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5. Mastering Failure - the 100% success guarantee · The Impossible Life

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  Speaker 1: And the seal one guarantee for success. That is not
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  Speaker 1: a transactional relationship with success. What you're saying is, I
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  Speaker 1: know I will do all of these things right, and
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  Speaker 1: success is an inevitability. Not that I earned it, not
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  Speaker 1: that I'm entitled to it, but that I know I
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  Speaker 1: will find it no matter what.
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  Speaker 2: That's impossible. Let me tell you what I believe.
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  Speaker 3: What your weakness is, not your technique? Yes, yes, don't
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  Speaker 3: think you.
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  Speaker 2: Know the Impossible Life podcast.
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  Speaker 1: Man, They're sitting on a winning lottery protector, an idea
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  Speaker 1: that is fully formed, fully understood, that sticks. This is
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  Speaker 1: the Impossible Life Podcast because Nick and I are attempting
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  Speaker 1: to live impossible lives. What we know is that nothing
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  Speaker 1: is impossible. So instead of using impossible as an excuse
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  Speaker 1: to not try, we'll use the pursuit of impossible as
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  Speaker 1: an accelerant for greatness. If something's never been done before,
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  Speaker 1: that just means it's unexplored. If they tell you it's
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  Speaker 1: too hard, it's just waiting to be simplified. Impossible as
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  Speaker 1: a default label used by uncourageous people unwilling to take
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  Speaker 1: a risk. The real truth is this The solution to
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  Speaker 1: any impossible task starts with this question. If I had to,
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  Speaker 1: what would it take?
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  Speaker 2: All Right, guys, welcome to episode five and this one.
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  Speaker 2: I have a feeling it's going to be a doozy.
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  Speaker 2: I'm looking across at a man who eats nails for
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  Speaker 2: breakfast and drinks motor oil to wash it down. Garrett
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  Speaker 2: Uncle Black, my co host the Navy.
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  Speaker 3: Seal, I have nothing to say to that.
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  Speaker 2: Well, that's a first. Anyways, I'm glad that you're enjoying
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  Speaker 2: your introductions because I'm going to keep I'm going to
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  Speaker 2: keep making though I enjoy that as well. Okay, today
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  Speaker 2: we are basically mopping up not just the way of
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  Speaker 2: my poor performance on last week's episode, but dealing with
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  Speaker 2: something that everybody deals with, and that is failure. The
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  Speaker 2: reason I bring up last week's episode is because at
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  Speaker 2: the time it didn't fail. I appreciate that I failed
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  Speaker 2: as far as what I would have wanted to do
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  Speaker 2: my Maybe you didn't meet That's okay, that's that's accurate.
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  Speaker 2: I did not meet my expectations. I gotta say, man,
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  Speaker 2: it was kind of hard watching that video after watching
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  Speaker 2: you do yours, because I think I had a very
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  Speaker 2: sobering moment and this was not the point, the point
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  Speaker 2: of last week's episode was dealing with pain. And I
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  Speaker 2: think that there's some amazing things in there, and I
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  Speaker 2: know I've grown from just listening to that and understanding
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  Speaker 2: the concepts in there. But the whole point was that
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  Speaker 2: I fell short, like you said, of my own expectation,
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  Speaker 2: and when I sat there and watched your video of
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  Speaker 2: a guy who I would say is an expert in
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  Speaker 2: cold water, which I'm sure you're probably thinking there's no
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  Speaker 2: such thing as experts in cold water, because.
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  Speaker 3: Well, believe it or not, just a quick fun fact
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  Speaker 3: for you.
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  Speaker 1: I didn't know this until after I got out of
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  Speaker 1: the military, but I was reading about it, believe or not,
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  Speaker 1: in National Geographic There is a cold water gene. There's
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  Speaker 1: a gene where some people react more harshly to cold
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  Speaker 1: water than others.
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  Speaker 3: I don't know if I have it.
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  Speaker 2: Oh well, yeah, I mean I don't think that was
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  Speaker 2: the point. The point is you've trained your pain and
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  Speaker 2: you you can deal with it. So but yeah, just
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  Speaker 2: after watching that, I think it was a very humbling moment.
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  Speaker 2: I'll just put it that way. To compare my performance
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  Speaker 2: with yours in the water, and I allowed pain to
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  Speaker 2: definitely dictate some of my performance. But that's the whole
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  Speaker 2: point of this. So we're here because we want to
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  Speaker 2: grasp I mean, we've talked about this. If you take
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  Speaker 2: away that you.
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  Speaker 1: Got from that iPath experience is the takeaway that I
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  Speaker 1: want everyone to have from this.
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  Speaker 2: Podcast exactly, and that's that's to be looking at yourself
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  Speaker 2: and understanding that there is more to life and that
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  Speaker 2: there's another level and that impossible is a leap off,
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  Speaker 2: and it's to change your thinking and elevate your whole view.
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  Speaker 2: But as part of this, as I learned by going
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  Speaker 2: in the cold tank with you, failure is going to
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  Speaker 2: be a part of this process. One now, as everybody
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  Speaker 2: should know by now, you are a former Navy seal.
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  Speaker 2: But let's be honest. The ethos says you earn your
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  Speaker 2: tride and every day and you've told me many times
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  Speaker 2: that you still hold yourself to Yeah, that.
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  Speaker 1: Doesn't the ethos doesn't say earn your tride in every
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  Speaker 1: day in parentheses while on active duty.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, and I've watched you and you definitely live by that.
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  Speaker 2: But you guys also have something in your ethos which
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  Speaker 2: says I guarantee one hundred percent success. Yeah, what a
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  Speaker 2: saying can you imagine I don't. I've never heard anyone
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  Speaker 2: say that in any walk of life about anything. And
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  Speaker 2: you guys just and you guys are going like, hey,
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  Speaker 2: you know chaotic situation that knows.
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  Speaker 3: That is that is what we advertise.
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  Speaker 1: And if I had to say, like who would have
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  Speaker 1: the audacity to advertise something like that? I would say
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  Speaker 1: that no individual does, but only teams do. And they
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  Speaker 1: are called the sealed teams for a reason. So but
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  Speaker 1: we'll talk about maybe both elements here of overcoming failure
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  Speaker 1: or guaranteeing success from an end of individual perspective, but
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  Speaker 1: also from a team perspective.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah.
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  Speaker 2: No, I think that that's a really interesting thing now.
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  Speaker 2: I think as you look at like saying something like
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  Speaker 2: I guarantee one hundred per success and you talk about
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  Speaker 2: overcoming failure, I mean, this is real world getting out
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  Speaker 2: and executing and doing what you've said you're going to
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  Speaker 2: do and accomplishing your mission. I'm big on motivation. I
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  Speaker 2: believe in it. I know that you believe in motivation.
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  Speaker 2: But there's a great quote, I think it's from zig Ziggler.
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  Speaker 2: It says motivation is like a warm bath. You should
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  Speaker 2: have one every day, and then Tony Robbins parrophrased his
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  Speaker 2: own version and said, yeah, it's great you should have
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  Speaker 2: a bath every day, but you can't live in there.
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  Speaker 2: And that's exactly it. So we're talking about somebody. Now
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  Speaker 2: they've set out they want to make their life better,
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  Speaker 2: whether it's changing their core beliefs, building discipline, you know,
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  Speaker 2: facing their pains, and you've failed, and you're sitting there
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  Speaker 2: and you're looking and you're going, this did not go
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  Speaker 2: at all how I wanted to. And I don't know
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  Speaker 2: that people will will rationally think all these things and
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  Speaker 2: know that they're thinking them. But as always when we're
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  Speaker 2: talking on this podcast, you're thinking happens so naturally, and
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  Speaker 2: it can happen by default if you don't take hold
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  Speaker 2: of it. I would say a big challenge that we
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  Speaker 2: always have is that we want you to think by
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  Speaker 2: design and for people to be aware of what's going
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  Speaker 2: on in their head and to take control and make choices.
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  Speaker 2: So now you're at that point, I've failed and you're wondering, Okay,
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  Speaker 2: where do I go from here?
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  Speaker 1: That's what we want to come. Yes, so let me
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  Speaker 1: give some history. Let me give some history to that
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  Speaker 1: saying in the first place, because when the Seal Ethos
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  Speaker 1: was written, which was in the mid two thousands, I believe.
