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Vocal De Frag Episode 195 When You Can't Be Happy For Others · Arroe Collins Like It's Live

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  Speaker 1: Enjoy that exploration. Heytererrol and this is vocal d frag
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  Speaker 1: Vocal d fragging is taking the time to ask yourself
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  Speaker 1: the questions and then questioning the answers. We spend way
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  Speaker 1: too much time asking other people, well, what should I do? Hey?
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  Speaker 1: Should I do this? Hey? What would happen if I
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  Speaker 1: did this? What the what the hell do they know
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  Speaker 1: about you? And your sleepless nights and those pains you've
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  Speaker 1: got in your stomach and your feet ache and your
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  Speaker 1: back is like, oh my god, Can I just go
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  Speaker 1: to Walmart and get a new one? That's the way
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  Speaker 1: your life is. But we find ourselves asking people endlessly,
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  Speaker 1: well what should I do? Once again, you should be
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  Speaker 1: asking that question. What the hell do they know about you?
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  Speaker 1: They don't know everything? Are they reading your journals? Are
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  Speaker 1: you giving them soft intimate conversations over a glass of
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  Speaker 1: wine or a bottled beer or maybe even some THHC.
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  Speaker 1: I don't know. I don't know what you're doing, but
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  Speaker 1: I'm not going to pretend to be you. But a
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  Speaker 1: lot of people can give you the answer of you
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  Speaker 1: in about thirty seconds or less. Ask the questions, question
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  Speaker 1: the answers. This is vocal, deep rag. I've often been
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  Speaker 1: accused of being too much and way overboard on being
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  Speaker 1: Captain Happy because I live and go by this rule.
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  Speaker 1: Winning is a choice, no matter how bad a situation is.
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  Speaker 1: Winning is a choice. A great mood is a choice,
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  Speaker 1: no matter how loud the thunder is. Winning is a choice.
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  Speaker 1: And in the process of growing forward, the question always remains,
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  Speaker 1: what am I doing to myself by ignoring the pain
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  Speaker 1: of an everyday world? Are we not supposed to endure
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  Speaker 1: the ups and downs, the twists, the spins, the fumbles,
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  Speaker 1: the stumbles, you know, the nons and nomblas over there.
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  Speaker 1: That's what we're supposed to do, right, But the problem
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  Speaker 1: is is that people become addicted to your captain happy.
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  Speaker 1: But first we've got to define what's the problem. You're
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  Speaker 1: sharing your captain happy. You're doing exactly what you're supposed
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  Speaker 1: to be doing. Now. The problem is is that people
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  Speaker 1: get addicted to your uppittiness. They sit there and they
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  Speaker 1: rely on you being their red bull or their monster drink.
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  Speaker 1: They want you to be upbeat all the time. And
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  Speaker 1: so what happens is is that when you on a
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  Speaker 1: personal level, you try to keep it away from your business,
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  Speaker 1: your family, your friends, you stumble, You fumble, You find
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  Speaker 1: yourself face first on the ground that you never thought
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  Speaker 1: you would ever kiss, and yet you do. In other words,
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  Speaker 1: you're in a situation where it's going to be very
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  Speaker 1: difficult to break free of that feeling that you're going
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  Speaker 1: through and that choice. Winning is a choice. And so
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  Speaker 1: when you bring it when people go, oh, how you
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  Speaker 1: doing today, man, my day is shit blah blah blah
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  Speaker 1: blah blah blah blah, and then you don't have it
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  Speaker 1: in you to bring them out of their shit factory,
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  Speaker 1: and then all of a sudden they start holding that
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  Speaker 1: against you. What do you do in a situation like that?
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  Speaker 1: How can you handle? I think honesty is your best
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  Speaker 1: answer without going overboard on it, because the last thing
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  Speaker 1: I like is I don't want someone to give me
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  Speaker 1: a fake, compassionate reply. Oh, I am so sorry that
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  Speaker 1: your bird of thirty four years he's transitioned. I'm so sorry.
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  Speaker 1: What the hell do you know about my bird? You
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  Speaker 1: know nothing about my birds. You've never been in my house.
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  Speaker 1: You don't know my relation, you don't know my baby talk.
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  Speaker 1: What do you know? Why did I even bring this up?
