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ENCORE EPISODE : INTENTIONAL CLUTTER AND PURGE PARTIES FOR THE OVER 50 CROWD · Uncluttered and Unfiltered: The Podcast For Women Over 50

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  Welcome to Uncluttered and Unfiltered, the podcast urging
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  you to let it go and don't look back, with nationally acclaimed
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  professional organizer Christine Stone and self-proclaimed Hot
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  Damn Mess radio and TV personality Eden.
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  Kendall, welcome everybody to Uncluttered and Unfiltered with
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  a podcast for women over 50. I'm Eden Kendall.
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  I am a broadcaster and this is Christine Beanstone with me.
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  A professional organizer, her company is neatly designed.
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  If you are someone who loves to go down the rabbit hole of
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  organizing, I would like to highly recommend her Instagram.
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  To you, thank you so much. It's so much fun.
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  Well, I feel like anyone who is going to love this episode is
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  going to love spending some time with you on your Instagram.
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  Neatly designed. Thank you.
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  Yeah, this is a favorite topic. So we're going to talk about
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  something called intentional. Clutter, which is big right now.
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  And we're going to talk about a concept that I came across and
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  asked you to investigate for me, which is purge parties.
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  And we're going to get to both of those.
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  But before we even do that, I want to tell you that if you're
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  just finding our podcast and you're like, oh, it's an
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  organizational podcast. Yes, we cover organizational
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  things because Christine is a professional organizer, as I've
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  mentioned now about five times, but I am not organized.
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  So anything you're learning, I'm learning along with you.
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  And not every episode is about organizing.
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  I would say 80% of them are not what this one is.
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  So you'll learn some things and we are excited to share them
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  with you. So let's first explain what
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  intentional clutter means. OK, intentional clutter is a
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  design concept that involves arranging items in a way that
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  seems chaotic but is actually purposeful.
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  And that's so important to remember because it looks, you
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  know, like you have a lot of, you know, tchotchkes like, but
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  it's purposeful and it's a mindful approach to maxim, maxim
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  maximizing that creates a space that feels lived in and
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  authentic. OK, so basically what comes to
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  mind is a grand piano. This is just.
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  What's coming to mind? And it's got a bust and it's got
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  framed photos with gilded gold frames all over it and lace
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  doilies like my grandmother had on hers.
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  And it's just covered. There's nothing but dust
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  collecting things on there. But it looks lovely because it's
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  family memories. But what you're saying is it's
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  got to have some kind of a purposeful organization so that
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  it's aesthetically pleasing and it doesn't look like clutter.
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  Right. And that is why I picked this
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  topic because it's so popular on social media right now.
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  It's everybody wants this look, but what people don't understand
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  is, and coming from an organizer, there's a way to do
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  it, but so many people don't get that.
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  And then it ends up being full of clutter.
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  So you're trying to bring warmth to a space with the things you
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  love. So you're not hiding the China
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  away, you're bringing the China and the crystal out, but it's
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  how you're displaying it. OK, so let's talk about Nancy
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  Meyers, because her name comes up when you're talking about all
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  of this intentional. Yes.
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  So who is Nancy Meyers? She is the set designer for all
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  my favorite movies, which is, it's complicated something.
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  Steve Martin. Yeah.
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  Steve Martin and Meryl Streep. Loved that movie.
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  That's the one where he's she's Facetiming and he's in the.
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  Background. OK, yes.
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  OK, so that house and then father of the Bride with Steve
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  Martin and Diane Keaton. Everybody was in love with that
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  set and that started the whole intentional clutter.
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  And then came my favorite movie that you've never seen that I am
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  going to make you rent in the next I'll Give you a But
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  Something's Got to give with Jack Nicholson, Diane Keaton,
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  where he's dating her daughter who's like in her 20s, and they
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  go out to her beach house in the Hamptons and she doesn't know
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  they're going to be there and they don't know she's going to
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  be there. And all of a sudden they're all
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  there at the same time. And it's a over 50 something
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  year old woman with her sister who's over 50 with Jack
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  Nicholson who's in his 60s with her 20 year old daughter.
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  OK, crazy. It's so funny.
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  Is decorated by this. Famous yes and every when that
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  came out and that was like, I don't know now like what 15
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  years ago I mean a really long time ago everybody wanted that
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  look. Everyone was obsessed with that
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  house, and I even had a friend. So when I bought my house, I
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  wanted it to look aesthetically just like that house because we
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  were buying a house out at the beach.
