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Discipline or Regret: The Choice Is Yours · Motivation Mindset Podcast

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  Speaker 1: Where does self confidence come from? And this is the
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  Speaker 1: best advice I can give you on that, not neglecting
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  Speaker 1: first of all, the small daily discipline. Self confidence really
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  Speaker 1: comes from feeling good about yourself. And one of the
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  Speaker 1: best ways to feel good about yourself is at the
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  Speaker 1: end of the day, to know that you poured it on,
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  Speaker 1: you did your best. If you conducted a meeting, you
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  Speaker 1: did the best you could. If you made a phone call,
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  Speaker 1: it was the best phone call you could possibly make.
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  Speaker 1: If you wrote a letter, it wasn't a casual letter,
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  Speaker 1: it was your best letter. At the end of those
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  Speaker 1: kind of days, when you feel good about yourself, self
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  Speaker 1: confidence starts to rise.
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  Speaker 2: You know that if you can have this kind of a.
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  Speaker 1: Good day, you can have another one the next day,
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  Speaker 1: and those days become the weeks, the weeks become the months,
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  Speaker 1: and the month becomes a powerful year.
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  Speaker 2: I gotta key phrase for you. Life accumulates.
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  Speaker 3: We either accumulate the debt or the value. We either
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  Speaker 3: accumulate the regret, or we accumulate the equity. Now we
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  Speaker 3: must all suffer one of two pains, the pain of
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  Speaker 3: discipline or the pain of regret. And I'm suggesting discipline.
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  Speaker 3: Mental discipline to refine ideas. Of course it's laborious, and
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  Speaker 3: of course it's a push, but it's called small price
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  Speaker 3: to pay so that you won't have the regret later on.
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  Speaker 3: Regret weighs tons, discipline weighs ounces. I'm telling you for
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  Speaker 3: things to get better, you got to get better. Don't
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  Speaker 3: ask for it to change out there, ask for you
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  Speaker 3: to change here. Don't ask for a more favorable wind.
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  Speaker 3: We call that naive.
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  Speaker 1: Don't ask for better seed, better soil.
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  Speaker 2: This is the only planet you've got.
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  Speaker 1: Just ask that you can get wiser and stronger and better,
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  Speaker 1: be able to take care of your own responsibilities, get better,
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  Speaker 1: learn how to handle the seasons better. Let's go through them.
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  Speaker 1: Just get better at handle the winters. You can't change
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  Speaker 1: the winter, you can't change the seasons, but you can
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  Speaker 1: change yourself. The whole key is to make yourself valuable.
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  Speaker 1: The key is to make yourself attractive. The key is
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  Speaker 1: to make yourself skill, competent, willing, powerful, unique, sophisticated culture,
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  Speaker 1: being able to mandage, in control, healthy. The whole key
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  Speaker 1: really to the future is personal development. Because the greatest
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  Speaker 1: gift you can give to someone else is your personal development.
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  Speaker 1: Self development, self investment. If I become ten times wiser,
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  Speaker 1: ten times stronger, ten times brighter, ten times more competent,
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  Speaker 1: think of what that will do for my success. Your
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  Speaker 1: success is fuel your ambition. Your successes give you extra energy.
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  Speaker 1: Your successes pave the way for more successes. It's the
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  Speaker 1: snowball effect. With one success, you're excited to meet another,
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  Speaker 1: and another, and another, and pretty soon the disciplines that
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  Speaker 1: were so difficult in the beginning, the disciplines that got
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  Speaker 1: you going, are now part of your philosophy. There is
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  Speaker 1: one magic word that stands out above all the rest.
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  Speaker 1: It is discipline. Discipline is the bridge between thought and accomplishment,
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  Speaker 1: between inspiration and achievement, between necessity and productivity. Remember, all
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  Speaker 1: good things are located upstream from us. The passing of
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  Speaker 1: time takes us a drift, and drifting only brings us
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  Speaker 1: the negative, the disappointment, and the failure.
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  Speaker 2: Failure is not a cataclysmic event.
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  Speaker 1: It is not generally the result of one major incident,
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  Speaker 1: but rather of a long list of accumulated little failings.
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  Speaker 1: If your goal requires that you write ten letters today,
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  Speaker 1: and you write only three, you are down seven letters.
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  Speaker 1: If you want to make five calls, and only make one.
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  Speaker 2: You are down four calls.
