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Stop Signing Up for the Masterclass✍🏽 When you have learned The Lesson! · The Black Sheep Leadership Podcast

• 0:27
  SPEAKER_00: Hey everybody, I want to welcome you back to the Black Sheep Leadership Podcast.
• 0:31
  SPEAKER_00: I'm your host, Athena Renee, and this is where the underdogs, the misfits, and the black sheep come to turn pain into power so that they can build a life by design and leave a legacy behind.
• 0:41
  SPEAKER_00: Now, if this is your first time tapping in, welcome in, family.
• 0:44
  SPEAKER_00: Pull up a chair.
• 0:45
  SPEAKER_00: We're glad you're here.
• 0:47
  SPEAKER_00: And if you're back again, welcome back, my family.
• 0:50
  SPEAKER_00: It's good to see you.
• 0:51
  SPEAKER_00: I really appreciate you and I want to thank you for trusting me with your time.
• 0:55
  SPEAKER_00: I do not take that lightly.
• 0:57
  SPEAKER_00: But let's do this quick vibe check.
• 0:59
  SPEAKER_00: Because if you're easily offended, sensitive, entitled, waiting on somebody to come save you, or allergic to accountability, get your ass up out of here.
• 1:07
  SPEAKER_00: Because this ain't your safe space.
• 1:08
  SPEAKER_00: Go ahead and tap out now.
• 1:10
  SPEAKER_00: But if you're ready to think bigger, move smarter, and you refuse to live beneath your potential, stay locked in.
• 1:18
  SPEAKER_00: Because by the end, you'll walk away with something that you can execute immediately.
• 1:22
  SPEAKER_00: Now let's get to work.
• 1:24
  SPEAKER_00: Now, on the previous episode, our intelligence review, we talked about the hard things about doing the hard things.
• 1:33
  SPEAKER_00: We learned that success does not get easier, but you get stronger.
• 1:37
  SPEAKER_00: Life never promised easy, it promised opportunities to grow you.
• 1:42
  SPEAKER_00: And one of the biggest shifts that we made was realizing that you don't get to avoid hard, but you get to choose the heart you want to push through.
• 1:51
  SPEAKER_00: Well, today's briefing builds directly on that lesson.
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  SPEAKER_00: Because once you've chosen the heart that leads to your personal growth, there's something else that you have to do.
• 2:04
  SPEAKER_00: You have to stop repeating the same lesson.
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  unknown: Okay?
• 2:09
  SPEAKER_00: Follow me.
• 2:10
  SPEAKER_00: Let me ask you a quick question.
• 2:11
  SPEAKER_00: How many times does life have to teach you the same lesson before you learn it?
• 2:16
  SPEAKER_00: Think about that.
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  SPEAKER_00: Different cities, same problem.
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  SPEAKER_00: Relationships, same issue.
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  SPEAKER_00: Different companies, same frustration.
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  SPEAKER_00: Sometimes it's the same people, same betrayal.
• 2:28
  SPEAKER_00: Right?
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  SPEAKER_00: But at what point do we stop blaming the other people and start asking, what is life really trying to teach me here?
• 2:37
  SPEAKER_00: Because here's something that I've observed.
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  SPEAKER_00: Most people think they're gaining experience, but in reality, a lot of people are repeating the same things.
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  SPEAKER_00: There's a difference between, there's a difference between experience only when it becomes wisdom, right?
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  SPEAKER_00: Otherwise, you're just re you're just into repetition.
• 2:57
  SPEAKER_00: And that's what we're talking about today.
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  SPEAKER_00: Today's episode is called Stop Signing Up for the Masterclass when you've learned the lesson.
• 3:08
  SPEAKER_00: We gotta stop.
• 3:10
  SPEAKER_00: See, I remember being in school, and whenever you failed a class, you didn't move on, right?
• 3:15
  SPEAKER_00: You just took it again.
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  SPEAKER_00: You remember some kids will go to summer school, some would get held back, but you did not move on until you passed that class.
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  SPEAKER_00: It was the same material, same textbooks, exams, and concepts.
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  SPEAKER_00: Nothing changed except another semester disappeared.
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  SPEAKER_00: But check this out life works exactly the same way.
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  SPEAKER_00: Only life doesn't call it a failed class.
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  SPEAKER_00: It's simply maybe it's another job that you went to or another friendship, right?
• 3:43
  SPEAKER_00: Another opportunity or decision.
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  SPEAKER_00: And every time the lesson comes back around, life quietly asks you one question Did you finally get it?
• 3:53
  SPEAKER_00: Did you finally learn the lesson?
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  SPEAKER_00: So, what we're gonna do in this episode is we are going to take a look at three to four different masterclasses.
• 4:04
  SPEAKER_00: And when sometimes we don't learn a lesson, but when we do, I want you to have the power and knowing that you know what?
• 4:11
  SPEAKER_00: I don't have to do this anymore.
• 4:12
  SPEAKER_00: I already took that class.
• 4:13
  SPEAKER_00: It's just like if you were going to college, if they had some classes on your schedule that you've already taken, or even at your job, right?
• 4:20
  SPEAKER_00: They try to get you to take this class over again.
• 4:21
  SPEAKER_00: You're like, wait a minute, I already took this course, I've already taken this class.
• 4:25
  SPEAKER_00: Today we're gonna apply it to your life so that you don't have to continue to go down the go around this uh revolving door, right?
• 4:33
  SPEAKER_00: You don't have to keep on going through the same things, and you can recognize the lesson and how you need to stand on what you've learned, okay?
• 4:42
  SPEAKER_00: Because when you don't, because some of you are very smart, you're a black sheep.
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  SPEAKER_00: Maybe you don't even resonate with that, maybe you resonate with being a misfit or an underdog.
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  SPEAKER_00: But one thing about it, and two things for sure, you're very intelligent.
