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Am I Too Late? The Truth Every Woman Carrying That Question Needs to Hear · Your Utmost Life

• 0:00
  Misty Celli: I need to say something to you before we go anywhere else today.
• 0:04
  Misty Celli: And I need you to hear it, not as a motivational statement, and not as something someone says to make you feel better, but as something I know to be true because I have lived the evidence of it.
• 0:16
  Misty Celli: It's not too late.
• 0:18
  Misty Celli: Not for you, not for the woman you thought you would be by now, not for the life you have been quietly, persistently, almost secretly longing for while you went about the business of holding everything else together.
• 0:32
  Misty Celli: Not too late.
• 0:34
  Misty Celli: I know that belief has been sitting in you, maybe for years, maybe it arrived so gradually you didn't notice when it stopped being a passing thought and became a quiet operating assumption.
• 0:47
  Misty Celli: The background Tom of a woman who had decided without fully deciding that her window has passed.
• 0:54
  Misty Celli: That the woman who figured this out did so earlier, more efficiently, with less damage done.
• 1:01
  Misty Celli: That wherever the starting line was, she missed it and now she is watching everyone else run a race she is too far behind to enter.
• 1:11
  Misty Celli: I know that belief.
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  Misty Celli: I have lived inside it, and I'm here today with everything I have, with everything I know, with the specific authority of a woman who has been exactly where you are and found her way to the other side of it to tell you that that belief is a lie.
• 1:28
  Misty Celli: Not a gentle misunderstanding or a understandable mistake, but a lie.
• 1:33
  Misty Celli: And today we are dismantling it completely.
• 1:37
  Misty Celli: If you are tired of feeling like you don't know who you are anymore, and when you look in the mirror, you catch yourself thinking, is this all there is?
• 1:44
  Misty Celli: Even though you know you are made for more, you are in the right place.
• 1:48
  Misty Celli: I'm Misty Chili, and I help women step into their highest potential and design a life that feels true, rich, and deeply satisfying.
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  Misty Celli: A life built by design, not by default.
• 1:58
  Misty Celli: On this podcast, you will learn the principles and strategic tools that create real lasting transformation in your health, your relationships, your confidence, your goals, and the deeper parts of you like purpose, growth, love, and parenting.
• 2:11
  Misty Celli: This is where you begin the process of becoming your utmost self and reclaiming a life that feels like yours again.
• 2:17
  Misty Celli: Welcome to your Utmost Life Podcast.
• 2:20
  Misty Celli: Before I say another word, I want to sit with you in where you are exactly right now.
• 2:27
  Misty Celli: Because I think there is a specific kind of heaviness that comes with believing that you are behind.
• 2:33
  Misty Celli: And it's not the heaviness of grief exactly, even though grief is part of it.
• 2:38
  Misty Celli: And it's not the heaviness of failure, exactly, even though that is part of it too, but it's the specific, particular heaviness of a woman who has been carrying a dream she has almost convinced herself to put down.
• 2:51
  Misty Celli: Almost, but not quite.
• 2:54
  Misty Celli: Because if you had fully put it down, if you had truly accepted that the window was closed and the moment was gone, you wouldn't be here right now.
• 3:03
  Misty Celli: You would not have pressed play on this episode.
• 3:05
  Misty Celli: You would not have been searching for something, reaching for something, or following the thread of something that refuses to let you go completely, no matter how many times you tell yourself to be quiet.
• 3:16
  Misty Celli: The fact that you are here right now listening to this is not an accident.
• 3:20
  Misty Celli: It's not coincidence.
• 3:22
  Misty Celli: It's her.
• 3:23
  Misty Celli: It's the part of you that has never fully accepted the story that it's too late.
• 3:28
  Misty Celli: The part that keeps sending you toward content like this, toward conversations like this, and toward the specific words that speak to the specific ache you have been carrying.
• 3:38
  Misty Celli: She sent you here today, and I need you to honor that before we go any further.
