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GHEALEAD (Part 4) · Apostle Lazarus Femi

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Speaker 1: Apostle Family, Lazarus is a man raised by God to
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Speaker 1: demonstrate his wisdom and authority to the Last day Church.
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Speaker 1: He is the lead pastor of like Nature, and God
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Speaker 1: told him years ago that a time will come where
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Speaker 1: my wisdom will be needed to navigate tough times in
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Speaker 1: the body of Christ.
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Speaker 2: Then I will.
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Speaker 1: Cause your voice to be heard, and all who pay
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Speaker 1: attention to my word on your lips will not lack
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Speaker 1: light and direction. He is a man sent from God,
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Speaker 1: sent to raise kingdom minded culture shapers.
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Speaker 2: And global leaders.
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Speaker 1: With Apostle Family Lazarus, every minute counts as you listen attentively.
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Speaker 2: So we're just gonna continue from where we stopped. So
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Speaker 2: I'm going to continue right from there.
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Speaker 3: And it's.
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Speaker 2: Very sensitive one tonight, and I want you to pay
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Speaker 2: very important attention.
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Speaker 3: No, I said.
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Speaker 4: To you, if you look at the history of man
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Speaker 4: carefully from Genesis one twenty six, when God first spoke
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Speaker 4: the idea of man, he said, come, let us make
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Speaker 4: man in our image and after a likeness.
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Speaker 2: But the love first mentioned. This is the first time
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Speaker 2: it's been mentioned. And let them have dominion over the
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Speaker 2: fish of the sea, over the fall of the hair,
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Speaker 2: over the cattle and over all the head, and over
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Speaker 2: every creeping thing that creeps upon the head. Now the
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Speaker 2: next verse, So God created man in his own image,
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Speaker 2: in the image of God, created e him male and
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Speaker 2: female created e them. And God blessed them. And God
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Speaker 2: said unto them, be fruitful and multiply, and replenished the head.
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Speaker 2: So the head is blessed if the blessed version of
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Speaker 2: man is what replenishes the head. Hey, did you get that?
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Speaker 2: Let me come again. The head is blessed if the
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Speaker 2: blessed version of man is what replenishes the head. Now,
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Speaker 2: let me give a quick sombar so you can understand
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Speaker 2: how intense all we are dealing with is. The next
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Speaker 2: thing we saw in Genesis chapter number two. God came
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Speaker 2: to give a physical frame to the spiritual man is made.
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Speaker 2: So the Genesis one, God made Genesis two, How he
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Speaker 2: made Genesis three? How what he made was attacked? Now
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Speaker 2: you want to ask yourself a question, why did the devil.
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Speaker 3: Attack them when he did?
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Speaker 2: Now, if you know anything about warfare or battles, now
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Speaker 2: you will understand that the time of attack is as
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Speaker 2: important as the strategy of attack.
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Speaker 3: Hello, are you there?
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Speaker 2: What did I say? The time of attack is as
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Speaker 2: important as the word strategy. For instance, you want to
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Speaker 2: attack when your enemy is more vulnerable.
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Speaker 3: Let's timing. Let's pick a few.
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Speaker 2: Lessons from the story in Genesistory number one. The devil
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Speaker 2: came after them while their seeds was still in their loins. Now,
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Speaker 2: that's consequential, such that in attacking the very life they carry,
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Speaker 2: if they can't die, they will produce after the order
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Speaker 2: of the dead nature. He attacked a family, and through
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Speaker 2: the family attacked youanity. So we can, in other words,
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Speaker 2: put it like this that the first attack of the
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Speaker 2: devil recorded in scripture was against a family, so and
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Speaker 2: it worked. It worked, so it means going forward it
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Speaker 2: is only strategic to repeat what works. Are you still there?
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Speaker 2: The first Adam came as a living soul. Jesus came
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Speaker 2: as the second Adam, who is now a life giving spirit.
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Speaker 2: The first Adam fell through an art of direct rebellion
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Speaker 2: against God by eating what he should not eat, because
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Speaker 2: he now preferred the wife.
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Speaker 3: When it came to Jesus, it was food also fast.
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Speaker 2: The issue is that the devil believes that I've you
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Speaker 2: worked before, it can work again. If attacking one family
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Speaker 2: yielded so much result like this, then attacking family is
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Speaker 2: only strategic abnormal.
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Speaker 3: Are you there?
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Speaker 2: That's the wisest or the smartest thing to do. Okay,
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Speaker 2: please both of you come the pastor and his wife.
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Speaker 3: If I can, this.
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Speaker 2: Is pastor and his wife. They have seven children. Economy
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Speaker 2: has not in on you. Hello, they have what seven children?
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Speaker 2: Seven perfection? Instead of attacking the children one by one,
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Speaker 2: it is only strategic for the devil to attack this union.
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Speaker 2: Then the effect of the union will attack the children.
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Speaker 2: That's the concept, and it's going to yield different fruits.
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Speaker 2: Some amongst them will grow up and saying I don't
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Speaker 2: want to get married. That's not normal and that's not
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Speaker 2: your portion. Please sit for a while. So staying on
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Speaker 2: the subject of families, it is warfare.
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Speaker 3: Because that's where the battle is hot. Are you there?
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Speaker 2: That's where the battle is what.
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Speaker 3: And fears?
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Speaker 2: That's where the devil is waiting. If you have a
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Speaker 2: bad omelet, it's because we first have a bad egg.
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Speaker 2: So a person is not a bad hoss band because
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Speaker 2: he's married. He was a bad bachelor. A person is
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Speaker 2: not a bad wife because she's married. She was a
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Speaker 2: bad spinster. Okay, I don't know why we call bachelor
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Speaker 2: more than we called the other one. It's difficult to pronounce.
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Speaker 2: So it takes that deformity wearing suits on top or
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Speaker 2: wearing gown on top and fantastic makeups and fantastic a dresser,
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Speaker 2: whatever it is, and get some sophae work done. But
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Speaker 2: the internality fellow was a good. The fellow is actually
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Speaker 2: still a good. I shared the story of a guy
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Speaker 2: that knocked out his mother in law on his wedding
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Speaker 2: there in case you don't know what it means to
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Speaker 2: knock a person out. It was with fists. The fellow
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Speaker 2: who told me said he knocked at the hell out.
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Speaker 2: It was argument about they didn't serve this family, they
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Speaker 2: didn't serve that family, and he knocked out. The wife fainted.
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Speaker 2: She was knocked out by proxy, remote remote job. She
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Speaker 2: passed out. She passed out. My god, she.
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Speaker 3: Had seen it.
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Speaker 2: But what division as weak are told that I would change? Yeah,
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Speaker 2: my god, it can't change. H Someone is angry and
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Speaker 2: is shaken a big plate. I'm break it. You shout
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Speaker 2: a blood of Jesus. Then he said, I'm sorry, you know,
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Speaker 2: and if i'd sweet word to tell you, I'm not
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Speaker 2: usually like this, but you know hm.
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Speaker 3: Hm hm.
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Speaker 2: Around when you can, let me share another story with
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Speaker 2: you before I get into my teaching. I don't know
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Speaker 2: how I end up knowing many things, but somehow I
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Speaker 2: know them, and I think God allowed it to know
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Speaker 2: them because of you.
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Speaker 3: You were here things tonight.
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Speaker 2: Now this girl was marrying this girl, and the night
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Speaker 2: before the wedding day, was drunk with his friend. So
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Speaker 2: they slept at the bear A Palo. They were looking
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Speaker 2: for him at the hotel.
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Speaker 3: He was gone. It was the song that woke up.
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Speaker 2: That was his wedding day, and he quickly went the
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Speaker 2: couldn't brush, did a quick fix, was bottling his suit
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Speaker 2: on bike.
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Speaker 3: You two, he said her.
