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Ben and Jessica Higgins are having a GIRL! · The Ben and Ashley I Almost Famous Podcast

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  Speaker 1: This is the Ben and Ashley I almost Famous podcast
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  Speaker 1: with iHeartRadio.
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  Speaker 2: It's time for the almost famous podcast. We are here,
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  Speaker 2: Well it's not we. I mean it is we, but
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  Speaker 2: it isn't your typical we. Ashley isn't with us today
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  Speaker 2: because today is our very special episode talking about a
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  Speaker 2: new baby into the Higgins family. My wife Jessica's here
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  Speaker 2: with me today as my co host.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah, and we both were pink today on accident.
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  Speaker 2: It was on accident. I did not think about that.
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  Speaker 2: That actually feels like something I would stay away from doing.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah, you're not a fan of it, but I love it.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, Today we're here just to give you some of
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  Speaker 2: the insights, the details. We haven't talked to anybody yet
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  Speaker 2: except for you know, on social media about kind of
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  Speaker 2: our big announcement and the path to getting there and
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  Speaker 2: what we're excited about, and so I think we just
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  Speaker 2: wanted to sit down with the almost famous listeners and
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  Speaker 2: kind of explain everything. I think the big first question
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  Speaker 2: that people are asking and that we should be answering
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  Speaker 2: is was this expected?
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  Speaker 3: Yes, it was very expected, and I had been trying
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  Speaker 3: for a decent amount of time and we were referred
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  Speaker 3: to a fertility clinic by my doctor because I wasn't
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  Speaker 3: ovulating regularly, so we did this through a fertility clinic.
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  Speaker 3: We did IUI, which is the step before IVF. So
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  Speaker 3: I don't know should I get into what IUI is?
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, I think people would be interested.
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  Speaker 3: Okay, So IUI is where I took some medicine or
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  Speaker 3: hormone stimulating medicine for about two weeks.
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  Speaker 2: I call it. So when somebody asked me to explain it,
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  Speaker 2: I say, it just makes you like a baby making machine.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah.
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  Speaker 3: It took me like a month to make myself a
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  Speaker 3: baby making machine. So I took some medicine and then
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  Speaker 3: when the timing was right, I gave myself a shot
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  Speaker 3: to make myself ovulate and then it's basically direct sperm insertion.
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  Speaker 3: And it's like the medical way to explain it.
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  Speaker 2: Is that explain that?
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  Speaker 3: Yeah?
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  Speaker 2: I feel so aggressive.
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  Speaker 3: What happened?
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  Speaker 2: That was my one and only job?
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  Speaker 3: He crushed it. We Yeah, it actually it took us
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  Speaker 3: one try of IUI. So when it comes to fertility journeys,
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  Speaker 3: we got really really lucky. We had a great doctor,
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  Speaker 3: we had a great experience, and I kind of had
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  Speaker 3: a feeling it worked on the first try. They were
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  Speaker 3: going to give us six tries for EUI before IVF,
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  Speaker 3: and so Ben was like, we have about six months,
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  Speaker 3: so he was shocked when it worked on the first try.
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  Speaker 2: I was shocked. I mean, I'm surprised just because I know,
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  Speaker 2: you know, it's not easy. Uh, And I think you're
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  Speaker 2: always going to be a little shocked, like when somebody
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  Speaker 2: tells you, hey, you have a little baby coming into
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  Speaker 2: this world and it's inside of me, Like, I think
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  Speaker 2: that's a little shocking idea.
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  Speaker 3: Right, Yeah, that's true. It's still kind of weird.
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  Speaker 2: Well, so how many weeks long are you as of
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  Speaker 2: this show?
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  Speaker 3: As of this very second, I'm sixteen weeks exactly, baby
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  Speaker 3: size of a avocado, four to five inches long.
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  Speaker 2: But we have known for a while, so we found
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  Speaker 2: out when the baby was what three weeks?
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  Speaker 3: Well, counting pregnancy weeks is so weird because like I was,
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  Speaker 3: technically we knew exactly I was two weeks, but they
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  Speaker 3: counted like two weeks before that, So we've known since
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  Speaker 3: I was in pregnancy terms four weeks, four.
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  Speaker 2: Weeks, Okay, since we've found out, how did you tell me?
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  Speaker 2: I tie, I guess how did you find out? And
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  Speaker 2: then how did you tell me?