• 3:43
  Misty Celli: Not by doing anything, but just by acknowledging it, by letting it be true that some part of you is still reaching, still fighting, still absolutely, stubbornly, beautifully refusing to believe that she is gone because she isn't.
• 3:58
  Misty Celli: And today, finally, we're going to talk about why.
• 4:02
  Misty Celli: Here's what I think has been running underneath the surface for you, and I want you to feel how precisely this lands.
• 4:09
  Misty Celli: You look at other women, women who seem to have figured out their footing, who seem to know who they are, who move through their lives with groundedness and aliveness that you recognize and ache for, and something in you does a calculation, a painful, automatic, entirely unfair calculation.
• 4:28
  Misty Celli: You calculate that they figured it out earlier, that they started sooner.
• 4:33
  Misty Celli: They didn't lose as many years, they didn't make the mistakes you made or gave away as much as you gave or waited as long as you waited, and therefore they're ahead and you're behind.
• 4:44
  Misty Celli: And the distance between where they are and where you are feels on the hardest days like a distance you cannot close.
• 4:53
  Misty Celli: And therefore, you have developed a very specific relationship with hope, a careful one, a managed one, the kind where you allow yourself to want things just enough to keep going, but not so much that the disappointment of not having them becomes unbearable.
• 5:11
  Misty Celli: The kind where you read about transformation and think, for some women, yes.
• 5:15
  Misty Celli: For women who started years earlier, yes.
• 5:18
  Misty Celli: For women whose damage is less extensive than mine, yes.
• 5:23
  Misty Celli: But not quite for you.
• 5:25
  Misty Celli: Not fully, not yet, maybe not ever.
• 5:30
  Misty Celli: That calculation, however logical it feels, however much evidence you gather in its support, is not the truth about your situation.
• 5:40
  Misty Celli: It is the story your fear has been telling you in your reasons voice, and it's convincing and it's wrong.
• 5:48
  Misty Celli: However, and this is the thing I need you to really hear.
• 5:52
  Misty Celli: The fact that you've been believing it does not mean you are weak.
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  Misty Celli: It means you are human.
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  Misty Celli: It means you have been carrying something heavy for a long time without the specific piece of understanding that would allow you to put it down.
• 6:08
  Misty Celli: That peace is what today is about.
• 6:12
  Misty Celli: I want to tell you about a dream I set down once and picked back up 20 years later, and what I found when I came back for it.
• 6:21
  Misty Celli: When I was young, before the marriage, before the kids, before the life that accumulated around me, I had a dream.
• 6:27
  Misty Celli: I was going to be a real estate agent, not for the transaction of it, not for the income of it, for what I understood a home to mean.
• 6:36
  Misty Celli: See, my father built custom luxury homes.
• 6:38
  Misty Celli: My mother understood what a space was not just a structure, it was a place where life got to happen.
• 6:45
  Misty Celli: And I wanted to help people find that, their place, their story, the space where their life could play out exactly as it was meant to be.
• 6:55
  Misty Celli: I was working toward that dream, genuinely actively working toward it when I became a single mother.
• 7:02
  Misty Celli: I had to look honestly at what showing homes at night and on weekends with a schedule built around last-minute calls and unpredictable hours would actually mean for my daughter, for the kind of mother I was committed to being, for her safety and for her care and the presence she deserved.
• 7:18
  Misty Celli: And so I made a decision, a quiet one, a loving one.
• 7:22
  Misty Celli: I set the dream down.
• 7:24
  Misty Celli: Not because it stopped being me, not because I stopped wanting it, and not because I decided that I had missed my window or that that moment had passed or that some other woman was better suited to it than I was.
• 7:37
  Misty Celli: I set it down because it was not the right season.
• 7:40
  Misty Celli: And I trusted, not without grief, not without loss, but with a clarity I couldn't fully explain at the time, that setting it down was not the same as losing it.
• 7:51
  Misty Celli: Twenty years later, I got my real estate license.
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  Misty Celli: I want you to sit with that for a moment.