• 4:52
  SPEAKER_00: The problem lies in specifically, if you resonate with being a black sheep or underdog, we love to give people additional chances, we love to be hopeful in things, but you got to be hopeful in your education and hopeful in the lessons that you've learned and take them for what as they are.
• 5:08
  SPEAKER_00: Your hope doesn't have anything to do with the evidence of actions that have been shown to you over and over and over again.
• 5:15
  SPEAKER_00: And when you realize that, when you truly, truly realize that your time and your energy are your most priceless, valuable assets, you will not waste them by continuing to sign up for a masterclass when you've already learned the lesson.
• 5:29
  SPEAKER_00: That's almost like insanity doing the same things over and over and over again and expecting a different result.
• 5:36
  SPEAKER_00: So today I'm gonna help you out with four different masterclasses that we take.
• 5:39
  SPEAKER_00: That when you pick up on these different concepts, this is going to significantly decrease some of the frustrations that you have, some of the betrayals that we've walked into.
• 5:47
  SPEAKER_00: It's our own fault.
• 5:48
  SPEAKER_00: Like I'm one of those people, I'm gonna take high accountability because, as you will see as we go into this episode, you will see that a lot of the issues that we have is because of us.
• 5:59
  SPEAKER_00: We sit there and learn the lesson, but we keep signing up for the masterclass, hoping that we can change the outcome with certain people, places, and things.
• 6:06
  SPEAKER_00: So the first one that we're gonna talk about is the relationship masterclass.
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  SPEAKER_00: This is really one of the most one of the heavy hitters, specifically with the black sheep.
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  SPEAKER_00: Why?
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  SPEAKER_00: Because a lot of times, as a black sheep, you face a lot of rejection earlier on in your life, okay?
• 6:22
  SPEAKER_00: And it's not about um it's made you insecure, or you know, where you're trying to ride somebody else's wave and you're doing anything just to be around.
• 6:31
  SPEAKER_00: Now, listen, let's keep it a stack.
• 6:33
  SPEAKER_00: You may have had that a part of your journey, but at this point in life, you're like, take me as I am, or it's nothing, right?
• 6:40
  SPEAKER_00: Nothing at all.
• 6:41
  SPEAKER_00: You don't even care anymore, right?
• 6:43
  SPEAKER_00: But here's the thing we still start to see some of those things, and it creeps in.
• 6:49
  SPEAKER_00: It could be different people for different reasons, right?
• 6:52
  SPEAKER_00: So it could be maybe sometimes you have these toxic relationships with family members, and because they're your family, you continue to act like you know what, maybe I need to take this again, take this class one more time.
• 7:02
  SPEAKER_00: Maybe it's something that I missed.
• 7:04
  SPEAKER_00: Maybe it was the way I said it, right?
• 7:06
  SPEAKER_00: Because as a black sheep, you're very hopeful.
• 7:09
  SPEAKER_00: You really want to, you really believe in the potential of other people, and you really believe in change.
• 7:14
  SPEAKER_00: And I know that to be true because you wouldn't be listening to this podcast if you're not truly into change.
• 7:18
  SPEAKER_00: If you don't believe that you can change your own life, right?
• 7:21
  SPEAKER_00: Starting with you and the actions and the decisions that you make, you wouldn't be here.
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  SPEAKER_00: So I know.
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  SPEAKER_00: So let's get into this first one the relationship masterclass.
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  SPEAKER_00: And like I was saying, the black sheep sometimes, when you've been rejected, you take a lot of crap off of people that you wouldn't normally take.
• 7:35
  SPEAKER_00: But the other piece to it is relationships are important.
• 7:38
  SPEAKER_00: So, black sheep, even though we sometimes can walk alone because we rather eat crumbs with bombs than eat states with snakes, we'll rock it out by ourselves.
• 7:47
  SPEAKER_00: But I want you to understand very closely here.
• 7:50
  SPEAKER_00: Life is not about seclusion and and um and just cutting yourself off from people just because you've had all these bad experiences.
• 7:57
  SPEAKER_00: Because I can almost guarantee you 60 to 70 percent of those experiences came from you continue to have extended grace for people when it was a lesson for you to learn and to move on.
• 8:06
  SPEAKER_00: Not just family, sometimes it's dating.
• 8:08
  SPEAKER_00: You keep dating a certain type, you see the red flags, but you're like, you know what?
• 8:13
  SPEAKER_00: You know what the fair word is.
• 8:14
  SPEAKER_00: You know what?
• 8:15
  SPEAKER_00: He has potential, she has potential, and then they kick out the same things.
• 8:20
  SPEAKER_00: See, at that time, it's not their fault.
• 8:23
  SPEAKER_00: Like J.
• 8:23
  SPEAKER_00: Cole said, the first time I put the blame on you, the second time it's shame on me.
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  SPEAKER_00: First time it's blame and shame on the other person, but the second time it's shame on me.
• 8:35
  SPEAKER_00: Why shame on me?
• 8:36
  SPEAKER_00: Because you didn't learn the last time.
• 8:40
  SPEAKER_00: Okay, so sometimes, like I said, you gotta you gotta peep those red flags and you have to stand on business and know that you know what?
• 8:45
  SPEAKER_00: And the last time I took this relationship masterclass, those red flags pointed out to me that this type of person that's making these moves, and you're not you're not pointing out this type of person from what their past is, you're saying this type of person with their actions.
• 9:01
  SPEAKER_00: Don't ever laugh the way someone looks.
• 9:03
  SPEAKER_00: Don't get me wrong, if it's not your look, it's not your look.
• 9:05
  SPEAKER_00: Because we're not disillusioned to think that our looks don't affect how people treat us.
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  SPEAKER_00: Like, come on, we gotta knock it off, right?
• 9:12
  SPEAKER_00: But we're not gonna let that distort our thought process as far as their actions, because your actions tell you everything that you need to know about a person, right?
• 9:23
  SPEAKER_00: I mean, let's go into friendships.
