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5-MINUTE FRIDAY: Do Actually Feel Seen & Heard? · Hurdle with Emily Abbate

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  Speaker 1: Hey everyone, Emily here coming to you from the AG studio.
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  Speaker 1: You are listening to five Minute Friday from Hurdle. I
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  Speaker 1: feel happy right now. I feel happy and proud and content.
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  Speaker 1: And I'll explain to you why. I shared a story
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  Speaker 1: earlier yesterday on my Instagram and a girlfriend of mine
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  Speaker 1: is wanting to pick up photography and she came by
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  Speaker 1: a few days ago when we shot some photos.
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  Speaker 2: What's up? She's a hurdler Claire, Hello, Hi, how are you?
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  Speaker 1: And I wanted to share one of her beautiful photos
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  Speaker 1: on my feed and I'm sitting there thinking about what
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  Speaker 1: I wanted to caption it, when I just sayed decided
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  Speaker 1: to say, hey, what's up.
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  Speaker 2: I'm listening.
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  Speaker 1: And the responses that came my way from sharing that
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  Speaker 1: on Instagram were unexpected and that I feel like sometimes,
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  Speaker 1: you know, when you just kind of throw something into
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  Speaker 1: the world, you get like fire emojis and comments and
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  Speaker 1: how the photo looks, et cetera, et cetera. But what
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  Speaker 1: happened was a really beautiful conversation from people just kind
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  Speaker 1: of pouring in with how they were really doing feedback.
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  Speaker 1: I feeling overwhelmed people thinking about anxiety that comes hand
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  Speaker 1: in hand with new relationships, moms dealing with postpartum, women
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  Speaker 1: dealing with struggling at work, men being like opening up
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  Speaker 1: about their feelings. And I was just sitting there kind
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  Speaker 1: of in awe watching these conversations, some which I would
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  Speaker 1: respond to, but others of just individuals talking to each
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  Speaker 1: other and helping one another and listening. And what this
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  Speaker 1: was such a beautiful reminder of is that so many
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  Speaker 1: of us just crave the opportunity to be heard, right
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  Speaker 1: And oftentimes we have people in our lives who will listen.
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  Speaker 1: But the question is is are these people listening with
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  Speaker 1: simply the intent to respond and reply, or are they
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  Speaker 1: listening and giving you the space that maybe you craving
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  Speaker 1: that you need listening and making you feel heard. And
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  Speaker 1: there's a big difference between the two, I would say,
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  Speaker 1: And so to be able on that platform as well
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  Speaker 1: as I would hope on hurdle and through hurdle and
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  Speaker 1: through the community. And I'll link to the quote unquote
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  Speaker 1: super secret Facebook group if.
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  Speaker 2: You want to get in on that.
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  Speaker 1: It makes me feel in my heart that something good
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  Speaker 1: is happening here. I know something good is happening here,
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  Speaker 1: and I'm just happy to be a part of it
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  Speaker 1: and happy to be someone that can provide that space
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  Speaker 1: for you all to feel seen. I also think on
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  Speaker 1: this note of being open and honest, it kind of
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  Speaker 1: talks on the mental health side of things, and that
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  Speaker 1: if you feel as though you want to be heard
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  Speaker 1: more often, or if you feel as though you are
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  Speaker 1: struggling a little bit with that, I would suggest and
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  Speaker 1: recommend beyond kind of doing an audit about the relationships
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  Speaker 1: that you have in your life, and if you feel
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  Speaker 1: as though that you have people that you can really
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  Speaker 1: talk to one on one that give you that space,
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  Speaker 1: make sure that you're doing your best to seek out
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  Speaker 1: options for mental health, whether that is a therapist or
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  Speaker 1: a life coach. I've talked about this a few times
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  Speaker 1: here now since I started working with her six weeks ago,
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  Speaker 1: but talking to my life coach has really made just
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  Speaker 1: the most profound and beautiful difference for me as I'm
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  Speaker 1: kind of navigating my way through a what I deem
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  Speaker 1: to be period of transition. At the moment, I feel
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  Speaker 1: every five minute Friday like I get to this point
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  Speaker 1: and I want to say something else and that I've
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  Speaker 1: just been rambling. But every time when I point that out,
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  Speaker 1: I get a lot of messages from all of you
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  Speaker 1: telling me that I'm rambling and saying the things that
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  Speaker 1: you needed to hear, So I hope that that's the case.
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  Speaker 1: Here my prompt for you this week on five Minute Friday,
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  Speaker 1: how are you really? How are you really? It's so
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  Speaker 1: easy just to answer that question with I'm good. But
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  Speaker 1: as that post showed me yesterday, and as I know
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  Speaker 1: from my interactions with so many of you, it's really
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  Speaker 1: important to do an audit on what's really going on there.
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  Speaker 2: So maybe you write it down, maybe you have a
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  Speaker 2: conversation with.
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  Speaker 1: A friend, but get honest and open about that this week,
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  Speaker 1: on how you're really doing inside and maybe what you
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  Speaker 1: need to move forward and feel a little bit.