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  Speaker 1: I don't know the specific date, but I know the
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  Speaker 1: large group of Master chiefs went to San Clemente Island
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  Speaker 1: and wrote that as a group. We could talk about
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  Speaker 1: that at a different time. That was a few years
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  Speaker 1: before I had joined the Navy, because guys were telling
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  Speaker 1: me the story of it being written. So it was
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  Speaker 1: in the mid two thousands when.
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  Speaker 3: That had been written.
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  Speaker 1: When that was written, guys had quote unquote failed missions before.
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  Speaker 1: And what I mean by that is like men had
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  Speaker 1: died on missions and they did not accomplish that mission
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  Speaker 1: at that day. Right, So when they say I guarantee
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  Speaker 1: you one hundred percent success, I'm not saying I will
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  Speaker 1: never quit because it specifically says that another point in
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  Speaker 1: the Sial Ethos. What they are saying when they say
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  Speaker 1: I guarantee one hundred percent mission success is that we
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  Speaker 1: will accomplish the mission. And if we encounter failure, if
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  Speaker 1: we encounter obstacles, if we don't get it done today
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  Speaker 1: because of whatever, because of things outside of our control,
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  Speaker 1: we will get it done tomorrow. We will not quit
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  Speaker 1: in pursuit of this mission. We're the most capable, we're
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  Speaker 1: the most trained, we're the most dedicated, and whatever happens
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  Speaker 1: will get it done.
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  Speaker 3: That is what they're saying.
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  Speaker 1: So it's not that you'll never like not hit hit
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  Speaker 1: it the first time, because that is an unrealistic expectation
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  Speaker 1: that like every ball that comes over the plate, I'll
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  Speaker 1: put over the fence. Right, that's not what they're saying.
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  Speaker 1: They're saying, I will.
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  Speaker 3: Put the ball over the fence. That's what they're saying.
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  Speaker 1: So if you want to So for example, we've talked
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  Speaker 1: to I think I mentioned it before on this podcast,
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  Speaker 1: Michael Monsur Medal of Honor winner. He quit his first
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  Speaker 1: time at Bud's. No one tells that story. And I'm
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  Speaker 1: not saying that story to demean him. I'm saying that
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  Speaker 1: no one focuses on that. I'm saying that he quit
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  Speaker 1: his first time, and he said, that's not true.
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  Speaker 3: That's not me.
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  Speaker 1: I quit, but I'm going to come back. This is
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  Speaker 1: not who I am. He overcame his failure, he guaranteed
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  Speaker 1: mission success. They gave him the Medal of Honor, and
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  Speaker 1: he quit his first time at Buds.
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  Speaker 3: Right, that is what it.
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  Speaker 1: That is what it means when it says I guarantee
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  Speaker 1: one hundred percent mission success.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, I love that man. That is okay. I appreciate
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  Speaker 2: you clarifying that because it does sound it can be taken.
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  Speaker 1: Out of context. Sure, it can sound arrogant or irrational.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, I would say this probably sounds like more like Superman,
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  Speaker 2: like you know, nothing can hurt us and we're just enstopable.
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  Speaker 2: And that's obviously not the case.
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  Speaker 1: You guys are all human, and so there's there's two
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  Speaker 1: parts to it. So the first part is the team
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  Speaker 1: work portion and the reason that you're saying I can
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  Speaker 1: guarantee one hundred percent mission success. It's a mindset of
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  Speaker 1: I will control all the controllables we've talked about in
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  Speaker 1: the last episode with pain. Pain being one of those
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  Speaker 1: controllables that you need to be able to control. Seals
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  Speaker 1: when they make that, when they advertise that claim of
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  Speaker 1: one hundred percent mission success, they're saying, I will control
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  Speaker 1: every possible controllable. I can't control all the uncontrollables. We'll
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  Speaker 1: do everything we can to mitigate them. We'll do everything
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  Speaker 1: we can to minimize them, and if we give one
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  Speaker 1: hundred percent, we control all the controllables. And we still
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  Speaker 1: lose that day, we will come back the next day
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  Speaker 1: and no one is as dedicated as we are to
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  Speaker 1: this mission, and eventually, because we control all the controllables,
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  Speaker 1: we will win. That's what they're saying. And Patrick Lincioni
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  Speaker 1: says it in five Dysfunctions of a team. He says,
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  Speaker 1: if you and I'm not going to say it perfectly,
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  Speaker 1: but this is a great quote that goes right along
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  Speaker 1: with this way of thinking. He says, if you can
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  Speaker 1: get everyone on a team, or everyone in a boat
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  Speaker 1: metaphorically rowing in the same direction, doing the same thing,
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  Speaker 1: you can dominate in any industry, at any time and
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  Speaker 1: any circumstance. That's what the Sealed teams believe. They say, Look,
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  Speaker 1: no one's more dedicated at us than this. We will
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  Speaker 1: give one hundred percent. We are the most skilled and
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  Speaker 1: the most trained. The percentage of circumstances that we would
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  Speaker 1: lose our minuscule, and if we do, we'll be back
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  Speaker 1: the next day. That is what I guarantee one hundred
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  Speaker 1: percent mission success is. It is saying that my success
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  Speaker 1: isn't an inevitability because of what I believe and because
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  Speaker 1: of what I do every day.
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  Speaker 2: Man, I feel like you just literally gave a summary
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  Speaker 2: of everything we've talked about so far on this podcast.
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  Speaker 1: Well, it's a big that is a huge piece. It's
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  Speaker 1: a pillar of what the impossible life is about.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, And I do feel like we keep coming back
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  Speaker 2: to those things. And I've heard you say many times
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  Speaker 2: that you need to hear once, but you need to
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  Speaker 2: be reminded of it many times. And so I think
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  Speaker 2: that that's I guess we're kind of naturally doing that.
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  Speaker 2: So switching back, and actually before we switch back, you've
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  Speaker 2: made some comments about how golf is better than baseball,
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  Speaker 2: and I will point out that when you're giving these
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  Speaker 2: little you know, I don't know, colloquialisms for lack of
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  Speaker 2: a better word, you said, if you.
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  Speaker 1: Love adotes is what I'm giving. And I'm putting a
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  Speaker 1: ball over the fence. I take it easy time putting
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  Speaker 1: a ball. I'm just helping you out with your terms,
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  Speaker 1: and I know where you're going with this. I'm saying,
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  Speaker 1: put a ball over the fence because more people understand
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  Speaker 1: and relate to baseball than they.
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  Speaker 2: Do golf, because baseball is better. Anyways, I'm glad that
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  Speaker 2: we established that and moving on, So dealing with failure.
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  Speaker 1: Baseball is played by more people because it's not as
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  Speaker 1: hard as golf.
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  Speaker 2: That's okay, you're gonna get you off on a hold.
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  Speaker 3: We can keep going. Let's see what you got, dude.
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  Speaker 2: It's participation, man, one of the things. And this is
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  Speaker 2: what this is. Actually why soccer is the world's game
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  Speaker 2: is because you all you need is a ball in
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  Speaker 2: the field. You don't need a bunch of special equipment.
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  Speaker 2: You don't need someone to mowdil on a certain way.
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  Speaker 2: So you can go out there in your little kaki
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  Speaker 2: shorts and feel good about yourself.
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  Speaker 3: It's fine. You can think that.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, I've seen the pictures, bro, I've seen your matching shorts. Okay,
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  Speaker 2: anybody can kick a soccer ball. If you actually know
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  Speaker 2: what you're doing, you'll know that that's not true. Anybody
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  Speaker 2: can kick a ball. Call. Anybody can hit a golf ball.
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  Speaker 2: They just can't hit it well or save the soccer true. Anyways,
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  Speaker 2: there's a lot of rage in this room right now,
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  Speaker 2: and I don't want that because I know I'll lose.
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  Speaker 2: But okay, so going back to this, we are going
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  Speaker 2: to deal with failure. And I love that you gave us.
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  Speaker 2: Thank you for giving that perspective one hundred percent success,
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  Speaker 2: because you definitely changed my take on that because when
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  Speaker 2: I read that, I was just like, man if I
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  Speaker 2: sat there in front of clients and said, I want
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  Speaker 2: one hundred percent guarantee you you know whatever they were
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  Speaker 2: looking to do all ten x your revenue, like you're
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  Speaker 2: going to fail on that. So I love that you
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  Speaker 2: gave us the perspective. But when we're talking about dealing
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  Speaker 2: with failure, yeah, I would.
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  Speaker 1: Say if I were sitting in your shoes, I would
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  Speaker 1: tell a client, I guarantee market acceptance. I may not
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  Speaker 1: get it on the first ball, but I will get
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  Speaker 1: it on the second or the third.
