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Mind Control: 17 Seconds to Change Your Reality · Is Your Way In Your Way?

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Cassandra: And I'd like to welcome you to Is your Way In your Way podcast and for my new listeners out there, that is the name of my book, is your Way In your Way, and it is a self-discovery guide for women on how to restore yourself, learn from the experiences that you've already had and to be your true self again, and we talk about topics related to, I say, personal improvement, business improvement, personal development In addition to it's going to enable you to do some self-reflection.
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Cassandra: These are for individuals that are stuck, and what I mean by that it was kind of like I'm being stuck.
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Cassandra: I wanted to write a book, I wanted to write a book for so many years and I just could not do it.
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Cassandra: Like many of you, you want to start your own business, you want to be an author, you want to be a coach, you want to get out of a relationship that's not good for you, that you know is toxic, but you're just stuck, and so, therefore, I have an individual on today that I am super, super excited about, and her name is Jenny Harkleroad, and I'd like to welcome her to the stage.
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Cassandra: Hello, jenny, how are you?
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Jenny: Hi, cassandra, so good to be here.
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Jenny: Thanks for having me.
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Cassandra: Thank you for being here.
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Cassandra: Our topic everyone is titled 17 Seconds to Wellness and Success, and we're going to use the science of your mind and one of the things listeners, after I read Jenny's bio, I want you to.
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Cassandra: There's going to be some takeaways, insight on harnessing the subconscious mind to break those personal barriers and achieve transformative growth, gaining practical tools for a purpose-driven life.
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Cassandra: So, in other words, we're going to talk about shifting your belief and I'm going to read a bit about Jenny.
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Cassandra: And actually she is a number one bestseller and author and I just found out she wrote three books.
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Cassandra: She is a dynamic speaker, a renowned mind change expert, a proud mother of four and successful entrepreneur.
2:41
Cassandra: She has built a multimillion dollar business in San Diego.
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Cassandra: Over 13 years, Her life took a dramatic I mean dramatic turn after a mountain cliff fall left her with a broken back yeah, a broken back.
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Cassandra: Fueled by this life-changing experience, Jenny harnessed the power of her mind to overcome chronic pain, Addictions and Unhappiness, Discovering how to Create a Life of True Joy and Fulfillment.
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Cassandra: Now she's on a mission, and her mission is to transform lives by helping others unlock what's missing and rewrite their own story.
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Cassandra: I don't want you guys to miss this inspiring conversation.
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Cassandra: I certainly could have used Jenny years ago and I'm certain I can use her again because I continue to be a work in progress.
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Cassandra: So, Jenny, let me ask you this I want to know about your backstory.
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Cassandra: Before you became, you were mad, you were sad and in pain.
3:50
Cassandra: What was going on prior to all that with you?
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Jenny: Yeah, that's a great story, and it's going to start all the way back in the beginning, when I was very young and my mother would tell me what to do, and I would tell her that she was not the boss of me, that I should be able to do whatever I wanted to do, and, as you can imagine, that didn't go very well.
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Jenny: And so, when I was two years old, I asked if I could move out, because I don't know what she thought, but she thought she was in charge of me.
4:21
Jenny: Wow, she wouldn't let me move out again.
4:28
Jenny: She was in charge.
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Jenny: And so you can imagine this, this head-butting just went on my whole growing up, because I honestly did not understand why she thought she got to make my choices.
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Jenny: I mean, it just blew my mind yeah, it blew her mind equally that I thought I didn't have to listen.
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Jenny: Okay, oh, wow, this is already exciting Way back then.
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Jenny: Okay, and what happened was how my body dealt with the frustration that was going on was by causing pain, and so I started.
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Jenny: In elementary school, I was always in the nurse's office.
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Jenny: When I was 12 years old, I got put on prescription pain pills.
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Jenny: When I was in my 20s, they told me.
5:14
Jenny: I was in liver failure from all the pain pills I'd been taking.
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Jenny: That's how my body dealt with.
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Jenny: Stress was suppress it, and pain and I didn't understand that had anything to do with my emotions.
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Jenny: I thought it's like how unlucky am I that I've got this emotional pain and this physical pain?
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Jenny: I didn't know they were, you know, hand in hand.
5:37
Jenny: Wow, I met my husband super young.
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Jenny: We got married and again kind of back to my mom.
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Jenny: My mom was the boss of everything, yeah, even my dad, and so when I got married I thought I was the boss.
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Jenny: Finally, yeah, when I started telling my husband what to do, he wouldn't listen.
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Jenny: Wow, okay.
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Jenny: And the frustration continued and the pain in my body continued, and so I had this life of chronic physical pain bad, bad, sad, frustrated, in pain and not knowing how to fix it.
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Jenny: So I was always trying to fix my body, but I didn't really know how to fix the other parts of my life.
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Jenny: I would just always focus on trying to fix my body, and as soon as I fix one problem with my body, then another problem would pop up.
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Cassandra: And so that was kind of the background of my life.
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Jenny: However, at the same time, I was financially.
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Jenny: I mean, I'm great at sales and I was always top of my game financially and so that's where I would put my focus.
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Jenny: I'd go build a business and make money, but on the back end I was in pain and hurting and just trying to put on a happy face because I didn't know what else to do.
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Jenny: Wow, it was a rough growing up.
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Jenny: Yeah, it sounds like it.
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Cassandra: Wow, you're looking good on the outside, but the inside is just tearing you apart.
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Cassandra: Oh, my gosh.
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Cassandra: So wow, it's interesting, you at the age of two.
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Cassandra: To me it's just fascinating.
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Cassandra: It's like, look, I want to do things my way, and obviously that was kind of ingrained in you and you kept saying it and and because your mom was the boss, you kind of retaliated on that.
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Jenny: Oh for sure yeah, I mean the interesting thing is I never wanted to do anything quote unquote wrong.
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Jenny: Yeah, I mean the interesting thing is I never wanted to do anything quote unquote wrong.
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Jenny: I just want to make my own choices.
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Jenny: You know I wanted to take a nap if I wanted to take a nap, not because you told me to take a nap, type of thing, right, wow?
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Jenny: So yeah, it was very hard for me.