• 9:25
  SPEAKER_00: So, just two weeks ago, I had signed up for a masterclass multiple times.
• 9:30
  SPEAKER_00: I'm talking about over three, four times.
• 9:32
  SPEAKER_00: Now, I'm gonna always take full accountability.
• 9:35
  SPEAKER_00: However, this particular last time that I signed up for this masterclass, it was someone, it was due to someone that I knew uh in conjunction with this other person, and they were hyping the relationship up, egging the friendship up.
• 9:49
  SPEAKER_00: This was completely a friendship.
• 9:51
  SPEAKER_00: They're like, oh, you know, you should give it another chance because of how long we've known each other.
• 9:55
  SPEAKER_00: But here's something I want to say to you guys: listen to me.
• 9:58
  SPEAKER_00: You could know someone for a long time, but that don't mean they know you.
• 10:02
  SPEAKER_00: You could know of them, but that don't mean they know you.
• 10:04
  SPEAKER_00: Why?
• 10:05
  SPEAKER_00: Because over time, people change.
• 10:08
  SPEAKER_00: People change, but here's the other thing people change on what they're willing to accept.
• 10:12
  SPEAKER_00: Some people don't ever change in certain behaviors and patterns.
• 10:15
  SPEAKER_00: So you have to know the difference.
• 10:17
  SPEAKER_00: Some people will never change towards you, they might change depending on who they're with, right?
• 10:24
  SPEAKER_00: But it's about you and what you're willing to tolerate.
• 10:27
  SPEAKER_00: Okay, so friendship.
• 10:29
  SPEAKER_00: So someone's like, you know, hey, you man, you guys should give this another chance and all that crap, right?
• 10:33
  SPEAKER_00: So I said, All right, I went ahead and fell into it, you know, because I like to use it as I was using it as balance to say, hey, you're not just writing people off.
• 10:40
  SPEAKER_00: And the reason why is because when you know what your strengths are, one of my strengths is I will detach and cut your ass off like a ninja, right?
• 10:46
  SPEAKER_00: However, when you understand the work that you're doing and you really understand the importance of relationships, you must understand, ladies and gentlemen, that good relationships take time.
• 10:58
  SPEAKER_00: Good relationships that mean you're gonna be rocking it out with somebody through the up and the down.
• 11:02
  SPEAKER_00: It's not something that's going to look pretty every single time, okay?
• 11:06
  SPEAKER_00: And so you want to rock it out with folks.
• 11:09
  SPEAKER_00: You don't want to seem weak, you don't want to walk off at the site of trouble.
• 11:12
  SPEAKER_00: Black sheep, I know you you've seen that in your life because as much as we will stay down with people while they're going through their different changes, honey, they will drop us like a bad habit and roll out and turn around and act like it was your fault, and that'll be the first time around.
• 11:25
  SPEAKER_00: Okay, so like I said, I went on this trip with someone that I've been knowing for a while, me and another young lady.
• 11:31
  SPEAKER_00: And um, when I tell you, the person who I who who the person that we initially was out of town with, the reason why we're even going to this city, when I say they started cutting up, acting so crazy.
• 11:45
  SPEAKER_00: And here's something I want you to tell, I want to talk to you guys about a little bit, and I'm gonna I'm not gonna go too far into it, but when I talked about discovering your purpose, I talked about that um that was our 50th episode milestone.
• 11:58
  SPEAKER_00: You really need to check that out.
• 12:00
  SPEAKER_00: But one of the benefits of discovering your life purpose, and here's what's so cool about it even having the intention of discovering your life purpose, because the intention of it is that even if it's not exactly what you're supposed to be doing, the fact that you're intentional about discovering it will lead you to that thing, it will continue to lead you.
• 12:21
  SPEAKER_00: That's what's so powerful about it.
• 12:22
  SPEAKER_00: This is why you'll hear me out of all the things that I talk about on this episode.
• 12:26
  SPEAKER_00: I need you or on this podcast, excuse me, I need you to understand that you discovering your purpose.
• 12:31
  SPEAKER_00: We used to always talk about discovering your destiny as well.
• 12:33
  SPEAKER_00: It's all in the same boat, it's all leading back to discovering why you were born, right?
• 12:38
  SPEAKER_00: But here's what I want you to understand: one of the benefits that's so powerful, and it worked for me this past weekend or about two weekends ago, when you have intentionally said, you know what, I want to build something not just for me, I want to build something so that other people can get help and be uplifted with it.
• 12:56
  SPEAKER_00: Do you know what God does then?
• 12:58
  SPEAKER_00: Do you know what, and if you're not a believer, maybe you can say the universe or whatever, right?
• 13:02
  SPEAKER_00: But do you know what happens?
• 13:03
  SPEAKER_00: When you set this is why setting intention is so powerful.
• 13:07
  SPEAKER_00: When you set intention out to say, hey, I'm gonna do this particular thing, right?
• 13:13
  SPEAKER_00: I want to do this, I believe that this is my life purpose, right?
• 13:16
  SPEAKER_00: One thing that happens is anybody, and I'm talking about anybody, anybody that is not meant to be on your journey or in your life, they will be exposed.
• 13:29
  SPEAKER_00: They will be exposed.
• 13:31
  SPEAKER_00: I'm talking about every single time.
• 13:34
  SPEAKER_00: Now, here's the thing: it's on us to number one, catch the actions and catch, catch the clues, catch the hints, because they're gonna be dropping hints the whole time.
• 13:44
  SPEAKER_00: So, for an example, if you're dealing with a friendship or a business partner or anybody, and it's never reciprocal, if it's always one way, then you know there's a good chance that you don't need to be around them because relationships are based upon reciprocity.
• 14:00
  SPEAKER_00: Nothing that is does not have a give and take, it will not survive, it will end up dying.
• 14:06
  SPEAKER_00: So there's no need of being playing games about that, right?
