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Almost Famous OG: Bouncing Back with DeAnna Pappas · The Ben and Ashley I Almost Famous Podcast

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  Speaker 1: This is the almost famous podcast with I R Radio.
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  Speaker 1: Hi everybody, this is Trista and today I'm so low.
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  Speaker 1: Bob couldn't make it. He is traveling today and he
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  Speaker 1: was trying to make it work. He I think just
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  Speaker 1: got to the airport or is going to the airport
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  Speaker 1: and didn't want to interrupt the interview by jumping out
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  Speaker 1: of his car and going inside and going through t
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  Speaker 1: s A. So, uh, so he can't make it today.
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  Speaker 1: I'm really sad. We miss you, Bob. But I'm really
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  Speaker 1: excited about our guest. We've got Diana Papas. She is
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  Speaker 1: one of my longtime bachelor friends well really kind of
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  Speaker 1: my sister in bachelor family. Um, and I'm really excited
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  Speaker 1: to talk to her today. So Hannah, will you please
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  Speaker 1: bring Diana in Hi, beautiful h So for everyone listening,
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  Speaker 1: it was Diana's birthday. Happy, happy birthday. UM what did
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  Speaker 1: you do in years young? That's right, That's right. I'm
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  Speaker 1: going to keep telling myself that, but I have to
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  Speaker 1: tell you. So we just had brad on Um well
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  Speaker 1: Pep'll get it. Yes, why was that? It was great? Um?
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  Speaker 1: He is just one of the nicest people. Um, just
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  Speaker 1: so sweet and it was great to talk to him,
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  Speaker 1: just I mean, obviously we can go into it. Huh.
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  Speaker 1: I'm surprised he did the podcast. I know, shocking, right,
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  Speaker 1: he does not do this stuff, like he's not on
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  Speaker 1: any social media whatsoever, like, has never been on it before.
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  Speaker 1: So yeah, we were really excited to talk to him.
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  Speaker 1: He doesn't. Nope, he's dating someone and there's it seems
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  Speaker 1: like they're serious ish, like they've talked about kids. But
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  Speaker 1: I don't know, well, I don't know. We'll see verdicts
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  Speaker 1: verdicts out and and honestly, we might not even know
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  Speaker 1: if he ever gets married because he's got on social
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  Speaker 1: you can't keep up with him in anyway. He's kind
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  Speaker 1: of like, I'm so glad to hear he's doing well.
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  Speaker 1: I saw that Harrison posted a photo last week of
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  Speaker 1: the two of them together having lunch or something like that,
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  Speaker 1: and I just thought, it's just really great. It's it's
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  Speaker 1: good to see him, you know, and people still keeping
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  Speaker 1: in touch with him, you know, yes, yes, of course,
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  Speaker 1: it was great to talk to him. You know. I
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  Speaker 1: know you're like me and we don't wish our exes
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  Speaker 1: any bad juju, but yeah, you know, yeah, I mean
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  Speaker 1: he's he's a great guy. Um. I have nothing but
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  Speaker 1: love for him. Um. So, anyway, I was going to
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  Speaker 1: bring up so Brad's birthday. My fiftie, as you know,
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  Speaker 1: was at the end of October and Brad's fiftie was
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  Speaker 1: November ten, and so he was talking about kind of
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  Speaker 1: the same vibe, like, oh, yeah, it's just a number
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  Speaker 1: or whatever. And I'm sorry. I love that everyone's saying that.
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  Speaker 1: And I know, listen, I get it. It's better than
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  Speaker 1: the alternative of not having a birthday. I understand that,
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  Speaker 1: but I just don't like it. I don't like aging.
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  Speaker 1: You're funny, never liked getting older. No, what I mean,
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  Speaker 1: that's you do this every year. I know our group
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  Speaker 1: text and we're we're wishing everyone a happy birthday. You
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  Speaker 1: do this every year. You do not like to get
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  Speaker 1: and that's okay. A lot of people are that way,
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  Speaker 1: and right with that means a lot of things, because
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  Speaker 1: we are human, right, and that comes with a lot
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  Speaker 1: of changes, and for women in particular, physical changes, and
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  Speaker 1: those things hard to like look at ourselves differently, or
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  Speaker 1: see our bodies changing, or or or peoples or gray
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  Speaker 1: hair or all of it. That's hard to do. Those
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  Speaker 1: things embrace those things and feel good about those things,
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  Speaker 1: do you know what I mean? Gaining weight, everything changing,
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  Speaker 1: Like it's hard to steel be positive with those things
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  Speaker 1: because you still want to feel really beautiful. But honestly,
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  Speaker 1: I'm with Brad like I feel pretty good. You know,
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  Speaker 1: I don't know to go back to right. I would
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  Speaker 1: go back to that body any right, honestly, at any time,
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  Speaker 1: but like totally like as a person emotionally and like
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  Speaker 1: my mental well being and just being more secure in
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  Speaker 1: who I am at this, you know, with that comes like, hey,
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  Speaker 1: it is not about how many friends you have, It's
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  Speaker 1: about the quality of the few that you do have.
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  Speaker 1: And like, I don't know that I understood that when
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  Speaker 1: I was younger, you know, right right now, I have
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  Speaker 1: a lot of conversations with Blake Sleeve about that because
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  Speaker 1: and pardon me for having a hot slash right when
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  Speaker 1: you were talking about ages. It was in therapy esday
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  Speaker 1: on my birthday. I went to therapy, which is a
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  Speaker 1: per sanity your birthday, and I was like, yeah, a
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  Speaker 1: little birthday sanity, I need it, hey, sitting in there
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  Speaker 1: and it was, I swear to God. Halfway through it
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  Speaker 1: was like sweating and I was like, I'm sorry, is
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  Speaker 1: it is? Do you have the heat on? Why is
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  Speaker 1: it a hundred and five degrees in here? Because well
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  Speaker 1: you are forty one. I was like, damn it, damn
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  Speaker 1: it smokes, that's really happening. Is that the first one
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  Speaker 1: you've ever had? Yeah? I mean it was oh my gosh, yeah,
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  Speaker 1: it was really hot. And there in my defense, yeah,
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  Speaker 1: she just she just was fine with it. No. I
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  Speaker 1: they are not fun, but you know, I yes, the
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  Speaker 1: physical stuff is not fun to deal with. But I
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  Speaker 1: will say just feeling older in terms of my body
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  Speaker 1: and what I can do is such a bummer. Like
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  Speaker 1: I hate being in pain, like having back pain or
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  Speaker 1: knee pain, or my body just doesn't work as well.
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  Speaker 1: A tough year too, Yeah, just health wise in general.
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  Speaker 1: Both you and Ryan like that's those things are just
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  Speaker 1: tough and it is a route awakening to realize that
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  Speaker 1: we just don't bounce back as quickly as we used to.
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  Speaker 1: Totally that that is such a downer to me because
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  Speaker 1: I used to like, hey, I you know, go whatever,
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  Speaker 1: not work out and eat whatever I wanted, and then
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  Speaker 1: I'd be like, go go back to the gym, and
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  Speaker 1: two weeks later I'd been right back where I started.
