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All the Tea on An Unorthodox Life · Two Ts In A Pod with Teddi Mellencamp and Tamra Judge

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Speaker 1: This is Teddy Teapot with Hi, guys, welcome to this
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Speaker 1: week's Teddy Teapot. I am floor to have on this
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Speaker 1: week's guest, but Cheva Heart. Okay, guys, if you have
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Speaker 1: not watched My Unorthodox Life, you are going to be
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Speaker 1: thanking me for this episode because it is going to
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Speaker 1: draw in all of your curiosity, your questions. You'll have
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Speaker 1: to tune in. But chev is an All American lifestyle blogger,
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Speaker 1: TikTok star influencer, and entrepreneur from Monster New York. She
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Speaker 1: is well known in the industry as the daughter of
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Speaker 1: Julia Heart, fashion designer and CEO of Elite World Group. Y'all,
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Speaker 1: I gotta just say, I have questions. Let's bring her on.
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Speaker 1: But Chenna is my oldest daughter. Should have been brought
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Speaker 1: up in that world the longest, of course for her,
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Speaker 1: it was extremely difficult. Ben and I are at a
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Speaker 1: different level than you, and I think that. Ben is
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Speaker 1: my husband and best friend. He is a real estate
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Speaker 1: agent in the city. We got married when we were
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Speaker 1: nineteen years old. Getting married that young is very common.
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Speaker 1: Right after I got married, my mom decided she no
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Speaker 1: longer wanted to be religious at all, and that was
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Speaker 1: really challenging for me because I was brought up one
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Speaker 1: way and she was basically saying, I don't believe in
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Speaker 1: any of that. I'm going. I still live a very
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Speaker 1: religious Jewish lifestyle, but I am obviously not where I
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Speaker 1: used to be, and I've found my own way in
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Speaker 1: the religion. Hello, Hi, welcome, thank you, how are you?
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Speaker 1: It's so nice. It's nice to meet you too, and
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Speaker 1: thank you for joining us. Don't mind me that I
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Speaker 1: honestly had to listen to your name one thousand times
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Speaker 1: because I'm like, I'm not gonna slaughter. I am going
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Speaker 1: to nail it the first time, and I feel like
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Speaker 1: I almost did it, and then I got so many corrections,
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Speaker 1: no worries. Everybody always asked me how to say my name,
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Speaker 1: so it's all good. I'm used to it. I used
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Speaker 1: to actually like go by. When I was in school,
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Speaker 1: I would tell people my name was Beth because it
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Speaker 1: was easier for me, and my dad actually told me,
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Speaker 1: he's like, if people can pronounce NICKI Minaj, they can
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Speaker 1: figure out how to say about Sava. And ever since then,
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Speaker 1: I let people butchered. It's fine, but as long as
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Speaker 1: you're trying, I appreciate it. Well, it's such a beautiful name.
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Speaker 1: I love it, and you are such a beautiful person
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Speaker 1: and I love you on the show. So I mean,
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Speaker 1: you guys are awesome. I love how open you are
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Speaker 1: and sharing so many things. Speaking of names, okay, you
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Speaker 1: gotta explain to me that I get a lot of
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Speaker 1: heat because of my last name. But like, how were
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Speaker 1: you a certain last name? Then Weinstein? Then went to
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Speaker 1: Heart or how what's the story of the last names?
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Speaker 1: So I have three last I go buy three last names.
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Speaker 1: I have. My legal name is hen. I haven't changed
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Speaker 1: my name that it was like my name from birth.
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Speaker 1: My married name is Weinstein. So if I'm in like
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Speaker 1: a social situation, I'll introduce myself as that. But then
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Speaker 1: professionally I go by Heart. Oh perfect. So yeah, so
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Speaker 1: people are always like, oh my god, you change your name.