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  Speaker 2: Better about that. And now I listen our question. Hi Emily,
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  Speaker 2: I'm Kate from Kentucky. I'm new to the podcast and
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  Speaker 2: loving it, but was hoping you could go back a
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  Speaker 2: little bit. What encouraged you to start the podcast and
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  Speaker 2: why do you keep going Oh, Hello, we love relatively
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  Speaker 2: new new hurdlers. You're welcome here, so happy to have you.
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  Speaker 1: A lot of the backstory and kind of the things
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  Speaker 1: that you're getting that here are in episode one, I
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  Speaker 1: actually listened to it not that long ago, and it
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  Speaker 1: made me smile because I expected to listen back to
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  Speaker 1: that episode from the very very beginning of twenty eighteen
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  Speaker 1: and be like, oh my god, what were you doing here?
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  Speaker 2: But in all honesty, it made me smile. It was good.
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  Speaker 1: It was a good listen anyway, a lot of info
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  Speaker 1: about me and my backstory on Hurdle and how I
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  Speaker 1: got to this point in that episode. I'll link in
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  Speaker 1: the show notes, but some quick spark notes. Wow, haven't
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  Speaker 1: said the word spark notes in a long time.
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  Speaker 2: Highlights. I am a career journalist.
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  Speaker 1: I went to the University of Connecticut, where I stubbled stubbled,
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  Speaker 1: studied journalism and political science, graduated, got a couple of
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  Speaker 1: internships in editorial. My second internship in editorial was at
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  Speaker 1: a company called Cafe Mom. I was at a Mom
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  Speaker 1: as an editorial intern turned editorial assistant turned associate editor
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  Speaker 1: for three and a half years. Then transitioned into the
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  Speaker 1: health and wellness space with my first job as a
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  Speaker 1: fitness editor at Rodale. Went from Roadale to Self Magazine,
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  Speaker 1: where I was the fitness editor there, and then when
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  Speaker 1: Self Magazine folded in twenty sixteen, twenty seventeen.
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  Speaker 2: God, I've lost all track of time.
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  Speaker 1: I went out on my own as a freelance journalist,
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  Speaker 1: and about a year into that journey, writing everywhere from
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  Speaker 1: GQ to Runners World, checking off bylines on what I
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  Speaker 1: call bylines bucket list, I decided that I wanted to
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  Speaker 1: own something and create something of my own. I was
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  Speaker 1: going through a really tough time personally. That's when I
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  Speaker 1: was getting out of my last serious relationship or last
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  Speaker 1: titled relationship. I've definitely had some serious relationships since them,
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  Speaker 1: but they never got to that phase I digress. I
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  Speaker 1: was sitting with a friend on the couch one day,
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  Speaker 1: just like really struggling, and I said to her, I
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  Speaker 1: so desperately want to get over this hurdle. And when
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  Speaker 1: it came out of my mouth, I was like, that's it.
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  Speaker 1: I want to talk to people about how they manage theirs.
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  Speaker 1: And knowing and having a background in the health and
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  Speaker 1: wellness space, being a certified trainer and a run coach
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  Speaker 1: and a precision level nutrition coach, and just having this
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  Speaker 1: vested interest in health and wellness as you know, a
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  Speaker 1: dedicated athlete and runner.
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  Speaker 2: I knew that that's.
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  Speaker 1: What the podcast would kind of focus on so talking
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  Speaker 1: to athletes and CEOs and experts in the wellness industry
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  Speaker 1: was just one hundred percent where I wanted to go
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  Speaker 1: with it, and so Hurdle started it as a bi
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  Speaker 1: weekly show and as you know now as an avid
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  Speaker 1: hurdler and everyone listening to this, it comes up three
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  Speaker 1: times a week and it has become my shtick. It's
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  Speaker 1: the thing that I care about. I'm so passionate about
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  Speaker 1: it for so many reasons, especially you know what I
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  Speaker 1: set up top is that I feel so passionately about
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  Speaker 1: empowering others to feel less alone on their journey and
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  Speaker 1: to be a source of comfort, inspiration and motivation in
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  Speaker 1: whatever way that I can responsibly to whoever's listening to
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  Speaker 1: that and whoever wants to come my way.
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  Speaker 2: So what excites me about it regularly now?
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  Speaker 1: I would have to say it's that opportunity, right, And
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  Speaker 1: I mean, it's pretty freaking awesome that I found a
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  Speaker 1: way to just have conversations with so many people that
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  Speaker 1: inspired me on the regular and make a job out
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  Speaker 1: of it.
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  Speaker 2: So there's that again.
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  Speaker 1: I love your questions, So please, if you have one
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  Speaker 1: and you want me to answer on your show, and
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  Speaker 1: you want to hear your voice on Hurdle, click on
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  Speaker 1: over to the show notes. Click leave me a voice message,
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  Speaker 1: and maybe I'll answer your question next week. Make sure
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  Speaker 1: you're following along with Hurdle over on the socials, It's
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  Speaker 1: at Hurdle Podcast.
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  Speaker 2: I'm over at Emily a Body.
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  Speaker 1: If you click on over to my page, feel free
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  Speaker 1: to let me know what's going on with your life
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  Speaker 1: and the comments of that post that I talked about
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  Speaker 1: at the top of this episode. Enjoy your weekend everyone,
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  Speaker 1: I'll see you soon. Another Hurdle concrid Catch you guys
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  Speaker 1: next time. Toy in my Hair