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Never Chase Men Again - Free Breakdown To Reset Your Power · Black Girls Are Easy Podcast

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Speaker 1: You are so strong? How do you do it? I
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Speaker 1: know the nature of men. If you knew the nature
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Speaker 1: of men, how they really thought, what they really want
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Speaker 1: from you, you'd be ruthless too. I should go read
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Speaker 1: a book called there's two books that y'all need to
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Speaker 1: go read Whole Tactic by G. L. Lambert and Men
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Speaker 1: Don't Love Like Women. Go read those two books and
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Speaker 1: you will become ruthless as well.
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Speaker 2: You heard it from Miss Sprinkle Sprinkle herself. The secret
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Speaker 2: is out. G. L. Lambert books are the formula for
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Speaker 2: upgrading your mindset, understanding men, and becoming the savage game
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Speaker 2: changer you were meant to be. Just celebrate Whole Taxes
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Speaker 2: Gold Edition and Men Don't Love Women Like You be
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Speaker 2: number one on the book charts. We're going to use
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Speaker 2: this episode to school you on one of the best
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Speaker 2: lessons from both of those books two for one. So
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Speaker 2: take notes and make sure you own updated copies of
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Speaker 2: each of these books because it has all the answers
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Speaker 2: and more.
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Speaker 3: How the transition from dating to a relationship One dollar
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Speaker 3: confidence transforms when will he make it official? Into a
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Speaker 3: million dollar question. Legions of women are currently in situationships
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Speaker 3: where they are waiting for a man to lay claim.
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Speaker 3: Others are stuck in dating purgatory, where they treat a
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Speaker 3: man like a boyfriend and take on girlfriend duties. But
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Speaker 3: if someone were to ask what was going on, it
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Speaker 3: would be met with a shoulder shrug. I don't know
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Speaker 3: what we are is the common answer. We're taking our
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Speaker 3: time and seeing how it goes is the defensive answer.
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Speaker 3: I'm ready waiting on him is the truth. Never wait
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Speaker 3: on a man to pick you. No matter how much
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Speaker 3: he treats you like you are his girlfriend, you are
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Speaker 3: not his girlfriend until you both agree. The longer you
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Speaker 3: sit on the bench waiting for a man to decide,
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Speaker 3: the more likely it is that he's already decided you
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Speaker 3: aren't girlfriend material. The longer you sit on the bench,
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Speaker 3: even if you pretend to still be talking to other guys,
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Speaker 3: the more comfortable you get. In the end, you will
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Speaker 3: feel as if being his purgatory bay is better than
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Speaker 3: leaving him and starting back over dating a new guy.
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Speaker 3: You must relearn and retest. That's the one dollar confidence
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Speaker 3: that I mentioned above that typical women have in spades.
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Speaker 3: They act passively and drop hints about wanting to be
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Speaker 3: with a man. They even ask so where do you
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Speaker 3: see this going? But their lack of self esteem will
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Speaker 3: keep them clinging on to this idea that it's better
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Speaker 3: to go with the flow of being unofficial but exclusive
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Speaker 3: than to rock the boat and get what she wants.
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Speaker 3: Men don't lose in this game. If he wants to
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Speaker 3: be with you but doesn't ask, he still gets your
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Speaker 3: girlfriend experience, that's a win. If he doesn't want to
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Speaker 3: be with you but doesn't say this, he still gets
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Speaker 3: the girlfriend benefits until a game changer appears, still a win.
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Speaker 3: Tina typical would rather google when will he make me
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Speaker 3: his girlfriend, then directly ask a man who she talks
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Speaker 3: to every day. Basica's would rather go to psychics, get
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Speaker 3: a palm red or do something mystic because they are
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Speaker 3: terrified to ask directly. Fear makes cowards of women in
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Speaker 3: relationships and slaves to signs. The reason women google or
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Speaker 3: look to astrology and try to guess what's in the
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Speaker 3: male mind is because they don't want to put their
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Speaker 3: heart on the line by asking for a relationship only
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Speaker 3: to be rejected. If he likes me, he's going to
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Speaker 3: do X, Y Z, and then I can stop worrying,
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Speaker 3: because that means he's serious. This cowardly way of thinking
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Speaker 3: must be eradicated. Spartans don't ask for commitment, they field offers.
