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Why Can’t You Stop Thinking About It? (S5) S38:E3 Monday · Inspirations for Your Life

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  Well there, hello everyone, and welcome once again
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  to the ever-popular Inspirations for Your Life
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  show.
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  It is so great to be with you
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  today, ladies and gentlemen, is a Monday.
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  It is September 14th.
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  It is 2026, and it is so great
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  to be with you today.
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  So welcome everyone.
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  to you, welcome back.
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  Yes, welcome back.
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  All right, so welcome everyone to another episode
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  of the ever-popular Inspirations for Your Live
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  Show.
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  Who am I?
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  Great question.
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  I'm John C.
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  Morley.
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  I'm a serial entrepreneur.
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  I'm an engineer, marketing specialist, video producer, podcast
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  host, coach, keynote speaker, passionate lifelong learner, graduate
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  student at Montclair State University, and so grateful
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  now to be a published author.
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  Hey, folks, have you ever noticed how something
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  can be completely over in your life, but
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  it's still running inside your mind?
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  You ever get that?
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  Yep.
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  You replay the conversation.
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  You rethink what happened.
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  You imagine different responses.
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  You search for, well, an explanation you somehow
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  missed.
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  Today isn't about pretending the past didn't matter.
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  No.
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  It's about recognizing when thinking stops helping and
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  starts keeping you connected to something you cannot
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  change.
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  So let's get right into it with my
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  30 points.
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  One, your brain can replay something long after
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  life moved on from it.
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  Life may have continued while your mind keeps
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  returning to one moment.
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  Recognizing that difference is important.
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  Something doesn't have to still be happening for
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  us to continue experiencing the emotionality.
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  And I think that's an important thing for
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  us to all realize that that is what
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  it's about.
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  And hopefully that matters to you guys and
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  that that'll make a big point for you.
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  All right.
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  So number two, stop confusing repetition with resolution.
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  Thinking about something repeatedly can feel productive because
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  your brain is busy, but activity isn't always
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  progress, guys.
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  Ask whether another replay is actually teaching you
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  anything new.
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  Number three, another replay won't produce a different
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  ending.
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  You can reconstruct a conversation a hundred different
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  ways, but the original conversation remains unchanged.
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  Eventually, you have to stop trying to create
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  a different ending, mentally, that is.
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  So number four, notice your mental reruns.
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  Pay attention to what your mind automatically plays
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  again, again, again.
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  Certain conversations, mistakes, disappointments, and questions may appear
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  repeatedly.
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  Awareness helps you recognize the pattern before automatically
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  following through on it.
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  But I think that's something, again, that a
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  lot of people miss.
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  They miss that whole point, right?
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  These are important things I think a lot
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  of people don't realize.
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  But I think these are things that we
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  all need to understand.
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  And what I mean by that is these
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  are things that we have to be thinking
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  about.
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  So let's think about this together, OK?
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  Number five, interrupt the story before it consumes
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  your attention.
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  When the replay begins, interrupt it.
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  You don't need to fight the thought or
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  pretend it isn't there.
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  Recognize it, then deliberately move your attention somewhere
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  more useful.
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  Number six, stop asking questions that no longer
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  have useful answers.
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  Why did they do it?
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  What were they thinking?
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  What if you had responded differently?
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  Some questions eventually stop producing useful information.
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  Know when you're going to be at a
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  point and it's reached.
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  Number seven, some closure has to come from
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  you, right, not other people.
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  We often imagine closure arriving from another person,
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  though as an apology or possibly an explanation.
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  Sometimes it does.
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  Other times you have to decide for yourself
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  that the chapter is already finished and done.
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  Number eight, you may never receive the explanation
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  you wanted.
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  That's difficult, but it's possible.
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  Number eight, somebody may never explain themselves in
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  a way that satisfies you.
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  Your future cannot remain dependent on receiving an
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  answer.
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  They may never provide.
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  Number nine, stop waiting for perfect closure.
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  I know I was guilty of this a
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  long time ago.
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  Stop waiting for the perfect closure.
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  I think that's a very important thing to
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  understand.
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  Closure rarely arrives wrapped neatly with every question
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  answered.