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  Speaker 3: So after IUI, they say you can take a pregnancy
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  Speaker 3: test at home two weeks later, and it was literally
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  Speaker 3: exactly two weeks and I woke up at four am
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  Speaker 3: like so excited because I just had this gut feeling
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  Speaker 3: that it was going to be positive, and I'd taken
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  Speaker 3: so many negative pregnancy tests that I just wanted to
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  Speaker 3: see a positive so bad, even if something happened in
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  Speaker 3: the pregnancy, I was just I was so excited. So
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  Speaker 3: I woke up at four am. I took the test
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  Speaker 3: and just kind of like stared at it for about
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  Speaker 3: two hours, and then Ben was I heard Ben moving
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  Speaker 3: upstairs and Whalan, our dog, was downstairs with me. So
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  Speaker 3: I tied a bandana around Whale that said big brother,
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  Speaker 3: and I said him up to.
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  Speaker 2: Wake you up, and he did wake me up. I
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  Speaker 2: just thought he was looking cute with the bandana. I
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  Speaker 2: didn't know what the bandana sex, it was so early
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  Speaker 2: in the morning, but then I finally looked at it
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  Speaker 2: and it said I'm going to be a big brother,
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  Speaker 2: which was the cutest thing, like double cutest thing to see.
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  Speaker 2: Little Wayne in wanted to be a big brother and
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  Speaker 2: he was so happy. He was so proud, so proud
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  Speaker 2: of his bandana, so proud to wake me up. Now.
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  Speaker 2: From that point forward, I think for us, we kind
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  Speaker 2: of sat in it just with each other. We were excited,
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  Speaker 2: and you know, we talked about it a lot, but
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  Speaker 2: it was something that we kind of wanted to hold
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  Speaker 2: on to for for not only like the appropriate reasons
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  Speaker 2: where it's like, hey, we just don't need to tell
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  Speaker 2: everybody right away, but also just you know, for our
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  Speaker 2: own privacy. However, at about two weeks later, my parents
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  Speaker 2: came to visit, and it was Father's Day, and so
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  Speaker 2: we were going to obviously do a FaceTime with your parents,
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  Speaker 2: and so we decided at that point to tell them first.
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  Speaker 2: Walk us through how we told both, because I think
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  Speaker 2: they're both really special.
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  Speaker 3: Yes, so for my dad, me and my siblings pitched
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  Speaker 3: in will meet my siblings, and our spouses pitched in
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  Speaker 3: to get him one of those picture frames. I think
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  Speaker 3: we did the Aura frame where you can upload a
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  Speaker 3: photo and it'll show it in real time. Because my
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  Speaker 3: brother has a baby, and we obviously live far away.
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  Speaker 3: My little brother lives far away, so it's fun to
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  Speaker 3: be able to share photos back and forth. So we
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  Speaker 3: got in this picture frame, and since I bought it,
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  Speaker 3: I had like the activation code, so I said, you
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  Speaker 3: have to FaceTime me so I can teach him how
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  Speaker 3: to set it up whatever. So everyone was together for
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  Speaker 3: Father's Day brunch and they facetimed me and I gave
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  Speaker 3: him the activation code and then I was explaining how
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  Speaker 3: it worked. Now you can upload a photo in real time,
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  Speaker 3: and I was like, here, I'll upload a photo and
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  Speaker 3: show you how it works. And I uploaded my positive
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  Speaker 3: pregnancy test. So my whole family was there, minus my
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  Speaker 3: little brother who he facetimed earlier that day and just
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  Speaker 3: told But they were so excited and so surprised.
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  Speaker 2: We do have that, like on video, right, Yeah, I'm
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  Speaker 2: share that at some point.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah, we can share that video. And then for Ben's dad,
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  Speaker 3: they came the day after Father's Day and we got
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  Speaker 3: him a Father's Day card that said the best dads
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  Speaker 3: get promoted to Grandpa. And he gave it to him
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  Speaker 3: in person and he said, are you trying to tell
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  Speaker 3: me something?
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  Speaker 2: And you said, yes, I'm pregnant. You know I'm an
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  Speaker 2: only child, So I think my parents I'm not kidding
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  Speaker 2: when I say I feel like I remember them talking
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  Speaker 2: about having grandkids when I was still in high school. Yeah,
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  Speaker 2: like I think this is their super Bowl.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah, they're so excited.
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  Speaker 2: But the cool part is your parents and my parents.
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  Speaker 2: I never realized this, I guess growing up. Grandparents get
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  Speaker 2: really excited about having grandkids. Like both of our sets
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  Speaker 2: of parents aren't just like this is gonna be awesome.
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  Speaker 2: They're like over the moon, referring to it as their baby,
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  Speaker 2: Like they are so excited.
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  Speaker 3: I mean, you get all of the fun of having
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  Speaker 3: a kid with none of the responsibility, Like they've already
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  Speaker 3: had the responsibility part. This is just fun for them,
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  Speaker 3: you know.