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Speaker 3: This entire date, like a Spartan blue print, has been
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Speaker 3: about creating a brand that an intelligent man would have
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Speaker 3: to be blind not to buy into. If you went
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Speaker 3: step by step from the pre date to the roster spot,
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Speaker 3: and finally to the point where you would have sex
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Speaker 3: with him, that means he opened up and showed most
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Speaker 3: of his true colors and you have revealed the true
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Speaker 3: power of your personality and character. Each step so far
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Speaker 3: should only have taken six to ten weeks max, depending
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Speaker 3: on your schedule of dating and bonding. This means that
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Speaker 3: in less than seventy five days, this man should be
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Speaker 3: Spartan whipped. The final step for any free agent is
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Speaker 3: deciding who to sign to. And that's what I mean
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Speaker 3: by fielding an offer. Why do college athletes make millions
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Speaker 3: before they even step into the pros while others from
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Speaker 3: that same school go to work at foot locker while
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Speaker 3: struggling to make the practice squad value Based on past
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Speaker 3: results and projected potential, you are a Spartan. That makes
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Speaker 3: you the top free agent in the land, not some
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Speaker 3: average bitch that has to wait around while a man
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Speaker 3: decides if you're good enough. In the past six weeks,
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Speaker 3: you proved your value, and more importantly, this man has
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Speaker 3: proved to be someone you can win with for years
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Speaker 3: to go. That's how you decide if you become official.
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Speaker 3: Commitment should never be about if you like him a
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Speaker 3: lot and he likes you back, if you want to
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Speaker 3: have sex and not feel guilty for doing so, or
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Speaker 3: if he happens to ask and you don't have anyone
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Speaker 3: better so you agree. That's basic settling, not spartan power
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Speaker 3: to get a relationship from you. The top free agent
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Speaker 3: in the world means that this man has proven without
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Speaker 3: a doubt that he is exceptional. He is King Arthur
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Speaker 3: pulling Excalibur out of the stone, and while this does
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Speaker 3: not prove that he is worthy of marriage, it proves
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Speaker 3: that he is worthy of sharing your power for now.
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Speaker 3: You are a goddess that isn't a metaphor, you are
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Speaker 3: an actual goddess. Will he grow and solidify what he
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Speaker 3: shown during the dating stage. Will this man last forever
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Speaker 3: and end up your husband? You will not know until
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Speaker 3: you see him in action as your boyfriend. That means
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Speaker 3: that While the title and role of a boyfriend may
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Speaker 3: not be the same as that of a husband, you
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Speaker 3: must treat it with the same reference. You have reached
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Speaker 3: the end of the dating stage. This man has passed
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Speaker 3: all tests and all your instincts are pointing to him
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Speaker 3: being the one. So let's break down the dews and
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Speaker 3: don'ts of transitioning into a relationship. We go together. When
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Speaker 3: we last left Spartan Cally and her man friend Stephen,
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Speaker 3: they had reached the raw level. Over the course of
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Speaker 3: a month. Stephen proved to be a quick study in
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Speaker 3: terms of how to treat a woman and prove that
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Speaker 3: his charm was authentic, not forged in an attempt to
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Speaker 3: lure Cally into sex. He showed a want to be
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Speaker 3: with her officially within the first few weeks, proving he
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Speaker 3: was decisive and attentive to the fact that Cally is
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Speaker 3: not the kind of girl you leave out on the market.
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Speaker 3: As important, Stephen flexed his king muscles by being a
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Speaker 3: man that doesn't bow down just to earn points. He's
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Speaker 3: not afraid to say no, and he doesn't agree with
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Speaker 3: everything Cally says for the sake of keeping things calm.