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Speaker 1: I'm like, yeah, not really, but picture people always say
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Speaker 1: the same thing to me. They're like, why do you
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Speaker 1: still have Melancamp in your name? Is that because of
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Speaker 1: your dad? And I'm like, one, like, my dad takes
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Speaker 1: a lot of pride in our last name. But my
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Speaker 1: name is Teddy melancomp are ya. I took out my
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Speaker 1: middle name because it was Joe, Like, I was like,
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Speaker 1: I don't want Teddy Joe A that is like not
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Speaker 1: I not the good look. So I was like, you know,
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Speaker 1: so I get a lot on it too, but I
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Speaker 1: was like, all right, let's clear it up. And I
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Speaker 1: did like a little Instagram Paul I saw that you
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Speaker 1: were posted it thank you, where I just like asked
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Speaker 1: everybody for questions. So, I mean, they have a ton,
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Speaker 1: so it's gonna be a little rapid fire. Here's a
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Speaker 1: starting awful limits. But you can, you know, tell me
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Speaker 1: to back off and however you want. But they're you know,
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Speaker 1: they're gonna get me hard time about it later. Okay,
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Speaker 1: so you currently identify as modern Orthodox. Can you explain
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Speaker 1: the differences from the ultra Orthodox community you were part
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Speaker 1: of versus now. Yeah. So I would say like the
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Speaker 1: major differences as like we still keep like the core
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Speaker 1: things like kosher, we keep shabat. But what I would
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Speaker 1: say is like the major differences is like everything is
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Speaker 1: just more strict and like you're just less connected, Like
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Speaker 1: college isn't pushed. You know, you're supposed to get married
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Speaker 1: super young, you're supposed to have babies right away. Um,
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Speaker 1: so I think like those are like the major differences
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Speaker 1: because I'm still modern Orthodox, so I have like a
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Speaker 1: lot of the same core values and traditions that I celebrate,
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Speaker 1: but just at like a more modern level. It's kind
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Speaker 1: of like it's modernized as opposed to like staying a
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Speaker 1: little bit more olden day, if that makes sense. Um.
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Speaker 1: So I feel like the two like major things like
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Speaker 1: shabat and kosher we still keep h um, just that
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Speaker 1: like not as strict of a level. And what's been
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Speaker 1: the hardest part of the transition for you to be
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Speaker 1: like modern Orthodox or to or to leave or step
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Speaker 1: away or I guess like stopping to really care about
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Speaker 1: what other people thought about me? Um, I think that
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Speaker 1: was like the biggest thing, just because they came from
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Speaker 1: a place where I feel like judgment is really big
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Speaker 1: and that's what really holds you back from anything because
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Speaker 1: you don't know, like what are people going to say
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Speaker 1: about you? What's your reputation going to be? Um? And
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Speaker 1: I think my mom leaving I like built up a
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Speaker 1: really thick skin because people would always come over to
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Speaker 1: me like, oh, I'm so sorry for you, like do
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Speaker 1: you know where your mom is today? Or like must
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Speaker 1: be so hard for your family dealing with this and
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Speaker 1: like so passive aggressive, so passive aggressive, and I'm like,
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Speaker 1: you don't care about me, You just like want to
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Speaker 1: get the tea and figure out what's going on and
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Speaker 1: gossip to all of your friends. UM. So I really
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Speaker 1: developed like a thick skin and I realized, like, why
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Speaker 1: am I living my life for other people and what
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Speaker 1: they think of me or what they think is right?
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Speaker 1: Like let me make my own decisions, let me educate myself.
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Speaker 1: Um And I think that was like something that was
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Speaker 1: really hard for me to get over. But once I
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Speaker 1: did that, I just like my friends were actually just
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Speaker 1: telling me. They're like, you have no peer pressure, like
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Speaker 1: you don't care. You do what you want to do,
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Speaker 1: you don't care what about like what everyone else is doing.
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Speaker 1: Um And I definitely think that's because I went through
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Speaker 1: that experience, right, I had to like figure it out
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Speaker 1: for myself. And what tools would you give to other
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Speaker 1: people that like watch your show that are you know,
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Speaker 1: living by a certain religion that you know maybe they
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Speaker 1: are not agreeing with some of the rules and regulations
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Speaker 1: that they have, Like how did you start to build
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Speaker 1: up that confidence and you know the changes that you
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Speaker 1: are making. I think the biggest thing is to realize
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Speaker 1: that you're the only person who's living your life. So
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Speaker 1: it's very nice for other people to have expectations or
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Speaker 1: what they think is right, but at the end of
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Speaker 1: the day, they're not in your shoes, they're not experiencing things.
