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- 0:00Speaker 1: Conversation with my son yesterday. I'm like, listen, I haven't
- 0:01Speaker 1: done a check of your clothing. Do you have winter clothes?
- 0:05Speaker 1: Cause it's going to be cold the next couple of
- 0:06Speaker 1: days and you are not wearing shorts to school. Cause
- 0:09Speaker 1: when it's 30 degrees outside and you wear shorts to school,
- 0:11Speaker 1: they look at the parent, but I don't necessarily think
- 0:13Speaker 1: that if you're a senior in high school, that's just
- 0:14Speaker 1: a dumb decision on your part.
- 0:15Speaker 2: So I can't do that. All right.
- 0:17Speaker 1: We want to do a little research and Ray, you
- 0:19Speaker 1: wanted to find out how people found us.
- 0:21Speaker 3: Yeah, because it's so funny. I feel like whenever we
- 0:24Speaker 3: do events or we meet people, they're like, oh, yeah,
- 0:26Speaker 3: you know, my boyfriend introduced me to you guys. Or
- 0:29Speaker 3: I'm only here because I was dragged here to like
- 0:31Speaker 3: an event or whatever. But or they were in an
- 0:35Speaker 3: Uber and they heard our station playing. So it's interesting
- 0:38Speaker 3: to hear where you heard us the first time or
- 0:41Speaker 3: how you found out about us.
- 0:42Speaker 1: I always ask that and they say the same thing.
- 0:44Speaker 1: And Doc and Johnny. And I'm just like, really? That
- 0:48Speaker 1: means you've been riding with us for years. Cheers. Now,
- 0:53Speaker 1: here's the thing that gets me. Look, I know how
- 0:55Speaker 1: old I am, okay? And I know how old some
- 0:57Speaker 1: of y'all are. When y'all come up to say to
- 1:00Speaker 1: me that you listened in middle school, I'm like, mm-hmm.
- 1:05Speaker 2: The math ain't math.
- 1:06Speaker 4: That is my favorite. When people say that to you,
- 1:08Speaker 4: you're like, eh.
- 1:09Speaker 2: I'll call you. Yeah, are you sure about that?
- 1:12Speaker 5: I don't know if.
- 1:13Speaker 2: I do the math on that now. But that's cool.
- 1:15Speaker 2: That's cool.
- 1:16Speaker 1: So we want to find out, how did you find
- 1:19Speaker 1: Johnny's House? How did you find us? When did you
- 1:21Speaker 1: start listening? What turned you on to us? And what
- 1:24Speaker 1: makes you stick around? We're doing our own little research.
- 1:26Speaker 1: And just like research, we pay you. How about a
- 1:28Speaker 1: pair of tickets to see Doja Cat November 15th at
- 1:31Speaker 1: the Kia Center? Okay, we're asking the one question. It's
- 1:34Speaker 1: pretty simple. Just sit back and ask yourself, hmm. How
- 1:37Speaker 1: did I get turned on to Johnny's house? How did
- 1:39Speaker 1: I find out about Johnny's house? And what is it
- 1:42Speaker 1: about him that keeps me there every single day? And
- 1:44Speaker 1: this is our way of saying thank you. But we
- 1:46Speaker 1: want to kind of just kind of curiosity. Instead of
- 1:48Speaker 1: hearing it in the streets, we're going to ask you
- 1:50Speaker 1: on the air.
- 1:50Speaker 6: 407-919-1067, 877-919-1067.
- 1:51Speaker 1: If you can't get through, you're still eligible.
- 1:58Speaker 2: You can text.
- 1:58Speaker 1: Our Excel mobile is 41067. Live streamers, we're very interested
- 2:03Speaker 1: in hearing what y'all do. And we'll throw it out
- 2:04Speaker 1: on social media also. How'd you find out? We got
- 2:07Speaker 1: Doja Cat tickets. A little research from us to you.
