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Hypnosis to Level Up in Confidence and Reduce Anxiety · The Hypnotist

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  Welcome to The Hypnotist, the show that gives you inside
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  access to cutting edge hypnosis with real clients facing
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  genuine. Issues.
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  Brought to you by the hypnotherapist, demanded by
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  celebrities, CEOs and even royalty, Adam Cox.
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  These recordings took place live from Evans Clinic in London's
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  world famous Harley Street, so get yourself comfortable and
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  enjoy today's episode of The Hypnotist.
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  Hi, it's Adam here and on this episode of The Hypnotist, it's
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  all about anxiety and levels of anxiety.
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  And I was working with a client that found themselves in a
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  situation where they felt the anxiety in their chest, in their
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  gut. And that would mean that they
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  would. Avoid.
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  Doing certain things, and that's quite common because anxiety is
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  a lot about anticipating the future and trying to mitigate
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  risks or reducing emotional intensity.
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  So this particular client had these kind of feelings at the
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  idea of doing stuff because they had had experiences in the past
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  where doing the thing meant that they felt this horrible
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  sensation in their body. This particular client was quite
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  young, a young adult, loved playing games and had this way
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  of feeling relaxed and calm while playing games.
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  So this hypnosis session is the gamification of anxiety, uses
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  the idea of a real game like football and then a video game
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  like AVR headset to look at things that in the past caused
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  real intense levels of anxiety. So they could imagine an avatar.
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  An avatar if you've seen the movie.
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  Is these kind? Of alien bodies.
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  But an avatar in a video game is effectively the character that
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  you play. So the character that he was
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  playing was a confident, calm, relaxed version of himself.
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  And by playing that character, it then links to a resource
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  state. And then lots of video games
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  have these little score bars. XP means experience points and
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  you've got confidence and things.
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  So he can see them going up and changing depending on the
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  circumstances. So if there are things in your
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  life that makes you makes you anxious and makes you feel a bit
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  overwhelmed and you like the idea of video games, this
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  hypnosis brings the two together.
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  So you might find that useful in the in the show notes, in the
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  description. There's loads of free things,
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  free guides, free downloads, free courses to check them out
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  and also if you like the idea of working with me directly, there
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  will be a free consultation call that you can book by clicking
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  the link in the description. For now though, find a quiet,
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  comfortable place that you won't be disturbed.
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  Relax and enjoy the session. Take a deep breath in and on the
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  outward breath just allow your eyelids to close.
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  That's it. Breathing in relaxation and
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  exhaling any tension. Just feel your eyelids getting
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  heavier and more relaxed. That's it, breathe in and
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  breathe out and on the next outward breath, just feel that
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  with your eyes closed you can focus more on the sound of my
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  voice, breathing and relaxation and exhaling tension.
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  The weight of your eyelids getting heavier and heavier, and
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  I want you to scan your body for any clues of tension or anxiety
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  and just feel that you're breathing in a bright colour
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  that represents resourceful relaxation.
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  Maybe that's a bright blue, yellow or a different colour,
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  but as you imagine breathing in that resourceful relaxation,
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  just imagine it melting away any of that tension or anxiety,
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  breath by breath, so that as you breathe out, it feels like that
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  tension or anxiety is leaving your body in your outward
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  breath. So each breath takes you deeper
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  and deeper, relaxed as you breathe in and breathe out.
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  I want you to imagine what it would feel like to stand at the
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  top of a staircase, maybe a wooden staircase or maybe made
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  of marble. But I want you to imagine that
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  as you walk down the staircase, the bottom of the staircase is a
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  football pitch. A football pitch on a sunny day.
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  But right now you're at the top of the staircase.
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  And very soon as I countdown from 12:50 with each descending
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  number, you will imagine what it would feel like to feel 10%
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  deeper and deeper relaxed with each downward step, each
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  descending number, to breathe in that feeling of resourceful
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  relaxation. And 10 take the first step down
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  the staircase feeling a wave of relaxation.