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Speaker 2: The girl was godiously dressed, waiting for a king. Now
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Speaker 2: you carry more more wear suits for him. Put my
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Speaker 2: king on top. PUTI for your status, my god. When
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Speaker 2: they gave him the wedding sat pat He folded in
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Speaker 2: his back pocket. And what I'm telling you is a
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Speaker 2: real story. Say you may kiss the bride, He said,
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Speaker 2: no need. Why should there be in need? His mouth
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Speaker 2: was smelling m So it is only strategic for the devil.
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Speaker 3: To attack families.
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Speaker 2: It's only strategic, okay. So I began to show you,
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Speaker 2: and today we're going to get into a series of conversations.
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Speaker 2: Are you ready for me? All right? So I began
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Speaker 2: to show you some of the effects of these attacks,
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Speaker 2: particularly on individuals, and I said, one of the things
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Speaker 2: that can happen because of brain off from a traumatic
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Speaker 2: background or a dysfunctional route, is that you can be
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Speaker 2: trapped in the past. You can be trapped in your
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Speaker 2: childhood emotions. And I gave you symptoms of that. Number one,
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Speaker 2: I said, fear or timidity, fear of rejection, fear of
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Speaker 2: being critic sized, fear of not being loved, fear of
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Speaker 2: being seen, fear of making mistakes, and so on and
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Speaker 2: so forth. I gave you all that. Number two people
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Speaker 2: pleasing that if you grew up from a place where
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Speaker 2: you have to hand approval, then you might have it
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Speaker 2: as a custom where you want to please people or
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Speaker 2: you crave for their approval, you want to belong to
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Speaker 2: their cacos. Number three, I don't know if I spoke
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Speaker 2: about that trauma. Number four inferiority complex. Number five addictions,
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Speaker 2: and I spoke about substance abuse, sex addiction, talk about
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Speaker 2: same sex relationship and all that night life addiction. I
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Speaker 2: didn't talk about food addiction. Many of you don't know
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Speaker 2: that there is food addiction that you can be addicted to.
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Speaker 3: Let me give you a very.
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Speaker 2: Simple The same way people abuse, people get depressed. There
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Speaker 2: is a kind of depression that a person can stop eating. Yes,
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Speaker 2: when the plow fellow fish down, just want to pick anything.
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Speaker 2: In fact, I've seen cases of individuals addicted to eating
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Speaker 2: sand yeah, and even broken bottles, and they will break
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Speaker 2: it like changing.
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Speaker 3: Well, you may call it demonic.
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Speaker 2: When an abit lingers for so long, a spirit becomes responsible.
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Speaker 2: That's why people try to stop and they can't stop.
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Speaker 2: I was in a party, family party. Now then they
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Speaker 2: were sharing alcohol drink, yes, back then they had a
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Speaker 2: round table and they were pooring for everyone. Then was
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Speaker 2: a lady who was pouring and said this drink is
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Speaker 2: for men. So I said, I don't drink. I said,
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Speaker 2: you not a man. Some started drinking because of peer pressure,
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Speaker 2: so I should not look like the old one out.
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Speaker 2: Then start drinking a zoo Do you know a zoo? H?
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Speaker 2: You're afraid of shaking your head? Angels are looking at you.
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Speaker 5: You know it, you know it?
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Speaker 2: I said, just get hooked on all those stuff I
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Speaker 2: was in Italy, and when I got to the hotel,
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Speaker 2: I was so tasty, and I didn't find water in
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Speaker 2: the fridge. So all the things that I saw that
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Speaker 2: they didn't right there with English. Well, I looked at them.
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Speaker 2: I don't understand. Let me drink the one, let me
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Speaker 2: checked by this spirit. I didn't know that. The ones
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Speaker 2: I say, you're yo. So I picked a boat. I
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Speaker 2: said this this this, this would be mold. I opened
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Speaker 2: and gulped, ah, this is good. Now I finished. I
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Speaker 2: finished my meeting at night, told the girls at the hotel. Hey,
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Speaker 2: Pasta said yes. Pasta said, then drink no. Haccor said no, Harcore.
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Speaker 2: I said no, she said no acco. Then she gave
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Speaker 2: me a go girl. I said, so, what was all
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Speaker 2: the drama for? Amen? You said, when when you Sometimes
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Speaker 2: people get into these vices because you found your seven
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Speaker 2: environment where it felt like if you're not doing it,
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Speaker 2: you don't belong. And the reason why you are to
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Speaker 2: join them was because you've not learned to stand alone
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Speaker 2: without validation. One time I was a DJ where at
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Speaker 2: the party and then we're smoking and they will give
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Speaker 2: them next person. You know, people will smoke sometimes they
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Speaker 2: do not even used to putting them out. You to
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Speaker 2: put that thing, willn't make them think about that. You pass.
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Speaker 2: And I was the young man, young man, your format guy,
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Speaker 2: so they gave me. My head was sicky. Better. Don't
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Speaker 2: let me add this with my problem? Please pass? What's
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Speaker 2: some feel What will it look like that among guys?
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Speaker 2: I can't do this. That's not what makes you a man.
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Speaker 2: Real men stand their ground. Somebody's saying, it's a scripture
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Speaker 2: that speaks against smoking boo, and I like to call
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Speaker 2: things by the real name that they are called. It's
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Speaker 2: not only bu that the Bible did not speak about
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Speaker 2: didn't speak about many things because they've not been invented
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Speaker 2: us at that time, but the things that were their
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Speaker 2: equals as at that time, the Bible spoke against them.
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Speaker 2: Once you start finding scriptures that speak against things like that,
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Speaker 2: you are going small, small hold on. I should me
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Speaker 2: where the Bibles speak against marijuana. Why are you not
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Speaker 2: looking for where the Bible spoke about soul winning and
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Speaker 2: all that? Because the devil likes to leo. People likes
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Speaker 2: to leo. I'm getting somewhere. Are you still there? M hm?
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Speaker 2: Stay with me. Number six, I said, one of the
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Speaker 2: marks of dysfunctionality, which can also involve being trapped in
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Speaker 2: your childhood mind or trapped in the past.
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Speaker 3: Is that.
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Speaker 2: Such individuals tend to have to be violent. Violence and
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Speaker 2: the society often times is because such individuals were raised
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Speaker 2: by violent individuals or raised in violent environments. And when
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Speaker 2: you were raised by violence individuals, you see violence as
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Speaker 2: a norm. Physical abuse, verbal abuse, emotional abuse. These are
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Speaker 2: components of violence. You grew up, for instance, in a
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Speaker 2: place where they used to curse a lot. One of
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Speaker 2: the implications of that is that you may no longer
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Speaker 2: understand the gravity of words. I've had things in this
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Speaker 2: life when some people conjure curses. This is not just
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Speaker 2: step mother's stepfathers. This is mother to daughter because sometimes
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Speaker 2: there is the tendency to keep up your own frustration
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Speaker 2: on your kids and just release words. Or sometimes in
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Speaker 2: places where children grew up they were they saw being
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Speaker 2: told to get into the room because dad was about
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Speaker 2: to beat mom. That's going to affect their psyche about life. Unfortunately,
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Speaker 2: some of you sort of things you ought not to
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Speaker 2: see when you were growing up. You saw your dad
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Speaker 2: and your mom sometimes maybe get they got physical, or
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Speaker 2: they use words on each other and scarce at each
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Speaker 2: other and say all those things. Maybe even grew up
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Speaker 2: in a place where you've had neighbors come to help
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Speaker 2: set to the fight, and mayor you may not even
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Speaker 2: know that it's not normal for your parents to want
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Speaker 2: to beat you and you have to only wear in
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Speaker 2: his neighbors that are begging. There are a small, smaller
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Speaker 2: art of violate and somehow they affected your esteem. They
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Speaker 2: affected the quality of individuals we're becoming. Probably some of
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Speaker 2: you grew up in places where neighbors know, they knew
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Speaker 2: the shout of your mum that when someone is talking
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Speaker 2: like that is beating the wife. Again, there was a
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Speaker 2: family around us growing up at least every Sunday they
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Speaker 2: will fight and get each other naked. Listen, when children
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Speaker 2: see things, it doesn't just show them what is happening,
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Speaker 2: It shows them what is possible. There are possibilities you
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Speaker 2: don't have to know about, because once you know it
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Speaker 2: is possible, you have the tendency of repeating it. Some
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Speaker 2: men have become violent, some women have become violent, and
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Speaker 2: they are still saying, after all, it's not as bad
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Speaker 2: as my parents marriage, because there's one that they've seen
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Speaker 2: us a standard of violence and they're like and you
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Speaker 2: will not know when it gets to that point, and
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Speaker 2: even go above it. I think I saw a video
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Speaker 2: when they were asking children what their parents call each
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Speaker 2: other to am One said idiots.