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Cassandra: My mom always said I was born an adult and I just didn't understand what is going on with all these people that think they're in charge.
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Cassandra: Wow, well, this is interesting.
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Cassandra: So life continues, and you actually, from that point you got on a, you broke your back.
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Cassandra: Now, obviously you were maybe mountain climbing or something, and that's something that you wanted to do, and and and when you broke your back curious to, what was your perspective after you broke your back versus what your perspective is now?
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Jenny: yeah, that's a great question.
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Jenny: You know, it was back in 2013.
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Jenny: I'll just tell you the story real quick.
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Jenny: I I was standing on this mountain ledge with my husband We'd been camping and hiking with friends and he completely innocently said, like if I was young and in shape, I'd jump off of here instead of climbing down.
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Jenny: And I looked down and I thought that's not that far and I jumped.
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Jenny: And when I landed I heard a crunch in my back and I couldn't move and he tried to get me up and couldn't.
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Jenny: Friends tried to get me up couldn't.
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Jenny: They ended up calling 911.
8:55
Jenny: 911 sent in a ground crew.
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Jenny: They hiked in.
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Jenny: They couldn't get me out.
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Jenny: They ended up calling Life Flight.
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Jenny: Life Flight comes out.
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Jenny: I get ziplined up to a hovering helicopter, wake up in the hospital where they told me you broke your back.
9:13
Jenny: Oh my God.
9:14
Jenny: What, oh my God.
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Jenny: And so picture this at the time so I've got a thriving real estate business, four kids, so super busy.
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Jenny: I was running the women's organization of my church.
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Jenny: I was super involved in community activities and events and fundraising.
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Jenny: So my life was just go, go, go, go, go, go go.
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Jenny: And now I'm like bedridden, wow.
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Jenny: So I had some thinking time, right, yeah yeah.
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Jenny: What I thought is well, first, I want to get better, but second is I'm just not happy.
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Jenny: What, what?
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Jenny: How do I?
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Jenny: How do I feel better, emotionally and physically?
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Jenny: Because I've been struggling with both of these my whole life, although I mostly thought of the physical part.
10:00
Jenny: I've been struggling and I want to like my husband again.
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Jenny: I want to be happy, I want to lose weight.
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Jenny: I want to.
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Jenny: You know what I want to do, something that I'm passionate about.
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Jenny: Real estate was nice.
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Jenny: It was fine, it was good, but I didn't wake up excited about it.
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Jenny: Why?
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Jenny: Because I would get 250 calls on average per day for real estate 250.
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Jenny: Oh wow, that's a lot of phone calls when trying to mother four children and do all the other things I was doing Exactly.
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Jenny: There was a lot and again I just wasn't like super passionate about it.
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Jenny: So I just laid there thinking like how do I fix all this?
10:41
Jenny: There's, you know, like I've got the worst temper.
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Jenny: I don't want to have a bad temper, like how do I fix myself?
10:48
Jenny: How do I change myself?
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Jenny: I've been saying positive affirmations in the mirror for 20 years and clearly that's not working for me.
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Jenny: Who I am and how I am, how do I be who I want to be, not just successful and everybody's like, oh, she's got it all together because look at all the things she has and you know she married her high school sweetheart.
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Jenny: They have this beautiful family, looked good from the outside, exactly not happy on the inside.
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Cassandra: That's amazing, jenny, because I think many of us have.
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Cassandra: You know, I, I think, as we grow, we were told to you know, you go to school, go to college.
11:27
Cassandra: After college, you get a job, get a husband, get a family, you know.
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Cassandra: So we all go through that because, as you indicated, that's what you were told, that that's what it was, that maybe for you to be successful, or either that's how the world is, and by you I would say you were defiant back in the day.
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Cassandra: That kind of came until even the real estate, like, okay, I'm making money, I'm doing this, but it sounds like it just took a fall and it's unfortunate.
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Cassandra: But thank God, you're still here and obviously your back was healed and you'll tell us a little bit about that.
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Cassandra: But but you says, okay, give me.
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Cassandra: I think I need another chance.
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Cassandra: So what's going on while I'm here?
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Cassandra: It could be like God has put me on my knees, my back.
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Cassandra: Well, I can't do nothing.
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Cassandra: And so now it's time for me like, ok, if I'm going to continue to live, I actually, you know, I'm going my back's, going to heal and all of this stuff, but I'm not happy.
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Cassandra: Back's, going to heal and all of this stuff, but I'm not happy.
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Cassandra: So how did you figure out what it was, or?
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Jenny: what your?
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Cassandra: purpose was doing all of that.
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Jenny: Yeah Well, I wish I figured it out quickly, but I actually my back wouldn't get better.
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Jenny: As I started to get mobile, the pain started to get worse and worse and worse.
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Jenny: Literally daily, I was seeing either a chiropractor and acupuncture massage or physical therapy.
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Jenny: Like every day, I was doing something for my back and it just kept getting worse.
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Jenny: So a year after I broke it, I started taking pain pills for my back and then, two years after I broke my back, I still couldn't even sit in a chair.
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Jenny: So remember my habit of putting on a happy face and pretending everything's fine.
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Jenny: I was still a top producing real estate agent, not even able to function because I was making calls from bed and paying people to drive me laying in the back of my car on ice packs to appointments.
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Jenny: I mean, it was ridiculous.
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Jenny: But, here's the reason I didn't heal.
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Jenny: The reason I didn't heal is because I would have gone back to the same thing and I want to learn the lesson.
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Jenny: Okay, searching for a solution is where I found my answer.
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Jenny: So, two years after I break my back, I say you know what?
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Jenny: There is something structurally wrong here.
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Jenny: We're going to, we're going to have surgery.
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Jenny: So I convince literally convince surgeons to put rods and screws in a synthetic disc in my back, thinking that'll fix the problem.
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Jenny: Okay, seven months later, after the surgery, can't sit, can't drive, can't function, back feels like it's on fire, same as before the surgery.
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Jenny: Now I just can't really, you know, twist cause I'm full of metal.
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Jenny: Yes, I'm thinking now what?
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Jenny: And they're like you're just going to have to learn to live with the pain.