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  Speaker 1: Not anymore. Even if I go like two days, which
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  Speaker 1: I never do. If I did two days at the gym,
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  Speaker 1: it would still take me like six months at least.
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  Speaker 1: I never do. I don't ever. You don't ever work out.
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  Speaker 1: I mean a little bit here. Oh my gosh, come on,
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  Speaker 1: I've gained like fifteen pounds, like I am. I'm the
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  Speaker 1: heaviest that I've ever been in my entire life. I
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  Speaker 1: can't tell you the last time I've seen my six pack.
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  Speaker 1: But like, I just but I guess I'm kind of
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  Speaker 1: just in this place of where just like accepted, I
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  Speaker 1: just I just want to get like my mental health
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  Speaker 1: and my emotional well being together. I just do what
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  Speaker 1: feels good right now. And if that means I work out,
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  Speaker 1: then that's greatly. I'm totally fine with that too. If
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  Speaker 1: I go to I don't work out, you know, sometimes
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  Speaker 1: that's okay, all right, right, I'm just doing what feels good.
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  Speaker 1: I'll get out and walk a lot. I do enjoy that,
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  Speaker 1: enjoy to get out and walk my dog and listen
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  Speaker 1: to a podcast. So I do try to at least
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  Speaker 1: do that. But yeah, really, at the end of the day,
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  Speaker 1: I had two martinis at dinner last night, and I
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  Speaker 1: feel like I need a nap, like for the night.
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  Speaker 1: I know that too, Like I, Yeah, alcohol, we don't
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  Speaker 1: drink a lot of alcohol, but still when we do,
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  Speaker 1: I feel it. Even if I have a glass of
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  Speaker 1: wine at night, I feel like a little sluggish the
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  Speaker 1: next day. It's not bad, but I want to go
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  Speaker 1: back to bed right now, yeah, right, while you're not allowed.
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  Speaker 1: We're going to talk for a little bit longer. Um,
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  Speaker 1: But I do you, you know, I I love that
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  Speaker 1: you are in a place of acceptance and happiness and
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  Speaker 1: doing what feels right for you. That's what everyone should do,
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  Speaker 1: and even when you're younger. Like I was about to say,
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  Speaker 1: with Blakesley, I have had so many conversations because she
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  Speaker 1: is a teenager, talking about quality of friendship and as
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  Speaker 1: opposed to quantity, like it is much more important to
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  Speaker 1: surround yourself with people who lift you up rather than
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  Speaker 1: um just having the numbers, you know. I We talked
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  Speaker 1: about that constantly, and I think it is a hard
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  Speaker 1: learning lesson. Even at fifty, I feel like there are
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  Speaker 1: definitely times when when I get um, I'm sad because
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  Speaker 1: I feel left out of something or you know, but
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  Speaker 1: everyone has families and their own lives, and it's just
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  Speaker 1: hard these days. People are busy. People are busy. Yeah,
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  Speaker 1: I think the other like hard lesson. I mean, I
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  Speaker 1: am trying to implement implement this with my own children,
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  Speaker 1: but it's been a hard lesson for me in the
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  Speaker 1: last probably year and a half. In particular, is on
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  Speaker 1: the same concept of how many people, right, how many
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  Speaker 1: friends you have? It's not quantity, right, it's the quality.
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  Speaker 1: And I think that it is so important to be
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  Speaker 1: truly and fully loved, holy and authentically for who you
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  Speaker 1: truly are. Do you know the good and the bad? Right?
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  Speaker 1: Still have good and bad And we're all a product
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  Speaker 1: of how we were raised. And no one is perfect,
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  Speaker 1: and you know we have strengths and we have weaknesses.
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  Speaker 1: And it's truly important to be around and surround yourself
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  Speaker 1: with people who fully love you for who you are
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  Speaker 1: alifically holy. Right, we're children of God and He loves
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  Speaker 1: us as broken as we are. That should be done.
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  Speaker 1: And if you are not being surrounded by those kind
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  Speaker 1: of people, you need to reevaluate your situation and your friendships.
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  Speaker 1: And I'm all right with that. I'm alright with people
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  Speaker 1: who are willing to put on the boots and walk
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  Speaker 1: through the ship like those yes, those are the kind
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  Speaker 1: of yes I want to be friends with because that's
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  Speaker 1: the kind of person I am, right fault, and I
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  Speaker 1: love so truly deeply that that's just who I am.
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  Speaker 1: Like that's the kind of friend I am, And that's
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  Speaker 1: the kind of friends that I want. And I got
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  Speaker 1: so important and I want that for my children. I
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  Speaker 1: want that same for anyone. You know, say it has
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  Speaker 1: to be it's very intentional, Like I feel like the
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  Speaker 1: word of the last couple of years has been intentional,
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  Speaker 1: Like you know, focus your intentions on those who do
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  Speaker 1: lift you up and who support you and accept you
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  Speaker 1: and all of those things. So yeah, I love you
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  Speaker 1: for that. Loyalty, relationships and refinement. That's what right to
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  Speaker 1: make other people happy, that's not what we're meant to do. Relationships,
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  Speaker 1: and I mean across the board, marriage, you know, significant others, friendships.
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  Speaker 1: It's about refinement. It is not about making someone happy
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  Speaker 1: or changing someone. It's about refinement totally. And I feel
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  Speaker 1: like these days I am just trying to get through it,
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  Speaker 1: like I you know what I mean. Like there are
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  Speaker 1: times when like yesterday, for ex ample, I got my
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  Speaker 1: hair done. Um, you know, go into the hair solan
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  Speaker 1: air looks so good today, thanks. Thanks. So I go
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  Speaker 1: and I get my hair done, and it's always a
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  Speaker 1: day that Ryan hates because I am gone for so.
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  Speaker 1: I mean, you know, as a woman, well you probably
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  Speaker 1: don't because you get a little highlights, but you don't
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  Speaker 1: have to do anything because you have gorgeous hair and
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  Speaker 1: probably not a lot of gray must be where they
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  Speaker 1: start right underneath here this is oh yes, or just
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  Speaker 1: right at the top, there's like a I was who
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  Speaker 1: I was like, what are all theys coming from? Stress
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  Speaker 1: up life? Anyway, So I was gone most of the
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  Speaker 1: day and he hates the day, and of course I
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  Speaker 1: get home later on in the day and this is
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  Speaker 1: of course after I go picked blakes Lee up and
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  Speaker 1: I from a friends who she had a sleepover with,
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  Speaker 1: like all these things, you know, right, went to the gym,
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  Speaker 1: come home and I'm like, do you want to do anything?
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  Speaker 1: And he's like, I just want to hang out with
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  Speaker 1: my wife, you know, like beautiful. I know. I'm like,
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  Speaker 1: you know what, some days I just gotta have a
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  Speaker 1: me day and put time in. I'm sorry that I
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  Speaker 1: can't be around a hundred percent of the time to
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  Speaker 1: make you happy. But um, you know, sometimes I just
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  Speaker 1: gotta take some time for me. So yeah, it's it's
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  Speaker 1: so true, so do it. Yeah, that's right. Okay, So
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  Speaker 1: tell me about what's going on in your life lately.
