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Ep 14. New Year, Same You but Better: New Year Resolutions Redefined · The Manifestation Station

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Music.
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You're listening to the Manifestation Station podcast.
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I'm your host, Holly Edwards, and together we can help create your magic.
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Happy January, everybody. I hope you haven't got the January blues.
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I mean, it's sleeting outside. It's freezing.
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It's windy. but you're here on
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the manifestation station listening with me
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tuning in I'm so grateful I hope everyone had
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a lovely Christmas and a very happy new year now I
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hope you've come into 2025 with some
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kind of bad ass I am
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here I've arrived energy but I
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know that January can be a difficult month
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for a lot of people I think I spoke
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to my sister today and we were talking about new year's
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resolutions and I love a new year's resolution I
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really do but I'm coming in today with the
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go easy on yourself resolutions because
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I was chatting with my sister today and we
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were saying about new year's resolutions and
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sticking to them and I know a lot of people do struggle to
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stick to new year's resolutions great if that you've got
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some and you're going for it I'm an advocate for that
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and I'm like do it I've got your back you can
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do it stick to it amazing however I
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think it's really easy isn't it for January to kind of come in really strong
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really hard really heavy and it's quite a difficult time of year to start new
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hobbies new trends new mindsets and to stick with it to stick with it religiously
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so that it becomes a an actual habit.
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So January can be difficult. And as I said, I was speaking to my sister and
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we were talking about New Year's resolutions and she said, do you know what?
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She was talking about kind of getting fit and weight loss. And she was like,
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January is blooming hard anyway.
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It's miserable outside. If you're listening in the UK, this is,
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it's miserable outside.
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It's cold. It's wet. We're coming off the back of Christmas.
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People have spent a lot of money.
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The hype has gone from Christmas we're into January January
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blues can hit I know a lot of people kind
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of financially you know tightening the purse strings
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so it's quite a I don't even want to say testing month it's a month that doesn't
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normally come with all the the the light and the shine of December and everything
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like that so then to come in really heavy and go right I'm cutting out the chocolate
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I'm cutting out the carbs.
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I'm going to the gym five times a week. I'm setting up my new business.
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I'm stopped binge watching the TV.
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It's quite a lot and it can be quite miserable.
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So that's why today I am bringing you the Go Easy On Yourself New Year's Resolution list.
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And it's all about, it's like a January to-do list.
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It's a be kind to yourself list. And it's about making improvements making mindset
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changes and helping to bring in to attracting the things that you want but.
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The kind of whole basis of it is just being really kind to yourself.
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And the kinder you are to yourself, I think it kind of helps to raise your vibrations,
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release and let go of like anxiety and negativity.
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And with that kind of comes manifesting all the dream things that you want to do anyway.
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So this is the kind of New Year's resolution list we're after.
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This is what I am going to be following I'd love it
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if you can join me in this I've got some
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corkers for you some absolute corkers and
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you're going to love them because they include resting and napping and self-care
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regimes so what's not to love there's no getting on the treadmill in this new
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year's resolution so if you're going to listen to any new year's resolution
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lists this is the one to listen to.
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And if you do do any of these things and follow them, please tag me or DM me.
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I'm on Instagram at the Holly Edwards, and I'm on TikTok at the Holly Edwards.
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And I have a new Instagram account as well, which is kind of everything podcast
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and manifesting related, which is at the dot manifestation station.
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So please slide into my DMs. I would love to hear from you.
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So let's start it's January
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number one on our go easy on yourself
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list is speak kindly to
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yourself I cannot emphasize this enough
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because you are what you speak
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so what you speak into existence will become
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your reality this is kind of the whole basis of manifesting you are what you
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speak you are your words if you're constantly saying I'm overweight it's too
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difficult for me to lose weight I never lose weight I put weight on so easily
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the universe responds like for like and goes yes.
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It is difficult for you to lose weight. Yes, you are lazy. Yes, you can't lose weight.
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You are what you speak. So this is why number one on the list for our go easy
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on yourself New Year's resolutions is speak kindly to yourself.
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Not only is this a lovely thing to do for yourself anyway, but it will help
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rewire your brain and you can rewire your brain.