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  Speaker 1: If your plan calls for saving ten dollars today and
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  Speaker 1: you save none, you are down ten dollars. The danger
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  Speaker 1: is looking at an undisciplined day and concluding that no
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  Speaker 1: great harm has been done. But add up these days
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  Speaker 1: to make a year, and then add up those years
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  Speaker 1: to make a lifetime, and it will become apparent how
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  Speaker 1: repeating today's small failures can easily turn your life into
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  Speaker 1: a major disaster. Success, on the other hand, is just
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  Speaker 1: the same process in reverse. If you plan to make
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  Speaker 1: ten calls and you end the day having made fifteen,
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  Speaker 1: you are up five calls. You can see what a
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  Speaker 1: massive difference this sort of thing could make in a year,
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  Speaker 1: and what wealth and accomplishment await over a lifetime. Discipline
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  Speaker 1: is like a set of magic keys that can unlock
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  Speaker 1: all the doors of wealth, happiness, culture, high self esteem, pride, joy, accomplishment, satisfaction,
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  Speaker 1: and success. The first key to discipline is awareness of
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  Speaker 1: the need for and value of discipline, especially the discipline
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  Speaker 1: to make the necessary changes. What will it take, What
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  Speaker 1: must I do, and what must I become to get
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  Speaker 1: all I want from life. The second key is willingness
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  Speaker 1: more than that, it is the eagerness to maintain your
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  Speaker 1: new discipline deliberately, wisely, and consistently. The third key to
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  Speaker 1: discipline is the commitment to master the circumstances of your
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  Speaker 1: daily life, to see and harness the opportunities to make
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  Speaker 1: something of the good as well as that which comes
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  Speaker 1: in the god of misfortune. Discipline does many things, but
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  Speaker 1: most important of all is what it does for your mindset.
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  Speaker 1: It makes you feel better about yourself. Even the smallest
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  Speaker 1: discipline can have an incredible effect on your attitude and
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  Speaker 1: the good feeling you get. That surging feeling of self
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  Speaker 1: worth that comes from starting a new discipline is almost
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  Speaker 1: as good as the feeling that comes from the accomplishment
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  Speaker 1: the discipline brings. A new discipline immediately alters your life direction.
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  Speaker 1: You don't change destinations immediately. That is yet to come,
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  Speaker 1: but you can change direction immediately, and direction is very important.
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  Speaker 1: Discipline cooperates with nature. Everything strives. It is a common
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  Speaker 1: life function. How tall will a tree grow? As tall
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  Speaker 1: as it can? Everything strives to become all it can
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  Speaker 1: possibly be, and that is what discipline is all about.
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  Speaker 1: To fulfill our natural potential, to become all that we
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  Speaker 1: can be the human will. In Action, driven by inspiration,
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  Speaker 1: enticed by desire, tempered by reason, guided by intelligence, can
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  Speaker 1: bring you to that high and lofty place called the
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  Speaker 1: good life. Discipline attracts opportunity, which is always attracted to
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  Speaker 1: ambition and skill.
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  Speaker 2: In action.
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  Speaker 1: Discipline taps the unlimited power of commitment. Discipline those unique
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  Speaker 1: steps of intelligent thought and activity that put a lid
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  Speaker 1: on temper and a faucet on courtesy, that develop the positive.
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  Speaker 2: And control the negative.
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  Speaker 1: That encourage success and deter failure, That shape lifestyle and
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  Speaker 1: control frustration. That enhance health and curb sickness, that promote
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  Speaker 1: happiness and manage sadness. Discipline the continuing process that brings
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  Speaker 1: all the good things. Remember, anyone can start the process.
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  Speaker 1: It's not if I could I would rather, it's if
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  Speaker 1: I would I could, If I will, I can so.
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  Speaker 2: Start the process.
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  Speaker 1: Begin a new habit, no matter how small it is.
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  Speaker 1: Size isn't important. Whether or not you start and whether
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  Speaker 1: or not you continue are all that matter.
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  Speaker 2: What's at the.
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  Speaker 1: Core of achieving the good life. It is not learning
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  Speaker 1: how to set goals. It is not learning how to
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  Speaker 1: better manage your time. It is not mastering the attributes
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  Speaker 1: of leadership. Every day, in a thousand different ways, we
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  Speaker 1: are trying to improve ourselves by learning how to do things.
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  Speaker 1: We spend a lifetime gathering knowledge in classrooms, in textbooks,
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  Speaker 1: in experiences. And if knowledge is power, if knowledge is
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  Speaker 1: the forerunner to success.
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  Speaker 2: Why do we fall short of our objectives?
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  Speaker 1: Why, in spite of all our knowledge and collected experiences,
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  Speaker 1: do we find ourselves aimlessly wandering, settling for a life
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  Speaker 1: of existence rather than a life of substance. There may
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  Speaker 1: be many answers to this question. Your answer may be
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  Speaker 1: different from that of everyone else you know. While there
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  Speaker 1: may be many answers to this question, the ultimate answer
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  Speaker 1: may be the absence of discipline in applying our knowledge.
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  Speaker 1: The keyword is discipline, as in self discipline. It doesn't
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  Speaker 1: really matter how smart you are if you don't use
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  Speaker 1: your knowledge. It doesn't really matter that you graduated magna
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  Speaker 1: cum laude if you're stuck in a low paying job.
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  Speaker 1: It doesn't really matter that you attend every seminar that
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  Speaker 1: comes to town if you don't apply what you've learned.