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  Misty Celli: Twenty years, two decades of living a life that did not include that dream, of raising children and building a marriage and surviving a breakdown and stumbling and recovering and building again, 20 years of carrying that thread quietly, not always consciously, not never quite letting it go completely.
• 8:18
  Misty Celli: And when I came back for it, when I walked back into that dream as the woman I had become rather than the woman I had been, it fit.
• 8:28
  Misty Celli: Not because nothing had changed, because the dream had never belonged to a season.
• 8:34
  Misty Celli: It had belonged to me, and I had always belonged to it.
• 8:39
  Misty Celli: I did not find a new dream.
• 8:41
  Misty Celli: I remembered an old one.
• 8:43
  Misty Celli: I returned to something that had been waiting patiently, without resentment, without expiration, for me to be ready to claim it fully.
• 8:51
  Misty Celli: However, here is what I need you to understand about that story.
• 8:54
  Misty Celli: The 20 years were not wasted time.
• 8:56
  Misty Celli: They were not evidence that I had missed my window.
• 8:59
  Misty Celli: They were the years that built the woman who could live that dream fully, with the wisdom and groundedness and the self-knowledge that the younger version of me did not yet have.
• 9:09
  Misty Celli: Therefore, the years you spend in the waiting, in the giving, in the disappearing, and the partial recovery and wondering if it's too late, those years are not the evidence that you missed it.
• 9:21
  Misty Celli: They are building of the woman who is ready to claim it.
• 9:25
  Misty Celli: And that woman, the one built by everything you have lived, is more equipped for this work than the younger version of you ever could have been.
• 9:34
  Misty Celli: Not despite what you have been through, but because of it.
• 9:39
  Misty Celli: See, the belief that there was a right time, a window, a moment, a season when this work would have been easier or more available or more deserved, that belief is built on a premise that does not hold up when you look at it honestly.
• 9:53
  Misty Celli: The premise is this that transformation has a deadline, that the work of returning to yourself and it's time sensitive in the way a sale is time sensitive or a flight is time sensitive, something with a specific window that closes and does not reopen.
• 10:11
  Misty Celli: However, consider what you actually know about the women who have done this work, the ones who found their way back to themselves.
• 10:17
  Misty Celli: Are they the ones who started earliest?
• 10:20
  Misty Celli: Are they the ones with the least damage, the cleanest histories, the most favorable circumstances?
• 10:25
  Misty Celli: Or are they simply the ones who decided?
• 10:28
  Misty Celli: Who reached a point, whatever point, at whatever age, in whatever season, where the cost of staying the same finally outweighed the fear of changing?
• 10:36
  Misty Celli: Who said, not when everything is ready, not when the circumstances align, not when I have earned it, but now, today, in this exact life, as this exact woman, with everything I have lived and everything I have lost, and everything I am still carrying.
• 10:52
  Misty Celli: Transformation does not have a deadline, it has a decision.
• 10:56
  Misty Celli: And a decision is available to you right now, at whatever age you are, in whatever season you are in, with however many years you feel you are behind.
• 11:06
  Misty Celli: Furthermore, and this is the part I need you to really sit with, the work you do now lands differently than it would have landed earlier, because you are not the same woman you were five years ago, 10 or 20 years ago.
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  Misty Celli: You have been shaped by everything you have lived.
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  Misty Celli: And the woman shaped by those years, the one who has loved deeply and given fully and survived things she wasn't sure she would survive, that woman has a depth of understanding that the earlier version of you simply did not have.
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  Misty Celli: Therefore, the years are not evidence that you missed it.
• 11:41
  Misty Celli: They are the preparation, and you are more ready now in this moment as this woman than you have ever been.
• 11:49
  Misty Celli: I want to give you something now, not information, but permission.
• 11:53
  Misty Celli: The specific, direct, unconditional permission that I think you've been waiting for without letting yourself admit it.
