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263 - Remind Yourself Of This Every Day · Unshakeable with Human Design - A Human Design For Business Podcast

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  Welcome to Unshakeable with Human Design, the show dedicated to
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  helping entrepreneurs use human design to shift from hustle to
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  flow without sacrificing results.
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  Come here to become an unshakeable human and build an unshakeable business
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  according to your human design.
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  I'm your host, Nicole Laino.
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  Nicole Laino: Hello, welcome everyone.
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  Thank you for being here.
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  This is a little intro before the intro just to let you know that we had some
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  technical difficulties with this episode.
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  When we went in to edit it, we realized that there was some clippings, some
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  areas that don't come out crystal clear.
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  And we just wanted you to know about that, that we are aware of it and my
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  team did a really great job cleaning it up, but if you hear a few little
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  glitches in this episode, we just wanted to apologize, let you know that that
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  is not a regular thing on the show.
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  All the other episodes that you listened to will be perfect, but this
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  one has a few minor bumps in it, but it's a really solid, great episode.
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  And we still wanted to bring it to you.
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  So I hope you enjoy it without further ado.
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  Here you go.
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  Hello and welcome to Unshakeable with Human Design, everybody.
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  I'm your host, Nicole Laino, and we are here on a Monday
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  morning, just the two of us.
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  And I'm a little husky today because I have a bit of a cold.
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  So excuse me if I'm using my sexy voice.
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  I have been talking a lot over the last couple of weeks because I've
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  been having clarity calls with people.
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  I hosted my Authority Accelerator Masterclass, which was this
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  huge masterclass that we got such great feedback on.
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  And I've been talking to so many people in my community who are
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  going through the same thing.
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  And I think there's a lot of uncertainty out there right now.
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  I think there are a lot of people from around my social media and my audience.
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  And then I also have friends who are different levels, who are beyond me.
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  I have mentors that are beyond, and everybody's talking about the same stuff.
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  And the difference that I see does come down to one thing.
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  And this is something that came up in the class and it got a really great
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  reaction there and it's something that I remind myself of every single
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  day, and it's something that high performers either know inherently or
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  they're somehow working around it.
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  Maybe they don't think about it exactly the way that I do,
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  but they are embodying this.
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  So I want to share that here with you.
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  But what I'm seeing is everybody's talking about the same thing.
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  There's a lot of uncertainty.
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  Things feel different.
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  We're having to do things differently than we used to.
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  Some of the old stuff isn't working, which makes people scared.
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  Some new things are working, but we haven't really figured out how to operate
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  them as consistently as other stuff.
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  It feels like the audience has changed, it feels like the receptivity of
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  people has changed, people are wanting different things, but in every change
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  there's always opportunity, right?
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  But what I hear is in high level conversations, people are still
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  identified with certain things.
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  With success, with past successes that they have, with who they've built to be.
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  Now, if that gets rattled, there was a coach a long time ago who said this,
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  and I've heard this in multiple ways, but we don't get what we want in life.
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  We get what we identify as.
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  Now, I have some issues with that simply because of human design.
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  And sometimes people can get that really confused with doing
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  identity work in a certain way.
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  And if you have an open G center that can end up causing more
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  trouble than success and growth.
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  But at its core, that is correct.
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  What are we identifying as?
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  And that comes down to one core thing that I'm going to share with you.
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  But I want you to ask yourself right now, what are you identifying with?
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  Are you identifying with shame?
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  Are you identifying with success?
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  Are you identifying with big, wildly successful launches?
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  Are you identifying as someone who has FAILED launches?
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  Are you identifying as somebody who has wasted money?
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  Are you identifying as somebody who has invested well and is on the rise?
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  Are you identifying with 6 figure months?
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  Thanks.
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  Now notice I didn't say, have you experienced these things?
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  I've asked if you are identifying with them.
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  And the headline here is that you either carry you to new heights that are beyond
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  your wildest dreams, or it will tether you to the past or pull you back to points
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  in your life or places that you have never ever wanted to go, or go back to.
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  It could keep you in a loop and cycle of self sabotage.
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  What it comes down to, what the difference is between being able to
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  identify with a vision that grows us or a vision that pulls us back and
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  pulls us into what we do not want, is what are you identifying with?
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  So the phrase that I repeat to myself every day, at some point,
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  certainly when things don't go well.
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  Because we have to find a place of neutrality in our energy.
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  When something doesn't go well, you've got to feel that.
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  You have to feel the reality of it.
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  How does this make me feel?
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  In my programs, I teach you to tap through these things so you're actually
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  processing the emotion and releasing it, rather than just thinking it
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  through, which sometimes can not be enough to move it all the way out.
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  But we gotta start somewhere.
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  And you process that feeling, you sit with it, you deal with the reality of
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  it, and then it's time for you to choose.
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  Now, what am I going to feel?
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  Now, what am I going to identify with?
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  Because nothing has any meaning except the meaning that we put on it.
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  Let me say that again.
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  Nothing has any meaning except the meaning that we put on it.
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  And that means everything from the smallest thing, like, what does
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  this cup on my desk mean to me?
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  What does this shirt that I'm wearing mean to me?
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  I was robbed one time in Spain.
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  We were on vacation and they robbed our Airbnb.
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  And they didn't take everything, they took things that were like close
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  enough to windows that they could grab.
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  And one of the things was my jewelry box.