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  Speaker 2: So it must be fun to have a kid. Though
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  Speaker 2: at least it's it's like enjoyable enough where you're like,
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  Speaker 2: I want to do this again.
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  Speaker 3: I think it's gonna be so fun.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, that's I mean, that's I think where we need
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  Speaker 2: to transition into next is you know, somebody wrote in
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  Speaker 2: and asked, how do you think I'll be as a
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  Speaker 2: girl dad, because obviously we did find out the gender.
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  Speaker 2: We're both wanting to find out the gender. I think
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  Speaker 2: for me and my reasoning is, I'm more of a
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  Speaker 2: like planner. I don't like inefficiencies, and so I was
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  Speaker 2: thinking if people are gonna get stuff for us and
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  Speaker 2: we're gonna buy stuff for ourselves, we should know the gender.
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  Speaker 2: So everything like matches, you know, ready go, We're off
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  Speaker 2: and running and I just don't want to wait. Yeah,
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  Speaker 2: and I'm glad we did find out. Yeah, but we
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  Speaker 2: did find out it was a baby girl. So how
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  Speaker 2: do you think I'll be as a girl dad.
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  Speaker 3: I think you're gonna be the best girl dad in
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  Speaker 3: the whole world. I think you're just going to love
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  Speaker 3: her and encourage her and tell her she's beautiful. And
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  Speaker 3: I know the way that you make me feel, and
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  Speaker 3: I just can't imagine the way you're going to make
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  Speaker 3: our daughter feel, just like so wrapped in love. You're
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  Speaker 3: also more emotional than me, not at this very second,
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  Speaker 3: but in normal life, and so I just think she's
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  Speaker 3: gonna wreck you in like the best way. Yeah. I
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  Speaker 3: sent them a video on Instagram yesterday of a little
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  Speaker 3: girl in a princess dress showing her dad. He replied
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  Speaker 3: and said, why would you send this?
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  Speaker 2: Very sweet?
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  Speaker 3: It was very sweet. I just can't wait for a
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  Speaker 3: little girl to run up to in a princess dress
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  Speaker 3: and hug you and just getting emotional talking about.
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  Speaker 2: It, just stop talking about it. I feel like I
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  Speaker 2: am more set up to be a father of a
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  Speaker 2: girl at this point, now that we found this out.
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  Speaker 2: Like at first, I was like, oh, man, like it'd
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  Speaker 2: be fun to just like let them, you know, get dirty,
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  Speaker 2: And we're gonna still do that. But boys are different.
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  Speaker 2: We have a lot of boys that live around us,
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  Speaker 2: and all of our friends have had boys. Boys just
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  Speaker 2: kind of cause chaos. I'm sure girls do that in
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  Speaker 2: their own beautiful way. But I do feel like when
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  Speaker 2: it comes to especially especially the motions, like the emotions,
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  Speaker 2: I'm better set up for it. I'm just worried that
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  Speaker 2: I'm gonna become like a mess, like I'm going to
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  Speaker 2: lose all toughness, and I don't have a lot left,
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  Speaker 2: Like I don't think I've ever any of the left.
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  Speaker 3: I think you have a lot of toughness left. And
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  Speaker 3: I think that when she's a teenager, you'll like get
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  Speaker 3: that grip back. But I think when she's really little,
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  Speaker 3: I do think she's gonna have you wrapped around her
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  Speaker 3: finger in the best way.
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  Speaker 2: Well, you know. I think the question then ride back
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  Speaker 2: to you is how do you feel like you're gonna
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  Speaker 2: be raising a girl? And are you excited for it?
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  Speaker 3: I I'm so excited. I need to start by saying
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  Speaker 3: that I just always thought I was going to be
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  Speaker 3: a boy mom, Like I grew up doing sports, I
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  Speaker 3: grew up with brothers. I like just feel like I
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  Speaker 3: would have a lot of fun with a little boy.
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  Speaker 3: But now that I know it's a girl, I'm so
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  Speaker 3: I feel like I'm just carrying my best friend and
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  Speaker 3: my belly. Like I know the relationship I have with
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  Speaker 3: my mom, and I just feel like we're gonna be
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  Speaker 3: like the very best of friends. And she's gonna be
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  Speaker 3: my little twin. And she might not be, but my prayers,
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  Speaker 3: that were really good friends. And I'm so excited to
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  Speaker 3: get all the girly things, Like we got a box
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  Speaker 3: of bows from my mom, and I like that made
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  Speaker 3: me so excited because I'm I'm just excited to be
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  Speaker 3: a girl. Mom. I don't know every bit of it.
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  Speaker 3: I'm excited to watch princess movies with her, dress up
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  Speaker 3: with her. It's gonna be so fun.
