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Hypnosis for Supreme Self Confidence in Dating and Relationships · The Hypnotist

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Welcome to The Hypnotist, the show that gives you inside
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access to cutting edge hypnosis with real clients facing genuine
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issues. Brought to you by the
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hypnotherapist, demanded by celebrities, CEOs and even
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royalty. Adam Cox.
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world famous Harley Street. This podcast features powerful
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hypnosis, so do not listen while driving or operating machinery.
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severe mental health issues, so get yourself comfortable and
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enjoy today's episode of The Hypnotist.
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Hi, it's Adam here. And in today's episode of The
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Hypnotist, you're going to be listening to a hypnosis session
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created for a client that had ended a long term relationship
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of many decades and was starting to date again after that
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separation, but obviously fell out of their comfort zone
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because they hadn't been with anyone else for many, many
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years. So it felt daunting.
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There was an element of anxiety, fear, trepidation and
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hesitation. Attached to that.
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And what you're going to hear in this hypnosis session is
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regression to a resource state and then future pacing to prime
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and anchor and trigger a resourceful state in the right
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context. So they could remember a time
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when they were a young adult dating and just oozing with
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confidence and really feeling in the flow, feeling comfortable in
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their own skin, engaging and initiating and and really
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feeling comfortable. So we go back to that time and
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harness those resource states. Call it.
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Confidence, charisma and a feeling of freeness of of
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relaxation. And then anchoring.
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That and they could recall wearing a watch at the time.
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They had a different watch now, but the key thing is that they
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tend to wear a watch. So you will hear certain
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anchoring suggestions of feeling the feeling and then touching a
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watch in a particular way. And that was.
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Useful. Because then they could trigger
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that feeling in the future dates where they would want it, and
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then there's an element of observing themself with those.
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Qualities. With those resources in an
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upcoming date where it would be helpful for them.
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So there's a bit going on here. I would say it's going to be
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most helpful if you are currently in the in the dating
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game you're, let's say meeting new people, but that's kind of
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socially or actually going on dates or early stages of a
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relationship and are. Feeling some.
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Level of discomfort or anxiety and it might be anxiety of
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performance anxiety where it might be anxiety of where the
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relationship may end up It it doesn't really matter.
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Just be clear on how you would like it to be.
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Remember a time when you had that feeling and then you'll be
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able to future pace that to an upcoming situational context
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where it would be useful for you.
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Obviously it was created for a specific clients where the
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references about a river and a gas.
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LAMP were specific to that client.
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Because they could recall that sculpture, that river, that
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Lantern, and that might not map across to you.
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So ignore anything that is irrelevant.
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Hone in on what is relevant and useful for you.
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And if you do like the idea. Of.
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A bespoke session created for you.
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There will be a link in the show notes where you can schedule
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that free consultation call. We'll have a chat and maybe I'm
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the right hypnotherapist to work with you to help.
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You access. More confident feeling in
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certain situations. For now though, find a quiet,
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comfortable place where you won't be disturbed.
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Relax and enjoy the session. Take a deep breath in.
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As you breathe in, breathe in relaxation.
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And as you exhale, allow your eyelids to close, and as they
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close, get a sense that you can give more of your attention to
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the sound of my voice. As you continue to breathe in
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that relaxation and get a sense that you're releasing any
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tension, any stress, any worries, let them go and feel
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that they're leaving your body in that outward breath.
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On the next inward breath, breathe in deeper than you
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normally would. And as you exhale, just elongate
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that outward breath slower and longer, creating a vacuum there
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in your diaphragm so that you naturally breathe deeper, longer
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and slower. And the deeper you breathe, the
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more relaxed you become. And the more relaxed you become,
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the deeper you breathe. And I wonder if you can use the
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power of your imagination to imagine going all the way back
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to a specific river. Perhaps you can recall from
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university days. I want you to imagine this river
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just before sunset. Enough light in the sky to
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comfortably walk by that river, but not dazzling, not hot
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sunshine. Just feel a sense of calm,
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tranquility as you imagine walking by that river.
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And we need to feel that there's something calming about the flow
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of the water. In many ways, the flow of water
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in a river can represent time. It only flows in One Direction.
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I want you to get a sense then whatever happens in your life,
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it's almost like a branch, a twig, a leaf on that river.
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It's there temporary, and then it flows forward.
