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Overwhelmed but not Alone · HAVE FAITH LET IT BEGIN®

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  It's Monday, and you know what that means. Welcome to Have Faith. Let it begin.
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  Podcast of inspiration.
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  It's a podcast of hope. It's a podcast of faith, and it's a podcast of friendship.
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  Here is your host, Angel Santana, and special co-host, Dr. E.
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  We're a three-point last time. That's it, man. Let's rock and roll in 3, 2, 1.
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  Hello, everyone, and welcome to Half-Aid, Let It Begin. It's the first time
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  we're doing an actual introduction at the same time.
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  I wanted to do it here, but just in case if it messes up, it's only on my platform and not Dr.
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  E's, which, by the way, is a great segment because guess what?
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  Dr. E is back. It's Half-Aid, Let It Begin. This is Angel.
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  And, of course, the amazing Dr. E is—I just got done recording a great episode
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  that you need to check out.
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  It's on CrossFit. crockvip.com. You will love it.
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  Subscribe to that. Citizens Reunited to Overcome Cancer.
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  Today's episode hits like this.
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  It's very close to home because I just spoke with Dr. Eid about it and it's
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  a personal one. So we're going to go a little personal. It's about feeling overwhelmed.
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  That heavy pressure that life can bring when you're juggling family,
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  work, responsibilities, and faith.
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  It's all at once. But here's the good news. God never asked us to carry those burdens alone.
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  So Dr. E, it's great to have you back. I am just curious to know,
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  lately I've been struggling and being overwhelmed myself between my responsibilities
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  at home and parenting, ministry, and this podcast and our podcast.
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  I found myself hitting a wall and there were days I felt drained mentally and
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  spiritually and even today.
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  And it wasn't until I confided in you, which is part of the reason why I wanted
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  to talk about this, a friend, someone who really listens that I know I realized
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  something powerful just moments ago.
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  Sometimes God sends the right people into your life to remind you that you're
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  not meant to do it all on your own.
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  So Dr. E was able to be there with me. And that's why today I wanted to talk
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  about this important episode of reaching out and not bottling things up with
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  your emotions or pretending that everything is fine.
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  Dr. E, as someone who works with so many people on your field dealing with either
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  mental, emotional, spiritual stress? What would you say to someone who feels
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  like they can't talk about what they're going through?
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  Well, Angel, first and foremost, I thank you for your honesty and for sharing
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  because, you know, we here at Half Faith do feel that we are a family and we do feel that you are.
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  You know, although you are our leader, you know, you're also one of us.
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  So you kind of lead from the middle.
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  You don't lead from the front. You don't lead from the back. You're right with us.
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  You always express your humanity, your frailties.
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  You know, the trials and tribulations you go through as a young father,
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  as someone who's studying in, you know, in your theology school in order to
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  get your pastorship and then also working a full time job as well as being a husband,
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  as well as, you know, taking care of all the things that go wrong in an old house.
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  You know you've got a lot on your plate kid and and
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  you know I guess the first thing I would say
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  is I admire the fact that you're
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  able to express yourself when
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  you feel overwhelmed because I have to tell you something that my wife would
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  be the first one to you know jump on jump on this bandwagon with this admission
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  but I am a terrible communicator you know when I walk in the house I could have
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  had absolutely like an ax put in the back of my head and someone will say,
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  you know, she'll say, Hey, did you have a good day?
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  I'll say, yeah, just another day, you know, no, no, nothing.
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  I didn't get an ax in my, Oh, what's that ax in the back of your head? Oh, an ax.
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  I don't know. I don't, I have no idea how that could have possibly happened.
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  So, you know, being a good communicator, being someone who is acknowledging
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  your human journey, right? So God never promised us that it was going to be a smooth ride.
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  You know, life, you know, being the human experience is like a roller coaster.
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  There's ups and there's downs and there's all arounds and
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  there's flippity flops and all sorts of different sort of blood curdling and
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  scary and frightening and terrifying and sad and grievous times that we have
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  to put up with and get through as well as that mix and match with just the joyous,
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  glorious days, you know, and, and, you know, I live through,
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  I look at you as sort of like, almost like a, a time capsule of,
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  of my life 30 years ago, you know, when my kids were little and,
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  you know, they would scream and yell and have tempered tantrums.
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  And while I was studying for my boards or trying to do this or that,
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  trying to get things done, you know, just so many distractions.
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  So that was kind of a long way of saying thank you.
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  Yeah. You know, and I appreciate that. You know, I think that I,
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  and I have a follow-up question for you.
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  You said you bottle things up and you wouldn't even know, is there,
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  is, was there, is there a point in time where you finally just let it out or.
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  What, what, if you don't mind me asking, how do you do it?
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  How do you vent? Some people go to the gym, some people read,
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  some people take a bath. I don't know. What does Dr. E do?
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  Yeah. So I think a lot of it is also my training in school, you know,
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  doctors are taught, you know, that you can, you know, you're taking care of
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  sick people and your own problems and issues have to become secondarily.
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  And then as a father, exactly the same. And as a husband, exactly the same.
