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Rabbi Moshe Haber Perashat Qorah: The Wisdom of Separation 6.19.26 · Rabbi Moshe Haber - Daily Mussar/Weekly Perasha

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  A little analysis of Kodak and I'll buy a shot of this entire
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  story. A lot of the stories about Kodak
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  and a man really going downhill very fast.
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  But open Bazook, I think gives a major concept of how negativity
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  works. They got Kodak, Ben.
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  It's hard. Ben Kod Ben Levy, Kodak, who's
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  the son of Utah, the son of God. And you know that's the grandson
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  of God and the great grandson of Levy, he says the great grandson
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  of great, great grandson of Yakovino.
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  Yeah, right, she says Yakov said shame.
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  Please do not connect me to Korak.
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  That's why we stopped by Levy. We don't get to Yakov Veda Tanda
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  Avidan Basuk says. Who else joined Korak?
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  Two other men that time. Avidan Veneer.
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  We have one Ben Pele and a woman, a man man on my Pelet
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  veneer over. So you have Korak, 2 hench men,
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  another person on Vampire, it's the third guy with him.
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  And then they have another 250 people, Aunt Shasham, who joined
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  Kodak, All these people, they were actually in the CIA, died.
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  They were very important people. They all came by Kalu al Moshe.
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  They gathered, that's the keyword.
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  They gathered on Moshe, Rabeira and Aron and they told Moshe
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  Aron Ravla him you have too much chikola Ida kulam kadoshim.
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  We're all holy Ubutah Hashem and we all have Hashem with us.
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  And why do you take all these positions?
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  Why do you take leadership? What makes you the leaders?
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  And they started to rebel against the leadership where
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  should have been, and this is a very strong rebellion, strongest
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  of our kind away Moshena been who was the undisputed leader,
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  Arona Kohan, the undisputed Kohan Gaidor.
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  Now all of a sudden they have to basically their jobs are being
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  questioned. The whole position is
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  questioned. Everything's questioned all
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  starts because Kodak and his team.
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  So she says right away, and this is a point I want to focus on
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  this morning, She says Korak came with the town of Iran.
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  These are the two hench men says that she where did it come into
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  the picture or brought the time Abidam into the picture?
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  Korak, I know he's fighting based on the fact exactly Korak
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  makes sense. I mean he's fighting.
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  I'm a Levy. I deserve this position.
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  I'm part of the main class anyhow.
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  I'm part of the Levy, part of the family of Kat, which is the
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  main family of Levy. I'm very significant person.
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  I want to step up. Kora.
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  Fine. That time Navidam becoming the
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  main henchman. Where do they come into the
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  picture? They're from Little Van.
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  OK, so they're from Little Van. They think they're supposed to
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  be before I got it. Well, Jesus is the key.
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  They're always the troublemakers.
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  They're always job makers. They've been troublemakers in
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  the beginning. And right.
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  She says oil. It's too many the whole time.
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  Just get rid of them, right? All right.
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  She says oil it. Aisha oil.
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  It's gonna want to leave a person and went on to his
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  neighbor. And it's because Korra and
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  Shevard Ruvain were situated next to each other in the
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  Mahanat and the camps of Ami Sale because their camps are
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  next to each other. That's why they got connected.
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  They instigate each other because they're is it a Shah and
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  his neighbor, which means their main issue over here at its core
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  was they became a unit because they were neighbors.
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  And Korra had an idea. He brought these people on board
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  and you had them on board. Now you just said, right, that
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  they were bad people from the beginning.
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  They've always been in trouble. But for this specific fight,
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  they're only in on it because of the fact that the neighbors are
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  Kodak, right? Who is the core?
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  Kodak has the core and they are his neighbors, which means the
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  fact that they had a history of fighting was not the reason to
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  coin this or she is not the reason to jump on board.
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  It's only because I saw this point I'm hearing nothing.
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  If you think about it, they gain nothing and that's the
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  individual old man pellet. So what is this concept, right?
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  We'll see about that in a second.
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  His wife. But the concept is negativity.
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  The way it works is that it grows, it expands, it creates
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  groups and it starts to spread among group has the power to
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  spread. Now does it work with thing when
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  things spread? If you want to stop the
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  spreading, what do you do? You separate.
