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Growth After Pain: Turning Scars into Strength · The Road Doc Podcast

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Hello, good day everyone. This is Doctor Mukul.
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Welcome to my dog podcast. Today we gonna finally talk
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about the final episode of this season of healing, right?
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So yeah, for me, let's just call the final episode so that we can
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close this healing series. So I call it growth after pain,
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turning scars into strength. So that's the theme of the
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episode. Before diving into this episode,
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I would love to thank you all for people who are listening
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from all across the globe. I would like to announce it that
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we are currently live in almost 20 countries.
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So yeah, Once Upon a time when I just started this, I was like
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only like one or two countries. But yeah, I think I have started
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this in around May or June 2025. And by the way, on the day I am
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recording is January 19, 2026. So these are the stats, OK.
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By this time we are already live in 20 countries and we are going
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pretty good. And I really, really thank you
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all for tuning in. And if you have any comments,
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suggestions, you can reach out in respective platforms you use
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it. So yeah, there you go, very
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grateful for this experience. Yeah, being said, we will dive
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into our episode growth after pain, turning scars into
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strength. And guys, before we dive into
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this episode, I would love to suggest you all to take time and
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make sure you are in a peaceful state, car, calm state as much
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as possible because I think these are one of those kind of
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episodes where you need to really pay attention for
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everything. I'm going to discuss right now,
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and I'm going to start with the story first.
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This is a real story happened recently on January 3, 2026 in
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front of my eyes. So I witnessed this story.
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So I would love to share it first with you all and then I
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will also discuss a little bit of medical facts and so on and
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so forth. So we will have a clear cut idea
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of what I am trying to give you inside.
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So on. So let's just say Story 1 and
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story 2, right, So that we can avoid confusion.
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So story one, story one, story one, right?
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This is, this happened in real life.
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OK, on January 3rd, 2026, Story one.
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OK, I was at a coffee shop. Coffee shop, right?
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It's an open coffee shop kind of a thing nearby, nearby the main
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highways or a roadside kind of a thing.
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OK, so it was a decent coffee shop and I was just arrived to
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the coffee shop and then I just ordered my coffee and I was just
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waiting for a coffee, OK. And then 5 minutes later, right,
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a woman who is actually working in the coffee shop approached
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me. I think the woman will be
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somewhere in her early 30s or something.
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OK, yeah, for reference purpose, she works there actually.
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And then she was actually trying to maybe talk to me for some
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medical advice or something. She was actually hesitating and
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then I said it's hi, can I help you with anything?
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And she said, yes, doctor, I just want one small medical
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advice. I'm like, yeah, yeah, sure, no
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problem. Please go ahead, ask what
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whatever you have in your mind. And she said like doctor, my 14
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year old doctor daughter has issue with her teeth and we are
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thinking to go to the hospital and get it sorted.
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What do you suggest? And since beauty and aesthetics
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are important for women and being a mother of a daughter,
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she is kind of concerned. And then I asked this question.
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I asked how old are you? As she said she is in her early
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30s and what is your daughter's age?
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I asked 14. I was so surprised you have a 14
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year old daughter. So then I asked follow up
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question which means you got married early on and she said
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yes. And she also mentioned that she
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did not have any education or much.
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That's why I made sure my daughters are studying well,
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doing well in life and so on and so forth.
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And I was pretty pretty much surprised actually.
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Both husband and wife are working in the Cafe and making a
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decent living. And she even told disclosed that
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they were actually coming from very financially very low kind
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of situation. But we always try to work hard
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on our own terms and make money as much as possible for our
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daughters education and well-being and so on and so
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forth. Then I am like, OK, I mean her
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situations were actually not in control.
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And by the way, I don't think that husband is a bad guy.
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Husband is also really good guy. I did talk with husband too.
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Both were working but the problem was they got married
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early on. That's why they are having very
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hard time navigating through life.
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That's that's the thing. But this is the beautiful part.
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I gave the suggestion when to do what to do with her daughter
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aesthetics 14 year old. It's not that it's too young to
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do anything. So I told her like wait for X
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amount of time and then proceed with whatever necessary to do
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right? So yeah.
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And then moving on. She was very happy by listening
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to my education and she even asked what could have been done.
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And I asked like are you really really wants to make your
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children lives better or not? I asked a simple question, she
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simply answered I am actually living only for them.