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  So we're kind of taught, you know, societal, you know, role models,
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  you know, teach us to try to be strong and brave and silent.
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  And, and I think that, you know, that's not healthy, right? So I think the new
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  generation is getting better with their feelings.
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  So to answer your question, nature.
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  So I'm a nature guy. So getting on the bike, getting on a hike,
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  putting on hiking shoes and going down to the Goshen trail, very simple,
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  simple stuff, treating yourself well.
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  You and I mentioned about just you not having time for yourself,
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  you know, trying to make that time.
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  There are, there are times when I notice, you know, that, and you have to be proactive.
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  So for instance, if I know at work that I'm going to have a really long day
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  and then I have meetings at night and I can't do any exercise or take care of myself,
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  then I'll go to the Goshen trail at four 30 in the morning to do just a 45 minute something.
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  Um, and then get to work on time in order to get my day going. But.
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  I've already paid myself first, right? So I've already taken care of myself
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  and my health needs before I have to go through the strenuous day and then the
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  meetings and things like that.
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  So that's one bit of advice, Angel, is to make sure that you don't let everything
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  that's overwhelming you take priority over yourself.
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  Now, today, your mom was your savior, right? So your mom for a bit allowed you
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  to catch up with your work, you know, with your schooling, with your pastor
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  school, get your assignments and your quizzes done.
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  And, you know, you mentioned about not having, you know, not getting to the
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  gym in a while and you look great by the way, but that doesn't mean that you, you have to stop.
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  You have to continue to go take care of your health.
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  I have to eat right. I know that you've lost a ton of weight and you look beautiful,
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  but you still need to eat.
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  You need that energy, right? So it's almost like, again, we use the analogy
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  again and again, either on your podcast or my podcast. That's the analogy of
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  the airplane that loses pressure and the oxygen masks come down.
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  They say, don't put the oxygen mask on the child first, put the oxygen mask
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  on yourself first, get yourself stable, and then you could attend to the needs of the others.
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  So whether my patients or your children or whatever you're schooling,
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  if you're not the best version of yourself, then you're not going to be able to help anybody.
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  Well said. And, you know, I think I'm going to tie this all up,
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  of course, because I know at this point somebody's going to say,
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  well, I'm curious how he's going to turn this into a motivational, spiritual spot, right?
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  Before I do that, I think I also want to, and I think you'll back me on this,
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  as a husband, too, you know, your number one supporter should be your spouse.
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  And one of the things that I need to work on is also being a better example
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  of communicating when I am down.
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  My biggest thing is I don't want to bring her down. I don't want to bring your
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  spouse down but guess what?
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  You marry that person because of these reasons because at the end of the day,
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  when things go bad, they need you to be there to pick themselves up and I always
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  feel like I have to be that person but you know what? I got to put my wife to do that for me.
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  Yeah. And also don't forget, like there's always like, you know,
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  the math is the math, right?
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  So if you try to hide something or if you try to, you know, be too stoic and
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  you're overwhelmed and you're not sharing it, then what will happen is she'll
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  say, honey, can you pass the salt?
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  And you'll say, what? What are you talking about?
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  Salt is right there. Get it yourself. And like, she'll be like,
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  wow, you know, where'd that come from?
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  And it's like, it's not because she wanted the salt and she didn't grab it herself.
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  Because you have everything that's still in you that you haven't gotten out.
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  I agree. And that's why I will say the best line I've ever heard and still use
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  today is, when you're right and you're rude, then you're wrong.
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  So don't do that, husbands.
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  Let me point out to what I'm gonna do with spiritually.
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  In my mind, since I've actually been studying this, it reminds me of Galatians.
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  Galatians chapter six, verse number two, which says, and I'm paraphrasing here
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  because I gotta go by my memory.
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  Carry each other's burdens and
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  in the way you will fulfill the law of Christ.
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  And it's a beautiful reminder that God never intended for us to carry our struggles alone.
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  He calls us to support one another, to be that friend, that voice,
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  that hand to lift someone up when they fall.
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  And let me tell you, none of us will, if we feel like you're falling,
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  the hand is now there for you to be picked up.
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  If you're Like you've been too much lately. Please know this.
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  You're not forgotten and you are not alone.
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  Find a friend, confide in them, and most importantly, confide in God.
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  He's waiting for your call. So just call out to him. Let's pray.
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  Heavenly Father, thank you for being with us today. And we welcome you before
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  us today with heavy hearts. So many of us are overwhelmed.
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  I know I am. I'm tired and unsure of what tomorrow will hold.
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  But we know that you are our strength and our comfort and our peace.
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  So Lord, remind us to lean on one another, to open up and to be honest and to
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  trust in your timing and lift every burden that we've carried alone and fill
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  us with your peace that passes all understandings in your precious name as we
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  pray and say thank you. Amen.
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  Friends, as you start this week, remember your struggles. don't define you.
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  Again, your struggles don't define you. Your faith does.
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  Confide, connect, and trust that God's hand is already guiding you through it
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  because you matter. And never forget.