• 14:09
  SPEAKER_00: If a person is not feeding what you're doing, your spirit, your energy, some of these people, because we've known them so long, even at jobs, though, even when you haven't been doing them for a long time.
• 14:18
  SPEAKER_00: I mean, it just gives you bad energy, bad vibes, you're not feeling good, right?
• 14:23
  SPEAKER_00: Why?
• 14:24
  SPEAKER_00: Because you have not learned the lesson of that masterclass that you do not need to be dealing with them, folks.
• 14:29
  SPEAKER_00: So, what do you do?
• 14:30
  SPEAKER_00: You might cut them off, you might go silent.
• 14:33
  SPEAKER_00: Six months later, you're dealing with the exact same behavior, and you promise yourself you're not gonna tolerate it again.
• 14:41
  SPEAKER_00: See, at some point, it's no longer about bad luck, misunderstanding, or disrespect, it's about a lesson, and that lesson had not been fully learned.
• 14:50
  SPEAKER_00: That's why you keep seeing it come back around, even that job sometimes.
• 14:53
  SPEAKER_00: Let's say, friend, you go to the job and you were always the one that um sometimes supervisors start tripping out on you or start talking crazy to you about, or uh all kinds of things start going on, right?
• 15:04
  SPEAKER_00: So you finally pick it up and say, you know what?
• 15:07
  SPEAKER_00: I'm gonna go to a different job.
• 15:09
  SPEAKER_00: Guess what?
• 15:10
  SPEAKER_00: You're at that different job, and the same things happen.
• 15:12
  SPEAKER_00: You don't know just yet, and I can't just say what your lesson is, only you know the lesson because there are certain things that your conscience will always give you, and you know when something it's just like when you know something's not right.
• 15:22
  SPEAKER_00: Something might tell you, girl, get in your car, or man, don't even go down there, that don't look right.
• 15:26
  SPEAKER_00: And some of us, we're just so uh, you know, we like to hide it behind being positive, but we just do dumb stuff.
• 15:31
  SPEAKER_00: We just don't trust our intuition and we, oh, I'm gonna go do it anyway.
• 15:34
  SPEAKER_00: I'm just gonna go ahead on, it'll be all right.
• 15:36
  SPEAKER_00: No, it's not because even if you make it out alive, which is great, some of these people, places, and things they cause so much damage to your confidence, to your energy level.
• 15:46
  SPEAKER_00: Some of the things that you've gone through, it will knock you out, even just from your energy.
• 15:50
  SPEAKER_00: You won't even get work done.
• 15:51
  SPEAKER_00: You gotta re-back up, you gotta heal internally.
• 15:54
  SPEAKER_00: This is why it's very important for you to start learning these lessons.
• 15:59
  SPEAKER_00: And once you learn the lesson, go ahead and stop signing up for the masterclass.
• 16:03
  SPEAKER_00: We can no longer, listen to me, we can no longer keep letting stuff slide as a black sheep.
• 16:08
  SPEAKER_00: We're just getting too, we're too wise, we're getting too old.
• 16:12
  SPEAKER_00: Even if you're 25, time is too precious to be playing with people that's showing you how they feel by their actions.
• 16:18
  SPEAKER_00: See, remember, when you learn the lesson, it's not about talk, it's about the actions of another person.
• 16:25
  SPEAKER_00: And when you peep that action out, there's nothing else that needs to be discussed.
• 16:30
  SPEAKER_00: So, like I was saying, just for an example, with the job, it might be you need to start speaking up more.
• 16:35
  SPEAKER_00: You want to keep the peace and you want everything to be cool.
• 16:37
  SPEAKER_00: Maybe you need to start speaking up, right?
• 16:40
  SPEAKER_00: Because at the end of the day, I want you to hear me and hear me well with this relationship masterclass.
• 16:44
  SPEAKER_00: We train people how to treat us by what we tolerate.
• 16:49
  SPEAKER_00: We train people on how to treat us on what we tolerate.
• 16:56
  SPEAKER_00: This is where execution separates leaders from everyone else.
• 16:59
  SPEAKER_00: See, observation will notice the pattern on how people act.
• 17:03
  SPEAKER_00: But the execution, it breaks down the pattern.
• 17:07
  SPEAKER_00: That's the difference.
• 17:08
  SPEAKER_00: See, knowledge doesn't change your life, execution does.
• 17:11
  SPEAKER_00: It doesn't matter how many books you've read, none of that.
• 17:14
  SPEAKER_00: Execution is the thing.
• 17:16
  SPEAKER_00: That's why I always say stop signing up for that masterclass because some of us we're not lacking the information.
• 17:22
  SPEAKER_00: We're lacking the implementation of what we already know.
• 17:25
  SPEAKER_00: You already know what to do.
• 17:27
  SPEAKER_00: You already know.
• 17:28
  SPEAKER_00: So let's go to the next masterclass that you keep signing up for.
• 17:30
  SPEAKER_00: And there's a good chance you already know what you need to do.
• 17:33
  SPEAKER_00: The career masterclass.
• 17:35
  SPEAKER_00: Let's talk about work.
• 17:36
  SPEAKER_00: Different companies, different, same office politics, different managers, same communication problem.
• 17:40
  SPEAKER_00: See, remember when I was just talking about how it depends on what's going on.
• 17:43
  SPEAKER_00: Sometimes it could be that you need to just speak up more.
• 17:47
  SPEAKER_00: Sometimes, hey, you might talk too much, you need to be quiet.
• 17:50
  SPEAKER_00: But one thing about it, you don't need to be predictable.
• 17:53
  SPEAKER_00: This is the career masterclass.
• 17:55
  SPEAKER_00: It'd be the you could have a different title.
• 17:57
  SPEAKER_00: You will come up with the same frustration, people being disrespectful.
• 18:00
  SPEAKER_00: Maybe the lesson isn't your employer, maybe the lesson is your boundaries, right?
• 18:04
  SPEAKER_00: You're letting people get too close to you.