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Speaker 3: It's not normal.
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Speaker 2: And when children are raised from such background and they're
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Speaker 2: heart like that they want everyone to feel their pain.
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Speaker 2: All right, some things that happen in society are not normal.
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Speaker 2: That's the offshoot of the defective family structures. It is
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Speaker 2: the duty of parents to come together to help their
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Speaker 2: children build held emotions. Some parents don't know that the
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Speaker 2: way you slap that child can be an act of violence.
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Speaker 2: Children should be corrected, all right, yes, but there are
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Speaker 2: corrections and there are some that are product of frustration.
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Speaker 2: Maybe you had a bad day. I've seen people slap
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Speaker 2: their own children and the child gets hospitalized. This is
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Speaker 2: not family members, now, this is mother or father to
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Speaker 2: some of you. You still have memories of one particular beating.
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Speaker 3: You can't forget.
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Speaker 2: There were plenty, but there was this particular one. M h.
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Speaker 2: Maybe in the process of the beating, the way eating
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Speaker 2: you also with leg another criminal and nothing will it's
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Speaker 2: it doesn't leave the mind, and the emotion of such
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Speaker 2: a person has been scarred when you ought to be soft.
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Speaker 2: You may not know when you become so hot. Add
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Speaker 2: with words, add with your actions, ad because your emotions
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Speaker 2: are being scarred. Sometimes you should not really be afraid
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Speaker 2: of conflict in a relationship so you can know how
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Speaker 2: deep the other person is. What can you say? What
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Speaker 2: can you know?
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Speaker 3: Say?
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Speaker 2: I regret the day I met you, I regret the
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Speaker 2: day I saw you. I you call your seven woman,
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Speaker 2: so you call your seven man?
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Speaker 3: You you.
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Speaker 2: Those are words that may not go away even after
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Speaker 2: the matter is shorted. Don't use temporary emotions to cause
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Speaker 2: permanent damage. And sometimes the reason why you do what
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Speaker 2: you do is because that was what was mirrored to
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Speaker 2: you while you were growing up. Let me say this
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Speaker 2: to you. The fact that you ate something in your
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Speaker 2: parents' marriage doesn't mean you can't repeat it or even
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Speaker 2: do worse. It is not enough to hate this functionality.
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Speaker 2: You must deliberately put yourself on the path to have
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Speaker 2: ld emotions and to build healthy homes. Are you still there?
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Speaker 2: Are you getting to add? All? Right? So I need
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Speaker 2: to take this systematically because they're important.
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Speaker 3: It is not enough to hate what you saw.
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Speaker 2: You must put yourself on the path of building held emotions,
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Speaker 2: LD emotions. Anywhere you find yourself that people will have
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Speaker 2: a taste of what your background looks like. Are you there?
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Speaker 2: Why do you talk the way you talk? Why do
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Speaker 2: you do the things you do? It was communicated to you,
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Speaker 2: so check. Most times you'll never see anyone coming from
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Speaker 2: a home where father and mother got it right. Serve
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Speaker 2: God and pick a gun on the streets to go
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Speaker 2: kill people. You never find most times because the hedge
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Speaker 2: is broken and now the children have the victims. In fact,
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Speaker 2: in most cases, some can't even trace who their father is.
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Speaker 2: That's why I said a father. A man is not
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Speaker 2: a father because he got a woman pregnant. You are
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Speaker 2: not a father until you're not. Are you still there?
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Speaker 2: A father not us stays around.
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Speaker 6: Up.
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Speaker 2: It is true, len from help them become And the
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Speaker 2: most important way to do that is to model what
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Speaker 2: is right. What you model is more powerful than what
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Speaker 2: you teach. That's the most important way to do that,
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Speaker 2: to model what is correct. How about cases where children
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Speaker 2: grew up knowing their father is in the prison, most
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Speaker 2: cases they tend to become violent.
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Speaker 3: Also, look at it.
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Speaker 2: The first mention or the first demonstration of violence in
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Speaker 2: the Bible what's from a dysfunctional background? Can a neighbor?
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Speaker 2: You see, this functional background is not necessarily a background
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Speaker 2: where father and mother have gone separate ways, inasmuch as
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Speaker 2: they are not in their God or the part it
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Speaker 2: is dysfunctional. Adam and ivad left God right they've seemed
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Speaker 2: and now from nowhere kill kill this brother? Why did
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Speaker 2: he see that? There are things that are not possible
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Speaker 2: in an atmosphere of correct priesthood. They're not possible. They
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Speaker 2: are not possible. I who taught him to pick a
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Speaker 2: stone to strike his brother on the head? How did
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Speaker 2: you know that instinct? Because of the environment. See, there
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Speaker 2: are questions to ask yourself.
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Speaker 3: If I say yes.
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Speaker 2: To this guy, are we going to come together to
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Speaker 2: make the world a better place? I say yes to
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Speaker 2: this lady with an angry man that should not go.
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Speaker 2: That's what the Bible says, are.
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Speaker 6: You and me?
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Speaker 2: So you can study Genesis chapter number four when you
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Speaker 2: get back home. Also, something quite close to that is
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Speaker 2: the word crime. The tendency or the ability to commit
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Speaker 2: crime most times are offshoot of defective family structure, stealing
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Speaker 2: different kind of crimes, and most times because there was
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Speaker 2: no want to model how to do life correctly. Oh,
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Speaker 2: the blessedness of father and mother coming together to bless
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Speaker 2: their children, to speak words over them, to counsel the children,
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Speaker 2: to demonstrate what is correct, Oh, the blessedness. If you
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Speaker 2: look at it, you see that the devil doesn't want
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Speaker 2: any home to be fine. He wants to distract you
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Speaker 2: so that you don't have time for the information. And
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Speaker 2: they begin to manifest different tendencies. This is not an
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Speaker 2: African thing. It's a global thing. Okay that some children,
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Speaker 2: they don't say before we start judging people someplace. Some
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Speaker 2: people have nowhere to call home. They have to sleep
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Speaker 2: under the breach and find anyone. And when they're exposed
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Speaker 2: to the community like that, they teach them nonsense. Let
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Speaker 2: me show you scriptures. Tell your bibles there, Ezicael, chapter
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Speaker 2: number thirty four. I will show you this scripture. I'll
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Speaker 2: tell you a story if you're there, Samen, Ezicael, chapter
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Speaker 2: number thirty four. Now look at this. Let me jump
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Speaker 2: to verse just a moment, Ezicael, thirty four. Let's th
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Speaker 2: they're reading from verse fourteen. Okay, let's start from verse eight.
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Speaker 2: Thank you so much. As I leave, please pay attention
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Speaker 2: to this as I leave, says the Lord. Surely, because
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Speaker 2: my flock became a prey, and my flock became a
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Speaker 2: meet to every beast of the field. That is when
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Speaker 2: parents are shepherd, because that's the first assignment. When they
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Speaker 2: fail to do their duty, the children become parreed to anybody.
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Speaker 2: Anyone can influence them, send them to get secrets, send
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Speaker 2: them together, all those things. They ought not to be
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Speaker 2: exposed to.
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Speaker 6: That.
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Speaker 2: But because the shepherds are busy, so they become meats
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Speaker 2: to every prayer. Someone is sleeping with the girl in
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Speaker 2: the street. Nobody knows. One uncolic is raping the child.