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  Speaker 2: I only know how to put a bow on a girl.
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  Speaker 3: And no, he didn't know how to open the bu No.
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  Speaker 2: I didn't actually hurt my finger. I actually cut my
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  Speaker 2: finger trying to do it. There's been some really fun
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  Speaker 2: things that have happened that I think people would enjoy
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  Speaker 2: hearing about, and I always enjoy joy hearing about it. Obviously,
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  Speaker 2: this is something that we wanted, we planned for, we're
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  Speaker 2: excited about. This wasn't like an unexpected shock to us,
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  Speaker 2: but it's been an unexpected level of joy that I
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  Speaker 2: think you and I both experienced. You've been a trooper.
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  Speaker 2: You felt pretty terrible for a long time, like you've
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  Speaker 2: been really sick through this journey, and now you're starting
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  Speaker 2: to feel like, come, you know, to the other side.
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  Speaker 2: Food isn't so much of a weird turn off, it's
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  Speaker 2: now like you're more into it. Do you want to
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  Speaker 2: elaborate on that at all?
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  Speaker 3: Yeah. I was really sick my first trimester, just in
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  Speaker 3: every way you can possibly imagine. And I wouldn't take
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  Speaker 3: nausee and medicine for a long time because that first trimester,
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  Speaker 3: you like don't look pregnant, and the only way you
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  Speaker 3: really feel pregnant is with your nausea. And I was like,
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  Speaker 3: I just want the reminder that like, she's there and
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  Speaker 3: she's good, because I always heard nauseum in a healthy baby,
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  Speaker 3: but then it got to the point where I was like,
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  Speaker 3: give me, give me the meds.
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  Speaker 2: Like she's there, she's good, give me the meds.
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  Speaker 3: But yeah, it was the first trimester. Everyone said, it's
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  Speaker 3: really hard. It's really hard. But looking back, like it's
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  Speaker 3: a blur now.
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  Speaker 2: You know, Yeah, I guess for you, probably for me,
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  Speaker 2: it feels like it was last week, which kind of was.
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  Speaker 3: You know.
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  Speaker 2: It's it's interesting to see just like evolve into this
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  Speaker 2: mom like to be sick and kind of want to
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  Speaker 2: be sick, like in this weird way, like I don't
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  Speaker 2: understand it, and I'm so thankful that she's the one
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  Speaker 2: carrying this child, because I think for me, i'd be like,
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  Speaker 2: just give me the medicine right away. I don't want
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  Speaker 2: to feel this at all. But you have just really
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  Speaker 2: like enjoyed already kind of becoming a mom and being
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  Speaker 2: a mom. It's been really fun to watch. Uh. But
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  Speaker 2: obviously there have been, you know, stages to this process,
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  Speaker 2: us of wanting to have a baby, waiting for that
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  Speaker 2: positive test, waiting a few more weeks to tell anybody.
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  Speaker 2: So you and I were just kind of living in
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  Speaker 2: our own world. There's a spot out here in Colorado
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  Speaker 2: that you've kind of been visiting and just praying. You've
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  Speaker 2: shared about it on your social media, but prayer has
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  Speaker 2: been a big kind of foundation for you during this time,
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  Speaker 2: Like it's really been something you've leaned on. What have
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  Speaker 2: you kind of learned through those moments of silence?
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  Speaker 3: Yeah, I with my job, I talked to women all
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  Speaker 3: day and I've heard great stories about pregnancy and horrible
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  Speaker 3: stories about pregnancy and the highs and the lows, and
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  Speaker 3: it's like terrified me a little bit. So I've had
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  Speaker 3: a lot of days where I've just felt really uneasy
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  Speaker 3: and like why should we have a healthy baby? Like
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  Speaker 3: why do we get to have one? And so in
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  Speaker 3: those moments, I've just gone and like sat and just
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  Speaker 3: prayed a lot of prayers of like thankfulness and just
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  Speaker 3: I can't believe I'm this lucky to have a healthy baby,
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  Speaker 3: but also just like take away these anxieties, Like I
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  Speaker 3: don't want to project those anxieties onto my baby, and
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  Speaker 3: I also just don't want to feel that way when
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  Speaker 3: this is a really exciting time. I know most first
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  Speaker 3: time moms get those. You know, you're scared, you're like
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  Speaker 3: responsible for this little life, and you want to do
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  Speaker 3: everything to make sure it's okay, but a lot of
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  Speaker 3: it's out of your control. So that the prayer garden
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  Speaker 3: I go to, just it's brought me so much peace.
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  Speaker 3: Like I just leave there and I'm like, ah, everything's okay.
