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BONUS: He Watched My Story... So That Means Nothing · Untraditionally Lala

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  Speaker 1: Hello, my love, Welcome back to the bonus episode of
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  Speaker 1: Give Them All a Podcast. I am here with comedian.
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  Speaker 1: And also, you produce, produce your.
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  Speaker 2: Podcast, produce you uce content.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, produce content. You produce your podcast. And are you
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  Speaker 1: you said you.
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  Speaker 2: Had Jerry Bruckheimer, I'm talking.
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  Speaker 1: You said you had a like Netflix special content.
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  Speaker 2: I made the special. I got a book coming out.
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  Speaker 1: See like you're you wear money hats, I wear them all.
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  Speaker 1: So when you do, because you have the thirty seven
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  Speaker 1: and still single. But you said you just filmed something
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  Speaker 1: with your parents.
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  Speaker 2: I filmed a new special, stand up special called The
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  Speaker 2: Family Plan.
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  Speaker 1: And that's what you are hoping goes to a streamer. Yeah,
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  Speaker 1: so you very much produce, like you have a hand
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  Speaker 1: in making the content that's going to streamer.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah. When you're a stand up comedian, you got to
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  Speaker 2: be the writer, the performer, the the clown. You know,
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  Speaker 2: you got to do it all.
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  Speaker 1: That feels like I was talking to my brother the
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  Speaker 1: other day. The writing aspect sounds like so much work.
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  Speaker 1: The way a comedian can talk about something, go on
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  Speaker 1: a tangent and be able to wrap it back to
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  Speaker 1: the beginning is a skill that I don't think I
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  Speaker 1: could ever conquer.
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  Speaker 2: Well. It took me years to like get better at
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  Speaker 2: stand up. I'm still you know, stand up is you
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  Speaker 2: have to love it, yeah, to do it. You can't
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  Speaker 2: do it because if you don't love it, you don't
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  Speaker 2: want to work at it. And it's a lot of
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  Speaker 2: hard work, right, and it's also done very slowly. It's
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  Speaker 2: like chipping away at a you know, at a statue.
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  Speaker 2: You're trying to like get a joke, you know, and
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  Speaker 2: you only get one chance to do it because you
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  Speaker 2: need the audience to hear how they react, and you
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  Speaker 2: got to say it the right way, and you got
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  Speaker 2: to believe even if it doesn't work well. I said
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  Speaker 2: it that way last night and the work last night.
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  Speaker 2: So it's a slow process, you know. Bill Burr I
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  Speaker 2: heard him say, He's like, if you get a new
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  Speaker 2: minute a week, by the end of the year, you'll
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  Speaker 2: have fifty two minutes, which is as special And I
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  Speaker 2: kind of think that's a perfect way to think about it,
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  Speaker 2: because new minute a week would be really writing. Okay,
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  Speaker 2: so I think it takes two years to have a
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  Speaker 2: special be pretty good.
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  Speaker 1: Who is your favorite comedian?
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  Speaker 2: I love Kevin James, The King of Queens, and he
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  Speaker 2: has a standing. He had a stand up special that
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  Speaker 2: I like love called Sweat the Small Stuff. It's on YouTube,
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  Speaker 2: it was on Comedy Central that it's so good it
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  Speaker 2: still works. It's like a late nineties like he's doing
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  Speaker 2: bits that like some of them aged out because you know,
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  Speaker 2: technology and life, but a lot of them really are
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  Speaker 2: like classic bits. He's just he's not known as much
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  Speaker 2: as a stand up as he is like Paul Blart
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  Speaker 2: or like yeah, King of Queens, but like he is
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  Speaker 2: a stand up, So that's like a special. And then
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  Speaker 2: like current like David Tel's like the Comedians comedian, like
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  Speaker 2: everyone loves Dave, like Dave's like amazing. There's people I
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  Speaker 2: love just that I'm friends with that are like great,
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  Speaker 2: you know, Michelle Wolf and Michael Chay, Nimesh Patel, these
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  Speaker 2: are all like close friends of mine that are all
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  Speaker 2: like so good, you know.
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  Speaker 1: I like Andrew Santino that I've just recently, well I
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  Speaker 1: shouldn't say recently in the past year. I watched Cheeseburger
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  Speaker 1: on Netflix.
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  Speaker 2: Yup, I saw he's very funny. I've been on his
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  Speaker 2: podcast A Great Guy.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, wait, the Bad Friends podcast. Now, I went on
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  Speaker 1: his solo one.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah.
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  Speaker 1: I love this.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, he's a great guys, very funny.
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  Speaker 1: For the bonus, I want to ask you some rapid
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  Speaker 1: fire questions.
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  Speaker 2: Let's do it and advice.
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  Speaker 1: I don't know how rapid you are, but I just
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  Speaker 1: a player.
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  Speaker 2: What do you do when preseason ends? And should you
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  Speaker 2: go to the games? I didn't. I don't know. I'm
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  Speaker 2: still guessing. You know.
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  Speaker 1: No, he says he's not ready to date but still
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  Speaker 1: text me every night? What does that mean?
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  Speaker 2: That means he's attracted? It's a mess. Let's just start.
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  Speaker 2: It's a mess because the words matter here. He's not
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  Speaker 2: ready to date, but he texts me every night? Okay,
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  Speaker 2: so what does date mean? Like? Have you gone out
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  Speaker 2: and hooked up and he doesn't want to be your
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  Speaker 2: boyfriend and you'd like a boyfriend.
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  Speaker 1: Or.
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  Speaker 2: You want to go on a date and he won't
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  Speaker 2: even go on a date?
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, because if he's only texting you at night, that
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  Speaker 1: sounds like he's trying to get all up in it.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, but that's like not even This person's problem is
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  Speaker 2: they're not really zoning on what they want. Take it
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  Speaker 2: back a step. I would like a date is way
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  Speaker 2: simpler and more defined. Then I'm not ready to date.