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  Speaker 1: You see what I mean? It's the same thing in
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  Speaker 1: your life. They could be talking about a pair of
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  Speaker 1: socks or a sock monkey. They could be talking about
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  Speaker 1: a cat. In your life, anything you're going through, and
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  Speaker 1: it does affect your candy coated plastic bathroom meer, smile,
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  Speaker 1: at business, at school, wherever you travel. And the thing
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  Speaker 1: is is that are we supposed to be this upfront
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  Speaker 1: and honest with people? And I think that the best
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  Speaker 1: way to do that this is just on a personal level.
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  Speaker 1: I am not a professional. I'm just somebody who's really
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  Speaker 1: good at living life and studying life. That's the reason
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  Speaker 1: why I d frank. It's because I'm asking the questions
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  Speaker 1: and questioning the answers. What I do with my bad
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  Speaker 1: news doesn't mean it's gonna work for you. It is
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  Speaker 1: up to you. But if you're gonna keep handing it
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  Speaker 1: to everybody else, then everybody else is going to make
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  Speaker 1: it to the super Bowl while you sit in last
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  Speaker 1: place hoping to God you get a first round draft pick.
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  Speaker 1: That's the way it works. So why don't you become
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  Speaker 1: the number one team and start doing something about your moments?
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  Speaker 1: Where winning is a choice? That's a fluff right there.
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  Speaker 1: What do you mean winning is a choice? I'm having
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  Speaker 1: a crap day. How can I get out of this?
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  Speaker 1: The way out of it is by being honest. I
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  Speaker 1: do it on paper, I do it on a digital device.
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  Speaker 1: I asked the questions what got me here? And now
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  Speaker 1: that I'm here, how can I keep it from poisoning
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  Speaker 1: the mind, body, and souls of those that I'm going
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  Speaker 1: to be traveling with. One of those is don't advertise
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  Speaker 1: your situation. And that's been one of the biggest things
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  Speaker 1: is that since the loss of my bird of thirty
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  Speaker 1: four years. How to keep it away from the ears
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  Speaker 1: of those that I'm standing with. They don't need to
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  Speaker 1: hear it, they don't need to know where I am.
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  Speaker 1: And then all of a sudden, you can feel the energy. Oh,
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  Speaker 1: Ceta must be in a bad mood again today. Ooh
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  Speaker 1: what's going on here? Oh you're getting a little conceited
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  Speaker 1: on us. You find some success? Did you interview a
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  Speaker 1: person of fame and oh they're a little bit better
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  Speaker 1: than us? No, no, that's not at all. I am
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  Speaker 1: just kind of doing what my father would tell me.
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  Speaker 1: Just keep to yourself. That was Dad, all the time.
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  Speaker 1: Keep to yourself, keep to yourself. And yet when you
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  Speaker 1: pop on a country music radio station, I don't see
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  Speaker 1: any of those singer songwriters keeping to themselves. I see
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  Speaker 1: them building stories and planting a bunch of bullshit out there,
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  Speaker 1: and somehow, some way we buy into it and we
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  Speaker 1: get better. Oh now, what see the emotion, the drama,
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  Speaker 1: the something about nothing? Is your area of travel really
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  Speaker 1: worth giving to somebody else? But yet, let me go
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  Speaker 1: ask a person that question. No, ask yourself, how do
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  Speaker 1: you want to deal with it on your own? You
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  Speaker 1: know it's a tough challenge, is what it is. And
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  Speaker 1: once you start building that better communication with that inner
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  Speaker 1: self that you are, I know what's gonna happen. You're
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  Speaker 1: gonna quit diving into the chocolate, You're gonna quit making
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  Speaker 1: wo you go to. You're gonna step free maybe of
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  Speaker 1: alcohol and other things and other means of escape. The
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  Speaker 1: reason why is because the journey is all about you.
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  Speaker 1: You can say that it's all about me, this is
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  Speaker 1: my journey. When your mom gave birth to you, she
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  Speaker 1: didn't say, share what I have shared with the rest
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  Speaker 1: of the world. No, that's part of that. Winning is
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  Speaker 1: a choice. You shared it with the world because you
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  Speaker 1: made the choice. Vocald Fraggen asked the questions, question the answers.
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  Speaker 1: I'm MARYL.