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What about when a narcissist is broke and has nothing else to offer? · The Mental Healness Podcast

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  What is going on, beautiful people?
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  Welcome to today's episode. We're talking about when a
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  narcissist has no job. You hear a lot of videos about
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  narcissists being in control of the money, but this is going to
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  be a take. A little different take if
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  you're new here. My name is Lee Hammock.
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  I'm a clinically diagnosed narcissist.
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  And welcome to another episode of The Narcissist Code.
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  Boom. Welcome back.
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  Welcome back. Welcome back.
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  Y'all. So like I said before, we do a
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  lot of videos on this channel about narcissistic people right
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  when they are in control of the money.
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  Like financial abuse is a real thing in toxic relationships
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  with narcissists. And talk to people.
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  What narcissists will make you beg?
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  They'll they'll put you on, put you on an allowance with your
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  own money. They control they they
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  financially control you. They they financially control
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  you. They financially abuse you.
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  They financially manipulate you. Right when they are in control
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  of the money, when they are the quote UN quote, breadwinner,
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  breadwinners, breadwinners and whatnot.
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  But the other side happens as well.
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  Y'all, when a narcissistic person has no job or no money,
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  they don't have any type of resources to offer you.
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  This happens as well. The narcissistic bum exists,
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  narcissistic bums exist and it comes in All come in all races,
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  religions, genders or whatever. Y'all y'all know that every
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  narcissistic bums are out here. We know that they exist.
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  You know that narcissistic bums exist.
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  You might have, you might have had a baby with one.
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  You just never know in these spaces nowadays.
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  But they absolutely do exist. And it and this.
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  I know this bothers a lot of people but a narcissist with no
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  money uses their word. It can be can be even more
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  manipulative than a narcissist with money, with a job, a
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  narcissist that is unemployed and has no money.
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  Some of them are are actually employed, but they just, you
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  know, they don't make a lot of money.
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  You know, well they have no money.
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  Y'all. They can still be in control of
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  you. They can still manipulate you
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  because they play on your they weaponize your emotions, they
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  weaponize your empathy against you.
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  They take advantage of your empathy, your sympathy, and
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  things like that. They weaponize your compassion
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  against you. You know, just like the
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  narcissist with the money weaponizes the money against
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  you, narcissist without it weaponize your empathy against
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  you. It's like they're still weapon.
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  Yeah, they still weaponize things.
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  They still are manipulative people but they don't like like
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  they just play on your emotions a little bit more sometimes, you
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  know. And they'll tell you you meet
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  and this happens all the time you you'll meet somebody they
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  don't have anywhere to live. And they'll tell you straight
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  up. Sometimes they lie to you.
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  Yeah. Or can they lie to you up front?
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  Yes, they can lie to you up front.
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  Just be like, oh, I I, I got a penthouse downtown.
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  But it's it's a little furrow far away.
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  So let me stay with you tonight, whatever it is.
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  Yeah. They try to move in with you
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  really quickly. Narcissistic people with no
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  jobs, no money or whatever. They love bombing you with body.
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  They they they love by you with their body, with their body,
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  with their emotions. They weaponize their emotions
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  and their body against you. Their body becomes like a a damn
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  near a little nuclear narcissistic weapon and whatnot
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  because they will use their body to get what they want.
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  You know they will absolutely will.
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  They use the they'll use the clapping of the cheeks to get
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  you. You know, they'll they'll,
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  they'll they'll clapping for shelter, so to speak.
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  When they don't have anywhere to live, when they don't have any
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  money, they don't have anything else to offer you.
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  They will play on your emotions a little bit more.
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  They'll play like, hey, look, I fell on hard times.
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  I don't have a home anymore. I have nothing left to offer
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  you. But like, I love you and I
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  really want this to work. I'm just so embarrassed that I
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  don't work. I haven't worked in five years.
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  I keep having other people take care of me.
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  I just feel entitled or whatever because you, oh, there were
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  right there entitlement, narcissistic people don't have.
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  They don't have anything else to offer you.
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  They feel like they're entitled to your money, to your
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  resources, because if you love them and you're with them, you
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  know they feel like they're entitled to what you have.
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  We are a couple, so what's yours is mine.
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  What's mine is mine as well, because I don't have anything.
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  But what's yours is mine as well, you know.
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  And like I said, sometimes you don't meet narcissist that don't
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  have money. You don't meet like you don't.
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  They don't. They might have money and jobs
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  and things like that when you first meet them, but they might
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  get fired, they might quit. They, like I said, they might
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  become homeless while y'all are together.
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  Whatever it is, it doesn't always start off with them being
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  open and honest. So you figured out that they're
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  lying about having a job. Sometimes they have this type of
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  stuff when you first meet them and then they lose it.
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  We all together. And then you, of course you want
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  to be there for them. You want to have their back.
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  And sometimes they just fall on time, they fall on times of
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  laziness. You know, if they don't have a
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  job or whatever, they will fall on times if they don't have a
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  job. And they say that you're taking
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  care of everything without them working, without them supporting
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  you, without them having anything.
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  Like they fall into that situation where they feel like
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  they don't have to do anything else.
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  Like you're taking care of all the bills and stuff like that.
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  Let me stay home, let me do this.
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  Even if y'all don't have kids, even if y'all don't have kids.
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  They're stay at home, significant others or spouses or
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  whatever. Male, female, whoever you
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  identify, whatever you identify as like they are stay at home.
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  There's they be stay at home house, husbands and housewives
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  and whatnot. And like I said, and they don't,
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  they don't even do any housework.
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  They just be at home expecting you to pay all the bills,
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  expecting you take care of the house and everything.
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  They they think that their body or their presence is enough.
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  At least I'm here. At least you're not lonely.