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  Speaker 3: Even if I can't control that, it's going to be okay.
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  Speaker 3: So I think just like giving up a lot of
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  Speaker 3: those control pieces has been huge for me.
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  Speaker 2: And that's been the most common prayer that you've been praying,
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  Speaker 2: is the control piece.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah, And like I don't want to feel anxious this
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  Speaker 3: whole time, Like I don't want to feel anxious for
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  Speaker 3: the next twenty four weeks. I want to continue to
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  Speaker 3: be excited.
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  Speaker 2: You can feel anxious for the next twenty four weeks
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  Speaker 2: because then I'll take over and.
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  Speaker 3: Feel anxious to eighteen years.
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  Speaker 2: Probably longer than that. Yeah, this, you know, I think
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  Speaker 2: it's been really fun to just fun and you know,
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  Speaker 2: it reminds you. I think it's a good reminder of
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  Speaker 2: why we got married too. It was like what about
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  Speaker 2: each other that we love, respected, appreciated. You know, you're
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  Speaker 2: married for a few years, you're living life side by side.
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  Speaker 2: We've had a really fun couple of years just the
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  Speaker 2: two of us. And then you know, we we enter
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  Speaker 2: into this new stage of life and you see how
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  Speaker 2: your partner is reacting to it, and it's like, no,
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  Speaker 2: this is why, you know, this is what I thought
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  Speaker 2: I was getting at the beginning, you know, and why
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  Speaker 2: we we wanted to commit to each other for the
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  Speaker 2: rest of our lives. It is a really exciting time.
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  Speaker 2: I would say personally, I have had many different emotions,
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  Speaker 2: like I can't and I've we've talked about it. I
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  Speaker 2: can't honestly say that the idea of having a chot
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  Speaker 2: like a baby ever like euphorically brought joy to me.
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  Speaker 2: When we were talking about it, I was like, I
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  Speaker 2: know it's something I want to do. I know it's
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  Speaker 2: something that I will enjoy doing. I have no clue
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  Speaker 2: what that looks like. I don't even know what I'm
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  Speaker 2: excited about. Yeah, but I'm not like I was. I
• 16:12
  Speaker 2: tried to be as honest with you as possible. It
• 16:14
  Speaker 2: was like I don't want to tell you, like, yes,
• 16:16
  Speaker 2: I am so overly excited about this. There was actually
• 16:21
  Speaker 2: like kind of like a numbness and emotion towards it.
• 16:24
  Speaker 2: There was an anxiety when we were talking through it
• 16:27
  Speaker 2: was more of just a I don't even know what
• 16:28
  Speaker 2: this means, Like I don't even know what this is
• 16:31
  Speaker 2: that I should be expecting. And I like to prepare
• 16:34
  Speaker 2: myself for big moments, and I couldn't prepare myself for this.
• 16:38
  Speaker 2: So then we find out we're pregnant. You're pregnant. We're
• 16:42
  Speaker 2: not pregnant. No, I'm very much not a part of
• 16:46
  Speaker 2: this team right now. I have zero role other than
• 16:51
  Speaker 2: just like kind of stay out of the way. But
• 16:54
  Speaker 2: and then when we find out we found out, I
• 16:58
  Speaker 2: was immediately so anxious, like so nervous, Like my mind
• 17:05
  Speaker 2: went to, what in the world am I about to do?
• 17:08
  Speaker 2: I'm not ready for this. I'm a child myself. I
• 17:11
  Speaker 2: don't have that anything prepared. What am I doing? Like,
• 17:14
  Speaker 2: how do we think this makes work? And then I
• 17:16
  Speaker 2: just kept remind myself when you're thirty five years old,
• 17:18
  Speaker 2: if you're not gonna do it now, you're never gonna
• 17:19
  Speaker 2: do it. Okay. Then the next stage was emotion. I
• 17:33
  Speaker 2: could watch the stupidest videos on Instagram or a commercial
• 17:37
  Speaker 2: with a child running up to their dad and just
• 17:39
  Speaker 2: start crying. And now I'm in this like really comfortable
• 17:44
  Speaker 2: place of peace, excitement. I think I understand better what
• 17:48
  Speaker 2: we're getting, Like, I don't think I'll ever fully understand
• 17:51
  Speaker 2: what it's like to raise a little baby, but you
• 17:55
  Speaker 2: just kind of jump in. But now I'm kind of
• 17:56
  Speaker 2: in this season of I think I know better enough
• 17:59
  Speaker 2: to be like we can do this together. But you
• 18:03
  Speaker 2: have felt like you've just been excited the whole time.
• 18:06
  Speaker 3: Yeah, I don't get it.
