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I LOVE HATERS (So Should YOU) · Aspergers & Autism Podcast [The Aspie World] AuDHD

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  But I wanted to talk about haters because like I get asked
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  this question quite a lot on my YouTube Channel people always
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  say like, you know, how do you deal with?
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  Hey, you know, do you have here's what's the best way to
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  deal with? Hey what services do with haters
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  in general? And the truth?
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  Is this like I get a bunch of hate all the time.
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  I get haters message me pretty much every single day and you
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  know the biggest bunch of haters.
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  I get from actually inside the autism Community.
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  There's like a subject of people who just want to cause has
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  negativity and animosity and just like this anymore for
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  trying it's basically a real thing in terms of do I get hate?
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  Yes, I get lots of Heat and the type of hitter care is like
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  people saying like, oh, you know, you're retarded your, you
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  know, the information is rubbish.
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  It's wrong you dangerous what they call me.
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  Sometimes I can call the can ask we should grab my sister's on
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  them because they use the term Master pages.
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  I have to be aware and then like sometimes people people are just
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  nasty for the If you want to say that nasty things but what I'm
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  not about that life, it's not it's not about and this is the
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  fit. This is the funny thing about.
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  Hey, isn't this thing where you can just go?
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  Oh, well, you know this person doesn't mean anything so I don't
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  I'm not going to do it because it affects your life when you
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  get hate comments or you get heat in real life it really
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  seriously affect you like I feel like most people who who
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  experience hate experience that negativity because it's like a
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  discharge of negativity somebody with, you know, hateful comment
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  or an egg. The client will come on board
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  give you a bit of hay and then all of a sudden you're feeling
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  depressed or you're feeling down or you're feeling angry or
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  whatever. Whatever the feeling is.
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  It's not a positive experience and they've transferred that on
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  to you which isn't a good thing. So one of the big questions I
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  suppose is why do people hate why do you hate is exist?
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  Why why is hate actual thing why I hate is an actual thing Joe.
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  I'll let you in on something very very interesting guys.
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  I never use the word hate unless I'm talking about document or
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  really like this or I'm You need to explain a sentence.
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  I never actually use it say I don't like something because a
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  lot of people use it kind of like just as I don't wish to
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  wash you they just say like, oh, I hate this.
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  I hate that and this it very like just in their vocabulary,
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  but I'm not like that. I never use the word hate like
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  that. I actually never used the word
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  hate in a comment. I always say like I just I
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  really dislike something all it's not my favorite I never bit
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  and look at what about says. I never I never use the word
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  because what happens is the word gives weight to negative action
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  like I minds are the creators of our reality the end of the day,
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  you know, I think therefore I am' and so if you're thinking
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  about hey there for you hatred I guess or negativity and so we
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  can only we can only assume that if we are using the term like
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  hate when my twins were using the term like hey, then you're
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  going to cause more hate on my negativity in your own life
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  because it kind of like truck negativity is not like for like
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  and all that kind of jazz. So that's interesting.
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  Why do haters exist? Let's get that skin.
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  So it's kind of sweet. So here is our a new thing.
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  It's not a new term. It's not like randomly, you know
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  T it 2018 of a sudden we know haters.
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  I feel like haters have existed for Millennia, you know, there's
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  gonna be people who disagree with people and they want a
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  voice that opinion, you know years ago used to be people
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  arguing in the street or in a pub or getting it a heated
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  debate on television or something and I suppose, you
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  know, it's not that level of hate that we see today but it is
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  a level of kind of like the hater mentality that you want to
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  just tell someone how It is from your experience and Tom
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  something like just horrible and I really think the reason why
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  it's grown so much is because the internet allows anonymity
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  allows you to sit behind your keyboard sit behind your
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  computer desk in the security and comfort of your home that
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  you're not going to get like into any kind of physical
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  conflict and you can say whatever you like as nasty as
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  you like and there's no little to no repercussion from that
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  because and you know, some people take I don't know
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  pleasure from doing that. What is the cause of heated
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  wider haters exist? Why are they?
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  They a thing and I think it's down to this people when they
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  are happy in their lives their content and and happiness comes
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  from the knowing of the things that you keep your content in
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  life when things are when your needs are met when your content
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  and not your wants but your knees we all have wants and
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  needs are very different, you know cattle thinking I want a
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  new iPhone, but I need water and shelter.