- 2:10Speaker 1: Hit us up because we want to answer your questions
- 2:11Speaker 1: on Johnny's House. How did you find Johnny's House? You're
- 2:15Speaker 1: listening every day, or when you do, how did you
- 2:18Speaker 1: find it? How did you get your start? We got
- 2:20Speaker 1: tickets to see Doja Cat coming up on the 15th,
- 2:23Speaker 1: and we will hook you up. Let's talk to Kendra
- 2:26Speaker 1: from Orlando.
- 2:26Speaker 2: Hey, Kendra.
- 2:28Speaker 1: Hi.
- 2:28Speaker 7: Good morning.
- 2:29Speaker 2: Good morning. So how'd you find us?
- 2:31Speaker 8: So I'm a 90s baby.
- 2:33Speaker 7: Okay.
- 2:34Speaker 8: So when I was little, my mom used to listen
- 2:38Speaker 8: to 106.7. And I started singing like Candy Shop and
- 2:44Speaker 8: things from Usher and And then she realized these are
- 2:48Speaker 8: really not appropriate for a.
- 2:53Speaker 6: Little kid to be listening to.
- 2:54Speaker 8: So she would change me to another radio station. Back
- 2:56Speaker 8: then it was Disney. Yeah, Disney Radio.
- 3:00Speaker 2: Disney Radio, yes, yes.
- 3:02Speaker 8: So 990 AM was the Disney Radio. So she would
- 3:06Speaker 8: change it to that. And when she would leave the
- 3:09Speaker 8: room or something, I would change it back to 106.7
- 3:11Speaker 8: and start making my own dances.
- 3:13Speaker 2: Wow.
- 3:14Speaker 8: To, like, yeah, by Usher.
- 3:16Speaker 2: Think about it. You were TikTok before it was TikTok.
- 3:18Speaker 2: You were.
- 3:19Speaker 8: Exactly, except we didn't have cameras and stuff like that
- 3:22Speaker 8: just yet.
- 3:23Speaker 2: Yes.
- 3:23Speaker 8: So that's how I learned about 106.7. My mom introduced it,
- 3:27Speaker 8: then she realized I was singing the songs. realize what
- 3:30Speaker 8: the lyrics meant and then she was like no no
- 3:33Speaker 8: no no no no no here's the.
- 3:34Speaker 1: Funny thing a lot of times the kids don't know
- 3:36Speaker 1: what the lyrics like take me to the candy shop
- 3:39Speaker 1: you don't know what that means nope.
- 3:40Speaker 6: We're gonna go get some lollipops yes yes.
- 3:46Speaker 8: My mom was like, oh, no, that's not the correct
- 3:48Speaker 8: lollipops that we're supposed to be talking about.
- 3:51Speaker 4: Are you kidding me? Some of these Sabrina Carpenter songs.
- 3:55Speaker 4: It's crazy.
- 3:58Speaker 8: My kids don't listen to the radio unless it's a
- 4:00Speaker 8: Spanish station just because they don't know what they're listening to.
- 4:03Speaker 2: All right. You hold on a second. From the land. Hey, Janice.
- 4:08Speaker 9: Hey, good morning.
- 4:09Speaker 2: All right, Janice. How'd you find us?
- 4:11Speaker 9: So I was scrolling through radio stations. I had just
- 4:15Speaker 9: moved here from New York 18 years ago. And I
- 4:17Speaker 9: was looking for a station similar to Hot 97. And
- 4:22Speaker 9: I dawned on you guys. I think it was Johnny
- 4:25Speaker 9: and Jenna.
- 4:26Speaker 2: Johnny and Jade, yes. Jade, yes.
- 4:29Speaker 9: And then the funny story is, though, that Brian... He
- 4:33Speaker 9: started talking, and I thought he was a Spanish guy
- 4:36Speaker 9: from up north.
- 4:36Speaker 2: Of course, everybody does.
- 4:37Speaker 9: And I thought it was sarcasm.
- 4:39Speaker 6: Yes. So I was like.
- 4:40Speaker 9: Oh, I found my station. And I've been listening to
- 4:43Speaker 9: you guys ever since, driving my kids to high school
- 4:47Speaker 9: at Lake Mary High.
- 4:48Speaker 1: Yes.
