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How My Husband Married Me For His Mother and Relocated To The UK With His First Wife · DidiLawren

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  Hello and welcome back to another episode of bantul
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  Orencia on the Lauren TV. Thank you for joining us for
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  today's episode. I want to talk about a story
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  that was preview to and the reason why I wanted to talk
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  about this is because in lots of forceful victims to whether man
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  or woman to people who have Different intention coming to us
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  and saying different things that are not even their intention
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  towards us. So a friend of mine called me
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  and said, she has a friend who reached out to her because she
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  knew that she had somebody in the UK that could advise.
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  And I was like, okay, what is the problem?
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  So according to the story? She had a boyfriend in Nigeria
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  who she was talking to. I mean this guy is about, you
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  know, 20 years older than she is.
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  I don't even know why they were talking.
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  But, anyway, she was talking to this person who was responsible
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  for, you know, some of our table keeps and here and there, and
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  all that soul in Te she, the guy came to her and said that he
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  wants to get married. She said she was devastated.
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  She was, like, why are you getting married to somebody
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  else? When, you know, we are in loving
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  relationship. The guy said, he is really
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  getting married to this lady because she lives in the UK and
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  he wants to get his tea because he has been trying to travel to
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  the you Very, very long time, and he has not been successful.
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  So he reconnected with a childhood friend who he decided
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  to propose to her. He proposed to her.
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  She accepted. And meanwhile, she came to
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  Nigeria to, you know, marry him. They did caught wedding church
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  wedding, traditional wedding. The guy's parents, were they?
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  He attended the whole ceremony after the whole marriage
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  ceremony? The UK wife went back to the UK
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  to foul, you know, arrange things done, file for him to
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  join her. While he was in Nigeria.
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  He linked up with the same girl and they continue the
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  relationship. The girl said, the mother
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  convinced the man to marry her as a second wife for the mother
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  without the knowledge of the lady in the UK processing every
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  document for Fall for a whole bunch of join her.
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  So, within the period of the guy joining, his wife Legal Wife, in
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  the UK. He already paid.
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  The bride price of the second Lady and she was pregnant before
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  he left Nigeria. She has a son.
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  Now, the sun is about two years old.
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  The guy is trying to fall for his think they have like two
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  different stages of visa application.
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  So she said she has been Communication, with the husband
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  in the UK. And the wife does not know
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  anything about it. According to her.
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  She said, the wife in the UK is not even aware of anything is
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  going on. But now that the husband wants
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  to extend his powerful visa. She is advising him to put the
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  name of the son on the document and he is refusing to do that.
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  Now, she's thinking, okay, maybe this guy has really continued
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  with his life in the UK and Of married her for his mother.
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  Because now she's living with the mother.
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  She's taking care of the mother and everything.
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  She has a son, which is making the mom happy, but our auntie
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  wants to travel to the UK. Now.
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  I'm just said she's out of Nigeria that she's too young to
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  be taking care of, you know, living with an old woman and
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  taking care of our old one that has sown is entitled.
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  To travel to the UK that she wants the, the husband in the UK
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  to file, in his documents and putting the name of our son as a
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  dependent, and the Man in the UK is refusing.
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  So, they came to me to ask me if they can go to the Embassy to
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  the British Embassy to report that they have, the father of
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  our child is. I think they just thought he's
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  not a British citizen or something like that.
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  So they are trying to say the father of my child is in the UK.
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  He's British and all that. And now they want to file for
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  the child. You know, how I was, I didn't, I
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  was dumbfounded, like, how could people sit down and create
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  problem for themselves? Like, why would you, why would
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  you put another woman in that kind of situation?
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  Regardless of what that man has told you?
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  Yes, he is over 20, like 20 years older than you are and for
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  him to have manipulated you. I am not even blaming the girl.
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  But for her to even continue in that part is what's got me
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  thinking I sympathize with her because you know, she's in a
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  situation whereby she was like to.
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  She was deceived. She was told something and the
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  money is now doing something else.
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  She said she wants to contact the wife in the UK to tell her
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  everything that was that is going on physically and the wife
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  in the UK, she is doing yet to have a child.
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  And so she's thinking okay, if she tell the wife, the wife,
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  who'll agree. Because now they will have its
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  own or they will have a child. Do you want a seat sink?
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  Do you owe the city? I was so confused.
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  I was looking at my friend and I was thinking, how could you even
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  think that this is? Okay.
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  She said, well, that she came to her and she didn't know what to
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  do. She didn't know how to even
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  advise her. She just told her that she has
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  someone in the UK that could Enlighten, the bullets of them
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  on how to go about it. I said, listen.
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  I don't even know how to this is, ethically morally, and it is
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  wrong. I am not saying it is bad for
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  people to have second wife. Listen, second wife is a norm in
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  Nigerian a people marry second wife, but the way the man went
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  about it, I think for some reason he knew or maybe he knew
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  the medical condition of the lady he married and he just
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  wanted to be saved to have a child but You could have opened.
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  I mean, we live in a very civilized, not every more to go
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  through Labor, not every woman wants to have children.