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Speaker 3: This man is not a simp or pushover. What's taking
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Speaker 3: Cally so long to agree to be his girlfriend? That's
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Speaker 3: the same thing Stephen is wondering. Calli has a two
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Speaker 3: week plan to seal the deal and take Stephen on
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Speaker 3: as her boyfriend. Similar to the way she visualized her
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Speaker 3: pre date conversation, Calli is going to use the one
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Speaker 3: vision board that actually works her mind. With this final
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Speaker 3: game plan, she will lock Stephen in as either her
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Speaker 3: next man or her next blocked number. Day one of fourteen,
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Speaker 3: the commitment talk, day seven, the penis test, Day fourteen,
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Speaker 3: We go together. That's how the next two weeks will
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Speaker 3: play out. Life is never out of a spartan's control
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Speaker 3: because visualizing the finish line will always keep nerves at
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Speaker 3: bay and put you in alignment with what you want. Consciously,
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Speaker 3: Calli wants Stephen, but who knows what her subconscious true
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Speaker 3: self needs. The universe will always send warning signs if
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Speaker 3: someone isn't right. You know this, You've lived it. Calli
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Speaker 3: is going to use the next fourteen days to explore
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Speaker 3: any lingering questions or conversation. Top does Stephen understand what
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Speaker 3: being a boyfriend means? On a deeper level? Is there
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Speaker 3: true sexual chemistry beyond the flirting and lust. Will they
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Speaker 3: both feel the same about each other after the post
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Speaker 3: sex cooling off period. Callie must find these things out,
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Speaker 3: and there is no tarot card, dream reading, daily horoscope,
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Speaker 3: or any indirect sign that will tell her these things.
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Speaker 3: Callie is willing to put herself out there to find
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Speaker 3: the truth, and she's confident that her universe will show
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Speaker 3: her exactly what she needs to know. Is he truly
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Speaker 3: boyfriend material the conversation? Late night conversations reveal a person's
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Speaker 3: soul add in the close proximity of two bodies, and
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Speaker 3: a man who trusts you will spill his truth like
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Speaker 3: wonder woman's lasso. Calli goes over to Stephen's house for
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Speaker 3: a date. This is the second time she's been over,
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Speaker 3: but it will be the first time she spends the night.
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Speaker 3: The cover of the date is a cookoff. In the
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Speaker 3: days prior, they've been teasing each other about doing some
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Speaker 3: Bobby Flay type cook in battle, and Calli has gathered
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Speaker 3: a simple recipe. They will both try their hands at
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Speaker 3: making to see who's comes out better. Callie could do
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Speaker 3: this at her place, but she knows that the line
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Speaker 3: of conversation she plans will last into the early morning hours,
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Speaker 3: so this is a good opportunity to sleep over and
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Speaker 3: do the overnight test I broke down in the last chapter.
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Speaker 3: Callie doesn't just pop up with a sleepover bag, like
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Speaker 3: some basica that assumes coming over means staying over. She
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Speaker 3: verbally tells Stephen when they set this cooking date, I'm
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Speaker 3: going to bring my stuff to stay over, unless you
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Speaker 3: have to be up early. Stephen did have to be
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Speaker 3: up early, but he is so excited at the prospect
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Speaker 3: of Calli finally staying the night that he doesn't mind
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Speaker 3: leaving her unsupervised in his crib. Like the spartan she is,
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Speaker 3: Calli uses her mouth to establish the rules of the night.
