training or conditioning, whatever it is, if you could
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  Speaker 1: just go to the gym. Some people have a hard
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  Speaker 1: time just getting in their car and driving to the gym.
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  Speaker 1: Get there first, that's one win. Even if you spend
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  Speaker 1: five minutes there there, and then the next day try
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  Speaker 1: to spend ten minutes. And then it compounds and keep going,
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  Speaker 1: keep going, and eventually now you make it a part
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  Speaker 1: of your routine. And what does it become, right, it
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  Speaker 1: becomes now a level of this is just what I
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  Speaker 1: do now, and I've been doing this for well over
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  Speaker 1: twenty thirty years. Just getting after it repeated friction, what happens,
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  Speaker 1: It causes a fire, right, So now you have a
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  Speaker 1: fire built inside of you to keep moving forward, and
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  Speaker 1: you know, if it starts burning, you got to move right.
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  Speaker 1: And so as I create that friction each and every day,
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  Speaker 1: I can continue to keep.
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  Speaker 2: The fire burning.
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  Speaker 1: And so with any aspect of a lot of your
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  Speaker 1: life that you're doing, if you're trying to build a business,
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  Speaker 1: you're trying to build a family, there's going to be
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  Speaker 1: some friction, there's going to be some pushbacks, there's going
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  Speaker 1: to be some downtimes.
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  Speaker 2: You just got to keep moving. You know what's the
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  Speaker 2: dream personality traits? Somebody turns up to you and you're like,
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  Speaker 2: this is the guy? Like this guy I can tell
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  Speaker 2: us in song right, good question.
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  Speaker 1: They don't need to have crazy athletic ability, they don't
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  Speaker 1: need to have even a level of high IQ. They
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  Speaker 1: just have to have a level of want to. And
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  Speaker 1: I've seen guys that don't have all the physical attributes,
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  Speaker 1: that don't have the I would say, the psychological acuity
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  Speaker 1: to get things done, but they have the will to
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  Speaker 1: want to get it done. And I've seen plenty of people,
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  Speaker 1: some of my mentors even they just never gave up
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  Speaker 1: and it's kept working in their drive to learn more.
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  Speaker 2: Even if they didn't have.
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  Speaker 1: The ability to learn as good as someone else or
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  Speaker 1: as quick as someone else, they were able to level
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  Speaker 1: up and progress because they never gave up in their
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  Speaker 1: journey in the process of learning, whether it be for
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  Speaker 1: training or whether it.
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  Speaker 2: Be for anything else.
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  Speaker 1: So I think that that's one of the biggest attributes
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  Speaker 1: that anybody can have, is just the will to succeed,
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  Speaker 1: the will to want to do better, and the drive
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  Speaker 1: and the determination and the work ethic to get that done.