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  And while I didn't have really valuable things in there, thankfully
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  I had them all on my body, everything that was really valuable.
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  Or I left it at home.
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  But I did have A necklace that wasn't monetarily valuable.
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  It wasn't like I couldn't rebuy it or something.
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  I don't know what it even would have been worth, I doubt that they got
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  anything that was worth much out of it, but it belonged to my grandmother.
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  So that was a much more upsetting moment for me than it was for other people in the
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  house who just had like a watch stolen.
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  Which insurance will cover it.
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  Insurance couldn't cover that.
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  It was a very different meaning for me.
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  Even now when I talk about it, it makes me sad because I'm like, I wish
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  I could still wear my Nana's necklace.
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  Nothing has any meaning except the meaning that we put on it.
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  I choose to release that.
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  And it's the same thing with how we identify with successes
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  and failures in our life.
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  Can we remain neutral and recognize that this actually means nothing about me?
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  This actually has nothing to do with me except what I choose
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  to make it mean about me.
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  Nothing has any meaning except the meaning that we put on it.
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  Now, I could have a, I could have a launch, I could do a sale, I could
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  do something where I had goals, and then maybe I don't reach my goal.
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  Then what happens?
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  I could make it mean that I'm a failure, that I wasted money, that it didn't work,
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  that what I'm doing is not worth anything, that I should quit, that I'm a failure.
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  I could do that.
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  Or I could make it mean that I'm learning, I learned more, I know more, I'm more
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  successful today than I was yesterday.
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  There are so many ways that we can work with this, and it's not about
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  putting your head in the sand.
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  It's about being able to come to a neutral place, where you're not
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  putting all of that baggage and meaning on top of a result that you
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  got, because you're identifying with it and you're making it mean something
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  about you, You can't be objective and make good decisions from that place.
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  Now you're in your shame.
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  Now you're in your fear.
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  You are in a low frequency of who you are as a human being.
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  Nothing has any meaning except the meaning that I put on it.
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  If you keep repeating that to yourself, you will find that those moments
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  of feeling like it's your fault or like something you have to carry
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  with you, they start to go away.
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  And if it doesn't, then it's your sign that there is more
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  work for you to do there.
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  There is inner work for you to do.
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  And that's why the inner work never stops.
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  Every single high performer that I know, I don't know if they're asking
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  this specific question of themselves.
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  Nothing has any meaning except the meaning that I put on it.
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  What meaning am I putting on this?
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  I don't know if they're asking that question.
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  They are doing inner work.
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  They are mastering themselves every single moment.
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  They are feeling their feelings.
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  They are moving through things.
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  It is not easy out there, but the ones who make things happen are dealing
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  with the shitstorm on the back end.
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  And they are processing the way that it makes them feel.
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  They are processing their emotions because they know that it's not sustainable,
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  we're not in a business where you can grow as a personal business, as a personal
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  brand if you aren't growing as a person.
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  Our ability to hold more comes from us having a clean, energetic being.
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  We have to be open.
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  We have to create space for the success that we want.
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  Shame, guilt, feelings of failure, feelings like you're not good enough,
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  feelings like you're going to play small.
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  All of that stuff is taking up the space that you want success to fill.
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  Now we can't identify too much with the success either.
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  It's great if you could stay neutral and just say that none of this has any meaning
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  except the meaning that I put on it.
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  Now, if I want to put on the suit of, this means that I'm on my way.
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  Does that carry me and help my vision?
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  Well, let's see.
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  Let's try that on.
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  That sounds far more nurturing to what you want versus playing into
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  something that you do not want.
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  Your energy is going to be guiding you either backwards or forwards.
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  So you better learn to master it.
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  You better learn to come to the table with a clean energetic slate
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  and choose what you put on it, what you allow to be put there.
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  Work through your stuff.
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  Question.
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  Put it on a sticky note.
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  Put it on your desk.
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  Put it someplace that you can see it because this is something you'll want
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  to come back to time and time again.
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  What am I putting meaning on?
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  What am I identifying with and allowing a result to pin an identity
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  on me that maybe I did not choose?
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  This is a practice that you can go through every day of recognizing
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  what are you putting meaning on?
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  And if you do that, you will start to feel a shift in your energy.
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  You'll notice the drag that the negative identities, those negative
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  meanings are pulling down on you.
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  You will feel that drag.
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  When you start to do this work, you'll notice it.
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  Right now, it might just be the way that you are.
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  That you're so identified with the things that you do not want, it's
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  actually creating more of them.
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  It's actually become who you are.
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  And that is a key factor in trying to figure out what is holding you back.
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  That will be one of those things.
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  Are you identifying so much that you have become the things that you don't want?
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  That you're bringing them into every interaction, into every
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  action that you take, into every piece of content you write?
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  You're dragging that old identity that does not serve you with you.
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  We don't want that.
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  So ask this question.
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  I hope you got value out of this.
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  I hope that this is something that you can take into your week, take
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  into your months, because this is something, like I said, remind
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  yourself of this every single day.
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  I promise you, you will start to see shifts if you do.
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  So thanks for making it all the way to the end of this episode with me, everybody.
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  I appreciate you.
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  And remember, I love you.
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  In order to have an unshakeable business, first become an unshakeable human.
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  So thanks for letting us help you become unshakeable with human design, everyone.
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  We'll see you next time.
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