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Stop Torturing Yourself When Manifesting · Intuitive Coaching with Amy Radio

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  Speaker 1: Hey, say me with Intuitive Coaching with Amy Radio, and
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  Speaker 1: this is your sacred space for spirituality, intuition, manifestation, metaphysical
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  Speaker 1: wisdom and personal development. You know, I was thinking about
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  Speaker 1: our mind and how our mind can do just some
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  Speaker 1: waggy things, and recently I thought, we gotta stop torturing ourselves.
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  Speaker 1: But sometimes we don't know what it is that we're
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  Speaker 1: torturing ourselves, right, like in our minds. And so if
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  Speaker 1: i'd make you a list to think about so that
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  Speaker 1: you can catch it when it happens. So I think
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  Speaker 1: I'm going to entitle this show stop Torturing Yourself. Maybe
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  Speaker 1: I'll make it more eloquent than that, but anyway, here's
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  Speaker 1: some thoughts for you to consider so you can stop
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  Speaker 1: torturing yourself. So one of the ways we torture ourselves
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  Speaker 1: is what ifing just stop that? What if this? What
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  Speaker 1: if this? And it's usually what if something negative? What
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  Speaker 1: if this bad thing happens? What if it goes like this? Yeah,
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  Speaker 1: if it's a what if negative, it's torturing yourself. Worst
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  Speaker 1: case scenarios torturing yourself. So you gotta stop being mean
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  Speaker 1: to yourself, right, You just gotta stop being mean to
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  Speaker 1: yourself in your mind, so be kind in your mind.
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  Speaker 1: I've said that for years. Another way we torture ourselves
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  Speaker 1: is leading with the energy I can't, I can't, I can't.
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  Speaker 1: And for you know, people manifest this sneaks up on us.
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  Speaker 1: We don't even sometimes realize we're in the energy if
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  Speaker 1: I can't, because we we do generally believe that we can't.
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  Speaker 1: But just be mindful, is that oh, is that any
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  Speaker 1: energy if I can't? And it's never It's rarely starts
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  Speaker 1: with oh, I can't, because no, we're far too evolved
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  Speaker 1: than that. We're manifestors. It's usually the secondary thought after
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  Speaker 1: and I can't, a subconscious I can't. That's what you're
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  Speaker 1: looking for, believing it could all go bad. That's another
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  Speaker 1: way you torture yourself. Being nervous all the time, like
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  Speaker 1: a low level nervousness or an anxiousness or worried. It's
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  Speaker 1: another way you torture to yourself. So this is one
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  Speaker 1: that that I do often, especially when I'm navigating a
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  Speaker 1: next level unknown and I am in the thick of
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  Speaker 1: the mystery. So not only is it mystery, it's next level, right,
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  Speaker 1: I'm going to the next level in my life, and
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  Speaker 1: so I'll just have this kind of underlying nervousness because
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  Speaker 1: I don't know the how. And so what I've been
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  Speaker 1: finding is when I reflect on all those times, all
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  Speaker 1: I can remember is that nervousness, and that is when
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  Speaker 1: I'll make some jinky decision. And so now I'm like,
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  Speaker 1: oh no, no, no, no, no, It's okay if I slip into it,
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  Speaker 1: but I call myself back. And I have found that
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  Speaker 1: help helps with this is the five count breath inhale
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  Speaker 1: for five, hold for five, excel for five, and you
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  Speaker 1: do that five times, and then you do that cycle
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  Speaker 1: three times. So in heal for five, hold for five,
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  Speaker 1: excel for five, do five rounds of that, and then
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  Speaker 1: you start again and do three three of the five.
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  Speaker 1: And that helps with the nervousness. And I have to
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  Speaker 1: do that every day, and I usually do it in
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  Speaker 1: my guided meditation, and that will help start to clear that.
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  Speaker 1: A therapist won't say it's resetting the nervous system, which
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  Speaker 1: I believe her, and it works. Another way you torture
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  Speaker 1: yourself is if you think if you think it, you
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  Speaker 1: are valuing it. So if you think it, you're valuing it. Okay, No,
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  Speaker 1: our thoughts don't have to be perfect, and there is
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  Speaker 1: tremendous grace, but if you're thinking it, you're giving it
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  Speaker 1: value in your world. And I do believe that the
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  Speaker 1: universe responds to that energy of value, so then more
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  Speaker 1: of it shows up. So really, just be mindful of
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  Speaker 1: the fact that you have choice around what you think about.