• 18:08
  Speaker 2: Explain yourself, like how is this something like you're bringing
• 18:11
  Speaker 2: life into this world and yet like your peace of
• 18:14
  Speaker 2: mind and your joy and excitement has been consistent since
• 18:20
  Speaker 2: really the moment we started trying.
• 18:22
  Speaker 3: Yeah, I'm I'm gonna get tierry talking about it. But
• 18:27
  Speaker 3: like when I was little, when people asked what do
• 18:29
  Speaker 3: you want to be when you grew up? I always
• 18:31
  Speaker 3: said I wanted to be a mom. It was a
• 18:33
  Speaker 3: princess mom to be specific. Yeah, I want to be
• 18:36
  Speaker 3: a princess mommy up until like seventh grade, like when
• 18:40
  Speaker 3: it was like way inappropriate for that to be what
• 18:43
  Speaker 3: you want to be when you grew up. But like
• 18:45
  Speaker 3: I grew up nannying, i grew up babysitting. I've had cousins,
• 18:49
  Speaker 3: and I've just always had this like I want to
• 18:52
  Speaker 3: be a mom. And then when you and I got married,
• 18:55
  Speaker 3: I was like, Okay, I'm not ready to be a
• 18:57
  Speaker 3: mom yet, Like I want to really enjoy this time
• 18:59
  Speaker 3: just me and you. I like felt almost selfish with
• 19:02
  Speaker 3: my time with you because we dated long distance and
• 19:05
  Speaker 3: you and I have so much fun together just the
• 19:06
  Speaker 3: two of us. That then I went through a season
• 19:08
  Speaker 3: where I was like and we kind of talked about it,
• 19:10
  Speaker 3: like maybe we're not like kid people, like maybe we
• 19:13
  Speaker 3: don't do it.
• 19:14
  Speaker 2: But then that did not wast long.
• 19:17
  Speaker 3: No, it lasted for about a month, but we did
• 19:19
  Speaker 3: talk about it.
• 19:20
  Speaker 2: We did.
• 19:21
  Speaker 3: But then I don't know, something like in the last
• 19:25
  Speaker 3: year or whenever, we were like, this could be a
• 19:28
  Speaker 3: good time for us to start to think about a baby,
• 19:30
  Speaker 3: it was like go time, like so exciting. And then
• 19:36
  Speaker 3: because I've I've not taken the best care of my
• 19:39
  Speaker 3: body in the past. I've been really open about having
• 19:41
  Speaker 3: eating disorders, and I was a long distance runner, and
• 19:46
  Speaker 3: I've I thought I would never be able to carry
• 19:48
  Speaker 3: my own baby. And we talked about that too, even
• 19:51
  Speaker 3: before we got married, like I was getting testing done
• 19:53
  Speaker 3: to make sure like it was even a possibility, and
• 19:57
  Speaker 3: every doctor told me it was a possibility. But then
• 20:00
  Speaker 3: we were having a hard time. I was just kind
• 20:01
  Speaker 3: of like, what if this doesn't happen for me? And
• 20:04
  Speaker 3: it's it really is like my heart's desire. Since I
• 20:07
  Speaker 3: was an itty bitty girl, I used to carry my
• 20:10
  Speaker 3: baby dolls around. My mom would carry my little brother,
• 20:12
  Speaker 3: like I've had that instinct. So then when I found
• 20:16
  Speaker 3: out that we were like when I saw the positive
• 20:18
  Speaker 3: pregnancy test, it was like I just never thought that
• 20:22
  Speaker 3: was gonna happen for me, and the fact that it
• 20:25
  Speaker 3: has is just like I'm sorry, you can It's I've
• 20:31
  Speaker 3: never been this happy, Like I've never been so like
• 20:33
  Speaker 3: proud of my body and just even though it's changing
• 20:38
  Speaker 3: and it's sometimes uncomfortable, like I'm so excited for all
• 20:42
  Speaker 3: the changes and I'm so excited that I have this
• 20:44
  Speaker 3: baby growing because I never thought that i'd be able
• 20:47
  Speaker 3: to so even when it's hard, and even when I
• 20:51
  Speaker 3: was so sick, I was just so like excited. And
• 20:57
  Speaker 3: I've just been so grateful this whole time. But yeah,
• 21:01
  Speaker 3: I've like I've genuinely I don't think i've been this
• 21:04
  Speaker 3: happy since like you and I got engaged and married,
• 21:07
  Speaker 3: Like I have just had so much, I know, but
• 21:13
  Speaker 3: I mean those are like these are Those are like
• 21:15
  Speaker 3: the two biggest moments of joy I've had. So I
• 21:19
  Speaker 3: can't even imagine meeting her. I'm just like, I'm so
• 21:23
  Speaker 3: thankful that I'm able to have a baby. I never
• 21:25
  Speaker 3: thought i'd be able to, So I just feel really
• 21:28
  Speaker 3: excited and like so grateful.