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Speaker 1: It's like when people would be like, oh, you know,
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Speaker 1: you really should have a baby now, like your time
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Speaker 1: is ticking, and I'm like, that's really nice to you
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Speaker 1: think that, Like I'm gonna have to be the one
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Speaker 1: who's up with the baby and carrying the baby and
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Speaker 1: all those things, like this is my decision. Why would
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Speaker 1: I let someone else pressure me into making that big
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Speaker 1: life change. So I think it's changing your mindset from
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Speaker 1: being someone who's thinking about what other people are going
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Speaker 1: to say, and realize that this is your life. You
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Speaker 1: have one life to live, so take advantage of being
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Speaker 1: in charge of that. I love that so much. And
7:22
Speaker 1: just you know, I had a baby at forty, so
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Speaker 1: there's you know, you got some time. Um And you
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Speaker 1: know when it comes to your mom, I I saw
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Speaker 1: that for a little while. You guys didn't talk when
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Speaker 1: she ended up, you know, leaving what what changed in
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Speaker 1: you to to kind of open up or what was
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Speaker 1: the defining moment that you were like, Okay, I think
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Speaker 1: that it was like had to definitely do with maturity, um,
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Speaker 1: and like getting a little bit older and realizing that
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Speaker 1: my mother prison. I think when we're younger, we feel
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Speaker 1: like our mom is like only able to be in
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Speaker 1: that hole and that's how you see um. UM. But
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Speaker 1: I realizing that my mom is her own person and
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Speaker 1: she went through her own experiences, UM, and she went
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Speaker 1: through all these things and at the time I obviously
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Speaker 1: didn't understand, but now I know after I had the
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Speaker 1: conversation with her and she told me that she was suicidal.
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Speaker 1: You know, no child wants to hear that. That was
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Speaker 1: like really tough for me to hear and to hear
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Speaker 1: my mom was so unhappy in her life that she
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Speaker 1: wanted to end it. That I think was like the
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Speaker 1: changing moment where I realized, like, who am I to
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Speaker 1: judge what makes someone happy? Um, and the way that
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Speaker 1: they leave their lives. And obviously, I'm so thankful that
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Speaker 1: my mom had the courage to make a change because
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Speaker 1: I'm living a completely different lifestyle because she opened my
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Speaker 1: eyes to this whole world that I was closed off
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Speaker 1: from and out of curiosity just you know, because so
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Speaker 1: many people are struggling with mental health and suicide right
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Speaker 1: now as a as a kid, could you see it
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Speaker 1: at all or did you just see her as mom?
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Speaker 1: I didn't see it at all. She was just like
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Speaker 1: always so happy around us, like so content to us.
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Speaker 1: What felt like so content in her life? She was
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Speaker 1: always a mom who like would always hang out with
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Speaker 1: us and do things, and like she was like the
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Speaker 1: favorite of my friend group mom. So I really had
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Speaker 1: no idea and not tools like goes to show you
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Speaker 1: that you don't know what's going on in someone's head.
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Speaker 1: They can put on this image and um, you know
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Speaker 1: when people now like we'll say, well I knew your mom, Like, well,
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Speaker 1: I live with my mom and I didn't know what
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Speaker 1: she was going through. So it's nice that you have
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Speaker 1: your opinions. Yeah, I mean I do you think that
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Speaker 1: part of the ultra orthodox community breaths like perfectionism, like
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Speaker 1: you should always be a certain way, like you're not
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Speaker 1: allowed to be vulnerable and open or have weaknesses. Does
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Speaker 1: that kind of the amount of pressure that you felt.