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  So we went to someone's house in the neighborhood and I walked in
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  the house for a party and I grabbed my husband's arms so
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  hard. He's like, what?
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  I go, you're not going to believe it.
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  And he goes, what? I go, this entire house is a
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  replica of the movie from Something's Got to Give.
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  I mean, Mitch, I'm telling you, it's identical.
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  Like, this is unbelievable. And of course, he could have
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  cared less. Sure.
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  He's like, where's the beer? You know what I mean?
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  Like, he's like, OK, I walked around there and I was just
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  like, this is unbelievable because they did such an amazing
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  job. Like down to every detail.
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  It was phenomenal. But my point about this is you
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  do need a decorators help unless you are a designer, a decorator.
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  Because there is a difference between the Nancy Meyer effect
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  and clutter. Yes, because even if you follow
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  Nancy Meyer on Instagram, you'll see her bookcase behind her is
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  filled with tons of books and frames in front of it of family
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  pictures and it looks amazing. OK, I'm going to say but that's
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  because she's Nancy Meyer. Do you know what I mean?
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  She probably does have that designer flair when she sees
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  things and knows exactly off the bat you have that eye too.
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  Maybe you have a friend who has that kind of eye, but it's what
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  you're saying is there's there's an art.
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  There is an art to doing this and that's why when I brought it
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  up to you, because I like to stay on like current trends on
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  what's happening in the organizing world.
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  And that was just something that was blowing up social media, how
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  people want to bring back the feeling of warmth in their home
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  with the things they love. OK.
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  And that's as an organizer, I've always said if you love it,
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  display it. If you don't, get rid of it.
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  And that's part of what this is about.
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  You're not going to just go buy a bunch of junk to get this look
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  because that's not really what this is about.
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  You know, you could add a couple pieces that you've been dying to
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  buy. That's different.
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  But it's your, you know, on your trips collecting items, that's
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  really big, too. Framing photos, photos of
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  family, but framing them in a certain way.
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  It's not about just every frame. You get it like Target, you
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  know, and throwing them together.
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  It's, it's a look. And that's why I get a little
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  nervous when I hear intentional clutter because I'm like, yes,
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  if you're talented and you're a designer, a decorator, someone
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  who has that flair for this kind of look, you'll knock it out of
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  the park. But if you're a person who's
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  this isn't your Forte, it can become clutter.
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  Which, you know, gets me a little A.
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  Little. Jingle.
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  Yeah, a little crazy I. Hear your bracelets Jingle and
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  that's your nerves. Right, right.
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  So the the the take away to me right now is to not go out to
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  one of these places like HomeGoods where.
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  They have the. House full of what look like
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  people's favorite Knick knacks that they've collected over the
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  years, but when in reality they were just manufactured last
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  week. And you know how there's that
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  trend of people going into HomeGoods and saying, yes, I'm
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  looking for a clock that's shaped like a dolphin with an
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  apple in its mouth, right? And then they pretend they found
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  it and they say, is this what you need?
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  So if you have that because you were recently on a trip to Bora
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  Bora. And that's.
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  Different than going into HomeGoods and picking the most
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  absurd thing that you can find. Not that there aren't some
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  really cool finds there, but what I'm saying is these Knick
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  knacks should have at least some meaning or something that brings
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  you joy when you see. Them right and they're out.
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  Because not just because you have an empty shelf to fall.
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  Well, and you're not staging your house.
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  I mean, you're not selling. Like there's a difference
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  between staging a home to sell and living in a home with
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  intentional clutter. There's a huge difference
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  because when you're staging a home, you're not buying items
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  that you must love and what you're buying for scale, you're
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  buying for colors, you're buying to fill bookcases because it
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  looks better when you're putting a house on the market.
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  But when you're doing this kind of look, the Nancy Meyers effect
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  that they call it, you're really bringing a welcoming, authentic
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  look to your house and making it a way to express yourself and
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  show off your favorite things. That's what this is about is
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  bringing warmth and family and a well lived in home, not a
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  cluttered. I'm going to keep saying this
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  because it really makes me a little nervous.
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  So it. Is it's, it can be nerve
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  wracking, but it's, you know, when I picture a, for example, a
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  kitchen counter, you know, that's a place where the minute
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  one thing is set down, it starts to collect clutter.
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  So you have to be really careful.
