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The Player - Hypnosis to Harness a Harmless Fantasy · The Hypnotist

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Welcome to The Hypnotist, the show that gives you inside
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access to cutting edge hypnosis with real clients facing
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genuine. Issues.
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Brought to you by The Hypnotherapist, demanded by
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celebrities CE OS and even royalty Adam Cox, these
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famous Harley Street. So get yourself comfortable and
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enjoy today's episode of The Hypnotist.
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Hi, it's Adam here and you're about to listen to a game
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metaphor hypnosis session to deal with a particular fantasy
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in many ways. There was a client that I was
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working with and they had a fling and they were still
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thinking about that fling and they didn't want a relationship
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with the person they had that fling with.
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But equally they didn't want to just kind of cut it and have
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nothing to do with them. They wanted that element of
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tension and excitement, and this hypnosis session really utilizes
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the metaphor of a game and a game where their attention is a
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way of them to harness the game. And the real thing is that they
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are winning the game. If they are making choices from
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an empowered place, and if they're thinking too much about
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the other person, then they lose the game.
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So it's about defining the parameters of the game to turn
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something that could be A cause of guilt or shame or regret or
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just anxiety into something more like a harmless fantasy that
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actually makes their life more exciting.
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Now, the key caveat, the key condition to this is that there
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is a boundary that they're not going to move beyond the idea of
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fantasy. It's not going to affect their
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real life. The fling was just a fling and
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it's nothing more than that. And as long as they respect that
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boundary, it remains this thing that they can decide to stop
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playing the game whenever they want.
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But if they choose to play the game, they're making the game
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work for them. And that might enrich their
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ability to do things that are good for themselves anyway.
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So take pride in their appearance, work out, you know,
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do things for themselves that they might not do if they didn't
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have this particular dynamic. So if you can relate to the idea
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of wanting excitement, drama, and turning into a little bit of
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a fun game that you play while respecting the other people in
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your life, then this could be an interesting hypnosis session for
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you. And if you like the idea of
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working with me, I actually have created a webinar.
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It's a free webinar that explains what I do, why hypnosis
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works. It's got suggestibility tests.
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So if you like the idea of finding more out about that,
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have a look in the the description and you'll see a
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link to sign up immediately for that webinar.
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At the end of the webinar there's actually 10 free
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hypnosis downloads worth £97.00 or about $130.00, so you'll get
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that free just by watching the webinar to the end.
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For now though, I'd encourage you to find a quiet, comfortable
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place where you won't be distracted or disturbed to relax
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and enjoy the session. Take a deep breath in and as you
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breathe in, breathe in that wonderful feeling of calm and
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relaxation. And as you exhale, just allow
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any feelings of worry, stress, or tension.
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To just leave your body in your outward breath, breathing in
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relaxation, exhaling tension as you scan your body for any clues
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of any tension in your jaw, your neck or your shoulders.
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Position your body in such a way where ever increasing relaxation
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is inevitable. You can breathe in for deeper
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exhale for longer. Just allow each breath to take
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you deeper, relaxed than the last.
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That's it. And the deeper you breathe, the
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more relaxed you feel. And the more relaxed you feel,
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the deeper you breathe a flywheel of ever increasing
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feelings of resourceful relaxation.
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And just take an even deeper breath than before and just
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breathe in that quality of settled readiness, the calm of
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someone who has been here before and knows what they're doing.
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And I want you to embrace, acknowledge your competitive
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nature. The way you're wired has given
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you so much. It's influence your fitness,
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your career, your ability to learn, to impact, to acquire
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knowledge and make friendships. And there is a desire within
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you. Be aware of power dynamics, the
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ebbs and flows of communication, able to keep an upper hand, have
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the edge. This isn't something you have to
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learn. This is just part of who you
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are. And that's same intelligence
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that has served you so well in all of these different areas is
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present right now. But what if we can enhance it,
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take that competitive nature and dial it up to the next level,
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enable it to be sharpened, enhanced, and refined even
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further. And I wonder as you breathe in
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and breathe out, sinking deeper into that place of clarity,
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thoughtfulness, I want you to think of a memory, perhaps you
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in your early 20s, where you were clear on the rules of the
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game. It was fine to someone show you
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interest, but I want you to observe that version of you and
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just see how clear your boundaries were.
