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Finding Emo · We Talk Back

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  Speaker 1: We're just two unapologetically black women with an opinion who
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  Speaker 1: talk back. What's up y'all? Welcome to a new episode
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  Speaker 1: of We Talk Back, a show dedicated to you niggas
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  Speaker 1: and these hoes. It's your co-host AJ Holiday. What's up Tam?
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  Speaker 1: Hey girl. Hey y'all. It's me Tam Bam. I love
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  Speaker 1: y'all once again. Thank y'all for tuning in. What's up, girl?
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  Speaker 1: It was a great weekend. Wasn't it? It was. It
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  Speaker 1: was so lit. I feel like a celebrity. Hello, tiny
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  Speaker 1: bit girl. Okay, I know this is We Talk Back,
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  Speaker 1: but when I tell you, I'm tired of fucking talking. Really?
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  Speaker 1: I mean it. Yes. I don't get tired. We're going
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  Speaker 1: to talk to everybody this weekend, y'all. Everybody. But I
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  Speaker 1: enjoyed it. I did feel like a super celebrity. Let's
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  Speaker 1: be clear.
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  Speaker 2: So we had the Black Effect Podcast Festival, the very
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  Speaker 2: first one. And it was our first live show, so
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  Speaker 2: I was nervous. I was all nervous.
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  Speaker 1: Like, what about, did you feel like a whole bunch
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  Speaker 1: of adrenaline? Yes, I felt like my panties was showing.
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  Speaker 1: I have none on, but I felt like they was showing.
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  Speaker 1: I felt like I had boogers. I felt like I
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  Speaker 1: had to fart. All type of shit was happening. You
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  Speaker 1: know what?
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  Speaker 2: Like, I didn't eat just so I wouldn't have to
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  Speaker 2: use the bathroom. I didn't eat anything. And when we
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  Speaker 2: did Stupid Internet News, my head, like, my thoughts went blank.
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  Speaker 1: Mine, too. Because I didn't know what to say about
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  Speaker 1: Diddy and Carisha Ass.
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  Speaker 2: Either way, it was a good time, and I had fun,
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  Speaker 2: and I enjoyed myself. And I can't wait to do it.
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  Speaker 2: We're going to set up our tour.
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  Speaker 1: Yes. So, y'all stay tuned for that. That's what I'm
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  Speaker 1: looking forward to the most, so we can have all
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  Speaker 1: the creative patrol over our shit. And it's going to
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  Speaker 1: be lit. I definitely want to bring the drummer out
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  Speaker 1: so he can have a bigger... Opportunity to showcase his talent. Yes.
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  Speaker 1: They really didn't get the full feel of that drummer, man. Yeah,
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  Speaker 1: because it's like go-go. You know what I'm saying? Get lit.
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  Speaker 1: Pop that pussy, baby. Show them niggas you ain't scared
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  Speaker 1: of them. Let's get into stupid internet news.
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  Speaker 2: Okay, so what I found, Lotto has a song, and
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  Speaker 2: she speaks on Coil Array. And she says, smoking gas
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  Speaker 2: in a big blunt like Coil Array. And I don't
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  Speaker 2: think she meant it as a diss, but on the
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  Speaker 2: shade room, Koi LeRae responded to Lotto and was like, Lotto, bye.
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  Speaker 2: Here you go talking about my body. Please do not
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  Speaker 2: come on here and talk about nobody's body.
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  Speaker 1: LOL.
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  Speaker 2: Like, seriously, out of all things, laugh my ass off. Yo,
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  Speaker 2: blunt my size. Laugh my ass off. This shit is
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  Speaker 2: never ending. And that's what Koi LeRae said.
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  Speaker 1: I think her response was, she was like... I feel
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  Speaker 1: like maybe it was a little bit of insecurity on
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  Speaker 1: her part because I don't think it was that serious
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  Speaker 1: what Lotto said. So I feel like, you know, she
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  Speaker 1: is slim thick. Well, is she slim thick? She's slim.
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  Speaker 1: I think she got a little booty though, don't she?
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  Speaker 1: She's slim. She got a little booty. So I thought
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  Speaker 1: that's what Lotto meant by the lyric. I thought she
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  Speaker 1: meant like she rolling a blunt. You know, that so
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  Speaker 1: fat is the size of a human slim person. That's
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  Speaker 1: what I thought she meant. Like, it's that big, you know.
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  Speaker 1: She putting all the gas in there. I still don't
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  Speaker 1: think it was shade, and she might have overreacted.
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  Speaker 2: And then she came back. So she came back and said,
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  Speaker 2: maybe I overreacted. End of the day, don't say my
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  Speaker 2: name for clicks and likes, especially if we don't speak
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  Speaker 2: or communicate. I'm not a big blunt, small blunt. Don't
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  Speaker 2: compare me to nada. Mitch and bitches, you actually beef with.
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  Speaker 2: Put it on the floor, but leave me out of
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  Speaker 2: the bullshit.
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  Speaker 1: That's not a beef, though. That was not a beef, Larry.
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  Speaker 1: That was not. She didn't take a shot at her
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  Speaker 1: or anything.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, so during Coachella, Lotto came back and said, oh,
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  Speaker 2: Coil Away, by the way, I love your body, baby. Like,
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  Speaker 2: she was just like into it. Like, I don't want
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  Speaker 2: to smoke. But in Coil Away's defense... She gets.
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  Speaker 1: Scrutinized for her body type and celebrating her body the
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  Speaker 1: way that she does. So she probably was just triggered
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  Speaker 1: just the mention of her body was like, don't say
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  Speaker 1: nothing about my body, God damn it. I'm tired of
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  Speaker 1: y'all talking about my body. I definitely don't think that
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  Speaker 1: one of her peers would come at her like that
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  Speaker 1: out of nowhere.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, but you know how rap beef is and it's
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  Speaker 2: like entertaining to create beef where there is none.
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  Speaker 1: So if that's the case, then they should just leave
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  Speaker 1: it at that. Then this is just some rap shit.
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  Speaker 1: Like she created the beef as far as I'm concerned. Yeah. Yeah,
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  Speaker 1: I don't think Lotto created the beef. But I feel
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  Speaker 1: like Lotto be having beef with everybody.
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  Speaker 2: It seems like every week we look up Lotto having
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  Speaker 2: to argue about something with somebody.
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  Speaker 1: I don't know. I can understand the argument with her
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  Speaker 1: and Nicki Minaj because Nicki Minaj do, you know, act
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  Speaker 1: like somebody's supposed to kiss her ass. And that's another
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  Speaker 1: thing Lotto said at Coachella. What'd she say? Basically, like,
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  Speaker 1: I'm not kissing nobody's fucking ass. I'm not mad at that. Yeah.
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  Speaker 1: Stand your ground. I love me some Nicki Minaj, too, though.
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  Speaker 1: I love her. I pretty much love all these ladies.
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  Speaker 1: They're all strong, powerful rappers, and they got good music,
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  Speaker 1: so I'm here for it. None of them rap better
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  Speaker 1: than Nicki Minaj, so let's be clear. Yeah, no. No,
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  Speaker 1: I wouldn't go that far. But they all make good music.
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  Speaker 1: So apparently Nelly and Ashanti are a thing again. I
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  Speaker 1: don't know how true that is, but they did perform.
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  Speaker 1: They had a performance recently together, and I was laying
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  Speaker 1: in my homegirl bed, and I was like... Ashanti didn't
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  Speaker 1: leave Nelly alone because she looks like she's getting weight already.
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  Speaker 1: Get that relationship weight on your ass. She looks the
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  Speaker 1: fuck good. She does, but she had on like some
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  Speaker 1: little hot pants. You know she got them granny ankles.
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  Speaker 1: Like she got them nice, thick, pretty legs, right? But
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  Speaker 1: she don't have the biggest booty. And she had these
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  Speaker 1: little pants on. I'm like, oh shit. See, look at
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  Speaker 1: you body shaming. That is not body shaming. Bitch, I
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  Speaker 1: got the same shit going on. That is not body shaming.
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  Speaker 1: They look... I like them. I can tell she in
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  Speaker 1: a relationship. Based on her body right now, I can
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  Speaker 1: tell she's in a relationship.
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  Speaker 2: I like them together. They look cute together. They always did.
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  Speaker 2: I liked them back in 2000, early 2000s when they
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  Speaker 2: were together. I didn't want them to split. So seeing
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  Speaker 2: them performing together... It's like nostalgic and it's cool.
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  Speaker 1: I'm here for it. So do you think she stayed
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  Speaker 1: single all that time? Well, we don't know if she
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  Speaker 1: was single or not. She wasn't publicly with anybody else
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  Speaker 1: since Nelly. Didn't she date Flo Rida at some point?
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  Speaker 1: They were saying she was dating Flo Rida. But anyway,
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  Speaker 1: I don't know if I want her with Nelly. Why?
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  Speaker 1: I want her to get somebody else. Why? You don't
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  Speaker 1: like Nelly? No. Did he not just have some situation
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  Speaker 1: going on like maybe last year, year before? A little...