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Speaker 1: I think like everyone's supposed to be the perfect mom,
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Speaker 1: have the perfect children. Um, and I think it's like
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Speaker 1: that when they're when you have like a housewife society,
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Speaker 1: when everyone's just like comparing all those things, and I
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Speaker 1: can't imagine. I'm sure it's extremely hard to juggle all
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Speaker 1: of that. And then how long after your mom left
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Speaker 1: did she like start her business and then meet your
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Speaker 1: stepdad and all of those Was it fast or how
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Speaker 1: did that all go down? I think it felt fast
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Speaker 1: to me, but it was really a long journey. And
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Speaker 1: she is having a book that's coming out in February, um,
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Speaker 1: and she like talks about her whole experience and how
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Speaker 1: she got there because I I mean, like that part
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Speaker 1: I'm fascinated by because she was really like the stay
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Speaker 1: at home mom. Um. She was always a brilliant woman,
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Speaker 1: but she really educated herself through reading. I think that's
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Speaker 1: what prepped her for leaving. And then um, she's she's
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Speaker 1: just like works her ass off, two of them. And
10:43
Speaker 1: then how did your dad feel about like hearing you're
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Speaker 1: gonna go on a television show? Like, how does he
10:49
Speaker 1: feel now all those things? Um? I think he was
10:52
Speaker 1: definitely nervous, but um him coming on. I think you
10:56
Speaker 1: really get like the full picture of my family that
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Speaker 1: we are like this modern family where we all have
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Speaker 1: different religious beliefs and backgrounds, um, and we still like
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Speaker 1: we value family over anything else. And my parents, I'm
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Speaker 1: so lucky because even though they have very different views
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Speaker 1: on life, they wanted their kids to have a wholesome
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Speaker 1: family life and that's like what they do. So we
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Speaker 1: do holidays together, um and we're all very clue still
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Speaker 1: and I think, like, that's so I'm so grateful to
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Speaker 1: them because I know that. I'm sure it's not easy
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Speaker 1: because they're not friends like people are like, oh, wow,
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Speaker 1: your parents are so close. I'm like, no, No, they're
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Speaker 1: amazing co parents and they put their children above everything else.
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Speaker 1: I think that's huge, especially because how heated it can
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Speaker 1: be when only you know, like not only divorce but
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Speaker 1: also changing your lifestyle so dramatically, and now they're both
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Speaker 1: with new people, Like I just definitely wasn't like that
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Speaker 1: for me growing up. We didn't we didn't do holidays together.
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Speaker 1: Onalize how it's not. It doesn't happen for most people.
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Speaker 1: So I'm so thankful that my parents put their feelings
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Speaker 1: aside um and just wanted us to get that family
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Speaker 1: time together. In regards to you and your husband, like,
12:22
Speaker 1: how did you guys come to that. I mean, I
12:24
Speaker 1: know that you said that you got overcaring what other
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Speaker 1: people thought, but how did you and your husband come
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Speaker 1: to terms with like you guys were you were you
12:33
Speaker 1: were going to switch things? And how quickly after you
12:35
Speaker 1: got married, Like if like your husband kind of says like, wow,
12:40
Speaker 1: you know, it's just it's quick. You know, I married
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Speaker 1: one girl and then we're done. But like everything shifted.
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Speaker 1: How did you guys work through that? I mean, all
12:47
Speaker 1: marriages there's change, but how what what would you say
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Speaker 1: was the defining things? So I think definitely we were
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Speaker 1: like the slowest to leave. Um Like I've only been
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Speaker 1: living in the city for two and a half years.
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Speaker 1: Up until then, I was being in Muncie. So everything
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Speaker 1: we did was very very very slow, like little tiny
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Speaker 1: baby steps where I felt like other people my family
13:07
Speaker 1: took like giant steps. Um So everything we did was
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Speaker 1: like very much spoken out about. So like just like
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Speaker 1: you see on the show, like we talk about camps
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Speaker 1: like that was a conversation we were having for like
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Speaker 1: three years until I was like, okay, like this is
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Speaker 1: what I'm doing. Um So I think that because like
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Speaker 1: we constantly we're talking about how we were feeling what
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Speaker 1: kind of life we want to live? Um, but we
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Speaker 1: let want our lifestyle to be. Um. We were never
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Speaker 1: on such polarizing sides, Like we always had the same
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Speaker 1: core values. Um. Maybe like certain things like outwardly were different,
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Speaker 1: like modesty, we had a different take on that. Um,
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Speaker 1: But at the end of the day, like we both
13:45
Speaker 1: had the same values. So and we're very respectful of
13:49
Speaker 1: each other's thoughts and feelings to kind of be like, Okay,
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Speaker 1: this is what I'm doing right now. I know you're
13:54
Speaker 1: not there yet, but as long as you respect me,
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Speaker 1: then we can get there together. Yeah. And I mean
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Speaker 1: that's that's all marriage. I think being able to talk
14:02
Speaker 1: things through and have conversations when you're not heated is huge. Um.
