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Guest Hypnotist Tina Nurby on Hypnosis, Denmark and Dialling Down Intense Feelings · The Hypnotist

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  Hi, it's Adam here. And on today's episode of The
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  Hypnotist, I'm joined by a guest hypnotist, Tina Nerby.
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  Tina, welcome to the show. And for the audience to get to
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  know you better, could you give us a bit of a background in
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  terms of who you are and how you started your journey in this
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  fascinating world we call hypnosis?
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  Oh, yeah, it's, it was about in 2019, I was, I was going through
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  a devotion and I needed some help to get into my inner self.
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  And I had friend, he was a hypnotherapist and he made some
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  stuff and you know, it worked. And I thought, this is more than
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  just doing inner detoxing and healing.
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  I needed healing. And I found out it was known not
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  only from the divorce, but from the past, long, long back since
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  I was a little girl. And so I started to take this
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  hypnotherapist education and it made me whole as a human and I
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  thought this is something that I can work with and help other
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  people here. So that gave you a bit of a
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  passion, a a curiosity, a desire to help other people.
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  Is there a particular niche or specialism that you tend to find
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  yourself working with clients? There are many different clients
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  and what kind of clients was best for me?
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  What age, what kind of topics could I help?
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  I, in the start, I, I, I made a lot of hypnosis about stop
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  smoking and some of it went well and some of it didn't.
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  And I found out that was not the work that I would do the stop
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  smoking work. I, I still do it sometimes, but
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  the, most of the time when people wants to stop smoking,
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  it's not always. But it, it is not the smoking
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  that's the issue. It's other stuff, you know,
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  addiction and why are they addicted?
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  And so I stopped doing that. And I found out that I wanted to
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  work with clients who has bigger issues.
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  I like to go, I like to to go to go deeper.
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  So if people only want to have one session with me, some have,
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  but that's not for me. I like to work with people more
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  than one. And are there any approaches
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  that you find are helpful or things that really help the
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  client to create breakthroughs or become unstuck or or just
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  release themselves from that lack of confidence or feeling
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  stuck in that place? Yeah, yeah.
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  It's about self esteem a lot, but also this that people is
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  going back to the past all the time.
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  They are shocked, you know, they can't move forward and it can be
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  because of difference, different things that they have gone
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  through in their life and they can't, they can't let it go, you
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  know, and they need to go forward, but they don't know
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  how. And that's that's the main thing
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  that I'm I'm meeting in my clients and in the young people.
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  It's more self esteem and be they are afraid to present in
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  front of others and because of their childhood.
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  But when I get the the older people, it's, it's all the stuff
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  that they have been through. They can't, they go back again
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  and again and they can't go forward.
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  So they need some tools to, to break this circle.
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  It's like a circle, you know, they go round and round and
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  round and they go back, but they can't go forward.
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  So they need to get, first of all, into the present.
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  You are here now, and what do you want in your future?
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  And it doesn't have to be big goals.
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  You know, it can just be that I need more.
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  I need more happiness, I need more calmness.
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  You know, it doesn't have to be I want to be a president or I
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  want to be something bigger. So it's not the the big things
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  that they are coming with, but it can mean a lot for their
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  everyday life. And regarding relationships, I
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  mean that a lot. And relationships is also
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  something with the client and the hypnotherapist.
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  And my background ground is I'm have been working since I was 17
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  with, with the relationships regarding I'm from the I've been
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  working in hospitals and all that.
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  That's my my past and relationships are one of the
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  most important work, I think, because everybody gets a
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  relation. You'll also do that with your
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  client as a hypnotherapist. You're absolutely right.
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  I mean, the relationship between the practitioner and the client
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  is such an important element. And at a basic level we can call
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  that rapport. But obviously you get to know
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  about some of the most painful experiences or the the biggest
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  struggles with the client. When you're thinking about all
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  the clients that you've worked with, is there a particular
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  client that comes to mind that you feel either fascinated by
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  that particular client or very proud of the breakthrough that
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  you helped them to to get to that place where you felt you've
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  made an impact there? Yeah, it.
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  I'm a very open minded person and I had this young boy, he was
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  21 and his mother called me and I said to her, I can't take him
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  if if, if it's not coming from him.
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  So he called me and we had a talk and he said I'm very
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  aggressive and I can't I can't get rid of it.
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  And sometimes I have some blackouts.
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  I can't remember what I'm doing when I go out in the the cities
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  and and it ruined his life. And his mother has told him that
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  he could go to a hypnotherapist and they found me on the
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  Internet and, and I said, yes, I can, I can help you.
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  I know I can help you in a way. So let's join me.
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  And he came and, and he was very silent, didn't say much.