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  Sometimes moving forward means accepting an important ending
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  rather than waiting indefinitely for a perfect one.
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  Number 10, accept unanswered questions without becoming trapped
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  by them.
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  And I think that's a thing that a
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  lot of people today, I think they miss
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  that whole concept, right?
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  An unanswered question can exist without becoming the
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  center of your life.
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  You can say, I don't know why that
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  happened and still decide to continue forward.
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  Number 11, your mind needs somewhere new to
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  go.
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  Number 11, simply telling yourself not to think
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  about something often isn't enough.
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  Give your attention another destination, a goal, a
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  project, a relationship, a skill, or challenge that
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  can provide somewhere productive that you'll be able
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  to direct it.
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  Number 12, replace rumination with deliberate action.
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  Ooh, that's a real good one, guys.
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  When you notice yourself circling, and this can
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  happen, same thought, around and around, do something
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  intentional, right?
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  Exercise, organize, create work, learn, or make a
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  decision there and then.
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  Movement can interrupt mental repetition.
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  So don't be afraid of doing that.
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  Know it's going to be a little bit
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  different.
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  And when it's different, that's when life actually
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  changes, okay?
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  That's the most important thing.
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  Your life can change in an instant, but
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  you've got to be willing to make that
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  choice.
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  Number 13, stop revisiting the scene every time
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  you're alone.
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  Quiet moments can invite old memories back.
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  Notice when being alone automatically becomes an invitation
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  to revisit the same event.
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  Your quiet time can serve you differently.
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  Number 14, create something stronger to focus on.
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  Don't only try to eliminate an old thought.
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  Build something meaningful enough to compete for your
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  attention.
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  Give yourself something ahead of you that's worth
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  thinking about.
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  You control what receives today's attention.
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  You won't control every thought that appears, but
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  you have influence over what you continue feeding.
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  Attention is a resource.
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  Become more selective about where you invest it.
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  That's key, guys.
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  But some people today, they don't realize where
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  they're putting their attention.
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  And then they're wondering, well, why is this
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  happening this way?
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  Why am I going this way?
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  Why am I floundering, right?
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  I think that's a very important thing for
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  us to realize.
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  And these are important things for us all
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  to be aware of in our life.
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  You might say, well, John, this doesn't happen
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  to me.
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  But I'm here to tell you, it does
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  happen to you.
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  You're doing it whether you're aware of it
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  or not.
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  And I think that's the most important thing
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  for us to be aware of.
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  So number 15, you control what receives today's
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  attention.
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  How do I do that?
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  Real simple.
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  You want to know the secret?
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  I'm going to share it with you.
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  You won't control every thought that appears.
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  But you have influence over what you continue
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  feeding.
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  Attention is a resource.
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  Become more selective about where you invest it.
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  And I think when we're more selective of
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  our thoughts, things change in our life, OK?
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  That's an important piece, guys.
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  That's a very important piece.
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  You won't control every thought, right?
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  But you have influence over what you continue
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  feeding.
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  You've got to be selective.
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  Number 16, stop letting a five-minute event
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  occupy five years, right?
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  I just need five minutes of your time.
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  But you and I both know it's not
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  really going to be five minutes.
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  It's going to be 5, 10, or 20
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  hours.
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  Sometimes the emotional lifespan of an event becomes
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  far greater than the event itself.
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  Ask whether you're continuing to give something more
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  time than it deserves, right?
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  That's important.
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  And you might be saying to me, John,
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  well, this isn't happening to me.
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  But denial is not a river in Egypt.
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  Number 17, memory can inform you without imprisoning
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  you.
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  That's an important thing, guys.
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  Memory is valuable.
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  It helps all of us each day recognize
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  patterns and make wiser decisions.
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  Use the memory as information rather than allowing
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  it to become a place where you continually
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  live.
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  And I think sometimes we're expecting something, but
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  we're not willing to let something new into
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  our lives.
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  That's a big problem for a lot of
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  people, right?
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  Number 18, learn what needs to be learned.
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  Ask what the experience taught you.
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  Maybe you need stronger boundaries, better communication, greater
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  awareness, or different expectations.