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Speaker 1: And then what if his parents think about all his
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Speaker 1: parents are still ultra orthodox correct Yeah, so UM think, God,
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Speaker 1: they're very similar to my dad and they just want
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Speaker 1: a happy and healthy relationship with their children. So they're
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Speaker 1: very supportive. They just want us to be happy. UM.
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Speaker 1: And we still talk and see them all the time,
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Speaker 1: so we're very thankful for them. And then when you
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Speaker 1: ultimately have a family of your own, like, how will
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Speaker 1: you discuss this? You know, the changes that you made,
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Speaker 1: and that the way that you grew up versus the
14:40
Speaker 1: way you're raising them, Like what do you have a
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Speaker 1: plan on that? I don't really know. I think that
14:45
Speaker 1: obviously like figured out when that happens, but I definitely
14:48
Speaker 1: don't want to like dwell on my past. I think,
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Speaker 1: like I would just teach them about respecting other people's cultures.
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Speaker 1: Like if let's say we go to my in law's house,
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Speaker 1: to be respectful of their home and how they live
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Speaker 1: their lifestyle. So I think, um, just raise it, raising
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Speaker 1: them with that awareness, um and trying to be respectful
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Speaker 1: of other people's communities, Like when I go to Muncy,
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Speaker 1: I will wear skirt and be more modest because I
15:14
Speaker 1: want to respect the location that I'm in. Right, that
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Speaker 1: makes sense? And what about how does it like make
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Speaker 1: you or your husband feel? I've noticed the topic of
15:22
Speaker 1: sex is like very open, like around the dinner table,
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Speaker 1: you guys like your mom will just I know myself,
15:29
Speaker 1: just because if my mom or dad talked about I'm
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Speaker 1: like no, no, no, da da. And I wasn't even
15:34
Speaker 1: raised like but I just from them. I'm like, I
15:38
Speaker 1: can't hear it from you guys, my friends. I can
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Speaker 1: you too? Now? So how does it make you feel? Um?
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Speaker 1: I definitely, like I appreciate like having a mom who's
15:49
Speaker 1: very sex positive because I came from this background where
15:53
Speaker 1: I really didn't know anything. I think I would have
15:56
Speaker 1: felt like extra lost. How did I not know that
15:59
Speaker 1: my mom would be open with me to like have
16:01
Speaker 1: a conversation like that. Um, But definitely, like I like
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Speaker 1: say in the show, like I'm not down to read
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Speaker 1: like her sexcapades in the book, like I thank you.
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Speaker 1: So is your sex life changed since leaving the community
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Speaker 1: or has it been kind of Um? I feel like
16:21
Speaker 1: it's been like it's always been pretty open because I
16:24
Speaker 1: was able to have like that line of communication with
16:26
Speaker 1: my mom to kind of educate myself. But definitely different
16:30
Speaker 1: from when I was growing up because pre marriage, like
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Speaker 1: I didn't know anything. And then were you guys allowed?
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Speaker 1: I mean because right now, especially with COVID and all
16:40
Speaker 1: these things, so many kids are on like iPads and
16:44
Speaker 1: phones and all. What what's the electronics rule? Um? So
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Speaker 1: I guess like I didn't like when I was in
16:50
Speaker 1: high school, that's when people started getting cell phones, but
16:53
Speaker 1: they didn't have anything on them some twenty eight So
16:56
Speaker 1: I feel like we didn't. I didn't go through that
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Speaker 1: like iPhone experience in high school, Like they didn't exist
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Speaker 1: until I was maybe in twelfth grade, I don't know,
17:05
Speaker 1: but I didn't have one. I had like the classic
17:07
Speaker 1: flip boom and then everything. Um So I can't like
17:11
Speaker 1: honestly speak to it because I feel like technology has
17:13
Speaker 1: evolved so much in the past ten years. Um But
17:17
Speaker 1: definitely like watching TV and like movies like that was
17:21
Speaker 1: like you know later on in my life, like when
17:24
Speaker 1: I was in my teenage years, and I guess my
17:26
Speaker 1: mom was like preparing or thinking about leaving. Like we
17:29
Speaker 1: did do some of those things, but like they're very
17:31
Speaker 1: much in hiding. Like we would travel like an hour
17:35
Speaker 1: outside of Muncy to go to a movie theater because
17:37
Speaker 1: like if someone saw me there, I would be kicked
17:39
Speaker 1: out of high school. Um So, like very like I
17:42
Speaker 1: didn't watch like movies with my friends, Like that was
17:45
Speaker 1: just like a no movies, no drinking, not as a
17:48
Speaker 1: teenager but as an adults there drinking as an adult.