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It's a proven fact. it's just not some woo-woo new
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age thing it's scientifically proven that you
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can rewire your brain so by speaking kindly to
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yourself you are rewiring your brain and
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your brain will start believing these kind things
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just as if you keep speaking negatively about
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yourself and that also includes even if
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it's banter or ingesting with friends you
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know you know oh I'm shit at that I'm rubbish at
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that you will be those things so stop
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yourself when what I want you to do catch yourself let's
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talk about body image for example when you
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catch yourself criticizing your body I
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want you to instantly stop and swap
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it with something with gratitude with something
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about your body gratitude or something that you do like
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about your body and I want you to say to yourself
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this my body deserves love not
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judgment oh how lovely
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is that and I think we can so often do this oh I
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can't wear that my legs look fat oh I've got bingo wings I can't stop yourself
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and go whether you need to look in the mirror and just go my body deserves love
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not judgment and find some things that you do love about yourself and the rest
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will follow so just stop yourself and go I really like my freckles.
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I really love my thick hair. I really love my long eyelashes.
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I really love my curvy bum. Whatever it is, just stop yourself.
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Even if you're kind of faking it, first of all, you will be,
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because you are your words.
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Firstly, it will take a bit of time, but even if you're faking it at first,
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it will take time, but your mind and your body will start to believe it eventually.
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So if you cut the negative talk, stop talking to yourself kind of in a degrading
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way, or in a way where you're putting yourself down.
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Stop that, nip that in the bud because that's only going to attract in more
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negative things about yourself.
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And those things will be a reality. I'm too lazy to exercise.
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Universe says, yes, you are too lazy to exercise. You're never going to then
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feel the oomph and the get up and go.
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If you say, I can't wear a bikini, my tummy's too fat to wear a bikini.
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Then the universe responds and go, yeah, you are too fat to wear a bikini.
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And you will believe that. That's what you will believe. And that'll be your reality.
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Even though it's not true, no one bloody cares about what you look like in your bikini anyway.
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But the point is, if you start pointing out the good bits, even if you're faking it.
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So if your trouble area is your tummy and you're going, oh, my tummy's too fat,
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start going, I love my tummy.
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My tummy has enabled me to give birth to children. My tummy looks great.
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Whatever it is, start talking to yourself kindly and the rest will follow.
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This will have such a big impact on your life.
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And like I said, over time, those things will become a reality and you will
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start loving your body and your body will probably start to improve as well
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because your mindset has improved.
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So step two on our go easy on yourself off resolution list is rest without guilt.
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Oh, how delightful. Rest without guilt.
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So rest is underrated and is highly overlooked.
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I think we all lead such busy lives and we're on the go and we kind of probably
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you'll find maybe like me, you feel like you're looking after everyone else
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and you're looking after the family and you're doing the school runs and you're
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going to work and you're keeping home,
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going to the gym, social media, whatever it is you're doing,
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we're busy and kind of everything else goes above resting.
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And I think when we think about resting and allowing ourselves to rest,
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sometimes we feel guilty about that, that we don't put it at the top of our list.
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And it should be one of the priorities because like I say, rest is so underrated.
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It's productive and it should be made a priority so let yourself nap.
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Zone out, binge on your favorite tv show on the sofa and most importantly schedule
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time to rest so even if you're short of time put it to the top of your list
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and even if it's a short amount of rest time schedule it in and make it a priority.
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So rest will help calm your mind, provide clarity, improve your mood and therefore
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it will aid in weight loss, increase your energy and productivity.
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You're going to have more energy and more oomph if you've allowed yourself to rest.
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Without judgment there's no guilt here think about your body when you rest your mind.
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Probably like mine normally racing a hundred
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miles of an hour and all the things that you
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need to do and achieve and then at the end of the day probably
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all of the things you feel like you haven't achieved
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and beaten yourself up and actually if
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you just give yourself some time to rest
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it's gonna it's gonna reset
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reset your brain give you
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energy everything can be reset and it
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can that can really help in reducing anxiety anxiety gets in the way of achieving
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a lot of our to-do list anyway and so can procrastination so can tiredness tiredness
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has a lot to answer for I notice that if my mood is low,
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I feel unmotivated and I just feel kind of low on life or low on what I'm doing,
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I find that I can often relate it back to tiredness.