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Speaker 2: Nobody knows. The father does in prayer, is not aware
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Speaker 2: of what's going on. People are taking advantage of the
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Speaker 2: children they don't know because they are basic dealing with life.
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Speaker 2: You can't outsource parenting and people have gone through things.
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Speaker 2: Many parents have no idea of ten percent of what
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Speaker 2: their children have survived. They sit down in family meetings
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Speaker 2: and the children know they don't.
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Speaker 3: Even know me.
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Speaker 2: Many parents just want to boost My daughter is a doctor,
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Speaker 2: and they will make the children's study courses for their ego.
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Speaker 2: They become made for every creature. The boy has been
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Speaker 2: sodomised by fellow males he can't talk. Sometimes by a priest.
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Speaker 3: He can't talk.
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Speaker 2: Because they've not built communicationline. How many parents can hold
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Speaker 2: ten minute conversation with their children on phone ten minutes?
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Speaker 2: When was the last time you spoke with either of
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Speaker 2: your dad or your mom? Or ten minutes and it
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Speaker 2: was not the fight or they all reporting the fight
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Speaker 2: ten minutes of justing. Many of you were raised in
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Speaker 2: places where you were seen but not heard, and that's
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Speaker 2: the wrong pattern.
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Speaker 3: Many children lost their children.
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Speaker 2: Many parents lost their children when they were growing up,
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Speaker 2: only to try to build friendship with them when.
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Speaker 3: It's too late.
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Speaker 2: The gap between many children and their parents is like
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Speaker 2: the gap between everyone and head.
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Speaker 3: They don't know each other anymore.
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Speaker 2: It's too late to sit down, to smile genuinely, to
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Speaker 2: have family Christmas where nobody left the bag and just
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Speaker 2: picked the bag.
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Speaker 3: As I'm going.
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Speaker 2: Some families may not be able to meet again together
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Speaker 2: till Jesus comes, because you don't even know where you're
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Speaker 2: starting period from. Some parents are even to broken to
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Speaker 2: help their children from bleeding, so they became meet to
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Speaker 2: different creatures. Some children will finished they are semester on
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Speaker 2: campus and they can't go anywhere that air. Mom are separated.
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Speaker 2: Mom's going to marry another man. Dad, several women would
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Speaker 2: we spend the early days with let's know, with a
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Speaker 2: friend on campus, and then I will take advantage of them.
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Speaker 2: Let's continue that scripture. Are you still there? Look at
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Speaker 2: it as I live, says the Lord God. Surely, because
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Speaker 2: all my flock became a pray, and my flock became
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Speaker 2: meats to every beast of the field because there was
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Speaker 2: no word shepherd. Neither did my shepherd such for my flock.
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Speaker 2: But the shepherd feed themselves and fed not the flocks.
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Speaker 2: There are families that you may not talk for a month,
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Speaker 2: and until there's a need, nobody cares. There's no open
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Speaker 2: communication line. Many of you think you have forever to
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Speaker 2: build your home. It's a lie. This is the best time.
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Speaker 2: Once those children get into school, that's it. They're gone.
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Speaker 2: The remaining face will be the repac caution of what
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Speaker 2: you have done. Now might be the best time to
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Speaker 2: make your children and your friends and to build a
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Speaker 2: cultural where they can talk to you. And just now
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Speaker 2: might be the best time to learn to pray together.
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Speaker 2: You don't have forever to do it, and sometimes what
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Speaker 2: can be damaged. In a short while, you can live here.
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Speaker 2: In a long time you can't. Are you still there?
42:39
Speaker 2: It's very important. I don't want us to be naive.
42:52
Speaker 2: I don't us to be ignorant. There are things going on.
42:58
Speaker 2: Yes back I saw a boy, very good looking, young boy.
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Speaker 2: He should be about five. His mother was into prostitution.
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Speaker 2: So they called my attention to the boy. He was
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Speaker 2: a smart boy, and whenever the mom was busy with
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Speaker 2: the customers, they sent the boy to go buy cigarettes
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Speaker 2: and buy different kind of stuffs. And while the mom
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Speaker 2: was inside working with customers, he will be rooming about.
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Speaker 2: Some will leave left over food and say you finish it.
43:45
Speaker 2: So I said, talk to her. I'm interested in taking
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Speaker 2: care of the boy. We can put him in a
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Speaker 2: motherless rome a would I'll be responsible for his care,
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Speaker 2: his schoolfies and all.
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Speaker 3: That can come check. Your child is your child.
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Speaker 2: She agreed. Then she went to tell some people who
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Speaker 2: convinced her that I don't mind all those pastors. Maybe
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Speaker 2: he wanted to use your child for virtual Then they
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Speaker 2: gathered people and I got the intel that they are
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Speaker 2: looking for you there, that you come, they might link
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Speaker 2: to you because they feel the boy you wanted to
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Speaker 2: use the boy for ritual, so I said, all right,
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Speaker 2: to your attend to Israel. About a month later, I
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Speaker 2: got a call that the lady went to sleep with
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Speaker 2: analergi and he used that for ritual. So I asked
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Speaker 2: where's the boy? Nobody knew his whereabout When the foundation
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Speaker 2: is destroyed, even great destinies came wasted. There are children
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Speaker 2: who are to become more but the environment, environment, environment,
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Speaker 2: fragmented environment broke them. They were exposed to what they
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Speaker 2: ought not to see. Really, unless God helps, such a
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Speaker 2: child may find themselves in the midst of criminals will
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Speaker 2: teach him how to fight, and the boy that was
45:32
Speaker 2: once fresh, you'll seem you see diferense cars because once
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Speaker 2: we get the family structure wrong, the products from such
45:43
Speaker 2: families may have tendencies to commit crime because they were
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Speaker 2: raised enviolent ways. That's the power of environment. My prayer
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Speaker 2: for you is that God will keep you alive for
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Speaker 2: your children. Maybe you don't like that prayer. Are you
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Speaker 2: still with me? Or you are getting tired? If you
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Speaker 2: look at the story in Genesis, chapter number twenty seven.
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Speaker 3: After a baker lied.
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Speaker 2: To Isaac Jacob got the blessing or at least dramatically
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Speaker 2: of his or he's so vowed he said, I will
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Speaker 2: kill him. There are families that the elder can kill
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Speaker 2: the younger, and the younger can kill the elder. And
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Speaker 2: there are families that it's not just that they can't.
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Speaker 3: They do it.
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Speaker 2: How do they get there? There's somebody who kill his elder.
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Speaker 2: Brought our a plot of land. Somebody who kills younger
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Speaker 2: a plot of land. That's what I'm praying that God
47:01
Speaker 2: will keep you alive. There are homes that if anything
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Speaker 2: should happen to anybody now, the first thing family members
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Speaker 2: who come to collect is kaki, put your house in order.
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Speaker 3: Put your house in order.
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Speaker 2: When they know that you don't even want to know
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Speaker 2: your wife, and they treat the children anyhow. Listen again,
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Speaker 2: I'm praying for you. God will keep you alive. Are
47:32
Speaker 2: you still there? That's serious matters. It's a vous. I
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Speaker 2: will kill my brother when I see him. I will
47:40
Speaker 2: kill him when I seem h number eight.
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Speaker 6: HM.
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Speaker 3: One of the.
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Speaker 2: Scars of a dysfunctional background, which involves being trapped in
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Speaker 2: your childhood mind, is loneliness. And most times this is
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Speaker 2: a product of coming from a place where you are
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Speaker 2: only seen and not heard. In Genesis thirty four, the
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Speaker 2: bobble said, Dinah, the daughter of Lea, which she boorn
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Speaker 2: to Jacob, went out to see the daughters of the land.
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Speaker 2: So it means that the people she could share companionship
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Speaker 2: with were outside, And the boy said, shake some of
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Speaker 2: her on the evites.
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Speaker 3: So I took her level and defiled.