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Just because somebody wanted something didn't mean you had to
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say yes. If someone didn't meet your
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criteria, you would pay them no mind.
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And as you observe that younger version of you, seeing that when
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the rules of the game were clear, you were able to enjoy
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the harmless nature of fun, of drama, of attention hibbing and
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flowing. Because this game now is a game
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you've played before, not this exact version.
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The underlying structure is completely familiar, that
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dynamic where someone is putting in more effort than you, where
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the validation comes with a quality of the pursuit attached.
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Where the emotional upper hand is yours because you are the one
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who could walk away more easily. As you observe a version from
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your past, you know you play that game well.
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You knew the rules, you knew your position, and crucially,
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you knew that the game was the game, something you were playing
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for the stimulation it provided. And there were other women your
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age that were on the receiving end of a different game and they
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didn't know the rules. That wasn't you.
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Some games are being played whereas other people are being
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played, and what you are unconscious can see this is the
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same game dressed in adult clothes, a different
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environment, running on a different platform, but
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structurally very similar, and you can see what contributed to
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it. Secrecy, pressure,
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responsibility, time. There may have been something
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that opened a window of opportunity, but the ingredients
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were incubating before that time.
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And those similar dynamics, those familiar dynamics, are
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still there. Glances, messages, smiles.
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Proximity still present, still creating energy, tension and
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drama. This isn't mysterious, not
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uncontrollable. It's a pattern your competitive
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nervous system finds fascinating stimulating, and the moment you
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see it for what it is, something shifts in your relationship to
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it. You are the 1 running this game.
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You are not being played by the game, and you choose to play
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because it's fun and interesting for you.
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But here's the most important refinement.
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Since it's your game, you get to define the rules.
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So here's 1 upgrade. The game needs that one
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adjustment that converts it from something that occasionally runs
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you into something you run entirely.
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Because in the past you were careful never to let your score
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depend on the other person's moves.
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Every reaction had an equal and opposite reaction.
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Disinterest. You knew what you would do.
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Your mood did not hinge was not dependent on everything that
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someone else did. You knew you had options that
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were empowering for you. So right now I want you to think
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about how you enhance the rules now so that whether or not they
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do certain things does not affect your mood unless you want
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it to. the possibility of chance encounters, all of that you only
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decide to keep if it gives you more of that excitement, drama
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and intrigue. But the moment yourself worth
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starts being affected by what someone may or may not notice
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the amount of attention. A compliment or lack thereof
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isn't needed to play this game, so allow your unconscious to
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recalibrate this. Now.
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You are the game's master, you define the rules, and you can
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recalibrate with the precision of someone who knows exactly
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what the winning position looks like.
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Their presence is interesting, or it isn't.
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A message arriving or not arriving is just mildly
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entertaining, or it isn't, but it does not determine the
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quality of your day. What they do or don't do does
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not mean winning or losing. Winning or losing is entirely
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based on what you do. And every time you do something
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from a genuine position of fun, high self worth, improvement,
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and evolution, you're winning. And every time you choose to do
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something from a position of low self worth, let's define that
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losing. If it empowers you, you're
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winning. If you feel forced, coerced, if
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you feel that you have to react rather than respond, that's
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losing. And therefore this game, it
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becomes a game that you can always win.
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They give you attention, you're winning.
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You don't get attention, you're still winning.
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If you choose to feel good and do something that make you feel
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good, it's still winning. Their attention is a move in a
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game, but this is your game. When the attention arrives, you
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notice it, and when it doesn't, you notice that too, and you
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return to your game, which is always more interesting than
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whatever their moves are within it.
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There's a new way of thinking worth installing into this
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subconscious game, so let's install it cleanly and
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permanently. About what has been motivating
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additional gym sessions, enhancement to your living
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conditions, dressing well, improving yourself.