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  Speaker 2: Well, yeah, next time I have a client that's being
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  Speaker 2: difficult with me, I'm just going to hand the phone
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  Speaker 2: to you, just like, by the way, this guy can
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  Speaker 2: kill you anyways. Uh So, going back to it, we're
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  Speaker 2: dealing with failure. Everyone has their mountain, right, every single person.
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  Speaker 2: And I feel like when we say everyone has their mountain,
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  Speaker 2: that's kind of once again one of those sayings that
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  Speaker 2: sounds very cliche. But what we're really saying is I
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  Speaker 2: find that you Well, I'm gonna ask you, do you
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  Speaker 2: feel like people who have failures in lots of different
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  Speaker 2: areas of their life. Usually those failures show up in
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  Speaker 2: different places, but they're tied to one central thing.
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  Speaker 3: Is that.
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  Speaker 2: Am I kind of understanding that?
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  Speaker 3: I say it a different way. I'm not sure understand
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  Speaker 3: what you mean.
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  Speaker 2: Okay, you said a few weeks back when we were
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  Speaker 2: speaking that there's some people who are just good it
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  Speaker 2: life everything they do. So when I'm asking about everyone
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  Speaker 2: has their mountain, let's say your mountain is confidence. Is
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  Speaker 2: self confidence? That may be your mountain, but self confidence
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  Speaker 2: can be like, oh I can't get a date or
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  Speaker 2: I can't seem to get a job. So you're going
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  Speaker 2: to have these failures in different areas. Sure do you
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  Speaker 2: find that? Am I reading that right? When I'm saying
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  Speaker 2: everyone has their mountain?
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, And you're asking if there's a universal theme, and
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  Speaker 1: the universal theme is their way of thinking.
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  Speaker 2: Oh okay, so there you go. So when we're saying
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  Speaker 2: everyone has their mountain, you're going straight to the root
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  Speaker 2: of it, which is it's going to be a mindset.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah.
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  Speaker 1: Mindset is what it's going to take to climb your mountain. Now,
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  Speaker 1: everyone's mountain looks different. I don't just mean in terms
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  Speaker 1: of how big, like I mean the obstacles on that mountain,
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  Speaker 1: or if you want to make it metaphorical, some people's
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  Speaker 1: mountain is a hike. Some people's mountain, you know, is
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  Speaker 1: a vertical stone face with ropes and climbing shoes. Right,
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  Speaker 1: everyone's mountain looks different. But it all comes back to
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  Speaker 1: a way of thinking. And if I was going to
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  Speaker 1: prepare for mountain climbing, I'm not going to say, like
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  Speaker 1: for me, my preparation style would not be like, Okay,
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  Speaker 1: I need to, you know, analyze every piece of the
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  Speaker 1: mountain and what technical gear do I need here? I'm
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  Speaker 1: going to say, what do I need to have? What
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  Speaker 1: way do I need to think? What type of training
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  Speaker 1: that I do I need to do that I can
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  Speaker 1: climb any mountain?
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  Speaker 2: Man, that is such a different I don't want to
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  Speaker 2: get sidetracked because every time you say something like that,
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  Speaker 2: I have like ten follow up questions that immediately pop up.
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  Speaker 2: I'm gonna go ahead and just suppress those for right now.
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  Speaker 2: But you did say something about like the obstacles, and
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  Speaker 2: I have wondered about this. You guys do so many
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  Speaker 2: different obstacles in buzz training and as part of being
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  Speaker 2: a CeAl.
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  Speaker 3: I love obstacle courses.
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  Speaker 1: I wasn't good at everything in BUDS training, but I
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  Speaker 1: was really good at the obstacle course.
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  Speaker 3: I enjoy that stuff.
• 14:42
  Speaker 2: So so how does this mindset I'm going to ask
• 14:44
  Speaker 2: you to help me put some legs on what we're
• 14:46
  Speaker 2: talking about here. How does the you talked about It
• 14:49
  Speaker 2: starts with the mindset and you gave the example of
• 14:51
  Speaker 2: climbing a mountain in buds. You guys have to face
• 14:54
  Speaker 2: obstacle courses. And I don't know a lot about budds because,
• 14:56
  Speaker 2: as I've highlighted many times, I've never been through buds
• 15:00
  Speaker 2: and I've not watched your beloved documentary yet. I need
• 15:03
  Speaker 2: to watch that actually because I Buzz Class two thirty four. Yeah,
• 15:06
  Speaker 2: I will watch that otherwise I won't understand.
• 15:09
  Speaker 1: Well, So taking it to buds that kind of what
• 15:11
  Speaker 1: you're hitting at, and we'll walk in that direction and
• 15:13
  Speaker 1: then you can ask me some more questions. But everyone
• 15:16
  Speaker 1: has their own mountain and seal training. Like for me,
• 15:19
  Speaker 1: my mountain was actually like it was It felt like
• 15:22
  Speaker 1: a massive mountain to me. This is a great lesson
• 15:25
  Speaker 1: right on perspective and helping others and all of that.
• 15:27
  Speaker 1: My mountain was running, Like I passed all of the
• 15:30
  Speaker 1: timed runs and buds by seconds. And I had a
• 15:33
  Speaker 1: really great swim buddy who I would swim with and
• 15:36
  Speaker 1: then on the runs he would pace me on the runs,
• 15:38
  Speaker 1: like running for him was easy, and I'm like dying
• 15:41
  Speaker 1: trying to keep up with him, and he's running the
• 15:43
  Speaker 1: absolute minimum. Right, So my mountain was running and to
• 15:47
  Speaker 1: other guys who are like, bro, how's this a mountain
• 15:49
  Speaker 1: for you?
• 15:49
  Speaker 3: What's wrong with you?
• 15:50
  Speaker 1: Like that's how they could look at me. And then
• 15:52
  Speaker 1: in the same thing, like we could get on the
• 15:54
  Speaker 1: obstacle course and I'm looking at them like, guys, I
• 15:57
  Speaker 1: can walk between obstacles and do this in under seven
• 16:00
  Speaker 1: and it's like, what's wrong with y'all? How are y'all
• 16:02
  Speaker 1: so strong and athletic and such good runners? And like
• 16:05
  Speaker 1: you're dying and out of breath and after nine and
• 16:08
  Speaker 1: a half minutes you can't even complete all the obstacles,
• 16:10
  Speaker 1: Like what's the what's your deal?
• 16:11
  Speaker 3: Man?
• 16:11
  Speaker 1: Like that's how you could look at it. So everyone
• 16:13
  Speaker 1: has their own mountain, and there were guys in my
• 16:16
  Speaker 1: class that had the for them the obstacle course with
• 16:19
  Speaker 1: their mountain.
• 16:20
  Speaker 2: Any specific obstacles. I mean, because what do you Okay,
• 16:22
  Speaker 2: first of all, what is on the obstacle course? Okay, yeah, yeah,
• 16:25
  Speaker 2: so refer all these things like we all just go
• 16:27
  Speaker 2: down right right.
• 16:28
  Speaker 1: Hey, Well, it's all out there on the internet if
• 16:30
  Speaker 1: you want to go watch it. I mean, I would
• 16:31
  Speaker 1: rather watch a video of someone with a GoPro doing
• 16:35
  Speaker 1: the sealed obstacle course and maybe we'll put that on
• 16:37
  Speaker 1: the Instagram channel or the Instagram feed whatever. That just
• 16:43
  Speaker 1: gave myself away and how much for social media. But anyways,
• 16:49
  Speaker 1: better than me explaining it would be watching a video.
• 16:52
  Speaker 3: But I'll just talk through it real quick.
• 16:53
  Speaker 1: The first obstacle on the obstacle course is these parallel bars.
• 16:57
  Speaker 1: You jump up on them and you've got to kind
• 16:59
  Speaker 1: of shuffle on your hand. You walk across, you go
• 17:02
  Speaker 1: through some tire hoops. Then you jump across a couple
• 17:06
  Speaker 1: log steps over.
• 17:07
  Speaker 3: The low wall and the high wall.
• 17:09
  Speaker 1: Low walls eight feet, the high wall is ten or twelve.
• 17:13
  Speaker 1: Climb a rope up over. Then you've got a belly
• 17:16
  Speaker 1: crawl through the sand under barbed wire. Then you have
• 17:20
  Speaker 1: a forty foot cargo net rope climb. And no one
• 17:23
  Speaker 1: fails on any of these obstacles, except for like some
• 17:27
  Speaker 1: early students who get there and realize they have a
• 17:30
  Speaker 1: fear of heights and don't get over the cargo net,
• 17:32
  Speaker 1: and you're laughed out of there and gone very quickly.