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Speaker 2: Loneliness is not the quality of being alone, the quality
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Speaker 2: of lack of emotional compatibility. You can be around people,
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Speaker 2: but yet nobody touches the heart such an insensitive environment
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Speaker 2: that nobody even knows what you're thinking. Let's see, look
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Speaker 2: at me, everybody. If you allow complication, linger, you have
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Speaker 2: no idea how far it will go. It can sol
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Speaker 2: linger that there are too many problems to attend to
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Speaker 2: that you don't even know someone is dying. Right then
49:34
Speaker 2: a child can be in a house, get pregnant five
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Speaker 2: times and commit abortion, and the father is to say,
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Speaker 2: my daughter is a legend. He doesn't even know it,
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Speaker 2: doesn't even know. A boy I was. I was for
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Speaker 2: the sake of I was. I won't mentioned on the
50:02
Speaker 2: place I was in the country I was called. This
50:07
Speaker 2: should be about about seven years ago. I was called
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Speaker 2: to come and pray for a family which was get bed.
50:16
Speaker 2: I laid hands on the boy, laid hands on the girl.
50:19
Speaker 2: My spirit was vexed. Ah, what was going on here?
50:25
Speaker 2: I try to call the guy that so the child
50:29
Speaker 2: was their second child? So I said, are you guys
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Speaker 2: from this place? Said no, no, no, no, we are Nigerians.
50:37
Speaker 2: So I said, okay, how about your parents? I said
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Speaker 2: a long story. So I said, yeah, I would listen.
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Speaker 2: They were students, the parents send them to school to study.
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Speaker 2: Listen to what I'm telling you. It got the girl pregnant,
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Speaker 2: first child Part one all right, when the pregnancy was still,
50:59
Speaker 2: Elie quickly went home, greeted them, came back. The pregnancy
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Speaker 2: mych word, she gave Beds.
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Speaker 3: They didn't know jack that child was there.
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Speaker 2: Plain Now this is the second child. And they were
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Speaker 2: saying that my daughter is in.
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Speaker 3: School, don't have to.
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Speaker 2: What kind of spirituals long brain was that?
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Speaker 3: I don't even give them?
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Speaker 2: Stated that the child was saying, listen to what I'm saying.
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Speaker 2: The issue is that there is no parental relationship. It
51:45
Speaker 2: is not enough to send scoofies go there, tack them,
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Speaker 2: go with that announcement, give them surprises, I'm surprised that
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Speaker 2: you are laughing. Are you feel I'm saying, let me
52:03
Speaker 2: tell you something. Relate with your children in such a
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Speaker 2: way that even when they make mistake, they will prefer
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Speaker 2: to be in your hands than in the hands of
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Speaker 2: a stranger. That see the prodagas want to say, I
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Speaker 2: will go back home now, I'll prefer to be a
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Speaker 2: slave in my father's house. We are not saying, don't
52:26
Speaker 2: be principal, though, be principled, but understand the language of messy.
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Speaker 2: That your children know that they are not loved because
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Speaker 2: they are flawless.
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Speaker 3: They are loved.
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Speaker 2: Because that they give them Mummy and Daddy. Because I
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Speaker 2: don't want to say what I want not to say.
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Speaker 3: Are you feel what I'm saying?
52:59
Speaker 2: Because while they were things king that the student they're
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Speaker 2: in school, my daughter should be in pat four.
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Speaker 3: Now they are.
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Speaker 2: Coming home.
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Speaker 3: With their family. Correct one know mychour children.
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Speaker 2: And I'm not telling you what I saw a movie.
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Speaker 2: I told I saw the kid took. The funny thing
53:28
Speaker 2: is that not till now they may not even know
53:34
Speaker 2: what are the things you have gone through that your
53:36
Speaker 2: parents don't even know some of them. If they, if
53:43
Speaker 2: they know, they will think you just see that. I said,
53:47
Speaker 2: let me just said, let me just talk about just
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Speaker 2: one percent of my life. And so so, yeah, I
53:51
Speaker 2: went to tasket because in most homes we have no
53:58
Speaker 2: stomach for conversations. Let me tell you something. When people
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Speaker 2: have difficult things to tell you, how you received the
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Speaker 2: first one determines what they say next. All right, you
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Speaker 2: want to talk and mommy, this this this is ah no,
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Speaker 2: not my daughter, I cover you with the blood of Jesus.
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Speaker 2: Oh yah, yeah, yeah, let's go to perfect time. Oh yeah.
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Speaker 2: And the girl is said, what have I even said?
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Speaker 2: If I now said, if anyone now, well, we'll go
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Speaker 2: to your bath, my head, and then the child will
54:35
Speaker 2: swam out of silence. And some because of insensitivity of
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Speaker 2: the parents, they are looking, but they are not seeing.
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Speaker 2: They look, but they're not seen. And some children have
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Speaker 2: fact that they will take to the grave and their
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Speaker 2: parents will only get to heaven to find out their
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Speaker 2: first two weeks. And even all they're saying is ah
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Speaker 2: ah ah ah. All they say ah saying good you
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Speaker 2: look at your your.
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Speaker 3: H are you there?
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Speaker 2: H hhmm. Let me tell you something. Most males who
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Speaker 2: got into almost sexual attendencies were actually ripped by a
55:45
Speaker 2: fellow males and their attraction towards females died. They just
55:52
Speaker 2: cease to have the ability.
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Speaker 3: To be attracted towards the woman.
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Speaker 2: I'm telling you, even you, if a man to first
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Speaker 2: rape you, you may not know what you be thinking
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Speaker 2: right now? Better thank God, look at you. If they
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Speaker 2: don't catch you one time, that you may I feel
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Speaker 2: that's the subject matter that the church now need new
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Speaker 2: wisdom to deal with, because this one you are seen
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Speaker 2: on so Jaman that it has spread more than you
56:35
Speaker 2: are thinking. I see now before now say your another guy?
56:50
Speaker 2: See not them? They guys looking at you guys? Wait
57:00
Speaker 2: wait do you then tell me? Now you know how
57:09
Speaker 2: many of you were abused as children? Until now your
57:11
Speaker 2: parents don't know. They have no clue. Thank God for
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Speaker 2: boarding schools. But the days I hear that you have
57:23
Speaker 2: to reconsider. Seller say it's boys only. Wa allah, it's
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Speaker 2: girls only. What I'm saying is that in these days
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Speaker 2: and time, parenting is enough ministry. I'm telling you, hy say,
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Speaker 2: let's then just grow small here. Then we send them
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Speaker 2: to America. Were sending Are you going to be there?
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Speaker 2: Smart thing? Now your boy is now buying back.
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Speaker 3: H I just I just like it.
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Speaker 2: And and this more. When I can say, kah, there's
58:37
Speaker 2: a big there's a like he now likes these kind
58:41
Speaker 2: of bags and it carries them like this. Wow, there's
58:57
Speaker 2: a father who want to see that at the route mhm,
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Speaker 2: and show him what a man looks like and sit
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Speaker 2: him down.
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Speaker 3: That's not who you are.
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Speaker 2: People find justification because fathers are missing m father's.
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Speaker 3: The days are getting darker.
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Speaker 2: And the church must learn how to adapt with these
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Speaker 2: trying times. If I am going to do ministry now,
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Speaker 2: you have to be really called because they are Ah, God,
59:51
Speaker 2: I have messing that the father is in the house.
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Speaker 2: Does it mean it's present? Don't you get it? Can
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Speaker 2: he see? Can he hear? Does he have the laws
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Speaker 2: of God to communicate his ordinance to his children? Is
1:00:17
Speaker 2: he strong? God made man male and female created in them.
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Speaker 2: He made Adam as the foundation the medieve the foundation
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Speaker 2: must be strong. You must be strong. You can be
1:00:41
Speaker 2: a weakling. You can't change your vision depending on the
1:00:47
Speaker 2: kind of girl you are asking out. You have to
1:00:52
Speaker 2: be strong. You have to stay with it, not show it,
1:01:00
Speaker 2: and even when it is not speaking yet, be bold
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Speaker 2: about it and don't be lazy. Any society that the
1:01:15
Speaker 2: man gets it right, that society becomes sane. And I
1:01:22
Speaker 2: want to appreciate all the men in this room. You
1:01:27
Speaker 2: are the real envy piece. Thank you. Because of you,
1:01:32
Speaker 2: we believe there is hope like you. They say you
1:01:35
Speaker 2: go to church. I will watch online. Thank you, Thank you.