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  The more you join together and these types of mindsets, the
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  more things spread. Anything, whether it be a cold
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  and illness or whatever it may be, if people want to stop that
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  and separate and people want to make it contagious, they get
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  connected. And so the idea over here is, is
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  that on Ben Kodak and these people were connected.
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  And because they were connected, because they were neighbors,
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  negativity spread. And that's how it works when it
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  comes to a bad idea, when it comes to people saying, when it
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  comes to people thinking in a bad way, and when it comes to
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  people that say say something bad about another person, I'd
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  say a bad rumor has a bad rumor spread.
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  One person hears it, he's over to his friend.
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  He sends it. He forward it before he know it
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  becomes forward many times and forward, forward, forward many,
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  many, many times and all those different things.
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  And before you know it, a nice it's just a thought that someone
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  made, a bad thought that someone had.
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  It becomes worldwide news. How?
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  Because it spread. And all you need to do to stop
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  that spread is delete. Or you say don't spread it and
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  it doesn't go out and then it stops and dies right there.
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  The difference between negativity becoming a world and
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  negativity becoming stopped is whether or not it spreads.
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  And how do things spreads? By connections, which tells us
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  be careful when you hear a bad idea, when you have a bad idea,
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  either one, don't expand it. When someone is saying something
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  about another person, don't pile on.
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  Don't say, oh, you know about him also this, also that.
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  And you know what? And then it happens, starts to
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  grow in your mind and people start to build ideas.
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  And before you know it, you look at people differently, you start
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  to treat them differently, and you start to have a very
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  negative energy based on the fact that one person in a small
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  room said something by a Shabbat table.
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  Another whole table is piling on as a very normal occurrence.
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  And it's all based on the idea of Shakino neighbors and his
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  mindset. People you're connected to, it
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  matters. If there's a positive type,
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  great. If there's a negative type and
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  you hang around them enough, they start to paint the picture
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  and start to make things all negative for the whole group,
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  for the family that weren't around.
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  And the person has to be in control to say, being swept in.
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  I shouldn't be swept in, right? Who do we have in this group in
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  the same pursuit? You said all Men Pele.
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  All Men Pele was also part of the original group, part of the
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  neighbourisms, also part of the whole being swept in and his
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  wife, as you know, the came out says you see all Men Pele in the
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  beginning of the fight and then middle way through the fight.
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  You never hear his name again. He's mentioned once what
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  happened to this person. I think he's part of the crew.
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  It's part of the original. He's on the 250 that we don't
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  have a name. The answer is his wife told him.
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  What are you doing? You're fighting on behalf of
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  Kodak, right? Because you don't agree on what
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  should have been up being the sole leader.
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  So what happens if Kodak wins? What's going to happen?
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  He becomes a leader. What about you?
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  You remain in the same position you are now your same.
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  Second in command. Third in command.
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  It doesn't change for you. His wife told him.
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  Doesn't make any sense what you're doing.
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  You're putting yourself on the line.
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  You're fighting more shit out, Beno, basically fighting a coin.
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  A coin to Moshe. You're fighting God, right?
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  It's a big deal. And you're doing this for what
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  purpose? For yourself?
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  No, it's for Kodak. What are you doing?
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  His wife says stop, you're being swept in, Calm down.
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  It's not making a difference anyhow.
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  So then he told his wife. So what am I going to do?
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  I'm ready. Part of the crew, they're going
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  to come and get me. We know they came out that says
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  she told him, no problem here, do him a favor.
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  Drink this, go to sleep. She gave him some wine.
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  He went to sleep and then he says that they're going to come
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  to the tent to don't get me. Oh, she said I don't cover my
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  hair. They wouldn't come in if I don't
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  cover my hair, I'll be immodest. And then they turn away and
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  that's it. We're good.
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  So his wife started from. Yeah, just to be clear, very
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  clear, the he was gone and he was basically, this goes to
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  being a leader. It's a whole different story to
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  recognize the fact that this man was one inch off and because
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  that he ended up an underground. It's crazy.
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  It's a crazy thing to understand.
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  Kids. What?
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  Us kids. Either to Shiva.
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  Yeah, either to Shiva. They never, they never sinned.
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  Do we say that to Shiva? Honor.
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  Honor. It's a funny thing.