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  Speaker 2: I don't even know what the fuck that means. Like,
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  Speaker 2: I've never even said that sentence to a woman. So
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  Speaker 2: if I've said it, then he's just trying to keep
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  Speaker 2: the ball in the air. When someone keeps texting you
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  Speaker 2: and says I don't want to date and that's a
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  Speaker 2: vague thing. I'm not ready to date, but I keep
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  Speaker 2: texting you, they're just trying. Men love vague options. We
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  Speaker 2: were told from a young age approach approach, approach, pursue
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  Speaker 2: or supersue. That involved a lot of losing, like a
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  Speaker 2: lot of being turned down. Yeah, so when your whole
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  Speaker 2: life you're told pursue approach, they like it. They want
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  Speaker 2: you to go up and ask them on a date.
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  Speaker 2: When you have someone who's agreed to like that, they
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  Speaker 2: think you're hot and they want to text you back,
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  Speaker 2: you kind of hold on to it because you're afraid
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  Speaker 2: that you'll go without and you'll never have like another
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  Speaker 2: woman who will say yes to It's like a survival thing,
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  Speaker 2: all right. I'm not trying to apologize for it. I'm
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  Speaker 2: just giving a reason to it. So, like, why does
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  Speaker 2: he keep texting is because we'd like to put leftovers
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  Speaker 2: in the fridge. We don't want to like and I
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  Speaker 2: know that grosses you out, but I'm saying, like, you
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  Speaker 2: don't want to go without you don't want to be hungry.
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  Speaker 2: So I got to make sure there's someone who I got,
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  Speaker 2: someone who I'm texting, because at some point maybe I'll
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  Speaker 2: be like in the mood for all right.
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  Speaker 1: So you would tell this woman to just stop even in.
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  Speaker 2: GEI I wouldn't say that, because that's not how I
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  Speaker 2: give advice. I would say to them, what do you
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  Speaker 2: want and make it specific, say it out loud.
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  Speaker 1: So let's say I would like to go on dates,
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  Speaker 1: but not be exclusive.
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  Speaker 2: Make it smaller. What do you want next week?
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  Speaker 1: I want to go out with you.
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  Speaker 2: I want to go on a date.
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  Speaker 1: I want to go on a date. Well guess what,
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  Speaker 1: So I was already said he's not ready to date.
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  Speaker 2: Well that's but this is my point. You can't tell
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  Speaker 2: people what to do. They got to find it out
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  Speaker 2: on their own.
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  Speaker 1: Okay.
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  Speaker 2: So to this person who's texting and tech texting with
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  Speaker 2: someone who says they don't want to be dating because
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  Speaker 2: they don't they're whatever the fuck is wrong with them,
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  Speaker 2: I would say them they should write to them. Hey,
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  Speaker 2: I just want to go. I'm looking to go out
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  Speaker 2: and get drinks next week. Make a plan. I'm in.
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  Speaker 2: But if you can't, that's what I'm looking for in
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  Speaker 2: a partner right now. And if you can't do that,
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  Speaker 2: we have to stop text.
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  Speaker 1: And then he will probably won't want us for the
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  Speaker 1: first time and just say I don't I'm well, he won't.
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  Speaker 2: Say anything, he'll probably disappear, he'll probably make an excuse. No,
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  Speaker 2: he won't be honest. Oh he'll he'll he'll text you
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  Speaker 2: in three weeks. But I'm trying to get the person
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  Speaker 2: who's texting with the guy who keeps texting, they need
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  Speaker 2: help to right. You know, this question doesn't come from
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  Speaker 2: a place of power. This question comes from a place
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  Speaker 2: of weakness and not acknowledging that they are doing something.
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  Speaker 2: They're like, they're you know, they're insane. They keep texting
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  Speaker 2: with someone that they're getting mad at if they if
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  Speaker 2: they were able, they would just stop. They wouldn't write
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  Speaker 2: at us.
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  Speaker 1: Well, that's why I'm excited for the next question.
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  Speaker 2: That's my point. You know what I mean? Do you
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  Speaker 2: get what I mean? Like, yes, I know what you mean,
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  Speaker 2: Like I just like I don't like when someone gives
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  Speaker 2: rules like, it's.
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  Speaker 1: Just like, I think it's much easier to give the
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  Speaker 1: advice that you're giving because I've given this advice to
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  Speaker 1: my friends, and in the moment I'm put in that
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  Speaker 1: same situation, I suddenly have zero rules. I don't know
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  Speaker 1: how to go about anything right.
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  Speaker 2: Any advice is easier to give them take no question.
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  Speaker 2: But I'm saying for this person, if I say to them, hey,
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  Speaker 2: what do you want and they can't answer that question,
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  Speaker 2: it's more there. It's it's now their fault, like they
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  Speaker 2: gotta they have to like be a participant in this.
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  Speaker 1: Of course. Yeah, he watches every story but hasn't texted
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  Speaker 1: in two weeks. Does that mean anything?
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  Speaker 2: Yes?
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  Speaker 1: Really, what does it mean?
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  Speaker 2: Watching someone's story means you're attracted to them? That's it. Okay,
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  Speaker 2: So that's the problem with the stories thing. People are like,
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  Speaker 2: it doesn't matter. It does, but it doesn't. Watch your
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  Speaker 2: stories mean something. But it doesn't mean they like you.
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  Speaker 2: It just means they're attracted you. I it's like looking
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  Speaker 2: at someone walking down the street. I've checked out a
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  Speaker 2: woman's ass as she passed me on the street. Of course,
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  Speaker 2: that doesn't mean I want to go on a day with.
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  Speaker 1: Them, So it's just like looking at you.
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  Speaker 2: Well, because the reason they're looking at your stories all
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  Speaker 2: the time is because the stories that go to the
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  Speaker 2: front are the people's pages you're interacting with the most.
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  Speaker 2: So acknowledge that.
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  Speaker 1: Wow, you just taught me something I had no idea.
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  Speaker 2: I mean you knew that. No, I just think you're
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  Speaker 2: not looking at someone's stories that like of a paid
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  Speaker 2: your friends that you would interact the most with on
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  Speaker 2: Instagram don't come up front, front and center. They do.
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  Speaker 1: I thought it just posted the story that's most recent.