17:51
Speaker 1: Oh So, Like the Jewish culture does have a lot
17:54
Speaker 1: of like we have shabba, we have kiddish, like you
17:56
Speaker 1: drink some wine, but it was never like I never
17:58
Speaker 1: went to a party ever my life, and then I
18:01
Speaker 1: just saw you in Vegas. That was my first. That
18:04
Speaker 1: was like my first experience like ever like partying with
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Speaker 1: people and is it what what happens in Vegas stays
18:10
Speaker 1: in Vegas or I feel like this time I did.
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Speaker 1: I went with a big group of friends and like
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Speaker 1: we did like you know, we had a table. It
18:19
Speaker 1: was just I think you did it the right way. Um,
18:22
Speaker 1: and it was a lot of fun. But like I
18:23
Speaker 1: never like experienced, like I never went to a house
18:26
Speaker 1: party in my life. I've never like I didn't go
18:29
Speaker 1: to like classic college or anything. Like I'm now a
18:32
Speaker 1: student at f I T. But it's a city college.
18:35
Speaker 1: Like I still tell my sister who's in Stanford, I'm like,
18:38
Speaker 1: invite me to a party, Like I want to know
18:39
Speaker 1: what that's like. No, that's so fun. Well, it's really
18:43
Speaker 1: fun to watch. We gotta take a quick break because
18:45
Speaker 1: I know we've got to get back to some other
18:46
Speaker 1: listener questions, So we'll take quick break. We'll be right
18:48
Speaker 1: back guys. During the break, guy she was saying she
18:59
Speaker 1: was a big fan, um of our Housewives. What people
19:03
Speaker 1: always ask me, is the show scripted? Is it fake?
19:06
Speaker 1: What is it? And the way I kind of always explained,
19:08
Speaker 1: it's like everything is heightened because you're being filmed and
19:11
Speaker 1: you know it is a television show, but it's all real.
19:14
Speaker 1: It's your real emotions, it's your real reactions. What would
19:17
Speaker 1: you say from you know, coming from your background to
19:20
Speaker 1: all of a sudden being on the television show. Like
19:23
Speaker 1: when people say that scripted, are you guys you know,
19:25
Speaker 1: going over the top or what are your thoughts on that?
19:28
Speaker 1: I think like, well, like what we did was really
19:31
Speaker 1: like picked on things that we actually were experiencing, like
19:35
Speaker 1: real life situations like Ben and I talking about me
19:38
Speaker 1: wearing cans or us fighting about me taking too many
19:41
Speaker 1: inso stories or just like we tried to think of
19:44
Speaker 1: like real scenarios that we actually experienced in life UM
19:49
Speaker 1: and shared those. So I feel like they feel they
19:51
Speaker 1: are authentic. Um. They feel authentic because they are authentic. UM.
19:56
Speaker 1: Definitely like there's more drama than like your natural daily life. UM,
20:01
Speaker 1: but I think like it's all it's very real. No
20:04
Speaker 1: one's telling you what to say or how to act. Um.
20:08
Speaker 1: But people aren't like waking you up in the morning
20:10
Speaker 1: with a camera in your face. Yea, And especially like trips,
20:14
Speaker 1: any of those types of things that that's and what
20:19
Speaker 1: was the biggest shocker from going from Monster to New
20:22
Speaker 1: York City. Um again, I feel like it was like
20:25
Speaker 1: for me, it was just like little baby steps that
20:28
Speaker 1: it didn't feel like so crazy of a jump because
20:32
Speaker 1: it was very gradual for us. UM. But I guess
20:36
Speaker 1: like the biggest jump, I feel like finding a group
20:38
Speaker 1: of friends that like live a modern orthodox lifestyle like
20:43
Speaker 1: I live now was like very eye opening for me
20:47
Speaker 1: because I never experienced that, like people who have religion
20:50
Speaker 1: in their life but also live worldly lives. Um. And
20:56
Speaker 1: I feel like a lot of people can relate that
20:58
Speaker 1: in like any religion, not like judy them specifically, but
21:01
Speaker 1: like Christian, Catholic, Muslim, whatever it is. Um. That like
21:05
Speaker 1: there are people who have learned to have religion and
21:08
Speaker 1: respect that but also have careers and travel and do things. UM.