1:01:43
Speaker 2: I know the society doesn't celebratory enough when you do right,
1:01:47
Speaker 2: but we are thanking you this evening.
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Speaker 3: Thank you.
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Speaker 2: You must make the vowel that the children will not
1:01:59
Speaker 2: suffer what we've suffered. You must make the vowel. I
1:02:02
Speaker 2: will not see the rejection on you faced. You must
1:02:04
Speaker 2: make the vowel. Are you still with me? Or shall
1:02:11
Speaker 2: I round up? Now? This is where it gets serious.
1:02:16
Speaker 2: You see the issue of loneliness oftentimes comes from abandonment,
1:02:25
Speaker 2: when children are abandoned to figure out life on their
1:02:28
Speaker 2: own at the age that they still need care. Some
1:02:33
Speaker 2: became bread winners when the hotels still be getting bred.
1:02:40
Speaker 2: And sometimes they know that all the family needs me
1:02:44
Speaker 2: for is the money. When they didn't have, they were nobodies.
1:02:52
Speaker 2: Now that they have the way celebrated, they are celebrated.
1:02:56
Speaker 2: A man can give the money and in his hearty
1:03:00
Speaker 2: saying is this it? Have it? And he knows we
1:03:06
Speaker 2: share nothing together, I mean male and female. Now that's
1:03:10
Speaker 2: the state of many families. Unfortunately, get to the point
1:03:14
Speaker 2: that the only thing you are usedul for is the
1:03:16
Speaker 2: next money, the next pier. There's an anti collin. My
1:03:22
Speaker 2: husband didn't drop money for soup. My children are starving.
1:03:26
Speaker 2: They had the siblings also calling money for this money
1:03:29
Speaker 2: for that. Nobody cares whether you borrow, just give. So
1:03:37
Speaker 2: sometimes people have to start building their lives not from
1:03:41
Speaker 2: level one, from minor stem and they have to strive
1:03:46
Speaker 2: to even cut up with level one, then try to
1:03:48
Speaker 2: cut up with their colleagues. That's the unfortunate case, and
1:03:54
Speaker 2: that's why it becomes quite funny when we try talk
1:04:00
Speaker 2: down on the importance of getting finance right, let's marry,
1:04:08
Speaker 2: we'll see how we go from there. I'm sorry, I'm
1:04:13
Speaker 2: not gonna talk down faith. But faith without work is dead.
1:04:25
Speaker 2: One of the purposes money is for security. Now you
1:04:30
Speaker 2: are living in a state that you must not have
1:04:32
Speaker 2: one emergency how we call it Christianity, Why do we
1:04:37
Speaker 2: deceive ourselves? They will a dying.
1:04:44
Speaker 3: Someone is sick.
1:04:46
Speaker 2: If this fellow is taken from the hospital a long time,
1:04:48
Speaker 2: the fellow will be fine. Then they won't thing expend
1:04:52
Speaker 2: to the hospital, not because there is faith, but because
1:04:54
Speaker 2: there's no money. Then now use faith pseudo fits to
1:04:59
Speaker 2: replaced of money.
1:05:01
Speaker 3: Then the person dies. Now look make.
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Speaker 2: God look like I just go. God, give the doctors
1:05:06
Speaker 2: the intelligence. I told you. I was speaking with one
1:05:22
Speaker 2: of my spiritual daughters on phone. She was sick. So
1:05:30
Speaker 2: I was hearing a woman crying in the background. So
1:05:34
Speaker 2: I said, what's wrong with her? She said, their son
1:05:38
Speaker 2: is sick and the doctors are not taking the child
1:05:41
Speaker 2: because they don't have money to do it.
1:05:43
Speaker 3: I said how much.
1:05:43
Speaker 2: I can't remember, maybe ten thousand or so. So I said,
1:05:47
Speaker 2: tell the doctors that I said, take the child. Put
1:05:51
Speaker 2: the bill on me. Told the doctors the moment the
1:05:58
Speaker 2: man and his wife had.
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Speaker 3: They said, thank.
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Speaker 2: You, but let him just give us the money. The
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Speaker 2: Bible said, can a mother forsake a scing child? The
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Speaker 2: Bible never said no. It was an open ended question
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Speaker 2: not answered. Because now there are mothers whill give better
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Speaker 2: and put the child in the bag and leave the child.
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Speaker 2: Woman give bed to a child and kill the child.
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Speaker 2: I think drop the child from about four building stories,
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Speaker 2: give bet pushed, then drop the child. A male child
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Speaker 2: from like four building stories and the child died. If
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Speaker 2: you force such to become mothers, they are emotionally disconnected
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Speaker 2: from the child, so.
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Speaker 3: The child's life will be miserable.
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Speaker 2: These are the things that go on to affect our societies.
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Speaker 2: They create a system of imbalance. And until we teach
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Speaker 2: these things with the wisdom of God, when the problem
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Speaker 2: finally comes even past us, we run. You see, many
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Speaker 2: of you may not understand the importance of my teachings.
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Speaker 2: Yet it doesn't matter what you think is blessing you
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Speaker 2: wait for another ten years. I'm doing these things intentionally.
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Speaker 2: I'm storing them and giving them. A generation is rising
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Speaker 2: who needs them more. May our eyes be opened. Are
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Speaker 2: you still with me?
1:07:44
Speaker 3: Loneliness comes from abandonment.
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Speaker 2: Till now, many of you have not still recovered and
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Speaker 2: learned the science of communication. You just find yourself not
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Speaker 2: wanting to see anybody or talk to anybody, and just
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Speaker 2: keep your thoughts to yourself, and sometimes you cry, sometimes
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Speaker 2: you weep. You don't want anybody to intrude. You have
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Speaker 2: friends who think they are your friends, but you know
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Speaker 2: they are not your friends because you know they know
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Speaker 2: nothing about your life. Maybe you were betrayed and now
1:08:24
Speaker 2: you are scared of trusting yourself to the answer of anyone, Well,
1:08:28
Speaker 2: you should be careful, but don't live with our friends.
1:08:35
Speaker 2: And there are some of it that people, it's it's
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Speaker 2: it's hard to love you. It's it is painful to
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Speaker 2: love you because you are just not accepting love. You
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Speaker 2: deflate every form of love in your direction. Once people
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Speaker 2: show you love, you start having panic attack. Where did
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Speaker 2: you mean love? Huh, that's really nice, rich I just
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Speaker 2: got I opposed to admitted for you said, shake my hands.
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Speaker 2: I'm not going again. Why is love aughting you? Why
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Speaker 2: is he oughting you? You're scared. You are locked in
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Speaker 2: a box and you don't want to be reached. You
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Speaker 2: feel safe when you are alone, and you feel threatened
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Speaker 2: when you are seen. Get a risky that way, come
1:09:42
Speaker 2: out of the shadows. You have many conclusions that I
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Speaker 2: pease to just do this life alone. Something got you
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Speaker 2: to that point. You weren't born that way. Come out,
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Speaker 2: have friends, go out, enjoy your bed days, allow people
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Speaker 2: to celebrate you. You don't have to develop dark philosophies around
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Speaker 2: happy days. It's not healthy that way. You pride yourself
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Speaker 2: in not falling into trouble. Really but you are in
1:10:26
Speaker 2: trouble because if people should know what you're going to
1:10:30
Speaker 2: maybe help would have come. And sometimes when you take
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Speaker 2: this culture into marriage, no spouse is equipped to help you.
1:10:50
Speaker 2: What marriage solves is the challenge of being alone, not
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Speaker 2: the challenge of being lonely. There's just someone who has
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Speaker 2: now come into your life who will be frustrated because
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Speaker 2: you cry but nobody knows what you're thinking. You have
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Speaker 2: so much to say, but yet nothing is coming out.