• 17:35
  Speaker 1: The next obstacle right after that is, I don't balance logs.
• 17:39
  Speaker 1: It's some like thirty and forty foot telephone poles that
• 17:42
  Speaker 1: have like ten foot of side to side spread, and
• 17:44
  Speaker 1: if you don't, say, right on top of the center
• 17:46
  Speaker 1: of the log, you know it'll get out from underneath you.
• 17:49
  Speaker 1: A lot of people fail on that one. It's simply
• 17:51
  Speaker 1: a balance obstacle. Then you have a couple more easy ones,
• 17:56
  Speaker 1: just like a short rope climb. You have the the
• 18:00
  Speaker 1: weaver going through some bars. Fast forward a little bit.
• 18:03
  Speaker 1: You've got the high rope, which you climb up this
• 18:06
  Speaker 1: tower and then kind of commando crawl on the top
• 18:09
  Speaker 1: of the rope down the rope. And then the next
• 18:11
  Speaker 1: one is one that really stumps a lot of people,
• 18:14
  Speaker 1: called the rope swing. Now, I pull vaulted in high school,
• 18:17
  Speaker 1: so I enjoyed this obstacle, and I try to see
• 18:20
  Speaker 1: how far I could rope swing and launch all the
• 18:22
  Speaker 1: way over the obstacle. But what all you had to
• 18:25
  Speaker 1: do on this obstacle was just kind of jog, catch
• 18:28
  Speaker 1: the rope and swing about six feet forward and three
• 18:33
  Speaker 1: and a half or four feet up and land on
• 18:36
  Speaker 1: a piece of wood. Sounds simple, but so many guys
• 18:40
  Speaker 1: just could not figure out how to to the timing
• 18:42
  Speaker 1: of letting.
• 18:43
  Speaker 3: Go of the rope. And I remember a guy in
• 18:45
  Speaker 3: my class.
• 18:45
  Speaker 1: He was one of the best athletes in our class,
• 18:48
  Speaker 1: and he could cruise through the obstacle course until he
• 18:51
  Speaker 1: got to this point, and then he kept failing the
• 18:55
  Speaker 1: rope swing like he just couldn't get the timing of it.
• 18:58
  Speaker 3: He had all the.
• 18:58
  Speaker 1: Athletic ability, right back to what we talked about with
• 19:01
  Speaker 1: Trinity downloading the software. This dude had all of the hardware,
• 19:05
  Speaker 1: like he had an excessive amount of hardware, but he
• 19:08
  Speaker 1: could not figure out, what do I need to do
• 19:11
  Speaker 1: to complete this obstacle. And this guy will call him Jim.
• 19:16
  Speaker 1: I remember when Jim struggled with this. I went out
• 19:18
  Speaker 1: there and.
• 19:19
  Speaker 3: It was a strange situation for me in general.
• 19:21
  Speaker 1: He was an officer liked by everybody, like super physically capable,
• 19:25
  Speaker 1: and I kind of like had to try to humble
• 19:27
  Speaker 1: myself to help him. Because he would not normally want
• 19:30
  Speaker 1: help from me. Right, I'm nineteen years old, I'm back
• 19:33
  Speaker 1: at the pack in the runs, Like, no one's asking
• 19:35
  Speaker 1: me for help. I just happened to be like one
• 19:37
  Speaker 1: of the best at the obstacle course. And so I'm
• 19:41
  Speaker 1: helping Jim with it. And I remember, he's one of
• 19:43
  Speaker 1: those guys, God love him. He's one of those guys that,
• 19:47
  Speaker 1: like his whole life everything had been easy for him,
• 19:49
  Speaker 1: and he had never struggled like this before. And I
• 19:51
  Speaker 1: kept trying to show him the right thing to do,
• 19:53
  Speaker 1: and he just could not. He couldn't change who he
• 19:56
  Speaker 1: was to do something different, Like, he just kept trying
• 19:59
  Speaker 1: the same thing and over. And he'd go out there
• 20:01
  Speaker 1: on Saturday for five hours. I'd be out there for
• 20:04
  Speaker 1: an hour on Saturdays, as I typically was to help
• 20:06
  Speaker 1: a few guys. He'd be out there for five hours
• 20:08
  Speaker 1: and probably not do the rope swing once, do it
• 20:11
  Speaker 1: right one time.
• 20:12
  Speaker 3: He just keep trying over.
• 20:13
  Speaker 2: And over and he would just do that one obstacle.
• 20:15
  Speaker 3: Yeah, it's the one thing.
• 20:16
  Speaker 1: It's a he that guy did not make it through
• 20:18
  Speaker 1: training because he could not complete the rope swing.
• 20:20
  Speaker 2: Wow, and even and you showed him and so he
• 20:23
  Speaker 2: just he just tried to work.
• 20:25
  Speaker 1: I would demonstrate it for him over and over, and
• 20:28
  Speaker 1: he just he couldn't like accept the form. I don't know,
• 20:31
  Speaker 1: like I'd taught so many other people. It was he
• 20:33
  Speaker 1: was kind of an enigma for me because I'd helped
• 20:35
  Speaker 1: a lot of people on the rope swing. He's just
• 20:38
  Speaker 1: a challenge for people who aren't like super coordinated or
• 20:40
  Speaker 1: into that stuff, and where those are things that I
• 20:42
  Speaker 1: enjoy doing. I'd helped a lot of people get their
• 20:45
  Speaker 1: form right, and this guy just could not accept it.
• 20:47
  Speaker 1: He thought that he could just try harder and get it,
• 20:51
  Speaker 1: and that was not there. He needed to change his
• 20:52
  Speaker 1: way of thinking, so to speak, or change his form,
• 20:55
  Speaker 1: like he thought he could just muscle his way across
• 20:59
  Speaker 1: the rope swing and it didn't work for him.
• 21:00
  Speaker 2: Man, that's okay. That a man, that's a great example.
• 21:04
  Speaker 2: So how I just I'm sorry, my mind's like racism.
• 21:07
  Speaker 2: I'm sure you can tell as I struggle for words.
• 21:09
  Speaker 2: How many people rely on hard work and straight away
• 21:13
  Speaker 2: go back to it so because they think they can
• 21:16
  Speaker 2: just work their way through anything.
• 21:17
  Speaker 1: When I sit down with people who engage me for
• 21:20
  Speaker 1: personal coaching, one of the questions I asked them is
• 21:23
  Speaker 1: what's your winning philosophy? And that what does that mean?
• 21:26
  Speaker 1: Like why do you win? Everyone has a winning philosophy.
• 21:29
  Speaker 1: If you spend a lot of time on Instagram, which
• 21:31
  Speaker 1: is why I don't, you will hear it. You will
• 21:33
  Speaker 1: see a lot of people model their winning philosophy, which
• 21:36
  Speaker 1: is nobody hustles as hard as I do, or you know,
• 21:39
  Speaker 1: outgrind everybody like I can just work my way to success.
• 21:43
  Speaker 1: What I have found is that there's always somebody that
• 21:46
  Speaker 1: works harder than you or as nerd alert as Qui
• 21:50
  Speaker 1: gon Jen says in episode one, there's always a bigger fish, right,
• 21:54
  Speaker 1: And I'm not I do not want my success to
• 21:56
  Speaker 1: hinge on working harder than other people. That is a
• 21:59
  Speaker 1: direction in life that leads more and more away from
• 22:02
  Speaker 1: the life that I really want, which isn't just a
• 22:04
  Speaker 1: business success, but it's overall life success. And I don't
• 22:07
  Speaker 1: want my winning philosophy to be grinded out right, So
• 22:11
  Speaker 1: what is your winning philosophy is a question that I ask,
• 22:14
  Speaker 1: And you need a different winning philosophy to get over
• 22:16
  Speaker 1: the rope swing, not just grind it out all the time.
• 22:19
  Speaker 1: Everyone's gonna have their Mountain right. Like for jam it
• 22:23
  Speaker 1: was the rope swing. For Garrett it was the runs.
• 22:27
  Speaker 1: I had to humble myself and ask for help and
• 22:29
  Speaker 1: gets like dude, like, I can barely make this. And
• 22:32
  Speaker 1: if I don't use good, if I don't pace myself,
• 22:34
  Speaker 1: I could pace myself wrong and I would fail. Like
• 22:37
  Speaker 1: I knew, my only chance of success was give all
• 22:40
  Speaker 1: of my effort and have somebody pace me correctly so
• 22:43
  Speaker 1: that I can stay on pace to win.