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  Speaker 2: No, it's an account you've interacted with, and it's account
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  Speaker 2: you've touched, an account you've searched, an account you've liked.
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  Speaker 2: Those come up first. The ones that are at the
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  Speaker 2: way end are the ones you've stopped really caring about.
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  Speaker 2: So they're looking at you, they're interacting with you, even
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  Speaker 2: if they're not liking your page is on the front
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  Speaker 2: end of their their views. Yeah, so it means they're attracted.
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  Speaker 2: So it's hard to say to someone they keep watching
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  Speaker 2: my stories and you're like when you say it's nothing, like, well,
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  Speaker 2: that's not true. It means they're attracted you. I mean,
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  Speaker 2: I if it really affects you and you're getting annoyed
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  Speaker 2: by it. How about you block them? If that's too
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  Speaker 2: much for you, that's okay. How about you mute them?
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  Speaker 2: How about you block them from your stories? Like, we
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  Speaker 2: can take actions, right, you can take actions to get
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  Speaker 2: rid of this. Is it if it's because and we
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  Speaker 2: have to acknowledge, is it bothering me? Like there are
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  Speaker 2: points where I'm watching all these stories, I'm like, what
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  Speaker 2: the fuck am I doing here? And you have to
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  Speaker 2: be you know I'm gonna and these are ways. There
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  Speaker 2: are ways to do it without letting them know. And sometimes,
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  Speaker 2: but sometimes that hurts people to do.
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  Speaker 1: To mute someone, Yeah, you.
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  Speaker 2: Feel bad that you're they don't even care. They don't
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  Speaker 2: even know that I muted them, Like you just lose
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  Speaker 2: like they're again seeing their face watching your stories. It
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  Speaker 2: does hit you in a place. At least someone cares,
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  Speaker 2: at least they're looking. So I get why people ask
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  Speaker 2: about it. Think about it people.
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  Speaker 1: By the way, there's so many of my friends who
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  Speaker 1: always say he watched my stories. I don't understand why
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  Speaker 1: he takes back They're right, I met someone on vacation.
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  Speaker 1: Now what Well, that one's hard because the long distance
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  Speaker 1: thing is like fun for five seconds.
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  Speaker 2: I would need to know more to the story. But
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  Speaker 2: based on this, if I have to answer this question now, what, hey,
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  Speaker 2: what's that?
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  Speaker 1: I'm just I have a good one for you, going.
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  Speaker 2: Well, the vacation didn't answer that quick? I would say
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  Speaker 2: if you met someone on vacation, I would ask what
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  Speaker 2: the plan is next? You know, and if you can't
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  Speaker 2: answer that and you don't want to put yourself out there,
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  Speaker 2: then it's not worth your doing.
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  Speaker 1: I think it's just like you had fun and call
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  Speaker 1: it a day.
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  Speaker 2: I mean, that's not for me to say, like, this
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  Speaker 2: is why.
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  Speaker 1: I can't do what you do, because I love having
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  Speaker 1: control and telling pody. I would say it's my most
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  Speaker 1: favorite thing to do.
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  Speaker 2: If a friend of mine was like, I went on vacation,
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  Speaker 2: I met this guy or I met this girl and
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  Speaker 2: they're awesome and I really like there's something there, I
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  Speaker 2: would go, Okay, if that's the case, what's happening next
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  Speaker 2: month for you two to get to know each other more?
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  Speaker 2: At a basis, all you want to do is get
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  Speaker 2: to know them more. You're not asking for more than that. Okay,
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  Speaker 2: so hey, I really and you have to be vulnerable
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  Speaker 2: like you don't. You can't have it all. You can't
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  Speaker 2: have an amazing time and cobo with someone and then
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  Speaker 2: you know, and then they you know. Then it's easy
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  Speaker 2: from then on there on out. And I don't care
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  Speaker 2: what romantic comedy you saw that told you what was
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  Speaker 2: going to happen. That way, you got to lose something
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  Speaker 2: and sometimes losing like you know, losing the ability to
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  Speaker 2: like guard yourself. Hey, I it was a great time meeting. Hey,
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  Speaker 2: what happened this weekend? What really surprised me? This is
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  Speaker 2: the text I was saying, what happened this weekend really
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  Speaker 2: surprise me? I don't know. I'm not seeing anyone right now,
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  Speaker 2: and I feel like I really want to get to
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  Speaker 2: know you more. If you're up for that, let's make
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  Speaker 2: a plan for a few weeks out and again to
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  Speaker 2: like meet safely and or you come to me, or
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  Speaker 2: I come to you, and we see if we like
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  Speaker 2: each other again. Maybe it's not, Maybe maybe it is,
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  Speaker 2: Maybe it's not. I mean I've done this where I've
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  Speaker 2: gone to.
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  Speaker 1: Like, would you take a friend or go solo?
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  Speaker 2: I think you take a friend. Yeah, I think you
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  Speaker 2: take a friend. I think you make it as easy
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  Speaker 2: as get your own room. Totally make it as easy
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  Speaker 2: as possible. Again, you can't have it. All these things
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  Speaker 2: cost money, right, you can't afford it. Don't make your
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  Speaker 2: life a detriment. Maybe it's now's not the time, but
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  Speaker 2: if you can afford to get your own room and
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  Speaker 2: go with a friend to like, I mean, I've been
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  Speaker 2: in that situation where like I've been on the road
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  Speaker 2: and then like you know, the person came with their
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  Speaker 2: friend and got their own room and you know, had
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  Speaker 2: their own weekend and then we got to hang out again. Yeah,
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  Speaker 2: and see if this is worth and worth is a
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  Speaker 2: tough word because I'm not saying they're not worth it,
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  Speaker 2: but like the idea, like can this be something we
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  Speaker 2: try and that's all you're trying to do. Keep it small,
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  Speaker 2: keep the stake small.
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  Speaker 1: Okay. I like that, especially because I'm into finding people
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  Speaker 1: who don't live near me, which I don't know, I
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  Speaker 1: don't understand that.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, because that's because well, everyone's nice when you're leaving.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, it's also nice to be like right, it's like easy.