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  Speaker 1: court case where he might have assaulted a woman on
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  Speaker 1: a tour bus I don't know nothing about that I
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  Speaker 1: do y'all remember that I remember it so he's not
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  Speaker 1: worthy of love because of that not as a grown
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  Speaker 1: man no shit happens no shit does not happen you
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  Speaker 1: have to have self control I agree you need self
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  Speaker 1: control and I think Nelly I just think Nelly is
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  Speaker 1: a good guy overall how do you feel about niggas
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  Speaker 1: spinning the block though Like, why did you not, like,
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  Speaker 1: Do the right thing the first time. Because maybe they
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  Speaker 1: had some growing to do. Everybody involved. So Bow Wow
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  Speaker 1: said he needs to come with a ring this time,
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  Speaker 1: which I agree with. Like, if you're going to spend
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  Speaker 1: the block and we at this big-ass age, like, at
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  Speaker 1: what point? I don't need a boyfriend in my 40s.
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  Speaker 1: But why is Bow Wow the messenger, though? Wasn't he
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  Speaker 1: just on Baller Alert talking about he ain't getting married? Right.
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  Speaker 1: He been engaged twice, and it was like, whatever, he
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  Speaker 1: ain't trying to get married. And now giving marriage advice.
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  Speaker 1: That's funny, too. My business boy. boy grown boy.
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  Speaker 2: That's a grown man but okay well I'm here for
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  Speaker 2: it I hope they um do like a Vegas uh
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  Speaker 2: residency like Usher with Nelly and Ashanti all they hits
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  Speaker 2: I would go see I'd be there yeah me too
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  Speaker 2: all right so last thing I need to talk about
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  Speaker 2: and I gotta talk about it snowfall finale oh my
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  Speaker 2: god all right so listen If y'all haven't seen it,
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  Speaker 2: y'all need to go ahead and just fast forward right
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  Speaker 2: now because we about to get into that real quick.
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  Speaker 1: Franklin Saint, like, all right. So at the last season,
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  Speaker 1: I hated that nigga.
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  Speaker 2: I ain't going to lie. I was not rude for him.
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  Speaker 2: He turned dark, right, to me. He just wasn't the
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  Speaker 2: character that we started with. So I felt like in
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  Speaker 2: the end, he got the karma that he had coming, right?
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  Speaker 1: But it just seemed like a little far-fetched to me, like.
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  Speaker 2: I know, like, because I know some niggas who are
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  Speaker 2: alcoholics now that they be like, man, when he was young,
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  Speaker 2: he was the man.
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  Speaker 1: Right. But not a $ 73 million nigga, you know? He
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  Speaker 1: had $ 73 million?
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  Speaker 2: He got it stolen from him. He got it taken
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  Speaker 2: from him. And I guess he lost his mind.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, I can understand the mental anguish because you have
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  Speaker 1: to build wealth. So now he builds some wealth out
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  Speaker 1: of the $ 73 million and somebody can just take that
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  Speaker 1: shit in a day. But I just feel like if
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  Speaker 1: he was able to build it once... He should have
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  Speaker 1: been able to even build maybe half of that again.
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  Speaker 1: You have to be mentally stable to do that. Like, imagine.
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  Speaker 2: Boy, they had him looking so bad. I'm talking about
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  Speaker 2: real bad. Dirty as fuck. Chief, red ring around his eye.
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  Speaker 2: And this nigga had all this money. And Leon gave
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  Speaker 2: him a dub to get some drink.
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  Speaker 1: And he was like, yeah, Andrew Jackson. I was like...
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  Speaker 1: That's not like a crackhead. That's why he looked like a, like, yeah,
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  Speaker 1: he straight look very crackhead.
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  Speaker 2: He was living in his mom's old house and it
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  Speaker 2: was just dilapidated and just all messed up.
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  Speaker 1: And it was just so sad to see him go
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  Speaker 1: out like that. So I don't know. I watched the first,
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  Speaker 1: I don't know. I might've watched the first season and
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  Speaker 1: that was just recently, like maybe last August I started
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  Speaker 1: trying to watch it. When do we have, um, uh,
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  Speaker 1: what's the auntie on there? Oh, we had Louie on. Yeah,
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  Speaker 1: when we had Louie on, I started trying to watch
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  Speaker 1: Snowfall and fell off again. I didn't like how Louie
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  Speaker 1: went out either, but I guess that was her karma
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  Speaker 1: too for becoming like- So what happened to her? Louie
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  Speaker 1: was in a barn.
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  Speaker 2: Hiding from like uh federal agents who were hunting her
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  Speaker 2: and she was like working at this uh like stable
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  Speaker 2: somewhere working for people and she was hiding because they
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  Speaker 2: were trying to find her and i guess the people
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  Speaker 2: who own the stable protected her and said they hadn't
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  Speaker 2: seen her like she had ran off and she was
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  Speaker 2: just in there like thank thanking god that they.
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  Speaker 1: Helped her so she never went to prison or anything
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  Speaker 1: no she's still running oh damn in a barn bitch
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  Speaker 1: just hiding in the barn So, yeah, she's running. She
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  Speaker 1: on the run.
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  Speaker 2: Everybody, Leon, he was the one who surprised everybody, you know.
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  Speaker 2: I think when he killed that kid, it just, and
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  Speaker 2: what's the guy? I can't remember the dude's name.
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  Speaker 1: Scully.
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  Speaker 2: Scully, you know, forgave him, vindicated him, and he just
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  Speaker 2: changed his whole soul and spirit.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah. He ended up being the one who was successful
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  Speaker 1: in the end. So what was he doing? Was he
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  Speaker 1: still selling dope or he was a businessman?
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, he was a businessman and he had started some
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  Speaker 2: type of foundation to help people in the community. I
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  Speaker 2: can't remember exactly to what tune, but he tried to
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  Speaker 2: come get Franklin to come get involved. And Franklin was like, nigga,
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  Speaker 2: give me 20 so I can get a drink and
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  Speaker 2: get on.
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  Speaker 1: And he was like, you're the best friend I ever had, man.
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  Speaker 1: Franklin told him that.
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  Speaker 2: And then what I saw, all right, so if you
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  Speaker 2: can remember, on the first episode when he's talking to Mel,
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  Speaker 2: he said he just wanted to be free, right?
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  Speaker 1: That's all he wanted. He wanted to be free. And
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  Speaker 1: then you see his drunk-ass daddy walk by, right? In
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  Speaker 1: the end, he's his drunk. He turns into the same
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  Speaker 1: nigga his daddy is, and he said, I'm finally free.
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  Speaker 1: He says he's finally free, but this was his freedom,
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  Speaker 1: which was so sad. You know, I kind of think
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  Speaker 1: that sometimes when I see, like, bums on the street, like,
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  Speaker 1: they really be bucking the system. Like, we may see it, like, oh,
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  Speaker 1: they homeless, they don't have shit. But when, like, I
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  Speaker 1: go to the Caribbean and stuff like that, and I
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  Speaker 1: see people living, like, minimalist, less stressed. Like, it's fucking
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  Speaker 1: stressful as fuck in America to maintain all these things.
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  Speaker 1: You know what I'm saying? So what if you could
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  Speaker 1: just relinquish it? And that is freedom. It is a
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  Speaker 1: form of freedom, but, bitch, I need to be free
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  Speaker 1: in the mansion. Yeah, me too. That's the kind of
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  Speaker 1: freedom I want. Fuck that. On a yacht. That nigga
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  Speaker 1: had a red ring around his eye. He look stanky
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  Speaker 1: as fuck. I was like okay so I don't watch
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  Speaker 1: I haven't watched Snowfall so when I saw all the
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  Speaker 1: different memes online he had that red I'm like did
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  Speaker 1: he turn into a zombie like what the fuck is
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  Speaker 1: happening it was like Resident Evil right they had him
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  Speaker 1: looking real fucked up and it just was I just
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  Speaker 1: don't feel like John Singleton would have ended it that
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  Speaker 1: way they had a good run they had a really
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  Speaker 1: good run so it was at six seasons so about
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  Speaker 1: six years that's a long ass time So, yeah. Well,
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  Speaker 1: we'll see. R.I.P. John Singleton. All right. That's our stupid
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  Speaker 1: internet news. I'm going to have a commercial break and
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  Speaker 1: we'll be right back. All right, y'all. We're back from
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  Speaker 1: our commercial break. And you know what I want to
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  Speaker 1: talk about today, Tam? What? I would like to talk
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  Speaker 1: about emotional intelligence. What is it? How can you practice
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  Speaker 1: emotional intelligence? I feel like it's almost a term a
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  Speaker 1: lot of people use, almost like calling somebody a narcissist.
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  Speaker 1: It's like just another thing to try to shame somebody. Like, oh,
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  Speaker 1: they don't have emotional intelligence. Can't talk to them. Or
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  Speaker 1: maybe even, I think women may use it a lot
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  Speaker 1: when talking about men. Like they're just like emotionally unavailable
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  Speaker 1: kind of. So listen, the definition of emotional intelligence is
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  Speaker 1: it's most often defined as the ability to perceive, use, understand, manage,
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  Speaker 1: and handle emotions. People with high emotional intelligence can recognize
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  Speaker 1: their own emotions and those of others. Use more information
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  Speaker 1: to guide thinking and behavior. Discern between different feelings and
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  Speaker 1: label them appropriately. And adjust emotions to adapt to environments.
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  Speaker 1: So that's the definition of having emotional intelligence. Girl, you
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  Speaker 1: just said a whole bunch of shit. Yeah.
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  Speaker 2: So when I thought about it, I was like, I'm
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  Speaker 2: emotional and I'm intelligent, so I must have emotional intelligence.
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  Speaker 1: That's how I felt about it.
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  Speaker 2: Like, I'm usually emotional, and I'm extremely intelligent, so I
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  Speaker 2: just assume that I have emotional intelligence.