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  Speaker 1: I know you do the podcast with Jessica. Um are
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  Speaker 1: you blogging still? I know you're flying, So tell me
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  Speaker 1: what's going on. I have not been doing any of
• 12:37
  Speaker 1: those things. You haven't. Well, you did fly recently. I
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  Speaker 1: know I'm still working quite a bit, and I feel
• 12:44
  Speaker 1: really lucky to work for one family in particular, who
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  Speaker 1: I just genuinely love. I've been with them for a
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  Speaker 1: really long time and they're really good to me, and
• 12:51
  Speaker 1: they're really good to my family. Yeah, tell tell everyone
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  Speaker 1: what you do, though, because I don't think everyone I know,
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  Speaker 1: everyone is always so shocked to hear the real job.
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  Speaker 1: I'm like, I am a real person. That is fascinating
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  Speaker 1: when people write me on social media, Like if if
• 13:08
  Speaker 1: I post that I have been flying or whatever, I
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  Speaker 1: still get people who email me or sorry DM me
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  Speaker 1: and say, wow, you work, And I'm like, how could
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  Speaker 1: I not? There are built bills around here, like mortgage
• 13:22
  Speaker 1: if you know, living in the state of California, but
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  Speaker 1: it is really high. Yeah. Yeah, I am a corporate
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  Speaker 1: flight attendant. I have done it, and for those who
• 13:32
  Speaker 1: don't know, it means private aviation. I work in private aviation.
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  Speaker 1: I can't imagine working for Delta passing out peanuts and
• 13:38
  Speaker 1: a right especially coming from where you're coming from, it
• 13:42
  Speaker 1: would be awesome. Addison, maybe she'll follow in mommy's footsteps. Yeah,
• 13:48
  Speaker 1: so I work in private aviation and I like the
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  Speaker 1: freedom of it because I genuinely am a foodie. I
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  Speaker 1: like to cook and or will taste anything that I make,
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  Speaker 1: So I get to cook and do that in flight,
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  Speaker 1: which I really appreciate. And then also the whole concept
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  Speaker 1: of being able to travel and stay in a hotel
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  Speaker 1: and go places that I want to go all by myself.
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  Speaker 1: Um so I've done that for gosh eleven years now,
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  Speaker 1: eleven years. I had some I have, like this transitional
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  Speaker 1: period of time after I did the Bachelor Rep where
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  Speaker 1: it really wasn't sure what to do with my life.
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  Speaker 1: I think we all do. Yeah. Yeah, it's weird because
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  Speaker 1: you're a normal person, but you're also put in this
• 14:29
  Speaker 1: place where it's hard for you to do normal things.
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  Speaker 1: So I couldn't do real estate anymore because I just
• 14:36
  Speaker 1: had strange people who wanted to hang out with me
• 14:38
  Speaker 1: and were utilizing my time, yes to get to meet
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  Speaker 1: me and pretend to buy a house, you know what
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  Speaker 1: I mean. And then it just wasn't safe for me
• 14:45
  Speaker 1: to go out alone right show houses anymore. So that
• 14:48
  Speaker 1: was hard because I was still pretty young and I
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  Speaker 1: was really good at it and I just didn't know
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  Speaker 1: what to do. So and then, as you know this
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  Speaker 1: trusted with the opportunities that come after the past. I
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  Speaker 1: got to do of really cool things like I got
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  Speaker 1: to work on the Red Carpet, and I hosted a
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  Speaker 1: television show, and I got to go to Iraq twice,
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  Speaker 1: in Afghanistan twice to visit the troops, and just opportunities
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  Speaker 1: that I really enjoyed and that I didn't want to
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  Speaker 1: turn down. So then this period of time where I
• 15:18
  Speaker 1: was like, oh, do I want to continue a life
• 15:20
  Speaker 1: in television? Like what do I want to do at
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  Speaker 1: thirty years old? You know, I didn't like the concept
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  Speaker 1: of people willing to go over whoever they could to
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  Speaker 1: get on top. And I couldn't get packed that because
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  Speaker 1: at my core, I am not that person and I
• 15:38
  Speaker 1: didn't want to compete for that. Like I just wanted
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  Speaker 1: to feel full, and I wanted to be happy, and
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  Speaker 1: I wanted to have a career that I enjoyed. I
• 15:45
  Speaker 1: would like to make some money, you know what I mean.
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  Speaker 1: But like I couldn't. I couldn't deal with that. I
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  Speaker 1: couldn't deal with the competition or walking into every E
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  Speaker 1: News audition and sitting there before other bachelorettes. You know,
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  Speaker 1: whoever was it was popular at the time got the job.
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  Speaker 1: You know, it didn't matter. We were whoever was popular
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  Speaker 1: at the time. And so I just didn't like how
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  Speaker 1: it made me feel and where it was going. So
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  Speaker 1: it doesn't mean that I don't still do things like that.
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  Speaker 1: If something really awesome falls into my lap, then I
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  Speaker 1: will still take those opportunities. But it has to feel
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  Speaker 1: right for me, and it has to go right for
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  Speaker 1: my family, partially in a career I pursued anymore. So
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  Speaker 1: I had some friends who are in the business and
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  Speaker 1: we're willing to turn in my application for me. And
• 16:27
  Speaker 1: before the Bachelorette, I had had a long history and
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  Speaker 1: service industry and that's really all I am. I'm a
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  Speaker 1: glorified server in the air. And also that's how fun. Yeah,
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  Speaker 1: I like really enjoy it. So I've been working a lot,
• 16:40
  Speaker 1: long story short of and working a lot and traveling,
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  Speaker 1: which takes up a lot of time, and then yeah,
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  Speaker 1: and finding that when I'm away and I come home,
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  Speaker 1: I really just want to soak up my time with
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  Speaker 1: my family, so it's hard to to squeeze in those
• 16:51
  Speaker 1: other things where I really enjoyed the creative pieces of blogging.
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  Speaker 1: I still have my website, but I haven't done anything
• 16:58
  Speaker 1: in a really long time. And and the podcast too.
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  Speaker 1: We're just on a break. I'm not really sure what's
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  Speaker 1: happening there, and I kind of feel free without it,
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  Speaker 1: do you know what I mean? Of course, that's how
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  Speaker 1: it happened to me. Yeah, we recorded down in Beverly Hills,
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  Speaker 1: So you know, I enjoyed it. I don't just don't know.
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  Speaker 1: I'm a bit of a transitional face, so I'm not
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  Speaker 1: sure what. But yeah, as much as I travel and
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  Speaker 1: when I come home, I want to spend all of
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  Speaker 1: my time with the kids. And that comes down to
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  Speaker 1: even like you know, social media stuff like I really
• 17:28
  Speaker 1: kind of a veered away from doing any kind of
• 17:30
  Speaker 1: sam like paid post because it's not worth my time
• 17:35
  Speaker 1: or hurt, and I'm kind of like my goal and
• 17:38
  Speaker 1: it takes a lot of time. Yeah, my goal is
• 17:40
  Speaker 1: to be an influencer. That's not my goal. That's that
• 17:44
  Speaker 1: has been my goal. Like problem sharing, you know, products
• 17:48
  Speaker 1: or things that I truly feel good about or like
• 17:51
  Speaker 1: passionate about. Like I don't do it just for the check.