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  Take the useful lesson with you.
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  And I've said before, when you learn something,
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  don't be captive to the whole thing, right?
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  Realize what the lesson is, take the lesson,
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  and then move on, guys.
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  Move on.
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  Move on.
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  Because that's the whole key, guys, is moving
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  on, right?
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  That's the whole thing.
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  We can move on.
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  If we do, our life will change.
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  And we have to throw away not everything,
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  just the things that are bothering us.
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  Just keep the lesson, right?
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  Number 19, leave what doesn't need to follow
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  you.
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  Not everything deserves to come forward.
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  Keep the wisdom, but consider leaving behind the
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  endless questioning, imaginary conversations, anger, and need to
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  rewrite what happened.
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  What went on?
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  How did this transpire, right?
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  That's an important piece that a lot of
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  people I just don't think understand, right?
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  I don't think a lot of people get
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  that.
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  And the reason they don't get it is
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  because they're too busy working on where they're
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  going, right?
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  I think that's an important thing that, again,
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  many people just don't get it, right?
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  And I will tell you that these are
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  important things, guys.
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  These are very, very important things for us
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  to be aware of and know of, OK?
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  But we have to be aware of these
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  things, right?
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  We have to be aware of these things.
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  Why?
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  OK, because of what's going on, OK?
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  What's going on and what will happen?
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  What's going on and what's going to happen?
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  That's an important piece, guys.
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  Very, very important piece.
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  So number 20 is stop searching for another
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  interpretation.
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  Sometimes we keep changing the angle because we're
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  hoping to find an interpretation that hurts less.
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  Eventually, you may have understood enough.
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  Another analysis isn't always another answer, guys.
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  Number 21, sometimes what happened is simply what
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  happened.
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  Not every event contains a hidden explanation.
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  Waiting to be discovered.
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  Sometimes people make poor choices.
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  Sometimes relationships end.
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  Sometimes things don't work.
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  Reality doesn't always prove a satisfying explanation.
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  So we can't keep holding our head and
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  saying, oh my gosh, what am I going
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  to do?
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  What am I going to do?
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  What am I going to do?
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  Let's focus on what we can do.
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  I think that's probably one of the most
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  important things for us to understand, OK?
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  Let's think about that for a moment.
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  Think about that for just a moment.
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  And what does it mean?
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  It means a lot, guys.
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  It means a lot.
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  But we've got to be open to these
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  kinds of conversations.
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  Number 22, your future doesn't need every answer
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  from your past.
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  You may think it does, but I'm here
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  to tell you it doesn't.
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  And you can learn in different ways, guys.
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  You can learn in different ways every single
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  day.
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  That's an important thing.
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  You don't need a complete investigation of yesterday
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  before you're going to allow it to build
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  tomorrow.
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  There may always be unanswered questions.
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  Your future can still move forward without you
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  knowing the answer to every question of your
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  past.
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  And we put us into this, I'm going
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  to say, enigma of what do I do
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  all because I don't understand one thing, all
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  right?
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  And the one thing might be that you
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  actually know something that maybe you don't know.
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  I think a lot of people out there
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  realize one thing, OK?
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  And that one thing is this, right?
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  That one thing is the fact that you
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  can make this change in your life if
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  you are open to it.
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  Number 23, give yourself permission, guys, to stop
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  investigating.
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  You don't need to keep collecting evidence 24
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  hours a day, checking old messages, replaying conversations
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  in your head, or examining every detail.
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  At some point, you can decide you've investigated
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  enough, and I'm ready to move forward with
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  my life.
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  Are you OK with that answer?
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  Or do you feel like you need to
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  reverse engineer every thought from every person?
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  That'll burn you out, guys.
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  That will burn you out like you just
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  don't understand.
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  Number 24, stop looking backward for something that
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  only exists ahead.
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  That's important, guys, OK?
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  Very important.
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  The piece you're searching for may not be
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  hidden somewhere in the past, OK?
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  It may come from building enough of a
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  future that the old experience stops dominating your
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  attention.
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  How's that for a concept?
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  But when I tell people this, they're like,
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  oh, John, I don't know if I want
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  to believe that.
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  OK.