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  Imagine they wouldn't come with their hair.
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  It's crazy. But they're fighting much.
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  They're fighting much because they think.
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  They think yeah, but they're also going they're going part of
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  the arguments that my shaveman who chose on, on and we don't
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  trust my shaman's choosing ability layer after layer after
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  layer. These men, the the Ogg's wife
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  was very old man pellet. Yeah, his wife is very smaller.
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  The Gemala says, and this is a classic, you know, woman class.
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  The Gemala says that you know, Ahmad Nashim Bata Beta, the
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  wisdom of a woman builds a home and then it says, on the other
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  hand, another type of woman, forget the pasuk destroy his own
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  because what made Kodak get into this fight?
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  You talking about the wife. What makes Kodak get into the
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  fight? His wife told him you let him or
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  she had been to do this. You know the other type of wife
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  move. You know that one you're letting
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  you work for him for so many years and you're letting him
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  think he he doesn't know that you built the company, the
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  classic wife line. You built the company letting
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  him do this, all that stuff and the wife Exxon, Exxon, Exxon, he
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  doesn't care. He's been OK with this forever,
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  his wife. So the difference in the types
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  of wives is unbelievable thing. But that's literally this
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  mindset of being swept in. Kodak's wife is giving him a
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  negative mindset and he's being swept in all men.
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  Perla's wife is saying stop and think for a second.
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  What exactly are you doing? Doesn't make any sense.
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  None of this makes any sense. Everything that these men did
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  during this time did not air up on Ben Perla getting involved
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  didn't help him. Didn't make sense.
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  All right, I thought about the same thing.
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  Go further. The 250 men getting involved in
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  this unit, did it make sense to do that?
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  Think about this. What was the test?
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  So what happened? They come to Moshebino, they
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  rebuild, they give an argument. Moshebino says it's very bad.
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  Stop, you have enough, you're fine.
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  Stop, stop. They keep trying to stop them.
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  He tries to cross peace and Pasuka then said Moshe Rashid
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  tells him Moshebino went up to on to on the to with the time of
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  Afghan to meet them and they said, LO not Allah, we're not
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  going to meet you. We're not interested in meeting.
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  They were shut up. Beno, who was the man who saved
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  these people out of the time or gave him to The Who split the
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  sea. He was involved in all that,
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  right? He's running the desert and he
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  is being rebelled against and he's willing to go to them and
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  to make Shalom. And they turned him down to out
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  of their minds, right out of their minds.
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  And at some point we see is how far a person should go for
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  Shalom for Moshe. But they're crazy.
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  And how about the 2:50? Well, at 2:50, the way it's
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  going to work is Moshe Abedini came up with an idea we're going
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  to test. You guys are directly arguing
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  against Otto's position. So we'll take a a Corbin called
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  the cathodic. The Cathodic cannot be served by
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  anybody, any random person and we'll see who is the Gohan
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  Ghetto 251, Cathodic 250 and other one.
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  Everyone will be in the cathodic.
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  The only man that will survive is the one who's chosen by God.
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  Didn't take that chance. Everyone other person is dying.
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  So what's your plan, guys? You're 250, right?
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  You're a you're a team. You guys are going in as a team,
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  249 of you. Even if you're right, they're
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  gone. What are you thinking?
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  Doesn't make any sense. Doesn't add up.
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  It doesn't add up in Alamos because we're thinking from a
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  distance. It doesn't add up more Sharon
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  Venos minds because he's thinking normal, but it adds up
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  in their mind because they're crazy.
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  Why are they crazy? They're not crazy people, but
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  they all just pulled into a a level of of negativity and Davao
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  and everything, and look how it spirals.
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  Look what it spreads to and it doesn't make any sense on Ben
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  Pilla is saying to his his wife was saying to him, stop and
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  think no major Kedush, stop and make sense of the situation and
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  then you'll make a decision. You want to find more chef and
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  fight him, Fine, That's OK. That's a different discussion.
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  But whether or not it makes sense, that's a challenge.
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  And a person has to realize, to me, if you're part of a group,
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  you're part of a family, you're part of a crew.
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  And they start to pile on and they start to make a fight and
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  start to get upset and saying to yourself, is this for me or is
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  it for the other guy? Yeah, he's convincing me to be
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  on board. But really, he's doing this
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  because it helps him. How many times do people want
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  you to join them? You think it's you're sick?