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  Speaker 2: You know, I'm so nice to people and they're like,
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  Speaker 2: oh I'm going I'm like, oh, I see you. You
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  Speaker 2: were great, you know, you know who I'm mean to.
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  Speaker 2: I don't know when I'm leaving. Oh really, Oh yeah,
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  Speaker 2: it's the same as like a woman in your town.
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  Speaker 2: You know what I might move here?
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  Speaker 1: Really no, no, no, I sent a naughty riskue text
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  Speaker 1: after a few drinks. He didn't respond. Am I blocked
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  Speaker 1: or just humbled the no response? You know when you're blocked.
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  Speaker 1: If you have an iPhone, by the way, deal breaker,
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  Speaker 1: If my text goes through green, it's and you text like,
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  Speaker 1: if you have an Android, we're good. Here goes back
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  Speaker 1: to the khaki pants.
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  Speaker 2: Listen, that's your ex or your own. I would say
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  Speaker 2: two things. Sometimes let me let me give some empathy
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  Speaker 2: to the guy who doesn't get back to your dirty text.
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  Speaker 1: Okay.
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  Speaker 2: What gets looked over is that you have to be
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  Speaker 2: in the right mind space to send a dirty text.
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  Speaker 2: You also have to be in the right mind space
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  Speaker 2: to receive a dirty text. So I have gotten text
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  Speaker 2: from women where it's like this hot, awesome text and
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  Speaker 2: I'm like in an uber going to a podcast, and
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  Speaker 2: I'm like, I don't have the ability the mindset I
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  Speaker 2: am not in right back to this mode. So and
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  Speaker 2: this happens with like when you're like distance with someone
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  Speaker 2: like their time zone is eight pm and you're like
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  Speaker 2: four and you're like, how do I write titty at
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  Speaker 2: four pm? You know, like I you know, like it's
• 16:27
  Speaker 2: like it's way harder than it gets credit for. So
• 16:31
  Speaker 2: I would say to this person, I don't know if
• 16:34
  Speaker 2: they're blocked. I don't know if they should be. I
• 16:36
  Speaker 2: don't think they should be humbled. Maybe you hit the
• 16:39
  Speaker 2: other person at an hour that wasn't the same for
• 16:43
  Speaker 2: them as it was for you. Okay, that's my one thing.
• 16:47
  Speaker 2: Now if you write to them, hey, that was pretty
• 16:50
  Speaker 2: I think it's okay to be turned off again. Don't
• 16:51
  Speaker 2: be confused, be turned off. Like I said in the
• 16:54
  Speaker 2: other episode, Okay, hey, it really kind of annoyed me
• 16:58
  Speaker 2: that you never got back to the text. I was
• 17:00
  Speaker 2: really like feeling you that night, and I think they're
• 17:04
  Speaker 2: going to write back either. That's you. We call it
• 17:07
  Speaker 2: the reveal on the podcast. Ok So, it's like the
• 17:10
  Speaker 2: talk is stupid, Like when should we have the talk?
• 17:14
  Speaker 2: I think that's never worked. It's not good. If you
• 17:17
  Speaker 2: have to have the talk, it's gone. I think the
• 17:20
  Speaker 2: reveal is a better option. So the reveal is letting
• 17:24
  Speaker 2: someone know that you how you feel and then just
• 17:26
  Speaker 2: shutting the fuck up.
• 17:27
  Speaker 1: Okay.
• 17:28
  Speaker 2: So, hey, I sent you a I sent you some
• 17:32
  Speaker 2: nudes and a fun text the other night. It really
• 17:35
  Speaker 2: let me down that you never got back to it.
• 17:40
  Speaker 2: Now shut the fuck up, okay, because at that point
• 17:45
  Speaker 2: they're gonna come back with a response. It's either caring
• 17:49
  Speaker 2: or it's like it's an it's a breakup because they
• 17:53
  Speaker 2: know that you're farther ahead than maybe they are, or
• 17:56
  Speaker 2: it's an explanation. Hey, I gotta be honest with you,
• 17:59
  Speaker 2: and I would say to the person who wrote this,
• 18:01
  Speaker 2: have some empathy for the explanation. It might be you
• 18:05
  Speaker 2: caught me out like the worst time, because a sexy
• 18:08
  Speaker 2: text getting back to it isn't just everything's nothing much,
• 18:12
  Speaker 2: you know, and.
• 18:13
  Speaker 1: It's very a lot of pressure on the receiving end.
• 18:17
  Speaker 2: We have to have empathy for the receiving end of
• 18:20
  Speaker 2: a dirty text because that end of it is not
• 18:23
  Speaker 2: as easy because everyone thinks, well, you should feel lucky
• 18:26
  Speaker 2: you're seeing my titty, and you go, I am lucky.
• 18:30
  Speaker 2: That's why I want to give a response that's deserving
• 18:33
  Speaker 2: of this titty. But I'm not in the place to
• 18:36
  Speaker 2: write a response to the titty. So This is where
• 18:40
  Speaker 2: I think we get like. I think this is a
• 18:42
  Speaker 2: more layered answer than maybe they would.
• 18:45
  Speaker 1: It is. In the last time I sent like dirty
• 18:48
  Speaker 1: text messages, it was kind of a while ago, but
• 18:51
  Speaker 1: I just remember it's almost like for play, right, Like
• 18:55
  Speaker 1: you're wanting to each text that's going back and forth,
• 18:59
  Speaker 1: trying to one up the other person because you want
• 19:02
  Speaker 1: to get to the climax, right, It is a lot
• 19:05
  Speaker 1: of pressure. The first person to send off the dirty
• 19:08
  Speaker 1: text actually has to be easiest.
• 19:09
  Speaker 2: Right because they are all you have to do it
• 19:11
  Speaker 2: in their undies feeling west and.
• 19:14
  Speaker 1: All you have to do is I'm feeling wet right now, right.
• 19:17
  Speaker 2: And now now, and it's like okay, and now you've
• 19:22
  Speaker 2: got to go to like the mindset of like, okay,
• 19:25
  Speaker 2: how do I get her? You know.