• 22:46
  Speaker 2: Man, I totally hear you on the hard work thing.
• 22:49
  Speaker 2: I've always personally just found it a little bit weird
• 22:52
  Speaker 2: when people say all outwork anybody, because I'm like, you
• 22:54
  Speaker 2: don't know what's in that.
• 22:55
  Speaker 3: Man.
• 22:55
  Speaker 2: I think the older I get, the less confident I
• 22:59
  Speaker 2: feel about out making snap judgments on other people.
• 23:02
  Speaker 1: Yeah, I think if you're winning, this is just you know,
• 23:04
  Speaker 1: Garrett's opinion for whatever it's worth. I think if you're winning,
• 23:06
  Speaker 1: philosophy is your level of work ethic. You don't really
• 23:10
  Speaker 1: know what your unique traits are. You don't really know
• 23:13
  Speaker 1: why you win, like you've Yeah, you can win from
• 23:16
  Speaker 1: hard work in life, but that is not what's going
• 23:18
  Speaker 1: to take you all the way to the top. So
• 23:19
  Speaker 1: when people say, like all outwork anybody, you actually don't
• 23:23
  Speaker 1: know what the things are about you that help you win. Like,
• 23:26
  Speaker 1: I can tell you why I win, and it's not
• 23:27
  Speaker 1: because of how hard I work. Hard work is a
• 23:30
  Speaker 1: part of why I succeed, but it's not the reason
• 23:32
  Speaker 1: I succeed. Everyone's gonna need to work hard to succeed.
• 23:35
  Speaker 3: What are you pairing that with?
• 23:37
  Speaker 2: Yeah, I am really curious to find out why you win,
• 23:41
  Speaker 2: but I'm wondering if maybe we should talk about that
• 23:42
  Speaker 2: another time. Sure, So you I've heard you say before,
• 23:46
  Speaker 2: and I feel like this kind of refers to Jim.
• 23:48
  Speaker 2: And I'm guessing that's not his real name. Okay, all right,
• 23:51
  Speaker 2: got that one locked deep in your brain. I'm not
• 23:53
  Speaker 2: trying to I'm not trying to pick your pick the
• 23:54
  Speaker 2: lock dude, you know. But anyways, so Jim our hypothetical
• 23:57
  Speaker 2: gym who's actually a real person. I've heard you say before,
• 24:00
  Speaker 2: You've talked about a transactional relationship with success, and I
• 24:05
  Speaker 2: feel like that is in relation to Jim in the
• 24:07
  Speaker 2: sense that he was just kind of like the way
• 24:09
  Speaker 2: he was going to succeed was like A plus B
• 24:11
  Speaker 2: always equal C. Right, Like hard work plus effort equal success,
• 24:15
  Speaker 2: and it was just very one dimensional.
• 24:17
  Speaker 1: Yeah, so let me we will talk about it another time.
• 24:21
  Speaker 1: But one of the reasons that Garrett is successful a
• 24:24
  Speaker 1: term that I identify with and have given myself as
• 24:27
  Speaker 1: a chaos navigator, which is saying, if we don't know
• 24:30
  Speaker 1: what to do, I'll figure it out. Right, Jim was
• 24:33
  Speaker 1: missing a little bit of chaos navigation. Jim was missing
• 24:36
  Speaker 1: a few other things. Jim had one algebraic equation for success,
• 24:40
  Speaker 1: which is Jim's talent and skill set plus hard work
• 24:43
  Speaker 1: always equal success. And that's right until it's not. And
• 24:47
  Speaker 1: you need you need that X factor within you that
• 24:50
  Speaker 1: can solve for any equation. Like I won't go to
• 24:53
  Speaker 1: math nerd on you, but you need that thing that
• 24:55
  Speaker 1: you can solve for, Like have an X within you
• 24:58
  Speaker 1: that it's like, whatever I know to get to on
• 25:00
  Speaker 1: the other side, I can I can put it in
• 25:02
  Speaker 1: the X category and it will get me the answer
• 25:05
  Speaker 1: that I want to have on the other side of
• 25:06
  Speaker 1: the equal sign.
• 25:07
  Speaker 3: Right.
• 25:08
  Speaker 2: Yeah, it just clicked into place. Why the what you
• 25:12
  Speaker 2: explained at the beginning about one hundred percent, I guarantee
• 25:15
  Speaker 2: you one hundred percent mission success literally just clicked into
• 25:18
  Speaker 2: place about when you were talking about how it's not
• 25:21
  Speaker 2: that you just have one way of success, but you're like,
• 25:23
  Speaker 2: whatever happens, I'm a chaos navigator. I will figure it out.
• 25:26
  Speaker 2: That That is the mindset shift, isn't it.
• 25:28
  Speaker 1: So Like, again, I don't want to make this too complicated,
• 25:31
  Speaker 1: but I guess it's just the strange way that my
• 25:33
  Speaker 1: brain works.
• 25:34
  Speaker 3: When you have a multiple.
• 25:38
  Speaker 1: Values to solve for in an algebra equation, it's a
• 25:41
  Speaker 1: complicated algebra equation. Make it simple, right, solve for you
• 25:45
  Speaker 1: should you want to have one unknown and that one
• 25:48
  Speaker 1: unknown for seals is the uncontrollables, and they have all
• 25:52
  Speaker 1: the other nones figured out. They have all the other
• 25:54
  Speaker 1: nones under control that whatever that uncontrollable is, they're most
• 25:58
  Speaker 1: likely going to be able to all for it. And
• 26:01
  Speaker 1: if they don't get it right on the first pass
• 26:02
  Speaker 1: of solving the equation, they'll get it right on the
• 26:05
  Speaker 1: second or third. But if you have like four unknowns
• 26:08
  Speaker 1: in your equation of difficulty, you can try hundreds of
• 26:10
  Speaker 1: times and not get it right.
• 26:13
  Speaker 2: Man, Okay, So that makes sense from a math problem.
• 26:16
  Speaker 2: As somebody who's isolated X and solved for it way
• 26:19
  Speaker 2: back in the day. I want to dive back into
• 26:22
  Speaker 2: the transactional thinking of success, because I feel like that
• 26:26
  Speaker 2: might be the source of a lot of people's failures.
• 26:29
  Speaker 1: So if we want to talk about overcoming failure, if
• 26:33
  Speaker 1: we want to pair that with a transactional relationship with success,
• 26:37
  Speaker 1: what you're going to get here is the level of
• 26:40
  Speaker 1: effort error. If we're going to keep giving things math
• 26:43
  Speaker 1: terms the level of effort error. You'll hear this if
• 26:45
  Speaker 1: you listen to a lot of very successful people talk.
• 26:48
  Speaker 1: They'll talk about their journey through success and they'll talk about, well,
• 26:51
  Speaker 1: I got to a point where I felt like I
• 26:53
  Speaker 1: should have been successful.
• 26:54
  Speaker 3: That's entitlement.
• 26:55
  Speaker 1: I deserved success based upon my level of effort and
• 26:58
  Speaker 1: they hadn't received it yet.
• 27:00
  Speaker 3: And what they did was just keep trying.
• 27:01
  Speaker 1: They said, I'm not going to let this be an
• 27:04
  Speaker 1: unknown that I that I fail for, Like, I will
• 27:06
  Speaker 1: just keep giving effort over and over and over until.
• 27:09
  Speaker 3: I get there.
• 27:10
  Speaker 1: That's not having a winning philosophy of grind it out.
• 27:14
  Speaker 1: That's not what I'm saying. But they're just saying, like,
• 27:17
  Speaker 1: if I'm not there now, I know that I'll get there.
• 27:19
  Speaker 1: They pair that by having that philosophy, by having that
• 27:23
  Speaker 1: thought process it removes you from having a transactional relationship
• 27:27
  Speaker 1: with success. Let me define that really quick. Transactional is
• 27:31
  Speaker 1: somewhat a derogatory word, or at least a Nick and
• 27:34
  Speaker 1: Iz's spear it is. Transactional can hint on entitlement, meaning
• 27:39
  Speaker 1: like I did this, so I deserve that. And the
• 27:42
  Speaker 1: transactional relationship with success is really that you're saying, like, well,
• 27:46
  Speaker 1: I did the right things, well, I worked fifty hours
• 27:50
  Speaker 1: a week, why did I not receive success? And the
• 27:53
  Speaker 1: seal one hundred percent guarantee for success? That is not
• 27:58
  Speaker 1: a transactional relationship with sels. What you're saying is I
• 28:01
  Speaker 1: know I will do all of these things right, and
• 28:04
  Speaker 1: success is an inevitability, not that I earned it, not
• 28:07
  Speaker 1: that I'm entitled to it, but that I know I
• 28:09
  Speaker 1: will find it no matter what.