- 4:48Speaker 9: My little one to Seminole High, and my little one
- 4:51Speaker 9: now to Sanford Middle. I've been listening to you.
- 4:53Speaker 8: Guys ever since.
- 4:54Speaker 2: Wow. Just because you thought Brian was Spanish. Look at that.
- 4:58Speaker 1: That's funny.
- 4:59Speaker 2: I got you.
- 4:59Speaker 9: No, I love that you guys were talking more in
- 5:02Speaker 9: the mornings than just playing music.
- 5:04Speaker 2: Yeah.
- 5:04Speaker 7: I loved it.
- 5:05Speaker 8: Yeah.
- 5:05Speaker 2: Okay.
- 5:06Speaker 6: All right.
- 5:06Speaker 2: You hold on a second there, Janice. Jasmine from Orlando.
- 5:10Speaker 2: Good morning. Good morning.
- 5:12Speaker 6: How are you guys?
- 5:13Speaker 2: Good, Jasmine. How you find us?
- 5:16Speaker 6: Um, my mom actually put me on to you guys.
- 5:19Speaker 6: We used to, in 2011, we used to drive downtown
- 5:22Speaker 6: and she used to take me to school. I used
- 5:24Speaker 6: to sing traffic with her.
- 5:27Speaker 2: Traffic!
- 5:29Speaker 6: That's my favorite part. And I used to sing it
- 5:31Speaker 6: every time. I know, I know your guys' number by heart.
- 5:33Speaker 6: I didn't even have to, I just put it in
- 5:35Speaker 6: my phone. I didn't even need to save it or anything.
- 5:38Speaker 6: I just know it by heart right now.
- 5:39Speaker 2: Really? Is this your first time calling?
- 5:43Speaker 6: Yeah, actually.
- 5:44Speaker 2: You've never called the station before?
- 5:46Speaker 6: No, I tried, but you guys are so busy now.
- 5:49Speaker 2: Wow. That is so cool.
- 5:51Speaker 1: A lot of people say middle school, and I just
- 5:54Speaker 1: assume it's because at that age, the parents let you
- 5:57Speaker 1: take control of the radio.
- 5:59Speaker 6: Yeah.
- 6:00Speaker 1: Before you had to listen to what they had to,
- 6:01Speaker 1: but now middle school, what do you want to listen to?
- 6:05Speaker 6: No, I mean, I was listening to everything, but my
- 6:08Speaker 6: mom was kind of anal about the radio. She did
- 6:11Speaker 6: not play. It's either gospel or 106.7.
- 6:13Speaker 2: That's what I'm talking about. 106.7 is gospel. I'm just saying.
- 6:17Speaker 6: That's what I'm saying. So I was like, put on 106.7.
- 6:20Speaker 6: I'll listen to my thing and.
- 6:21Speaker 2: Call it a day. There you go.
- 6:23Speaker 1: That's nice.
- 6:24Speaker 2: 106.7 or gospel. Wow. Again from the land. Hey, Lisa.
- 6:30Speaker 1: Hey.
- 6:30Speaker 7: Hey.
- 6:31Speaker 2: Lisa, how you finding?
- 6:33Speaker 10: I'm another middle schooler.
- 6:35Speaker 6: My mommy's always listening to you.
- 6:36Speaker 10: Guys, and it's never changed since then. I've got kids
- 6:39Speaker 10: in high school now, and they expect to hear you
- 6:42Speaker 10: guys in the morning. If someone's voice is missing, they're concerned, like,
- 6:45Speaker 10: where's Ray? What's going on? It's their thing now, too.
- 6:50Speaker 8: I think I'm on Three Generations.
- 6:56Speaker 2: That's the craziest thing.
- 6:56Speaker 10: I mean, even my five-year-old gets in the car and
- 6:59Speaker 10: she knows.
- 7:00Speaker 7: It's our routine.
- 7:01Speaker 10: It's our thing. And y'all's conversations on the radio turn
- 7:04Speaker 10: into good conversations that we end up having in the
- 7:07Speaker 10: car and pick up on it.
