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Season 4 - Episode 128 - Lifting others up · Good Morning From The Chicken Coop!

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  Hey everybody, welcome to the good morning from the Chicken
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  Coop podcast. My name is Kim Johnson and I am
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  a mastermindset coach, creative strategist, and also happened to
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  be a farmer. This is my chicken coop and I
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  come out here every day to record a podcast to teach
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  distinctions, possibilities, new ways of thinking, and just bring
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  some joy into the world. So welcome to the coop and let's
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  start your day off in a fantastic way.
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  Hey everybody, good morning from the chicken coop.
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  So today we're talking about the fact that we have to lift other
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  people up it. It's just, I think it's a
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  cardinal rule that a lot of us miss out on because we're so
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  caught up in our everyday stuff and we don't necessarily
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  recognize that we are also, you know, we want to be lifted up.
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  So when somebody, somebody does something nice for us, we're
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  like, Oh my God, it was the sweetest thing.
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  I'm so happy. You know, we, we feel stunned by
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  it because we didn't expect it and it was wonderful.
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  Here's the question, my friends, how often do you do it for
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  somebody? So today I am honoring someone
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  in this podcast that is a regular listener of mine,
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  happens to be a client of mine. And he is someone who
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  consistently does this. He has this big desire and it's
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  not because he's a people pleaser.
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  So you know how I all feel about labels.
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  I do not love labels because it puts you in a box, it keeps you
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  there and it really does shut you off from a lot of other
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  beliefs about your emotions when you put a label on it and you
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  think, oh, that's it, I'm stuck there.
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  I am. Oh, I can't go anywhere where
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  and labels are not resourceful. So let's back up for a second.
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  He's one of the sweetest people and he doesn't do it because he
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  has to. He doesn't because he wants to.
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  He does it because it makes him feel really, really filled up
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  inside to give to other people. And it's the exact reason that I
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  do it. If you think you don't get
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  anything from it, you're wrong. You do.
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  Whenever you give to somebody, while you're giving to them to
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  be helpful to them, you're also getting something from it.
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  And there's nothing wrong with saying that.
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  There's absolutely nothing wrong with saying that.
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  This is one of those times where I feel like so often we get into
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  this headspace of being judgmental of ourselves.
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  And so we're like. Well, I don't want to be just a
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  people pleaser. I don't want to do.
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  Things listen, that's you saying I'm in an emotion of not wanting
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  to do something and I'm doing it anyway because it will make them
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  happy. Now, two things can be true at
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  the same time. You can do it because it will
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  make someone happy and you still don't want to do it.
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  And it's not the wrong thing. It's when it becomes a problem
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  long term and you keep doing it and doing it and you find
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  yourself becoming less and less happy about it.
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  That's when it becomes an issue. But it's not just because you're
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  a people pleaser. Now, this young man is one of
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  these people that you just look at and you're like, how does he
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  remember these things? How does he know this?
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  He keeps really, really great detail on what he notices about
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  people, what, what they're looking for, how they're into
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  things. He pays close attention to so
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  many things. And just the other day, he was,
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  you know, sent me a message and he said, look at this.
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  He remembered that someone he had been working with before
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  loved licorice. And he made the decision to go
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  ahead and buy some licorice and share this licorice with this
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  person randomly, just randomly. And I, I just sat there and I
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  paused when I saw this because I was like, you know what?
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  This is incredible that here is this person who hears something
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  about someone loving licorice. They go, they buy it, they write
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  them a note and they send it off to them just so this will
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  randomly show up. Now I can't begin to tell you
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  how much this. I'm so grateful when I get
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  little things in the mail like this.
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  One of my other clients sent me a card that was embedded with
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  seeds to grow flowers, wildflowers.
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  Do you know the excitement I have when I got that and I I
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  just was like, oh, this is so cool.
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  Cannot wait to put it in the ground.
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  It just showed up. Cannot wait to put it in the
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  ground. These little things are bright
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  spots. And if we're all doing them for
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  each other, then guess what happens?
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  We're all lifting each other up. It's not just about us taking or
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  about us waiting for someone to do it for us.
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  But if you want to receive it in the world, you pour it into the
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  world. If you want to do good things,
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  you pour good things. And this is such an important
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  piece of the puzzle, such an important piece of the puzzle.
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  So I'm going to encourage you to find a way, any way that you can
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  to pour in a little bit, think about people around you.
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  If you're in an office and you work and you see that everybody,
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  you know, you sit next to somebody and you know that like
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  putting a flower on everybody's desk would make everybody happy.
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  Maybe that's a thing to do. I mean, I, I don't know about
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  you, but flowers make me very happy.
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  I think you all know that. So when you, when you think
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  about how you can make yourself happy, it's not just about, Oh,
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  I'm going to take myself to a spa day or oh, I'm going to go
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  get myself, you know, a fancy lunch or whatever.
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  No, think about how much you get when you give, think about what
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  would happen if you just did that one simple thing, just that
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  one simple thing, how it would change not only you, but them.
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  All right, my friends, I hope you have a blessed day and I'll
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  see you tomorrow. Bye.