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  Speaker 1: And yeah, I mean, I could give you an example,
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  Speaker 1: but just my strict eys are even jumping in and
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  Speaker 1: saying leave it at that. If you're thinking it, you're
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  Speaker 1: valuing it, and the universe responds to that value with
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  Speaker 1: more of that thing. So just be mindful of what
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  Speaker 1: you're thinking. Speak kindly to your body. Another way we
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  Speaker 1: torture ourselves is that we're really mean to our body.
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  Speaker 1: Just be over the top about being kind and loving
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  Speaker 1: and respectful to your body, no matter what's going on.
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  Speaker 1: And I'm not just talking about like wait, but it's
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  Speaker 1: your health, it's your grooming, whatever it is. Just be
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  Speaker 1: over the top. You know, you were so beautiful body.
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  Speaker 1: I'm so grateful for you, nias, I'm so grateful for
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  Speaker 1: you teeth and gums, I'm so grateful for you eyes,
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  Speaker 1: Like you were just so perfect, you were just so amazing.
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  Speaker 1: It is far better for you to be so over
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  Speaker 1: the top with it than the counter like, oh my god,
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  Speaker 1: my body is just falling apart. Right, So just be
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  Speaker 1: over the top speaking kindly about your body, and you know,
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  Speaker 1: just tell your body it's amazing and it's beautiful and
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  Speaker 1: it's vibrant and it's glorious. The next thing that we
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  Speaker 1: torture ourselves with is if we go through a path
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  Speaker 1: where things aren't going our way, they start to feel like, oh,
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  Speaker 1: what does this mean. No, it doesn't mean anything other
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  Speaker 1: than it's time to affirm and believe that you are
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  Speaker 1: so lucky. The way you torture yourself is trying to
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  Speaker 1: find some hidden meaning. Right, Nope, I'm just so lucky.
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  Speaker 1: I'm declaring now, I'm just so lucky. Another way we
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  Speaker 1: torture ourselves is with pessimism, and so the counter to
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  Speaker 1: that is optimism. So just be in the space of
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  Speaker 1: I only attract the best. The best is occurring in
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  Speaker 1: my life, the best is always happening in my world.
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  Speaker 1: I'm prepared for the best result. Next stop the drama
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  Speaker 1: of I'm overwhelmed. Oh this is one I love, my
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  Speaker 1: sweet sweet people. But the one that will make your
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  Speaker 1: dear intuitive coach cringe is Amy, I'm just so overwhelmed,
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  Speaker 1: And I get it. I get it. Recently this summer,
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  Speaker 1: I've had some things where I'm like, I'm overwhelmed. And
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  Speaker 1: what I realize and know to be true after all
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  Speaker 1: these years, when overwhelmed shows up, it means you have
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  Speaker 1: put too much stuff in your mental bag and it
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  Speaker 1: is up to you to take it out. God never
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  Speaker 1: gives us more than we can handle. There's never really
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  Speaker 1: a reason to be like I'm just so wold, especially
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  Speaker 1: when it's not a tragedy, right, you know, and even
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  Speaker 1: in a tragedy, the last thing you need to be
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  Speaker 1: is overwhelmed, right, because you want to take care of
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  Speaker 1: the things you need to take care of. So just like,
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  Speaker 1: go of the whole idea of I'm so overwhelmed. Though
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  Speaker 1: I understand it, I'm not in not in any way
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  Speaker 1: judging you, but just remember you put all this stuff
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  Speaker 1: in the bag, and you can take all of that
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  Speaker 1: stuff out of your mental bag and focus on what's
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  Speaker 1: most important to you right now. My figods are also
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  Speaker 1: saying what shows up with overwhelmed? Ooh, this is straight
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  Speaker 1: from the spirit. Hadn't considered this and I pray, listen
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  Speaker 1: back to this show so I can remember it. And
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  Speaker 1: it's so true because the one thing that I said
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  Speaker 1: that about this summer that I was overwhelmed it was
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  Speaker 1: this issue perfectionism. If you were finding that you were saying,
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  Speaker 1: oh my god, I'm so overwhelmed, it probably means that
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  Speaker 1: in addition to whatever that issue is that you're working through,
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  Speaker 1: you've also attached a perfectionist storyline to it, where you
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  Speaker 1: have to be perfect, the situation has to be perfect.