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  And then 9, another step down the staircase, this time feeling
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  a release around your forehead, your jaw.
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  The muscles in your face are relaxing.
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  That's it. And then eight, another step
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  down the staircase, this time focus on the top of your head
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  all the way down to the back of your neck.
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  And just imagine all of those tiny muscles and tendons
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  relaxing. That's it.
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  And then seven, another step down the staircase as this time
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  you focus on your neck and your shoulders.
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  Some people consider this the bank account of stress.
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  And just imagine stress being like crystals of ice frozen into
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  your muscle tissue. And as you step down the
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  staircase and breathe in that resourceful relaxation, those
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  crystals of ice that feel like stress are just melting away.
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  They're in your neck and your shoulders.
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  And so they loosen and relax. And as seven turns to six, just
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  imagine your whole arms feeling limp, loose, and heavy.
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  Another step down the staircase. That's it.
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  Just imagine what it would feel like for your arms to be so
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  relaxed. They felt like the limbs of a
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  puppet with no strings. Limp, loose and relax.
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  And then five, halfway down the staircase.
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  Now, as you focus on your internal organs, imagine your
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  heart relaxing, your lungs relaxing, your stomach relaxing,
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  That's it. And then four, another step
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  down. Now focus on your gut, because
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  the gut and the chest is where anxiety feels like it lives.
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  But actually it's just tiny muscles that get tense sometimes
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  in the gut, sometimes around the rib cage.
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  But as you breathe in that resourceful relaxation, feel all
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  of those muscles relax now. That's it.
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  And then four becomes 3. Focus now on your legs.
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  Another step down the staircase and just feel the top of your
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  legs feeling so relaxed. And then two down into your calf
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  muscles and now feel like your legs, like your arms.
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  I like that puppet with no strings, just all limp, loose
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  and relaxed. That's it.
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  And then one, the final step on the staircase.
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  Now focus on your feet, your ankles, your toes.
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  Just feel a wave of relaxation from the toes to the top of your
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  head, all the way down to your fingertips.
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  And when your whole body is relaxed, take that final step
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  onto the football pitch. And I want you to imagine that
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  football pitch is on a sunny day under blue skies.
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  Not hot, but not cold, just a warm sunny day.
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  And imagine you're wearing whatever clothing is suitable to
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  be on that football pitch. And I want you to notice how
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  comfortable, relaxed, and confident you feel on that
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  football pitch and just awaken all of those neural pathways
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  linked to relaxation, confidence, a calmness.
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  And I want you to imagine you're not alone on that football
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  pitch. There's other people around.
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  And even though there are other people, you still feel
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  comfortable, calm and relaxed. Nothing fazes you here and just
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  feel that wonderful feeling of resourcefulness.
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  That's it. The deeper you breathe, the more
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  relaxed you become. That's it.
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  And I want you to imagine, for some reason, on that football
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  pitch is the most advanced VR headset you've ever seen, the
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  latest in virtual reality technology.
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  I want you to imagine it's lightweight, futuristic, glowing
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  softly, with an energy that feels safe, reassuring and
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  powerful. And notice as you put it on, the
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  outside world begins to fade away and a whole new reality
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  begins to form. And this is a world that you
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  control, a world where every challenge is simply a different
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  level of a game. And in this game, you are not
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  just yourself, you are also your avatar.
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  And as this world loads around you, colours sharpen, sounds
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  become crisp, and I want you to notice your avatar standing
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  before you. This doesn't have to be like a
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  monster or a robot. This avatar is simply the
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  version of you that is calm, confident and resourceful.
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  It's you, but different. The most confident, comfortable,
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  relaxed version of you. And just study your avatar.
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  See how they breathe steadily, they stand tall, and even the
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  way they move is with ease and certainty.
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  And when you're convinced that this avatar is a confident,
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  resourceful, comfortable version of you, let me know by nodding
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  your head. That's it.