• 17:53
  Speaker 1: I'm not willing to sell my life for a paycheck.
• 17:56
  Speaker 1: Like that's not who I am. So, I you know,
• 18:00
  Speaker 1: I don't know. I think I'm just like I'm trying
• 18:02
  Speaker 1: to figure myself out again. Yeah, I feel the sway
• 18:07
  Speaker 1: a self help journey. I'm reading all of the books.
• 18:11
  Speaker 1: I don't know, if you want to show you. Yes,
• 18:14
  Speaker 1: these for my girlfriend, for my girlfriends. I follow this
• 18:18
  Speaker 1: girl on Instagram. That's how we heal. Yeah, and she
• 18:22
  Speaker 1: is like a self help like account. But she you know, anyway,
• 18:27
  Speaker 1: I totally got like what do they call it? What
• 18:29
  Speaker 1: do the kids call it these days? TikTok TikTok. I
• 18:32
  Speaker 1: bought it. I got it. The kids call it, you
• 18:35
  Speaker 1: know what I mean. But it's it's a self help book,
• 18:37
  Speaker 1: and it's a self healing book. And she posts a
• 18:39
  Speaker 1: lot of uh inspirational things on Instagram. And so I
• 18:44
  Speaker 1: started her a long time ago and really love it
• 18:47
  Speaker 1: stuff that she put out. So I think that's where
• 18:49
  Speaker 1: I'm at. I'm in a bit of a self healing journey.
• 18:53
  Speaker 1: Do you know what, I think that's awesome. I really
• 18:56
  Speaker 1: like that. I love that you are willing to talk
• 19:10
  Speaker 1: about it openly and say, you know what, I want
• 19:15
  Speaker 1: to make sure my life is a quality I'm having
• 19:18
  Speaker 1: a quality life, you know, and why not go on
• 19:22
  Speaker 1: a self help journey. I've always felt like it was
• 19:26
  Speaker 1: so interesting that people don't talk about when they because
• 19:30
  Speaker 1: I'm I'm an open book, you know that, like if
• 19:32
  Speaker 1: I'm having a bad day. In general has just been
• 19:35
  Speaker 1: so telling for a long time. And also I think
• 19:38
  Speaker 1: that kind of transitioned right around the COVID time where
• 19:42
  Speaker 1: so many people struggling. People either thrived or they were
• 19:44
  Speaker 1: they were a mess. Do you know what I mean?
• 19:48
  Speaker 1: We thankfully thrived during COVID. I loved nothing good being
• 19:52
  Speaker 1: locked in my house with Stephen and our kids, like
• 19:55
  Speaker 1: it was years of my life. Like I loved it. It
• 19:57
  Speaker 1: It was the first time ever that we were home
• 20:00
  Speaker 1: at the same time. I got to have dinner every
• 20:01
  Speaker 1: single night with her. Do you know what I mean,
• 20:04
  Speaker 1: I loved not having to over commit myself and go
• 20:08
  Speaker 1: out there or do anything and just be able to
• 20:10
  Speaker 1: be with my kids every single night. I like that,
• 20:13
  Speaker 1: but I realized it was not that for a lot
• 20:15
  Speaker 1: of people. So mental health and mental health awareness and
• 20:19
  Speaker 1: suicide prevention, all of that has has been brought to
• 20:24
  Speaker 1: such a light in the last couple of years, where
• 20:28
  Speaker 1: it was so taboo to talk about before, Like, hey,
• 20:30
  Speaker 1: I'm mentally I'm struggling right now in face and I
• 20:34
  Speaker 1: so appreciate people who are not scared to say that
• 20:37
  Speaker 1: right now. And I'm like, I pretty pride myself on
• 20:40
  Speaker 1: the fact that I've always been an open book, Like
• 20:42
  Speaker 1: I don't really have a lot to hide. There are
• 20:45
  Speaker 1: obviously things that I keep close to my heart, and
• 20:47
  Speaker 1: when I'm ready, I will share things. That's just that's
• 20:51
  Speaker 1: how I process. But we all have pieces of trauma now,
• 20:57
  Speaker 1: whether it was like big pieces of trauma or little
• 21:00
  Speaker 1: pieces of trauma. Well, myself, I've been through a lot
• 21:03
  Speaker 1: of trauma. My mom died when I was really young,
• 21:05
  Speaker 1: and that is hard. That causes deep rooted abandonment issues.
• 21:09
  Speaker 1: Like I'm pretty self aware of the things that I carry,
• 21:13
  Speaker 1: and that a place where I want to like fine
• 21:16
  Speaker 1: tune those things and I want to I want to
• 21:20
  Speaker 1: work on those things like right now, to be the
• 21:23
  Speaker 1: best version of myself. I keep saying this authentically for
• 21:29
  Speaker 1: who I am, and I truly understand that I have
• 21:32
  Speaker 1: my things too, Like I can be really loud, and
• 21:35
  Speaker 1: I can die away from the conflict I do not.
• 21:39
  Speaker 1: I'm pretty smart and I can handle myself. And I
• 21:42
  Speaker 1: believe in the things that I'm passionate about the things
• 21:45
  Speaker 1: that I believe in. And you know, like I have
• 21:47
  Speaker 1: a daughter, now you know this, Trista, Like I want
• 21:50
  Speaker 1: a strong young woman who is not afraid to stand
• 21:54
  Speaker 1: up for what she believes in and knows her self
• 21:57
  Speaker 1: worth and is proud herself. That is incordant to me.
• 22:00
  Speaker 1: So for sure, self self awareness journey here I am.
• 22:04
  Speaker 1: I I love it. I honestly I think that we
• 22:07
  Speaker 1: all should be on a self awareness journey all the time.
• 22:10
  Speaker 1: Um yeah, I'm I'm an open book too. I have
• 22:13
  Speaker 1: shared many conversations with you about how I'm having a
• 22:17
  Speaker 1: bad time or a bad day or whatever is going on,
• 22:20
  Speaker 1: and and it it always is shocking to me when
• 22:23
  Speaker 1: other people don't, like you know what I mean. And
• 22:26
  Speaker 1: maybe not shocking. You don't have to do this alone. Right.
• 22:31
  Speaker 1: If you're having a bad day, it's okay. If you
• 22:33
  Speaker 1: feel fat, it's okay. Totally unworthy, it's okay those things.