• 28:12
  Speaker 2: Okay, So where what are some other examples of transactional
• 28:15
  Speaker 2: thinking that might help elaborate on this a little bit more?
• 28:18
  Speaker 2: Because I understand what you're saying, I haven't.
• 28:20
  Speaker 1: Quite Okay, So transactional relationships can also be like, well,
• 28:25
  Speaker 1: I've been nice to Nick for like the last three weeks,
• 28:28
  Speaker 1: and then yeah, I'm not I've been nice to Nick
• 28:32
  Speaker 1: for that you said, you said examples, right, So this
• 28:34
  Speaker 1: is okay, this this is fictional, Yeah, fictional, this is fictional.
• 28:37
  Speaker 1: I've been nice to Nick for the last three weeks
• 28:40
  Speaker 1: and he hasn't been nice back to me. So I'm
• 28:42
  Speaker 1: not going to be nice to Nick anymore. That it
• 28:44
  Speaker 1: would be a transactional relationship that we have. Right, So
• 28:47
  Speaker 1: transactional is field like, well, I did this, so I
• 28:49
  Speaker 1: deserve that, and it is you do not deserve to
• 28:53
  Speaker 1: be successful. What I believe is we live in a
• 28:55
  Speaker 1: world where if you sow seed, you will reap a harvest.
• 28:58
  Speaker 1: There is order, not entitlement. When you do the right things,
• 29:02
  Speaker 1: you will get the right results. That is different than entitlement.
• 29:06
  Speaker 1: Entitlement is your perspective on results. It's saying I feel
• 29:11
  Speaker 1: like I gave the right amount of effort. Why didn't
• 29:14
  Speaker 1: somebody give me success?
• 29:15
  Speaker 3: Right?
• 29:16
  Speaker 1: Okay, the seal the seal relationship is I didn't. I
• 29:19
  Speaker 1: didn't achieve success here, Then I need to do more.
• 29:22
  Speaker 1: I didn't achieve success here. I use the wrong formula.
• 29:25
  Speaker 1: I didn't achieve success here. Maybe we did everything right
• 29:28
  Speaker 1: and the circumstances were wrong.
• 29:29
  Speaker 3: Let's try again. Not well, I did.
• 29:31
  Speaker 1: Everything right and I didn't get what I wanted, So
• 29:33
  Speaker 1: it's stupid. That's that's a transactional relationship with.
• 29:37
  Speaker 2: Anything, right, Okay, it locked in literally halfway through that sense.
• 29:41
  Speaker 2: I don't know if you saw my eyes light up,
• 29:42
  Speaker 2: but it made sense. Thank you. I appreciate that. So
• 29:46
  Speaker 2: I'm tied to all this once again, kind of pulling
• 29:48
  Speaker 2: back and having the big picture. I'm guessing that when
• 29:50
  Speaker 2: things don't go well for the Seals or don't go
• 29:52
  Speaker 2: to plan, no one in the Seal team just looks
• 29:54
  Speaker 2: themselves inside and goes, well, I guess I'm just a failure, right.
• 29:58
  Speaker 3: So quit right?
• 29:59
  Speaker 1: The your quit level, quit is a variable, that's a
• 30:02
  Speaker 1: controllable that Seals just locked that one in that that
• 30:05
  Speaker 1: factor is never going to change. We won't quit because
• 30:07
  Speaker 1: it says it right. Seal Etho says I will never quit,
• 30:10
  Speaker 1: and Steal training vets people for that ability to never quit.
• 30:15
  Speaker 3: Right.
• 30:15
  Speaker 2: But that goes to so for somebody that's dealing with failure. Basically,
• 30:19
  Speaker 2: you've talked about two different You've talked about a transactional
• 30:21
  Speaker 2: mindset that says I've done this, this, and this, so
• 30:24
  Speaker 2: this should be the result. Whereas you flipped the script
• 30:27
  Speaker 2: and said, if you've done this, this and this and
• 30:29
  Speaker 2: you still haven't seen the result, well then you're missing
• 30:31
  Speaker 2: another where you're missing Yeah, yes, yes, So now it's
• 30:33
  Speaker 2: adjust your tactics. It's a just look for you know,
• 30:36
  Speaker 2: go find how and.
• 30:37
  Speaker 1: Again that that goes back to the sow seed. You'll
• 30:39
  Speaker 1: reap a harvest, right if you sow a bunch of
• 30:42
  Speaker 1: If you plant a bunch of seeds in the ground
• 30:43
  Speaker 1: and you water them and none of them grow, you're
• 30:46
  Speaker 1: not going to say, well, the universe is broken, right, No,
• 30:49
  Speaker 1: you're gonna you need to start asking some questions. Did
• 30:52
  Speaker 1: I water them enough? Did I not water Did I
• 30:54
  Speaker 1: water them too much? Were these bad seeds? Were they
• 30:57
  Speaker 1: good seeds? Did I plant them at the right time
• 30:59
  Speaker 1: of the year? Like all these questions. Not saying well
• 31:02
  Speaker 1: the farm is broken or the ground is stupid like
• 31:05
  Speaker 1: that is an immature response.
• 31:07
  Speaker 2: Yeah, the ground is stupid.
• 31:10
  Speaker 1: I mean, okay, that's just as stupid as kicking your
• 31:13
  Speaker 1: couch when you trip over it.
• 31:14
  Speaker 3: But people do it right.
• 31:16
  Speaker 2: Are throwing your controller? Playing video games?
• 31:17
  Speaker 1: Yes, spiking all of that stuff immature response.
• 31:21
  Speaker 2: I've never done that.
• 31:22
  Speaker 3: For the record, When.
• 31:23
  Speaker 1: I don't get the results that I want. I don't
• 31:25
  Speaker 1: get angry, I get smart. I say what do I
• 31:27
  Speaker 1: need to change? Not you guys need to change because
• 31:30
  Speaker 1: I did everything right and you didn't give me the
• 31:32
  Speaker 1: right answer. When you don't get the right answer, you
• 31:34
  Speaker 1: need to say what needs to change within me? Something
• 31:37
  Speaker 1: that I heard young in life, that I like and
• 31:40
  Speaker 1: that I continue to believe. This is how I'm going
• 31:42
  Speaker 1: to impact the world. Is I'm going to change the
• 31:44
  Speaker 1: world by changing me, not trying to change everybody else.
• 31:47
  Speaker 3: Yeah.
• 31:48
  Speaker 2: Man, I imagine if we all practice that the world
• 31:51
  Speaker 2: will be a way different place.
• 31:52
  Speaker 3: Yeah, don't don't make me sound like too nice of
• 31:54
  Speaker 3: a person.
• 31:54
  Speaker 2: I don't think anybody that listens to this podcast or
• 31:56
  Speaker 2: knows you would make that mistake. Just kidding, your very nice.
• 31:59
  Speaker 3: Like al Capone said, don't mistake my kindness for weakness.
• 32:02
  Speaker 2: All right, did you purposely dip your jaw down and
• 32:05
  Speaker 2: like stare at me like you wanted to throw at
• 32:07
  Speaker 2: the Okay, we should probably move on. I feel like
• 32:10
  Speaker 2: I'm triggering something, but uh overco Yeah, I'm about to
• 32:15
  Speaker 2: overcome the failure of you punching me in the face.
• 32:18
  Speaker 2: One of the things that you mentioned multiple times in there,
• 32:21
  Speaker 2: and I think that I'm seeing a theme here. You
• 32:24
  Speaker 2: talked about controllables so much, and that is the ownership
• 32:28
  Speaker 2: portion of this of how you can overcome failure is
• 32:30
  Speaker 2: you stop and you go, I'm gonna own this. Okay.
• 32:33
  Speaker 2: So so let's give people some some real tangible action
• 32:37
  Speaker 2: steps here. If you find that your best isn't good enough,
• 32:41
  Speaker 2: you've given everything you got and we've talked about this,
• 32:44
  Speaker 2: you know some I think for a lot of people,
• 32:46
  Speaker 2: they draw the conclusion there and they say, well, I
• 32:48
  Speaker 2: guess I'm a failure. I guess I'm just not good enough? Right,
• 32:51
  Speaker 2: So I mean I would say number one, just listening
• 32:53
  Speaker 2: to you here, I would say that you would the
• 32:56
  Speaker 2: first thing you want to do is you'd want to
• 32:57
  Speaker 2: assess your mindset?