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Because this surface story, which isn't true by the way, has
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been. I want him to notice how well
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I'm doing. But that gives your power away
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if he goes unnoticed. You can feel like you're losing,
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but your unconscious can access the deeper truth.
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The gym sessions happened regardless of whether or not he
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noticed you acquiring new law, new knowledge, and new
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understandings. Shaking up new hobbies and
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improving yourself, all of that contributes to an elevated
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higher value version of yourself.
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So long as you are moving forward, that is winning.
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And the idea that you're addressing or presenting
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yourself for someone else, it was just a proxy for the real
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truth. You were doing it for you
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because if they noticed, you would feel good.
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So it was always for you. So why not embrace it being for
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you? It's a wonderful idea called the
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double bind. You may have heard the phrase
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heads I win, tails you lose. Whatever happens, you end up
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winning. If they notice, you win.
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And if they don't notice, but you improve yourself anyway, you
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win. Given that the underlying motive
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is to win, why not make the game so you can't possibly lose?
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They were just the excuse, the competitive part if you needed
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to upgrade the player in a game they didn't know they were
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playing. And all of these upgrades are
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yours now, permanently, highly independent of whether this
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particular game continues or fades.
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Everything you've done to show up better, you actually did for
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yourself. He may have been the spark, but
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you are the fire. The results are yours, but this
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game needs one rule to keep it fun.
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The reason this game is enjoyable rather than
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destructive is a single clear boundary, and your unconscious
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can hold this as a structural fact rather than a moral
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instruction. The drama is valuable precisely
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because it costs nothing real. The excitement exists because
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the stakes are low. The fantasy is pleasurable
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because it is fantasy. The moment any of the fantasy
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changes into true risks linked to reality, the moment low
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stakes become high stakes, the game stops being entertainment
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and becomes something else entirely.
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Not because of what anyone else would think, but because you are
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someone who knows the difference between a game that benefits you
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and a game that costs you. Why risk all these wonderful
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things that you've built? Relationship, career,
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reputation, life that's genuinely full?
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A wonderful way to think about a game.
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Why play the game if it's not worth winning?
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You are playing this game for fun and drama, stimulation and
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interest. You don't want anything more
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than that. You've already considered it and
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ruled it out, and therefore anything that can move it in
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that direction suddenly means it's a game you don't want to
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play. It's not a restriction, but the
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clearest possible expression of your own competitive
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intelligence. The player who knows when to
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stay in a game and when to cash out.
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A player who never lets the excitement of a hand make her
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forget what's actually at stake. The drama stays interesting
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because it stays in its lane. The boundary is not a cage.
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It's the rule that makes the game worth playing.
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Think of all of these games. You've been playing real games
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with real rules. If you break the rule, the game
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suddenly gets confusing and messy.
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The game only makes sense and the players stick to the rules
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of the game. So you are the player.
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You run the game. The game does not run you.
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Everything you've done to show up better you did for yourself.
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And the boundary that keeps this fun is knowing what you want and
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what you don't. While it's a fun fantasy that
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offers drama and intrigue, keep playing the game the moment it
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creeps into a different territory.
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Just like any other game, you can decide you don't want to
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play it anymore. And I want you to imagine what
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the next few days, weeks, or even months would be like.
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A game where you can't lose. You have that tension, that
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chemistry, that attention, that validation.
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That's winning. And anytime you choose to
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improve yourself, that's winning.
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The only way to lose is to give the power of how you feel away
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to the actions or inactions of someone else.
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So imagine what that looks like, that whatever happens, you're
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winning. And if your unconscious is happy
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to refine the rules of the game to make it work for you more
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than ever before, let me know by nodding your head.
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And with that in mind, it's time to return.
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Return to an intentional, positive, wonderful game of your
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choosing. Take a deep breath in through
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your nose, hand out through your nose, wiggle your fingers and
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wiggle your toes. Connect and calibrate into the
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here and the now as I count from 1:00 to 10:00.
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That's it. 123 waking up. 456 more alert. 7-8 That's it.
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Fully, fully wide awake. 910, wide awake.
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Wide awake. Wide awake.
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