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  So there's difference between wants and needs so when your
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  needs are met you kind of In a blissful experience because you
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  feel like the things that you've taken care of what taken care of
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  and then you should be happy and when you're happy, you're not
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  really wanting to do anything destructive because why would
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  you do that? You know, you've got all this
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  happiness to enjoy and that's that's quite fundamental and
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  it's idea of profound and as I did but haters people who aren't
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  experiencing happiness. They are not content.
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  They're not fulfilled their lives are spiraling in a
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  different perspective a negative and away.
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  So haters actually the vulnerable people that they are
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  portraying to create so when I hear it says to someone, you
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  know, what a bully is doing some to bully somebody the bully is
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  actually a vulnerable person but there are afflicting that like
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  image of themselves on somebody else to make that person on the
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  victim because they don't want to feel like that.
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  They don't want that feelings or a hater somebody who comes on
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  and started shouting and you know, people come to my comments
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  and say like all these horrible things about me.
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  I never really I never turn on some shout back and Everett
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  anything bad back to them. I mean Used to just delete
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  negative comments that I wanted my my channel to be like a Haven
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  of safe space where people could come and not have to worry about
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  negativity. But now I respond with
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  positivity I respond back saying like hey, look, I hope that
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  everything in your life that's going wrong right now will
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  Rectify itself and if I can help let me know and I just want to
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  know that you know reaching up with love and peace and that I
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  hope that you'll be okay because look there's there's no such
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  thing as a hater right and I think Think it was it might have
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  actually been Taylor Swift who said this there's no such thing
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  as a hater just somebody who needs more love and that's all
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  it is. It's just so many who is
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  misguided somebody who is not in the right frame of mind.
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  They don't have that. Like, I don't know they don't
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  have this like ability to seek happiness through things are
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  just negative and negative place.
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  Maybe there's something going wrong in the lives, you know,
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  and then that's that's kind of like, you know, that's kind of
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  like how it is and And don't get me wrong.
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  Okay, so there's two types of hate isn't let's get into the
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  two different types of hey is on this two different ways of
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  dealing with those Hayes. So there's like two different
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  types of haters as the hate is I mentioned before you have
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  something negative going on in life something that is like
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  leading them to want to reflect that image because we are the,
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  you know, the reality that we create in our minds and so
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  they're creating this reality of their life and then like that's
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  what one style of hate and there's another type of heater
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  who's just somebody who could be very content.
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  But they may have a chemical imbalance or some kind of issue
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  going on with it. Just want to be an a-hole just
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  for no reason. They just want to go out there
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  spread negative spread hate because it has some kind of
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  weird pleasure for it. I guess what we have criminals
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  who just enjoy murdering people and that's why they are behind
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  bars in terms of those haters. The think about this.
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  Okay. If you have a hater that needs
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  more love you reach out you offer support you offer.
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  Love you offer that a supportive helping hand and that will
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  definitely capital state does not say something about that
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  nine times out of 10 when somebody is that wrapped up in
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  negativity and they are causing hate if you reach out with a
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  little bit of love and sympathy they will turn around quickly.
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  They'll probably say oh, I'm sorry.
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  I'm having a bad day. I'm sorry, you know something
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  really terrible happened in my life and I just came on and I
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  try to run because you further Ado I saw that kind of like
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  thing and I live for that stuff. I feel like that's really like
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  human being a humanizing and like I don't know.
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  It's interesting it touches you with reality because we don't
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  know what's going on. In other people's days.
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  This is like one of the things about this channel I could talk
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  about mental health and things he's like that and so I think
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  like that is definitely something that we should should
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  address but in terms of the other type of the other type he
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  is also the haters who are just like, you know, just doing stuff
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  just to be horrible. It's like this you don't have to
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  do anything because they don't matter in your life like who
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  gives a crap what like shot guy 66 airs on one of your, you
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  know, YouTube Instagram or Facebook comments and who cares,
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  you know, like so what if like Ladies Man eight?
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  Doesn't like your video I'll just like my videos and like my
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  Instagram post. I don't really care because it
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  doesn't really affect me because who cares it's like it's like
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  having a negative experience in a foreign country.
