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Why are some many narcissists obsessed with how they look · The Mental Healness Podcast

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  What is going on, beautiful people?
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  Welcome to another episode of the Narcissist Code.
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  I'm your favorite selfaware narcissist, Mr. Lee Hammett,
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  better known as mental illness across all social media
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  platforms. This is the first time I'm
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  seeing my face and hearing my lovely voice.
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  I'm a clinically diagnosed narcissist and I use my platform
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  on social media to raise awareness for NPD.
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  Get more people to that repeat and also violate the victims,
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  survivors and thrivers of said disorders.
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  Said toxic people said toxic traits.
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  Today's episode is going to be about why are a lot of
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  narcissists obsessed with how they look, with how they appear.
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  But before we hop into today's episode, y'all, if you haven't
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  But yes, y'all. Yep, Yep, Yep, Yep, Yep, Yep,
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  Yep, Yep. Where is that from?
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  What movie is that from? Yep, Yep, Yep, Yep.
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  If y'all know where it's from, just drop the movie in the
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  comments section. It's from the 80s, I think.
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  I think it's from the 80s. Where did where was that?
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  Where did that come out? Oh yeah, 80 eighties, 1988.
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  Yep, Yep, Yep. The The movie and the character.
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  You get bonus points. But yes, y'all.
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  So why are a lot of narcissists obsessed with how we look?
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  Because the in the outside and how we look protect against the
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  the guard, the inside, you know, the in the outside helps protect
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  and cover up what's inside or beneath the surface.
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  You know what I mean? No matter how good a
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  narcissistic person looks, no matter how physically attractive
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  in shape they are right beneath the surface, in a right buried
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  beneath the surface of a narcissistic person's skin in a
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  very shallow the shallowest grave, is there insecurities
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  right beneath the surface. That's why you get you get so
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  many narcissistic people that are super insecure, extremely,
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  extremely insecure people. Y'all.
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  And that's not me BS and that's not me making yeah, extremely
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  insecure people like people who just beautiful people you like
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  just physically attracted me. Like damn you look you you are
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  amazing looking person, but they'd be super insecure by how
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  they look. They always focus, they always,
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  always looking in the mirror and make sure their hair is good or
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  their dreads or fine, you know, their dreads or up or up to par
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  or or you know, being very well taken care of.
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  Teeth look good, you know, I'm in a gym, I'm working out eating
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  good like whatever, like y'all. That's why they're so obsessed
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  with it, because they know if they don't have the outside, the
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  inside will come out. People will see the inside.
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  If I build up the outside enough, you'll focus on the
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  outside and the inside doesn't matter to you, you know what I'm
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  saying? So many.
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  There's no, you get so many hollow ass, physically
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  attractive people, especially the hollow physically attractive
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  narcissists. The people don't have any
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  person. A lot of them don't have any
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  personalities. They just look good.
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  But they're horrible people, you know, horrible people.
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  Beautiful devils. You see what I'm saying?
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  Beautiful devils. You're like, damn you are a
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  beautiful person, but you goddamn devil like you.
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  You literally have a Trident like do you keep your Trident in
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  your purse or in your your your your satchel is your is your
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  Trident. Is it foldable like a tripod?
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  You mean like goodness gracious like.
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  But they do this y'all because they know the inside is it's
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  easy to hurt a narcissist fillers.
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  It's very easy to hurt an insecure, fragile, narcissistic
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  person fillers. But just talk about how they
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  look. So how they look, no matter how
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  good they look, it's just easy to hurt their feelings.
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  Like it's just like, oh goodness, they're not insecure.
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  There's no way that person is insecure.
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  That's what they want you to think.
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  You see a physically attractive, narcissistic person that is so
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  focused and hyper focused on their lips and how they smell
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  and stuff like that, you would automatically think that person
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  has nothing to be insecure about, but they're extremely
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  insecure about every single thing.
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  That's why they got to make sure everything looks good.