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  And the session started. And I, I tried to do a lot of
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  stuff in the start and it helped a little, but we didn't get to
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  the deeper. And I think maybe 15 minutes
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  before the session ended, I said to him, how are you feeling now?
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  And he said a little better. And I said, but have you have we
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  got the something? Have you have we got into a
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  issue? And he said, I have this, I have
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  this little girl looking at me every day.
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  And I thought it was a girl who was alive living and and he said
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  no. She came into my life when I was
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  about 5-6 years old and it started in my bedroom and she
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  was when I was sleeping and when I woke up and before I go to
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  bed, she was standing there looking at me and he knew she
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  was not real. We didn't go into this with
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  ghosts and everything. And I thought I will go with
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  this and I will try to help him. And I said to him, do you want
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  to get rid of her? And he says yes of course.
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  She's laugh, laughing at me and, and in a bad way and, and she's
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  still in my life and I don't know what to do about it.
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  And I don't know if it has something to do with my
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  aggression or my life. And I said we can, we can try to
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  get rid of her. And I did a session where a
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  little session where I, I tried to make him get her away, but
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  she didn't disappear. And then I said, do you want me
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  to try? Do you want me to tell her to go
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  away? And he said yes, if you can.
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  And and I said to him, close your eyes and imagine her in
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  front of you. And he could of course see her
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  immediately. And I approached her and I said
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  you need to go away. Your time here is over and you
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  need to leave him. I don't know where you have to
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  go or what, or I don't believe in the light and all that.
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  So I just told her he the stuff that you have been doing with
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  him or for him is over and you have to leave now.
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  And I was really, you know, I didn't say it in an angry way,
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  but I said it as in a very, you know, you have to go now because
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  he needs to get rid of you. He needs to get free.
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  And after that, he opened his eyes and I asked him, is she
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  still there? And he said, no, not right now.
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  And after one week, I called him.
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  So I asked how are you? And he said, I'm I'm better, I'm
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  feeling more free, I'm feeling more heavier, not not heavy
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  happy, but I'm I'm laughing more and I said is, is the girl still
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  there? And he said yes, she is, but
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  she's not laughing at me anymore.
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  I. Mean it sounds like you had a
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  huge impact on that particular client, potentially even taking
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  their life from that point onwards on a on a different
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  trajectory than it would have been had you not been involved.
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  I know of you from being the organizer of the Danish
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  Hypnotherapy Conference. I'm curious though, how did that
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  come about? How did you end up effectively
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  running one of the most important hypnosis conferences
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  in in Europe? Some years ago, two years ago, I
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  went to A to this organization for a conference in Denmark and
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  it's called FHHD and it's an asseration for hypnotists and
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  hypnotherapists in Denmark. And I went to this conference
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  and it's, it was amazing because we had international speakers
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  and then speakers from Denmark as well.
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  And they had this meeting in the in the conference where we could
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  come as a member. And I was a new member.
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  And I didn't know much about this as a as association.
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  I can't pronounce pronounce the name.
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  I didn't know much about it and I didn't know much about their
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  work. And I was interesting in, in
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  what? What are you doing for the
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  hypnotist and hypnotherapist in Denmark?
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  Because I couldn't find much about it in, in the social
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  media. They had two different Facebook
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  pages and I, I got confused. They were not posting a lot
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  there. And on the web page I couldn't
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  read much. So, you know, I reached my hand
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  and I asked as a, and I said as a new member and you are
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  confusing me. I don't know what I can get out
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  of being a member here. And, and people, you know, they
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  were laughing and I thought, OK, am I going into something that
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  is not good or is it bad or something?
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  But the organization was not going very well at that time.
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  And people saw me as a person who, you know, I could reach.
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  I could say my voice loud and I could speak for myself.
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  And a lot of them saw me as a new member in that organization.
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  And they asked me at the at the meeting, you need to be in this
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  organization because you are a person who can speak loud.
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  And that was not my attention, you know, when I went to the
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  conference. But when I went home, I was a
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  member of the organization. So I thought, OK, what am I
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  doing about this? So I went to the organization as
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  a member, and today I'm a vice president for the second.
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  Yeah. And I didn't want to be the
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  president because I don't need that.
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  So I'm a vice president and I'm the, I'm responsible for.
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  So me and, and the website and, and a lot of the international
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  speakers and I'm sending emails through our members.
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  And our members has gone from, I think they were about 40.
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  And now we are 109 members and the conference is getting bigger
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  and bigger. And it's not only because of me,
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  it's because the members in the organisations, we are 5-6
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  people. We are a team, a very good team
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  and we are working very good together.
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  And last year we got a new president.
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  We, we, we asked for him to be the president, Brian.
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  And he's doing a good work and we are working, all of us are
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  working very good together. And we have decided with this
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  organization to make it even bigger.