- 7:09Speaker 2: And we think about that.
- 7:10Speaker 1: We think about parents that are taking their kids to school.
- 7:14Speaker 1: And we try to make everything a little later in
- 7:17Speaker 1: the morning when the kids are in school.
- 7:18Speaker 2: But yeah, we think about that.
- 7:20Speaker 10: Yeah, the conversations that you guys have are good conversation
- 7:23Speaker 10: starters for us, and then we all just end up
- 7:25Speaker 10: laughing before, you know, anyone gets dropped off, and it
- 7:27Speaker 10: just makes.
- 7:28Speaker 8: For a good morning.
- 7:28Speaker 1: Oh, okay. I like that. Ray, what are they saying?
- 7:32Speaker 4: Let's see here. A lot of moms. A lot of
- 7:34Speaker 4: moms are introducing Johnny's house.
- 7:37Speaker 3: Somebody said, I heard the show when we moved to
- 7:39Speaker 3: Altamont in 2012, we moved from North Tampa to.
- 7:42Speaker 2: Okay.
- 7:43Speaker 3: And they continue to listen from 2012. Until now. I
- 7:46Speaker 3: lived in Virginia and have never lived in Florida. When
- 7:49Speaker 3: Pulse happened, Elvis Duran called to see how you guys were.
- 7:52Speaker 3: And I love the family vibe, so they actually researched
- 7:55Speaker 3: us and listened ever since.
- 7:56Speaker 2: Yeah, he did call that day. And Brian.
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- 8:03Speaker 11: A lot of people have found us on the school bus.
- 8:05Speaker 5: Yes, school bus. Their bus driver was listening, and they
- 8:08Speaker 5: found us on the school bus, which is crazy.
- 8:10Speaker 2: That's fun.
- 8:11Speaker 5: So a lot of people all the way back to
- 8:13Speaker 5: Doc and Johnny.
- 8:14Speaker 11: Some people just moved into town and just were looking
- 8:16Speaker 11: for a replacement for whatever they had locally and came
- 8:18Speaker 11: across us back then. There was no, like, streaming, so
- 8:21Speaker 11: you couldn't go back to your hometown radio.
- 8:23Speaker 2: You had to hear it then. Yeah. Man. Kendra, you're
- 8:26Speaker 2: the first one to say, I want to get in.
- 8:27Speaker 1: We're going to hook you up with a pair of
- 8:29Speaker 1: tickets to see Doja Cat November 15th at the Kia Center.
- 8:32Speaker 1: We come back now. We're going to talk about, you know,
- 8:34Speaker 1: we love bringing you new terms. And this is a
- 8:38Speaker 1: new one, and we'll see if you'll join in on it.
- 8:39Speaker 1: I'm introducing you to new terms and phrases. And today's term, Brian,
- 8:44Speaker 1: where did you find it? I just came across something
- 8:45Speaker 1: I was reading.
- 8:46Speaker 2: Okay. And what is it?
- 8:47Speaker 5: It's a dumper's remorse.
- 8:49Speaker 2: Dumpers remorse. And we've talked about.
- 8:51Speaker 11: A lot of things on here, but I thought I
- 8:53Speaker 11: was thinking when I first heard it, I'm like, well,
- 8:54Speaker 11: I don't think we've ever discussed that idea.
- 8:57Speaker 2: Yeah.
- 8:57Speaker 5: And my whole time here.
- 8:58Speaker 2: Okay.
- 8:59Speaker 5: So the idea of it is that you decided you're
- 9:01Speaker 5: going to break up with someone.
- 9:02Speaker 1: Okay.
- 9:02Speaker 2: Like I'm done. I'm finished. You do it.
- 9:05Speaker 11: And then within 24, 48 hours, you start to feel like, well,
- 9:07Speaker 11: that was a bad idea.
- 9:08Speaker 5: I probably shouldn't have done that. And then you have
- 9:11Speaker 5: the remorse, obviously.
- 9:12Speaker 2: Oh, yeah, because you realize you made a bad decision.
- 9:14Speaker 11: And in some cases, you try to get them back.