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  I got a nice car, nice clothes, nice face, nice teeth, nice
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  body, nice everything because I need to protect against what's
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  beneath the surface. I don't want you to see beneath,
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  behind the quote, UN quote, behind the curtain and what not
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  of who I am behind the curtain, of who I am and what I have
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  going on. I don't want you to see that.
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  I don't want anybody to see that.
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  You know what I mean? I don't want that either.
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  I don't want that to happen. And people, like I said, I don't
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  want people to see it. It doesn't need to be seen.
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  So I work on the outside. I work on the exterior.
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  It's just like having a nice house.
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  Like you see, the house is nice on the outside, but the inside
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  is, oh God, that's perfect. It's almost the perfect
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  description of it right there. Y'all It's like having a nice,
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  beautiful, whatever type of house that you like.
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  If you didn't know. If y'all don't know this.
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  I'm a real estate agent in North Carolina in the Greensboro, NC
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  area. I'm a real estate agent.
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  So if y'all need the house, e-mail me.
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  You need to buy or sell the house in.
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  In the North Carolina area, e-mail me.
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  But it's like having a beautiful house, a beautiful exterior.
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  The yard is very kempt. The yard is perfectly
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  landscaped. Mulch is the the mulch is
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  mulching. The grass is grassing, the
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  driveway is driveway. You said that the hedges are
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  hedging. The exterior is beautiful, but
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  when you open the front door, stuff starts falling into the
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  front yard. It's a hoarder's house.
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  You see what I'm saying? The inside is a mess.
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  The inside is very unkempt and very nasty and dirty.
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  The inside is a literally stacked full of trauma and
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  unique experiences that they haven't dealt with, repressed
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  memories and stuff like that. It's a hoarder's house.
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  Narcissistic people are beautiful hoarder houses.
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  They hoard their emotions. We hoard our emotions.
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  We hoard our trauma. We hoarded.
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  I've been watching hoarders on Netflix here recently.
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  Do me and my wife watching for go to sleep.
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  But literally that's how it is right there.
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  Y'all is the the house, the the extra you can you can people
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  drive by this house all the time.
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  You would never get this. This happens on Hoarders.
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  You ever seen TV show hoarders? People drive by the house all
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  the time? Would never guess what was going
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  on behind, behind the scenes. You would never guess what's
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  behind that front door. You would never guess what's in
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  the garage or in the backyard behind that 10 foot fence.
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  You would never guess it. You would never guess it.
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  Behind the surface, behind the surface, beneath the surface of
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  a physically attractive or in shape narcissistic person,
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  wealthy, narcissistic person, They beneath the surface of that
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  person. It's a lot of turmoil and mess.
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  They're hoarding the negativity. They're hoarding toxicity.
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  You see what I'm saying? Yeah, I just came up to that off
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  the top of my head. Y'all know, y'all been watching
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  it for any type, any type of extended period of time.
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  Y'all know. If I think it, I say it.
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  You see what I'm saying? It might not hit with everybody
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  that's going to hit with somebody.
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  Why? It's not it might not hit with
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  everybody, but it's going to hit with the.
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  It's going to reach the people needs to reach.
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  You know what I mean? People tell me Slow, slow down,
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  slow down. This is how I talk.
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  This is how I talk like slow down late go.
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  I understand, I talk fast. But that's just, that's me,
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  that's me. You know what I mean?
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  But this is, but this is how it goes like.
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  So I just feel like narcissistic people.
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  A lot of us work on our exteriors when we should be
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  working on our interiors as well.
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  You have beautiful disasters. You have an attractive person
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  and that's what and that keeps so many people bound to
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  narcissist because you are physically attracted to them.
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  You're physically attracted to. Like when your physical
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  attraction outweighs your intuition and your perception,
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  you get you get treated horribly.