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  Maybe she told him, she don't want to have children.
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  I don't know the situation, but the fact is, she doesn't have a
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  child and the husband before he even traveled.
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  I mean, she came back. Married him fall for him to join
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  her and when she was busy filing, all these papers, the
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  man was busy making. That plans make another
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  arrangement for for somebody to sit down.
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  You know, I wanted to do this video yesterday, but I don't
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  because I don't feel emotion. I was like just call me.
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  I'll be shouting because it's just ridiculous.
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  I was like, okay, first of all this man just traveled.
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  He is trying to renew because I think they have like two years.
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  It's like currently for spousal Visa.
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  Its five-year stretch boards two and a half years first and you
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  renew for no that's 1/2 years. Before you get to indefinite.
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  So here is at the process of renewing.
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  The second two and half years and she is demanding that he
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  puts the child's name in the process like a dependence.
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  Like oh I have a child in Nigeria and he is my dependent.
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  And I'm like, how is your husband going to explain the
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  fact that he got married and then impregnated, somebody in
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  Nigeria. How is he going to explain that?
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  She said, well, they are thinking of the case of
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  infidelity that nobody. I was like, well, if you're
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  going to argue based on that fact, once the wife in the UK
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  news, that he has a child, she is going to do her research.
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  She is going to probably come back to Nigeria, and people are
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  going to talk. If she's malicious.
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  She might just cancel the whole thing automatically or she might
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  just do something crazy. At the end of the day.
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  You're going to be left hanging. She was saying that, That's the
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  husband, actually explained all these things to her and he told
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  her to have more patience for another two and a half years
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  before, but she's thinking of she's too young.
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  She's just living night Nigeria. She's not doing anything she
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  wanted. Now, I didn't even know what to
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  say. I didn't even know how to advise
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  her. I just told her.
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  Listen, you did something wrong. What you did?
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  Yes, I can understand that. You were very young, though,
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  your husband because he paid. The right price.
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  He probably manipulated you but you made a decision because you
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  were thinking, okay. He's traveling abroad.
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  He told you on these three things is going to come back,
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  get you and all that and you're thinking okay you have this
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  opportunity for he married you according to her.
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  She even attended the wetting called my friend back.
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  And I'm like, why did you even think that I would help in this
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  kind of? Tuition and she said, well, does
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  she know that I was not going to help, which will bring your
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  content to me. There are certain things that,
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  yes. I am happy to talk about it
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  bore. This is morally wrong.
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  I don't understand. I don't understand how people
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  rationalize things. Like, how do you even if you
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  wear in that woman's shoe? What would you have done you
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  attended her wedding? as family friend, because the
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  Some families are up. I don't want to say bad.
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  But some families, they don't have conscience.
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  Now. This guy has received two women
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  because the wife in the UK, I am very sure.
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  She Instinct. You already knows that there is
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  something going on. But of course, is going to be
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  lying. He's going to tell her that he
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  is. Somebody, that is taking care
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  of, you know, when a whole family sits down and plan, the
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  mother is involved. Whole family went ahead, Amari
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  this lady before the man traveled, like, how low can
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  people get? I think I have to make another
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  video to talk about specifically men murmuring wives for their
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  mother, you know, they have especially men in the Aspera
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  because this is a whole why it's a very broad problem because you
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  have many industrial who are married to Sometimes white,
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  ladies foreign ladies, even those ones, married to women.
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  That Nigerians that are born in the Aspera.
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  So they feel they need somebody, they need to marry somebody for
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  their mothers. So that is a broader topic that
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  I will be talking about. But in this situation, I would
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  just tell this lady you did very wrong.
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  Yes. I can understand that you were
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  manipulated, but now you're deliberately trying to hurt
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  somebody else. Yes, you a young when this whole
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  thing happened. But at the same time, now, you
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  are wiser. You're a much wiser.
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  Even if you're going to approach the lady to tell how what is
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  happening. Don't do it in a malicious way.
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  Don't try to to keep get out of the way because he is the first
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  wife. She didn't do anything to you.
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  She didn't know what she didn't even know anything that was
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  going on. If it going to be angry with
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  somebody, then you have to be angry with your husband because
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  he wanted to have a child in. In Nigeria.
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  She wanted to have a wife in Nigeria, that would take care of
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  his mom. He has achieved all those things
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  and he is living large, living his life in the UK, which is
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  wife lady. What I would say, is ask God for
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  forgiveness, pray about it. If you, even if you're going to
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  talk to this, the lady in the UK, though, the first wife in
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  the UK, don't make it, make sure that at least your husband is
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  away, so that it will not be, don't make it Stone.
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  Make you worse than it already is.
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  I mean, this is a by very bad situation.
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  I don't even know how you're going to get out of it, but
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  don't make it worse for yourself.
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  So thank you very much for watching, today's episode.
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  So leave me a comment in the comment section.
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  If you think there is either a different suggestion or a
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  different advice that you can give this lady.
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  I am happy to hear it and then relate back to her.
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  So, please like, like, like, share this video and thank You
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  for watching. Bye.
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  Bye.