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  Speaker 1: But it's not that. No. So basically, from what I read,
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  Speaker 1: it said all people experience emotions, obviously, right? But it's
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  Speaker 1: only a select few of people who accurately identify them
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  Speaker 1: as they occur. So research shows that only 36% of
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  Speaker 1: people actually have and practice emotional intelligence. You know what?
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  Speaker 2: I feel like in the black community, what we do are...
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  Speaker 2: I don't want to say what we do. Okay, I'm
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  Speaker 2: saying it. We use anger to express every emotion. We
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  Speaker 2: only use anger. I feel like that's... Especially black men.
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  Speaker 2: I don't feel like.
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  Speaker 1: I think women are more emotionally intelligent than men. Are we, though?
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  Speaker 1: Because we're usually the ones that's going to start yelling.
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  Speaker 1: And that's not practicing emotional intelligence. Okay, so you should
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  Speaker 1: be able to articulate how you're feeling and convey it
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  Speaker 1: in a way to where the person can understand without
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  Speaker 1: you getting angry. So I can say, and we actually
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  Speaker 1: took a test, right? So what was your score on
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  Speaker 1: the test? 51. Okay, so I scored a 56. Tammy asked,
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  Speaker 1: but sometimes down the middle of the show. Because that
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  Speaker 1: was the truth. Sometimes I fuck with her, sometimes I don't,
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  Speaker 1: you know, like.
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  Speaker 2: I feel like everybody literally could go sometimes down the
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  Speaker 2: middle of all those questions.
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  Speaker 1: Right. I think men may... Okay, so I said men
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  Speaker 1: practice emotional intelligence, right? But I think also it could be...
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  Speaker 1: Let me give an example. So I was in a
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  Speaker 1: relationship with a fucking narcissist, right? And he practiced emotional intelligence,
• 15:54
  Speaker 1: but it was in a form of manipulation, though. Like,
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  Speaker 1: could you imagine somebody doing or saying something to get
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  Speaker 1: you to 100? So now you up here, cutting up, cussing,
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  Speaker 1: acting a fucking fool, and they like real calm. So
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  Speaker 1: now you feel stupid. So when they say practicing emotional intelligence,
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  Speaker 1: it's like you can articulate how you feel without getting angry.
• 16:16
  Speaker 1: But just because I'm displaying my anger, you know. But
• 16:20
  Speaker 1: isn't anger emotions? It is an emotion, but what comes
• 16:24
  Speaker 1: along with being angry? Cussing at somebody, being very disrespectful.
• 16:28
  Speaker 1: You know what I'm saying? That's not healthy to have
• 16:31
  Speaker 1: a healthy relationship with anybody in a workplace. You know,
• 16:36
  Speaker 1: I've worked in a corporate setting where people cussed in
• 16:38
  Speaker 1: corporate meetings.
• 16:39
  Speaker 2: Well, all right, let's keep it, let's get real, real.
• 16:43
  Speaker 2: You and I, when we disagree, we don't practice good
• 16:46
  Speaker 2: emotional intelligence.
• 16:47
  Speaker 1: No, not at all. We be fussing and hanging up
• 16:49
  Speaker 1: on each other. I don't hang up. You do? Once. Okay.
• 16:52
  Speaker 1: Because I hung up one time because I felt like
• 16:54
  Speaker 1: I was tired of fucking talking. Okay. And if I
• 16:56
  Speaker 1: keep talking, it's like nothing's getting done. Okay.
• 16:59
  Speaker 2: Well, so you hang up. I hang up.
• 17:02
  Speaker 1: I do say bye first. So is that really hanging up? Yes.
• 17:04
  Speaker 1: Because the conversation don't be over. So when will it
• 17:07
  Speaker 1: be over? No, this has to be like. Bitch, bye.
• 17:10
  Speaker 1: That's not the same thing as saying bye. No, I'd
• 17:13
  Speaker 1: be like, I'm hanging up now. I'd definitely say I'm
• 17:16
  Speaker 1: hanging up now. The last time we got into it,
• 17:18
  Speaker 1: you was like, well, you get out the phone then.
• 17:20
  Speaker 1: Get out the phone. I said, I ain't going nowhere.
• 17:22
  Speaker 1: I stayed on the phone for 30 more minutes before
• 17:24
  Speaker 1: I finally hung up on y'all ass. Because now we
• 17:26
  Speaker 1: done talked too far. Listen, me and Tammy literally was
• 17:28
  Speaker 1: in therapy. And I did hang up on the therapy session.
• 17:32
  Speaker 1: So that's two. Twice. I hung up on the therapy
• 17:35
  Speaker 1: session because it's like... I didn't like the fucking therapist.
• 17:40
  Speaker 1: This shit is not fucking working. We probably should have
• 17:42
  Speaker 1: picked a different therapist. We should not have picked somebody
• 17:45
  Speaker 1: that you're using as your personal therapist. Because I'm asking
• 17:49
  Speaker 1: some basic shit to both Tam and the fucking therapist,
• 17:52
  Speaker 1: and she's giving these goddamn... white people, uh, psychology type.
• 17:58
  Speaker 1: Textbook answers. Yes. I'm like, you know what? This ain't
• 18:01
  Speaker 1: fucking working. I'm tired of talking. Y'all have a good evening.
• 18:04
  Speaker 1: And you know what?
• 18:04
  Speaker 2: That brings up to a new conversation when it comes
• 18:07
  Speaker 2: to therapists. You have to find the right person for
• 18:09
  Speaker 2: you because I just felt like she was a nice
• 18:12
  Speaker 2: woman as a therapist, but she just unpacked my shit
• 18:15
  Speaker 2: and then left it sitting on this table next to me.
• 18:17
  Speaker 2: You know, like it wasn't like any real healing that
• 18:21
  Speaker 2: I was getting out of the therapy.
• 18:22
  Speaker 1: You're not going to get, I don't feel like you're
• 18:24
  Speaker 1: going to get As a black person, I don't feel
• 18:26
  Speaker 1: like you want to get actual healing from therapy with
• 18:29
  Speaker 1: anybody doing some textbook therapy type shit. Like black people
• 18:33
  Speaker 1: need spiritual healing, right? We need a different type of therapy.
• 18:37
  Speaker 1: So now these people get paid to be, this is
• 18:40
  Speaker 1: a doctor, right? So imagine if she were to help
• 18:43
  Speaker 1: heal everybody, she wouldn't have a job. So they have
• 18:46
  Speaker 1: you unpack all this shit and leave it there so
• 18:49
  Speaker 1: you can have some shit to unpack next week. At
• 18:52
  Speaker 1: what point is there an ending to healing? It has
• 18:55
  Speaker 1: to be at any point. When are you healed? Right. Yeah.
• 18:57
  Speaker 1: I think you're healed when you are available.
• 18:59
  Speaker 2: I would go, like, I literally would go into therapy like,
• 19:02
  Speaker 2: today is a beautiful day.
• 19:04
  Speaker 1: And then I leave out there motherfucking like, Lord, where
• 19:07
  Speaker 1: the weed at? Like, he made you sick. How is
• 19:10
  Speaker 1: this good? How is this good? He made you sick, bitch. Yeah.
• 19:14
  Speaker 1: Next week. Yeah. It just never works. I think the
• 19:17
  Speaker 1: healing comes when you're able to practice emotional intelligence. That's
• 19:21
  Speaker 1: when the healing comes in. So what emotion is the strongest? Anger. Oh,
• 19:27
  Speaker 1: hold on. I don't even want to start there. Sorry.
• 19:31
  Speaker 1: How do emotionally– so this is one question. How do
• 19:33
  Speaker 1: emotionally intelligent people communicate? It says emotional intelligence improves your
• 19:37
  Speaker 1: assertiveness by allowing you to communicate effectively. By being aware
• 19:43
  Speaker 1: of your emotions and by having self-control, you can communicate
• 19:48
  Speaker 1: your thoughts clearly with confidence. In turn, this will make
• 19:51
  Speaker 1: you more assertive and confident without coming across as pushy
• 19:55
  Speaker 1: or aggressive. I feel like as women, like, if I'm not,
• 19:59
  Speaker 1: I don't want to say pushy, but if I'm assertive,
• 20:02
  Speaker 1: I'm automatically called a bitch. But a man is called
• 20:05
  Speaker 1: a boss for being assertive. So I feel like even
• 20:07
  Speaker 1: with that, women have to especially black women anything we
• 20:12
  Speaker 1: say or do you automatically you got an attitude I
• 20:15
  Speaker 1: was checking in for the hotel the other night and
• 20:17
  Speaker 1: I told a guy like listen hey I'm rushing I
• 20:19
  Speaker 1: really need my stuff now because I wanted to push
• 20:20
  Speaker 1: my shit upstairs I didn't want to wait for him
• 20:23
  Speaker 1: I said I need my stuff now you don't have
• 20:26
  Speaker 1: to say it like that and I literally waited on
• 20:28
  Speaker 1: the other side of the door so I can make
• 20:31
  Speaker 1: sure he knew I wasn't trying to be rude to
• 20:33
  Speaker 1: him because I wasn't I'm never rude to anybody in
• 20:35
  Speaker 1: service but I think I don't know what the fuck
• 20:38
  Speaker 1: he was dealing with at home, but he automatically, nothing
• 20:41
  Speaker 1: that I said to him had an attitude or nasty undertone, nothing.