• 18:06
  SPEAKER_00: You know you're a manager.
• 18:07
  SPEAKER_00: Stop letting people think it's okay to just talk to you any old kind of way or think it's cool, like you're not doing your job, or like you're their friend.
• 18:14
  SPEAKER_00: Maybe the lesson is confidence, right?
• 18:16
  SPEAKER_00: Maybe it's communication.
• 18:17
  SPEAKER_00: You're not just telling them what it is.
• 18:19
  SPEAKER_00: And don't get me wrong, listen, you have to apply it to yourself because I want you to understand if you are leaders, I do understand we're in a time now where you can just deliver the information on an in an honest way, no disrespect.
• 18:29
  SPEAKER_00: And it's gonna be some damn soft pup, cup, cuppy, puppy cup, right?
• 18:33
  SPEAKER_00: Pup cup is how they call it.
• 18:35
  SPEAKER_00: It's gonna be some soft dude that's soft like a pup cup that's gonna say, Oh, they offended me.
• 18:40
  SPEAKER_00: Oh, oh, my feelings are hurt, and you're just giving them the information as an adult.
• 18:44
  SPEAKER_00: Listen, at the end of the day, I want you to really take a breather and and and understand and give yourself grace because you can't make everybody happy.
• 18:53
  SPEAKER_00: It's always gonna be somebody that's gonna offend or or they're not gonna like what you say and what you do, they're just not gonna do it.
• 18:59
  SPEAKER_00: And the moment you stop giving a crap and knowing that you're moving in great intentions, life becomes so much better.
• 19:05
  SPEAKER_00: Because I need you to understand that nobody is coming to discover you.
• 19:10
  SPEAKER_00: You have to position yourself when it's your career and different things is going on, you have to position yourself.
• 19:15
  SPEAKER_00: Sometimes we blame the environment because it's easier than confronting the lesson.
• 19:20
  SPEAKER_00: You have to be your own advocate.
• 19:22
  SPEAKER_00: That was one of the things that I always told myself at when I when I was building my career, right?
• 19:27
  SPEAKER_00: Because I continued to run into a lot of different things, a lot of different issues.
• 19:30
  SPEAKER_00: And one of the main issues was I did not like it when you will have leaders that will talk to the associates like with no respect, right?
• 19:39
  SPEAKER_00: Now, this is me as a leader, okay, and I would notice that.
• 19:42
  SPEAKER_00: But then I would turn right around and notice that those same associates, they would respect that leader.
• 19:48
  SPEAKER_00: And me trying to treat them like the positions they will be in soon, it will backfire.
• 19:53
  SPEAKER_00: How would it backfire?
• 19:55
  SPEAKER_00: It will backfire because these are the same people that you would have to be out in the warehouse or in the office, you would have to look for them.
• 20:04
  SPEAKER_00: Why?
• 20:04
  SPEAKER_00: Because when people are not accustomed to number one, managing their self, being treated with respect and dignity, they're gonna take your kindness for your weakness.
• 20:14
  SPEAKER_00: You will even have people that will try to sabotage you just because you want to get work done.
• 20:19
  SPEAKER_00: You never told them they were not doing any work.
• 20:21
  SPEAKER_00: You just talked to them like how you would want somebody to talk to you.
• 20:23
  SPEAKER_00: But guess what?
• 20:24
  SPEAKER_00: People will start to use it against you.
• 20:26
  SPEAKER_00: So you have to learn, specifically if you resonate with being an underdog, a black sheep, or a misfit, you have to root for yourself and position yourself to win.
• 20:36
  SPEAKER_00: Because people often in careers, they will often gang up on you just because you're trying to get the job done.
• 20:43
  SPEAKER_00: Okay, you must understand that.
• 20:45
  SPEAKER_00: Be your own advocate.
• 20:47
  SPEAKER_00: I even had to learn that when I was hanging out with folks when we talked about the relationship piece, because there would be people that literally would think that I needed their validation for something.
• 20:56
  SPEAKER_00: Why do I need your validation for anything?
• 20:59
  SPEAKER_00: I don't need that.
• 21:00
  SPEAKER_00: I had to count my own self in as a black sheep.
• 21:04
  SPEAKER_00: You gotta know that, right?
• 21:05
  SPEAKER_00: And so stop signing up for the masterclass of being around people that don't appreciate you, they tolerate you, they don't appreciate you, they're tolerating you with you.
• 21:14
  SPEAKER_00: That's why as soon as something goes down, they running back telling somebody they're trying to do different things to destroy and sabotage everything you've built.
• 21:21
  SPEAKER_00: Now, let's talk about the financial masterclass.
• 21:25
  SPEAKER_00: Because money has a funny way of exposing patterns.
• 21:28
  SPEAKER_00: You know, every year you might say, I'm gonna save a little bit more, get out of debt, let's take some trips, right?
• 21:32
  SPEAKER_00: Then a few months go by and somehow you're right back where you started, right?
• 21:36
  SPEAKER_00: Some people they can make more money, it'd be the same thing.
• 21:39
  SPEAKER_00: See, money isn't just testing your income, it's testing your discipline, it's testing delay gratification, it's testing whether the decisions have finally come caught up with your dreams.
• 21:48
  SPEAKER_00: This one right here, listen to me, y'all.
• 21:50
  SPEAKER_00: It's very, very important because a lot of times the black sheep, you may come from the bottom of the basement, like I always say, I came from the bottom.
• 21:56
  SPEAKER_00: And a lot of times, black sheep, my black sheep family, you know, I know you.
• 22:00
  SPEAKER_00: Generous.
• 22:00
  SPEAKER_00: You always want to help people out, whether it's with money or just speaking a word of encouragement.
• 22:05
  SPEAKER_00: But in general, it just always seems like a lot of times the main people that we help, they don't help us.
• 22:11
  SPEAKER_00: Or when it's our turn, there's nobody around to be found.
• 22:15
  SPEAKER_00: Right?