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  They sometimes, if you have abandonment issues or you're
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  afraid to be alone, or you just, you don't want to be alone, they
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  will weaponize your loneliness against you.
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  They will weaponize your compassion against you.
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  Like I said earlier, they will weaponize your abandonment
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  issues or your trauma against you in order to get what they
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  want from you. You see how that works.
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  They will absolutely weaponize that type of stuff against you
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  because they benefit from it. You see what I'm saying?
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  They will weaponize it against you because they are in.
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  They get, they benefit from it. That's why I tell people like if
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  they're if they if a narcissist can benefit from something from
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  you, they're going to benefit from that thing from you because
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  they get a benefit from it. Like I said, not everybody you
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  meet or everybody in these situations is going to be
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  homeless or jobless. Sometimes they they they do fall
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  on hard times when you are with them, right?
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  They fall on these hard times when y'all are together, right?
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  They fall on these hard times when y'all are a team, right?
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  They fall on these hard times and what not when things like
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  say and then they just don't ever go back to the good times
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  because they fall into this level of comfort and they
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  weaponize that against you or they feel like they're super
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  like they might be super qualified like I've heard this
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  situation before but they had a highly qualified Dr. or lawyer
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  or somebody is qualified. They have has multiple degrees
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  but they refuse to accept a a job because they weren't getting
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  paid. They they they didn't work for
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  years because they didn't get a job or when they wanted to.
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  I'm going to I'm I'm going to get a job.
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  I'm just going to get it on my own time and they never got a
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  job again 10/15/20 years. And what I feel like, and this
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  is what people don't try to I'm not trying to hurt anybody's
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  feelings or stoke the flames or anything like that.
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  But like what you allow in these types, in these, what you allow
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  in these types of relationships is what is going to continue,
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  right. They feel like because you
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  allowed this to happen, you allowed me not to work for
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  2341015 years, Why do I need to work now?
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  You know and you have kids, right?
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  Like I said, sometimes you you end up being, you end up taking
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  care of the household and the the you end up paying the bills
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  and you got to take care of the kids where they really,
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  literally, seriously don't offer you any type of help.
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  They don't offer you any type of assistance.
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  They feel like because you're here and this has been going on
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  for so long that you just need to tolerate it.
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  You need to deal with this because hey, you're OK.
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  Why you are you not OK with this?
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  How come you're not OK with this right now?
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  You were. You've been OK with it for
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  years, but now you're not OK with it.
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  They'll make you feel bad about trying to hold them accountable
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  by trying to make them work, by trying to get them to
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  contribute. Yes, narcissistic bums.
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  I'm telling you to come in all shapes, colors, creeds,
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  religions, heights, weight, whatever gender, whatever.
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  I'm telling you they will take advantage of this situation as
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  long as they think they're allowed to do this.
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  I've seen this happen before and they'd be look, y'all when y'all
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  were working and taking care of the kids, they they'll cheat on
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  you. Y'all were taking care of them.
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  Kids, job, household. And they will cheat on you and
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  they'll blame you for not having time for them now.
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  Oh, my God, I see this happen so much.
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  Like you will be there for them. You'll be doing a lot of this
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  stuff for them, and then they'll cheat on you and blame you for
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  this type of stuff. They will.
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  They will absolutely go all out. You know what I mean?
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  They will do. They will blame you.
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  They'll cheat on you just like, well, you don't have enough time
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  for me. You always doing.
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  You taking care of the house, taking care of every we, taking
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  care of the bills. But you don't have time for me.
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  What? And they feel entitled and so
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  many people, They beat you down emotionally and mentally.
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  So much that they feel like you take, you take accountability
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  for it. You listen to them.
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  You believe them. They beat you down so much
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  mentally that they have you feeling in a certain type of
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  way. They beat you down mentally,
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  emotionally, physically, that they have you a certain type of
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  way. They they get you like this.
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  Y'all They love it. They love it and they'll keep
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  doing it. If you forgive them one time,
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  they'll keep doing it. And this is what happens.
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  Y'all and I've. I've talked to so many people
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  over the last few years, and this is what happens.
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  They will do all of their stuff, right?
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  They will mentally beat you down, do all of this stuff to
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  you, right? And then they'll blame you.
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  And then they'll leave you for somebody else.
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  You've taken care of them for years and they'll leave you for
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  somebody else, hurt your fellows, put you through it,
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  break you down, use, abuse you, and then leave you for somebody
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  else, even though you've been taking care of them for years.
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  And they will say something like, well, you didn't have to
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  do that. I thought it would.
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  OK, Now you trying to make me feel bad for you, decided to
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  take care of me. Yeah.
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  I'm telling you, if you're in this situation right now, it's
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  not going to get better if they haven't worked in three, four,
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  5-10 years by their own choice. I know everybody's situation is
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  different. This is not me.
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  This is not me. Picking on stay at home moms and
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  dads that are actually contributed and contributing to
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  the household by taking care of the kids or actually working and
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  doing things like that. I'm talking about the people who
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  don't do anything. Y'all know there's a big
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  difference. I'm talking about people who
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  don't do anything. They don't cook, they don't
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  clean, they don't take care of the kids, they don't do
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  anything. They don't pay no bills.
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  They're just there. Bean buns, playing video games,
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  whatever, going out with their friends, whatever it is, there's
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  just like another child in your household to take care of, you
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  know? So hope this video about you
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  some clarity. If they haven't worked and they
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  they just. I'm not going to worry about how
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  to do that. I'm not hoping you guys wow you
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  will maybe take you maybe take a job that's less than what I
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  should be making. Wow, you really don't care about
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  me. You want me to be embarrassed
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  and then we just be bummed for years upon years and about
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  years. Y'all.
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