• 32:58
  Speaker 3: Right?
• 32:58
  Speaker 2: Is it like single dement in success? Do you have
• 33:01
  Speaker 2: a transactional relationship with success?
• 33:03
  Speaker 3: My encouragement and my challenge here might be different than
• 33:06
  Speaker 3: you would think.
• 33:07
  Speaker 2: Okay.
• 33:08
  Speaker 1: I want people to take the team elopment from this,
• 33:10
  Speaker 1: bring it back to themselves. And so the first assessment is,
• 33:14
  Speaker 1: you know, am I doing everything that I can possibly do?
• 33:16
  Speaker 1: Am I controlling all of my controllables? But just like
• 33:19
  Speaker 1: the seal Ethos says, and who the seal teams are,
• 33:22
  Speaker 1: and the same as what Patrick Lincioni says. He doesn't
• 33:24
  Speaker 1: say if you can get one man rowing in the
• 33:26
  Speaker 1: same direction. He says, if you can get everybody. There
• 33:28
  Speaker 1: is a power of team, not just when one person
• 33:31
  Speaker 1: controls all their controllables, and you should desire to be
• 33:34
  Speaker 1: that type of person, But then be someone who controls
• 33:36
  Speaker 1: all the controllables and surrounds themselves with other people who
• 33:40
  Speaker 1: control all their controllables. That's when you will be a
• 33:42
  Speaker 1: winning team because rarely ever in life while you face
• 33:45
  Speaker 1: another team who does the same thing. And that's how
• 33:47
  Speaker 1: you know you can dominate wherever you go, not just
• 33:50
  Speaker 1: by trying to be superman by yourself, but by being
• 33:52
  Speaker 1: your best version of yourself. Be on a team with
• 33:56
  Speaker 1: other people who are doing the same thing. That's when
• 33:58
  Speaker 1: you'll rarely encounter a problem it can't be solved.
• 34:01
  Speaker 2: Okay, So you talked about team there, and I think
• 34:03
  Speaker 2: that this is part of the assessment. And obviously I've
• 34:06
  Speaker 2: been around you quite a bit, so I've heard you
• 34:07
  Speaker 2: talk about the power of three, like needing your three
• 34:10
  Speaker 2: people and having blind spots. Because you talked about how
• 34:13
  Speaker 2: as a team. You know, if you're rowing in the
• 34:14
  Speaker 2: same direction, you can dominate well in life. You don't
• 34:17
  Speaker 2: always have a team, right, I mean, when you go
• 34:19
  Speaker 2: to work, you have one. If you're married, or if
• 34:20
  Speaker 2: you have a partner or whatever, maybe you have that
• 34:22
  Speaker 2: that's a small team, but there might be people out there.
• 34:24
  Speaker 2: I mean, you need more than just your partner. So
• 34:27
  Speaker 2: the power of three. Can you explain that a little
• 34:28
  Speaker 2: bit for people listening.
• 34:30
  Speaker 1: So the power of the three, power of three, well,
• 34:32
  Speaker 1: it comes back to a scripture of a three stranded
• 34:34
  Speaker 1: cord is not easily broken. You want other people in
• 34:37
  Speaker 1: your life. And there's a couple different types of three,
• 34:39
  Speaker 1: so we won't go into all of those. But you
• 34:41
  Speaker 1: want three people in your life that you guys, are
• 34:44
  Speaker 1: all doing the same thing, you're all headed in the
• 34:46
  Speaker 1: same direction. That's really the power of three. And two
• 34:49
  Speaker 1: is great, but three is even better.
• 34:51
  Speaker 2: Yeah, And those are the people that can help you
• 34:53
  Speaker 2: with your blind spots and.
• 34:54
  Speaker 1: Help you want the same things that you want. Blind
• 34:56
  Speaker 1: spots are the things that you can't see and we
• 34:58
  Speaker 1: all have them. Ca watch your own back. When you
• 35:01
  Speaker 1: have two people together, you can defend each other better.
• 35:04
  Speaker 1: When you have three, you can defend yourselves really well
• 35:07
  Speaker 1: because with two, what you know, two works until one
• 35:10
  Speaker 1: person is hurt or injured or has to reload or whatever.
• 35:14
  Speaker 1: With three, you've got redundancy. There's no redundancy with two
• 35:18
  Speaker 1: as soon as one goes down. So that's kind of
• 35:20
  Speaker 1: the power of three. But that's, you know, Garrett being nerdy.
• 35:23
  Speaker 2: That's not nerdy at all. I think that. I think
• 35:25
  Speaker 2: there's huge power in that. And if you're somebody that
• 35:27
  Speaker 2: wants to live the impossible life, you're going to want
• 35:31
  Speaker 2: as many tactics and strategies and tips and tools that
• 35:33
  Speaker 2: you can implement your life as possible.
• 35:35
  Speaker 1: Yeah, it's I don't believe that people were created to
• 35:38
  Speaker 1: live alone, achieve align or do anything alone. Right, And
• 35:42
  Speaker 1: what would like if you had everything in life but
• 35:44
  Speaker 1: you were all alone. That's like an episode of the
• 35:46
  Speaker 1: Twilight Zone. Right, So obviously we were meant for relationship.
• 35:50
  Speaker 1: It is the lie of this generation and many generations
• 35:53
  Speaker 1: previous of the self made man. I did everything by myself.
• 35:56
  Speaker 1: Nobody helped me. Look how smart I am, Look how
• 35:58
  Speaker 1: special I am. I'm better than that person. Nobody ever
• 36:01
  Speaker 1: did anything for me. I achieved success all on my own.
• 36:04
  Speaker 1: That's the lie of this generation and many generations before,
• 36:07
  Speaker 1: and that is not a lie that will lead you
• 36:09
  Speaker 1: to success. Any success I've had has been because of
• 36:12
  Speaker 1: the people that I've put myself around and the people
• 36:14
  Speaker 1: that were already around me in my life, and very
• 36:17
  Speaker 1: successful people in this world. If they'll be honest and genuine,
• 36:20
  Speaker 1: they will tell you I am here not just because
• 36:22
  Speaker 1: of me, but because of that person. And because of
• 36:24
  Speaker 1: that person. You have to make all of your own choices,
• 36:27
  Speaker 1: but you're not going to get to the top of
• 36:29
  Speaker 1: the top by yourself, and if you could, it wouldn't
• 36:32
  Speaker 1: be worth anything to be at the top alone.
• 36:35
  Speaker 2: Yeah, what's happens the first time something good happens to you?
• 36:37
  Speaker 2: What do you do? You call a friend right, or
• 36:39
  Speaker 2: you call somebody that you love to say, guess what happened?
• 36:41
  Speaker 2: And that's whenever it becomes more so.
• 36:43
  Speaker 1: The joy of brotherhood is that they lighten the loads,
• 36:46
  Speaker 1: and then that they make suffering more enjoyable. When you
• 36:49
  Speaker 1: have great brothers in your life, it's never you don't
• 36:51
  Speaker 1: have to I love this one, nick. I won't repeat
• 36:56
  Speaker 1: it perfectly, but they would say in the Seal Teams,
• 36:59
  Speaker 1: the best part of about the Seal teams. You never
• 37:00
  Speaker 1: have to eat a crap sandwich by yourself, right, No
• 37:03
  Speaker 1: one wants to eat a crab sandwich.
• 37:04
  Speaker 3: Sometimes you do have to eat them in life.
• 37:06
  Speaker 1: But if if you got other people there to take
• 37:07
  Speaker 1: a bite with you, it makes.
• 37:09
  Speaker 2: It better, all right. So just to review step one, assessing,
• 37:14
  Speaker 2: asking if your mindset single dimensional and success and looking
• 37:18
  Speaker 2: for your blind spots, having a team, finding three that
• 37:20
  Speaker 2: are that have the same values and are aligned with you,
• 37:22
  Speaker 2: and rowing in the right direction in life. Second step,
• 37:25
  Speaker 2: and you talked about this beforehand. I don't think we
• 37:27
  Speaker 2: said it in exactly these words, but you talked about
• 37:29
  Speaker 2: letting letting it go. You got to face the fear
• 37:31
  Speaker 2: of the unknown to you personally and that what worked
• 37:34
  Speaker 2: in the past may not work again.
• 37:36
  Speaker 3: Right.