• 22:15
  SPEAKER_00: And so it's in these times when finances are testing you.
• 22:20
  SPEAKER_00: It's it's trying to see if your decisions have finally caught up to your dream.
• 22:24
  SPEAKER_00: See, the paycheck isn't the lesson, the pattern is.
• 22:27
  SPEAKER_00: What do I mean by that?
• 22:28
  SPEAKER_00: Well, let's say, for an example, if you know you've been down bad for a long time or up and down, this has been crazy.
• 22:33
  SPEAKER_00: And that first round you never had a secure um an emergency fund, right?
• 22:37
  SPEAKER_00: And so the next time you get some money coming in, instead of you rushing off to help Tom and Dick and Harry, you said, you know what?
• 22:43
  SPEAKER_00: Let me put some money back and start building up my emergency fund.
• 22:46
  SPEAKER_00: Because you remembered that the other times before, you kept, you know, you didn't have anybody to help you.
• 22:52
  SPEAKER_00: You had to make all kinds of payment arrangements and just do all types of different things.
• 22:56
  SPEAKER_00: Why?
• 22:56
  SPEAKER_00: Because nobody was there to help you.
• 22:58
  SPEAKER_00: So even though you helped a lot of people, so this time you said, you know what?
• 23:01
  SPEAKER_00: Let me go ahead and put some money up.
• 23:03
  SPEAKER_00: Another one is when you got that big raise, you told you told a lot of people the last time, right?
• 23:09
  SPEAKER_00: So now you know, you know what?
• 23:11
  SPEAKER_00: Let me be quiet.
• 23:12
  SPEAKER_00: Let me move in silence.
• 23:14
  SPEAKER_00: Because people know when you got something going on, people know they can sense it.
• 23:19
  SPEAKER_00: That's why a lot of times uh people start to drift, they start to call you up a little bit more often.
• 23:23
  SPEAKER_00: It's two reasons.
• 23:24
  SPEAKER_00: Why?
• 23:24
  SPEAKER_00: Because number one, they are a monitoring spirit.
• 23:27
  SPEAKER_00: I know you've heard about them.
• 23:28
  SPEAKER_00: Pretty much a monitoring spirit is a nosy mofo.
• 23:30
  SPEAKER_00: That's somebody that's no, they just want to see what you're doing.
• 23:32
  SPEAKER_00: And a lot of times it'd be the people from the past, and they just want to try to see what you're doing now, so they can either copy or compete and compare.
• 23:39
  SPEAKER_00: That's it.
• 23:40
  SPEAKER_00: They want to copy off of you, or they want to compete and compare because they have nothing else left to do.
• 23:45
  SPEAKER_00: But see, when you learn, when you learn the lesson of that masterclass, move in silence and put some money up for me.
• 23:52
  SPEAKER_00: Guess what?
• 23:54
  SPEAKER_00: You ain't playing that game no more.
• 23:55
  SPEAKER_00: You're not signing up for because you learned your lesson.
• 23:58
  SPEAKER_00: And let's go ahead and move to this final class that I really want to dive into.
• 24:01
  SPEAKER_00: And this is the identity masterclass.
• 24:03
  SPEAKER_00: Because I believe this is the hardest masterclass of them all.
• 24:06
  SPEAKER_00: Identity.
• 24:06
  SPEAKER_00: How many opportunities have you talked yourself out of because you're worried about what other people might think?
• 24:12
  SPEAKER_00: How many times have you gone out and been around folks?
• 24:16
  SPEAKER_00: Or you want to do something for you, something that made you feel good about yourself, whether it be bought a new car, a new wardrobe, a new hair color, whatever it is, but because you were concerned about what other people think, how many times have you played small just to make somebody else feel comfortable?
• 24:32
  SPEAKER_00: Man, you a black sheep.
• 24:33
  SPEAKER_00: I already know you did it too many times, right?
• 24:35
  SPEAKER_00: How many rooms have you stayed in long after you outgrew them?
• 24:39
  SPEAKER_00: See, that's another thing, too, family.
• 24:41
  SPEAKER_00: We have to stop hanging around people when we know we've outgrown them.
• 24:45
  SPEAKER_00: Again, when I took that trip, it's so crazy because you learned so many things in retrospect in addition to the lessons you've already learned.
• 24:51
  SPEAKER_00: But what I want you to understand is when you've outgrown people, you start to see, like, man, I don't even fit in that group no more.
• 24:57
  SPEAKER_00: Why would I go?
• 24:57
  SPEAKER_00: So, for an example, this last time when I went on this trip with someone I should have already learned my lesson from, I realized that even though I'm not perfect in health, I'm not some Olympic athlete, I have successfully always maintained at least somewhat of an active lifestyle, whether it be walking 20 minutes three times a week, or it's just hitting the kettlebells.
• 25:17
  SPEAKER_00: I've always tried to keep a little something going.
• 25:20
  SPEAKER_00: I don't know why I always said I said, just in case a monster get after me, I can run a little bit.
• 25:23
  SPEAKER_00: You know, I used to love the horror movies.
• 25:25
  SPEAKER_00: I still watch them a little bit, but I want you to understand is I started to notice the lady that I was hanging out with, she was more into the eating all the time.
• 25:33
  SPEAKER_00: You know how all of a sudden we had all these people that was doing the mukbang where they want to watch people eat.
• 25:37
  SPEAKER_00: It was just really a lot of gluttony to me.
• 25:39
  SPEAKER_00: It was kind of disgusting, even though we found out later on that a lot of those folks they were not eating.
• 25:44
  SPEAKER_00: They were, you know, eating it a little bit, then they'll spit it out on the side and all these different things.
• 25:48
  SPEAKER_00: But regardless of that, it's a lot of people that took pride and took to the internet to show you a picture of the food they're eating.
• 25:54
  SPEAKER_00: Not only that, a lot of people, majority of their time, is spent eating all the time.