• 12:00
  Misty Celli: You are allowed to begin right now, today, without waiting for the circumstances to align or the fear to subside or the grief of lost time to fully resolve, without earning it first or proving you're ready or checking whether you have sufficient enough or waited long enough or paid enough of the price that you somehow believe is required before a woman like you gets to have this.
• 12:26
  Misty Celli: You are allowed to want this fully, not cautiously, not with one hand on the emergency brake in case it doesn't work out, but fully with both hands, with the specific courage of a woman who has been deciding that the cost of not waiting is higher than the risk of wanting it completely.
• 12:46
  Misty Celli: You are allowed to be the woman who got here later than she planned and found out that later is not the same as too late, that her window did not close, that it has been open, wide open, patient, unhurried this entire time, waiting not for the right season, but for her decision.
• 13:04
  Misty Celli: And here is the most important permission I can give you, the one that I think sits underneath all of the things.
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  Misty Celli: You are allowed to be exactly the woman you are right now, with everything you have lived, with everything you have lost, with everything you are still carrying, and have this.
• 13:23
  Misty Celli: Not a version of this for women who got here earlier or women whose damage is less extensive or women who are further along.
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  Misty Celli: This, the full version, the complete return, the life built around who you actually are rather than who everyone needs you to be.
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  Misty Celli: That is not reserved for other women.
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  Misty Celli: It never was.
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  Misty Celli: It was always yours.
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  Misty Celli: You just couldn't see it clear enough to claim it.
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  Misty Celli: You now can see it.
• 13:53
  Misty Celli: I want you to do something with me, and I need you to let yourself actually feel this rather than observe it from a safe distance.
• 14:00
  Misty Celli: Think about the moment you found this episode.
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  Misty Celli: Whatever you were doing, wherever you were, however you arrived here, maybe you searched for something and this came up.
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  Misty Celli: Maybe someone sent it to you.
• 14:11
  Misty Celli: Maybe you were scrolling at a time of night when you should have been sleeping and something in the title stopped you.
• 14:17
  Misty Celli: That moment, however ordinary it felt, was not random.
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  Misty Celli: She sent you here.
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  Misty Celli: The part of you that has been whispering in the longing and the restlessness and the moments you couldn't explain.
• 14:31
  Misty Celli: She has been sending you toward this your entire life.
• 14:36
  Misty Celli: Every book you picked up, every conversation that moved you, every piece of content that made you think, that's me, that's exactly what I've been feeling.
• 14:44
  Misty Celli: That was her.
• 14:46
  Misty Celli: Keeping the threat alive, refusing to let you fully convince yourself that it was too late, leading you with the patience of someone who knows you will eventually get still enough to listen toward this exact moment.
• 14:59
  Misty Celli: This moment, not a moment that passed years ago, not a moment that belongs to a younger or less damaged or more deserving version of you.
• 15:07
  Misty Celli: This one, right now, with everything you are and everything you've lived and everything you've been quietly carrying toward this day.
• 15:14
  Misty Celli: The whisper has been getting louder.
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  Misty Celli: You can feel it.
• 15:18
  Misty Celli: The fact that you are here is proof of it.
• 15:22
  Misty Celli: And the window you have been afraid was closed is not closed.
• 15:26
  Misty Celli: It has been open this entire time, and it's open right now, wide, patient, yours.
• 15:35
  Misty Celli: Furthermore, imagine the woman on the other side of the decision, not far from now, not after years of more waiting and more wondering and more managing the longing from a careful distance.
• 15:47
  Misty Celli: Soon.
• 15:48
  Misty Celli: The woman who said yes, not when everything was ready, not when the fear was gone, but now, today, in this exact life as this exact woman, she wakes up differently.
• 16:00
  Misty Celli: Not because her circumstances have changed, but because her foundation has.
• 16:05
  Misty Celli: She moves through her Tuesday with the quiet confidence of a woman who chose herself, who did the complete work, who built something solid enough to stand on when life gets loud again.
• 16:16
  Misty Celli: Her kids feel the difference.
• 16:18
  Misty Celli: Her husband feels the difference.