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So I think just resting and allowing yourself the indulgence of resting.
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You are the number one person in your life and you need to look after yourself as if you are.
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Rest yourself, treat yourself, get under a blanket, enjoy, calm,
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read, nap, whatever it is you can do to rest, prioritize it.
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So number three on our go easy on yourself new year's resolution list is turn
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comparison into inspiration.
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So this is about admiring others without comparing yourself and let their energy
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motivate you and not diminish you.
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I think we live in a society of a lot of social media and we read the news and
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we see what celebrities are doing or, you know, friends or family.
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And I think particularly with social media accounts, start following media accounts
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that inspire you and delete those who don't.
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And stop comparing yourself we
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are on our own journeys staying your
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own lane we all achieve things at different
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points of our life and I think also what we're seeing
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on social media or seeing you know
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up front is what we it's a facade and we're
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seeing the best bits and you never know
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what's going on in someone else's life or behind closed doors
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so firstly it's totally wasteful energy
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to compare anyway because you really don't know what's going on in
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people's real lives but also it does
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nothing for you in comparison you're in your own race only compare with yourself
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and try and better yourself take steps to move towards your own goals don't
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compare or or copy others you're on your own journey no one else no one else is on your journey.
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Nobody else knows what it's like to walk in your shoes on your path.
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So just remove comparison. You can look and feel inspired at other people's
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social media or their businesses or their bodies, whatever that is,
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but only if they inspire you.
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If they're not inspiring, it's making you feel rubbish about yourself.
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Delete. Remember, focus on watering your own garden and that's where your plants will grow.
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One of my favourite quotes, I use it quite a lot, is where your focus goes, your energy flows.
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So if you're focusing on all these other people and getting stressed and anxious
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about how well they appear to be doing, your focus is then going on to others, comparing yourself.
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Feeling in a scarcity mindset rather than an abundant mindset thinking I don't
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have that I don't have that bikini body,
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I'm not earning that much money to go and buy that new car then that's where
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your energy goes if your focus is there your energy goes there and that is what
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your reality is going to be it's going to be in the sitting in a scarcity mindset
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so it's time to start watering your own garden,
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focus on your own goals focus on your own steps and reward and celebrate your
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own achievements Where your focus goes, your energy flows.
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So step four, New Year's resolution number four is to celebrate the tiny wins.
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Start celebrating the small wins. We just don't do this enough.
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Now I have really adopted this, this new year.
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So as of the 1st of January, this is one of my go easy on yourself resolutions.
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And I think we so often beat ourselves up and tear ourselves apart daily and
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ignore the small wins that we are accomplishing on a day-to-day basis.
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Especially when you're feeling low, lethargic, low mood, maybe you haven't got
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the motivation, maybe you want to start your own side hustle business,
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but you just, I don't know, you don't feel motivated or you don't feel inspired.
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On those days particularly, if you manage to get out of bed,
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you have a shower, you brush your hair or you make your bed, you are thriving.
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But instead, I bet you, you're beating yourself up like number one of our New
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Year's calm stoolist resolutions, what did I call it?
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The go easy on yourself resolutions.
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Speak kindly to yourself.
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Don't kick yourself when you're down, celebrate your small wins.
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Do you know what, if you manage to get out of bed today.
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Have a shower and put on a pair of clean clothes, celebrate it.
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Give yourself a pat on the back and say, do you know what? I didn't fancy getting out of bed today.
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I didn't have the motivation to get out of bed today, but I got out of bed and
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I wouldn't have made myself breakfast. Win.
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Celebrate your win. Tell yourself out loud. Tell yourself in your head, I am thriving.
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I brushed my hair today. I made the bed today.