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And I want you to walk to a place in this river where you
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can see almost unusual shapes there, but when you look at them
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from a particular perspective, it creates something that can
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only be seen from that unique perspective.
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To anyone else, from any other location, it looks random and
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disjointed. But in that specific spot, it
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all makes sense. You can see something, but only
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from that location. I want you to get a sense that
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the sun is now setting. Maybe you can see orange, pinks,
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colours there in the sky. Still staring into this strange,
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fascinating sculpture. And then nearby, I want you to
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see an old fashioned gas lamp that just seems to magically
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have lighted. It's not like a an electric
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light. I want you to get a sense that
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this has history connotations. And I want you to get a sense
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then, in the same way that this gas lamp is burning brightly, I
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want you to think about a certain energy that exists
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within you and that that just as you can turn up, a gas lamp is
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turning up inside you. And you might call it desire or
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libido or a sense of inner confidence.
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But just imagine that inner energy within you turning up as
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you get a sense of feeling, a real deep sense that you have
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more of that very resource. Now stare into that lamp.
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See it burning brightly as the sunset turns into dusk and
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you're now staring into a gas lamp.
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Notice the shape of it, the brightness of it.
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And as you stare into that, sometimes you stare into a
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shape, a light. Your eyes defocus and you can
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Daydream and drift, and I want you to imagine drifting back in
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time as an observer, and I want you to see a version of you from
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your past where you were at your most confident when it comes to
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dating and relationships. There's no timid version of you
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here. No anxious version, no
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analytical or overthinking version of you.
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I want you to go back to the time where you had inherent
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innate confidence. And I want you to see that
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version of you, perhaps at the moment of first meeting someone
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that caught your eye. See how you looked, the
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expression you made. That knowing what you know, you
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know that that version of you had desire and attraction in
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that moment, and there's many people that would have that
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desire and attraction, but they're not the confidence to do
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anything with it. I want you to see that you did
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have the confidence to do something with him.
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Maybe it was asking someone on a date, maybe on a specific day,
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but I want you to see how you did that.
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Some people would hide behind letters or text messages.
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Maybe you did it face to face or over a phone call.
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I want you to see that how you went about it as a
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presupposition that the confidence was inherently within
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you. I want you to see that maybe
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there was a challenge, something that made it more difficult, and
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yet you solve that challenge. You deployed your resources to
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make this thing happen. Observe yourself, maybe in a
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first date or a second or third date, but see how effortless the
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conversation flowed, how naturally it was for you to
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smile, how attentive you were to subtle clues.
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You're just the observer of a memory, but see that the
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confidence existed within you. No question of were you ready,
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no concern whether or not someone would get hurt because
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you knew that your intentions were good, positive, respectful.
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Not only was there an absence of fear, but you were brimming and
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oozing confidence. Let me see you with a certain
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level of charisma. Look for the tells, the clues
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that all of that was there. And when you have a sense that
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this version of you has the resource that you require and
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design now in abundance, let me know by nodding your head.
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That's it. So I want you to imagine
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rewinding these memories and then stepping into that version
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of you just before you met this person.
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You're now in your body, feeling like you felt back then and just
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feeling that instant feeling of attraction.
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What did you notice? Was it the eyes, a smile?
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A body shape? Complexion of the skin?
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The hair? There was something you noticed
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that enabled you to intuitively come to the conclusion that
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there was real authentic attraction.
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And maybe what followed is an intuitive desire to follow that
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up, coming up with reasons to say hello or have conversations,
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feel like you're back in your body at that point of inviting
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them out for a date. Perhaps you felt a sense of
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elation, excitement at the point where a date is agreed, a time
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is confirmed. I want you to get a sense that
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feel like you're back in your body during that date where you
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ooze that confidence, breathe the same way you were breathing
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back then. And at the point where you feel
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you've got this resource in abundance, I want you to recall
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perhaps that you were wearing a watch.
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And I want you to touch that watch in a unique way, to feel
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that you are harnessing this resource, that if you ever need
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this resource in the future, touching your watch in the same
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way, you can bring about those same feelings.
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That's it. I want you to see perhaps how
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that date ended. Maybe there were certain
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qualities you admire in yourself, like charisma or
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chivalry, confidence or certain humour.
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Again, feel that you are simplifying those feelings, Want
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to relive the moment. He felt incredible connected to
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a moment of intimacy, maybe a kiss, a haggart touch or
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something else. But at the point where it felt
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natural, nothing was forced, nothing was expected.