- 9:16Speaker 11: And in some cases, you just have to move on
- 9:18Speaker 11: and realize, well, damn, I screwed that up. But we've
- 9:20Speaker 11: never really talked about that before.
- 9:22Speaker 2: I don't recall ever dumping somebody. They usually break up
- 9:24Speaker 2: with me. Same.
- 9:25Speaker 5: I don't break up with people.
- 9:27Speaker 4: So you think they have dumper's remorse for breaking up
- 9:29Speaker 4: with you?
- 9:29Speaker 2: I mean, I would if I broke up with me.
- 9:32Speaker 2: Of course.
- 9:34Speaker 11: Oh, I think every person that ever dated me before
- 9:39Speaker 11: now thinks I'm the one that got away.
- 9:41Speaker 1: Yeah.
- 9:41Speaker 5: I'm pretty certain of it.
- 9:43Speaker 1: Man, that got to be a horrible feeling, though. I
- 9:45Speaker 1: was thinking, I don't know if.
- 9:47Speaker 4: I should shake my head yes or no. I don't know.
- 9:50Speaker 2: I don't care.
- 9:51Speaker 5: Say what you think.
- 9:52Speaker 2: I don't know.
- 9:53Speaker 4: You guys are all catches, both of you.
- 9:55Speaker 1: I mean, my ex, I would doubt no. There was
- 9:59Speaker 1: no remorse from that.
- 10:00Speaker 2: That. That was done.
- 10:02Speaker 1: Other than that, no, they usually somehow break up with me.
- 10:05Speaker 1: And I'm cool with that because I'm one of those
- 10:08Speaker 1: that have stuck it out. I'm not a quitter. Even
- 10:11Speaker 1: though our relationship is bad, I'm not a quitter. But
- 10:14Speaker 1: I can imagine doing that and then wanting that person back. Right.
- 10:18Speaker 6: Yeah.
- 10:20Speaker 2: But I know me. I'd go get them. Hey, I'm
- 10:22Speaker 2: going to have to humble myself.
- 10:23Speaker 3: I was going to say, you have to literally bring
- 10:25Speaker 3: yourself back down to earth and be like, okay, listen,
- 10:28Speaker 3: I think I made a mistake.
- 10:29Speaker 4: And then whether that person is like, okay, yeah, I
- 10:32Speaker 4: agree with you. We should be together.
- 10:33Speaker 2: Yeah.
- 10:34Speaker 4: Or maybe they came to the realization too. Hey, yeah,
- 10:37Speaker 4: you're right.
- 10:38Speaker 2: I stopped.
- 10:39Speaker 1: I stopped seeing someone and saw them out. This is about,
- 10:41Speaker 1: you know, second part of my life when I was
- 10:42Speaker 1: a jerk. And I saw out with a guy and
- 10:45Speaker 1: I went over and talked to her. But I talked
- 10:47Speaker 1: to her so long that the guy got.
- 10:48Speaker 2: Married and left. Right.
- 10:49Speaker 5: But you didn't want her back, really. You were just
- 10:51Speaker 5: upset that she was out with someone else.
- 10:52Speaker 2: Oh, my gosh.
- 10:54Speaker 9: You would.
- 10:54Speaker 5: That's a classic jerk move.
- 10:55Speaker 2: You would. I said, wow, he left. My bad. Cool,
- 11:01Speaker 2: I'm out.
- 11:03Speaker 4: You're like, okay, if it's not me, it's no one.
- 11:06Speaker 1: Believe me, I felt the karmic debt of all of that.
- 11:10Speaker 1: You don't put stuff like that out in the universe
- 11:13Speaker 1: and don't expect it to come back. Oh, it came back.
- 11:15Speaker 1: That's why I'm the humble little kitten you see right now. Ray?
- 11:20Speaker 3: I honestly don't think I've ever broken up with somebody.
- 11:23Speaker 2: What's up with the three of us? Good Lord.
- 11:25Speaker 4: I don't know because I feel like, I mean.
- 11:29Speaker 2: I'm a fixer.