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I cleaned the house today. It doesn't even have to be that big,
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just small, small wins if you
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went for a five minute walk and you got in 300 steps
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celebrate your wins the more that you
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do this again you're rewiring your
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brain over onto kind of the positive path you
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will start believing these things I've had a day
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of achievement today instead of going to bed thinking
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I didn't do this I wasn't very good at that I feel
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ashamed myself I didn't manage to shower today no no
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no celebrate your small wins and this is
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going to turn your days around and I cannot tell you
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how much already this is
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changing my life just from this step celebrating
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the small wins so let every small victory be a reason to cheer and honestly
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please no matter how small you will all even if you feel like you've had the
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laziest most unproductive day there will be things that you can celebrate wins for.
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So please do that. Be your own cheerleader and I guarantee you this will attract
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in more things to cheer about.
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Remember, remember my favorite quote, where your focus goes, your energy flows.
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If you're celebrating your achievements, you're going to feel good about yourself.
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You're going to attract in more achievements.
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You're going to probably end
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up doing more the next day because you're going to celebrate your wins.
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If you're focusing on the negatives and focusing on feeling as though you're
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failing, what are you going to get back?
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You're going to feel more feelings of failure, more feelings of negativity.
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More feelings of unmotivation.
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Number five on our go easy on yourself New Year's resolution list is to compliment
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yourself every single day.
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I want you to look in the mirror and find one thing to love about yourself today,
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whether that's inside or out.
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And if you're not feeling very good about yourself, there will always be something,
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something compliment yourself on.
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You will find something looking that mirror now, whether you're driving your
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car or you're at home, go and have a look in your mirror.
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And find what it is inside or out.
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More than one thing would be extra brownie points on this task and just look
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in the mirror and just say, I'm funny.
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I'm clever. I like my thick hair. I love my freckles.
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I love my big brown eyes. I love my curvy bum.
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Whatever it is, celebrate it, say it out loud and compliment yourself.
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There will always be something to compliment. the more
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you do this we're reverting back to our number one
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again speak kindly to yourself you will rewire
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your brain you will then look for things to
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complement yourself on rather than looking at the flaws stop
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looking at the flaws start building up your confidence and your self worth the
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more that you do that the more that you are going to feel that you can kind
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of challenge yourself and complete other bigger challenges in your life,
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bigger goals that you're working towards because you're going to feel more confident.
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You're going to feel more motivated.
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You're going to feel like you're radiating beauty inside and out.
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So whatever those traits are, find yourself something to
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complement about yourself and it will have a ripple effect across your whole
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life step six number six on our go easy on yourself new year's resolution list
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is it sounds so simple it sounds so simple as are all of these so you can achieve all of these.
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Walk outside even if it's freezing even if it's only for five minutes walk outside
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this will change your life I can hear you probably going well five minutes really
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is that is that going to do anything,
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I guarantee you it will.
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Walking outside in nature is proven to improve your health and your mental health.
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And that in turn is going to absolutely up and improve your manifesting game.
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I quite often find that if I'm feeling low or unmotivated,
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I will sometimes now, and I've been doing this probably for about the last year
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and it's had a massive effect on my whole life that I will just pull a coat
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on, pull a pair of shoes on and just go.
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Even if you tell yourself, I'm going to walk around the block,
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literally around the block, you don't have to do anything more than that.
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If you go back to my podcast, there's one called the John Maxwell Theory and
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it's called Chipping Away.
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It's about chipping away at your goals consistently, but in just small doses.
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And this is exactly what that is referring to. So just five minutes of being
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outside. Firstly, you're getting fresh air.
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That is going to blow away the cobwebs, blow away a lot of your negativity.
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You're not going to come back in totally transformed, although I have to say.
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Actually, sometimes I do.
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Genuinely, I go out five minutes and then it might turn into 10 minutes or 15
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minutes. Once I'm out, I think I'm out. I'm loving it.
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You know, the brain fog is clearing.
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Your muscles are moving. The blood is flowing around your body.
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I find my best ideas come to me when I'm walking.