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OK so and then she proceeded to tell like everything we are
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doing is for children, everything we are working and so
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on and so forth. And I will do my best to educate
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them as much as they can. And I gave them one piece of
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advice since they asked. I told them in India, especially
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in this area, there is a tendency that they're going to
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marry them way too quickly because they might for all wrong
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reasons. By the way, that's what I'm
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worried about. If a girl wants to get married
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early on, that's fine. But parents want to get hitched
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to some other random dude because their woman, their
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daughter is getting old or something for all the wrong
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reasons. I will give some examples of
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wrong reasons like we cannot afford, we cannot make sure to
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take care of our daughter, etcetera, so on and so forth and
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so on and so forth. So all the wrong reasons, let us
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just say. Then I told mom that listen
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carefully. If your daughters are really
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interested in studying, let them study.
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Do not, do not interpret or interrupt their studies for
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marriage or anything until at least 25 to 27 years of age.
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After that your daughter can make her own decisions, actually
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even before she can make on her own decisions.
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But in India usually they don't give that level of autonomy at
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early age especially to girl Childs.
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Things are changing at this point of time which I am very
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happy for that. But mostly in some areas the
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thing with autonomy and decision making are still stuck with
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their parents for some reason. I think it should be better if
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they have their own decision making from 20 years at least.
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But come on, we cannot change everyone at one single day.
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But that's what I suggested. And she was very happy to hear
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all that. She was good.
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The mom was very like test doctor, We will do that.
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We will not force into marriages or anything.
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And yeah, that was good conversation, right?
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She has like, see, now coming to our point, she has all the
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reasons to actually go in a wrong direction.
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She has brutal amount of pain. She has all the difficult
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situations, this that, you name it.
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Her life is actually very, very difficult.
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But she did not blame anyone. She did not do anything.
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She was very aware. Mom was like very aware and she
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took and changed that in pain into her responsibility and that
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responsibility into courage. That's a beautiful part, isn't
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it? That was I was like very happy
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to see such kind of people in general like wow, that's a real
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life examples. I'm like, wow.
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And I even told her, like, if ever I come here to this coffee
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shop and you need any advice, just feel free to ask.
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No problem. No problem.
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Don't don't hesitate. That's what I said.
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And then after a few minutes, she continued her with her work.
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OK, that's story number one. Number one, what is the synopsis
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of story number one is simply shoot a person, a woman, turn
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her pain into responsibility and then responsibility into
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courage. That's the key thing.
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And here is our beautiful second story, the worst one I should
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say. Heads up, heads up, heads up.
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OK, the second story, just literally after 10 minutes
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later, a random woman approached me as she's not working
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anything. She came to me with a neonatal
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baby, like only months old, kind of a baby in her hands.
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And then came to me. I was like OK, and then she
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asked Sir, I did not eat anything, can I have some food?
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I thought, OK, maybe they were like going through very
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difficult situation so there are not asking money but food.
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Then I was like OK, fine. Then I said yeah, sure you want
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food, right? OK, I'll order something.
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You can sit here and you can have some food, no problem, I'll
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pay for it. Place cost literally after once
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I said that a bunch of teenage girls came on with her and she
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called like teenage girls from hey come come come.
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And then I saw all these teenage girls were actually going to
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school and studying because they don't look like what we call
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begging or something or such thing.
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No, I mean I was like what is happening?
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I asked her, woman, how old are you?
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You have a kid, How old are you? And she said she's 2222.
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OK, where is your husband? She said my husband is working.
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OK, fine. Good.
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Then I proceeded to ask, is this really your baby?
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And yeah, she's shown the baby and the facial features are
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matching, by the way. So yeah, fine at least.
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And then I asked this question. OK, you are begging literally.
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Even though you look healthy, you just delivered a baby and
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all these things. Got it.
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But why are you making those 3 teen girls to come with you?
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And then I asked a simple question.
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I talked with the three teen girls.
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Girls, how are you related to this woman?
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And and this had this woman stays nearby their home
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somewhere. And this woman told these girls
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that you can get free money if you just come and stand behind
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me. Then I am like, whoa, whoa,
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whoa, whoa, whoa. That's a Child Exploitation
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right there. Being a woman, you are already
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exploiting three other women and guys.
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Those are like little teenage girls.
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They don't know what is right, what is wrong.
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And then I stopped talking with 22 year old woman.
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I told can you please close your mouth?
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I need to talk with this three teenage kids.
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And I went on asking questions like where do you study, what
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you do? What did your parents do?
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Did your parents know that you are doing all these things?
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And they told yes, we are studying, we are going to school
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because they don't look like beggars are looking for money
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kind of stuff. Absolutely not.
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They look very recent, very normal.
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So then I asked why did you join her?
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You have a good, you have a decent family, maybe you have a
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little financial show, it's fine.
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But you have a decent family and you have everything you needed.