• 20:46
  Speaker 1: But that's how he perceived it.
• 20:47
  Speaker 2: Just like how we were saying Koala Ray might have
• 20:49
  Speaker 2: been triggered just by that. He might have had bitches
• 20:52
  Speaker 2: being nasty to him all day, and then just that
• 20:54
  Speaker 2: one sentence was like, You know what?
• 20:56
  Speaker 1: I'm sick of all y'all. You don't got to say
• 20:57
  Speaker 1: it like that. And he had the nastiest attitude with me.
• 21:00
  Speaker 1: When he went and got my car back again, he
• 21:01
  Speaker 1: was like, she ain't going to tip anyway. Bitch, I
• 21:03
  Speaker 1: told you I didn't have cash. Like, ain't y'all getting
• 21:06
  Speaker 1: paid to be here? I'm confused. Right. I can go
• 21:09
  Speaker 1: get my own fucking car. You better get a QR
• 21:11
  Speaker 1: code necklace, nigga. I can send you some cash or something.
• 21:15
  Speaker 1: That parking was $ 55 a day. Bitch, you better get
• 21:18
  Speaker 1: it from the damn hotel. It was $ 62 a day. Oh,
• 21:19
  Speaker 1: that's true. I need a check. Yeah, I'm 62. Well,
• 21:24
  Speaker 1: I ain't paid for it, so there's that part.
• 21:28
  Speaker 2: You know, I feel like I get misunderstood oftentimes. People
• 21:32
  Speaker 2: are like, your tone, your tone, your tone.
• 21:35
  Speaker 1: Really? And I don't be mean and shit. Really? See,
• 21:40
  Speaker 1: your tone right now. I feel like there's a hint
• 21:42
  Speaker 1: of sarcasm there. Well, you know, because I feel like,
• 21:45
  Speaker 1: so Tammy always be addressing my tone, right? Because I
• 21:48
  Speaker 1: can say the very same thing. It's just going to
• 21:50
  Speaker 1: be in a louder tone. And she could say the
• 21:52
  Speaker 1: same thing in a regular tone, but for whatever reason
• 21:56
  Speaker 1: in her mind is less disrespectful. It's more disrespectful because
• 21:59
  Speaker 1: I'm yelling it. Tone and inflection matters, though. Nigga, no. Yes,
• 22:03
  Speaker 1: they do. I feel like people address tone when they
• 22:06
  Speaker 1: can't address the real shit you're actually saying. So now
• 22:08
  Speaker 1: you's like, why you say it like that? You ain't
• 22:10
  Speaker 1: had to say it like that. Address what the fuck
• 22:13
  Speaker 1: I'm saying and let's move on. See, that's the same
• 22:15
  Speaker 1: thing the man was saying to you. Fuck that nigga. See? See,
• 22:20
  Speaker 1: you're missing the point. Fuck the man. You're missing that point.
• 22:24
  Speaker 1: I said it really nice. I looked up. I said,
• 22:26
  Speaker 1: I really need to hurry up and get dressed. I
• 22:27
  Speaker 1: need my bags now. I didn't stay mean to him,
• 22:30
  Speaker 1: so fuck him. So what does poor emotional intelligence look like?
• 22:36
  Speaker 1: It says people with low emotional intelligence often struggle to
• 22:40
  Speaker 1: understand and control their emotions. They might lash out relatively easily.
• 22:45
  Speaker 1: They may lash out reactively without understanding what they are
• 22:50
  Speaker 1: really feeling and why they are even upset. A person
• 22:53
  Speaker 1: who lacks EQ might also have unexpected emotional outbursts that
• 22:58
  Speaker 1: seem overblown and uncontrollable. I don't get crunk for no reason. Oftentimes,
• 23:06
  Speaker 1: if I feel like I'm about to be like that,
• 23:08
  Speaker 1: I try to step away from the situation.
• 23:10
  Speaker 2: Now, if you push me, I don't think I have
• 23:13
  Speaker 2: emotional outbursts. I'll get upset and I'll go there. We
• 23:17
  Speaker 2: can go and we can scream at each other and
• 23:20
  Speaker 2: yell and all that, but I ain't never going to
• 23:22
  Speaker 2: just go crazy out of nowhere.
• 23:25
  Speaker 1: Have you ever experienced that with me? No. I'm definitely
• 23:29
  Speaker 1: not about to just get stupid for no reason.
• 23:30
  Speaker 2: I feel like any time that we argue, it starts
• 23:32
  Speaker 2: here and it just gradually goes from zero to 100.
• 23:36
  Speaker 2: But it's not like within moments.
• 23:39
  Speaker 1: So what I do do... Because I know that I'm
• 23:42
  Speaker 1: trying to practice emotional intelligence. I do avoid. I just
• 23:46
  Speaker 1: avoid for a while, which isn't healthy either because things
• 23:50
  Speaker 1: build up. Right. So I do avoid conversations. I avoid
• 23:53
  Speaker 1: the person because I just don't. If I feel like
• 23:57
  Speaker 1: I cannot articulate it well to whoever it is, you
• 24:00
  Speaker 1: know what I'm saying? I'm just going to avoid it
• 24:01
  Speaker 1: all together. But then that's not good because it ends
• 24:04
  Speaker 1: up blowing up in the end. Yeah. See, not me.
• 24:10
  Speaker 2: The next time I see you, bitch, come here. As
• 24:15
  Speaker 2: soon as I see you, because that's the first thing
• 24:17
  Speaker 2: on my mind. It's the elephant in the room.
• 24:18
  Speaker 1: I got to talk about it. It just depends. If
• 24:21
  Speaker 1: it's something that can, I don't know. It just depends.
• 24:23
  Speaker 1: Because sometimes certain things, bitch, I can't sleep at night
• 24:26
  Speaker 1: if I don't let you know how I feel. And
• 24:28
  Speaker 1: then if I didn't get to say the right things, bitch,
• 24:31
  Speaker 1: I'm calling your ass first thing in the morning. And
• 24:34
  Speaker 1: as a matter of fact, let me add this. Right. Same. Same.
• 24:39
  Speaker 2: But sometimes that's too a flaw for me because sometimes
• 24:41
  Speaker 2: it's okay to just let shit go.
• 24:44
  Speaker 1: I don't have to address everything. Right. It's okay not
• 24:46
  Speaker 1: to say something sometimes. I'm advised to always tell my
• 24:50
  Speaker 1: ex that, like, nigga, you know it's okay not to
• 24:52
  Speaker 1: say nothing. You don't have to address everything. But when
• 24:56
  Speaker 1: I really start shutting the fuck up, I don't really
• 24:58
  Speaker 1: care no more. As long as I'm, like, going ham,
• 25:01
  Speaker 1: I'm trying to work it out. Always.
• 25:04
  Speaker 2: Like, I don't want to make a fight of it,
• 25:06
  Speaker 2: but I'm like, hey, come.
• 25:07
  Speaker 1: Here, look. See that toilet seat up on the fuck again?
• 25:13
  Speaker 1: Why did I have to fall in the toilet? Not
• 25:15
  Speaker 1: no more because my ass done got too wide. I
• 25:17
  Speaker 1: don't fall in it no more. I still sit on top.
• 25:19
  Speaker 1: But there was a time. I don't want my ass
• 25:21
  Speaker 1: touching that stuff. Yeah, you don't want it to touch
• 25:23
  Speaker 1: that part of the toilet. But I ain't falling in
• 25:25
  Speaker 1: no more. I don't think niggas understand that until they
• 25:30
  Speaker 1: ass fall in. Right. Wait till your nuts hit that water.
• 25:32
  Speaker 1: And you got to touch the seat. Touch that bottom round.
• 25:36
  Speaker 1: I want to do niggas nuts be dropping in the
• 25:38
  Speaker 1: water when they sit down. Yeah. Long ass nut niggas. Look,
• 25:43
  Speaker 1: my ex used to... He was still lying in the toilet.
• 25:51
  Speaker 1: She's like, of course he went to prison before. But
• 25:53
  Speaker 1: he was still lying. Of course. Of course he went
• 25:56
  Speaker 1: to prison before. At the fucking show, somebody was like, yeah,
• 25:59
  Speaker 1: AJ like- Reform hood niggas. Reform hood niggas, like niggas
• 26:03
  Speaker 1: are felonies and shit. First of all- I didn't say that.
• 26:06
  Speaker 1: I did not fucking say that. I like why I'm
• 26:09
  Speaker 1: smart enough not to go- Exactly. First of all, okay.
• 26:12
  Speaker 1: Or if you went, you learn from it and now
• 26:14
  Speaker 1: you done bossed up in a different way, right? But
• 26:17
  Speaker 1: that nigga would line the toilet. A toilet he would
• 26:19
  Speaker 1: probably be the only person using. He'd still line it
• 26:22
  Speaker 1: because he just liked how the tissue felt. But he
• 26:24
  Speaker 1: would put like one little piece right there. You line
• 26:27
  Speaker 1: the toilet at home? Yeah, like he would still line
• 26:34
  Speaker 1: the toilet and he would have like the one piece
• 26:36
  Speaker 1: right there in the middle to sit his dick on.
• 26:40
  Speaker 1: It was like so neat. That's the dick right there.
• 26:44
  Speaker 1: First of all, y'all rich because toilet tissue is expensive.