1:11:11
Speaker 2: You think about so many things, but you only speak sparingly.
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Speaker 2: And the rope that ties a lonely person is fear.
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Speaker 2: Fear of being rejected when you finally say it, fear
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Speaker 2: of being misunderstood, particularly if you are married to a
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Speaker 2: spouse is quick to talk. Come out from that dark
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Speaker 2: shadow you've dwelt in that percing of you will be fine.
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Speaker 2: Number nine the challenge of distorted emotions. And there's a
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Speaker 2: very serious one. The emotions that you have are not bad.
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Speaker 2: Been emotional is not a bad thing. They are a
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Speaker 2: blessing from God. You express yourself with it. You have
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Speaker 2: the feeling of love, the feeling of whatever feeling. But
1:12:41
Speaker 2: those emotions can be distorted. For instance, it is possible
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Speaker 2: to grow old and have never tasted love, real love.
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Speaker 2: You don't know what it looks like. Particularly in cases
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Speaker 2: where the person's first exposure to love was sex, the
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Speaker 2: fellow finds it difficult to know how to love.
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Speaker 3: Without sex, without touching.
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Speaker 2: He wants to love, but the first expression that was
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Speaker 2: communicated to him was when there is love, there should
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Speaker 2: be sex. So the emotions around that subject matter is distorted.
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Speaker 2: He doesn't understand it. Let me give you another instance.
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Speaker 2: Are you aware that there are people who dread phone calls.
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Speaker 2: They don't want to talk to anybody when the phone rings.
1:14:06
Speaker 2: They're scared. Was that iverbally abusive? Every time it calls?
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Speaker 2: It talks you down every time it calls, these complaints,
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Speaker 2: and now you're just scared. And people don't understand the
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Speaker 2: reason why you can't sustain relationships for long because once
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Speaker 2: they take you serious, you become afraid that you find
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Speaker 2: a way to discard them out of your life.
1:14:36
Speaker 3: People love you, but you struggle to hold.
1:14:40
Speaker 2: It down because once it's getting serious, it scares you,
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Speaker 2: just scares you, just afraid. The friends who are able
1:14:55
Speaker 2: to keep our friends who don't call you all the time,
1:15:04
Speaker 2: those ones who care so much you burn out. I
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Speaker 2: can't do this, I can't do this, I can't do this.
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Speaker 3: That's not the way you were created.
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Speaker 2: Something went wrong, and sometimes when the emotions of a
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Speaker 2: person had distorted, the person lacks the ability to connect,
1:15:37
Speaker 2: doesn't connect with people. May say nice stuffs, may greet
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Speaker 2: you well, may even jist with you, but won't bond.
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Speaker 2: Don't bond, and if anything goes wrong, the way they
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Speaker 2: work exit your life is a sign that they never bonded.
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Speaker 2: Just they hang around people's life in a way that
1:16:05
Speaker 2: living will not be awtful because they expected Daddy left
1:16:15
Speaker 2: or mummy left, So you don't really expect people to stay.
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Speaker 2: And when they stay, you have questions, why is he staying?
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Speaker 3: Where's she staying?
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Speaker 2: Are you calling me? Someone is trying to know You's
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Speaker 2: called you in the morning, now he's calling the evening,
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Speaker 2: and your reaction all the time is why is he
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Speaker 2: calling me? Why is he calling me? Why is he
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Speaker 2: calling me? Hey? H Some have no connection to anyone
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Speaker 2: or any community, not even church. They love God, so
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Speaker 2: you can mix loving God with connection because they will
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Speaker 2: do their duties well, but they are not here. And
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Speaker 2: sometimes this comes with when you are used to being hot.
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Speaker 2: You just cannot package yourself in a way where in
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Speaker 2: a way that you just tell yourself, I don't expect
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Speaker 2: much from you. They's okay, do whatever you want to do.
1:17:50
Speaker 2: You may even get to the point that breakups doesn't
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Speaker 2: urt you anymore because you were never in it. The
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Speaker 2: fellow was dating himself the day told is don't say okay,
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Speaker 2: that is all right, see you around. Sometimes that usually
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Speaker 2: happens when sometimes people lose people so dear to them
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Speaker 2: and they're like, I'm not going to go through this
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Speaker 2: loss again. This is it. Nobody's ever going to take
1:18:28
Speaker 2: this space in my life anymore. You know, it is
1:18:32
Speaker 2: possible to lose a spouse, but you are still trapped
1:18:40
Speaker 2: with the spouse and nobody can love you again. It
1:18:45
Speaker 2: is possible to be divorced, but you're still married emotionally
1:18:49
Speaker 2: because your emotional space is not vacant. And I spoke
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Speaker 2: about the issue of so you know, if it will
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Speaker 2: give me the look like when I say these things,
1:19:05
Speaker 2: they are not real, but I know that they are real.
1:19:09
Speaker 2: That a woman can be married and she's happy. They
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Speaker 2: post pictures online, but deep down she knows in the
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Speaker 2: heart of art, I would have been happier with the
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Speaker 2: other guy, and the devil hangs around it, and sometimes
1:19:30
Speaker 2: to be emotionally moved towards her husband, she has to
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Speaker 2: imagine the face of the guy and vice versa. These
1:19:47
Speaker 2: are battles. We don't talk about them in church, but
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Speaker 2: they are real, bro, they are real. They're very real.
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Speaker 2: Their relationship breakups that if care is not taking the
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Speaker 2: two people may not recover from each other because they
1:20:17
Speaker 2: went emotionally fuh.
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Speaker 3: God now helping either of them.
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Speaker 2: They are now married to individuals who can't take them
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Speaker 2: to their debt. They just keep moaning the fact that
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Speaker 2: I know it exists, but this person doesn't have what
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Speaker 2: it takes to take me there. In short cases, there
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Speaker 2: are spouse who begin to pray and wish that their
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Speaker 2: spouse dies. I know you don't believe me, but those
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Speaker 2: who know knows marriage is deep, said to your matter
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Speaker 2: before you say I do mhm, And that's why God
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Speaker 2: has given you a pastor that will teach you.
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Speaker 3: I'm not done.
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Speaker 2: Some girls still have the dms from the guy they
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Speaker 2: wish they said yes too, and they keep those DM
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Speaker 2: as I does, and they keep money in it that
1:21:34
Speaker 2: I wish I said yes then no, get out of it.
1:21:38
Speaker 2: They trap, get out, get out, take a mind out
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Speaker 2: of it. We don't look like our problems. And that's
1:21:51
Speaker 2: where trot becomes stricty. That you can dance all the
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Speaker 2: dance and wear the nice goot, but the devil knows
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Speaker 2: where the shoes at. The goodness is that God knows too,
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Speaker 2: and that's why he's sending his word. Don't want those
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Speaker 2: things because if you keep money in it, it may
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Speaker 2: become a standard for the person you want to marry.
1:22:17
Speaker 2: If the person doesn't meet up with it. You may
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Speaker 2: be married but yet lonely because physically you are married
1:22:27
Speaker 2: to this guy, but emotionally you are married to that guy,
1:22:31
Speaker 2: and you may not even be talking. I'm telling you,
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Speaker 2: are you me when I'm done teaching tonight, where I'm
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Speaker 2: going to offload emotional baggages and asks Jesus to take control.
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Speaker 2: You will not do your life in the regrets. I
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Speaker 2: don't hear that tame loud enough. You will live a
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Speaker 2: clean life, a life of strength. There will be no
1:23:30
Speaker 2: loop all for the devil to attack your emotions. You'll
1:23:35
Speaker 2: be fine. You'll be fine. You'll be fine. You'll be fine.
1:23:42
Speaker 2: You will be fine and Sometimes out of pressure, you
1:23:49
Speaker 2: may say yes to someone you are not connecting with
1:23:53
Speaker 2: and for life. If care is not taking you may
1:23:57
Speaker 2: never connect. That's where marriage that ought to be pleasant
1:24:02
Speaker 2: becomes a box. You are just not connecting it. Slack
1:24:13
Speaker 2: connect face. I'm telling you. Don't you say time is good?