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Speaker 3: There is no guessing or assuming while cooking. Callie doesn't
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Speaker 3: drop hints about how cooking is what he should expect
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Speaker 3: when they're together, or ask dumb shit about if his
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Speaker 3: ex girlfriends have ever done this with him. No humble
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Speaker 3: brags in Sparta. She's not insecure, thus insecure questions don't
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Speaker 3: slip from her lips. After dinner, they position themselves on
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Speaker 3: the couch to watch TV, but the TV will be
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Speaker 3: watching them. Calli puts her feet in Stephen's lap and
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Speaker 3: begins the first wave of contract negotiations. Do you think
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Speaker 3: we would make a great couple? Wait? She holds a
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Speaker 3: finger up for emphasis. I said great, not good. Keep
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Speaker 3: that in mind. Steven smiles. He knows Calli. At this point,
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Speaker 3: she doesn't do one word answers so yeah, or I
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Speaker 3: think so? Won't fly? I know we will. There's nothing
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Speaker 3: that I can see that will point to us growing apart,
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Speaker 3: he says, and before Callie can respond in her typical
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Speaker 3: forward manner, Steven keeps going, what do you think would
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Speaker 3: we be great? Callie love that Stephen said, I know
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Speaker 3: we will. That sureness makes her kitty tingle, but she
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Speaker 3: can't let him off the hook. Spartans don't answer questions
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Speaker 3: that they ask first ever, so she keeps him in
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Speaker 3: the hot seat. It's only been a month, Calli reminds him,
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Speaker 3: how do you know that this honeymoon period won't wear
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Speaker 3: off the moment we have sex or the day after
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Speaker 3: our first dumb argument. Stephn takes a second to think. Finally,
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Speaker 3: he speaks, first off, it's been a month and a half. Second,
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Speaker 3: I know that I love you, and that doesn't happen
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Speaker 3: this quick. With a person like me. That's enough for
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Speaker 3: me to try my best to make it work no
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Speaker 3: matter what we go through. Good answer. At this point,
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Speaker 3: Callie won't keep grilling him. No one wants to be
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Speaker 3: made out to be full of shit, so to keep
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Speaker 3: asking why this, why that will sound as if Callie
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Speaker 3: has trust issues. Instead, Callie opens up to communicate her
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Speaker 3: inner struggle, so Stephen knows she's not a typical scared
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Speaker 3: girl unsure who to love. I'm not afraid to love you, baby,
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Speaker 3: and I know this could be something special, but I
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Speaker 3: want to see that we keep growing in this direction.
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Speaker 3: I know how you date, I love how you date me,
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Speaker 3: but I don't know how you are as a boyfriend.
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Speaker 3: Stephen begins to talk because he needs to sell himself,
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Speaker 3: but Callie uses her feet to dig into his chest
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Speaker 3: and shut him down. Being playful yet stern, she keeps
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Speaker 3: going hold on. What I expect in a boyfriend are
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Speaker 3: dates like we've been doing, fun outside stuff as well
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Speaker 3: as fun indoor stuff like tonight. I also expect a
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Speaker 3: man that takes the relationship seriously. I'm not talking about
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Speaker 3: don't ever look at another girl's ass or having to
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Speaker 3: show me off to your friends. I don't need that.
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Speaker 3: This is about the role of being my man, being
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Speaker 3: something that you take pride in and always want to
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Speaker 3: make me happy. Stephen responds that it is the kind
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Speaker 3: of boyfriend he will be and was, and goes into
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Speaker 3: his own story about how, even with his exes, he
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Speaker 3: took the title seriously. Callie, as always, will listen, not
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Speaker 3: to look for another chance to talk, but to learn
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Speaker 3: more about his past. If Stephen brings up something generic
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Speaker 3: like I was the one that communicated first in my
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Speaker 3: last relationship, because communication is important, Callie won't just eat
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Speaker 3: it up. She will ask give me an example of
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Speaker 3: where you were open and she wasn't. This conversation is
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Speaker 3: about expectations. Cally wants to hear real relationship thoughts, not
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Speaker 3: a theoretical if I was your man dream selling. The
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Speaker 3: two will drink a little bit, but keep talking about
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Speaker 3: this issue in terms of the things they hated in
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Speaker 3: past relationships, but also the things they loved about their
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Speaker 3: last relationships. People rarely say my ex was really good
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Speaker 3: at this, because bitterness creates this tunnel vision of negativity.
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Speaker 3: When looking back, Calli will bring up that she enjoyed
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Speaker 3: how an ex planned a staycation for their anniversary because
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Speaker 3: he knew they couldn't leave the state due to Callie's schedule.
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Speaker 3: Stephen will internalize that as a reminder to spoil regardless.