• 26:47
  Speaker 1: Y'all wasting all that tissue. You know niggas be buying
• 26:50
  Speaker 1: one ply. They don't even buy the good tissue. Bitch,
• 26:53
  Speaker 1: you got one ply at your goddamn house. That was
• 26:55
  Speaker 1: gifted to me. During that time, someone gave me a
• 27:00
  Speaker 1: box of free tissue and that's what was there. Thin
• 27:03
  Speaker 1: ass tissue. Poke my finger in my butt. How do
• 27:09
  Speaker 1: you make someone more emotionally intelligent? So I saw this
• 27:12
  Speaker 1: and I'm like, how do you mean? I can't make
• 27:14
  Speaker 1: you emotionally intelligent. I'm really just going to distant myself
• 27:17
  Speaker 1: and then let you figure it the fuck out and
• 27:19
  Speaker 1: you can come talk to me when you get your
• 27:20
  Speaker 1: mind right. Okay, so these are 10 ways to increase
• 27:23
  Speaker 1: your emotional intelligence. Utilize an assertive style of communicating. Okay,
• 27:28
  Speaker 1: we talked about that. Respond instead of reacting to conflict.
• 27:33
  Speaker 1: So how the fuck do you respond? So here's what
• 27:36
  Speaker 1: I try to do. I try to look at it
• 27:39
  Speaker 1: as I'm not. The issue isn't the person. The issue
• 27:44
  Speaker 1: is the conversation. And we are attacking that together. Right.
• 27:49
  Speaker 1: Not each other. Sometimes the issue is the fucking person.
• 27:51
  Speaker 1: It's not. Like the person caused the issue. So how
• 27:54
  Speaker 1: can you attack the issue? Without attacking the person? Well,
• 27:57
  Speaker 1: let's take the word attack out. That's the only way. Right?
• 28:00
  Speaker 1: Because anytime somebody here is attacked, it's just negative. Combat. Right.
• 28:05
  Speaker 1: The issue. The issue. I guess. But if the person
• 28:10
  Speaker 1: is the cause of the issue, it'll still feel like
• 28:12
  Speaker 1: an attack on them, to them. You know what I'm saying?
• 28:16
  Speaker 1: So I know they teach you that in therapy, right?
• 28:19
  Speaker 1: When you're in a relationship with somebody, you're not the problem.
• 28:22
  Speaker 1: We're going to attack the problem. Okay, but if the
• 28:25
  Speaker 1: problem is you leaving the toilet seat up or some
• 28:28
  Speaker 1: shit like that, or I don't like how you talk
• 28:30
  Speaker 1: to me. So the problem is the toilet seat is up.
• 28:32
  Speaker 1: And then the problem is how you talk to me. Yeah. Okay.
• 28:36
  Speaker 1: How's that, you know, like you're still.
• 28:38
  Speaker 2: So the problem is the toilet seat being up, and
• 28:41
  Speaker 2: the problem is also the way it was communicated.
• 28:44
  Speaker 1: Right. Okay, so utilize active listening skills is what it says.
• 28:49
  Speaker 1: So active listening, which I've learned also in therapy, is
• 28:53
  Speaker 1: what do they call it? It's like reflective or something
• 28:56
  Speaker 1: like that. So like if we're having a conversation, before
• 28:58
  Speaker 1: I respond, I try to repeat what you said, right?
• 29:03
  Speaker 1: And what I'm hearing, so something like this. What I'm
• 29:06
  Speaker 1: hearing you say, Tam, is such and such and such
• 29:08
  Speaker 1: and such. And then I ask you, is that what
• 29:11
  Speaker 1: you're saying? And you say yes and no. And then
• 29:13
  Speaker 1: I respond to it as opposed to assuming I understand
• 29:17
  Speaker 1: what you said. Right. And then that also affirms to
• 29:21
  Speaker 1: you that I'm actually listening to what I'm saying. Right.
• 29:24
  Speaker 2: But that's so hard to do in a real conversation
• 29:27
  Speaker 2: that has some passion involved in your life. potentially upset
• 29:32
  Speaker 2: or whatever it is, oftentimes you don't even let the
• 29:34
  Speaker 2: other person finish their complete thought before you're responding. I
• 29:38
  Speaker 2: know I'm guilty of that. I'd be like, bitch, I
• 29:40
  Speaker 2: already know what you're about to say because you just
• 29:42
  Speaker 2: said it three fucking times.
• 29:43
  Speaker 1: And you ain't get it yet.
• 29:45
  Speaker 2: And I'm going to interject because you're clearly not receiving
• 29:49
  Speaker 2: what I'm trying to say in response to that.
• 29:52
  Speaker 1: I just feel like there cannot be communication without interjection.
• 29:55
  Speaker 1: I hate that. We go through this a lot of
• 29:57
  Speaker 1: times when we talk in And even with my damn mom,
• 30:00
  Speaker 1: and we like the same person. When you're talking to somebody,
• 30:03
  Speaker 1: there's no way I'm about to let you talk for
• 30:06
  Speaker 1: three to five minutes without interjection. This is now a lecture.
• 30:13
  Speaker 1: Now you're lecturing me, and here I am, another adult.
• 30:15
  Speaker 1: I didn't sign up for a lecture. I didn't sign
• 30:17
  Speaker 1: up for a conference to hear you do a fucking
• 30:19
  Speaker 1: TED Talk. We're having a conversation about something, so if
• 30:23
  Speaker 1: we're conversing, I should be able to interject. And it
• 30:26
  Speaker 1: may be to correct something you may have said so
• 30:29
  Speaker 1: you can have more clarity and maybe go in a
• 30:32
  Speaker 1: different direction of what you're saying. So this is why
• 30:34
  Speaker 1: I think interjection is, you have to have interjection in communication.
• 30:39
  Speaker 1: Within reason. I can't remember what you said for a
• 30:42
  Speaker 1: full three minutes. I'm only going to remember the beginning
• 30:44
  Speaker 1: and the end. I'm going to miss everything else in between.
• 30:47
  Speaker 1: So if you think that I'm supposed to sit here
• 30:48
  Speaker 1: and let you talk for three to five minutes, and
• 30:51
  Speaker 1: I've done it. Me and my homegirl, we got into
• 30:54
  Speaker 1: like a little spat one day about nothing. And at
• 30:57
  Speaker 1: one point, I just didn't say nothing. And I let
• 30:59
  Speaker 1: her talk for a very long time. And then I
• 31:01
  Speaker 1: asked if she was finished. Now, I couldn't do the
• 31:04
  Speaker 1: reflective shit because I don't remember what the fuck you
• 31:07
  Speaker 1: said in the middle, dog. You know what I'm saying?
• 31:09
  Speaker 1: You said so many things that I did have a
• 31:13
  Speaker 1: response to or whatever, and I couldn't. Just because this is,
• 31:16
  Speaker 1: for whatever reason, this is your style of communicating right now.
• 31:19
  Speaker 1: That's not my style. I don't mind interjections. But what
• 31:22
  Speaker 1: I do find is that people don't hear themselves. I
• 31:24
  Speaker 1: hear myself talking over you. I hear myself interjecting. Do
• 31:27
  Speaker 1: you hear when you do it to me? Right. Oftentimes
• 31:30
  Speaker 1: people don't. So it says, you know, you got to
• 31:33
  Speaker 1: practice self-awareness. I think that's the biggest thing with emotional intelligence.
• 31:39
  Speaker 1: You have to be self-aware of who you are. And
• 31:42
  Speaker 1: I am very, very self-aware of who I am. So
• 31:48
  Speaker 1: it helps me... Because this is another reason why I
• 31:53
  Speaker 1: thought about this. The other day I was telling you
• 31:55
  Speaker 1: how I felt bad for not doing something for somebody else.
• 31:59
  Speaker 1: When I knew that they needed me, but they probably
• 32:02
  Speaker 1: couldn't find the words to ask me. But I was
• 32:04
  Speaker 1: tired of doing for other people. They didn't fucking need.
• 32:07
  Speaker 1: That's the thing. You be thinking motherfuckers need you. These
• 32:09
  Speaker 1: is grown ass people. They'll figure it out. I know
• 32:12
  Speaker 1: they'll figure it out. But if I can make, if
• 32:14
  Speaker 1: you're my friend, right? And if I can make whatever
• 32:17
  Speaker 1: you got going on easier, I feel like I'm supposed to. Yeah,
• 32:20
  Speaker 1: but here's the thing.
• 32:22
  Speaker 2: With resentment because you've overextended yourself. And I say I
• 32:28
  Speaker 2: feel bad when I don't put myself first oftentimes.
• 32:32
  Speaker 1: Like, damn, I keep doing this shit for people and
• 32:35
  Speaker 1: now look at me neglecting myself. Right, bitch, because I
• 32:38
  Speaker 1: didn't sleep until yesterday. And I probably didn't sleep prior
• 32:41
  Speaker 1: to that until like Wednesday, making sure I do other shit.
• 32:46
  Speaker 2: And it be a little dumb ass shit like giving
• 32:47
  Speaker 2: people a ride home. Girl, if you don't let them
• 32:49
  Speaker 2: get an Uber. And get the fuck home.
• 32:52
  Speaker 1: Bitch, I just knew a motherfucking Uber wasn't coming till
• 32:54
  Speaker 1: 2 a.m. on this week. Text me when you make
• 32:57
  Speaker 1: it home safe, baby. Uh-uh. That's fucked up. How? It is.
• 33:04
  Speaker 1: These are grown people. But it just depends on the situation, though.