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Jenny: Oh just give me pain pills and I'm thinking no.
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Jenny: I don't understand.
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Jenny: I'm a go getter.
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Cassandra: Yes.
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Jenny: I can't live in this body.
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Jenny: There has to be a solution, you know, and they're like there's nothing you've tried at all.
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Jenny: We've tried it all like sorry, no, no, no, no, there's got to be a way.
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Jenny: So I asked everybody what do you do for back pain?
15:10
Jenny: What do you do?
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Jenny: What do you do I?
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Jenny: I end up getting referred to a medical doctor and who told me that I could heal myself with my mind, and I said what are you talking about?
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Cassandra: Okay, what kind?
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Jenny: of doctor, are you Exactly With my mind?
15:32
Jenny: Okay, but I'm desperate.
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Jenny: So sure, let's try it Long story short, and we can get into some of it if you want later.
15:41
Jenny: But long story short.
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Jenny: Six sessions later I'm completely healed and I'm doing handstands and backbends.
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Cassandra: I mean healed now what kind of doctor?
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Cassandra: Was he a medical doctor?
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Jenny: okay, okay, all right I know a medical doctor who learned a lot of alternative types of medicine when he would find that he he would do everything he could with his patients.
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Jenny: If they still had a problem, he wanted to offer them other solutions.
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Jenny: Okay, we learned a lot of other things about the power of the mind and how the mind controls the body.
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Jenny: And for me, basically, what was going on was I had so much tension in my mind from the stories I told you of my life.
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Cassandra: Yes.
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Jenny: The tension in my mind was causing tension in my body.
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Jenny: So if you think about like lifting weights, like doing bicep curls, yeah, If you do this you know, after a while it starts to burn.
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Jenny: Yeah, and if you keep doing it, it starts to burn more and it won't stop burning until you stop.
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Jenny: And as soon as you stop, give it a couple seconds like oh, okay, so this is what was going on with my back.
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Jenny: It was like my subconscious mind chose this weak part of my body and was just tight.
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Jenny: And so he kept telling me, we got to like release that tension.
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Jenny: And I couldn't.
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Jenny: I couldn't feel any tension, you know, it was subconscious, yeah, but what we had to do was work through some things in my life.
17:25
Jenny: But it was not just the working through things in my life, cause I've been through to a psychologist before.
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Jenny: It wasn't just the talking about it, but it was the understanding that this emotional stuff is causing this physical stuff, and so, in order to release the physical, you have to let go of the emotional.
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Jenny: And so that's what we're able to do.
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Jenny: And my body, after six sessions, just let go, stopped curling the biceps, stopped tensing the back and all of a sudden the pain stopped.
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Jenny: And here's the thing our bodies are meant to heal.
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Jenny: Right, my body was healed.
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Jenny: It'd been three years, but I thought it wasn't because it hurt.
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Jenny: But it hurt because of the tension not because something was wrong with it.
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Cassandra: That sounds great.
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Cassandra: And the reason I say that?
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Cassandra: Because I used to go to the doctor all the time and every time I would go to a doctor they would tell me I was stressed and that was my problem.
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Cassandra: My headaches my stomach aches, my back hurts and I would even get more stressed because they would tell me I'm stressed and I'm like, okay, well, how am I going to get unstressed?
18:34
Cassandra: I never ran into somebody that say it's your mind.
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Cassandra: I'm like I'm not sure how to respond to that, but you in a situation where go get her anyway.
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Cassandra: So look, I'll try anything.
18:45
Cassandra: How bad else can it get?
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Cassandra: So what are some of the things that he shared with you in regards to your mind that you had to?
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Cassandra: How?
18:54
Cassandra: Okay, you have the subconscious and the conscious mind.
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Cassandra: So what?
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Cassandra: What were your thoughts and thoughts?
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Cassandra: And, in other words, when you said you started feeling better, what was in your mind?
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Cassandra: Something had to change.
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Cassandra: What was he telling you to do for that change?
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Jenny: Yeah.
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Jenny: So a lot of it was just the awareness of what the pain was coming from.
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Jenny: And he used muscle testing, and muscle testing I was familiar with because I grew up with a dad who's a chiropractor, and a lot of chiropractors use muscle testing.
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Jenny: So what my dad would do for muscle testing is he would run his fingers down someone's spine, but their other arm they would hold it out parallel to the floor and he'd press it down while he was going down their spine.
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Jenny: And when he would get to a spot in their spine where there was a subluxation, a disc out of alignment, all of a sudden they couldn't hold up their arm.
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Jenny: So they'd go, ah, that's the spot.
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Jenny: He would adjust it and then he would test it again.
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Jenny: All of a sudden they could hold up their arm, and so it was like the body's biofeedback system.
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Jenny: And so this doctor started doing the same thing with me, but not physically.
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Jenny: He was doing it emotionally.
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Jenny: He was asking my body what is causing the pain, and with the muscle test my body was saying emotions.
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Jenny: And so then he said Okay, jenny, let's talk about your emotions Now.
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Jenny: Remember how I had learned to cope with my life was suppression which caused tension.
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Jenny: So when he asked me tell me about your childhood, I go nah, I don't talk about my childhood.
20:31
Jenny: And he says well, let's talk about your marriage.
20:34
Jenny: And I go nah, I don't talk about my marriage and he's like well, I thought you said you don't have emotional things.
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Jenny: And I literallyited my positive affirmations to myself I don't, I'm happy, I'm healthy, I'm terrific.
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Jenny: I just can't sit, can't drive, can't function, burning back pain right, it's structural.
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Jenny: And he's like did you just feel that muscle test?
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Jenny: Because the muscle test showed that it was emotional.
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Jenny: So if you want to feel better, we're gonna have to talk about these things.
20:58
Jenny: Okay, I was Like oh boy, do you have Kleenex?
21:01
Jenny: A lot of 40 years of suppression is sitting in front of you.
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Jenny: Yes, you know but again it wasn't just the sharing, it was the sharing but knowing that is causing tension and pain in my body.
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Jenny: And so if I can stop, if I can stop holding on to that tension, I can, I can let go of these things.
21:29
Jenny: And we did that through some brain, some brain work.