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  So Rania Fraser, which was one of our speakers this year from
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  Portugal, a very bright girl and a wonderful person, beautiful.
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  So she told me that she had some connections in Sweden and
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  Norway. So I'm going to call them, text
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  them. And we are moving the
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  conference, the Danish conference, which is always in
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  March, the same dates, 3 days conference to Copenhagen next
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  year, because the place that we run the conference now is
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  difficult to get to with flight. And we want more international
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  speakers, we more, we want more members.
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  We are thinking about being an organization which is more
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  Sweden, Norway, Denmark, if possible.
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  I have big ideas and I always speak them loud because when you
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  when you say things loud, it's going to be, it's going to
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  happen. That's my experience as a
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  business woman since 2009. Every time I say things loud,
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  it's going to happen because that's, I don't know what it is,
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  but that's my experience. And so we, we have this
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  conference once a year and I'm going to other conference, I'm
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  going to Ireland in April. As you are not as a speaker, but
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  as just being there, meeting different kind of hypnotist and,
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  and, and see what tools they use and how they speak and what they
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  talk about. To ask them to come to Denmark,
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  but also to get this big, big, big international relationship
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  because I like to meet people, see people, listen to them.
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  I'm very curious as a person. So the organization is very,
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  it's growing and I have heard from the international speakers
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  what they like about our conference is we have this only
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  one room, big room and the conference is going there.
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  So everyone is together. So the speakers can also hear
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  each other. You know, when I go to, I was in
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  in England and it was an amazing conference.
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  I loved it. But I think they have more than
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  one room. I think they have 3.
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  All rooms and you have to decide, do I want to hear that
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  or do I want to hear that person?
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  It's like a menu and I and I think it's a great idea.
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  It's fine. But we only have one room.
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  So there's only one program and it's all Friday, all Saturday,
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  all Sunday. And so everyone is together.
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  So that's, that's different I hear from the speakers.
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  Yeah, I mean that that certainly is different from a lot of the
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  conferences that I speak at. I'm just thinking hypno thoughts
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  in Vegas have got maybe about 10 rooms at any point in time.
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  And and it's it is good that there's so much choice, but it
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  does mean that you can't possibly see everyone that's
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  there. You have to sacrifice one
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  speaker in favour of a of of a different speaker.
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  You can't possibly see everyone and and even some of the smaller
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  conferences like the UK Hypnosis Convention, there's three rooms
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  there and that's the same with the Irish Hypnotherapy
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  Conference 2, which I think we're going to be meeting at
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  very soon. Who is your conference for?
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  Is it just for hypnotherapist, just for hypnotist, just for
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  stage hypnotist? Who Who tends to go to the
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  Danish Hypnotherapy Conference? Yeah, the conference is not only
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  for people who are hypnotherapist or hypnotist or
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  stage hypnotist. It's also for people who who are
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  interested in the mind and, and the subconscious mind and, and
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  so it's for everyone. And you don't have to be a
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  member of the organization to to be to attend the conference so
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  everyone can come. I'm just curious really.
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  I mean, is the being a Danish hypnosis conference, I'm
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  assuming that some of the speakers are speaking in in
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  Danish? Or is it the case that the
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  majority of the speakers are speaking in English for the
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  audience that's there? Oh, it's not important because
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  we don't have much, We don't have many speakers in Danish
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  anymore. We we attend to go to the
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  speakers in the, the foreign countries.
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  I think Denmark is, is not big. And a lot of the, the, the
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  hypnotherapist who is attending the conference, they know and
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  they have seen and they have, you know, tried all the tools
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  from many of the Danish speakers.
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  So they want to meet international speakers from all
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  over the world to learn new techniques and new tools and
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  other ways to think and approach clients.
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  So we attend to have one or two Danish speakers and then the
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  rest will be international. We have a little room, a smaller
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  room in Copenhagen next year and we are thinking about maybe
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  putting the Danish speakers in there because we have Danish
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  people who are not very good at English and that could be for
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  them maybe, I don't know. We I'm thinking about that.
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  So let's see. So Tina, you've got a bit of a,
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  a technique or an approach that you want to share with us,
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  something that can help, let's say, dial down intense feelings
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  and intense emotions, that kind of stuff.
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  So tell us a little bit about this technique and then talk us
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  through it so that anyone listening right now can
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  actually, let's say, reduced feelings of stress, anxiety or
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  worry or something like that. Yeah, I'll, I'll leave it to you
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  and then you can talk us through this.
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  Yeah. So if you have a feeling and
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  you, you have this feeling from one to 10 and 10 is, is not
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  good. And you, you, you feel this
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  feeling in your body or your mind or your thoughts.
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  And it's it's, it's, it's not doing anything good for you.