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  Speaker 1: If you're not perfect, somebody's going to judge you harshly,
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  Speaker 1: or you're going to look like a fool, or you're
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  Speaker 1: gonna be embarrassed, and it just the cycle just continues
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  Speaker 1: and continues. That's what's wagh in the back down, and
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  Speaker 1: that's why you feel so overwhelmed. Human life is not
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  Speaker 1: nearly as complicated as our minds will want to make it,
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  Speaker 1: and when you attach a perfectionist story to it, it
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  Speaker 1: makes it even worse. So just be willing to let
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  Speaker 1: go of the drama of being overwhelmed and think of
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  Speaker 1: it like a mellowdrama like oh, and remind yourself it
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  Speaker 1: doesn't need to be this way. You can make a
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  Speaker 1: different choice. Another way we torture ourselves is I'm so confused.
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  Speaker 1: Nothing is working. I'm so confused, nothing is working. No,
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  Speaker 1: you don't have to be confused. You don't have to
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  Speaker 1: be confused, and chances are everything is working just f
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  Speaker 1: you just can't see all the pieces that are being moved,
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  Speaker 1: and so you just have to take a breath and say,
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  Speaker 1: I'm not confused. I get when my mind wants to
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  Speaker 1: be confused. It's okay, And I feel a little turned around.
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  Speaker 1: And it's okay that I feel turned around because I
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  Speaker 1: can't see everything that's being worked out on my behalf,
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  Speaker 1: in the spirit realm. It's all okay. I don't have
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  Speaker 1: to be confused. I don't have to make up a
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  Speaker 1: story that it's not working. I'll continue to do my part,
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  Speaker 1: and I will lean into my faith and trust that
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  Speaker 1: spirit has my back. Everything's being worked out for my
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  Speaker 1: good and in my favor. Another way you torture yourself
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  Speaker 1: is fixing a problem or I gotta fix the situation,
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  Speaker 1: or I have to fix myself, and it's just it's
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  Speaker 1: just messy. You know who who is very an example
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  Speaker 1: of this, this fixing mindset that doesn't serve us well.
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  Speaker 1: And it doesn't manifest well either. It manifests the opposite
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  Speaker 1: of what we want. This fixing perspective. It's one thing
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  Speaker 1: to say, hey, I'm going to resolve that. I'm going
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  Speaker 1: to solve that. It's another thing to be like, I
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  Speaker 1: have to fix it because there's something fundamentally flawed or
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  Speaker 1: wrong with me. I've been watching this summer my niece,
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  Speaker 1: the youngest, she's fascinated with Michael Jackson, like she'll watch
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  Speaker 1: him dance and she's studying, literally studying him. The girl's
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  Speaker 1: going to be an entertainer of some type, but she's
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  Speaker 1: just fascinated. So it's it's reminding me that like, oh wow,
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  Speaker 1: like you know, sure, of course we know Michael Jackson
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  Speaker 1: is brilliant, but it's reminding me of like, oh wow,
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  Speaker 1: I forgot how gifted he was. And so it's taken
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  Speaker 1: me down this road where I did watch the Michael movie,
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  Speaker 1: which I thought was excellent, and then that took me
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  Speaker 1: into like I started watching some of the documentaries out
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  Speaker 1: there about him, and you know, a lot I already know,
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  Speaker 1: you know, but what I realized was he started at
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  Speaker 1: a very young age in his adulthood, like early adulthood
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  Speaker 1: he started the fixing, and when you start the fixing,
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  Speaker 1: nothing ever really gets fixed, and you wind up making
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  Speaker 1: things I'm gonna dare I say worse, And I think
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  Speaker 1: he was an example of that. And so what I'm
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  Speaker 1: gonna say to anyone out there that your mind just
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  Speaker 1: kind of defaults to, Oh, I have to fix this,
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  Speaker 1: I have to fix this, to fix this, just stop,
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  Speaker 1: just stop and accept that you are good exactly as
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  Speaker 1: you are. You're good. You can solve things, you can
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  Speaker 1: make things better from a place of love and joy.