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So that's what I'm saying. sometimes if I'm feeling low mood or
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I feel unmotivated or I've got a list of things to do I'll prioritize
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this I'll dump everything and I'll go out for five minute walk whether that's
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in the morning or the evening just go out for five
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minutes anyone can do that five minute walk out in nature so
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not only are you outside there's something
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about the mindfulness of walking outside in
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nature and just ideally I do
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take my phone out but either just try not to be on
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your phone sometimes I listen to a podcast but also just being
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outside just looking at nature
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look at the sky look at the grass look
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at notice things around you if you
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want to really practice mindfulness when you walk then
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look at things and and
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notice the colors so say I'm going to look at everything that's
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green sounds really silly right but look at everything that's
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green and you start looking and
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you start breathing you go right the tree is green the
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bush is green the field is green that car is
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green it's like it brings you back to the
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present and you are becoming mindful on your walk and I really really love this
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technique I don't always do it every time I walk because sometimes you don't
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want to feel like you have to do anything or work or you know set yourself a
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goal and now I've got to be mindful but it's also a really helpful tool when
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you're walking and sometimes I use it sometimes I put on a podcast.
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Sometimes I listen to music and sometimes I'd listen to nothing and I just go out and walk.
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And like I said, if you set yourself a really small achievable five-minute goal, you can do that.
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It's not going to interrupt your work or all the list of things that you've got to do at home.
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Just drop everything, go for five minutes. When you're out, you might go,
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I'm really enjoying this.
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Do you know what? It's really beneficial for me. I'm going to do 10 minutes.
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I'm going to do 15 minutes.
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Before you know it, it might have turned into a 30-minute walk but either way
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firstly you're outside in nature that is proven proven proven scientifically
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proven to improve your mood.
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And you're moving, and you're moving your body.
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Now, that gets the blood going, that gets everything circulating, and it clears brain fog.
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So, if you're feeling heavy, you're feeling low, and even if it's really cold
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and freezing and even raining outside,
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sometimes I'll do this, and the best walks, the best five-minute walks I have
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are the ones where it's pouring and lashing down with rain, and you put your
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hood up, you put your earphones in and you kind of think,
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feel like you can take on the world because it just proves to yourself that you are in control.
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The weather's not going to stop me. My to-do list is not going to stop me.
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I'm going to take myself out in the freezing cold.
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I'm going to wrap up and I'm going to blow the cobwebs away, be outside with nature.
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And quite often I come back, I feel re-energized
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I feel reset and it's a
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really lovely kind kind of
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self-care regime to do for yourself and
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you know what you might then get in and go back on your
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sofa and watch a tv show but the point is you can celebrate that win so it goes
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back to our last number four point celebrate your wins do you know what I went
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out for a walk okay it was only five minutes it was only seven minutes whatever
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you decide to do but I went out I went out and I pushed myself and I pushed myself.
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Outside of my comfort zone I was warm and
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toasty inside didn't want to go out but you achieved it
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it's going to guarantee improve your mood but what
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often happens is that I come back and I feel
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like I've had a reset and my mindset has
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been shifted so then I feel like I can tackle all of
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my to-do list or some of it or one of the tasks I
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feel like I can carry on writing my book I'm writing a manifesting book
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at the moment and it just gives me some oomph and this
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is just a five minutes this five minutes
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is like gold dust it's going to change your life weirdly as well the other thing
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it does it reduces tiredness so if you're tired weirdly I think the less you
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do the more tired you become so although we're prioritizing and putting our
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rest really high on the list really important.
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But also what happens if you're feeling overly, overly tired,
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sometimes just a five-minute walk outside will actually reduce your tiredness.
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So it's going to up your productivity, up your energy and reduce your tiredness.
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Hence, brain activates and you feel alive and you feel accomplished.
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What is not to love? Number six on our Go Easy on Yourself New Year's resolution list.
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I hope you're taking these on board. I hope you're going to do some of them because I'm.
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Also, if you're in the gym and hammering it and doing some really hardcore ones, good for you.
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Honestly, I'm behind you, but I really hope that you're going to take some of these on board.
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Number six is to romanticize your morning and nighttime routines.
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And if you haven't got one, get one. Now, it may just be that you only have
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time for maybe a nighttime one instead of a morning one as well,
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but whatever it is, romanticize your morning and nighttime routine.