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  No, they don't need you. If you're sick, I'll do it
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  alone. I want you to agree with them
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  just so they feel better about their negative opinion or just
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  so they have more backing and all those different things.
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  Will you go to bat for me? Will you help me?
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  Will you agree with me? No.
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  No. Does.
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  Is it the right thing to do? No.
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  Doesn't make any sense. It's only because you want some
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  assistance and some confidence and some backing on your
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  negative way, and you're trying to get me on board.
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  All right. This is the concept that a
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  person has to realize how negativity spreads the same way
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  you separate to avoid spreading of a cold have to separate to
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  avoid spreading of a bad idea spreading as something that's
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  negative. And you see it from these people
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  from and you said it starts with the fact that the Don Valvidan
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  will call us neighbor that brought them on board neighbor
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  just a neighbor. They live nearby.
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  That's it even has a problem. OK if you associate wrong way
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  with your neighbors you can be pulled in as neighborhood then
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  yeah the wife Kotas wife so saying 250 men also sitting and
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  they all created a negative thing whereas only my pellet's
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  wife tells him separate. You know what he's called?
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  He's called own. Then pellet.
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  Pellet is pellet. Pellet means in English a
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  wonder. This man and his activity and
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  his survival, all he started off in a fight.
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  The fact that he got out, everyone else ended up ended up
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  on the ground. It's an hour.
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  I wonder because we are all inclined to buy in.
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  We're all inclined to pile on, to accept, to go in on that
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  fight, to say, yeah, you're right, of course.
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  Of course they're wrong. Of course they're terrible.
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  Of course it's you know what? I remember that time when he
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  said this also, you're telling me that he talks too tough.
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  But yeah, it makes sense because I remember he was so tough the
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  whole time and he's telling me that he's not so honest.
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  That makes sense because last time he told me this joke, they
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  had a little bit of stealing involved, those different things
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  and you start to pile on, right? It always happens.
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  And if no one ever told you anything, you would not have
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  piled up at all. It happens every time.
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  It's a pillar that this man came out unscathed because his wife
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  had the sense to say you want to be a balgava?
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  I'm with you. You want honor, I'm OK with
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  that. You're not getting honor anyway.
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  And that's the beauty of the concept, which is negativity
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  spreads because deep down people think if I pile on, I'm going to
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  get something out of this, I'll feel better about myself, I'll
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  be bought. If they're down, then I'm up.
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  Life is like a seesaw and people build.
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  What's the reality? The reality is it might spread.
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  You might join the crew or that'll be true.
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  It never ends in your favor. It doesn't build you up by
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  putting down that guy in the community.
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  Is that going to make you better?
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  Doesn't make you better. By that brother-in-law being
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  seen in the bad light, is that going to make you any better?
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  Doesn't work that way. Oh, if they consider him the
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  worst brother-in-law, they consider me the better brother.
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  Doesn't work that way. Life is not literally a seesaw.
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  People think that in their minds, anytime someone
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  disparages anybody else, I think I put them down and build things
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  up for me. So you have these concepts, if
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  you're in the wrong group, recognize the fact that it's
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  going to spread. And even if we're all in groups
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  that are not perfect, we have to have the independent mindset to
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  step aside and say, they may be my friends, they might be my
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  family, they might be good people.
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  But All in all, I'm going to keep away from that negative
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  energy because it's only going to be thank you big.
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  What are the words? It's just like Kalu.
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  They gathered like a Kahala. They were like 1 unit.
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  A negative unit is a terrible thing.
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  Keep away. That's Part 1.
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  And Part 2 is to realize you keep me away not because you're
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  sacrificing and you're holding yourself back because you're
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  being smart. You're being smart and you're
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  saying to yourself, what does it matter?
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  How is it going to help me? How is it going to do anything
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  for me if I join in on this fight?
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  And because then you say to yourself, and therefore I turn
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  it down, I'm going to be a smart person.
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  I'm going to survive. I'm going to remain positive.
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  I'm not just going to accept everyone's negative words and
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  everything people have to say because it does not help me at
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  all and accuse it. All right, that's the idea.
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  I'll stop with this.