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  Maybe you have a memory or experience with this feeling.
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  So try to find this feeling. Just find it.
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  Maybe you can imagine how it's what it's doing to you and your
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  body and it's if it's an experience and a feeling which
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  is not good, just imagine how it's how it's doing to you.
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  And it can be a person as well. Maybe you have a relationship
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  with a person who is no, who has a bad energy.
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  It can be bad energy. We can call it a bad energy, but
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  it's doing something not good for you.
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  So when you find this, then imagine that you can see it as a
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  film or a picture just in front of you.
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  Just imagine it in front of you. Maybe it's in colour, maybe it's
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  in black and white, and if you feel something in your body,
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  just it's all right and it doesn't matter what it is.
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  And when you have it right there in front of you, if there are
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  any sounds, maybe in your head, maybe in the picture film.
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  So just turn it up. It's all right.
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  You can turn it up. I want you to feel it, just to
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  feel it in a moment and in one moment.
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  I want you to. I will do like this with my
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  finger on the sound here, you know, and when you are ready,
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  and I don't know if it's a film or picture, but if you have
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  something, do you have something?
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  Adam? OK, great.
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  Do you want to make it less? Yeah.
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  Is the number high or in the middle of where are we in the
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  number? OK, great.
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  That's great. And we have something to work
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  with. Just close your eyes.
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  OK, great. Take this.
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  Is it a picture or a video? OK, so just look at the all the
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  detail on the video and if there are any colors, is there any
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  colors? Great then now you can every
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  time I do like this. OK, you can turn the colors down
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  to black and white. Then they would get black and
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  white maybe. Great.
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  It doesn't matter. Can you do that?
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  OK. Do you have any sounds?
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  No, that's great. So no sounds.
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  It's black and white. Do you have any feeling in your
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  body? OK.
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  From one to 10 and 10 is bad. Where are we now?
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  OK, 6:00 and 7:00. And if anybody is having the
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  same watching this, listen to this.
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  Just go with what I'm doing right now.
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  Where's the feeling in your gut, OK?
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  Is it hard or soft? OK, I can twist.
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  OK. OK, so imagine when I do this.
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  You can. OK.
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  Can you hear it? Yeah.
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  Every time I do this, the twist will be slower and slower and
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  slower and slower and it will stop.
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  Just imagine it would stop. Does it stop?
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  OK, great. So where are you from in the
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  number now? Maybe 2.
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  So in a moment, imagine that you can get rid of that in your
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  stomach, in your gut, in your gut.
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  You can get rid of it. So every time I do this, it will
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  get smaller, smaller, smaller. And take a deep breath down your
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  stomach if you can. I'm all the way down.
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  And how is it now? OK, great, great.
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  Now I want you to go back to the film, which is black and white,
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  no sound, just get it in front of you.
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  And then I want you to imagine that right now you can make it
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  smaller and smaller and smaller and smaller.
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  That video can get so tiny that it will almost disappear.
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  So when I do this, it will get very tiny, as tiny as you can
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  get it and when you are ready, but 1st when you are ready and
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  it's very tiny, Just imagine that you can throw this away.
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  Just imagine that you take it all the way out in the universe
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  if that's what you need to do, but just get rid of it.
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  It doesn't you don't need it anymore.
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  It's has done what it was supposed to do.
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  And when you're ready and it's gone, you can open your eyes and
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  and then I'm going to ask you, what do you have a car?
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  Do you have a car? Do you have a car?
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  Yeah. What colour is it?
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  Oh, that's the car. Most, most people have a black
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  car. So if you try to find the
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  feeling, where is it right now? OK, so how are you feeling?
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  Great. So this is just a little
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  exercise. Is not, but you can use it in in
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  different approaches. I'm not used to do it in
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  English, so if I did something you know wrong, I apologise.
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  No, I, I thought that was very useful and, you know, completely
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  acknowledged that English isn't your first language.
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  But I, I think that I certainly followed where you were going
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  with that. And, and I think, yeah, a lot of
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  people would be able to locate a feeling connected with something
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  undesirable and, and kind of dial that down.
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  So, Tina, thank you so, so much for joining me on the show
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  today. And if anyone listening would
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  like to learn more about you or connect you or find you online,
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  where's the best place that they can go to to find out more
• 35:29
  information about you? Or indeed the Danish
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  Hypnotherapy Conference. I have, I have my web page and
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  I'm on social media, TikTok, Facebook, LinkedIn.
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  Yeah, you can. You can put it in yeah if you
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  want. Once again, Tina, thank you so,
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  so much for joining me on The Hypnotist today, and I'm looking
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  forward to seeing you at at one of the upcoming conferences that
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  I'm sure we'll both be attending.
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  Yeah, it was a pleasure for me too.
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