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  Speaker 1: You can make things more to your liking, you can
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  Speaker 1: make things feel more like you. However, refuse to fix,
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  Speaker 1: and the energy is actually different. And interestingly enough, my
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  Speaker 1: spirit GUIDs have me write in the note, stop using
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  Speaker 1: personal development to fix yourself, stop using manifestation to fix yourself,
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  Speaker 1: and stop using spiritual practice to fix yourself again. Use
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  Speaker 1: all of that to enhance, to make it better, to
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  Speaker 1: make it more in alignment with your truth. But if
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  Speaker 1: you're using it because some part of you thinks you're
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  Speaker 1: fundamentally flawed and that there is something wrong with you
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  Speaker 1: or something bad and you've got to fix it, so
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  Speaker 1: then you are acceptable or you have to fix it
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  Speaker 1: so you're not humiliated or you have to fix it,
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  Speaker 1: because that's coming from a mindset of perfectionism. You are
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  Speaker 1: torturing yourself. So just stop. If you are approaching a
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  Speaker 1: practice right now from the place of I'm using this
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  Speaker 1: to fix myself. And I've been there many times. I've
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  Speaker 1: bought very expensive courses from that mindset, and I look
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  Speaker 1: back on those courses and they did jack shit nothing
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  Speaker 1: for me. Why not because it wasn't good material, but
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  Speaker 1: because my mindset was focused on fixing as opposed to
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  Speaker 1: enhancing or bettering or expanding my awareness. Got it, okay?
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  Speaker 1: And then use your mind to create what you want
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  Speaker 1: as opposed to what you don't want. It's tricky, it's subtle,
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  Speaker 1: but it's very distinctive. You were torturing yourself if you
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  Speaker 1: accidentally slip into using your mind to create a result
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  Speaker 1: you don't want. And then, lastly, one of the ways
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  Speaker 1: that we torture ourselves is we don't let ourselves fully
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  Speaker 1: and completely have exactly what we want. We're always slicing
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  Speaker 1: and dicing, and now is the time to just want
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  Speaker 1: what you want with all your heart, and anything less
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  Speaker 1: than that is torturing yourself, all right, I pray this
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  Speaker 1: is helpful. Listen. I'm an intuitive coach, and I help
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  Speaker 1: you get what you want. I help you create your
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  Speaker 1: desired result. I help you take your vision that you've
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  Speaker 1: had for so long and turn it into reality. So
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  Speaker 1: if you're ready for that journey, as if there's something
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  Speaker 1: you've been wanting, start a business, that romantic relationship, the
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  Speaker 1: dream house, with the dream lifestyle with you know you
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  Speaker 1: can have it, and you know it's within your reach,
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  Speaker 1: and I'm here to support you in getting it. No
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  Speaker 1: matter what the desire is. It could be to when
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  Speaker 1: the lottery jackpot. It could be to quit your job
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  Speaker 1: and travel around the world for ten years, whatever it is,
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  Speaker 1: if you know on your heart you are ready for it,
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  Speaker 1: and you don't know how. Of course you don't, and
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  Speaker 1: you don't know when. Of course you don't, and that's
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  Speaker 1: holding you up because there's some part of you that thinks,
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  Speaker 1: what if it's just too big, or what if I'm
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  Speaker 1: asking too much? Or what if I need to find
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  Speaker 1: an energetic equivalent to No. Go for exactly what you want,
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  Speaker 1: and I help you do it. So you can learn
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  Speaker 1: you get what you want. So if you are ready
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  Speaker 1: for that, again Intuitive Coachingwithamy dot com. Thank you so
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  Speaker 1: much for listening to the show. I do pray you
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  Speaker 1: will stop torturing yourself. And if you stayed this long,
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  Speaker 1: if you could do me a favor and go to
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  Speaker 1: my son in my previous podcasts, half of me that
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  Speaker 1: ninety percent of me doesn't care. It's half now half
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  Speaker 1: of me doesn't care. The other half of me is like, yeah,
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  Speaker 1: why not. I can ask you to write a review
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  Speaker 1: for this show, and thank you, thank you in advance
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  Speaker 1: So again, thank you so much for listening. I look
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  Speaker 1: forward to connecting with you on the next show. Take
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  Speaker 1: care of yourself. Goodbye,