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Create a routine that gives
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you a tingle of excitement and calm
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and happiness so maybe go
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to bed 20 minutes earlier light a
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candle adopt a skincare regime maybe get out your favorite face mask put on
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a face mask light your candle put on some music maybe give yourself a five minute
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minute meditation where you can kind of visualize your future self,
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visualize all the things that you want out of 2025, out of this year.
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Maybe make yourself a hot chocolate with marshmallows, romanticize it like you're
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in a film, like you see these pictures on social media of people in their, you know,
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in their nighttime masks and the candles lit and they've got a book and they're
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on the bed and they've got a blanket over their feet.
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Soak it up and relish in it. The more moments you can find in your life to romanticize.
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These are really simple techniques, really simple moments in your life.
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You might go to bed now, slap on a bit of night cream, if that at all,
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get into bed, roll over, flick on your phone for an hour, half an hour,
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10 minutes, watch your film.
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You have got time, even to adopt 10 minute nighttime regime,
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but do something that brings you joy and romanticize it.
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Like you're in a movie, the candle, putting on the candle, there's something about it.
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I don't always do it, but when I do it at night, I'll go up and sometimes I'll
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just go, I'll put my favorite nighttime oil on.
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You know, I brush my teeth, I put my little headband on, put my night oil on,
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light a candle sometimes I might journal for five minutes and romanticize this
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what a lovely time to be alive what a lovely routine you can create and again this is in your control.
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You are in control of your life, even if you have the busiest life in the world.
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And I know how crazy busy people are, whether you've got a family,
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a house to run, full-time work, running two jobs, whatever it is,
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make time to romanticize your life.
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Get that lovely hot chocolate, bring that hot chocolate to bed,
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put on some new slippers, buy yourself an expensive night cream if you can.
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Focus on these simple moments of happiness.
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And there are so many that can kind of crop up within your day.
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Focus on those. Remember my favorite quote, where your focus goes, your energy flows.
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The more you can focus on these simple moments of joy and happiness,
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the more you're attracting into your life, but also the more that you will recognize.
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Actually, do you know what? That's really lovely when I did that.
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It's a really small moment. maybe it's you on the sofa laughing
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with your partner that was a really lovely moment romanticize
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it if you're home alone one evening and you're single
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and you really want to manifest that partner
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go and make yourself a lovely lovely meal set up the table as if you're dining
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at a restaurant and put out your favorite silverware and get your napkins out
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and put your light a candle on the table and maybe put your favorite show on
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or listen to music or listen to a podcast,
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listen to the manifestation station and romanticize it.
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Put out your favorite meal and maybe you bought yourself your favorite dessert
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with your favorite custard, whatever it is.
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It sounds really silly and really simple, but I guarantee you it's a winner.
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You need to start romanticizing your life. you're in control of these happy moments.
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It's up to you to create them and it's up to you to relish in them and it's
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up to you to give gratitude for them. On to number seven.
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Our final step of our New Year's resolution list, the go easy on yourself resolution list.
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Number seven, and this one, oh, this one for me is something that has become
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my mantra recently, and it's game changer.
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And it is progress, not perfection.
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So what does this mean? This means
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that for me for example that there may
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be things that you want to do or that you're
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putting off doing because maybe it's starting a
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new business or it's getting fit or getting your
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dream body whatever it is sometimes we
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can we can we can put off any progress because we're aiming for the bigger picture
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we're aiming for perfection so for me to give you an example this year I'm hosting
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manifesting workshops and I'm doing some really exciting talks coming up at
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some really prestigious venues, which I'm really excited about.
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But in my head, I want to be setting up some Zoom masterclasses.
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I want to be setting up some local talks in my local area about manifesting and workshops.
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There's so many things floating around in my head and I kind of,
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I want these events or these Zooms or whatever it is I'm doing, I want them to be,
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are amazing and I want them to be perfect and you know what
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they will I'm going to make them amazing and you're going to
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enjoy it and everything's going to have a bit like a little bit extra to it
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however what I figured was that I was doing kind of too much behind the scenes
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to make everything perfect whilst actually I'm not actually making much progress
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haven't booked the venue yet I have now but this is for an example what I've
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been putting on for ages trying to find the perfect venue.
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But you know what? Just start.