• 19:28
  Speaker 1: It's a lie. This is why I I sometimes wish
• 19:32
  Speaker 1: I could be a lesbian, because that would be easy.
• 19:34
  Speaker 2: I know, I don't think you want that. Really, you
• 19:38
  Speaker 2: want to date a woman, I can tell you right now,
• 19:41
  Speaker 2: A lot of work. It can be a lot of work.
• 19:45
  Speaker 1: Okay. The next one I have for you is we've
• 19:47
  Speaker 1: been dating for six months and he still hasn't introduced
• 19:50
  Speaker 1: me to a single friend. Is this low key secret girlfriend.
• 19:53
  Speaker 2: Energy you're dating in the back alleys.
• 19:56
  Speaker 1: Oh, it's kind of the best kind.
• 19:57
  Speaker 2: Though, Listen. It's everything serves its own purpose. Yeah, but
• 20:02
  Speaker 2: this person you're dating in the alleys, you're not on
• 20:05
  Speaker 2: main street. The biggest issue they have isn't that they're
• 20:09
  Speaker 2: being hidden, it's that the breakup is just easier. Yeah,
• 20:13
  Speaker 2: you have to weave someone into your life to make
• 20:17
  Speaker 2: you know, like to make it go any further. So
• 20:20
  Speaker 2: you that, listen, they're dating six months, six months may
• 20:25
  Speaker 2: as well be one month.
• 20:27
  Speaker 1: When do you think is a good time to like
• 20:31
  Speaker 1: what I mean, is there like a limit on? Okay,
• 20:35
  Speaker 1: we've been out three times? Why am I not being introduced?
• 20:38
  Speaker 2: No?
• 20:39
  Speaker 1: Or is it kind of like maybe you guys don't
• 20:41
  Speaker 1: know each other well enough? Do you find that it's
• 20:42
  Speaker 1: all in the communication.
• 20:44
  Speaker 2: It's all in the communication, like all things, Like I
• 20:46
  Speaker 2: talk about.
• 20:47
  Speaker 1: This all the time. It's such a simple concept, but
• 20:49
  Speaker 1: it's actually very complex.
• 20:50
  Speaker 2: No. Well, it's also like, listen, I've dated people for
• 20:54
  Speaker 2: six months and like it's it's hovered in this one
• 20:59
  Speaker 2: spot really like this person, And the reasoning was, you know,
• 21:04
  Speaker 2: I wasn't really ready to make it more than it was.
• 21:09
  Speaker 2: And I also didn't. There's a little scheduling aspect to it.
• 21:15
  Speaker 2: If I'm going to be which sounds like bullshit, but
• 21:17
  Speaker 2: it's like, I'm looking at my schedule. I'm not going
• 21:19
  Speaker 2: to be in the same city for this long. How
• 21:22
  Speaker 2: could I get to know someone? You know, when you're
• 21:24
  Speaker 2: getting to know someone over text, it's just not the
• 21:27
  Speaker 2: same and you get bored, right and and for me personally,
• 21:31
  Speaker 2: and I think like you as well, and I think
• 21:35
  Speaker 2: the audience can relate to this more than they would
• 21:37
  Speaker 2: maybe admit. But honestly, there's dating pre social media, and
• 21:44
  Speaker 2: then there's post social media. So like if you and
• 21:48
  Speaker 2: your you know, the third basement that you're dating, put
• 21:53
  Speaker 2: it on Instagram, Okay, there's a different responsibility. If this ends,
• 21:58
  Speaker 2: you have to undo it. You have to answer to
• 22:02
  Speaker 2: a greater world. Same with the listeners. Even if you're
• 22:05
  Speaker 2: not a person who posts on social media, you have
• 22:07
  Speaker 2: two hundred followers that are your friends that care about
• 22:10
  Speaker 2: your life, that would are watching.
• 22:13
  Speaker 1: Yeah, that are wonder right.
• 22:15
  Speaker 2: So like six months, you go, do I feel confident enough?
• 22:19
  Speaker 2: And I think with my dating life, I want to
• 22:21
  Speaker 2: be like I want to be sprinting, and I think
• 22:25
  Speaker 2: when if you're holding up at all, you're like, Okay,
• 22:28
  Speaker 2: let me keep this pre social media or keep this
• 22:32
  Speaker 2: pre meeting my friends, because then I'd have to undo
• 22:35
  Speaker 2: that if it doesn't go right. And so I don't
• 22:39
  Speaker 2: think that's a good thing for this person's scenario. Like
• 22:43
  Speaker 2: I don't think that they're in a good spot if
• 22:45
  Speaker 2: they want more.
• 22:46
  Speaker 1: Well, and we see and I operate off of ego,
• 22:49
  Speaker 1: which is hard to believe when I'm in the AA
• 22:53
  Speaker 1: program because we try to silence that. But for me,
• 22:56
  Speaker 1: like I wouldn't say anything to him because I would
• 22:58
  Speaker 1: be afraid of the response and feeling rejected. So I
• 23:01
  Speaker 1: lead with ego.
• 23:03
  Speaker 2: Here's my question of the person and my question to you, Okay,
• 23:08
  Speaker 2: how would you feel if you were writing this email
• 23:11
  Speaker 2: a year from now, If you were writing I haven't
• 23:13
  Speaker 2: met his friends yet and it was a year.
• 23:15
  Speaker 1: In Oh, now you've now, I would be like, I
• 23:18
  Speaker 1: wish I would have been more forward, because now I've
• 23:21
  Speaker 1: wasted a year when I could have cut this off
• 23:24
  Speaker 1: in six months.
• 23:24
  Speaker 2: And here's how I help this person. Okay, go out
• 23:27
  Speaker 2: with your friends, have some spritzes. Yeah, text this guy,
• 23:32
  Speaker 2: hay him out with my friends. I want you to
• 23:33
  Speaker 2: come hang out and see if they'll come.
• 23:36
  Speaker 1: That's cute. I like that. And then that way, it
• 23:38
  Speaker 1: still feels okay if he doesn't come, because you're with
• 23:41
  Speaker 1: your girls and you're a little buzz.