21:14
Speaker 1: That was like really enlightening for me. And when your
21:17
Speaker 1: mom said like that she escaped, do you feel like
21:20
Speaker 1: that's an accurate portrayal of like do you feel like
21:23
Speaker 1: you escaped or I think because my mom, Like for us,
21:28
Speaker 1: we had my mom who was doing things, UM, so
21:31
Speaker 1: we always had that life line. But for her, she
21:34
Speaker 1: didn't know anyone, like just like I didn't know like
21:37
Speaker 1: I didn't have any non Jewish friends. I didn't have
21:41
Speaker 1: any um like not ultra orthodox friends, like I didn't
21:46
Speaker 1: have communications. So I feel like for her, like escaping
21:50
Speaker 1: is the right word, because she left beyond behind like
21:53
Speaker 1: her whole life, like every person she knew and what
21:57
Speaker 1: she was raised on, and then she came to up
21:59
Speaker 1: a complete new world where she had nothing, no ties
22:03
Speaker 1: to anyone, no education. So it felt like that escape, right,
22:07
Speaker 1: And then how how long do you think it actually
22:11
Speaker 1: took you to acclimate and feel like showing yourself on
22:16
Speaker 1: social media talking about those times of things, you know,
22:19
Speaker 1: being open, doing ads, all that type of stuff. That's
22:22
Speaker 1: a completely different world. And I know for me sometimes
22:25
Speaker 1: having other people's feedback, especially when you're making lifestyle changes,
22:31
Speaker 1: can feel really disheartening. So in those moments like how
22:34
Speaker 1: did you find your strength? So I actually never spoke
22:38
Speaker 1: about my religion. I spoke about like being Jewish, but
22:43
Speaker 1: I never spoke about my religious changes at all on
22:46
Speaker 1: my social media because I didn't want that to be
22:49
Speaker 1: a topic of discussion. I felt like if I spoke
22:52
Speaker 1: about it, then I was letting people in to give
22:54
Speaker 1: me their opinion. So I never said anything any changes
22:58
Speaker 1: I made or I just like the day I started
23:01
Speaker 1: posting in pants like, I just posted in pants like.
23:04
Speaker 1: I didn't say anything, there was no announcement, there was
23:06
Speaker 1: no this is why I'm doing this, um. And I
23:10
Speaker 1: think because I did that, I didn't get that feedback
23:13
Speaker 1: because nobody like felt comfortable saying anything to me because
23:16
Speaker 1: I never You didn't give the option, you didn't open
23:18
Speaker 1: the door for feedback. I love that. Are there any
23:21
Speaker 1: aspects of the community that you you really miss? Um?
23:26
Speaker 1: I think like all the positive aspects of like being religious,
23:29
Speaker 1: I still have in my life. So there's nothing that
23:32
Speaker 1: I would say I miss because I feel like whatever
23:34
Speaker 1: I enjoyed, I brought with me and still do. Yeah.
23:37
Speaker 1: And then how did your mom? And Sylvia me? I
23:42
Speaker 1: know that's hard when people ask me parent questions, it's
23:45
Speaker 1: always hard, But how did they mean? And having a
23:47
Speaker 1: I'm a stepmom myself, so how do you how comfortable
23:52
Speaker 1: do you feel, you know, adjusting to having you know,
23:55
Speaker 1: a step parent. So I feel like for me, like
23:58
Speaker 1: she doesn't feel like a step dad. He's like still
24:01
Speaker 1: like I know my Sylvia like my mom's husband. Just
24:03
Speaker 1: because I'm out of the house, I feel like for
24:05
Speaker 1: my little brother who lives with my mom, it's a
24:08
Speaker 1: different feeling. Um. And like he's very into photography, so
24:13
Speaker 1: we're very like we connect on that, which is really nice. Um.