- 11:31Speaker 11: So that's my personality. So I'll figure it out. So
- 11:33Speaker 11: if there's a problem in our relationship, I'm not just
- 11:35Speaker 11: going to run.
- 11:36Speaker 2: I'll figure it out.
- 11:37Speaker 4: Actually, I did end my marriage.
- 11:38Speaker 1: Yeah.
- 11:39Speaker 2: Yeah.
- 11:39Speaker 4: I don't think I've said that out loud.
- 11:41Speaker 2: No, you haven't.
- 11:42Speaker 1: No.
- 11:42Speaker 11: No.
- 11:42Speaker 2: I don't think so. I mean, you're in a comfortable
- 11:44Speaker 2: place where you can.
- 11:45Speaker 4: Yeah, yeah, yeah.
- 11:46Speaker 3: So I did end that, but I think that was
- 11:48Speaker 3: kind of also like a mutual thing that we knew
- 11:51Speaker 3: that it had to kind.
- 11:52Speaker 5: Of be over.
- 11:53Speaker 2: It would be like someone saying, you know what? I
- 11:56Speaker 2: think we should break up. And they go, you know what?
- 11:58Speaker 2: I'm glad you brought that up.
- 11:59Speaker 5: Yes, exactly.
- 12:00Speaker 2: Me too.
- 12:01Speaker 5: Yes, yeah.
- 12:02Speaker 2: I've been thinking that.
- 12:03Speaker 4: Before my marriage, honestly, I think that, mm-mm.
- 12:06Speaker 1: See, Brian's a fixer. I love him with my heart.
- 12:09Speaker 1: My heart is like, hey, we can deal with this.
- 12:12Speaker 1: We're going to work through this. My parents were married
- 12:17Speaker 1: 68 years.
- 12:19Speaker 2: So it was never, you don't quit. You stay in there.
- 12:23Speaker 5: I saw my mom.
- 12:24Speaker 11: In her relationships, not her fault necessarily quit six times.
- 12:28Speaker 11: So for me, it was like, okay, I'm not doing that.
- 12:30Speaker 4: I'm not going to do that.
- 12:31Speaker 11: I'm not, I mean, I'm sure my wife had numbers
- 12:33Speaker 11: remorse when she kicked me out because we were separated
- 12:36Speaker 11: by her choice.
- 12:37Speaker 7: Yeah.
- 12:37Speaker 5: So clearly it took about 18 months for that remorse
- 12:40Speaker 5: to set in.
- 12:41Speaker 1: Yeah.
- 12:42Speaker 5: Eventually she had remorse because we're back together.
- 12:44Speaker 2: I would assume.
- 12:45Speaker 3: But also you had to change some things for her
- 12:47Speaker 3: to want to get back together with you.
- 12:49Speaker 5: I didn't change nothing. I didn't change nothing.
- 12:52Speaker 1: I think if I had it. and I really had it,
- 12:57Speaker 1: I would have to humble myself and get that person back.
- 12:59Speaker 2: I'd have to get them back. I mean, you know,
- 13:02Speaker 2: there's a point. Okay.
- 13:03Speaker 1: There's a point in time when a woman has had enough,
- 13:06Speaker 1: when she's had enough, you're not getting back in there. You,
- 13:08Speaker 1: no matter what you say or do, you can look,
- 13:11Speaker 1: they're done. But if there's that little, that little, you
- 13:15Speaker 1: know what? Maybe we'll talk later.
- 13:16Speaker 2: Oh yeah.
- 13:16Speaker 1: That's my shot. I'm going to try everything to get
- 13:19Speaker 1: back in. But then to say, you know what? You
- 13:21Speaker 1: did what you did. What we had is over. I'm
- 13:24Speaker 1: moving over. I'm moving on. And I suggest you two,
- 13:27Speaker 1: it's over. But if they go, you know what? I
- 13:29Speaker 1: do miss you sometimes. And sometimes, you know, and you're like, oh,
- 13:32Speaker 1: I'm going.
- 13:32Speaker 2: To get back in. Yeah.
- 13:33Speaker 5: Right on, baby.