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Jenny: Then all of a sudden my body can just relax, and when I relaxed my body doesn't hurt.
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Cassandra: Okay, would that happen to be something with the second 17 seconds?
21:44
Cassandra: Yeah, let's talk about the 17 seconds.
21:47
Cassandra: Let's talk about that because I definitely want to hear about that.
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Jenny: So here's the thing we have, according to psychologists, 50,000 to 80,000 thoughts per day, about 80% negative, about 90% a repeat of yesterday.
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Jenny: And the stories we're telling ourself.
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Jenny: We believe it's our perception, it's our lens through which we see the world.
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Jenny: We're believing our story and as soon as we believe our story, we feel that it's true and our brain attracts all these other stories to prove to us why what we're thinking and feeling is true.
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Jenny: It's this feedback loop and this happens just over.
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Jenny: Like it starts with 17 seconds.
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Jenny: You have a thought, it's an electrical signal in your brain for just 17 seconds, yeah.
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Jenny: Then when it goes on for more than 17 seconds, it becomes a feeling and that feeling locks in a new energy.
22:43
Jenny: And people talk about how do you attract and how do you manifest what you want?
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Jenny: Or a lot of people say I'm manifesting what I don't want.
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Jenny: It's because of what you're thinking.
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Jenny: So the 17 second rule is to pay attention to what's going through your head and it's real easy to spot it on other people.
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Jenny: I walked by a girl's church on Sunday and she's sneezing and she goes.
23:05
Jenny: I have the worst immune system ever and I'm like, oh, you shouldn't say that.
23:09
Cassandra: Okay, so that's what.
23:10
Cassandra: That's what you mean by thought, cause I was going to give us some examples, like what do people think about?
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Jenny: I don't think I can accomplish this, or I'm having a bad day, or you know anything.
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Jenny: I'm not feeling well, like anything that you don't want to be your reality.
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Jenny: My kids don't appreciate me, my husband, whatever, doesn't make time for me, whatever the things are that you're thinking, as soon as you think it and hold the thought, it becomes a feeling that you believe and it literally changes your energy field.
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Jenny: So you start attracting more and more and more of that because you believe it and what you, what you think about, is what you bring about and what you focus on, expands.
23:51
Jenny: And so the 17 second rule is like catch it stop.
23:55
Jenny: You know, don't say you're stuck.
23:56
Jenny: Say how do I move forward.
23:57
Jenny: You know, don't say you're stuck.
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Jenny: Say how do I move forward.
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Jenny: Okay, what's?
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Jenny: my next step.
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Jenny: So the 17 seconds is catching the thought.
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Jenny: And you know, if you set an alarm for once an hour and just when it goes off, ask yourself what am I thinking right now?
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Jenny: Yeah, shocked about how negative you are Like what is going on.
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Jenny: Yeah, and don't believe what you're telling yourself because it's just your own narration, it's just a story.
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Jenny: So the moral of the 17 second rule is to catch the thought and then ask yourself the golden question how would I rather feel?
24:32
Jenny: Or what would I rather think, or what would I rather achieve, or how would I rather be Now in my work.
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Jenny: The next step is we do a brain exercise that literally repatterns the subconscious mind so that it creates that new reality, because the subconscious, it's a million times more powerful than the conscious mind.
24:53
Jenny: Why?
24:54
Cassandra: is that?
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Jenny: Yeah, well, you know, I mean we have to ask God that question.
24:59
Jenny: I don't know exactly, but according to scientists it's so we can function Like if we had to think how to walk every time we walked, or to think how to speak every time we spoke, or if we had to think to blink our eyes or beat our heart or grow our hair like we couldn't do anything else.
25:14
Jenny: Right, okay, it's this super processor inside of us.
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Jenny: What I didn't used to understand is that it also controlled how we think and feel and act and react automatically.
25:25
Jenny: So when someone cuts you off in traffic, how you feel, it's a subconscious response.
25:32
Jenny: You don't say that person just cut me off.
25:35
Jenny: How would I like to choose how to feel about that right now, right?
25:39
Jenny: Or you know, my husband or my kid just said something Hmm, how do I want to feel?
25:44
Jenny: You just feel, right, it's automatic.
25:48
Jenny: Okay, and so what if you don't like the automatic?
25:52
Jenny: I used to have the worst temper.
25:53
Jenny: I didn't want to have the worst temper, but I just did.
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Jenny: And I would tell myself okay, the next time my husband says, whatever it is, I'm just going to take a deep breath.
26:02
Jenny: You know they say count to 10.
26:03
Jenny: Yeah Right, counting to 10 is just holding in how I'm really feeling.
26:08
Jenny: I'm still feeling that way.
26:10
Jenny: I still want to wring his neck.
26:12
Cassandra: Yes.
26:12
Jenny: Exactly.
26:13
Jenny: But if you change the subconscious mind, I reprogram my subconscious mind to be open and curious.
26:21
Jenny: So now, when he says something that in the past would have made me lose my mind, now automatically I'm like wonder why he said that.
26:30
Jenny: That's the response.
26:33
Jenny: Okay, I wonder why he said that.
26:36
Jenny: Okay, so you can change your automatic response.
26:40
Jenny: And I think that's the greatest discovery of the 21st century, because it feels so good to like be able to grow yourself, improve yourself, be who and how you want to be Like.
26:54
Jenny: You talked about being stuck.
26:55
Jenny: Yeah, we don't like being stuck.
26:58
Jenny: Why are we stuck?
27:00
Jenny: Because we're habitual.
27:01
Jenny: We think the same thought that creates the same feeling, that creates the same action or lack of action.
27:07
Jenny: And here we are again, the same old us.
27:10
Jenny: They say you can't teach an old dog new tricks.
27:12
Jenny: Why, we're just our same way.
27:15
Jenny: It's subconscious, it's automatic.
27:17
Jenny: Okay, it's why people say starting Monday, for real, this time I'm gonna eat healthy and exercise for real.
27:24
Jenny: I know I mean it this time, right.
27:27
Jenny: And then wednesday, you know someone brings donuts to work and they're like shoot, how did I just eat that?
27:33
Jenny: I was gonna be so good.
27:36
Jenny: What happened?