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  You can believe whatever you want to believe.
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  But if you keep taking yourself down the
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  same path and you're not getting any further,
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  why would you want to keep doing that?
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  That's just a question I have, OK?
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  That's the big question I have for all
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  of you.
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  That's important.
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  Very, very important.
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  Number 25, closure can be a decision, right?
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  Whether we're going to get it, or maybe
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  we're not going to get the decision.
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  That's very possible.
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  Closure isn't something another person hands you.
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  No.
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  Sometimes closure is saying, I understand enough.
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  I've learned enough.
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  I've heard enough.
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  I'm ready to stop giving this my energy
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  anymore.
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  There might be a time when somebody just
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  doesn't respond to you.
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  That might be the closure.
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  It may not be the closure that you
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  actually want to get, because you think you
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  should be giving something else, like an apology,
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  or a better reason.
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  I think that's an important piece, something that
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  maybe you just don't understand.
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  And it's something that we've definitely got to
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  think about, OK?
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  Understand when enough is enough, or when you're
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  not getting the feedback.
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  Don't push for it.
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  Number 26, decide when enough thinking is enough.
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  Reflection has value, but it needs a stopping
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  point, right?
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  If you've asked the same questions repeatedly over
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  and over again, and nothing new is emerging,
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  give yourself permission to redirect your energy and
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  your mind.
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  You love yourself.
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  Why are you putting yourself all this through
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  persecution?
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  Why?
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  That's the whole thing I want to ask
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  you.
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  The question is, why?
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  I think that's something that a lot of
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  people, like, they don't necessarily get, OK?
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  They don't necessarily get it.
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  That's important, guys.
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  We have to redirect our mind.
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  Give yourself permission to redirect.
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  Number 27, redirect yourself without denying what actually
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  happened to you, or you experienced.
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  Moving your attention forward isn't pretending the experiences
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  didn't matter.
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  You can acknowledge what happened honestly, while deciding
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  it doesn't deserve unlimited access to your thoughts.
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  And when you make the decision, hopefully you're
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  going to be like, oh, wait a minute.
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  Now I finally get this.
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  Now I see why this is going that
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  way, right?
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  Number 28, the past cannot change, but your
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  relationships with it can.
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  This is where your power exists.
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  You can't edit the event, but you can
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  change how much attention it receives, what meaning
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  you give it, and how much influence it
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  has over your life.
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  Remember, when you detach from something, it doesn't
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  control you anymore.
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  Throw away the event, but just keep the
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  lesson if it's painful for you.
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  Number 29, your attention belongs in your life
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  right now, not later.
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  Your life is happening now, this very moment.
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  There are people, opportunities, goals, experiences, and possibilities
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  around you right this very minute.
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  Don't let something you cannot change consume the
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  attention those things deserve, right?
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  Number 30, guys, stop replaying what you cannot
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  rewrite.
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  That's the challenge I want to leave you
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  with today.
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  You can't mentally rehearse your way into a
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  different past.
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  At some point, another replay becomes another payment
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  to something that's already taken enough from you.
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  Think about what your mind keeps returning to.
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  Is there a conversation?
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  You continue rehearsing.
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  An explanation you're still waiting for.
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  A question you've already asked yourself hundreds of
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  times.
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  Maybe you know the answer, but you don't
• 22:56
  want to get that answer.
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  So you keep saying, gee, is there another
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  answer?
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  Is there another answer?
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  You know what the answer is.
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  But you keep saying, gee, did it change?
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  Did it change?
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  No, it didn't change.
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  Maybe you've learned everything that experience can teach
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  you.
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  You don't have to forget it.
• 23:08
  You don't have to pretend it didn't hurt.
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  You don't need every unanswered question to suddenly
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  just disappear.
• 23:16
  But you can focus on it less.
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  Just keep the attention on what matters.
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  Keep the attention only on the lesson.
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  But you can decide that you've given it
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  enough attention.
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  Take the lesson.
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  Keep the wisdom.
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  Strengthen whatever needs strengthening.
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  Then give your mind somewhere new to go.
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  There's something powerful about realizing that closure doesn't
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  always require another person's participation.