• 23:42
  Speaker 2: And vulnerability produces vulnerability. Now you have a right to
• 23:46
  Speaker 2: say if he does come, great, he's meeting your friends.
• 23:50
  Speaker 2: You've inched forward. If he doesn't come, you can say, hey,
• 23:54
  Speaker 2: I made an effort today. I tried to get you
• 23:56
  Speaker 2: to hang with my friends and I and you just
• 23:59
  Speaker 2: basically and you were doing nothing. Yeah, you didn't really
• 24:02
  Speaker 2: have a great excuse. I feel let down by that,
• 24:05
  Speaker 2: right if and if he and so that's a conversation.
• 24:11
  Speaker 2: So now you're getting deserving of a conversation. I think
• 24:13
  Speaker 2: she deserves to have a conversation anyways, but maybe this
• 24:16
  Speaker 2: helps her have that. You know, Hey, I try to
• 24:19
  Speaker 2: do something fun and you just didn't. Really you weren't.
• 24:22
  Speaker 1: You gave me nothing.
• 24:23
  Speaker 2: Yeah, or he comes and you go, hey, you met
• 24:26
  Speaker 2: my friends and that was so much fun. I want
• 24:27
  Speaker 2: to do that with your friends now too. So now
• 24:29
  Speaker 2: it makes that conversation easier.
• 24:31
  Speaker 1: Okay, I love all of this. I'm implementing it all
• 24:34
  Speaker 1: into my.
• 24:34
  Speaker 2: There you go. Last question you're dating?
• 24:38
  Speaker 1: Okay, I wanted to ask you the IG one.
• 24:44
  Speaker 2: He's in sidelinebacker.
• 24:47
  Speaker 1: He never compliments me, but he compliments other women on
• 24:50
  Speaker 1: ig Call him on it or just dump him.
• 24:52
  Speaker 2: You gotta dump him.
• 24:53
  Speaker 1: I think that guy sounds like a fucking dick.
• 24:56
  Speaker 2: Yeah, and it's a lack of beyond not comment on you, like,
• 25:01
  Speaker 2: forget that social media is a public place. And would
• 25:05
  Speaker 2: he feel comfortable with your friends seeing that he's like commimenting, Like,
• 25:09
  Speaker 2: is that who you want to date? I don't know, No,
• 25:11
  Speaker 2: that's that's that would be a turn off to me.
• 25:14
  Speaker 2: But I'm saying like, I also don't like to tell
• 25:16
  Speaker 2: people what to do, but I just think like you
• 25:20
  Speaker 2: have a leg to stand on if you were to, like,
• 25:22
  Speaker 2: but you're not going to fix this guy? Is No?
• 25:24
  Speaker 1: I think this is a hymn issue when you I
• 25:26
  Speaker 1: don't know this.
• 25:27
  Speaker 2: Yeah, Like, you're not going to fix a guy who
• 25:29
  Speaker 2: thought so little of you that they didn't care about
• 25:33
  Speaker 2: this being seen.
• 25:34
  Speaker 1: Yeah, it's fucked up. Okay, this happens to me all
• 25:41
  Speaker 1: the fucking time. I'm seeing someone new but still dreaming
• 25:44
  Speaker 1: about my ex. Is that just emotional lag.
• 25:47
  Speaker 2: What the fuck is I don't know what emotional lag is.
• 25:50
  Speaker 1: I don't know what that is either, But what is that?
• 25:52
  Speaker 1: I know you're not some like dream interpreter, but like
• 25:55
  Speaker 1: I feel like that isn't normal.
• 25:56
  Speaker 2: I would say, if they're not muting and blocking an X,
• 26:00
  Speaker 2: you're doing yourself at a service. She's dreaming about it,
• 26:03
  Speaker 2: I know, but the dreams happened, right, You're subconsciously coming
• 26:08
  Speaker 2: across things. You have the listen. It's not you used
• 26:12
  Speaker 2: to before social media. I remember, like what there was
• 26:15
  Speaker 2: one time my dad, mom and I, like I was
• 26:18
  Speaker 2: like a young kid, and we like went for ice cream,
• 26:21
  Speaker 2: and then we left the ice cream place and we
• 26:22
  Speaker 2: got in the car and my dad was like my
• 26:24
  Speaker 2: mom was like, that was your dad's ex girlfriend, you know,
• 26:27
  Speaker 2: Oh my god, oh my god, and she was giving
• 26:29
  Speaker 2: them ship. That was the only time you could really
• 26:32
  Speaker 2: see an ex like you didn't have to, Like you
• 26:34
  Speaker 2: had no ability to because like if I saw an
• 26:37
  Speaker 2: ex at ice cream and I'm with my kids and family,
• 26:41
  Speaker 2: I would already know everything about their lives. I would
• 26:43
  Speaker 2: know that they were going to be at ice cream,
• 26:44
  Speaker 2: like you know, like because there's some sort of there's
• 26:47
  Speaker 2: a level of knowledge I would have that I'm not
• 26:49
  Speaker 2: like proud of it, Like that's kind of how it goes.
• 26:52
  Speaker 2: It is such like a funny thing to think about,
• 26:54
  Speaker 2: like my dad being like yeah I was an X
• 26:57
  Speaker 2: and like oh in them catching up and like the moment,
• 26:59
  Speaker 2: like having no idea what they've been up to, and
• 27:03
  Speaker 2: this is so different today. So it's like, I don't know,
• 27:05
  Speaker 2: I think we should want a little more of what
• 27:07
  Speaker 2: my parents had and a little less give right, So
• 27:10
  Speaker 2: like why don't we create that world for ourselves and
• 27:12
  Speaker 2: be an active participant in our life and our health
• 27:14
  Speaker 2: and be like, Okay, I'm gonna block my X on everything.
• 27:17
  Speaker 2: And it's not because I hate them.
• 27:20
  Speaker 1: You can because there's no reason.