27:37
Jenny: Yeah, this mind overpowers you every time because you lose focus consciously, and that's why you're obsessed with that mind thing right, I'm obsessed with the subconscious mind because I said affirmations for 20 years and nothing changed.
27:55
Jenny: I worked with this doctor six sessions pain's gone.
27:59
Jenny: Then I worked with him on getting rid of my pain pill addiction.
28:02
Jenny: Then I worked with him on loving my husband again, Then getting rid of my bad temper and losing weight and getting rid of my allergies and motion sickness and finding my purpose and passion.
28:12
Jenny: I mean, it was like a magic wand and I thought what?
28:16
Jenny: Wow, how, did I not know about this power.
28:19
Jenny: It's right.
28:19
Jenny: I'll give you an example my son for Mother's Day.
28:27
Jenny: He said, mom, I got you a gift.
28:28
Jenny: And I'm like, oh, that was super sweet.
28:29
Jenny: What'd you get me?
28:29
Jenny: He said I'm going to teach you how to do something on your car.
28:31
Jenny: I was like that's interesting, okay.
28:33
Jenny: So he's like so, mom, I know, when you try to lock your car, you've never really been able to figure out how to do it without the remote, and so you open the trunk and you push the lock button.
28:45
Jenny: There's got to be a better way.
28:46
Jenny: He's like did you know that if you touch the door handle, there's a little line right there.
28:49
Jenny: It locks.
28:50
Jenny: You just touch it with your finger and your door locks.
28:53
Jenny: So I'm like you're telling me that for the last four years I've been opening my trunk to lock my car or digging through my purse to find the key fob.
29:02
Jenny: I could just touch the handle.
29:06
Jenny: Is that an electric car?
29:07
Jenny: Electric, it's a, it's a hybrid.
29:09
Jenny: Okay, yeah, you know, but it was just like wow, that's how your mind is.
29:16
Jenny: You're trying the hard way, you're trying to overpower it.
29:20
Jenny: Instead, just program it to support you, program your subconscious mind to support you.
29:26
Jenny: I didn't know about my subconscious mind.
29:29
Jenny: I didn't know how to program it.
29:30
Jenny: I didn't know any of these things.
29:31
Jenny: I would just try and try and try and fail and get frustrated and be stuck in my same old ways.
29:36
Jenny: Wow, it's a secret, and gosh, what a better life it's been.
29:43
Cassandra: Wow, that's powerful and I can, and I can see why they say that, um, you are a world renowned mind change expert.
29:52
Cassandra: Yeah, that's, that is amazing.
29:56
Cassandra: I'm gonna actually, you know, I always hear about the subconscious and the conscious and, and they always say in the, in the Bible said whatever man thinketh is what he is.
30:07
Cassandra: You know, it's a lot either how powerful the mind is.
30:12
Cassandra: Um, so, and just listening to you, I believe many of it has to do with a lot of sickness.
30:19
Cassandra: Yeah, and I would.
30:21
Cassandra: Yeah, and listening to, I'm thinking about depression and anxiety and and and I'm not saying people, I'm not saying that you don't need medication for that or anything, but it's just like changing the narrative and working on that and and because we're a quick, quick society, we want everything right now.
30:44
Cassandra: That didn't come right, then I mean, here you are 20, 30, 40 years old and you've learned these things, so you have to unlearn them.
30:56
Cassandra: Unlearn them I want to talk about, I'm thinking about I know you've heard of Mel Robbins with the five second rule and you have the 17 second rule, and for my listeners, for those that are stuck, and that's what it's all about and you talk about the mind.
31:15
Cassandra: I want to use some simple, some like real life situations.
31:19
Cassandra: Real life situations, for example, there are individuals that say I really know that the job I have is not working for me.
31:29
Cassandra: I'm just not happy, I'm just not comfortable with it.
31:33
Cassandra: Take them through and then we're going to talk about your new app.
31:42
Cassandra: You help them Like, let's say, that's that example.
31:46
Cassandra: What process would you take them through?
31:49
Cassandra: For those who are really stuck, and my thing is, my mantra is let's mitigate these barriers and these roadblocks.
31:56
Cassandra: That's preventing you from living your best life on your terms.
32:00
Cassandra: So this individual says I'm in this relationship.
32:03
Cassandra: You know, toxic, I would say job situation, that atmosphere.
32:10
Cassandra: What would you do to help them to?
32:14
Jenny: get out of that.
32:14
Jenny: Yeah, that's perfect.
32:16
Jenny: So the question I always ask I call it the golden question is how would you rather feel?
32:21
Jenny: Okay, right, so they're, they're stuck in this toxic job environment.
32:27
Jenny: Okay, so they might say.
32:29
Jenny: I might rather feel like my coworkers are kind and supportive, would say okay, let's do a brain exercise that will get your subconscious to believe that they are, because what you're believing is what you're attracting.
32:50
Jenny: And so we'll do a brain exercise that they believe that, and then they're going to be like okay, so what?
32:54
Jenny: Now it's just going to be better?
32:56
Jenny: And the answer is yes, go to work.
32:58
Jenny: You'll see, all of a sudden, that reticular activating center of your brain will look for the good instead of looking for the negative.
33:09
Jenny: It's like when you get a new car.
33:10
Jenny: All of a sudden you're like everybody has my car, but they didn't yesterday, before I bought this car.
33:16
Jenny: What is going on?
33:16
Jenny: Right?
33:16
Cassandra: Your brain will look for that, so that's one option.
33:19
Jenny: Your brain will look for that.
33:20
Jenny: So that's one option, and it literally works like a charm.
33:26
Jenny: Our private clients say they're 57% better after one session with us.
33:30
Jenny: Wow, so maybe have two.
33:33
Jenny: Okay, in our app, they say they're 41% better after using our app.
33:39
Jenny: Once, that's powerful, the subconscious mind.
33:44
Jenny: So another option is well, maybe you want to get a different job, okay, so, so how do you feel about that?
33:52
Jenny: And they might say like, oh, I couldn't find a job that pays as well, or I don't know what I like to do, or right, they have all these like reasons why they can't.
34:02
Jenny: Yeah, and so the question is well, how would you rather feel?
