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5 Min Pocket Pep Talk: Listen When You’re Having a Bad Day · The Nadia Chapman Show

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  Welcome to the Nadia Chapman Show. This is the 5-Minute Pocket Pip Talk,
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  and I'm your host, Nadia Chapman.
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  If today feels a little bit off, I don't know what's going on in your life,
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  but if things didn't go your way recently, if you're frustrated,
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  tired, or maybe questioning yourself a little.
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  Stay here with me for a minute because this moment, this is actually where everything starts to shift.
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  I know you don't like days like this. Nobody does. You know,
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  if you're a figure skater, maybe it's the missed jump, the bad competition.
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  You know, if you're not a figure skater, maybe it's just, maybe you had a job interview.
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  It didn't go your way. Maybe you did not get accepted into the college of your
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  dreams. Maybe you lost your job. Maybe you lost your boyfriend, your girlfriend.
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  No matter what's happening, you're going through a situation that feels hard.
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  And your brain goes straight to, what is wrong with me? Why can't I just get it right?
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  Right? Yeah, I hear that.
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  But let me stop you right here. I want you to take a deep breath and realize
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  that nothing is wrong with you. Okay?
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  You're in the middle of becoming something new. You're in the middle of starting something else.
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  Okay? Here's a truth nobody talks about enough. Good days, they feel really
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  good. They feel amazing. But they don't change you.
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  Bad days, those are the ones that build you.
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  Okay? Because on the good days, you're kind of flowing, you know,
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  you're confident, things are working out, all is well.
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  But on the hard days, holy moly, you question yourself.
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  That's when you're forced to adjust things, to think differently,
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  to respond instead of react.
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  And that's where growth actually happens, I promise.
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  So let me say this clearly to you. You don't transform when everything is easy in life.
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  You transform when something challenges you, when things are not easy,
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  when something stretches you or ask of you to become somebody else,
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  when something forces you to kind of look at yourself and decide,
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  okay, am I going to just stay here or am I going to rise?
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  And yes, it's scary. It's uncomfortable. It can be very frustrating.
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  Sometimes it feels unfair. But that discomfort you're feeling,
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  that's the exact place where the shift is happening.
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  So most people try to escape that feeling.
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  A lot of people don't want to feel uncomfortable or sad or mad or frustrated.
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  You know, they shut down and they avoid and, oh, they stop taking risks.
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  I see it all the time. They pull back, but not you.
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  You're still here. You're listening to this right now. and that matters more than you think.
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  So instead of asking, why is this happening to me? I want you to ask this question.
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  What is this situation trying to teach me? Because every single rough day carries so many lessons.
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  Every rough day carries something with it. Maybe it's learning to be more patient. Maybe it's resilience.
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  Maybe it's learning how to reset faster.
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  Maybe it's learning how to show up even if you don't feel like it.
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  So let's be real for a second.
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  The version of you you're trying to become, whether it's more confident and
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  more organized, focused, consistent, I don't know, that version of you,
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  it will be built through days like this, not through the easy days.
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  So no, today doesn't define you.
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  Whatever just happened doesn't define you. How you respond to this shapes you.
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  So right now, take a deep breath, slow it down.
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  You're not behind. You're not a loser. You're not failing. you are growing,
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  and you are in a process. And the process is not always pretty.
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  It's messy, it's uneven, it's frustrating, but it works.
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  So here's what we're going to do. We're not going to label whatever just happened
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  in your life or whatever you're going through as bad, okay?
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  I'm going to tell you, most people that you look up to, you know,
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  some people that build big businesses, or if you're an athlete,
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  you know, your favorite figure skater or your favorite athlete,
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  they've been through very bad days too.
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  You know, they've had days like this. They've had moments like you just had,
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  but they just didn't quit.
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  They kept going. And you're going to do the same thing. Okay?
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  So you're not stuck. You're being shaped right now.
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  And I promise you, if you keep showing up through days like this,
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  through crappy events like this, you're going to become someone that you're
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  really, really proud of. Okay?
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  So stay in it. Thanks for listening. I'll see you in the next episode.