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  But if it's a shelf that's in another room that's only going
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  to be empty if we don't put something on it, that's when you
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  can start really thinking, OK, well, this is my favorite book.
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  Right. And this is to balance it out.
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  But that's where an eye either a really good deep dive on on.
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  Pinterest or. Having your friend with a good
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  eye or a or a decorator, you might be surprised that you
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  could have somebody come into your home, a professional
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  decorator and just say, listen, I, I, I really only want you for
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  one hour. Right.
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  Or two hours. I mean, don't diminish or
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  devalue their time by any. Means.
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  But it could be an amazing gift if you have a holiday coming up.
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  Like I'm, I'm trying to think when this particular episode is
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  going to run. I, I feel like it might be
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  Valentine's Day week, you know, give someone a gift card for two
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  hours with a designer to come in and say, look, let me organize
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  all of your framed photos. We're going to go.
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  They might suggest that you go buy a bowl of of orchids or
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  something that will sit there too and look beautiful.
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  I just think leaving some things to the experts, if you're going
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  for a certain look, yes, so that you don't have all the clutter
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  because what her look is Nancy Meyers is a total neutral
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  palette with layering effects of like lemons in a bowl.
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  Hydrangeas, like adding flowers everywhere, which I did.
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  I went to Trader Joe's yesterday and I added flowers everywhere.
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  And I can tell you it just made me happy.
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  It just made me happy. When I was walking around my
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  house yesterday, I put flowers in the kitchen, I put them in
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  the guest bathroom. It just, and it wasn't
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  expensive, you know what I mean? And I just think really keeping
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  your home, that when you walk in, it just brings a happy
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  feeling, a warm feeling. And that's what all of this is
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  about is going antique shopping and maybe picking up a couple
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  things that really catch your eye.
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  Like it's about a lot of antiques and family memories and
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  family things that you've inherited, but not keeping the
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  ones you hate or that you're like, I'm not putting that out
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  and keeping it a box and A room. OK.
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  So now that we have decided that some of the things you're
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  keeping it a box in your room and you're not going to do that.
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  Anymore. We can transition it into purge.
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  Party, Yes. A purge party.
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  If you Google it, don't, because the first thing that's going to
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  come up is a bunch of people from the movie The Purge.
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  Oh, I know. I saw that.
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  It scared me to death because that was such a scary movie.
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  I saw that. But it is something that I saw
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  that was trending on social media and it is ladies getting
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  together and having a purge party.
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  So let's talk about it. What is it?
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  I love this. I mean, when you sent me this,
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  I'm like, Oh my gosh, I love this idea where you gather your
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  friends. So you're it's not a garage sale
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  or an estate sale. You're not selling anything
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  you're saying in a group text, ladies, I'm having a purge
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  party. Come get what you want, take
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  what you want. I don't care what it is.
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  I'm getting rid of this stuff and it she showed all her
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  friends coming, leaving with like baskets and every.
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  I think that's a fantastic idea. I really do.
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  I think you could almost say to if you had five to 10 friends,
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  you could say for the next. However many of you, there are
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  months, every month we're going to have our happy hour at a
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  different friend's house and it's going to be a purge.
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  Party, I love it. I love it.
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  I think it's a great idea. I think that way you don't feel
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  guilty because you're not trying to sell stuff that can be
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  stressful when people are like, dude, should I sell it?
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  You know, how much is it worth? I don't want to RIP people off.
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  And you know, so I think this is a fantastic way to get people to
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  take things that you don't want. You have nowhere to store them.
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  You don't really even like them and they don't fit your
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  aesthetic in your house anymore, but someone else wants them.
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  Love this idea. I mean, I can't tell you how
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  much I love this I. Mean there are even some moments
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  where you want to get rid of something and you know somebody
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  wants it and it's awkward because they almost want to
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  insist on buying it from you. And you're like, I just don't
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  want to do that. I don't want to change, right
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  Money changing hands between us over this.
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  I mean, it's going to go back around.
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  It comes out in the wash. Right, exactly.
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  I do love that and I think that if you knew to the date of the
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  party, it would really force your hand right start the
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  purging because you want to have something to show off, so you
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  want to go through every closet. You want to go through someone.
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  You might have luggage that. Somebody has been on.
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  Yep. You just don't know what you've
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  got, so I think it's fantastic and it's always a great
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  opportunity to have a party and you can go get go get some
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  flowers and some cheese and some.