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  And then you step forward, merging with that avatar like
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  it's a skin on top of yours. You are now inside the Avatar,
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  becoming them from the inside out, and I want you to feel what
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  it's like to move as this confident self, like every nerve
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  and muscle, already programmed to respond in ways that help you
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  win. Every level you face will make
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  you stronger, calmer and more powerful.
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  Just like any great game, I want you to notice you have a display
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  bar. In one corner is your confidence
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  bar, glowing brightly. Another is your calm meter,
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  gently pulsing, steady and reliable and in the center.
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  Just imagine seeing an XP counter showing that every new
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  challenge gives you more experience, more strength, more
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  wisdom, and the rules of this game are simple to win.
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  You do the thing, even if before or even now it feels hard.
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  The more you do it, the stronger your avatar becomes.
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  And if you avoid whatever The thing is in this game, you
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  simply stay on the same level. You don't lose, you don't fail,
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  you just don't progress and action means unlocking new
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  skills, new powers and new freedom.
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  And now imagine the game creating levels for you.
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  And let's imagine level 1 is you travelling alone.
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  Think of a destination and allow the VR world to create it, and
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  then see yourself either as a third person, like you're seeing
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  yourself from above or behind, or feel like you're looking at
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  the world through your own eyes. And maybe you see yourself
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  travelling to that destination, maybe on a bus or on a train.
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  Maybe it's abroad and you're travelling on a plane.
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  But I want you to notice your levels.
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  Notice as your avatar, your calm meter rises with each steady
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  breath, your confidence bar glows brighter with every step
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  you take. And just by playing this level,
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  imagining going to that destination alone, you've gained
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  XP. I don't want you to imagine each
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  time you listen to this recording, the destination will
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  change and you get to make it more difficult each time.
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  But for this destination, if you feel like you can imagine what
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  it would be like to calmly and confidently get to that
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  destination to travel alone successfully, let me know by
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  nodding your head. That's it.
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  And now see a congratulations sign on the screen as it
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  welcomes you to level 2. And this level is called
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  university. And maybe it's an open day, or
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  maybe it's starting your very first term or freshers week.
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  I want you to see that this level involves packing,
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  travelling, meeting new people. And you discover your avatar has
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  a new skill, unlock adaptability.
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  And this skill means that no matter what's unfamiliar, you
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  simply learn quickly. Every conversation, every
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  experience just adds to your XP. Every classroom, every social
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  event, every interaction is a small victory and you can feel
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  it. This is a winnable game because
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  just being there is winning. And if you could imagine,
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  whether it's for a day or several days, feeling calm,
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  confident and relaxed in this new environment, let me know by
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  nodding your head. That's it.
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  And now you progress to Level 3 exams and revision.
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  And maybe in the past it felt daunting, pressured, stressful.
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  And this is A level about coping with pressure, but I want you to
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  notice a new power up, and it's called focus mode.
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  You can activate it whenever you want just by making time and
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  space to focus on one thing. And when you activate it,
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  distractions fade and any intrusive thoughts or in a
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  dialogue just is dialed all the way down.
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  And you can see your calm meter balancing pressure with clarity,
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  so much so that every page you revise, every question answered,
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  every moment of preparation adds to your XP.
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  And you realize it's not about perfection, winning or losing.
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  It's about progressing, doing what you can to give you the
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  best probability of doing well. And I want you to imagine in
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  this VR game going through all of the steps, revision,
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  preparation, practice papers, and then actually doing the
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  exam. And if you feel you can do that
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  in this game in a calm, confident, relaxed way, let me
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  know about nodding your head. And now the screen updates to
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  level 4, simply called health anxieties.
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  And this level can seem darker, but as your avatar, you now hold
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  a healing aura, kind of like a force field, so that whenever
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  worries come, you breathe, and that aura glows stronger.
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  It soothes, reassures and calms, and you realize that your avatar
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  knows how to manage uncertainty not by running from it, but by
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  facing it with calm strength. That's why I want you to imagine
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  what it would be like just within the game to have some
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  kind of health issue, but rather than worrying or panicking or
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  overthinking, activate your health aura, feel those healing
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  properties, and notice you're in a dialogue assumes the best.