34:06
Jenny: Well, I'd rather feel like I find the perfect job in a supportive environment that I love.
34:11
Jenny: Okay, let's program your brain for that.
34:14
Jenny: Now you still have to take action.
34:16
Jenny: You got to apply for the jobs, exactly right.
34:19
Jenny: But if your, your life is a printout of your subconscious program, oh, I like that.
34:26
Jenny: Think about that for a minute.
34:27
Jenny: Your life is a printout of your subconscious program.
34:30
Jenny: Wherever life is easy, it's because your subconscious supports that piece of your life.
34:35
Jenny: Wherever it's hard, it doesn't, and you're trying to overpower it, overpower it, overpower it.
34:40
Jenny: So you've got to change a subconscious mind to support what you want.
34:46
Jenny: And back to the first question is what do you want?
34:50
Jenny: Because so many times we know what we don't like and what we don't want and what's hard and what's not working.
34:55
Jenny: Let's not focus on that.
34:57
Jenny: Let's focus on what do we want and how are we going to create that.
35:02
Jenny: So, even if you didn't have my brain exercise just flipping that script to okay, what am I going to do?
35:08
Jenny: I'll give you an example.
35:09
Jenny: Last night I told my husband this new goal I had and he said how long are you going to work toward that Almost kind of like before you give up on it, type of thing?
35:20
Jenny: And I was like I'm, I'm doing it, like I'm gonna accomplish this goal.
35:25
Jenny: And he's like I know, but for how long are you gonna try?
35:27
Jenny: I'm like no, you don't understand.
35:29
Jenny: Like it's already done, like I know I haven't started yet, but like it's no, I'm gonna achieve this goal.
35:36
Jenny: Um, I don't know if you've ever seen the movie Gattaca, but there's these two brothers and one's stronger, one's weaker, and they have swimming competitions and the weaker one always wins and the stronger one is like how do you do that?
35:47
Jenny: And he says I saved nothing for the swim back Right Like I give it my all.
35:54
Jenny: And so that's what happens when your subconscious gets on board.
35:57
Jenny: It's just like this superpower to where it's like there's no question.
36:03
Jenny: If this is going to work, like I believe it, at a cellular level, I'm going to make it happen.
36:09
Jenny: I'm going to take the action to do it, and it's easy to take the action because my subconscious supports it.
36:16
Jenny: Where, if it doesn't, it's like.
36:17
Jenny: I know I was supposed to make those calls today but I didn't get to it Right.
36:23
Jenny: Why can't I be more disciplined?
36:25
Jenny: Yeah, the subconscious program supporting you.
36:29
Cassandra: So don't feel bad.
36:30
Jenny: You just need to get some support in your mind to create the life you want.
36:35
Cassandra: Yeah, and I've loved I heard you speaking at an event in regards to I am.
36:44
Cassandra: I am going to have two clients a month, you know, and you were doing this exercise you know, and I was like okay, so just keep saying that.
36:53
Cassandra: You know, it's just like someone.
36:54
Cassandra: I was talking to somebody the other day and it was a guy, and he said he was telling these girls that he knows it's hard to find a man out there.
37:02
Cassandra: And I was like no, it's not.
37:04
Cassandra: And he was like what are you talking about?
37:06
Cassandra: I said it's not I said there are plenty out there.
37:08
Cassandra: I said, but they keep saying there's not, so there will not be.
37:11
Cassandra: So that's the thing.
37:13
Cassandra: I can't find anybody.
37:15
Cassandra: That's no good man out there.
37:17
Cassandra: I'm like oh well.
37:17
Cassandra: And then I always say you attract who you are.
37:21
Jenny: Yeah.
37:21
Cassandra: What, Like you attract who you are.
37:24
Cassandra: You know, and it's not something someone told me is what I know.
37:30
Jenny: I've experienced that.
37:31
Cassandra: Yeah, so that's amazing.
37:33
Cassandra: I want to talk about that phenomenal app you have, and you know what?
37:39
Cassandra: And I went, I was trying to find it and I got confused.
37:42
Cassandra: And you know what?
37:42
Cassandra: And I went, I was trying to find it and I got confused.
37:44
Cassandra: I looked on your website, because they have a lot of apps that said what's the name of your app?
37:48
Cassandra: It's called.
37:49
Jenny: Leap Transformation, leap like a frog L-E-A-P.
37:53
Jenny: That's right, yeah, yeah, talk about that.
37:59
Jenny: That.
37:59
Jenny: That app, yeah.
38:00
Jenny: So you know, the exciting thing about this app is it was born in Texas, and the reason I say that I was at a mastermind with Oprah's man, stedman Graham, and he said, jenny, you have to find a way to get your work into every hand.
38:14
Jenny: You know like it's so powerful and it's so effective.
38:18
Jenny: You know you're, I know you're private coaching and you're group coaching and you're training people in your, your certification courses for your work and you're doing retreats, but that's not every hand.
38:30
Jenny: Like, how do you get this in every hand?
38:32
Jenny: Yeah, and I thought, gosh, I've got to find a way that people can do my work easily, right, and so after that event, I created well, I hired someone to create for me a website that was like interactive coaching with me.
38:49
Jenny: So when they log in.
38:49
Jenny: It would ask are you trying to feel better, Are you trying to solve a problem or achieve a goal or work on personal growth?
38:55
Jenny: And then, based on their response, it would pull up a brain exercise that would repattern their subconscious mind for the goal and then it would help them to set action plans and track their progress.
39:07
Jenny: So literally, it's me sitting here doing the work with them, so it's like as close to working with me as possible.
39:14
Jenny: Okay, we did that for a couple years and it went so well that we put it in an app, and so now it's so easily accessible.
39:22
Jenny: It's in the app store, it's in the play store.
39:25
Jenny: It's a free trial for a week and it's only $14 and 99 cents a month to get me in your pocket where you can pull me out, hopefully at least every morning, and set intention for your day.
39:36
Jenny: You know, if you wake up feeling tired, switch it.
39:39
Jenny: If you wake up with a kink in your neck, switch it.
39:42
Jenny: If you wake up feeling a kink in your neck, switch it.