• 21:30
  Speaker 2: Yeah, you should be proud of yourself too, Like I
• 21:34
  Speaker 2: don't know how to I don't even know how to
• 21:35
  Speaker 2: say it. I don't know if I ever have. But
• 21:37
  Speaker 2: it is interesting with your your past and just having
• 21:43
  Speaker 2: you know, this long distance running career and having to
• 21:47
  Speaker 2: keep your body in what you imagine and what people
• 21:49
  Speaker 2: were kind of telling you in this like really like
• 21:52
  Speaker 2: lean overly like athletic state, and then the repercussions from
• 21:57
  Speaker 2: that for you emotionally, mentally, physically, and now for like
• 22:03
  Speaker 2: your biggest fear out of that like kind of the
• 22:05
  Speaker 2: unknown of Yeah, but what else has this done to
• 22:07
  Speaker 2: my body? And for you now to be pregnant is
• 22:11
  Speaker 2: like a really big thing to celebrate and just hopefully
• 22:15
  Speaker 2: like some like peace.
• 22:17
  Speaker 3: Yeah, it's it has given me so much peace, and
• 22:21
  Speaker 3: like just I just feel like this baby is such
• 22:24
  Speaker 3: a sign of like redemption. Like there's there's nothing that
• 22:28
  Speaker 3: like I can do that can't be undone almost even
• 22:33
  Speaker 3: that's probably an over generalization and not true, but I.
• 22:35
  Speaker 2: Really do feel that way right now in this season,
• 22:38
  Speaker 2: in this I think it's very fair for you to
• 22:39
  Speaker 2: feel that way. Yeah.
• 22:41
  Speaker 3: Yeah, so I don't know. I'm just I'm so excited
• 22:44
  Speaker 3: and thankful.
• 22:47
  Speaker 2: It is a big deal. Jessica's pregnant and Ben.
• 22:51
  Speaker 3: Has been so sweet in this pregnancy. He's like dropped
• 22:53
  Speaker 3: everything to go get frozen yogurt with me. He's made
• 22:56
  Speaker 3: me what I want for dinner, which.
• 22:58
  Speaker 2: Is which is wild. Like the dinner stuff doesn't make
• 23:02
  Speaker 2: any sense. I mean sometimes it's mac and cheese with
• 23:05
  Speaker 2: ice cream, yeah.
• 23:06
  Speaker 3: Or like all I want is like plain buttered pasta,
• 23:09
  Speaker 3: Like that's like sounds so good to me all the time.
• 23:11
  Speaker 2: Yeah, it's been weird.
• 23:13
  Speaker 3: Land no vegetables.
• 23:15
  Speaker 2: We've had fun with it though, and we're having a
• 23:17
  Speaker 2: great time. We're very excited to be parents. We're ready prepared.
• 23:22
  Speaker 2: Final kind of like rapid fire, honey questions for you
• 23:25
  Speaker 2: just to kind of answer anything that was written in
• 23:27
  Speaker 2: so we can kind of go through it. Do we
• 23:29
  Speaker 2: have any names picked out? You don't have to share
• 23:30
  Speaker 2: them because I was told by wells Adams to not
• 23:34
  Speaker 2: share the baby names because it opens you up for
• 23:37
  Speaker 2: more feedback than what you really want.
• 23:39
  Speaker 3: I've heard that too, so we're not going to share them.
• 23:41
  Speaker 3: But we do have a top three list that is
• 23:44
  Speaker 3: open to change. But we feel pretty good about our
• 23:46
  Speaker 3: top three.
• 23:48
  Speaker 2: How did we come up with the baby announcement idea?
• 23:51
  Speaker 3: I asked you how you wanted to announce the baby,
• 23:53
  Speaker 3: and you said you wanted a video of our love story,
• 23:55
  Speaker 3: so we made one.
• 23:58
  Speaker 2: That video wrecked me too. I just I feel like
• 24:01
  Speaker 2: I'm holding on by a thread any moment I am libel,
• 24:07
  Speaker 2: Like right now, I'm liable to break down the nursery.
• 24:12
  Speaker 2: Do you want to share kind of the theme of
• 24:13
  Speaker 2: the nursery? I kind of think I did last week,
• 24:17
  Speaker 2: maybe more than I expected to. So do you want
• 24:19
  Speaker 2: to share the theme and why it's the theme.