• 22:37
  Speaker 1: But the whole, the whole point is that we are
• 22:39
  Speaker 1: not meant to do this alone, right, I mean, across
• 22:43
  Speaker 1: the board life in general, we are not meant to
• 22:45
  Speaker 1: do this alone. We are meant community. And you should
• 22:49
  Speaker 1: be able to lean on those people, your friends, your family,
• 22:53
  Speaker 1: your husband, whoever that is. You should not being on
• 22:56
  Speaker 1: those people and be your true authentic self. And that
• 22:58
  Speaker 1: means if you're having a bad day or your having
• 23:01
  Speaker 1: terrible thoughts about your own self, your body, your emotions
• 23:03
  Speaker 1: are turning fifty one or whatever that is, like you're
• 23:06
  Speaker 1: allowed to voice that and you should feel and you
• 23:09
  Speaker 1: should feel supported. Right, No, agreed, And then back to
• 23:13
  Speaker 1: the influencer stuff. Like I feel the same way. I
• 23:16
  Speaker 1: will scroll on Instagram, but I don't post as much
• 23:20
  Speaker 1: just because I feel like it is so consuming in
• 23:24
  Speaker 1: terms of time and energy and a lot of negativity,
• 23:28
  Speaker 1: and so I don't spend as much time as I
• 23:31
  Speaker 1: use to. I mean, I like you if there's if
• 23:34
  Speaker 1: there's authenticity when it comes to posting um, you know,
• 23:38
  Speaker 1: doing campaigns with companies and helping them get the word
• 23:42
  Speaker 1: out about their companies. I'm all for it, but it
• 23:46
  Speaker 1: can't just be a paycheck for me. Like I remember Blakesley, Um,
• 23:50
  Speaker 1: maybe she didn't say it, but it was kind of
• 23:53
  Speaker 1: uh insinuated that she'd want to be an influencer, and
• 23:56
  Speaker 1: I was like, no, no, no no if that hit
• 24:00
  Speaker 1: me too when I caught Addison recording videos of herself
• 24:03
  Speaker 1: on the iPad, going hey guys, nope, nope, no, no,
• 24:09
  Speaker 1: this will not be a goal like if you. I
• 24:12
  Speaker 1: feel like both of us landed in it. You know,
• 24:16
  Speaker 1: it wasn't around when we were on the Bachelorette, and
• 24:20
  Speaker 1: so it wasn't like we're um like Caitlin or Hannah
• 24:25
  Speaker 1: or it's like two million people from that yes, yes, isn't.
• 24:30
  Speaker 1: I think Twitter launched the day that my season of
• 24:35
  Speaker 1: the Bachelorette was done. Er really, I mean, like I
• 24:38
  Speaker 1: didn't have to leave that era. And I always think,
• 24:41
  Speaker 1: I'm sure you can sympathize with this with some of
• 24:43
  Speaker 1: the newer women who go on the show. Yeah, we didn't.
• 24:47
  Speaker 1: I wasn't followed by paparazzi. I didn't feel this innate
• 24:50
  Speaker 1: pressure to physically be a certain size or a certain
• 24:55
  Speaker 1: shift or a certain hair color. Like I didn't feel
• 24:57
  Speaker 1: that because there were there paparazzi hiding in Noon and Georgia.
• 25:02
  Speaker 1: Like I went back to my home. My pass were
• 25:04
  Speaker 1: never to go on a show and become a famous person.
• 25:06
  Speaker 1: That was not totally stupid as it sounds. And I
• 25:09
  Speaker 1: say this over and over again every time I talked
• 25:10
  Speaker 1: to somebody or in every interview. I went on the
• 25:13
  Speaker 1: show for the right reasons, right, genuinely fine love. I
• 25:17
  Speaker 1: gotta say, stupid as it sounds, it's not stupid. Well,
• 25:21
  Speaker 1: some people look at that like it's stupid because the
• 25:23
  Speaker 1: girls are making lots of money now, like lots of things.
• 25:25
  Speaker 1: And I didn't ask for any of those things because
• 25:28
  Speaker 1: it wasn't a thing back then. It wasn't a thing.
• 25:42
  Speaker 1: I will say though. We did have paparazzi following us,
• 25:46
  Speaker 1: and I had people knocking on our door. People found
• 25:49
  Speaker 1: our house, and I remember a mother and a daughter
• 25:54
  Speaker 1: they showed up at my door with a magazine like
• 25:57
  Speaker 1: wanted to get Yeah. It was like, wait, how did
• 26:00
  Speaker 1: you know? I was like, how did you find my address?
• 26:03
  Speaker 1: Um immediately called the phone company take my number off,
• 26:06
  Speaker 1: Like not that we've we had already done that, but
• 26:09
  Speaker 1: it's just it's just and especially now with children too,
• 26:12
  Speaker 1: it is a source of protection. I tried to be
• 26:16
  Speaker 1: live a very normal life and you know you feel
• 26:19
  Speaker 1: the same, trusta It's always it's always very flattering when
• 26:25
  Speaker 1: someone still recognizes you from this, It is flattering. I
• 26:28
  Speaker 1: am always very happy when people see me in the
• 26:31
  Speaker 1: grocery store, yes, no makeup, looking like a hot mess,
• 26:34
  Speaker 1: and are not afraid to come up and say hello.
• 26:35
  Speaker 1: I totally that say, oh my gosh, I enjoyed watching
• 26:40
  Speaker 1: your season. I like following you on social media. It's
• 26:43
  Speaker 1: so nice to meet you, Like I will absolutely hug you,
• 26:45
  Speaker 1: say it's nice to meet you too. Um, totally. It
• 26:49
  Speaker 1: kind of throws me through a loop when I'm seeing
• 26:54
  Speaker 1: like at school or something at school pick up and
• 26:57
  Speaker 1: to my kids, yeah no, I Dia. Addison's just now
• 27:01
  Speaker 1: at the age where she's like, somebody told me you
• 27:02
  Speaker 1: were on TV, you know, Like, but they don't they
• 27:04
  Speaker 1: don't know you haven't told him, well they know that.
• 27:08
  Speaker 1: I mean, Austin could care less, Like he's literally playing
• 27:11
  Speaker 1: the same as Max right now. Yeah, he does not care.
• 27:14
  Speaker 1: They recognized certain things like when we've had film crews
• 27:17
  Speaker 1: at the house to film it's watch it. The only
• 27:20
  Speaker 1: thing that happened was when Netflix released it was The
• 27:24
  Speaker 1: Bachelor and Bachelor, but they re leased a couple of
• 27:26
  Speaker 1: seasons and someone told me about it, and it was
• 27:28
  Speaker 1: like there was a like a screen cap above the
• 27:31
  Speaker 1: season of me kissing Jason Mesnick and Addison. Who's that man?
• 27:36
  Speaker 1: And why are you kissing him? Not my daddy? And
• 27:38
  Speaker 1: I was like, this is how do I explained that? Oh?
• 27:41
  Speaker 1: My gosh right, you know, so I just I do
• 27:43
  Speaker 1: if she asked, and I don't. Like. Like, she got
• 27:47
  Speaker 1: in the car a couple of weeks ago from school
• 27:49
  Speaker 1: and she goes, Mommy, why don't you tell me you
• 27:51
  Speaker 1: were famous? And I was like started laughing. First off,
• 27:54
  Speaker 1: Christmas because you know me and you know me. I
• 27:56
  Speaker 1: was like, first off, I am not famous, I'm not us.
• 28:01
  Speaker 1: Second off, why are you asking that? She goes, oh,
• 28:04
  Speaker 1: well someone told me at school and I was like, well,
• 28:06
  Speaker 1: who that's that's strange, And she was like, I don't know.