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  Wine and just really make I think it's a great idea having
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  all your girlfriends over and and not only are you enjoying
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  your time with your girlfriends, but you're getting rid of stuff
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  yeah match made in heaven win. Win.
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  Win, win, win. Every single.
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  Box, yes. Well, I wanted to ask you one
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  more thing. Yes.
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  Do you have anything else in your notes, by the way?
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  Because, you know, Christine is very.
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  Prepared I I love well, this topic I absolutely love because
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  when you see intentional and clutter put together, you had,
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  you know, you had me at hello, I mean, you know, so I just think
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  that this is a great idea. It really looks great, but you
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  just have to be careful on what you're adding and not
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  subtracting. Everything in moderation.
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  things that are reaching you. And we always open for your
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  suggestions as well. OK, so this has been such a
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  super quick episode that I find that I have time to throw in
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  this one more thing because it's so ridiculous.
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  And we've talked at all about this trend Fridge scaping.
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  Have you seen? This no.
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  OK, so fridge scaping is when you clean out your refrigerator
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  and when you put everything back, you do it aesthetically
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  and you even add some photos. Silly.
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  Some flower. Silly, silly.
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  I I, I think people have way too much time on their hands if
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  they're doing stuff like that, honestly.
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  I mean, I clean my refrigerator out every single Sunday because
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  my garbage day is Monday, so I do that every week.
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  But I can't imagine putting like a frame picture of my kids a a
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  plant. You know, I think people can
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  take it too far. Yes, you heard me say that.
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  I think you can take organ anything too far.
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  I just think that you have to be real, especially in is your
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  refrigerator huge? I wouldn't even have room for
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  that. Oh, I mean the way it's so empty
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  these days because we are empty nesters.
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  I would have some room but not when like anyone's visiting.
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  I mean, Can you imagine someone opening the refrigerator and you
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  have, like, an orchid in there? Yeah.
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  I mean exactly maybe like. That'd be so funny.
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  Is this edible? What is?
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  It yeah, so so here's what I think the big takeaways from
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  this episode are because we like to leave you with some things.
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  First of all, have a purge party with your friends.
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  That's a great way to get rid of some things Let us know if
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  you're local. Maybe will come.
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  Although Christine won't allow me to buy anything else or not
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  even buy but receive. More.
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  The other thing is of course, be very intentional.
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  If you are putting out the tchotchkes or the memories or
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  the antiques, just you know, know that there's an aesthetic
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  to it and maybe do some research or get some professional help.
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  And three unintentional little snippet, clean out your fridge
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  the day before garbage day, always.
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  That's the day you clean your. Fridge.
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  Yes, that's what I do. But more importantly, what I
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  learned from this episode is that you never saw Something's
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  Got to Give. Oh, that's with Jack Nicholson
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  and Diane Keaton. I'm in shock still.
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  I'll get over it, but you have to watch it and report back on
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  the podcast on your thoughts. OK, well I'm not going to do it
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  alone. I think all of us need to watch
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  if it's. That I could.
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  I've seen it like 10 times. I could watch it again this
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  weekend. Okay, I will definitely watch.
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  It and ladies over 50 will love it because it's all about aging
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  and how the 60 something year old guy picks the 20 something
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  year old. But in the end, should I give it
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  away? I don't think you even have to I
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  think if it's a ROM right? We know well in the end he ends
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  up going for the mother because they have so much in common and
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  he ends up having a heart attack and of course they need
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  caretaking. So that's the end of that story.
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  OK, do I need to watch it now? You literally.
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  Just. It's funny you just gave away
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  the ending. But it's funny and they fall in
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  love. OK, now we know how it's going
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  to end, but I think I still would watch.
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  It you still have to watch it, you have to watch I.
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  Want to watch it for the set? Yes, that's what I'm saying.
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  You have to watch it for the set, for the house.
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  It look at every little detail in the living room, in the
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  kitchen. It is.
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  I know people that have paused it per slide to take screenshots
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  to show the decorators things that they want.
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  That's how popular it was, so. OK, then for that reason, and
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  the reason that I can pretend I know the ending, when I watch
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  with my husband, I'll be like, I bet I know what's going to
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  happen. Everybody, thank you so much for
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  being here, and remember, if you have a lot of clutter to get rid
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  of, you don't have to have a purge party to let it.
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  Go and don't look back.