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29. Using Law of Attraction to Change Negative Thoughts to Positive Thoughts in Life After Divorce · Dear Divorce Diary: A Fresh Approach To Healing Grief & Building A Life Of Confidence After Divorce

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  Speaker 1: Hi, love.
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  Speaker 1: This is Dawn and you're listening to Dear Divorce Diary with my coach, dawn, where we explore the post-divorce life and you, the woman who lives it.
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  Speaker 2: We cover everything from trauma during and after divorce, to feeling like a stranger in your own life and the new frontier of life as a single woman.
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  Speaker 1: We're cozy in for the conversations we've been longing to have about this new life.
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  Speaker 2: Hi, love.
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  Speaker 2: So if you've been hanging out with me lately, you know I have been saying a lot.
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  Speaker 2: Everything is always working out for me and I have been singing it and making up songs about it, and I have been saying it so much my kid has started saying it.
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  Speaker 2: I've been saying it so much, people kind of look at me strange.
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  Speaker 2: And so here's the deal with affirmations and manifesting.
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  Speaker 2: Affirmations aren't necessarily supposed to feel true for you, right?
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  Speaker 2: And there's a lot of information out there about manifesting and affirmations.
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  Speaker 2: But here's my super quick hot take If you have a phrase and affirmation that you wish were true, but it doesn't feel true, that's okay, say it.
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  Speaker 2: Say it a lot, because the goal is to turn it into a belief.
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  Speaker 2: Right?
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  Speaker 2: What is a belief?
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  Speaker 2: It's a thought that has been thought a lot.
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  Speaker 2: So I'm going to read you today's affirmation out of my Louise Haye calendar that comes from Haye House Publishing from Monday, august 29th.
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  Speaker 2: Ooh, there's a hot tip about which day I'm actually recording this versus which day you're listening to it A little behind the scenes action there.
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  Speaker 2: Okay, so today's affirmation is there is so much love in my heart and it is wonderful to share it with my family and friends.
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  Speaker 2: Now, does that resonate with you today?
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  Speaker 2: Are you like who?
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  Speaker 2: I am getting divorced and there is so much love in my heart?
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  Speaker 2: Maybe not right, like maybe that one doesn't resonate with you today, but guess what?
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  Speaker 2: If you want it to resonate with you, then that is the kind of thought to grab hold of and to say it often, because the goal is to kind of tune ourselves to the future we want, versus being super tuned in to the pain of your past or your present right.
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  Speaker 2: So I am a big fan of mirror messages and if you've done my 21 day guided journaling program that is free on my website, you know I'm a big fan of mirror messages.
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  Speaker 2: There is one on my mirror right now.
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  Speaker 2: You already know what it is.
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  Speaker 2: It says in hot pink everything is always working out for me, and that is the affirmation that I wanted to become true in my life, and I have been saying it now for a couple of weeks and it feels very true to me right now that everything is really working out for me.
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  Speaker 2: Now, don't get me wrong.
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  Speaker 2: There are moments that I'm like, oh, there is a pocket of doubt going on inside of me, right?
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  Speaker 2: I woke up with some kind of distressing dreams last night.
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  Speaker 2: There's kind of a thing, a problem, that my brain is trying to chew on and I'm like, hey, brain, come over here.
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  Speaker 2: I don't want to chew on that problem, right?
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  Speaker 2: I want to stay focused on manifesting a future reality that is different from my current reality.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, so manifestation is about not being so in tune with the problems of the present, but by tuning ourselves to the future reality we want.
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  Speaker 2: And that means sometimes using affirmations that don't resonate.
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  Speaker 2: And that's okay, because if you're using affirmations that already resonate seeing, now I'm coaching myself, right, this moment.
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  Speaker 2: Look at that.
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  Speaker 2: Thank you, loves, for being here and holding space for me, because it's time for me to have a new affirmation, right, because this one is already feeling resonant.
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  Speaker 2: So now I need to keep going further.
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  Speaker 2: It's time for me to look for inspiration for my next one, right?
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  Speaker 2: So I love this hay house calendar that sits on my desk.
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  Speaker 2: It was a gift from a dear friend of mine.
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  Speaker 2: I got it for Christmas this last year and I have used it and it's been a game changer.
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  Speaker 2: And, you know, i've taken the ones that I really wanted desperately to be true and I've pinned them to my desk where I look every day.
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  Speaker 2: So a tool like this is a great hack.
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  Speaker 2: Right, a daily calendar with an affirmation on it, because there's some that you're gonna be like ah, mastered that.
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  Speaker 2: And then there are gonna be some that you're like, gosh, if only you know.
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  Speaker 2: And those ones where you're like, if only, yes, they're drawing you forward right.
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  Speaker 2: So then I like to keep those and I like to make them part of my visual space as a reminder that that's the direction I'm moving in.
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  Speaker 2: So here's my hot tip about changing your current reality in exchange for your future reality that I promise you is out there.
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  Speaker 2: Just step towards it.
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  Speaker 2: Love, talk soon, peace koşralkcom Kubernetes.