• 27:22
  Speaker 2: Self, you know, making yourself feel good. This is all
• 27:27
  Speaker 2: mental health, Like it's not. And here's the scenario that
• 27:31
  Speaker 2: never happens. Tell me the X going, hey you blocked me. No,
• 27:35
  Speaker 2: that never happened, Never happens, and never afraid of It's like,
• 27:38
  Speaker 2: you know, you ever see those videos of like what
• 27:40
  Speaker 2: you what people think is going to happen when friends
• 27:43
  Speaker 2: come over and they're like you haven't cleaned your you know,
• 27:45
  Speaker 2: the duster you're like, yeah, like that never happens. People
• 27:49
  Speaker 2: don't act that way. When you see your block, you go,
• 27:51
  Speaker 2: I'll get away. Obviously I bothered them. I need to like.
• 27:57
  Speaker 1: Yeah, but I'm still so I.
• 27:59
  Speaker 2: Have sex dreams. I'm saying, like, get spurred by something, right,
• 28:03
  Speaker 2: but like, are something from your current? I don't know.
• 28:06
  Speaker 1: I think sometimes it's it's the uni. I see I'm
• 28:09
  Speaker 1: a little bit deeper than you on this. I think
• 28:11
  Speaker 1: it's your I think it's the universe trying to implant something.
• 28:14
  Speaker 1: So I'm gonna tell you a very brief story and
• 28:16
  Speaker 1: then we can move on. Because this question was like
• 28:18
  Speaker 1: one of my favorites because it happens to me relatable.
• 28:22
  Speaker 1: I had this boyfriend and we were very very young. Okay,
• 28:28
  Speaker 1: he was still in college. He lived in La, I
• 28:31
  Speaker 1: lived back in Utah. We met through social media, and
• 28:36
  Speaker 1: we were together for quite a long time, I would say,
• 28:39
  Speaker 1: and then on and off once I moved out to LA. Anyway,
• 28:43
  Speaker 1: cut to he gets married, has kids, I find my
• 28:47
  Speaker 1: person and we have a baby, and I want to say,
• 28:51
  Speaker 1: maybe like two three years ago, I see that, and
• 28:56
  Speaker 1: I was still hooked on this guy, like I've always
• 28:58
  Speaker 1: been hooked on him. I can shake the fucking feeling.
• 29:01
  Speaker 1: It's been years, it's been over a decade. I cyberstock him.
• 29:08
  Speaker 1: I'm done with my X now. And he's deleted all
• 29:12
  Speaker 1: of his photos of his wife and he's changed, changed
• 29:17
  Speaker 1: that he's not married, like she's taken out of his bio.
• 29:20
  Speaker 1: So I slide in the DM. We start talking. I
• 29:23
  Speaker 1: go out to Vegas and he wants to link up.
• 29:27
  Speaker 1: He apologizes for everything that he put me through years ago.
• 29:32
  Speaker 1: I should have been there for you in a different way.
• 29:34
  Speaker 1: I want to say that I'm sorry. I asked him
• 29:37
  Speaker 1: about the wife, and he goes, well, I wanted to
• 29:39
  Speaker 1: tell you that we're going to try to work it out.
• 29:42
  Speaker 1: And I was like, I totally respect that you have children.
• 29:45
  Speaker 1: You should fucking do that. I go back to La.
• 29:48
  Speaker 1: He sends me a message a few weeks later. He's like, Hey,
• 29:51
  Speaker 1: I'm in LA. I'd love to get lunch with you.
• 29:53
  Speaker 1: And I said, I'm not going out with someone who
• 29:55
  Speaker 1: has a wife. I'm just not telling it. He said,
• 29:57
  Speaker 1: it's ended. He portrays four months now that he and
• 30:03
  Speaker 1: his wife got a divorce because of my trauma. I
• 30:07
  Speaker 1: am not buying it. I need to see paperwork. I
• 30:10
  Speaker 1: keep having dreams every night of his wife coming in
• 30:14
  Speaker 1: and catching us together. Even though he's saying they're done,
• 30:18
  Speaker 1: it just keeps coming up. So I plan to go
• 30:21
  Speaker 1: to Vegas to see him because I'm like, okay, like,
• 30:24
  Speaker 1: if you're saying like I want to believe you, I'm
• 30:27
  Speaker 1: holding on to his apology because it was just like
• 30:29
  Speaker 1: the most beautiful and necessary for my soul apology. My
• 30:33
  Speaker 1: friend says to me, so, you're gonna see him while
• 30:36
  Speaker 1: you're out there. I said yeah, And she did he
• 30:38
  Speaker 1: send you the proof of his divorce? And I said no?
• 30:42
  Speaker 1: And she goes, you're not hanging out with him. I
• 30:43
  Speaker 1: will not allow it. So I don't see him. I
• 30:49
  Speaker 1: continue to dream about him all the livelong day. I
• 30:52
  Speaker 1: literally over the weekend had another fucking dream about him
• 30:56
  Speaker 1: and the wife. I get onto social media to cyberse
• 31:00
  Speaker 1: talk again. She's got her ring on, he's got his
• 31:03
  Speaker 1: ring on, They've got pictures together, and I'm like, the
• 31:08
  Speaker 1: universe fucking did that for me?
• 31:11
  Speaker 2: Yeah?
• 31:11
  Speaker 1: Is that not wild?
• 31:13
  Speaker 2: It's wild? I think it's there's one part of the
• 31:17
  Speaker 2: story that like, I would like never acknowledge what the apology?
• 31:22
  Speaker 2: What do you mean you wouldn't acknowledge, Like I wouldn't
• 31:25
  Speaker 2: think of that as like a plus.
• 31:27
  Speaker 1: No, well, it's all been what.
• 31:29
  Speaker 2: I'm saying before you got to the you know, when
• 31:33
  Speaker 2: you're telling the story, Yeah, you're like the apology, you know,
• 31:36
  Speaker 2: hit me so hard because he apologized for all the
• 31:39
  Speaker 2: things he did. I kind of live in a world
• 31:41
  Speaker 2: of like what else was he gonna say? Like that's
• 31:45
  Speaker 2: the only way to start with you is to acknowledge
• 31:47
  Speaker 2: the past. Yeah, Like I don't think that's like a
• 31:49
  Speaker 2: heroic apology. No, No, the apology coming.