• 33:07
  Speaker 1: It depends on where they at. You know what I'm saying? Like,
• 33:10
  Speaker 1: can they even get home? Even if they call an Uber,
• 33:14
  Speaker 1: it could take an hour. Okay. Girls. Okay, what you want?
• 33:20
  Speaker 1: You like empathy for others. No, I have empathy for others,
• 33:23
  Speaker 1: but that's just not an empathetic. Oh, you had to stay?
• 33:26
  Speaker 1: You had to wait an hour? Okay, you'll survive that. Hmm.
• 33:30
  Speaker 1: You know? Empathize with others. That's here. Here's the thing.
• 33:34
  Speaker 1: Are you homeless? Do you not have nowhere to go
• 33:36
  Speaker 1: for the Uber? Right.
• 33:38
  Speaker 2: Okay, you can crash with me until you get yourself together.
• 33:41
  Speaker 2: If it's someone I really care about.
• 33:42
  Speaker 1: So you got to be dire. Yeah, but if you
• 33:44
  Speaker 1: just going to have an extra, you late, you going
• 33:46
  Speaker 1: to be... You get an hour less sleep tonight? That's
• 33:50
  Speaker 1: on you, baby girl. So under this 10 ways to
• 33:53
  Speaker 1: increase your emotional intelligence, there's take critique well. Do you
• 33:57
  Speaker 1: feel like you take critique well? Mm-mm. Neither do I.
• 34:02
  Speaker 1: Especially if I feel like I'm doing some shit right
• 34:04
  Speaker 1: and here you come with some bullshit.
• 34:05
  Speaker 2: I think I take criticism way better than you, though.
• 34:09
  Speaker 1: You be like, what, bitch? Yeah, real quick. I'm more
• 34:15
  Speaker 1: open to criticism, like, I'll receive that with a grain
• 34:19
  Speaker 1: of salt, but I'll receive it. I think I don't
• 34:24
  Speaker 1: take critique well sometimes when I know that I've given
• 34:27
  Speaker 1: somebody a lot of grace, and when it's time for
• 34:30
  Speaker 1: me to get grace, I don't get any. Well, here's
• 34:32
  Speaker 1: the thing. Stop giving grace that you won't receive back. No,
• 34:36
  Speaker 1: I feel like everybody gives grace. Yeah, they should, but
• 34:42
  Speaker 1: they don't. Right. Right. So when I snap on your ass,
• 34:47
  Speaker 1: that's my way. See? When I snap on your ass.
• 34:50
  Speaker 1: That's a lack of emotional intelligence. No, it's not. Yes,
• 34:52
  Speaker 1: it is. It's going to teach you for the next time. No,
• 34:56
  Speaker 1: it's not. You're going to learn today. That's not going
• 35:00
  Speaker 1: to teach anything. All it's going to do is cause
• 35:02
  Speaker 1: more conflict. Like, don't give the grace if you feel
• 35:06
  Speaker 1: like you're not going to receive it in time. No,
• 35:07
  Speaker 1: that's the problem. People don't give each other enough grace.
• 35:10
  Speaker 1: So now, if you can't recognize where you've received grace...
• 35:15
  Speaker 1: when you weren't being the best, and now you think
• 35:17
  Speaker 1: that because you're good now, right? You can't extend grace.
• 35:23
  Speaker 1: That's a problem.
• 35:24
  Speaker 2: But sometimes criticism isn't about grace. It's just about whatever
• 35:28
  Speaker 2: the task is.
• 35:28
  Speaker 1: It's not even about, like, you know, not understanding your
• 35:32
  Speaker 1: perspective or your point of view. It's just about whatever
• 35:34
  Speaker 1: is at hand.
• 35:35
  Speaker 2: And typically that's where criticism comes from. It's like, what
• 35:39
  Speaker 2: needs to be done? Or how can this be better?
• 35:43
  Speaker 2: And it's not about, like, Grace.
• 35:47
  Speaker 1: You know? No? I think they go hand in hand,
• 35:50
  Speaker 1: kind of. It just does to me. So what's considered
• 35:57
  Speaker 1: high emotional intelligence? It says that those who have high
• 36:00
  Speaker 1: EQ and highly in tune with both their own emotions
• 36:04
  Speaker 1: and other people's emotions around them. So that's when you
• 36:07
  Speaker 1: have a very high EQ. Yeah, emotional intelligence. They can
• 36:10
  Speaker 1: recognize and understand the various feelings that sweep them through
• 36:15
  Speaker 1: excuse me they can they can recognize and understand the
• 36:18
  Speaker 1: various feelings that sweep through them and are able to
• 36:22
  Speaker 1: appropriately appropriately manage them so feeling your emotions dealing with
• 36:30
  Speaker 1: them sitting in them and then being able to um
• 36:35
  Speaker 1: you know handle whatever the situation is without without drugs
• 36:39
  Speaker 1: and alcohol too because i think that's a lot of
• 36:42
  Speaker 1: ways people used to cope with whatever they are feeling.
• 36:45
  Speaker 1: You know how I just said when I left the therapy,
• 36:47
  Speaker 1: I was like, roll the joint. Right, self-medicate. Yeah, or
• 36:51
  Speaker 1: after funerals, everybody get drunk. I think that weed is
• 36:55
  Speaker 1: a part. I know for black people, that's why it
• 36:57
  Speaker 1: was made illegal. in America because that is one of
• 37:00
  Speaker 1: our medicines. You know what I'm saying? When they came
• 37:02
  Speaker 1: to this land, we probably was already, this is our shit.
• 37:05
  Speaker 1: This is one of our medicines, right? So they make
• 37:07
  Speaker 1: it illegal until it benefits them. Now it's legal, it's
• 37:10
  Speaker 1: okay for you to do. But I believe that black people,
• 37:13
  Speaker 1: this is our shit. We know that from the Jamaicans.
• 37:16
  Speaker 1: Weed is our medication. I can't fuck with them edibles, though. Yeah,
• 37:22
  Speaker 1: because you don't know how much THC is in each piece.
• 37:25
  Speaker 1: They can't tell me it's just one gram in this one.
• 37:28
  Speaker 1: That ain't even a problem for me. It's not going
• 37:29
  Speaker 1: to be evenly distributed. It just don't happen. All right,
• 37:31
  Speaker 1: so if you smoking weed, you high right now. Right.
• 37:34
  Speaker 2: But, man, I found myself walking around Target.
• 37:38
  Speaker 1: I was like, oh, shit, I forgot I ate that
• 37:41
  Speaker 1: animal about an hour ago. Baby, I was about to
• 37:45
  Speaker 1: be sitting on the floor Indian style in Target trying
• 37:47
  Speaker 1: to make it. And that shit is different when you overdose.
• 37:51
  Speaker 1: on weed because being drunk and being too high on
• 37:54
  Speaker 1: weed is two different things bitch I tried to drive
• 37:57
  Speaker 1: home why not off a whole and I had taken
• 37:58
  Speaker 1: a whole gummy before but like I said it's not
• 38:01
  Speaker 1: evenly distributed so you really don't know how much you
• 38:03
  Speaker 1: taking in this one particular dose bitch I don't know
• 38:06
  Speaker 1: how I got home I don't know my eyes was
• 38:09
  Speaker 1: closed the whole time bitch so no this guy had
• 38:12
  Speaker 1: the beverage right so I don't understand you have a
• 38:16
  Speaker 1: beverage the size of a drink that you would have
• 38:18
  Speaker 1: as a meal right with your meal But you only
• 38:21
  Speaker 1: supposed to take a capful, right? Just drink a cap
• 38:25
  Speaker 1: of it. It's like, what's the point of having it
• 38:26
  Speaker 1: as a beverage? If I can't drink the whole beverage,
• 38:29
  Speaker 1: it should be like distributed through the beverage as the drink, right? Right.
• 38:33
  Speaker 1: I did not know it. So I drank the whole
• 38:35
  Speaker 1: bottle with my lunch. baby, let me tell you, I
• 38:42
  Speaker 1: was sitting, I could not go back to work, first
• 38:44
  Speaker 1: of all. I was on the floor crying, freestyling the
• 38:48
  Speaker 1: instrumental beats, ass naked. Smokey! I was like, never again.
• 38:56
  Speaker 1: Never again. So I don't fuck with that. Just a
• 38:59
  Speaker 1: little joint to ease my mind. Shame. So these are
• 39:04
  Speaker 1: the seven signs of emotional intelligence. It says that You're self-aware.
• 39:08
  Speaker 1: We went over that. People with high emotional intelligence have
• 39:11
  Speaker 1: a strong sense of self. They're empathetic. They are present
• 39:15
  Speaker 1: and focused. They have strong interpersonal skills. And they're self-motivated. Okay.
• 39:23
  Speaker 1: That's somebody who does practice or has seven signs of
• 39:26
  Speaker 1: being emotionally intelligent. I feel like I have a decent.
• 39:30
  Speaker 2: Emotional intelligence it's not perfect by any measure but it's
• 39:35
  Speaker 2: pretty decent because self aware doesn't necessarily mean just knowing
• 39:42
  Speaker 2: what you're good at it's also being able to identify
• 39:45
  Speaker 2: where you're weak you know.
• 39:47
  Speaker 1: Yeah I don't know. I don't know. All I should
• 39:53
  Speaker 1: just go back to being self-aware and just fucking breathing sometimes,
• 40:00
  Speaker 1: thinking through your emotions, feeling through them, and I don't know.