• 23:41
  Sometimes you close the door yourself because you're
• 23:45
  finally ready to use your energy somewhere else.
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  And that's a very smart move when we
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  choose to move on.
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  You may get people say, oh, come on.
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  Can't you handle it?
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  No, you're making the right choice to put
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  your energy somewhere else.
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  See, ladies and gentlemen, your past cannot be
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  rewritten, unfortunately.
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  But your next decision hasn't been made yet.
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  So you could change that.
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  Your attention belongs in your life.
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  Doesn't deserve to be floundering or putting you
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  in some kind of precarious situation.
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  Right?
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  I think that's an important piece that a
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  lot of people, again, don't realize.
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  A lot of people don't realize what that
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  means.
• 24:43
  They don't understand what that means and why
• 24:45
  that means something.
• 24:47
  I think that's something, again, a lot of
• 24:48
  people will say, gee, that's nice.
• 24:50
  But is it really what we want?
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  And I think that's a big question for
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  a lot of people to think about.
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  Your attention, ladies and gentlemen, it belongs in
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  your life.
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  Don't let other circumstances, situations try to pull
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  you away from that.
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  Because people will.
• 25:11
  They will try to pull you away from
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  it every single day because they think that's
• 25:15
  going to be the right thing.
• 25:17
  OK?
• 25:18
  They think that's going to be the way
• 25:20
  to go.
• 25:20
  They think if they manipulate you, that that's
• 25:25
  enough.
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  OK?
• 25:30
  That's what they think it's about.
• 25:39
  I think that's an important piece for all
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  of us to understand and what it actually
• 25:45
  means to us.
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  Right?
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  Right?
• 25:50
  That's very, very important, guys.
• 25:52
  Very, very important.
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  Ladies and gentlemen, if you don't know who
• 25:55
  I am by now, allow me to reintroduce
• 25:57
  myself.
• 25:57
  I am John C.
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  Morley.
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  I'm a serial entrepreneur, author, and much more.
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  And this has been another amazing, powerful episode
• 26:06
  of Inspirations for Your Life.
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  I thank you so much for spending time
• 26:13
  with me today so we can share these
• 26:17
  great lessons where we can become better versions
• 26:20
  of ourselves every single day.
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  I know we went over a lot.
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  And I know you're saying, John, but it's
• 26:26
  in my head.
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  I can't get it out.
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  You can change what you're thinking about right
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  now, guys.
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  You can.
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  I said your past cannot be rewritten.
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  OK?
• 26:38
  But your next decision hasn't been made yet.
• 26:41
  And you can make it.
• 26:45
  And when we're thinking about this, I want
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  you to know something really important.
• 26:50
  Stop replaying what you cannot rewrite.
• 26:53
  And start investing the time and energy into
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  what you still can create.
• 26:58
  Because there's so much you can do and
• 27:01
  change with new stuff.
• 27:03
  Don't worry about the past because you can't
• 27:05
  change it.
• 27:08
  Let's focus on the things we can change
• 27:12
  and leaving our energy away from the things
• 27:14
  that we can't.
• 27:17
  Because when we see the little things we
• 27:18
  can change, we say, wait, I have a
• 27:20
  lot of power.
• 27:22
  But then when we look at things we
• 27:23
  can't change, we're like, wait a minute, I'm
• 27:24
  not powerful.
• 27:25
  It's how we put our perspective on something.
• 27:29
  Does that make sense to everybody?
• 27:30
  I hope it does.
• 27:32
  Because if you start approaching this in a
• 27:35
  very interesting way, you're gonna say, wait a
• 27:38
  minute, I have more power than I thought.
• 27:40
  And the truth, ladies and gentlemen, is you
• 27:41
  really do.
• 27:42
  You have more power than you thought.
• 27:45
  That's the real truth right here.
• 27:46
  You have more power than you thought.
• 27:50
  I'm gonna see you on another show real
• 27:51
  soon.
• 27:52
  Please do check out BelieveMeAchieved.com for more
• 27:55
  of my amazing, and of course, inspiring creations.
• 27:58
  And I'll see you real soon, everyone.
• 28:00
  Be well.
• 28:00
  Bye for now.