• 31:53
  Speaker 1: That's actually new. No one has ever said that to
• 31:56
  Speaker 1: me before, right, Like.
• 31:57
  Speaker 2: I think the apology is like the easiest, most self
• 32:01
  Speaker 2: serving thing for him to do because you're in Vegas, right,
• 32:04
  Speaker 2: You're in Vegas. He's got to make you feel happy
• 32:07
  Speaker 2: to be there. He's got to acknowledge the past. Like
• 32:11
  Speaker 2: that's like a maneuver more than it is like twelve steps.
• 32:15
  Speaker 2: Who Yeah, but I'm with you on the universe and like, yeah,
• 32:21
  Speaker 2: like something in your body told you, like there's something
• 32:24
  Speaker 2: off here, and it's probably your body saying like because
• 32:29
  Speaker 2: your mind is going that apology meant so much to me,
• 32:32
  Speaker 2: but your body's going. Anyone could have done. That's like,
• 32:35
  Speaker 2: I don't think there's just nothing to lose from the apology. Totally,
• 32:40
  Speaker 2: no risk taken. That's my two cents for wow that.
• 32:44
  Speaker 1: No one has ever pointed that part out. That is
• 32:47
  Speaker 1: the only opener.
• 32:49
  Speaker 2: Right, What else is it gonna say? Hey, been a while,
• 32:52
  Speaker 2: Like you acknowledge that you fucking cheated on me and
• 32:55
  Speaker 2: we had this weird, fucking bast and it's crazy that
• 32:58
  Speaker 2: we're here right now, like acknowledge what I was because
• 33:00
  Speaker 2: usually with an X the last text is like some
• 33:04
  Speaker 2: sort of anger, Like it's like being like happy birthday
• 33:07
  Speaker 2: after someone's like, well fuck you, and you can like
• 33:10
  Speaker 2: scroll up and you're like, wait a minute, I just
• 33:12
  Speaker 2: yelled at you. The next thing can't be happy birthday.
• 33:16
  Speaker 2: You have to acknowledge the thing above.
• 33:17
  Speaker 1: It's right, Oh my gosh, I needed that.
• 33:20
  Speaker 2: Yeah, I'm happy that could help out all and wed
• 33:25
  Speaker 2: something came in the way, but I came in the way.
• 33:28
  Speaker 2: But I think you knew in your heart that that
• 33:31
  Speaker 2: apology was bullshit. Yeah, or was just easy to me.
• 33:36
  Speaker 2: That's an easy apology.
• 33:37
  Speaker 1: You know, most people, they can be shitty at a
• 33:40
  Speaker 1: certain time in their life, and you hope as they
• 33:41
  Speaker 1: get older, they become you know, nicer people. I'm like, wow,
• 33:46
  Speaker 1: age actually made you a shittier person.
• 33:49
  Speaker 2: Well, I mean if I was to give him empathy
• 33:51
  Speaker 2: when people you know, when people are lonely, yeah, they
• 33:56
  Speaker 2: are men generally, to go back to something we talked
• 33:59
  Speaker 2: about before, men people generally go the easiest route, right.
• 34:06
  Speaker 2: In general, people take the easier route as opposed to
• 34:09
  Speaker 2: the harder route. So when you're lonely, who do you
• 34:12
  Speaker 2: go back to? What you're familiar with and the list
• 34:17
  Speaker 2: of people who have said yes to your naked body
• 34:19
  Speaker 2: before so and sometimes it's an X from way way
• 34:24
  Speaker 2: far ago or way way long ago, or sometimes as
• 34:27
  Speaker 2: the person you just left. That's why people go back
• 34:29
  Speaker 2: to their significant others. When you break up with someone,
• 34:31
  Speaker 2: there's one less person to hug, text and hold okay,
• 34:35
  Speaker 2: and you have a void and your whole next step
• 34:40
  Speaker 2: is to try and fill that void because it feels bad.
• 34:44
  Speaker 2: And a lot of times people do it with the
• 34:45
  Speaker 2: person that they just left. That's why you get back
• 34:47
  Speaker 2: with an X or it's someone from your past right
• 34:52
  Speaker 2: that there's less to explain, you know, what do they say?
• 34:56
  Speaker 2: There's an economic I was an economics major in college.
• 34:59
  Speaker 2: I really put that to use. It's more expensive to
• 35:04
  Speaker 2: hire someone new than it is to retrain an old employee.
• 35:12
  Speaker 2: So that is the same for data. Yeah, so it's
• 35:15
  Speaker 2: way more expensive to go on hinge and go on
• 35:18
  Speaker 2: a first date and meet new person and get them
• 35:22
  Speaker 2: to trust you. That costs way more money than it
• 35:24
  Speaker 2: is to go back to someone who's already working at
• 35:27
  Speaker 2: the company. And you worked at his company. You knew him,
• 35:30
  Speaker 2: you trusted him, you had a familiarity with him, you
• 35:33
  Speaker 2: knew how the penis worked, you knew that he could fuck.
• 35:35
  Speaker 1: Yeah.
• 35:36
  Speaker 2: Yeah, like all these things that like aren't important, but
• 35:38
  Speaker 2: you knew.
• 35:40
  Speaker 1: You know who the hero is in this the front
• 35:43
  Speaker 1: my friend, your friend.
• 35:44
  Speaker 2: Yeah, your friend is a true hero because they reminded
• 35:47
  Speaker 2: you of what you had already said.
• 35:50
  Speaker 1: Yes, yeah, damn. Thank you for doing the boner episode.
• 35:55
  Speaker 2: I got you you, guys. I do well with a boner.
• 35:59
  Speaker 1: We love a good boner. Thank you guys for listening
• 36:01
  Speaker 1: to another episode of the Give Them All Up Podcast
• 36:04
  Speaker 1: Bonus episode I'm gonna catch you guys on Wednesday and
• 36:07
  Speaker 1: again next week. Bye.