• 40:06
  Speaker 1: I feel like maybe a little bit about it is
• 40:08
  Speaker 1: being fake. What? It's a little bit. I think it's
• 40:13
  Speaker 1: the opposite of being fake. Self-aware is fake. But maybe
• 40:18
  Speaker 1: this is who I am. Fake? No, bitch. What'd you say? Like,
• 40:26
  Speaker 1: maybe how I display my feelings is just who I am.
• 40:30
  Speaker 1: You know what I'm saying? So if I might yell
• 40:33
  Speaker 1: a little bit, that's just who I am. No, that's
• 40:35
  Speaker 1: a cop-out. Is it a cop out? Yeah. No, I
• 40:38
  Speaker 1: hate when a nigga be like, that's just who I am.
• 40:40
  Speaker 1: A cheater? No, you don't get to do that. Why?
• 40:43
  Speaker 1: He might just be a cheater. You can't make him
• 40:45
  Speaker 1: not do that. That's who he is. Go find somebody
• 40:48
  Speaker 1: who isn't one. But that's not okay though. This is
• 40:50
  Speaker 1: what this is about. It's like being a better version
• 40:53
  Speaker 1: of yourself. Not just accepting your flaws and saying that's
• 40:57
  Speaker 1: just who I am, but like working on the things
• 40:58
  Speaker 1: and making it better. But that sounds like a person
• 41:01
  Speaker 1: who's self-aware. If he could say, that's just who I am,
• 41:04
  Speaker 1: now it's up to you to decide if that's what
• 41:06
  Speaker 1: you want to deal with. That's like what Ianya, remember?
• 41:12
  Speaker 1: There's an Instagram post of her, like one of her episodes,
• 41:16
  Speaker 1: she was telling this woman, she said, you know, when
• 41:19
  Speaker 1: she had to learn that it wasn't for her to
• 41:22
  Speaker 1: teach people how to love her. Because I've always been
• 41:24
  Speaker 1: a firm believer in that. You got to teach people
• 41:26
  Speaker 1: how to treat you. Or they'll just treat you how
• 41:27
  Speaker 1: the last bitch allowed them to, right? But no, you're
• 41:30
  Speaker 1: supposed to experience how that person loves, right? And decide
• 41:34
  Speaker 1: whether or not you want that love. If that love
• 41:37
  Speaker 1: isn't good enough for you, right? Get the fuck on through.
• 41:40
  Speaker 1: You can't really, especially when people get up a certain age.
• 41:43
  Speaker 1: I don't know, because I think a lot of these
• 41:45
  Speaker 1: men don't know how to love until you give them
• 41:48
  Speaker 1: some training. I think everybody knows how to. It's as if,
• 41:53
  Speaker 1: are you the person I want to do it for?
• 41:55
  Speaker 1: And that's why I don't like to spend the block
• 41:57
  Speaker 1: shit like with Nelly and Ashanti, because I almost feel
• 42:01
  Speaker 1: like the only way men learn oftentimes is through pain.
• 42:05
  Speaker 1: So if I leave you because you weren't doing these
• 42:08
  Speaker 1: things I kept asking you to do right, If I stay,
• 42:12
  Speaker 1: he's never going to change for me. But he will
• 42:14
  Speaker 1: change for the next woman because it's the pain he
• 42:16
  Speaker 1: experienced from when I left that ass that'll make him
• 42:20
  Speaker 1: change for the next woman. That's why I'll never mind
• 42:22
  Speaker 1: giving a bitch a refurbished nigga. Like, yeah, girl. He
• 42:25
  Speaker 1: about to be real good for you. He would not
• 42:28
  Speaker 1: do these things for me. He going to do it
• 42:29
  Speaker 1: for the next woman. But he might come and do
• 42:31
  Speaker 1: the same shit. He might come back around and do
• 42:34
  Speaker 1: the same shit. He might not. I feel like that's
• 42:36
  Speaker 1: how men learn. Men learn through hurt.
• 42:38
  Speaker 2: But, you know, I think it's also a growth and
• 42:40
  Speaker 2: learning period that happens when you get older.
• 42:42
  Speaker 1: Like with Ashanti Nelly, he's an older man than he
• 42:45
  Speaker 1: was 20 years ago. I'm sure he's grown in so
• 42:49
  Speaker 1: many ways. You know, both of them. Because we ain't
• 42:51
  Speaker 1: going to just put it on Nelly. We don't know
• 42:53
  Speaker 1: what happened. That was like 10 years ago they broke up, right?
• 42:55
  Speaker 1: So you think that, I think he just see her
• 42:58
  Speaker 1: being fucking fine, living her best life. Looking so good.
• 43:04
  Speaker 1: And now, sometimes niggas split the block just to disturb
• 43:07
  Speaker 1: your peace, dog. Sometimes they come through just to fuck
• 43:10
  Speaker 1: shit up. And see if they can. But I don't
• 43:14
  Speaker 1: think this is the case. They look good together. We'll see.
• 43:16
  Speaker 1: More power to them. I want them to do well.
• 43:21
  Speaker 1: Y'all listen, we're going to take a break right quick.
• 43:23
  Speaker 1: And when we come back, I want to get into
• 43:25
  Speaker 1: a little quick dumb bitch story from this weekend's show.
• 43:28
  Speaker 1: We'll be back. dumb bitch story. You are so dumb.
• 43:33
  Speaker 1: Because we've all been a dumb bitch at least once
• 43:36
  Speaker 1: or twice. Y'all, we back from break and I want
• 43:41
  Speaker 1: to talk about, we had one dumb, well, we did do,
• 43:43
  Speaker 1: we asked the audience this weekend for a dumb bitch story, right?
• 43:47
  Speaker 1: So we did have a couple. One, I didn't really
• 43:49
  Speaker 1: get to answer the girl's question, but So the first
• 43:53
  Speaker 1: dumb bitch story we, no, that was actually the second one.
• 43:55
  Speaker 1: So the second dumb bitch story we had, this girl,
• 43:57
  Speaker 1: she said she was dating this guy for a long time,
• 43:59
  Speaker 1: didn't know he was married. And her question was whether
• 44:02
  Speaker 1: or not she should tell the wife. Right. And if
• 44:08
  Speaker 1: you don't know about the other woman, like if he
• 44:10
  Speaker 1: just straight up lied, there was no inkling that he
• 44:13
  Speaker 1: could have possibly been in a relationship with somebody else.
• 44:16
  Speaker 1: Maybe tell. Me, personally, I'm never telling nobody else. Like,
• 44:20
  Speaker 1: let y'all deal with that shit. But if you knew
• 44:23
  Speaker 1: about the woman... Then you don't tell. You don't fucking
• 44:26
  Speaker 1: tell and play your part. That's some whack shit.
• 44:29
  Speaker 2: Like, even if you didn't know at first, and then
• 44:31
  Speaker 2: you found out and stayed for a little while, you
• 44:33
  Speaker 2: still don't tell because you were complicit in it for
• 44:36
  Speaker 2: an amount of time.
• 44:37
  Speaker 1: Exactly. So don't tell. Yeah. If you didn't know, and
• 44:41
  Speaker 1: he was just a complete liar, and you found out, like,
• 44:44
  Speaker 1: some kind of way, right? You found out. I personally
• 44:47
  Speaker 1: wouldn't tell. The homegirl said she found out for her
• 44:50
  Speaker 1: on Facebook.
• 44:52
  Speaker 2: I personally wouldn't tell just because I just don't even
• 44:56
  Speaker 2: have the time to disrupt another black woman's life in
• 44:58
  Speaker 2: that way.
• 44:58
  Speaker 1: Me either. Bitch will call you while you're at work
• 45:00
  Speaker 1: stressing out with some white people shit. Now you fucking
• 45:04
  Speaker 1: my day up because he ain't drop dick off. I
• 45:06
  Speaker 1: feel some type of way about that. You mad with
• 45:09
  Speaker 1: my man. Our man. You're mad with our man, right?
• 45:13
  Speaker 1: He ain't do what he's supposed to do. And now
• 45:15
  Speaker 1: you want to fuck my day up. And I feel
• 45:16
  Speaker 1: like they were being disingenuous. I'm going to tell you why.
• 45:19
  Speaker 1: If you are happy with somebody, why are y'all searching
• 45:22
  Speaker 1: for something? How would you have found that on Facebook
• 45:26
  Speaker 1: if you weren't searching for it? So what made your
• 45:29
  Speaker 1: homegirl search some shit for you if you really didn't
• 45:32
  Speaker 1: know he was married? Was he absent a lot? Those
• 45:36
  Speaker 1: are all signs. Maybe he didn't verbally tell you he
• 45:38
  Speaker 1: was in a relationship with somebody else. But he missed
• 45:41
  Speaker 1: some holidays. You ain't never been to his house? He missed, exactly, birthdays, Valentines. Like,
• 45:45
  Speaker 1: we always have nice, good cues. You know what? I
• 45:50
  Speaker 1: was dating a guy.
• 45:51
  Speaker 2: Well, we never took it to sex, and it was
• 45:53
  Speaker 2: just my body telling me, like, something ain't right about
• 45:56
  Speaker 2: this one.
• 45:56
  Speaker 1: Slow down. Take your time.
• 45:58
  Speaker 2: But he was so nice, and he was doing all
• 46:00
  Speaker 2: the things and saying all the right things and very,
• 46:03
  Speaker 2: very fine, right?