39:43
Jenny: If you wake up feeling nervous about a presentation coming up at work, switch the feeling.
39:48
Jenny: The feeling is caused by the thinking, right, and this is subconscious, so you can't just consciously switch it.
39:56
Jenny: Like how do you say stop being nervous?
39:58
Jenny: If you're nervous, right?
39:59
Jenny: Like how, right, but the subconscious, you know I used to be so scared to speak in public.
40:07
Jenny: I mean, you could see my heart beating through my shirt, like my shirt was beating.
40:11
Cassandra: Yeah, so scared.
40:13
Jenny: Well, that didn't serve me very well, because I'm trying to share my story and inspire people and if I'm trembling and shaking and nervous and can't think of what to say, not very effective.
40:24
Cassandra: Yeah.
40:25
Jenny: So I program my subconscious mind to be a confident speaker.
40:29
Jenny: And you hear speakers say like you never get rid of the nerves, the butterflies are always there.
40:34
Jenny: Well, they must not have programmed their subconscious mind because I don't have any nerves or butterflies anymore.
40:40
Jenny: I sit there while they're reading my bio.
40:42
Jenny: Call me up on stage so excited to share my message, because my subconscious is now supporting me instead of sabotaging me.
40:51
Cassandra: Right, yeah, you are, you're speaking.
40:56
Cassandra: You're just so calming.
40:58
Cassandra: You have a calming demeanor.
41:01
Cassandra: You know, as you draw people in, I'm like wow, look at her, she is a superstar, wow.
41:09
Cassandra: And so the app would be on the computer is leapcom.
41:14
Cassandra: But if you go on your phone or whatever, you're looking for what?
41:19
Jenny: Yeah.
41:19
Jenny: So you'll go to the app store or the Play Store, right, and it's called Leap Transformation.
41:25
Jenny: So you'll go to the app store or the play store and it's called Leap Transformation.
41:28
Jenny: So you'll just download the app Leap Transformation and once you get the app, you can use it in either place.
41:34
Jenny: You can use it at leaptransformationcom on the web or you can use it at Leap Transformation app on your phone.
41:36
Jenny: They're connected, they talk to each other, so you're in the same place.
41:40
Cassandra: You know wherever you, wherever you're working to each other, so you're in the same place.
41:45
Cassandra: You know wherever you, wherever you're working.
41:46
Cassandra: Okay, now you I had read something about you said, um, how you can solve problem, like, in other words, you can.
41:53
Cassandra: It's because my question was how do you figure out what program a person's in?
41:59
Cassandra: Yeah right, what?
42:01
Cassandra: How did tell me a little bit about that.
42:03
Cassandra: That's the part I got a little confused about yeah, so you're you're talking about.
42:08
Jenny: I think what you're asking me is like, how do you figure out what to do to change their brain like what they need, whether it's a lack of belief or a subconscious block or some type of?
42:18
Cassandra: belief or information is that what you're asking?
42:22
Cassandra: Yeah, like changing anything.
42:24
Cassandra: Okay, so make any listener feel better.
42:27
Cassandra: You have tools take away to achieve their goals.
42:30
Cassandra: Um, and then I read something about you can understand what program.
42:34
Cassandra: Yeah, so maybe that is it okay.
42:38
Jenny: So here's the thing your body knows and I trademarked this term your body knows, okay.
42:42
Jenny: Why did I do that?
42:42
Jenny: Because thing your body knows and I trademark this term your body knows Okay.
42:44
Jenny: Why did I do that?
42:45
Jenny: Because literally your body has all the answers.
42:48
Jenny: The reason I'm such a good coach is because I'm a good muscle tester and I can muscle test what your body knows and then I know exactly what to say and do with you.
42:59
Jenny: If I couldn't do that you know I'm not a psychologist or a therapist I wouldn't know what to say and do with you.
43:03
Jenny: If I couldn't do that you know I'm not a psychologist or a therapist I wouldn't know what to say, Right.
43:06
Jenny: But I can read your body signal with a muscle test and and help you, help yourself.
43:12
Jenny: Now the app does the same thing.
43:14
Jenny: And what?
43:14
Jenny: How the app does it is.
43:16
Jenny: It tells you to ask your heart, not your head, which of the brain exercises on the screen is the right one?
43:23
Jenny: You're consciously thinking.
43:25
Jenny: I have no idea.
43:27
Jenny: I don't even know what this is Exactly.
43:36
Jenny: Your subconscious mind knows exactly which one will help you.
43:37
Jenny: It's like an energetic puzzle, and your body knows what piece is missing and where that piece can be found, and so it's like trusting the wisdom of your body.
43:44
Jenny: You know, they say, if you're taking a test, usually the first thing you guess is right.
43:47
Jenny: And then sometimes we erase it, we second guess ourself and we do a different one, Like, oh, that first one is the right answer.
43:54
Jenny: Your body knows you have this air of wisdom, and so that's what we use when privately working.
44:01
Jenny: We use muscle testing in the app.
44:03
Jenny: We ask you to use the wisdom of your body to select the right exercise.
44:07
Jenny: Now, they're all going to work, but some of them are going to work better than others for certain things.
44:12
Jenny: And so tap into that wisdom.
44:15
Jenny: And sometimes it's super simple you just don't believe.
44:17
Jenny: Like Henry Ford says, whether you think you can or whether you think you can't, you're right.
44:21
Jenny: Marie Ford says whether you think you can or whether you think you can't, you're right.
44:24
Jenny: Right.
44:25
Jenny: And so if you don't believe something, if you don't believe you're going to get that book done this year, you're not.
44:29
Jenny: It's not happening.
44:29
Jenny: Exactly If you believe it, not if you want to believe it, if you believe it a cellular response oh, it's as good as done.
44:39
Jenny: Like with that goal.
44:40
Jenny: I told my husband what do you mean?
44:42
Jenny: When am I giving up on this goal?
44:44
Jenny: What kind of question is that?
44:45
Jenny: Like this goal is done, I believe in this goal and I'm going to run after it until I achieve it Right.
44:53
Jenny: Sometimes there's a subconscious block.
44:56
Jenny: Sometimes, you know, life is kind of hard sometimes.