• 28:10
  Speaker 1: Somebody told me at school that their mommy saw you
• 28:13
  Speaker 1: saw her at school and their mommy told me that
• 28:15
  Speaker 1: she was on TV and you guys are famous, and
• 28:17
  Speaker 1: I was like, oh my god, oh my god. Like,
• 28:21
  Speaker 1: so there's a couple of I may feel a little
• 28:24
  Speaker 1: guarded then, you know, because there is a piece of
• 28:29
  Speaker 1: and I'm sure you can relate to this, there's a
• 28:30
  Speaker 1: piece of going on the show where people think they
• 28:33
  Speaker 1: know who you are, really know who you are? Do
• 28:36
  Speaker 1: you know what they of me? Television show that millions
• 28:41
  Speaker 1: of people watched, but it doesn't mean that they truly
• 28:44
  Speaker 1: know me. So I've actually found, like in my adult life,
• 28:48
  Speaker 1: that I tend to be pretty guarded. If someone comes
• 28:51
  Speaker 1: out of the gate and says, oh my gosh, I
• 28:53
  Speaker 1: saw you on the Bachelor and I totally watched your season,
• 28:55
  Speaker 1: I immediately become guarded. I feel like a I can't
• 28:59
  Speaker 1: be vulnerable, yeah right, I can't be who I truly
• 29:03
  Speaker 1: am because these people have this preconceived notion of who
• 29:05
  Speaker 1: they think I am. Yeah right. And there's social media,
• 29:09
  Speaker 1: so if they take a picture or if they take
• 29:11
  Speaker 1: a video and you have resting bitch base and you're
• 29:14
  Speaker 1: not smiling, you're a raging bitch and exactly like to
• 29:20
  Speaker 1: each their own again, take me happy, Like I'm just
• 29:23
  Speaker 1: trying to please me. So so that's that. And then
• 29:26
  Speaker 1: this is a quick funny story. Well I started on
• 29:29
  Speaker 1: this tangent because you had texted me and asked if
• 29:31
  Speaker 1: I was watching Bachelor in Paradise, and like, this is
• 29:34
  Speaker 1: why I'm not because I have no free time. I
• 29:36
  Speaker 1: would like to watch Paradise. I do really enjoy it.
• 29:39
  Speaker 1: I have not been able to watch this season at
• 29:41
  Speaker 1: all because I just don't have a lot of free time.
• 29:43
  Speaker 1: And I go to bed at the clock when I
• 29:44
  Speaker 1: put my kids to bed. So there's but good for you. Yeah,
• 29:48
  Speaker 1: I like a solid twelve hours night. Yes, amazing. There
• 29:53
  Speaker 1: was a situation that happened a couple of weeks ago
• 29:55
  Speaker 1: where we have a cleaning lady. She comes every two
• 29:57
  Speaker 1: weeks and it's been one thing that Stephen and I
• 29:59
  Speaker 1: don't ever fight about is keeping house clean. So I
• 30:02
  Speaker 1: will will pay for it. Like I work full time too,
• 30:07
  Speaker 1: I don't have time right to clean the house. It
• 30:09
  Speaker 1: is money well spent to me. She's been with us
• 30:13
  Speaker 1: and cleaning her home for several years, like five years
• 30:15
  Speaker 1: or something like that. And I didn't know that you
• 30:18
  Speaker 1: could change your venmo to be private so that people
• 30:21
  Speaker 1: can't see you know, your pay history or whatever. Oh yes, right,
• 30:26
  Speaker 1: so I didn't know that it's changed now, but so
• 30:29
  Speaker 1: I sent her a venmo to pay her one time
• 30:31
  Speaker 1: for cleaning my home. And then like two weeks later
• 30:34
  Speaker 1: she was over and she was they were kind of laughing,
• 30:36
  Speaker 1: her and another girl, and I was like, what are
• 30:37
  Speaker 1: you laughing at? And they were like, well, we found
• 30:39
  Speaker 1: out you were on TV. And I was like, that's
• 30:41
  Speaker 1: so weird. How and she goes, well, another woman's house
• 30:43
  Speaker 1: that I clean. I saw your house and I was like,
• 30:47
  Speaker 1: oh god, how would she know that? And she was
• 30:49
  Speaker 1: like I don't know, but she asked me if I
• 30:51
  Speaker 1: cleaned your house, and then she was asking me things
• 30:53
  Speaker 1: like do you have a nice house? Are you? And
• 30:55
  Speaker 1: oh my god, it was like yikes, wrong, wrong, wrong.
• 31:00
  Speaker 1: I was like, well right, and she was like no.
• 31:01
  Speaker 1: I just told her that your guys are great and
• 31:03
  Speaker 1: your kids are great, like you're really nice people. But
• 31:05
  Speaker 1: like this woman said, will you give her my number
• 31:07
  Speaker 1: so that we can hang out? And he likes like really,
• 31:11
  Speaker 1: oh my, that is bold, like kind of over the
• 31:15
  Speaker 1: not not even kind of over the line. Bold. Yeah.
• 31:19
  Speaker 1: I literally was like, no, please, don't give out my
• 31:21
  Speaker 1: phone number? Oh yeah, or you will be fired. Yeah. Anyway,
• 31:26
  Speaker 1: she was really nice about it. You know, this woman
• 31:29
  Speaker 1: is really nice to you know. Blah blah blah. She
• 31:30
  Speaker 1: just of the show that you were on, and I
• 31:33
  Speaker 1: was like, yeah, I totally totally get that. I understand that.
• 31:36
  Speaker 1: I get that. Yeah, yeah, there's just you know, then
• 31:38
  Speaker 1: I go into that place where I'm immediately guarded, you know, yes, yes, Okay,
• 31:43
  Speaker 1: well now I can't be me. I can't be who
• 31:45
  Speaker 1: I truly ain't right, So were you thinking of um
• 31:49
  Speaker 1: hiring someone else? Isn't that like, because I can imagine that. Okay, good,
• 31:54
  Speaker 1: and she does such a great job and I trust her. Yeah,
• 31:58
  Speaker 1: please don't tell people where it so one like on venmo.
• 32:02
  Speaker 1: That's how she found out that that she cleaned our
• 32:05
  Speaker 1: crazy It was public on NMO that I had. Yes, yes,
• 32:09
  Speaker 1: I guess she went to venmo her and then she
• 32:11
  Speaker 1: saw on the paid history that like I have recently
• 32:13
  Speaker 1: been mode her. It's weird, you know her. Okay, I
• 32:17
  Speaker 1: am doing that, like immediately after I get off the
• 32:19
  Speaker 1: phone and I'm making it private. It was like, oh
• 32:21
  Speaker 1: my god, let's change your venmodor private right now so
• 32:23
  Speaker 1: people can't see those things. Yeah. Yeah, there's no reason
• 32:26
  Speaker 1: that anyone needs to know that I'm paying my daughter's
• 32:29
  Speaker 1: friend's mom for snacks. Like, um, okay, I know you're
• 32:35
  Speaker 1: not doing the the podcast anymore, but or you're kind
• 32:40
  Speaker 1: of on a little break, but I'd love to hear.