• 25:58
  SPEAKER_00: And if you say, you know what, no, I need to lose some pounds.
• 26:00
  SPEAKER_00: I'm trying to work on some things, I'm not gonna keep eating like that.
• 26:03
  SPEAKER_00: You're hanging out with people that's all they do is eat, you've outgrown that environment.
• 26:08
  SPEAKER_00: And I promise you, it's not going to work out.
• 26:10
  SPEAKER_00: I don't care if you go out to eat with them and say, hey, put my salad dressing on the side.
• 26:14
  SPEAKER_00: Do you have any low-carb options?
• 26:16
  SPEAKER_00: There's going to be a point in time where somebody's going to have something to say about what you're doing to continue on with your goals.
• 26:22
  SPEAKER_00: And that's when you have to understand when you decide to level up.
• 26:26
  SPEAKER_00: Sometimes the people that you identified with in the last season, you don't identify with them anymore.
• 26:32
  SPEAKER_00: You just don't, right?
• 26:33
  SPEAKER_00: How many dreams have you postponed, waiting for permission?
• 26:36
  SPEAKER_00: Right?
• 26:37
  SPEAKER_00: And it's crazy too, Black Sheep family, because a lot of people they really think you need their validation.
• 26:42
  SPEAKER_00: This is why a lot of them put up with you.
• 26:44
  SPEAKER_00: See, they're not they don't appreciate you, they're tolerating you because they're secretly eating, they're they're sucking off of your energy, they're eating off of your energy because they know you're valuable, right?
• 26:54
  SPEAKER_00: You the light, the light attracts books and other light beings.
• 26:57
  SPEAKER_00: So they're they're feeding off of your energy because it's priceless.
• 27:00
  SPEAKER_00: They know they can't get it from anywhere else.
• 27:02
  SPEAKER_00: But the moment that listen though, but they also think in their screwed up mind, they think you need their validation.
• 27:09
  SPEAKER_00: Just because you support them or inspired by them, and maybe at some point in life, maybe you needed their validation.
• 27:14
  SPEAKER_00: I don't know, family.
• 27:15
  SPEAKER_00: What I do know is the moment they find out you don't need their validation, you're making moves on your own, or you're gonna do it anyway, you're gonna do it scared, messed up, halfway, not knowing everything.
• 27:25
  SPEAKER_00: Guess what?
• 27:26
  SPEAKER_00: They are offended.
• 27:28
  SPEAKER_00: They are offended, but here's the truth: life isn't waiting on you, it's watching to see whether you become the person who can handle the next thing to handle what's next on your list of opportunities that you said you wanted.
• 27:40
  SPEAKER_00: See, opportunity asks only one question: who are you right now?
• 27:44
  SPEAKER_00: Now who not who you not who you hope to become, not who you were five years ago.
• 27:49
  SPEAKER_00: Who are you today?
• 27:51
  SPEAKER_00: Because opportunities don't respond to potential, they respond to preparation.
• 27:56
  SPEAKER_00: See, family, this is why I've been telling y'all.
• 27:57
  SPEAKER_00: Number one, stay ready so you don't have to get ready.
• 28:00
  SPEAKER_00: Number two, we're preparing for the next level.
• 28:04
  SPEAKER_00: We're not waiting on somebody to validate us, we're not waiting for somebody to accept us into their prestigious school.
• 28:09
  SPEAKER_00: We're using the resources and technology that we have at our fingertips.
• 28:13
  SPEAKER_00: We're using everything that we have to get to the next level.
• 28:16
  SPEAKER_00: Why?
• 28:17
  SPEAKER_00: So when that opportunity comes, only thing you need to say is how much and what time.
• 28:21
  SPEAKER_00: How much, what time, and where?
• 28:23
  SPEAKER_00: That's it.
• 28:24
  SPEAKER_00: You already ready.
• 28:26
  SPEAKER_00: Okay.
• 28:29
  SPEAKER_00: Here's what I finally realized.
• 28:31
  SPEAKER_00: There comes a point where life stops giving lessons and it starts giving exams.
• 28:35
  SPEAKER_00: Read that again.
• 28:36
  SPEAKER_00: There comes a point where life stops teaching you and it just starts testing.
• 28:39
  SPEAKER_00: That's why the same situations keep showing up.
• 28:41
  SPEAKER_00: Not because life enjoys making you suffer, but because life is asking you, haven't you ever learned yet?
• 28:47
  SPEAKER_00: Aren't you ready to move forward?
• 28:49
  SPEAKER_00: See, the exam always comes after the lesson, never before.
• 28:53
  SPEAKER_00: If the same test keeps showing up, maybe it isn't because life is against you.
• 28:57
  SPEAKER_00: Maybe, just maybe, it's because life is waiting for a different answer.
• 29:02
  SPEAKER_00: Okay?
• 29:03
  SPEAKER_00: It's waiting on a different answer.
• 29:05
  SPEAKER_00: Imagine if every repeated frustration in your life wasn't punishment.
• 29:09
  SPEAKER_00: Imagine if it was feedback.
• 29:11
  SPEAKER_00: Even if every setback, every difficult conversation, every disappointment was asking one question.
• 29:16
  SPEAKER_00: What are you supposed to learn from this?
• 29:18
  SPEAKER_00: You know, 19 Keys, he says something that every time he has difficulty or he has a frustration or a problem or a challenge with something, he always asks, What's the lesson?
• 29:27
  SPEAKER_00: What's the lesson in this?
• 29:29
  SPEAKER_00: And I always thought that was just so powerful.
• 29:31
  SPEAKER_00: Ask yourself, what's the lesson?
• 29:33
  SPEAKER_00: See, me, I learned now a snake is still going to be a snake.
• 29:37
  SPEAKER_00: They can shed the skin, they're just a bigger snake.
• 29:40
  SPEAKER_00: Another lesson: energy do not lie.
• 29:42
  SPEAKER_00: If a person is not helping you, they're hindering you.