• 16:20
  Misty Celli: However, most importantly, she feels the difference, and her own body and the quality of her own presence, and the specific, irreplaceable feeling of a woman who is fully, finally, unapologetically home in herself.
• 16:35
  Misty Celli: That woman is you, not a different version of you, not a future version who has everything figured out, but you, the woman listening right now on the other side of one decision.
• 16:48
  Misty Celli: The decision that is not too late, that your time is right now, that she has been waiting long enough, and so have you.
• 16:56
  Misty Celli: I want to bring you back to something I said at the very beginning of the episode.
• 17:00
  Misty Celli: It's not too late.
• 17:02
  Misty Celli: I need you to hear that differently now than you heard it the three minutes in.
• 17:06
  Misty Celli: Because now you have the evidence.
• 17:08
  Misty Celli: The real estate dream set down and reclaimed 20 years later, not lost, waiting.
• 17:14
  Misty Celli: The years that felt like wasted time revealed as preparation, the window that felt closed, exposed as wide open, impatient, and entirely yours.
• 17:24
  Misty Celli: It's not too late.
• 17:25
  Misty Celli: And your time, the specific, unrepeatable, exactly right for who you are right now, time is not coming.
• 17:33
  Misty Celli: It is here.
• 17:34
  Misty Celli: It has always been here for you.
• 17:38
  Misty Celli: You just needed someone to tell you you clearly enough that you could finally believe it.
• 17:43
  Misty Celli: So let me tell you clearly the work of returning to yourself, the complete work, the work that builds a foundation solid enough to stand on, the work that builds the Tuesday morning we talked about last episode, that work is available to you right now.
• 18:00
  Misty Celli: Not when you're more ready, not when the circumstances are better, not when you've waited long enough to deserve it.
• 18:07
  Misty Celli: Now, today, as the exact woman you are.
• 18:11
  Misty Celli: The utmost method exists for this moment, for this woman, for the one who has been whispering to you since long before you knew her name, and the first step, the real one, the one that makes everything else possible, does not require you to be further along or more prepared or less afraid.
• 18:30
  Misty Celli: It requires you to decide that it's not too late, that your time is right now, that she has been waiting long enough, and so have you, and today is the day you stop making her wait.
• 18:43
  Misty Celli: Everything you need to take the first step is in the show notes.
• 18:47
  Misty Celli: I want you there, not someday, now.
• 18:50
  Misty Celli: And before you go, I want to leave you with something to carry out of this episode and into the rest of your day.
• 18:56
  Misty Celli: End your week, and every moment the old story tries to come back.
• 19:00
  Misty Celli: Say this, mean it, let it land in the deepest part of you.
• 19:04
  Misty Celli: It's not too late.
• 19:06
  Misty Celli: My time is right now.
• 19:07
  Misty Celli: She has been whispering this whole time and the longing and the restlessness and every moment I couldn't explain.
• 19:15
  Misty Celli: And I hear her, and I am choosing her today.
• 19:19
  Misty Celli: When the voice comes that says, but you've waited too long, but everyone else is ahead of you, but your window has passed, and it will come because that voice is persistent and it sounds like realism.
• 19:31
  Misty Celli: Answer it with what you know now.
• 19:33
  Misty Celli: Dreams don't expire, self-worth doesn't run out, windows don't close on women who are ready to walk through them.
• 19:40
  Misty Celli: And I am ready.
• 19:41
  Misty Celli: Not perfectly ready, not fearlessly ready, ready enough, and ready enough is all it ever takes.
• 19:49
  Misty Celli: You found this today for a reason.
• 19:51
  Misty Celli: She sent you here, and she has been waiting patiently, persistently, with the quiet certainty of someone who always knew you would come for exactly this moment.
• 20:02
  Misty Celli: This is the moment.
• 20:04
  Misty Celli: She is waiting.
• 20:05
  Misty Celli: Choose her.
• 20:06
  Misty Celli: You are more than everyone's everything.
• 20:08
  Misty Celli: You are someone.