• 32:43
  Speaker 1: I know, you guys basically just shared everything like there
• 32:46
  Speaker 1: was lots of laughter. Is there one story that stands
• 32:49
  Speaker 1: out that you can share with us from from the podcast?
• 32:53
  Speaker 1: It's called Flashbacks People. By the way, if you want
• 32:55
  Speaker 1: to go back and listen a lot of fun, I would,
• 32:57
  Speaker 1: I will tell you that, Like I like that it
• 32:59
  Speaker 1: is a really lighthearted show. We the whole address. I
• 33:03
  Speaker 1: am definitely more of a serious person than Jessica. Like
• 33:06
  Speaker 1: she's um, she's just a lot of fun. Like she
• 33:10
  Speaker 1: likes to hear like old fun stories. She wants to
• 33:12
  Speaker 1: hear your drunken stories. She wants to hear when you
• 33:14
  Speaker 1: fell down at a club, like she wants to hear
• 33:15
  Speaker 1: those things. Yes, I do like to have fun and
• 33:19
  Speaker 1: I am a funny person, but I just am more
• 33:22
  Speaker 1: I just like genuinely want to be who I am.
• 33:25
  Speaker 1: So if I go in and I'm in that mood
• 33:27
  Speaker 1: or whatever, then I feel like that's okay to talk about.
• 33:29
  Speaker 1: And I also think that people appreciate about me that
• 33:33
  Speaker 1: I yeah, I'm not fake in any way, shape or form.
• 33:36
  Speaker 1: So totally I'm trying to think because we've had a
• 33:39
  Speaker 1: lot of really fun guests on and we've heard a
• 33:42
  Speaker 1: lot of really fun stories that there was early on
• 33:45
  Speaker 1: there was this woman named jesse I think her name was,
• 33:49
  Speaker 1: and Jessica knew her from the Playboy Mansion. They had
• 33:51
  Speaker 1: I think posed years ago or something like that. That's
• 33:54
  Speaker 1: how I need chased each other. But we got to
• 33:56
  Speaker 1: laughing because she told us a story about how, for
• 33:59
  Speaker 1: some reason, everybody always had a Leonardo DiCaprio story. So
• 34:02
  Speaker 1: like this girl in particular, she waits until the very
• 34:04
  Speaker 1: end of the podcast, and the podcast was a bit
• 34:07
  Speaker 1: serious at the time, and we talked about her health.
• 34:09
  Speaker 1: She had just some health stuff going on, and then Marian,
• 34:11
  Speaker 1: We're like, okay, well tell us like your favorite flashback.
• 34:14
  Speaker 1: We do that like towards the end, like do you
• 34:15
  Speaker 1: have a back? So hers we said, do you have
• 34:17
  Speaker 1: a favorite Hollywood flashback of like your time in l
• 34:20
  Speaker 1: A And she was like, oh, yeah, I went to
• 34:22
  Speaker 1: this club one time and then I slept with you know,
• 34:24
  Speaker 1: DiCaprio and I'm pretty sure he might be my son's father.
• 34:26
  Speaker 1: And we were like, I'm sorry, you just went this
• 34:31
  Speaker 1: whole hour on this podcast without telling us that you
• 34:34
  Speaker 1: slept with Leonardo DiCaprio, which you think his crime. You
• 34:39
  Speaker 1: know what I mean. It was about twenty years ago,
• 34:42
  Speaker 1: and now I have a son who looks oddly a
• 34:45
  Speaker 1: lot like Leonardo DiCaprio. Did you ever follow up with
• 34:48
  Speaker 1: her or did Jessica ever talk to her afterwards and
• 34:50
  Speaker 1: see if she did a fraternity No? No, I think
• 34:54
  Speaker 1: she was like quasi joking, but she's one of those
• 34:55
  Speaker 1: people like you can't tell if she's joking or not.
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  Speaker 1: She was like she's like six foot and she's like
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  Speaker 1: blond and beautiful and does yoga yes body. But I
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  Speaker 1: start following her on social media and she'll post pictures
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  Speaker 1: of her son and I'm literally like, oh my god,
• 35:09
  Speaker 1: he he could be Leonardo to cap your son like
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  Speaker 1: he's and he's about that age where like this could
• 35:14
  Speaker 1: have happened around the same time. So anyway, we got
• 35:17
  Speaker 1: to laughing so hard because it seemed like every time
• 35:19
  Speaker 1: we had a guest on, someone had a story of
• 35:22
  Speaker 1: Leonardo DiCaprio. Had a story of Leo and so like
• 35:26
  Speaker 1: we could just got to the point where we started laughing.
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  Speaker 1: We were like Leo, we would just like die it.
• 35:32
  Speaker 1: Do you have a good slashback Trista from Hollow when
• 35:35
  Speaker 1: you must have someone? I was literally just going to
• 35:37
  Speaker 1: ask you the same question. I'm like, well, wait, okay,
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  Speaker 1: tell me this woman was talking about Leo. I want
• 35:43
  Speaker 1: to know if you've ever run in like you live
• 35:45
  Speaker 1: in l A. So I want to know if you
• 35:47
  Speaker 1: ever run into any famous people or if you ever
• 35:50
  Speaker 1: run into bachelor people. I don't run into bachelor people
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  Speaker 1: a lot. You don't live I don't live like in Hollywood.
• 35:57
  Speaker 1: I know, I know, but still, or even when you're traveling,
• 36:01
  Speaker 1: like I knew you were just in New York, Like
• 36:03
  Speaker 1: did you see anyone there? You know what I mean?
• 36:05
  Speaker 1: You did the first night there, my pilots and I
• 36:08
  Speaker 1: were going to dinner. We went to this really yoummy
• 36:10
  Speaker 1: Italian restaurant. Next time you're in the city, I'll have
• 36:12
  Speaker 1: to let you know Hotel met All. I had lamb
• 36:14
  Speaker 1: bolonaise that I like to eat, and I was literally
• 36:16
  Speaker 1: like it was the best thing I've ever had. And
• 36:21
  Speaker 1: I was like, this is life changing. This is like
• 36:24
  Speaker 1: we were walking and it was really cold and sure enough,
• 36:29
  Speaker 1: and you know, it was funny because people will say
• 36:31
  Speaker 1: this to me too, like, oh, I didn't see you
• 36:33
  Speaker 1: at first, but I could recognize your voice. I knew,
• 36:35
  Speaker 1: I knew your voice. Yes, you were walking down um
• 36:39
  Speaker 1: and we were in the Financial District and we were
• 36:40
  Speaker 1: walking down to the restaurant. And then sure enough I
• 36:42
  Speaker 1: heard her say thanks guys, and I turned and looked
• 36:45
  Speaker 1: and it was Ellen pump Pumpei Pompey Pompeio from Gray Yes,
• 36:52
  Speaker 1: just announced that she was leaving great as soon as
• 36:55
  Speaker 1: I saw I turned and looked, and I was like,
• 36:56
  Speaker 1: and she was like just getting out of her car
• 36:57
  Speaker 1: and walking into a hotel. She was like, thanks, guys,
• 36:59
  Speaker 1: like totally normal, total no one around, no one, Yes, right,
• 37:03
  Speaker 1: I love christ. I didn't say anything. You didn't say anything,
• 37:07
  Speaker 1: You didn't say no, no, no, Yeah, but I saw her.