- 13:34Speaker 1: Then after about four or five months, you realize, oh,
- 13:37Speaker 1: I see why I left. That does happen, too. So
- 13:40Speaker 1: I want to find out from you, have you ever
- 13:42Speaker 1: had a dumper's remorse? And what did you do? Did
- 13:47Speaker 1: you try to get that person back? Or you just
- 13:48Speaker 1: always look at that person as the one that got away?
- 13:52Speaker 1: And it does happen sometimes. 407-919-1067, 877-919-1067. You know the numbers.
- 13:59Speaker 1: Go ahead and call us if you can't.
- 14:00Speaker 2: You can text.
- 14:01Speaker 1: Our Excel mobile is 41067. They're already talking about it
- 14:04Speaker 1: on the live stream. We'll throw it on social media.
- 14:07Speaker 1: Dumpers remorse. If you had it or someone had it
- 14:09Speaker 1: for you, how did it all work out? Call us
- 14:11Speaker 1: now on Johnny's house. Cloudy, increasing clouds with a high
- 14:17Speaker 1: of 82, 67, 846. And this is Johnny's house. Dumpers remorse.
- 14:21Speaker 1: That's where you broke up with someone and said, get
- 14:22Speaker 1: up out of here. I'm done with you. And out
- 14:24Speaker 1: the wire, you're like, you know what? Maybe that was
- 14:26Speaker 1: not the best move. I want to find out if
- 14:28Speaker 1: you have ever had it. I want to guard and hey, shell.
- 14:32Speaker 1: So you had dumpers remorse.
- 14:35Speaker 7: I didn't have it. My ex-husband had it.
- 14:37Speaker 10: Oh.
- 14:38Speaker 2: And what did he try to do to get you back?
- 14:42Speaker 7: Well, it's more the fact that he dumped me was
- 14:45Speaker 7: the best part of it. But just because he converted
- 14:49Speaker 7: to Catholicism, I adopted his daughter. And then he sat
- 14:52Speaker 7: me down at the kitchen table and said, you know,
- 14:54Speaker 7: I don't think I'm cut out for marriage.
- 14:56Speaker 6: So I left.
- 14:58Speaker 7: And then he told me, you know, several months later,
- 15:01Speaker 7: over and over again, you know, you've had your fun.
- 15:03Speaker 6: This has been real.
- 15:05Speaker 7: But you really, really need to come back home. Like,
- 15:07Speaker 7: I don't know what he didn't want me to take
- 15:09Speaker 7: it seriously. He had the best man from our wedding
- 15:12Speaker 7: show up at my house and say, look, if you
- 15:14Speaker 7: don't go back to him, I have failed my job
- 15:17Speaker 7: as the best man. I don't know what to tell you.
- 15:19Speaker 7: I don't know what to tell you. He told me
- 15:20Speaker 7: he was done to move on. And so I got
- 15:23Speaker 7: a divorce. And now he's got dumper's remorse.
- 15:26Speaker 2: Yeah.
- 15:27Speaker 6: Wow.
- 15:27Speaker 2: The best. I mean, you know what?
- 15:29Speaker 1: You got to be hurting really bad to tell your
- 15:32Speaker 1: boy who's your best friend.
- 15:33Speaker 2: Hey, man, go over there and get it back.
- 15:35Speaker 1: I mean, you your boy, because he's the first one
- 15:39Speaker 1: is going to say, seriously, man, you messed it up.
- 15:41Speaker 2: Move on.
- 15:43Speaker 1: Anybody that's a true best friend is going to tell
- 15:44Speaker 1: you that.
- 15:45Speaker 6: Has that ever worked?
- 15:47Speaker 7: Where, oh, you know what?
- 15:48Speaker 6: You're right.
- 15:49Speaker 7: I need to go back to my ex-husband.
- 15:50Speaker 2: You know what, Shell?
- 15:51Speaker 1: As I mentioned before, if you had just, the door
- 15:55Speaker 1: was open just a little bit.
- 15:57Speaker 2: But yours was closed and locked. It probably has worked.
- 16:00Speaker 7: Yeah.
