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Autism Social Skills YOU Can Learn EASY · Aspergers & Autism Podcast [The Aspie World] AuDHD

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  Now you can actually help develop social skills for people
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  in the autism spectrum. I'm going to get right into it
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  right now. Just don't go anywhere guys.
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  Welcome back to the aspy world. My name is Dan and I have autism
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  and ADHD now. I make it my life goal, my
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  mission and life, my my whole being to make weekly videos all
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  about helping people, helping you achieve goals.
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  I mean, it goes beyond just videos, but this is how I I
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  communicate to you guys. So if you want to be here with
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  me to help improve life and conditions and create a future
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  for autistic people to unlock potential and unleash themselves
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  on the world, and then positive, awesome affirmation to make sure
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  to hit the subscribe button down below and hit that notification
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  bell. So you know, when I upload
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  videos, guys, I'm actually also on all social media platforms as
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  well. So if you want to watch the
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  videos on like TikTok and Instagram, I'm on all those too.
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  Guys, The thing is right, social skills is the very one of the
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  biggest issues. Now, when I speak to autistic
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  individuals like myself, social skills, social development,
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  social issues are the biggest thing on everyone's mind.
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  It's from making friends to making romantic relationships to
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  finding, you know, colleagues and making friends at work, all
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  these things are quite difficult.
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  So how does one develop social skills when they're only on the
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  spectrum Now? There are some steps that we
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  take to do this. Now before we get into those, I
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  just want to say that I have an Autism Life Hacks PDF book that
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  you can download completely free from autismhacks.net.
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  You can do that right now, and that will just help you and your
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  life. But developing social skills
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  now, there's two things we need to remember.
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  There's two things we need to remember.
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  When you're in a social setting, there are two people.
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  They're you and somebody else. Now how communication happens is
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  that you put out particles from your area of space.
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  Somebody else receives those and they reciprocate that, so they
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  send them back and then you receive those.
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  That's basically the cycle of communication.
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  Now, if you put this into perspective, all you're doing in
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  the social environment is understanding their cycle of
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  communication. If somebody waves and says
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  hello, when you wave back and say hello, you reciprocate the
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  cycle of communication. If someone asks you a question,
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  how are you feeling today? You reciprocate with how you
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  feel today and maybe you could ask them as well.
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  So developing social skills is a practice makes progress
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  scenario. The more that you can expose
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  yourself to social interaction and ask questions in social
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  settings, the easier it becomes. Now one of the things I would
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  say is befriend somebody or ask for advice from somebody who's
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  really social, somebody who's got lots of friends, somebody
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  who knows how to work the room. If you can speak to them and say
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  how do you do it, How do you become social and watch and
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  learn from them, you will win because they were going to be
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  able to provide more information for you in your situation, in
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  your environment, in your culture than anybody else will.
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  Better than me probably. The other thing I would say is
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  that if you have the ability to sign up on Facebook or maybe on
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  a games console to environments where you can, you know, live
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  chat, Obviously if you're over 18 with other individuals who
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  are on the autism spectrum in a group setting, online or
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  offline, you can find local support groups with autism and
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  go there and just be yourself. The more true to yourself you
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  can be, the easier social skills can develop because we're all
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  stumbling over social skills because we're trying to be
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  somebody we're not. But when you just relax and
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  become yourself, you win every time.
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  Now go out and try that. Come back and comment on this
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  video and tell me how easy it felt once you started to
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  surround yourself with more social communication.
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  All right, guys. See you in the next video work
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  piece.