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Speaker 3: Without Calli having to spell it out. Stephen will talk
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Speaker 3: about how he had a great relationship with his last
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Speaker 3: girlfriend's dad and he missed him more than her. Calli
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Speaker 3: doesn't have an active dad in her life, but she
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Speaker 3: does have a great uncle who she knows Stephen would
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Speaker 3: love again. This isn't something she says, oh, I can
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Speaker 3: do this. It's internalized as something that she should remember
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Speaker 3: to do because he likes those things. This is what
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Speaker 3: communication is all about, in terms of making sure a
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Speaker 3: man and woman can mesh well, as opposed to reacting
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Speaker 3: to needs that pop up. Too many people enter relationships
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Speaker 3: where they assume they can make each other happy, but
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Speaker 3: they never learn what makes their partner smile. They assume
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Speaker 3: and adapt on the fly. This isn't a one sided
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Speaker 3: conversation where you make sure a man knows how to
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Speaker 3: keep you happy, can you do the same for him.
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Speaker 3: This will be a partnership where you must be sure
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Speaker 3: that you can be a woman he feels, understands and
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Speaker 3: completes him as opposed to one with incompatibilities. Learning about
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Speaker 3: a man's needs gives you direct knowledge of what's to
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Speaker 3: be expected as his girlfriend. There's a lot made of
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Speaker 3: specific love languages, but the reality is there aren't a
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Speaker 3: set of generic things that make people happy. It's the
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Speaker 3: sum of the small things. Talking openly about what you
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Speaker 3: both see as must have traits ensure that there are
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Speaker 3: no personality surprises once you enter a union. Relationships are
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Speaker 3: about moving in sync with one another. You learn a
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Speaker 3: person during dating so that you know their likes by
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Speaker 3: the time it's official. The more Cali and Stephen talk
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Speaker 3: about a potential relationship in a real way, the more
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Speaker 3: comfortable they get with the subject. Commitment talks are rarely
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Speaker 3: had unless it's so what are we By pointing out
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Speaker 3: the elephant in the room CALLI takes girlfriend from a
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Speaker 3: dirty word to one that seems like fun, but also
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Speaker 3: carves out that it's not going to be just dating
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Speaker 3: with a title. This is a real commitment that will
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Speaker 3: require consistency and maturity on his end. A male's brain
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Speaker 3: thinks that if she's bringing up titles and what to
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Speaker 3: expect as her man, it means she wants that asap
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Speaker 3: Stephen doesn't want to offend Calli by switching topics to
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Speaker 3: who Really killed who on some Netflix series, so he
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Speaker 3: goes for the score. We established we could make a good, no,
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Speaker 3: a great couple. So what's the hold up? Callie smiles.
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Speaker 3: She scoots over to him and lays in his lap.
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Speaker 3: You tell me. She's playing her hard to get game now,
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Speaker 3: Stephen lights up. You I've been ready. CALLI could take
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Speaker 3: that and run with it. There is no reason not to,
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Speaker 3: as he's passed all the tests. However, she's still on
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Speaker 3: her She's going to spend the night. She's going to
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Speaker 3: fuck him next week, and then she's gonna see if
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Speaker 3: it's still all good. I like making you wait. It
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Speaker 3: turns me on. Is Callie's dodgy answer, and to stroke
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Speaker 3: his ego, she follows this teasing statement up with a kiss.
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Speaker 3: Stephen is on her string. He used the L word
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Speaker 3: in a natural way that wasn't forced, and is continuing
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Speaker 3: to show his vulnerability. Not tell his heart is in
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Speaker 3: her hands and it feels good. They spend the night
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Speaker 3: together and it's nice. Stephen, of course, tried to move
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Speaker 3: his hands down below, but Calli checked him. There were
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Speaker 3: no late night or early morning texts or calls from
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Speaker 3: other women. Stephen even made breakfast before having to go
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Speaker 3: and left Calli with a key to his place. This
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Speaker 3: is the sign of a man who's focused on one woman.
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Speaker 3: He didn't have to say it, Calli saw it. To
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Speaker 3: be sure. Calli did another sleepover a few days later,
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Speaker 3: this time leaving her toothbrush in his bathroom, a nice
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Speaker 3: bright Nicki Minaj's style, pink one that tells his other
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Speaker 3: bitches that the queen has landed. As far as Callie's
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Speaker 3: other men, she didn't go on any dates this week.