- 16:01Speaker 5: I mean, it's not like a common thing. But with you,
- 16:03Speaker 5: the door was locked.
- 16:04Speaker 1: And once the door was locked, you said, no, you're
- 16:06Speaker 1: not getting back in.
- 16:07Speaker 3: Oh, yeah.
- 16:07Speaker 2: Yeah.
- 16:08Speaker 6: No, no, we're done.
- 16:09Speaker 2: Yeah. Yeah. That's the thing. And when she says she's done,
- 16:12Speaker 2: she is done. Right. Right. I got you. And the
- 16:17Speaker 2: thing is, like, hey, I care for you, but I
- 16:19Speaker 2: ain't going back.
- 16:21Speaker 7: Yeah, not after I invested so much and then you
- 16:24Speaker 7: tell me it's over and what. Now you're trying to
- 16:26Speaker 7: twist it like I'm the one who needed to go
- 16:28Speaker 7: have a midlife crisis.
- 16:30Speaker 6: No, no, it's done.
- 16:31Speaker 2: You're like, more please.
- 16:34Speaker 7: Yes, yes, exactly.
- 16:35Speaker 2: All right, thank you for sharing that.
- 16:38Speaker 7: Thank you.
- 16:39Speaker 2: All right, bye-bye.
- 16:41Speaker 4: Honestly, nobody on Facebook has dumper's remorse.
- 16:43Speaker 2: Really?
- 16:44Speaker 4: Yeah, they knew that the relationship had to end.
- 16:46Speaker 1: Yeah, they said it's incredibly heavy. It's a unique kind
- 16:50Speaker 1: of grief. It's a mix of guilt, anxiety, realization that
- 16:53Speaker 1: the grass isn't greener on the other side. Here's something
- 16:57Speaker 1: that's funny. When you go back, the power dynamic in
- 17:00Speaker 1: a relationship shifts.
- 17:01Speaker 2: It switches. Oh, yeah. Yes.
- 17:03Speaker 3: Because that person that you broke up with now has
- 17:05Speaker 3: the upper hand for sure.
- 17:07Speaker 2: Yes, because they came back. And now you got to
- 17:09Speaker 2: step on eggshells because you know what? I'll leave again. Because,
- 17:11Speaker 2: first of all, you told me to leave, so I
- 17:13Speaker 2: ain't comfortable enough.
- 17:14Speaker 1: So you're like, do you want something to drink?
- 17:17Speaker 2: Can I get you something to eat?
- 17:18Speaker 4: Now, that's a very unhealthy dynamic to have, though.
- 17:21Speaker 1: It is. Look, if I had the power dynamic and
- 17:25Speaker 1: I break up with you and I go back, I mean,
- 17:27Speaker 1: I'm groveling.
- 17:28Speaker 2: I'm humbling.
- 17:29Speaker 1: I'm sorry, baby. And every day, can I get you something, blah, blah, blah. Yes,
- 17:33Speaker 1: you are in control at that particular time.
- 17:35Speaker 11: You just have to use the power responsibly.
- 17:37Speaker 2: Yeah.
- 17:38Speaker 1: Yes.
- 17:38Speaker 2: You ain't got to be a bitch.
- 17:40Speaker 4: No, no, no, no.
- 17:40Speaker 2: You don't have to be.
- 17:41Speaker 4: You can't abuse your power.
- 17:42Speaker 5: We understand that you're in charge here.
- 17:43Speaker 1: Brian, some people will do it just to get back
- 17:46Speaker 1: with you because you hurt them.
- 17:47Speaker 2: Yeah. You know. What do they say over there? Let's see.
- 17:49Speaker 5: Exxon Mobil powered by attorney Dan Newland in a wreck.
- 17:51Speaker 2: Need a check?
- 17:52Speaker 11: It's a no-brainer. Just call attorney Dan Newland. He said,
- 17:55Speaker 11: I do, but I told him not to wait, and
- 17:56Speaker 11: now he's happily married. Well, that can happen. That can truly.
- 18:03Speaker 2: Yeah. That can happen.