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Speaker 2: Let me just do. You may regret it even now
1:24:28
Speaker 2: when the person talks, you can't stand it for more
1:24:29
Speaker 2: than five minutes. That's the person you want to mind
1:24:31
Speaker 2: full life. Sometimes nothing is wrong with you, like just
1:24:36
Speaker 2: not connecting. You don't share similar aspirations, a similar vision,
1:24:43
Speaker 2: similar dream nothing what excite you? Doesn't exciting or does
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Speaker 2: it excited? Something is wrong? And sometimes what many parents
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Speaker 2: are saying is just bring us band, Just bring us band.
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Speaker 2: I think okay, let's SAMEY say some parents know what
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Speaker 2: is going on with their children, they'll faint. If some
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Speaker 2: husbands who know what the wife is thinking, they will die.
1:25:16
Speaker 2: Or the wife to know what those body is thinking,
1:25:17
Speaker 2: just pass out. Pye like that. Oh my god, look
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Speaker 2: at them to amazingly no sense? Are you here? So
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Speaker 2: asks the man or the woman decided? Do you know
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Speaker 2: how to love? Do you know how to communicate it?
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Speaker 2: Do you know how to be affectionate when you marry
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Speaker 2: and end view while whose emotion is distorted. One of
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Speaker 2: the signs is that the fellow may not know how
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Speaker 2: to provide emotional support in the marriage. He or she
1:26:18
Speaker 2: may want to but doesn't know how to, because you
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Speaker 2: can't give what you don't have. You can be married
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Speaker 2: and be emotionally naked, and this fellow should provide a
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Speaker 2: form of emotional supple covering, understand the power of communication,
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Speaker 2: Understand what emotional security means.
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Speaker 3: And she can't give it because she doesn't have it.
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Speaker 2: Sometimes he can't give it because he doesn't have it,
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Speaker 2: doesn't know how to be there for the partner, doesn't
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Speaker 2: know what to say when things are the way they are.
1:27:20
Speaker 2: She's kind or is kind, she's confused? Why are you crying?
1:27:28
Speaker 2: Harap your tast and stand up? Why are you looking down?
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Speaker 2: She's morning? Was looking down?
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Speaker 3: Was looking at?
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Speaker 2: Is that it yesterday? Why you said?
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Speaker 3: This is not no bad this for you? Look at
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Speaker 3: you just looking down?
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Speaker 2: Are you trying to emotionally you trip me? She's not
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Speaker 2: trying to. There's a communication here. You don't understand the
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Speaker 2: language because something is deficient. Tell us the wife, I
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Speaker 2: don't like you being moody around my house. How she's
1:28:14
Speaker 2: trying to say something.
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Speaker 3: But to him, you have to put yourself together, that's it.
1:28:28
Speaker 2: And she's like, if I continue to do like this,
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Speaker 2: you will make me become another man. He's like, no,
1:28:35
Speaker 2: put yourself together. These are issues. So I ask the
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Speaker 2: man this idea, do you.
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Speaker 3: Know how to provide the support?
1:28:54
Speaker 2: And ask the woman beside you too, do you know
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Speaker 2: how to provide support? It's weird the way I was,
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Speaker 2: but my wife are sitting together. I don't want to
1:29:03
Speaker 2: fall into trouble. Kay, when your wife is down, you
1:29:14
Speaker 2: feel if you pampa her that she's gonna be spoilt.
1:29:20
Speaker 2: That's your man, lay mind that she will start asking
1:29:25
Speaker 2: like I do that all the time. Wafe way, mah,
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Speaker 2: wait way, where you go mighty mam go, I don't
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Speaker 2: have time pampa in the woman when I need a bie,
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Speaker 2: I will my buy everything?
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Speaker 3: Before?
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Speaker 2: She said yes? And now you don't change greet your
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Speaker 2: dog beside that. Welcomes, have you learned something tonight? Let's
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Speaker 2: give Jesus a big hand. Okay, we're gonna do something.
1:30:16
Speaker 2: There are emotional baggages that nobody sees, nobody knows. Sometimes
1:30:28
Speaker 2: they can't understand the fact that you see movies together
1:30:32
Speaker 2: and talk together and while you're still feeling lonely, or
1:30:37
Speaker 2: maybe your heart is somewhere else. You are here, but
1:30:40
Speaker 2: your emotions are scattered abroad, or you feel I don't
1:30:45
Speaker 2: have the capacity to love. I'm scared. I can't converse.
1:30:50
Speaker 2: I keep seeing the flashes and images of my parents,
1:30:54
Speaker 2: my uncle, the people I stayed with.
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Speaker 3: I'm afraid.
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Speaker 2: I'm not sure. I can't raise true. I saw what
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Speaker 2: happened to me. I don't want to bring to them
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Speaker 2: to this world. To so far, those are questions. We're
1:31:07
Speaker 2: gonna put them on God tonight. If you can nail Neil,
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Speaker 2: if you can lay down, laid down, if you can
1:31:13
Speaker 2: lie down like, whatever posture you can take. But at
1:31:17
Speaker 2: least now these ones have had to add talk with God.
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Speaker 2: He's not waiting to judge you and cut you down. Maclay.
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Speaker 2: We raised the sound age to age. It's not trying
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Speaker 2: to cut you down. It's not among your pressors or
1:31:31
Speaker 2: your abusers. God wants to help you. Are you married
1:31:37
Speaker 2: but you are loving someone else, He wants to help you.
1:31:42
Speaker 3: He wants to help you.
1:31:45
Speaker 2: Or you are single and you feel emotionally tied to
1:31:49
Speaker 2: a married person.
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Speaker 3: He wants to help you. He wants to help you.
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Speaker 3: Don't hold back.
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Speaker 2: We can be naked before God and am ashamed.
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Speaker 3: Cry your eyes too.
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Speaker 2: You gave me hope, You made me hold other cross, you.
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Speaker 5: Took my shame.
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Speaker 2: You show me other cross where you died for me.
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Speaker 5: And he lost like glass.
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Speaker 2: From the sun f toe shin.
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Speaker 6: Oh to scarts.
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Speaker 3: Them scrabs.
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Speaker 6: Seeking ward fet.
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Speaker 2: And he's bees like glass.
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Speaker 6: From the sun.
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Speaker 2: To gee shop.
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Speaker 6: Woll you to the sky.
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Speaker 2: Square seeking me scor And it is.
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Speaker 6: Like a last.
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Speaker 2: From the side.
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Speaker 5: To shop.
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Speaker 2: To the sky.
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Speaker 6: Scrib seeing cops.
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Speaker 2: Close, bee like glow.
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Speaker 6: From the side.
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Speaker 2: To g shall to the sky.
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Speaker 6: Scab singing, go.
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Speaker 5: Fly.
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Speaker 2: There is healing in his wings, and he's looking into
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Speaker 2: every matters of the heart. And it's giving strength. It
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Speaker 2: giveth power to the weak, to them that has no
1:36:30
Speaker 2: mighty increase strength. Even the huge shall finds. And young
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Speaker 2: men shall all tellly fall. But did that wait upon
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Speaker 2: the Lord shall renew their strengths. They would mount up
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Speaker 2: with wings like eagles. They will waller kind of fends.
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Speaker 2: They will run and not be weary, would shine lights
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Speaker 2: in every dark areas of your mind and your emotions,
1:37:00
Speaker 2: that the light of the Lord beins across the light
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Speaker 2: of his word such true, and he strengthens you and
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Speaker 2: heals you completely and makes you all. Let families recover.
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Speaker 2: In the name of Jesus strength. We bless you, Lord Jesus.
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Speaker 2: In Jesus' mighty name, we have praid. Amen. Let's give
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Speaker 2: Jesus a big an thank you, Lord, Thank you Lord
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Speaker 2: Arlan Louis. Let me ask you again, have you been
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Speaker 2: blessed tonight? Do you feel this series is one you
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