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Speaker 3: She's had conversations, but even the guy who was once
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Speaker 3: in front of Stephen on the roster doesn't seem as
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Speaker 3: great these days. Steven's about to win, So it's time
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Speaker 3: for the penis test, the sex date. You may not
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Speaker 3: need a penis test before you commit. I gave you
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Speaker 3: the reasons why having sex before commitment helps, but don't
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Speaker 3: feel chained to it as a rule if you prefer
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Speaker 3: to wait longer. Sex is not a mandatory part of
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Speaker 3: the boyfriend decision. If sex isn't a part of your life.
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Speaker 3: This goes for those of you that are virgins, celibate,
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Speaker 3: et cetera. Calli has her own rules for love that
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Speaker 3: other women may not share, but her needs must be met.
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Speaker 3: Maybe testing out the equipment isn't important to you, but
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Speaker 3: Calli went through a boyfriend who was a three pump
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Speaker 3: Paully back when she was Nicole, and there is no
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Speaker 3: way she's gonna spend her prime years faking content while
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Speaker 3: only being able to achieve orgasms on her own. She
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Speaker 3: could wait until Steven is her boyfriend to test it,
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Speaker 3: but what sense does that make if good sex is
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Speaker 3: important to her happiness? Fall in love with an untested
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Speaker 3: penis then have to learn the angles to make a
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Speaker 3: semi hard dick hit the right spots to get her
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Speaker 3: off consistently. Not in Sparta. Callie doesn't need a certain size,
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Speaker 3: but she does need a certain effort because she fucks
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Speaker 3: like a champ, not a contender. Unlike the sleepover date,
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Speaker 3: Callie doesn't need to say, Hey, we're fucking Friday, half
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Speaker 3: condoms and whipped cream. The spontaneity of sex is fun.
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Speaker 3: Why spoil it? Within announcement? However, she will drop hints
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Speaker 3: by engaging in the one thing she has yet to
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Speaker 3: do phone sex to this point, phone sex Skype sex,
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Speaker 3: FaceTime sex, sexting have all been off limits. Sure, there
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Speaker 3: may have been a few nasty lines or jokes about sex,
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Speaker 3: but it was contained. Everyone who texts while dating will
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Speaker 3: eventually talk dirty, but you know when the line has
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Speaker 3: been crossed. Sexting or phone sex is the act of
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Speaker 3: bringing you or the person at the other end of
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Speaker 3: the device to a climax by painting a vivid picture
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Speaker 3: of what you would do to them. Sex itself is
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Speaker 3: a mental experience. Simply moaning the right way is enough
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Speaker 3: to make a man's dick begin to leak pre ejaculate.
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Speaker 3: Men are easy to get off if you aren't afraid
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Speaker 3: to put on a performance or too shy to say
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Speaker 3: something utterly filthy. Nevertheless, phone sex isn't a one way street.
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Speaker 3: When using it as a pre sex warm up, Can
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Speaker 3: this man make you dripping wet again? It's all mental.
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Speaker 3: A woman's inability to come is due to the physical
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Speaker 3: and mental stimulation not matching up. A shy mind may
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Speaker 3: hold back, but a man should know the combination to
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Speaker 3: open you up. CALLI will test Steven's ability to turn
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Speaker 3: her on and stimulate her as a warm up for
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Speaker 3: their sex date. Breaking into foam sex is as simple
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Speaker 3: as the ways I covered in Solving Single, no need
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Speaker 3: for any big build up. There is never a wrong time,
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Speaker 3: so long as that both of you are alone in
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Speaker 3: a private place. Late night when you're both in bed
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Speaker 3: is ideal. So let's pick it up there. Callie transitions
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Speaker 3: from their normal day in the life talk and drops
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Speaker 3: a flirty statement. She then tells Stephen that he should
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Speaker 3: be over there to feel how soft her new panties are.