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  These health issues are no big deal, but that doesn't mean you
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  ignore them. If you need an appointment, you
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  need some feedback or test, you do the tests in a calm,
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  confident, relaxed way. Because in this level you
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  realize it's better to assume that it's nothing serious, have
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  any tests that are needed, assume everything's fine until
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  you have irrefutable evidence, then it isn't, rather than the
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  other way round. In the past, maybe you assumed
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  that it could be something serious until you had the
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  reassurance that it wasn't. So this game is about doing the
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  opposite, and if you could imagine that health issue, you
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  assume it's no big deal. Get it checked out and whatever
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  the tests come back with, you feel like you can handle it.
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  Just let me know by nodding your head.
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  That's in. And some games have a final
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  boss, a nemesis you have to defeat in order to complete the
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  game. And the final boss in this game
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  is anxiety itself. Perhaps you could imagine a big
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  scary enemy with a T-shirt that says Anxiety, But you realise
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  this is just pixels, A generated image, an illusion.
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  And most anxiety is an illusion. Anxiety is like shadows, action
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  is like light. They can't coexist in the same
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  space, and with every breath, your calm meter rises.
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  With every step toward that nemesis, your confidence bar
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  fills. And with every choice to face
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  rather than avoid, your XP counter explodes.
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  With power boost after boost after boost, you realize the way
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  to win isn't to destroy anxiety, to play better, smarter,
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  stronger. To assume you have the resources
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  to cope until anxiety shrinks and fades.
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  And just imagine that big scary final boss shrinking to
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  something the size of a small insect, like an Ant, when that
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  final boss has just shrunk to something small and
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  insignificant. Let me know about nodding your
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  head. That's it.
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  And as you claim victory, you unlock a new permanent upgrade,
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  empowered mode, a deep knowing that you can face life's levels
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  and that you grow by doing, not avoiding that It's the
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  challenges themselves that enable you to win.
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  And as you think about the days ahead, you know that whenever
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  you feel uncertainty, you can activate your avatar, feel that
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  calmness rise, the confidence bar glow, and the XP counter
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  increase. And it doesn't matter what The
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  thing is. Big spaces, unfamiliar places,
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  people you don't know. Every challenge is a chance to
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  level up. I want you to think about your
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  favorite game, and if it wasn't challenging, you would be bored.
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  If it didn't become more difficult, you wouldn't want to
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  play. I want you to get a sense that
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  life is now a game for you. Avoiding difficult levels stops
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  you growing, but feeling that you have the ability to activate
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  resources or learn how to handle that situation shrinks anxiety
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  and grows confidence. So you no longer need to avoid
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  because avoidance is like pressing pause.
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  And you were born to play, born to win.
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  I want you to imagine taking off that VR headset, finding
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  yourself back on that football pitch and thinking like
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  football. Is it like life?
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  Some opponents are difficult and some opponents are easy.
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  But if you only play easy opponents, you don't get better.
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  And sometimes you need to learn through losing to figure out
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  what to do differently. But the more you play, the more
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  experience you get, and what once was a difficult opponent
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  becomes winnable, beatable. And each time you win,
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  confidence grows even more. And if you feel a willingness to
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  experience rather than avoid, take on the challenge.
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  Let me know about nodding your head.
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  That's it. And just feel that confident,
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  calm, relaxed feeling within you.
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  And then see that staircase there on the football pitch,
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  only this time you're walking up the stairs.
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  So imagine walking up the staircase and when you get to
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  the top, take a deep breath in through your nose and out
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  through your nose. Wiggle your fingers and wiggle
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  your toes. Connect and calibrate into the
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  here and the now as I now count from 1:00 to 10:00 to awaken
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  you. Starting to count 123 waking up
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  456 more alert 7-8. Open your eyes.
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  Open your eyes 910. Wide awake.
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  Wide awake. Wide awake.