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  Speaker 1: We spend our lives gathering gathering knowledge, gathering skills, gathering experiences,
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  Speaker 1: but we must also apply the knowledge, skills, and experiences
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  Speaker 1: we gather in the realms of life and business. We
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  Speaker 1: must learn to use what we've learned, and once we've
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  Speaker 1: applied our knowledge, we must study the results of that
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  Speaker 1: process and refine our approach. Finally, by trying and observing
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  Speaker 1: and refining and trying again, our knowledge will inevitably produce worthy,
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  Speaker 1: admirable results. And with the joy and results of our efforts,
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  Speaker 1: we continue to fuel our ambition with the positive reinforcement
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  Speaker 1: of continued progress. Pretty soon we'll find that we're swept
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  Speaker 1: into a spiral of achievement.
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  Speaker 2: A vertical rise to success, and.
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  Speaker 1: The ecstasy of that total experience makes for a life
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  Speaker 1: triumphant over tragedy, dullness, and mediocrity. But for this whole
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  Speaker 1: process to work for us, we must first master the
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  Speaker 1: art of consistent self discipline. It takes consistent self discipline
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  Speaker 1: to master the arts of setting goals, time management, leadership, parenting,
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  Speaker 1: and relationship. If we don't make consistent self discipline part
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  Speaker 1: of our daily lives, the results we seek will be
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  Speaker 1: sporadic and elusive. It takes a consistent effort to truly
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  Speaker 1: manage our valuable time. Without it will be consistently frustrated,
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  Speaker 1: our time will be eaten up by others whose demands
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  Speaker 1: are stronger than our own. It takes discipline to conquer
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  Speaker 1: the nagging voices in our minds, the fear of failure,
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  Speaker 1: the fear of success, the fear of poverty, the fear
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  Speaker 1: of a broken heart. It takes discipline to keep trying
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  Speaker 1: when that nagging voice within us brings up the possibility
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  Speaker 1: of failure. It takes discipline to admit our errors and
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  Speaker 1: recognize our limitations. The voice of the human ego speaks
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  Speaker 1: to all of us. Sometimes that voice tells us to
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  Speaker 1: magnify our value or accomplishments beyond.
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  Speaker 2: Our actual results.
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  Speaker 1: It leads us to exaggerate, to not be totally honest.
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  Speaker 1: It takes discipline to be totally honest, both with ourselves
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  Speaker 1: and with others.
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  Speaker 2: Be certain of one thing.
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  Speaker 1: Every exaggeration of the truth, once detected by others, destroys
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  Speaker 1: our credibility.
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  Speaker 2: It makes all that.
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  Speaker 1: We say and do suspect. As soon as a business
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  Speaker 1: colleague figures out that we tend to exaggerate, guess what
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  Speaker 1: he'll think. We always exaggerate, and he'll never quite hold
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  Speaker 1: us in the same regard again. The tendency to exaggerate, distort,
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  Speaker 1: or even withhold the truth is an inherent part of
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  Speaker 1: all of us. It starts when we're kids. Johnny says,
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  Speaker 1: I didn't do it, I didn't do it. Well, maybe
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  Speaker 1: Johnny didn't do it, but he probably had something to
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  Speaker 1: do with it.
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  Speaker 2: And then it continues when we're.
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  Speaker 1: Adults, the benefits of a product to make a sale,
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  Speaker 1: exaggerating our net worth to impress old friends, exaggerating how
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  Speaker 1: close we are to closing a deal to impress the boss.
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  Speaker 1: Only an all out, disciplined assault can overcome this tendency.
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  Speaker 1: It takes discipline to change a habit, because once habits
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  Speaker 1: are formed, they act like a giant cable and nearly
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  Speaker 1: unbreakable instinct that only long term, disciplined activity can change.
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  Speaker 1: We must unweave every strand of the cable of habits,
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  Speaker 1: slowly and methodically, until the cable that once held us
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  Speaker 1: in bondage becomes nothing more than scattered strands of wire.
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  Speaker 1: It takes the consistent application of a new discipline, a
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  Speaker 1: more desirable discipline, to overcome one which is less desirable.
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  Speaker 1: It takes discipline to plan. It takes discipline to execute
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  Speaker 1: our plan. It takes discipline to look with full objectivity
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  Speaker 1: at the results of our applied plan, and it takes
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  Speaker 1: discipline to change either our plan or our method of
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  Speaker 1: executing that plan if the results are poor. It takes
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  Speaker 1: discipline to be firm when the world throws opinions at
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  Speaker 1: our feet, and it takes discipline to ponder the value
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  Speaker 1: of someone else's opinion when our pride and our arrogance
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  Speaker 1: leads us to believe that we are the only ones
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  Speaker 1: with the answers. With this consistent discipline applied to every
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  Speaker 1: area of our lives, we can discover untold miracles and
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  Speaker 1: uncover unique possibilities and opportunities.