• 46:04
  Speaker 1: He just was a good-looking man. And my pussy was
• 46:07
  Speaker 1: like thumping, like, ooh, I want to give him some.
• 46:09
  Speaker 1: But I didn't, right? Baby. All right, so I didn't
• 46:12
  Speaker 1: go to his house because his house was being renovated
• 46:16
  Speaker 1: and sold or something. And then he.
• 46:18
  Speaker 2: Had a son, a living child. So I didn't want
• 46:21
  Speaker 2: to go there because I don't want to meet a
• 46:23
  Speaker 2: kid yet because we are not there, right?
• 46:25
  Speaker 1: I'm not trying to meet your kids too soon. But
• 46:27
  Speaker 1: did he invite you to meet his kids? No, no, no.
• 46:30
  Speaker 2: But he didn't invite me to his house for that
• 46:32
  Speaker 2: reason because we're both not ready for that.
• 46:34
  Speaker 1: Okay. But, you know, something said, there's something weird about this.
• 46:41
  Speaker 2: So we had a mutual Facebook friend who I'm real
• 46:44
  Speaker 2: cool with, and I went to her, and I was like.
• 46:46
  Speaker 1: What's up with old boy? She's like, girl, he is
• 46:49
  Speaker 1: very married. But we'd be on the phone all night
• 46:53
  Speaker 1: FaceTiming in the middle of the night, and I'm like,
• 46:56
  Speaker 1: if he's married, where's his wife while we FaceTiming at
• 47:02
  Speaker 1: 2 in the morning, laying in the bed, falling asleep
• 47:03
  Speaker 1: on the phone?
• 47:04
  Speaker 2: Baby, this woman was a whole traveling nurse. And she
• 47:09
  Speaker 2: was out like working in California somewhere.
• 47:11
  Speaker 1: Like make a whole line.
• 47:13
  Speaker 2: And I was like, what was your, and listen, um,
• 47:17
  Speaker 2: he had like, he had started falling back a little
• 47:20
  Speaker 2: bit prior to that.
• 47:21
  Speaker 1: Just a little bit. She probably was about to come home. So,
• 47:26
  Speaker 1: and I guess he, cause he ain't hit it yet.
• 47:28
  Speaker 2: I was like being very tight with a coochie or whatever.
• 47:31
  Speaker 2: Cause I guess that was the plan that he didn't
• 47:33
  Speaker 2: go about his business.
• 47:34
  Speaker 1: You know, that was his representative.
• 47:37
  Speaker 2: So I, I, I hit him up and I was like, yo, you,
• 47:40
  Speaker 2: you were married. Like what was your intentions? And I
• 47:42
  Speaker 2: had told him like, I meet so many men.
• 47:44
  Speaker 1: With bad intentions, and it's just nice to meet someone
• 47:47
  Speaker 1: who's genuine and good. And after that, he said, after
• 47:52
  Speaker 1: you said that to me, it made me feel so bad,
• 47:54
  Speaker 1: and I didn't want to do you like that. Oh,
• 47:57
  Speaker 1: so he was going to fuck and just slither. That
• 48:03
  Speaker 1: was his plan.
• 48:05
  Speaker 2: Then it's so funny because there was a woman. We're
• 48:10
  Speaker 2: all in this Facebook group, and this woman messaged me
• 48:14
  Speaker 2: And she always be in my DMs saying wild shit
• 48:17
  Speaker 2: to me because I be on here playing gay and shit.
• 48:20
  Speaker 1: So she be saying some wild shit to me. And
• 48:23
  Speaker 1: she is a very beautiful woman, right?
• 48:25
  Speaker 2: Very pretty woman. And she said him and her was
• 48:28
  Speaker 2: betting to see who could fuck me first.
• 48:31
  Speaker 1: Yo, what? Ain't that crazy? I was like, I'm getting
• 48:35
  Speaker 1: out of this group. This place is not a safe place.
• 48:38
  Speaker 1: That's on Facebook? Why is a married man in a
• 48:41
  Speaker 1: group like that? What type of shit is this, man?
• 48:44
  Speaker 1: I'm beating my husband the fuck up. Right. So, I
• 48:48
  Speaker 1: don't know where that story was going. I just felt
• 48:50
  Speaker 1: like I needed to share that. That was on my spirit.
• 48:53
  Speaker 1: That these men will be lying to you and acting
• 48:55
  Speaker 1: like they're something that they're not. Man, you got to
• 48:58
  Speaker 1: have discernment. You got to have discernment. And I feel
• 49:01
  Speaker 1: like we get the signs all the time. We ignore them.
• 49:03
  Speaker 2: But even after finding that out, there was no way
• 49:09
  Speaker 2: I was going to call or message his wife and.
• 49:10
  Speaker 1: Tell her, I'm never doing that shit. That's why I said, bitch,
• 49:14
  Speaker 1: you can come to me as a woman if you want,
• 49:15
  Speaker 1: and I'm coming as a sniper, because bitches be knowing.
• 49:18
  Speaker 1: They be knowing. so play your part.
• 49:20
  Speaker 2: Right, but see, let's say I went to her and
• 49:22
  Speaker 2: told her what was going on. She would assume that.
• 49:23
  Speaker 1: I was lying. Right. Yeah. And that's another reason why.
• 49:26
  Speaker 1: I don't even, if I see you a man, if
• 49:28
  Speaker 1: you my best friend, like, maybe. But even friends, like,
• 49:31
  Speaker 1: if I see your nigga doing some little slick shit,
• 49:32
  Speaker 1: I'm out of my business. I'm sorry. Oh, no, I'm
• 49:35
  Speaker 1: telling if it's my business. I'm on my business. First
• 49:36
  Speaker 1: of all, if it's my best friend, I'm going to
• 49:37
  Speaker 1: act like it's my husband. That's different. Oh, nigga, you
• 49:39
  Speaker 1: out here having fun. No, that's different. Oh, you having
• 49:42
  Speaker 1: fun tonight? I'm going to fight this nigga like it's
• 49:44
  Speaker 1: my man. Yeah. I swear to God. And her nigga
• 49:50
  Speaker 1: going to beat your ass up.
• 49:51
  Speaker 2: And she going to have to beat my ass up
• 49:52
  Speaker 2: because that's how I'm coming about my best friends.
• 49:55
  Speaker 1: Yeah. A best friend, yes, but like just friends, acquaintances,
• 49:58
  Speaker 1: I ain't telling nobody shit. Because I've seen women flip.
• 50:02
  Speaker 1: They'll flip on your ass like you the problem. I know.
• 50:04
  Speaker 1: And then now you're not invited to the cookout. I've
• 50:07
  Speaker 1: had that happen. Leave them people. She know who she
• 50:09
  Speaker 1: fuck with. That's one thing about it. We be knowing.
• 50:12
  Speaker 1: So stop acting like you don't even know and hitting
• 50:15
  Speaker 1: that man wife up. Don't hit that man wife up
• 50:17
  Speaker 1: about shit. Y'all practicing some emotional intelligence. Right. All right, y'all, listen.
• 50:28
  Speaker 1: So if you enjoyed this episode, please tune in every
• 50:32
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• 50:35
  Speaker 1: your podcast at. This is your co-host, AJ Holiday. Y'all
• 50:39
  Speaker 1: follow me on Instagram at Check out wetalkbackent.com. We got
• 50:44
  Speaker 1: some merchandise on there now. It's a little tiny bit,
• 50:47
  Speaker 1: but some shit up there. We got our consultations, too. So, listen,
• 50:51
  Speaker 1: you can schedule a call to speak with both of us,
• 50:54
  Speaker 1: one of us, whatever it is. Schedule it through the website.
• 50:59
  Speaker 1: For whenever we available, it'll be there on the calendar.
• 51:02
  Speaker 1: And hit us up. You know, I would like to
• 51:04
  Speaker 1: publicly apologize to you. For what? So, at the live show,
• 51:09
  Speaker 1: at the end... Oh, you saw the video? Yeah, I
• 51:11
  Speaker 1: saw the video. And I saw your face. And you're like, bitch,
• 51:15
  Speaker 1: what are you doing? That's emotional intelligence. Thank you for it.
• 51:18
  Speaker 1: So I apologize to you for that. Thank you for it.
• 51:20
  Speaker 2: Because I wasn't trying to like... It was just the
• 51:22
  Speaker 2: adrenaline pumping, and I just went.
• 51:25
  Speaker 1: Yeah, you was in your element. It's fine. Yeah, okay. But,
• 51:28
  Speaker 1: God damn, I'm AJ, y'all. Thank you for coming out.
• 51:30
  Speaker 1: God bless you. Good night. That's my bad. That was
• 51:34
  Speaker 1: our first show, so, like, you know. I can't wait
• 51:36
  Speaker 1: to do this shit, though. I'm excited. I cannot wait
• 51:38
  Speaker 1: to have our own live shows going, y'all. It's coming
• 51:42
  Speaker 1: this year. Yeah. Shit, next month, we going to pull up.
• 51:45
  Speaker 1: We might as well just throw one in Atlanta and
• 51:46
  Speaker 1: throw one in Charlotte. In Charlotte, yeah. Yep. And maybe
• 51:49
  Speaker 1: go ahead to Miami and see what they're talking about.
• 51:51
  Speaker 1: Or Houston. Houston, Atlanta, Vegas. We out here. All right, y'all.
• 51:54
  Speaker 1: I'm Tam Bam. I love y'all. Remember to speak now.
• 51:56
  Speaker 1: And never hold your peace. Deuces.