• 37:37
  Speaker 2: And then the thing you talked about with the seal teams,
• 37:39
  Speaker 2: you said, you did this, this, and this, so you
• 37:41
  Speaker 2: expected that The solution is you've got to find another this.
• 37:45
  Speaker 2: So you got to adapt, right, try new things quick,
• 37:47
  Speaker 2: get rid of it what's not working.
• 37:49
  Speaker 1: Adapt and overcome people say in the military all the time.
• 37:51
  Speaker 2: Right, and that and that is how you can have
• 37:53
  Speaker 2: a one hundred percent mindset or one percent success mindset.
• 37:57
  Speaker 2: Is that you're going to adapt. I think a couple
• 38:00
  Speaker 2: practical things, because I mean, these things sound great in
• 38:02
  Speaker 2: bold points like I'm gonna assess, I'm gonna let it go,
• 38:04
  Speaker 2: I'm gonna adapt, woo, everything's gonna work out great, And
• 38:07
  Speaker 2: as we know, that's not how life works. But if
• 38:09
  Speaker 2: you visualize what success looks like when you're looking to
• 38:13
  Speaker 2: adapt and work backwards, that's a very successful technique for
• 38:16
  Speaker 2: doing this. And one question that I love and I
• 38:18
  Speaker 2: got to give Tim Ferriss's credit on this because he
• 38:21
  Speaker 2: mentioned this all time on his podcast. He asked what
• 38:23
  Speaker 2: would this look like if it were easy? And that
• 38:26
  Speaker 2: can be an unlock for helping you to get the
• 38:27
  Speaker 2: visualization and understand where you maybe need to adapt.
• 38:31
  Speaker 1: I'll wrap up our Overcoming Failure episode with the solution
• 38:37
  Speaker 1: for We've talked about this before, but I think it's
• 38:39
  Speaker 1: a good wrap up for this episode. The equation or
• 38:43
  Speaker 1: the solution for achieving any impossible task begins it with
• 38:47
  Speaker 1: the question of if I had to, what would it take?
• 38:50
  Speaker 1: And that question gives context, it breaks it immediately removes
• 38:55
  Speaker 1: the impossible barrier. If I had to is saying that
• 38:58
  Speaker 1: it could be done, so you chant you reframe impossible immediately,
• 39:02
  Speaker 1: that's impossible, But if I had to, what would it take.
• 39:05
  Speaker 1: Right When you start to think that way, then you say, Okay,
• 39:07
  Speaker 1: it's only impossible because we don't know what to do.
• 39:10
  Speaker 1: It's not impossible because we're weak. It's not impossible because
• 39:12
  Speaker 1: we don't want to try hard enough. It's not impossible
• 39:15
  Speaker 1: because it's me by myself and I don't have a team.
• 39:17
  Speaker 1: It's impossible because we just haven't figured it out yet.
• 39:20
  Speaker 1: And we can figure it out.
• 39:22
  Speaker 3: Man.
• 39:22
  Speaker 2: I love that. Yeah, as always, I feel like I'm
• 39:24
  Speaker 2: just sat here listening.
• 39:27
  Speaker 1: And I want to close this out today and ask
• 39:30
  Speaker 1: any of the listeners. Now, Nick and I have somewhat
• 39:33
  Speaker 1: of an agenda of our future episodes and all the
• 39:36
  Speaker 1: things that we want to talk about. But if there's
• 39:37
  Speaker 1: anything that you guys would love to hear, feel free
• 39:40
  Speaker 1: to start commenting on social media and I'm sure Nick
• 39:42
  Speaker 1: will identify them and put them on our agenda. So
• 39:46
  Speaker 1: I personally would love to hear what you guys would
• 39:49
  Speaker 1: like to hear on this podcast.
• 39:50
  Speaker 2: Yeah, there you go, And if you don't have any
• 39:52
  Speaker 2: questions for him, he's going to come to your house.
• 39:53
  Speaker 2: He can find where you live. I promise so challenges
• 39:57
  Speaker 2: for listeners as we wrap up. First challenge for you, you,
• 40:00
  Speaker 2: based on what we talked about today, what is something
• 40:02
  Speaker 2: in your life that you've failed at? Identify that? And
• 40:06
  Speaker 2: then I want you to ask yourself this question. Was
• 40:08
  Speaker 2: it because you were incapable? Or was it because you
• 40:11
  Speaker 2: had a wrong approach? And then go into some of
• 40:14
  Speaker 2: the practicals of dealing with failure. Who do you have
• 40:16
  Speaker 2: in your life that can help you see blind spots
• 40:19
  Speaker 2: in your thinking and approach? Remember, these are people that
• 40:21
  Speaker 2: had the same values, They're growing in the same direction
• 40:23
  Speaker 2: as you, they want the same things out of life.
• 40:26
  Speaker 2: And then the last challenge, this is a big one
• 40:28
  Speaker 2: dealing with failure. We got three big challenges. Where are
• 40:30
  Speaker 2: you transactional in your thinking or single dimensional? And success?
• 40:34
  Speaker 2: Where are you going? Well? I did this, so I
• 40:37
  Speaker 2: should have that. Where are you doing that in your life?
• 40:40
  Speaker 2: And now step back and take what Garrett said about
• 40:42
  Speaker 2: one hundred percent success? What else do you need to do?
• 40:45
  Speaker 2: What are you missing? Is it your approach? And that's
• 40:47
  Speaker 2: where your blind spots come in, and you have your
• 40:49
  Speaker 2: three I.
• 40:49
  Speaker 1: Know we're supposed to be wrapping up, but if you're
• 40:52
  Speaker 1: still with us. I want to give one last anecdote
• 40:54
  Speaker 1: because I feel like I should have said this earlier,
• 40:57
  Speaker 1: so I'm going to say it now. Please do that
• 40:59
  Speaker 1: transactional relationship, right. A couple couple analogies or experiences I've had.
• 41:04
  Speaker 3: I'll use golf.
• 41:05
  Speaker 1: Second, let's go to the range for a second. Sometimes
• 41:08
  Speaker 1: I'll go to people, go to the range with people
• 41:10
  Speaker 1: and they'll be shooting and it looks you know, we're
• 41:13
  Speaker 1: only at five yards, but their target looks like they're
• 41:15
  Speaker 1: shooting a shotgun, right, And they're like, man, I think
• 41:17
  Speaker 1: my sights are off. Go hold on, let me see
• 41:19
  Speaker 1: that thing, and I'll shoot it. And it's I'm not
• 41:21
  Speaker 1: an expert marksman, I'm average at best, right, but all
• 41:25
  Speaker 1: the rounds will be pretty tight after I shoot it.
• 41:27
  Speaker 1: And it's like, oh, it's not the gun, right, it's
• 41:29
  Speaker 1: the shooter. That's the you need to have. You don't
• 41:32
  Speaker 1: need to when you're looking at your target and you're
• 41:34
  Speaker 1: not getting the results that you want. Your first reaction
• 41:37
  Speaker 1: should not be to look down at the gun and
• 41:38
  Speaker 1: be like, man, what's wrong with this thing?
• 41:40
  Speaker 3: You need to look at yourself.
• 41:41
  Speaker 1: And that's what I love about shooting, and that's what
• 41:44
  Speaker 1: I love about golf. When you're golfing and you'll you'll
• 41:47
  Speaker 1: think you did everything right and the result that you
• 41:49
  Speaker 1: got is like, what the heck was that? And it's like,
• 41:51
  Speaker 1: what's wrong with this ball? These clubs are stupid? Not
• 41:54
  Speaker 1: the ball. It's not the clubs, it's the golfer, right,
• 41:57
  Speaker 1: What it all the ball does? It's all the bullet does.
• 42:01
  Speaker 1: It's the inputs that you gave it. So if you're
• 42:03
  Speaker 1: not liking your output, it's you giving wrong inputs.
• 42:07
  Speaker 2: Yeah, there you go, dealing with failure. Look in the
• 42:11
  Speaker 2: mirror exactly. All right, guys, we will see you again soon.
• 42:17
  Speaker 2: Thank you very much for listening. Guys, remember to share,
• 42:21
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• 42:23
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• 42:25
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• 42:27
  Speaker 2: you can follow us on Instagram at the Impossible Life.
• 42:31
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• 42:33
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• 42:37
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• 42:38
  Speaker 2: find out about Garrett's personal or business coaching, that's the
• 42:41
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• 42:44
  Speaker 2: out there, think better, and live the impossible. We'll see
• 42:47
  Speaker 2: again soon,