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  Y'all, you are so acceptable to abuse and toxicity when you just
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  like when your physical, your physical attraction to this
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  person outweighs your your safety outweighs your dignity
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  outweigh. Like yeah, if you let your
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  physical attraction to this person just it is, it overrides
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  everything. Like this person is so
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  attractive to you, it overrides your damn senses.
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  Like you, you short circuit because they're so physically
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  attractive. You see what I'm saying?
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  They're they're tall, dark and handsome or short.
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  Dark and handsome, Short, dark and beautiful, short, tall,
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  dark. Whatever it is, whatever the
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  description is, you see what I'm saying?
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  However you describe this person, whatever you find
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  attractive, the dad by whatever y'all is, the mom whatever y'all
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  find attractive. See what I'm saying?
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  Everybody's attraction is the attraction is unique to the
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  person, the person to the person experiencing it.
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  You see what I'm saying? But whatever you find physically
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  attracted, if you are attracted to this person, it's hard for
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  you to let them go like hey, because you know other people
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  are going to want them. He's like, well people will put
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  people will tolerate stuff from people that are pretty or you
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  handsome. He's like, yeah, they might
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  treat me horribly, might cheat on me, but that's kind of what
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  you have to put up when we dating a beautiful person.
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  You see what I'm saying? No, you don't.
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  No, you don't. But I'm just saying,
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  narcissisted people weaponize their attractiveness job.
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  Some of them know that they're physically, physically
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  attractive, but they know they're emotionally
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  unattractive. And that's like when you're
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  physically attractive but emotionally unattractive.
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  A lot of times your physical attractiveness overrides.
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  Because I say the short people short circuit.
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  You know what I'm saying? People short circuit around
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  physically attractive people, even if they treated you
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  horribly. That was that was saying
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  narcissistic people focus on that Y'all.
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  They want to look good. They want to stand out in crowds
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  because they know my if I lay, if I lead with my, if I lead
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  with who I really am, you might not want me.
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  If I will lead with how I look. You might want me.
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  If I leave with a smile. You might want me.
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  If I leave with my body, you might want me.
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  If I leave with my money, you might want me.
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  But if I leave with my actual personality of who I really AM
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  and my insecurities, You're not going to with my flaws.
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  You probably won't want me. That's my thought process.
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  That's the narcissistic person's thought process.
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  If I lead with anything else. If I lead with anything else
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  other than my looks, then I then I don't.
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  Then it won't work out for me. I can't win here.
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  You mean there's no I lose? That's the thought process of a
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  lot of narcissist right there. Y'all because I I don't think I
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  can win. I don't think this is winnable
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  doing. I don't think that you will want
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  me if I show you who I really AM.
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  And that's why you get a lot of narcissist people when they I do
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  it on the video, this right here when they get older.
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  I've done a few videos, but like when they get older and they
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  start, their looks are to fade. Whoever is with this person, you
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  got a that beautiful devil is going to turn into an old devil.
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  If they're a beautiful devil when they're younger and their
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  looks start to fade, you know they don't have the money and
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  they're not the success. Oh my goodness, Oh my goodness,
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  Oh my goodness, Oh my goodness. And the last thing I'll say
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  before I hop off for y'all is that when a narcissistic person
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  like, another reason they focus on their looks is because it's
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  how to get supplies. It's the easy way to get supply
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  and validation. Easy way to get supply and
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  validation. If I got a nice body, if I look
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  good, got a nice smile like this, then it's an easy way for
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  me to get validation and supply. It's just easy.
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  People throw people. Like I said, people just throw
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  themselves at them. This is how it goes.
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  Y'all Bailey is a rich, famous artist.
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  People just literally throw themselves at their feet.
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  Oh, you're beautiful. Oh, you're high.
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  You've got money. Yeah.
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  Supply, supply. Supply and demand.
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  You see what I'm saying? I demand the supply.
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  It's demand and supply. We're in the normal relationship
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  is supply and demand in the narcissist relationship, is
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  demand the supply you mean. Thank y'all.
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