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A natural sense that it was just the right thing to do.
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When you feel that sense of comfort and ease connected to
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that touch the watch in a slightly different way.
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It's good to harness confidence, but it's also good to harness
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the comfort, the relaxation, the naturalness.
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That's it. I want you to recall the moment
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where you were no longer in the same proximity, but you felt
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elation, a real spring in your step, real strut and again,
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touch the watch in a slightly different way.
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That feeling of all of that oxytocin, endorphins, serotonin
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flooding through your body, some people call that love, some
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people call it connection, some people call it chemistry.
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Whatever you call it, field it. That's what you're seeking.
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I want you to get a sense then these wonderful feelings carry
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some element of risk. But you were fearless back then,
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and you can be fearless again. No risk, no reward.
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Feel comfortable rolling the dice to lead to wonderful
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experiences. I want you to get a sense.
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Then you're leaving that version of you, but keeping the feelings
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inside you. The ideal balance of head and
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heart, passion and perspective. And then find yourself staring
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into a gas lamp on the side of a river, feeling that you've
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activated and rekindled something powerful within you.
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As you stare into that lamp. I want you to imagine seeing
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yourself at your current age, perhaps a week or two from now,
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maybe even a few days from now. But see yourself on a date.
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But see yourself with those qualities that you had back
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then. The way you talk, the way you
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walk. You are oozing that confidence,
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brimming with charisma, going with the flow, no expectations,
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no obligations. See yourself free of any baggage
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you've been holding onto. There is a lightness, a freeness
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to you, and you can tell that by how you're talking, how you're
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walking. But I want you to see that if
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you make the evaluation to take things further, then see
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yourself as the one initiating. See yourself touching your watch
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in a particular way to activate more of these kind of feelings.
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See yourself with nothing to lose.
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You either win or you learn. Whatever happens is an improved
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experience from doing nothing. But there is a feeling of
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freedom that you can observe in that version of you and then see
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yourself progressing to a point of chemistry, of intimacy, of
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connection. But see yourself doing that in a
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way where it's synergistic. Good for you and good for them.
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I want you to get a sense, then certain things everyone benefits
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from. I want you to get a sense then,
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that confident, free version of you that doesn't have that
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anxiety is now able to let natural desires and urges float
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back to the surface where it belongs.
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And if you could see that future version of you seeming more
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relaxed, more comfortable, more confident, willing to initiate
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with all the options and none of the obligations, just let me
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know by nodding your head. That's it.
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I want you to get a sense that you have now primed your
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conscious and unconscious mind to activate this version of you.
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And I want you to think of not being on a date, but getting
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ready for a date, but now in your own body.
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I want you to think of taking a shower, putting on certain
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clothes, maybe even wearing a particular fragrance, and all of
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these things start to trigger this feeling.
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Feeling of water on your skin in the shower triggers this
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feeling. The fabric of clothes on your
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body triggers this feeling, the watch on your wrist triggers
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this feeling, even the fragrance.
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And when you find yourself in that date, you will find it
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impossible not to notice things and qualities that you find
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attractive. Maybe it's a perspective, an eye
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colour, a fragrance of smell, a physical touch.
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Your brain will drift towards attractive qualities.
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And when it notices those attractive qualities, don't be
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surprised if a gas lamp in you goes from a dull flame to a
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bright flame. Intuitively, it just happens.
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I want you to get a sense that your optimism levels for future
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dates and relationships are now sky high.
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You just have a sense that things are going to go well
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without knowing specifically why.
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There will be an ease of comfort, a sense of going with
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the flow in any future dates, giving you all of the options
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but no obligations, nothing you have to do and just things that
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you could do or get to do. No expectations, just
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appreciating when good things happen.
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And as you hold that thought, find yourself staring back into
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a an old lamp by a river. It's night time now, but you get
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a sense that something has shifted, something has changed,
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that you've replaced a unresourceful emotion with
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something very resourceful. And that feels good.
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So it's time to imagine walking back from that river, back to
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the here and the now. So take a deep breath in through
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your nose and now through your nose.
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Wiggle your fingers and wiggle your toes.
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Connect fully into the here and the now as I now count from 1:00
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to 10:00 to awaken you. Starting to count. 123 Waking
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up. 456 More alert 7-8 Open your eyes.
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Open your eyes. 910 Wide awake, wide awake, wide awake.
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