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  Someone is shouting at you. You're never going to happen
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  again. So it's really matter like, you
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  know, if they like you or not. I mean that doesn't make any
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  difference, you know, you've got okay, whatever, you know, the
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  people are just going to be like that and you're going to find
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  people like that as well the very few and far between you're
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  not going to find many people that are negative just for the
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  sake of being Negative but you are going to come across them.
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  This is a thing we do live in a society where this does happen,
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  but I wouldn't lay all my eggs in one basket and say that like
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  they're the only people going to come across of course not the
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  majority are going to be the people who just be negative
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  because there's something going on in my life.
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  So I challenge you I challenge you to never want to be watching
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  this video right now and you know, and and this is a new type
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  of video. I never done a video on
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  something like this and I've done a video topic like this
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  before and I wanted to do it because I know it haters and
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  mental health are fused together.
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  They're poised together and I wanted to do this video so My
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  challenge for you. Is this next time you come
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  across so many Hues being negative to you or being hateful
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  to you. Try introduced love to them.
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  Why not reach out and be like, hey, okay, I understand that was
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  really negative things to say. I hope you're okay.
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  I hope that whatever is going on in your life can get sorted.
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  And if not, can I help in any way just just offer love and
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  support because you want to be the change you wish to see in
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  the world like Gandhi said, how come we fight fire with fire?
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  We can't we have five of water we have to fight hate with Love
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  always loved I hater like that's I'm going to make a teacher says
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  love thy hate it because I do I love each and every one of my
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  haters because I just wish him the best and life.
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  I don't want them to be so negative.
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  I don't want to be wrapped up in this kind of like notion whether
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  no good because they obviously feeling and such a Negative dark
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  place that they want to come on my videos and waste their time
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  doing it. I think about this think about
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  this let's talk about time here. So this topic really interests
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  the crap out of me like it's all to do with time.
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  I mean check this out. Okay, like what?
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  Saying a minute ago on the bad way, like, you know, you have
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  people who going on and spending that time being hateful towards
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  you you got to think about this come from like a billion years
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  of nothingness to just being alive for like 80 200 years
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  never go back to you know billion years of nothingness or
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  whatever are infinite, you know, there's only a finite number of
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  years were allowed on this planet.
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  And so you got to think how are you spending that time and how
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  you judge what you're going to spend your time on it's very
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  simple you think about when you're on your deathbed when
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  your line and you know, you're gonna go Go and it's a great
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  thing, you know, you've those are fantastic.
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  But what are the things you're going to worry about?
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  You're going to think about the people you love the people you
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  spent time with the the relationships you made the
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  Network's you made and the things you did in your life that
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  made you proud. There's not one time in your
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  life are going to go. You know, I'm so glad I spent
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  seven hours replying to people negatively on comments and
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  hating on people on on the internet on Instagram and
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  YouTube that will never happen. That's the never anybody's goal
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  in life. So when people are wasting their
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  life literally wasting their life to come onto my video, We
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  stayed time. I feel sorry for them because
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  you think it was self. I don't always my time doing
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  that. I spend my time doing things
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  that are going to make me fulfilled in life because you
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  only have 80 to 100 years. If you're lucky, you know to
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  experience all this stuff why you waste it and just being
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  horrible for no reason and that's absolutely one of the
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  most fascinating things about this experience of haters and
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  hatred and people who just wasting their time.
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  It's incredible. So never waste your time this
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  unless Some for everybody don't waste your time, you know don't
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  don't turn into one of those people.
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  If you feel yourself going into a, you know, a negative spot
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  always think about positive things in the positive will push
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  out the negative. That's really interesting and
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  it's a good lesson to learn never waste of time.
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  Super precious. Okay.
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  So where does that leave us in conclusion that leaves us with
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  one thing to take away here haters are going to impact your
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  life in the slightest. But one thing you can do is you
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  can help influence their life in a positive way to help them that
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  Is the real takeaway here from today's video and I hope you
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  guys learned something. If you haven't it's something
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  and you have enjoyed this I highly recommend you guys tweet
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  me at the ask me world. I'd say my name is Graham DM at
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  the art world and tell me what you thought.