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Why then they simply quoted quote UN quote this so-called
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sister brought us here telling she will buy us something and
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then she told us to just stand behind her.
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That's it. And then I and then I told 3
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little girls, 2 girls, you need to go home now you go home.
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I need to talk with this 22 year old woman and then send them
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home. And I also told them, if you
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ever associate with this kind of woman, I will personally come to
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you wherever you're staying and then talk to your parents that
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you are doing this kind of thing, right?
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And they said, no, Sir, no, don't, don't do that.
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We don't know that she is, she is the one who is dragging us
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into this and blah, blah, blah. So anyways, I told girls who go,
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go study, focus on your education, not this nonsense.
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And then I send those girls off. Now this 22 year old woman, I
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literally said you ask for food right now, I cancel the order.
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Now you are not getting anything because listen, I told you need
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to learn one thing if you want to choose begging as a financial
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source. With all due respect to you, do
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whatever you want. That's your life.
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You are capable enough of thinking, you are capable enough
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of making decisions, so on and so forth.
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But if you ever try to exploit children or teens anytime, any
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other time, and if I see that nearby surroundings, I guarantee
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you you will end up in jail. I personally gonna take control
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of this and make sure you will not ever, ever even think about
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this kind of a thing. And then I told her to you need
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to leave. No food, nothing.
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You have to leave now. I thought you were going through
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a difficult situation, but it was turned out to be a bigger,
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bigger life. So you need to leave.
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And then she left. And here is the thing guys, the
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same pain, the same difficult situations, this woman turned
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into financial leverage by just choosing a shortcut instead of
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working or doing anything, which is bad.
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And even when we had that conversation, I even asked do
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you have any financial problems or anything?
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They were like she was like not financial problems, but that is
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the only financial source she is actually thinking about.
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That is the problem the real problem, because she looks
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pretty healthy and she can work that I can tell do something in
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with her life, but she chose that's her choice anyways.
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But this is this is the reason why you got to be very careful
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whom we help, why we help because some people get used to
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shortcuts. And the second woman, like I
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said in the story, she is very, very used to this shortcuts.
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Instead of working or doing something for herself, she was
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just going through a shortcut and making money.
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And now guys, now we compare the story 1 and story 2.
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The difference is this the core thing Both women had hardships,
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yes. Earlier adulthood pressure, yes.
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Limited privilege to finances, yes.
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But here is the truth. Pain does not destroy lives, but
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what we do with pain does. One woman use the pain to
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protect the next generation, the other woman used to pull others
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down with her. Same pain, different
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orientation. I hope you are understanding my
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point. So this is this is not about
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judging any people or anybody. Guys do not take in a personal
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way, but the whole theme of this is to understand the point that
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hard things to exist, difficult things to exist, things to
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happen. It will take time to heal from
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it, sure, definitely. But what you want to become
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after certain point is still in our hands.
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Some people choose shortcuts, some people turns scars into
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strength, some into excuses and that's the thing I'm trying to
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focus on South. I hope if anyone going through
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difficult situations in life, I hope you get the strength and
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then do something with it. If you are listening to this and
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you are going through pain right now, remember this.
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You do not need to be perfect, you do not need to be powerful,
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but you do need to be very responsible for yourself.
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Because healing is not about erasing the scars, guys.
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It is about letting the scars. It is about not letting the
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scars destroy the future of yours or anyone else.
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This is not a motivation. This is basically live truth
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which happened in front of my eyes.
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So yeah, that's why I like to tell this.
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I would love to go to the medical part as well, but I
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think this is good enough. So maybe, OK, why not close this
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here then instead of, you know, using medical metaphors?
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Because I think at this point, if I go through medical terms, I
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think you people will get really bored listening everything,
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everything. So yeah.
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So let me just give you one last message for this and then we can
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close this. Your scars are not the end of
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the story. Yes, they are just the beginning
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of your strength. So keep doing the inner work and
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all the best for your future. I know you'll all come through
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this difficult phase of your life.
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It's just part of your life. So that's all for me for the
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final episode. And once again I would like to
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thank everyone who is listening from all those countries.
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Taking your valuable time and listening and paying attention
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really means a not. And I keep continuing my work so
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on and so forth. And in future, we will have even
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more discussions maybe, or comment sessions will be enabled
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probably in Podcast 2. So yeah.
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And if you want to follow me on my socials, you can find it
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anywhere on the descriptions or just in my podcast channel
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itself or show. So yeah, thank you so much for
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tuning in. I'll catch you up in future
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episodes or future seasons in my Rd.
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Doc podcast. This is Doctor Mokun AKA Doctor
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M Rider signing off Peace.