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Whatever your goal is, whether that's a new job, a new business,
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your new body, whatever it is, just start.
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Take that first step and you will get to perfection or you will get to,
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you know, a really good place where you get to your end goal.
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But unless you start and you start seeing progress, you will figure out all
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the bits of perfection and how to improve.
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Once you start, you'll kind of realize then what you need to improve and you
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will improve upon it each time anyway.
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Just take that step and be consistent.
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Small consistent steps will get you to your goal faster than aiming for perfection straight away.
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So if you're trying to lose weight and you're aiming for your dream body,
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let's say your goal is to lose 10 pounds.
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But say you start and you only lose, I don't know, five pounds.
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You must acknowledge the win, acknowledge the win and acknowledge that you lost
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five more pounds than when you first started.
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The amount of people that I hear, whether it's friends or clients say,
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oh, well, you know, I was trying to lose weight and my goal is three pounds
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a week or two pounds a week. I only lost one this week or I stayed the same.
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And I go, okay, yeah. And then they go, well, it's terrible.
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It's terrible. I was set out and I have failed.
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Now, this covers so many of our points. Firstly, you're talking negatively to yourself.
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You're not celebrating the small wins. You have a win in there.
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You lost five pounds or you stayed the same or you lost one pound.
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Whatever it is, it's progress, not perfection.
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And I think this has just blown my mind recently.
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And even just this year, in the first few weeks of the year that we're in now,
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I've already found that this mantra has absolutely changed what I am achieving
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because I am making progress every day.
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Sometimes, some days I'm working more towards perfection and I do a little bit less.
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Some days I don't have as much motivation, but there is still progress.
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The point is it's progress over perfection. So if you've got a dream,
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whether you want to write a book or you've got a side hustle that you want to
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make money from, just start.
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Just start. What can you do today to make progress on that goal?
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Is it your weight loss goal? If it's weight loss and you're looking for your
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dream body, now I know a lot of you are talking about January and getting fit
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after Christmas because maybe
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you've indulged in too many mince pies and chocolates, haven't we all?
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If that is your goal then rather than
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going fully in and going I'm reaching perfection and
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I'm going to be a size 10 by July maybe
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just be kind to yourself and set yourself a progress goal not a perfection goal
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so start next week or start today by just eating more fruit and veg maybe just
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incorporate more fruit and veg into your diet and then the next week rather
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than cutting out everything,
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just improve.
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Improve and make progress. Maybe, yeah, eat some more fruit and veg.
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Maybe drink some more water.
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Maybe you're allowed to eat as much as you like, but it's got to be clean food.
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So you're never going to go hungry, but it's clean and it's made from fresh.
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Maybe, I don't know, maybe you're not snacking as much or all your snacks are now healthy snacks,
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fruit snacks hummus veg rather
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than chocolate just set yourself progress not
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perfection goals and remember remember remember remember I can't remember what
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number it was celebrate the small wins you've lost a pound you've eaten more
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fruit this week you've had more smoothies for breakfast than you have toast
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the way we talk to ourselves is everything.
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Everything. And this is the whole basis of manifesting and manifesting well.
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Please celebrate each milestone of your progress.
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Whatever your goal is, however you've progressed today, please,
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please celebrate it. Say it out loud.
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I'm so, I'm so happy I did this today. I'm so happy that I succeeded in this
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today. I'm so happy I ate more fruit today. I'm so happy I ate more water today.
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I'm happy I wrote two sentences of my book today.
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Celebrate your wins and stop waiting and procrastinating for perfection.
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So that is it today, guys.
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They are your be good, be nice to yourself New Year's resolution list goals.
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I really, really, really
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hope that you can adopt even just one of them
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because I guarantee you each and every one of these will change your life and
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I think the more I go on through life and the more that I learn I realize that
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it's about small consistent changes in your life that are going to have huge
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impact on your goals and what you're able to manifest.
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So I'm wishing you a really wonderful
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happy calm beautiful January
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full of celebrations full of
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small wins full of inner victories and
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remember please speak kindly to yourself you are the product of your thoughts
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you are the product of your own words and celebrate every single win because
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you are winning. Lots of love.
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Music.