24:17
Speaker 1: So we found like our own personal things to connect on. Um.
24:22
Speaker 1: And there was never at that point where we wanted
24:24
Speaker 1: our parents to get back together. So I think for us, um,
24:29
Speaker 1: it was nice because like we just wanted our parents
24:32
Speaker 1: to be happy and to see my mom really happy
24:34
Speaker 1: with Sylvia and my dad now found someone. Um. It's
24:38
Speaker 1: just like so nice as children to like have your
24:40
Speaker 1: parents find someone who makes them happy when like they're
24:44
Speaker 1: obviously in a very unhappy relationship before. So how does
24:48
Speaker 1: that work? Because your dad's still ultra orthodox but his
24:52
Speaker 1: girlfriend is more modern correct. Yeah, so he's he's coming along,
24:56
Speaker 1: you know, like when he gets married, he's moving out
24:58
Speaker 1: of Muncie. So I think it's kind of like getting
25:02
Speaker 1: out of a community that you're supposed to live a
25:06
Speaker 1: certain way. That really makes like the big difference, because
25:10
Speaker 1: like if you're living in a more modern community, like
25:13
Speaker 1: people don't judge you the same way. They're more open minded.
25:17
Speaker 1: To like whatever you choose to do or not do right. Um. Okay.
25:22
Speaker 1: Favorite and least favorite thing of filming a reality show,
25:26
Speaker 1: oh um. Favorite, I love like getting glammed and getting dressed,
25:30
Speaker 1: like I personally enjoy that. Um. At least favorite, I
25:34
Speaker 1: guess is like having uncomfortable conversations like with a camera
25:38
Speaker 1: and knowing that they're going to be like your personal
25:40
Speaker 1: feelings are going to be out there for people to
25:43
Speaker 1: watch and judge. My least favorite thing was I'm an
25:47
Speaker 1: emotional person, so, um, I'll cry, Like if I started
25:51
Speaker 1: to get emotional, I cry. But there was something about
25:53
Speaker 1: like the heat of the camera on your face get emotional,
25:58
Speaker 1: Like immediately you'd see like my chet start to get red,
26:00
Speaker 1: Like I could feel myself getting hot and I'd be
26:02
Speaker 1: like I'm sweating and all of a sudden, you just
26:04
Speaker 1: feel it right there and you're just like maybe I
26:07
Speaker 1: wouldn't cry in real life, but this heat and this closeness,
26:11
Speaker 1: like there is no way I'm going to keep it
26:13
Speaker 1: together right now, And so I was just I would
26:16
Speaker 1: completely forget that the cameras were there by the end
26:19
Speaker 1: unless I was like emotional, I'm gonna cry. Then all
26:22
Speaker 1: of a sudden they were like blaring in my face.
26:24
Speaker 1: And it's like when somebody says to you, like, don't cry,
26:26
Speaker 1: don't get upset, then all of a sudden you're like
26:28
Speaker 1: or like crying, Like when my husband says that if
26:31
Speaker 1: we're watching like a movie and it's that I'm like,
26:34
Speaker 1: every time someone says are you crying? Like that makes
26:36
Speaker 1: you want to cry? Yeah, you can't help it? Um?
26:40
Speaker 1: And how long until season two? How long we got?
26:45
Speaker 1: I will tell if if you guys are listening to this,
26:47
Speaker 1: then you want to tag at Netflix that you love
26:50
Speaker 1: the show, share with them because timetell hopefully, hopefully we'll
26:55
Speaker 1: know for sure. Se al right. Well, in closing, is
26:57
Speaker 1: there anything else you want to share with everybody where
27:01
Speaker 1: they find you, Anything that you're super proud of or
27:04
Speaker 1: excited about. Give us the deeds? Yeah, definitely check me
27:09
Speaker 1: out on social media on Instagram, TikTok, YouTube, I close
27:14
Speaker 1: content daily. Um, and thank you so much for having
27:19
Speaker 1: me on. This was amazing. I appreciate you coming. Thank
27:22
Speaker 1: you well. Thanks you guys for joining this week's teddy
27:26
Speaker 1: Te pod. It was so interesting. Um and also next
27:31
Speaker 1: week I have a feeling you guys aren't gonna want
27:34
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27:38
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27:40
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27:44
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