44:59
Cassandra: Yeah, let's say that.
45:00
Jenny: Some things in the past gets in the way of our future and so in the app after you've done about 30 brain exercises.
45:10
Jenny: You earn coins as you go and you can use these coins to up level the app to unlock more brain exercises.
45:18
Jenny: You can also trade in the coins to join me live on Tuesdays for a live group session every week, and so upgrade the app or the website with the coins.
45:29
Jenny: It lets you find and clear hidden blocks.
45:33
Jenny: OK so maybe it's a past memory that's getting in the way, or maybe it's a person, or maybe it's a thought or a feeling, or maybe it's a fear, and so the app will help you and guide you through all those things and unlock it and clear it up so that you can move forward and get unstuck, because stuck is no fun.
45:53
Cassandra: Yes, yes, we don't like stuck.
45:55
Jenny: We like forward motion.
45:57
Jenny: Right, that's right, right yeah.
45:59
Cassandra: Wow.
45:59
Cassandra: So in your app you have a wellness and success Right Is this part of the app the relationships, finding your happy and pain relief and abundance.
46:13
Jenny: Right.
46:14
Jenny: There's really no limit in the app.
46:16
Jenny: It asks you are you trying to feel better or solve a problem, or achieve a goal or work on personal growth?
46:23
Jenny: No matter what you put in there, it all stems from right between your ears.
46:27
Jenny: Your reality is created between your ears.
46:31
Jenny: So whatever it is you want different in your life, you put it in the app.
46:34
Jenny: It helps you put it into a positive goal statement instead of the negative.
46:38
Jenny: It does it with AI.
46:39
Jenny: It's so much fun.
46:40
Jenny: It's like did you mean this?
46:41
Jenny: And it gives you all these examples.
46:43
Jenny: You're like oh yeah that's what I wanted and it takes you through the brain work, takes you through the action, tracks your progress.
46:50
Jenny: It's fun and easy.
46:51
Jenny: And here's the thing 50 to 80,000 thoughts a day we have.
46:57
Jenny: So guess what?
46:59
Jenny: You got to use it more than once.
47:01
Jenny: The mind is like the body, body right, you don't get in shape, and then be like check that off the list.
47:07
Jenny: Never have to work on my body again.
47:09
Jenny: Exactly I wish, but no it's not that way and our mind is the same, because life changes.
47:15
Jenny: You know, two months ago I didn't miss my son because he was living here.
47:19
Jenny: Well, now he's moved out and now I miss him.
47:21
Jenny: So I got to work on my mind for that which I did this morning.
47:24
Jenny: I miss him.
47:25
Jenny: And so do I want to miss him.
47:29
Jenny: Well, not so that it hurts me not to that level.
47:33
Jenny: Instead, I want to be happy that he's moving forward in his life and doing great things.
47:38
Jenny: I mean, that's the goal, like push him out the nest right.
47:41
Cassandra: That's right, that's right.
47:42
Cassandra: So what do you tell yourself in that situation?
47:47
Jenny: I ask myself the golden question how would you rather feel?
47:51
Cassandra: And.
47:51
Jenny: I would rather feel proud of his success, happy for him, find joy in the memories of the things we did together, enjoy speaking with him every you know, every week, messaging him, focusing on that instead of it's so quiet and lonely, I don't get my hugs all day, every day anymore, you know Right right.
48:17
Jenny: But in my subconscious to focus on that?
48:20
Jenny: Yeah, because at the surface, you know I'm busy, I don't really think about it.
48:28
Jenny: I was taking a bubble bath and I was thinking I miss my boy.
48:32
Jenny: Yeah, well, how would I rather feel, you know.
48:36
Jenny: So right there in the bubble bath, I did a brain exercise, because I do all day, everyday, brain exercises with myself.
48:42
Jenny: Anytime I think or feel or act or react in a way I don't want to, I'm like oh, there's something I can adjust in my life to make my life happier, easier, more peaceful and calm and joyful wow, jenny, that's great.
48:58
Cassandra: Thank you so much.
48:59
Cassandra: Yeah, you are, sounds like a miracle worker.
49:04
Cassandra: You know this, this, this I tell you, the mind is, it's powerful, it really really is.
49:14
Cassandra: Tell my listeners we talked about the app, how you can download the app, how else you, now, you, you do your sessions on zoom or to you.
49:28
Cassandra: So I want that right.
49:30
Cassandra: Okay, I wanted them to be aware of that because in california, okay, because we can do it.
49:35
Cassandra: Thanks for uh, um covet I know right now.
49:41
Jenny: We can now connect all over the world in real time immediately.
49:44
Jenny: It's so awesome.
49:46
Cassandra: Exactly, exactly, and tell me how else can they connect with you.
49:51
Jenny: Yeah, so if you go to y website is jenny@ balancedyou.
49:53
Jenny: org you can find all my social media.
49:59
Jenny: You can download some freebies, some workbooks and different things to help you get started on tapping into the power of your subconscious mind and creating your best life, getting unstuck.
50:11
Jenny: I mean, life's too short to be stuck.
50:14
Jenny: There's so many great things to do and be and achieve and accomplish and enjoy, so it's all possible if you believe.
50:22
Jenny: How do you believe you get the subconscious on board?
50:26
Cassandra: and then you're unstoppable, right, excellent, excellent.
50:30
Cassandra: Well, I want to thank you, um, for your wisdom.
50:34
Cassandra: Um, I hope your back is a lot better.
50:37
Jenny: You feel totally better.
50:39
Jenny: I'm great yeah right.
50:42
Cassandra: You're a great and that's what I see had to happen for you to get to where you are, how you can just bless so many people, and I again, I applaud you for your work.
50:54
Cassandra: And as I tell my listeners, I say bye for now, god bless, and you guys, you listen to this podcast over and over again, if that's what you need, and I also know that Jenny shares some nuggets.
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Cassandra: I'm looking at them as diamonds.
51:11
Cassandra: I mean to really transform your life.
51:14
Cassandra: I think this piece, this modality, is miraculous.
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Cassandra: Modality is miraculous and I applaud you for doing it and thank you so much and bye for now and, as I say, god bless you.