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Speaker 3: Men are simple, and he talk about what you are
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Speaker 3: wearing gets them perked up. Stephen wants her to FaceTime
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Speaker 3: him the underwear. Calli wants to keep this verbal control,
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Speaker 3: so she responds I would, but I'm in the process
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Speaker 3: of taking them off. Stephen will try to play it cool,
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Speaker 3: but like most men, his wit will leave him once
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Speaker 3: his dick begins to grow. Oh really, he asks, Yes, really,
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Speaker 3: CALLI Purrs, are you jealous of my comforter? Stephen is
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Speaker 3: being led to take the bait, but he's built up
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Speaker 3: enough respect that he won't blurt out fuck. I want
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Speaker 3: to put this dick so deep in you that it
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Speaker 3: bruises your soul. Phone sex is a gradual build from
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Speaker 3: nice to nasty over the course of about ten to
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Speaker 3: twenty minutes, Calli leads him to drop his gentlemen act
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Speaker 3: and play along. How hard is it take it out
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Speaker 3: for me? We'll take the conversation to a new level.
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Speaker 3: Cannot taste it, daddy, We'll take the conversation to the
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Speaker 3: point of no return. The goal isn't to come In reality,
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Speaker 3: Calli doesn't have to actually touch herself or play it
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Speaker 3: out on her end. She's merely seeing how freaky Stephen
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Speaker 3: can get so that when they do have sex for
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Speaker 3: the first time, it won't be any awkward nerves. No
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Speaker 3: matter how long you date someone, if you don't cross
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Speaker 3: that filth line before that first sex session, the odds
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Speaker 3: are that without alcohol, a man that's built up so
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Speaker 3: much respect for you may not put in his best work.
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Speaker 3: Phone sex takes away performance anxiety, and that's what Calli
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Speaker 3: is doing. She's training him to be a freak with her,
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Speaker 3: not a gentleman who handles her pussy with kid gloves.
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Speaker 3: Understand what turns you on from the jump. If you
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Speaker 3: don't masturbate, never watch porn, and have erotic fantasies, then
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Speaker 3: start even without man. You should know your triggers, and
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Speaker 3: this helps in terms of guiding him to hit those marks.
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Speaker 3: Embrace your filthy side, don't judge it. Slut yourself out
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Speaker 3: in your own mind, so no man can ever have
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Speaker 3: sexual power over you. If you master sex magic on
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Speaker 3: your own terms, you become the one that turns him out.
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Speaker 3: Start with the basics. Are you dominant or submissive? If
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Speaker 3: you have phone sex, reveal what you like, because the
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Speaker 3: man is taking mental notes. If you want to pin
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Speaker 3: him down, he'll expect that the first time you have sex.
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Speaker 3: If you want to be choked and bent over and
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Speaker 3: ravaged by his dick, then he will prepare himself to
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Speaker 3: be more aggressive with you. The stereotype that men only
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Speaker 3: want to please themselves is rarely true. Guys get off
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Speaker 3: on being able to get you off. Watch a scripted
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Speaker 3: adult film. Its formula is the woman orgasms, then the
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Speaker 3: man comes because his job is done. It's directed like
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Speaker 3: that for a reason. It's the fantasy of male dominance.
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Speaker 3: In reality, a man's going to most likely finish before you,
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Speaker 3: but his intent will always be to put in his
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Speaker 3: best work on the phone. Be able to give him
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Speaker 3: a map, and by the time you actually meet up,
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Speaker 3: he's going to follow your route or come hard trying.
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Speaker 3: After phone sex, you move into observation mode. You do
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Speaker 3: the recap I previously laid out to make sure that
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Speaker 3: you want to go through with this upcoming sex date.
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Speaker 3: Time spent, creatively aggressive pursuit, shared world companionship. Those are
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Speaker 3: the three things we went over last chapter that you
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Speaker 3: need to see before determining if a man is worthy
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Speaker 3: of sex. Stephen has passed all those previous tests and
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Speaker 3: has just lost his phone sex Virgina, so it's time
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Speaker 3: to do the deed. Stephen wants to know if Calli
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Speaker 3: wants to go out with a few friends for karaoke.
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Speaker 3: Calli only wants to rock one mic. She has a
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Speaker 3: better idea. Why don't they get a room at a
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Speaker 3: hotel downtown and make a night of it. It'll be
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Speaker 3: something different. Stephen isn't dumb. Hotel equals sex to any man.
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Speaker 3: Stephen is down, and Calli tells him to find one
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Speaker 3: with a nice restaurant they can eat and drink at AKA.