• 29:46
  SPEAKER_00: Energy, do not lie.
• 29:47
  SPEAKER_00: I don't care how long you've been knowing a person.
• 29:49
  SPEAKER_00: Here's another one.
• 29:50
  SPEAKER_00: I don't care what they got.
• 29:51
  SPEAKER_00: See, at one time I was confused.
• 29:53
  SPEAKER_00: I kept saying, How could they be hating on me?
• 29:55
  SPEAKER_00: They got more than me.
• 29:56
  SPEAKER_00: It is in you, not on you.
• 29:58
  SPEAKER_00: You gotta understand that.
• 30:00
  SPEAKER_00: And that is the lesson that I had to learn.
• 30:01
  SPEAKER_00: And you know what's crazy, family?
• 30:03
  SPEAKER_00: That lesson or those multiple lessons that I learned, I'm telling you right now, it's gonna take me on so far because this past weekend, the weekend two weeks ago, that had so much revelation to me.
• 30:14
  SPEAKER_00: Guess what?
• 30:15
  SPEAKER_00: I'll be able to apply that to anything, to any and everything going forward.
• 30:19
  SPEAKER_00: I will no longer accept the fact that I am giving people multiple chances, and there's a possibility that that is holding me back from my future.
• 30:26
  SPEAKER_00: Nobody is worth that.
• 30:27
  SPEAKER_00: If you resonate with being a black sheep, you don't deserve being held back no longer than what you've been held back.
• 30:33
  SPEAKER_00: A lot of times we were held back because we wasn't ready.
• 30:36
  SPEAKER_00: Um, you know, we didn't have enough of the lessons that we need to learn, right?
• 30:39
  SPEAKER_00: But now that we're getting to this stage where you're seeing the same things reoccur, you already know what the answer is.
• 30:45
  SPEAKER_00: It's just time for you to go ahead and take that test, pass it, and move on.
• 30:49
  SPEAKER_00: Right?
• 30:49
  SPEAKER_00: Forget retaking it, forget, oh, I'm giving grace.
• 30:52
  SPEAKER_00: So let's talk about these action moves that you can implement right away so that we don't have to continue going and taking signing up for the same masterclass.
• 30:58
  SPEAKER_00: Number one, identify one pattern and it has repeated itself over the last five years, whether it's with people, places, it was the same outcome.
• 31:04
  SPEAKER_00: Write it down.
• 31:05
  SPEAKER_00: Patterns, patterns lose power once they've been named.
• 31:08
  SPEAKER_00: Once you can identify it, it loses its pattern, it loses its power.
• 31:11
  SPEAKER_00: Number two, ask yourself one uncomfortable question.
• 31:14
  SPEAKER_00: What lessons have I been resisting?
• 31:16
  SPEAKER_00: What lessons have I been resisting?
• 31:18
  SPEAKER_00: Whether it's, you know what, I don't need to go around them.
• 31:20
  SPEAKER_00: Even if it's, you know what, I don't need to tell them what my dreams are.
• 31:22
  SPEAKER_00: They can't, they always talk negative.
• 31:24
  SPEAKER_00: I know, you know, I'm cool with them, I've known them for a long time, but I also know I don't need to be discussing, you know, my future ideas with them, right?
• 31:31
  SPEAKER_00: Um, if someone acts like they don't ever approve of your relationships or where you stay, don't invite them.
• 31:35
  SPEAKER_00: What is the lesson?
• 31:36
  SPEAKER_00: Ask yourself, what is the lesson?
• 31:39
  SPEAKER_00: Number three, choose one action this week that proves you've graduated.
• 31:43
  SPEAKER_00: Not one you talk about, you've only executed.
• 31:46
  SPEAKER_00: Because life doesn't reward intentions, it rewards implementation.
• 31:50
  SPEAKER_00: See, life doesn't punish what you don't know, it repeats it repeats what you refuse to learn.
• 31:54
  SPEAKER_00: Ooh, that is so powerful, y'all.
• 31:56
  SPEAKER_00: It don't punish you for what you don't know, but you are held accountable for the stuff you learned and you refuse to implement it.
• 32:02
  SPEAKER_00: Between now and our next intelligence briefing, I want you to become a student of your own patterns.
• 32:06
  SPEAKER_00: Pay attention to what keeps repeating.
• 32:08
  SPEAKER_00: The same arguments, frustration, excuses, right?
• 32:12
  SPEAKER_00: Even fears, the same outcomes.
• 32:14
  SPEAKER_00: Don't judge yourself, don't beat yourself up.
• 32:16
  SPEAKER_00: Simply observe the lesson and then ask yourself, what would the version of me who has already graduated do differently?
• 32:23
  SPEAKER_00: And then do that because that's execution.
• 32:26
  SPEAKER_00: Black sheep, one of the greatest lies we tell ourselves is that time automatically creates wisdom and it creates changes.
• 32:32
  SPEAKER_00: It don't it doesn't reflection creates wisdom, execution creates transformation.
• 32:38
  SPEAKER_00: You can spend 20 years repeating the same lesson or one year finally learning it.
• 32:42
  SPEAKER_00: The choice is yours.
• 32:43
  SPEAKER_00: So stop signing up for the masterclass, graduate, move forward, and never forget the lesson.
• 32:49
  SPEAKER_00: Okay?
• 32:51
  SPEAKER_00: The briefing is over, the mission starts the moment you hit stop.
• 32:54
  SPEAKER_00: Don't just hear to today's lesson.
• 32:56
  SPEAKER_00: Run it, test it, and then master it.
• 32:58
  SPEAKER_00: Because knowledge without execution is just entertainment.
• 33:01
  SPEAKER_00: Move with discipline, study the patterns, and protect your focus.
• 33:06
  SPEAKER_00: Remember, information is everywhere, and execution is rare.
• 33:10
  SPEAKER_00: I'll see you at the next episode.