• 24:22
  Speaker 3: We're doing a very subtle, not like over the top,
• 24:25
  Speaker 3: Winnie the Pooh theme, So we're gonna have some little
• 24:28
  Speaker 3: Winnie the Pooh elements because Ben and I love Winnie
• 24:32
  Speaker 3: the Pooh. It was both of our favorites growing up,
• 24:34
  Speaker 3: and we had some of our best friends read one
• 24:37
  Speaker 3: of the Pooh quotes at our wedding, like it's just
• 24:39
  Speaker 3: been a big part of our love story randomly. So
• 24:42
  Speaker 3: it's gonna have some little Winnie the Pooh elements. And
• 24:44
  Speaker 3: then Ben wants to paint the walls pink, which just
• 24:47
  Speaker 3: melted me.
• 24:50
  Speaker 2: Goodness, I do want to paint them pink?
• 24:52
  Speaker 3: Is so sweet.
• 24:53
  Speaker 2: Yeah, we're gonna paint them pink. It's gonna be really
• 24:55
  Speaker 2: pretty goodness. All right, final question for you, Han, what
• 25:03
  Speaker 2: is the thing you're most excited to teach your new
• 25:08
  Speaker 2: baby girl?
• 25:09
  Speaker 3: Oh my gosh, like deeper surface level, whatever you want, Like,
• 25:14
  Speaker 3: what's the first thing that comes to mind? I really
• 25:17
  Speaker 3: can't wait to watch Disney movies with you.
• 25:18
  Speaker 2: Yeah, I thought that would be.
• 25:19
  Speaker 3: I can't wait to like show her all the princess stuff.
• 25:22
  Speaker 2: You've been waiting for an excuse to watch Disney movies
• 25:25
  Speaker 2: for a long time.
• 25:26
  Speaker 3: You might have to rewatch before to make sure, like
• 25:28
  Speaker 3: they're appropriate.
• 25:29
  Speaker 2: I think anything's appropriate.
• 25:32
  Speaker 1: For me.
• 25:32
  Speaker 2: I think I think what Like when it's the question
• 25:36
  Speaker 2: of what I want to tea what I'm my most
• 25:38
  Speaker 2: excited teacher? I think I'm really excited just show her
• 25:42
  Speaker 2: what family she's entering into, Like we have great parents,
• 25:47
  Speaker 2: incredible siblings, really great like aunts and uncles and grandparents
• 25:54
  Speaker 2: and just like we got a really good thing going
• 25:59
  Speaker 2: and I feel very grateful for that. Like every night
• 26:01
  Speaker 2: when I go to bed, I pray that I'm thankful
• 26:03
  Speaker 2: for you and our dog and a baby girl and
• 26:06
  Speaker 2: then this amazing family and now everybody gets that, and
• 26:11
  Speaker 2: so I'm excited for her to meet them.
• 26:13
  Speaker 3: Yeah. I've said this to so many, like all the
• 26:16
  Speaker 3: people that are shared in our joy, our friends, our family,
• 26:19
  Speaker 3: everybody like this baby. I just I can't imagine someone
• 26:23
  Speaker 3: coming to the world more love than our daughter.
• 26:25
  Speaker 2: Goodness are we have a full closet already.
• 26:28
  Speaker 3: We've got a hand me down.
• 26:29
  Speaker 2: I've asked people not to give us stuff.
• 26:32
  Speaker 3: Oh goodness, She's got a lot of hand me downs, but.
• 26:36
  Speaker 2: Not all hand me down.
• 26:37
  Speaker 3: And a lot of people out lover her.
• 26:40
  Speaker 2: Goodness. We'll keep you updated as we go. We want
• 26:43
  Speaker 2: to do this with almost famous listeners because we haven't
• 26:45
  Speaker 2: done an interview yet. You've kind of kept it close
• 26:47
  Speaker 2: to our chest, you know. But we're very excited. We're
• 26:52
  Speaker 2: very ready, though, as ready as you can be. Wailing
• 26:56
  Speaker 2: gonna be great. He's already sleeping on top of Jess
• 26:58
  Speaker 2: at night literally like head on the belly. I think
• 27:04
  Speaker 2: he's gonna rock and roll this thing in the best
• 27:06
  Speaker 2: of ways. He's going to be such a stud. So
• 27:09
  Speaker 2: everybody's really ready, everybody's really prepared. We're excited. Uh, but
• 27:13
  Speaker 2: we'll keep you updated as big things happen. A way
• 27:16
  Speaker 2: to go, you have a long ways to go. My
• 27:20
  Speaker 2: life hasn't changed that much, so until next time, I've
• 27:24
  Speaker 2: been Ben Jess. We'll share the name of the baby
• 27:27
  Speaker 2: girl who's with us as well when she's born.
• 27:32
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