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Speaker 3: Don't holiday in me, motherfucker. The date is said. Stephen
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Speaker 3: doesn't know it's a sex date, but he's praying it is.
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Speaker 3: Once again spartan, Calli is in control of this man's mind,
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Speaker 3: and she's about to blow it post sex the day after.
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Speaker 3: Sex shouldn't be awkward, It should be comfortable. What routinely
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Speaker 3: happens is that people overthink the situation and speculate about
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Speaker 3: what's in their part partner's head. For men, it's about performance,
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Speaker 3: was he weak or did he leave his mark? For women,
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Speaker 3: it isn't about performance as much as what happens next.
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Speaker 3: Does he think I'm going to want a relationship? Does
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Speaker 3: this mean we're in a relationship? Is he going to
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Speaker 3: stop calling as much because he got what he wanted?
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Speaker 3: Is he going to start calling more because he thinks
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Speaker 3: I'm now a fuck buddy. When people get paranoid about
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Speaker 3: what sex means, they stop communicating, and that awkwardness creates
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Speaker 3: a divide. No one wants to call first or call
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Speaker 3: too much. Thus a fun relationship falls apart due to
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Speaker 3: miscommunication about the seriousness of sex. In Calli's case, she
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Speaker 3: is going to be forward, duh spartan. The sex was great.
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Speaker 3: They did it twice that night and once again in
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Speaker 3: the morning, with Calli reaching the mountaintop. Two of the
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Speaker 3: three times. She doesn't lay on Stephen's chest and say
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Speaker 3: was it good? Good? She knows her throw game was bomb.
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Speaker 3: She doesn't change the subject to so what are you
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Speaker 3: doing for the rest of the day, As if this
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Speaker 3: man is a stranger, she should be shy around He
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Speaker 3: was just inside of her. They're as close as you
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Speaker 3: can get? Why be timid? Callie does what she's done
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Speaker 3: since day one? Asks a question, are you sad that
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Speaker 3: I test drove you before making you my boyfriend? Stephen
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Speaker 3: doesn't know if it's a joke or serious. What Calli
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Speaker 3: did was objectify him as a piece of meat, while
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Speaker 3: also bringing up the elephant in the room the title
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Speaker 3: forcing him to react. The words making you my boyfriend
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Speaker 3: keeps the power with Calli. Stephen asks if she test
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Speaker 3: drives all of her potential boyfriends. Men love to ask
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Speaker 3: about a woman's sex life. It's in the male DNA
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Speaker 3: to compete. Calle lightens the mood by jumping on him
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Speaker 3: and joking worry about yourself, boyfriend and training. They play
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Speaker 3: wrestle around, and with the post sex ice now broken,
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Speaker 3: they gather their things and leave the hotel. Calli may
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Speaker 3: not even call Stephen that night. He's not her man
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Speaker 3: and she likes taking breaks, but Stephen will call Calli
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Speaker 3: because he is now hooked. The final test is the
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Speaker 3: week after sex. If Stephen has a true desire, he
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Speaker 3: isn't going to call her to come over to fuck.
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Speaker 3: He's gonna call her to see her difference. Calli needs
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Speaker 3: to see that level of continued respect and effort after sex,
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Speaker 3: or Stephen reveals himself as non boyfriend material. A man
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Speaker 3: calling to get a rematch does not prove interest. A
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Speaker 3: man calling to set up a real date does. Stephen
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Speaker 3: and Cally hang out without having sex and then have
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Speaker 3: a movie date a day later. Calli invites Stephen back
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Speaker 3: to her place after the movie because today is the
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Speaker 3: day and she wants to be on her home field.
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Speaker 3: The two weeks schedule is complete, and now it's time
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Speaker 3: to take what she wants spartan endgame. Over the course
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Speaker 3: of the past six weeks, you witnessed a woman who
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Speaker 3: played by her rules without fear that the man she
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Speaker 3: wanted would fall back because he couldn't get what he wanted,
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Speaker 3: or go find another woman who moved at a faster pace.
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Speaker 3: If you have the mind to comprehend what you are
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Speaker 3: reading and lack fear, then you can pull this off.
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Speaker 3: In the s