• 37:12
  Speaker 1: Sometimes when I fly, you know, it's because well, we're
• 37:16
  Speaker 1: not allowed to say anything, so I'm not. But I
• 37:18
  Speaker 1: flowned some really big celebrities and I don't get star
• 37:21
  Speaker 1: struck a lot. I don't know if it's just because
• 37:24
  Speaker 1: the industry that we're in and you know l A
• 37:26
  Speaker 1: all the time, you know what I mean. Yeah, So
• 37:29
  Speaker 1: I'm not one of those people to get star struck.
• 37:31
  Speaker 1: But I saw jay Z one time. Uh huh. It
• 37:35
  Speaker 1: was like that would be big smokes, It's jay Z, right,
• 37:39
  Speaker 1: And then in my head in time as he standing there,
• 37:41
  Speaker 1: I kept going, I was like singing his song in
• 37:46
  Speaker 1: my head and I couldn't. I couldn't, like I could
• 37:49
  Speaker 1: not even like carry on a conversation. Was like, oh
• 37:51
  Speaker 1: my gosh, okay, you just reminded me of a really
• 37:54
  Speaker 1: fun flashback that I do have. Okay, So I was
• 37:56
  Speaker 1: dancing for the Miami Heat and um, huge basketball fan,
• 38:01
  Speaker 1: huge Michael Jordan fan, like huge Michael Jordan fan, and
• 38:06
  Speaker 1: I was sitting. So at that point in time, we
• 38:08
  Speaker 1: sat on the court. Now they don't sit on the
• 38:11
  Speaker 1: court anymore, probably because we got stepped on so many times,
• 38:13
  Speaker 1: but yes, exactly, UM with really big feet. So we
• 38:21
  Speaker 1: were on the court and we were you know what
• 38:25
  Speaker 1: they say, they have big so sitting across from the
• 38:37
  Speaker 1: opposing team, not the Heat, but the opposing team, and
• 38:40
  Speaker 1: they happened to be the I think the Washington Wizards
• 38:43
  Speaker 1: is who he was playing for at the time. It
• 38:44
  Speaker 1: was Michael Jordan's. So Michael Jordan was sitting right across
• 38:48
  Speaker 1: from me, like right across from me, and I realized
• 38:51
  Speaker 1: that I was staring at him. Well, he turns and
• 38:54
  Speaker 1: we lock eyes right and you just reminded me that
• 38:59
  Speaker 1: when you started singing New York with jay Z like around,
• 39:04
  Speaker 1: this is similar to what I did. So we lock
• 39:07
  Speaker 1: eyes and we are staring at each other. And it
• 39:09
  Speaker 1: probably wasn't for that long, but you know, when you're
• 39:11
  Speaker 1: in an in an eye lock, it seems like forever,
• 39:15
  Speaker 1: like it seems like I couldn't look away. I was like, um,
• 39:22
  Speaker 1: Michael Jordan's is staring at me, like I literally can't
• 39:25
  Speaker 1: look away. And after we were staring at each other
• 39:28
  Speaker 1: for I would say a good like maybe like ten seconds,
• 39:32
  Speaker 1: which is a long time, A long time to right
• 39:34
  Speaker 1: one another. I and maybe it was less because I
• 39:38
  Speaker 1: felt like it was longer, but I said I worded
• 39:42
  Speaker 1: or I mouthed the words Michael Jordan's like, well, it's
• 39:52
  Speaker 1: like you say, singing New York, New York like with
• 39:55
  Speaker 1: jay Z, Like okay, yeah, that's my song. So you know,
• 39:59
  Speaker 1: like I'm STI ring at Michael Jordan's and I don't
• 40:02
  Speaker 1: say call me or meet me after, I love you,
• 40:12
  Speaker 1: or I say his freaking name, and he was scaring
• 40:15
  Speaker 1: locked eyes, and you go, Michael Jordan, stupid. It's so stupid.
• 40:21
  Speaker 1: I mean, your life could have changed. I was literally
• 40:25
  Speaker 1: just gonna say that. Oh my gosh, it was so right,
• 40:28
  Speaker 1: Like had I met like if I said meet me after,
• 40:35
  Speaker 1: maybe you would have met me after, and maybe we
• 40:38
  Speaker 1: would have gotten into this love affair. Probably not, but um,
• 40:42
  Speaker 1: but you know, it totally could have changed the trajectory
• 40:45
  Speaker 1: of my life. But that's my fun flashback five too.
• 40:51
  Speaker 1: And now we're tally it would be what's that movie
• 40:53
  Speaker 1: with Danny and the other guys really tall, like giants
• 40:58
  Speaker 1: or something or brothers? What was it? Something like that.
• 41:01
  Speaker 1: Oh my gosh, it's so funny. I'm going on. Michael
• 41:05
  Speaker 1: Keaton one time you did pretty early on, like right
• 41:10
  Speaker 1: after the Bachelorette. He was like, let me take you out,
• 41:13
  Speaker 1: and I was like, I'm engaged, like Steve, You're like hello,
• 41:16
  Speaker 1: yeah yeah, and he literally was like you could wear
• 41:20
  Speaker 1: it or not, but let me take Oh Michael Keaton
• 41:25
  Speaker 1: right now, but flatter Thank you sir, Yeah, thank you
• 41:27
  Speaker 1: so much, Thank you so much. All right. Well, I
• 41:31
  Speaker 1: love talking to you. We could just we could talk
• 41:33
  Speaker 1: all day. Um, I miss you, and happy birthday, and
• 41:39
  Speaker 1: give the kids a big hug for me. I am
• 41:42
  Speaker 1: so thankful that you joined us and Bob oh. I
• 41:44
  Speaker 1: do have to say Bob was very sad harassing me
• 41:48
  Speaker 1: and he's not even here today. I know he's traveling,
• 41:51
  Speaker 1: and he wrote, um, like he texted our group text
• 41:55
  Speaker 1: with the producers and stuff that he was going to
• 41:57
  Speaker 1: be in a car probably getting out at the time
• 42:00
  Speaker 1: that we were doing it, and he just didn't want
• 42:02
  Speaker 1: to interrupt the interview. So um, he sends his love
• 42:05
  Speaker 1: and he wishes he was here. I wish he was
• 42:09
  Speaker 1: here too, But we had lots of fun chatting. So um,
• 42:12
  Speaker 1: we miss you Bob. Next time. UM, I'm Mr Guinea.
• 42:15
  Speaker 1: That's right, Thank you, sister. I hope you have a
• 42:18
  Speaker 1: great time on your trip. Thank you. I wish you
• 42:21
  Speaker 1: be wonderful. You're doing great. Fifty no, fifty, sorry that
• 42:26
  Speaker 1: it's all good. Yes, yes, it's all good. This is
• 42:29
  Speaker 1: what happens is great. Forty one is great. Forty one
• 42:35
  Speaker 1: is great. That's forty one is great. Um you two
• 42:38
  Speaker 1: right back at you. I love you. Thank you. Okay
• 42:41
  Speaker 1: bye