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When It Gets Hard – Use Struggles as Fuel to Push Forward · Motivational Podcast

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  Speaker 1: This storm will pass, and when it does, if you
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  Speaker 1: are still standing, you will be stronger for it. Don't quit.
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  Speaker 1: You are already hurting. Why stop now you have already
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  Speaker 1: come this far. Why give in when it gets hard?
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  Speaker 1: Why don't say why me? Say try me.
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  Speaker 2: You want the hard times, you want the pain.
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  Speaker 1: You want resistance, because if there is resistance, you are growing,
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  Speaker 1: you are developing. Stop wishing it was easier, wish you
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  Speaker 1: were better. If you think you are the only guy
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  Speaker 1: doing an extra hour after practice.
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  Speaker 2: You are wrong. When you are doing an extra hour,
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  Speaker 2: there is a guy doing an extra two hours on
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  Speaker 2: the other side of the world.
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  Speaker 1: Think beyond your team. Your competition isn't the guy in
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  Speaker 1: the gym. Your competition is in Japan, Spain, Russia. Your
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  Speaker 1: competition isn't always in front of you. It is easy
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  Speaker 1: to be a big fish in a small pond. It
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  Speaker 1: is time to think outside of your circle and compete
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  Speaker 1: with the best of the best. Compete with the guys
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  Speaker 1: who are getting.
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  Speaker 2: More work than you.
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  Speaker 1: You can convince yourself you work hard when you compare yourself.
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  Speaker 2: To someone in class, or someone on the team.
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  Speaker 1: Or your brother or your sister. But how does your
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  Speaker 1: work ethic look when you compare yourself to a Kobe
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  Speaker 1: Bryant or a Michael George.
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  Speaker 2: Don't stop because of failures. Don't quit because it is
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  Speaker 2: getting harm.
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  Speaker 1: Success comes at a price, and you must be willing
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  Speaker 1: to pay it.
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  Speaker 3: I think you just have to toughen up, play and simple.
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  Speaker 3: I think that's like, like, first of all, you have
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  Speaker 3: to tell yourself it's like it's hard in the beginning,
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  Speaker 3: and you have to just fight through it because that's
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  Speaker 3: what else are you gonna do. Like if you keep crying,
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  Speaker 3: complaining about things not happening to you, then you're not
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  Speaker 3: using that time to actually make the small things happen.
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  Speaker 3: Because everything starts off small. There's no like A to C.
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  Speaker 3: You have to go to B first. Everything starts small.
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  Speaker 3: It's like you have to be grateful for what you
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  Speaker 3: can get, plain and simple, like be grateful for what
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  Speaker 3: you have because that's like we're lucky to even be here.
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  Speaker 3: Being grateful and being present that the power of being
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  Speaker 3: present and like really really being behold the gratitude of
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  Speaker 3: what you have. If people see the thirty percent, they
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  Speaker 3: don't see the seventy percent of not making it or
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  Speaker 3: not getting what you want. You say what you're gonna do,
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  Speaker 3: you what you're gonna say. The problem with social media
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  Speaker 3: right now is that you're comparing yourself to people that
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  Speaker 3: have like this large success and you're like, I want
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  Speaker 3: to play there, but you first have to go with
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  Speaker 3: what you have in front of you and make that meaningful.
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  Speaker 3: And that's why I always say, like, when I'm performing,
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  Speaker 3: I'm trying to be as present as I can, and
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  Speaker 3: I don't want to think about anyone outside of these
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  Speaker 3: four walls. I really want to think about everyone here,
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  Speaker 3: and whether it's like a smaller show a bigger show,
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  Speaker 3: like these people are here for me and I'm here
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  Speaker 3: for them and that's all that matters. And you do
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  Speaker 3: that enough times, it's like in the end it will
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  Speaker 3: grow without you even realizing it. And if it doesn't,
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  Speaker 3: if you're just happy with those people, then it's okay.
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  Speaker 3: You know, like that's all that's like purpose, Like at
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  Speaker 3: the end of the day, you know, it's like it's
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  Speaker 3: meaningful to you. It doesn't matter how many more people
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  Speaker 3: there are.
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  Speaker 4: So I think people really need to find their passion.
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  Speaker 4: Working hard can't be the purpose of our lives, and
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  Speaker 4: it can be something you would do when you love it.
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  Speaker 4: But it actually creates a lot of stress. And at
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  Speaker 4: the end of the day, when you really look at
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  Speaker 4: your life and facing death in maybe measured in hundreds
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  Speaker 4: of days, as I once did, I felt working hard
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  Speaker 4: was not on my priority list at all. If anything,
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  Speaker 4: I regretted working too hard. It's just reversing the priority
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  Speaker 4: because family isn't going to take all of your time.
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  Speaker 4: If one just puts that at a higher priority, I
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  Speaker 4: think the number of hours at work maybe twenty percent less.
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  Speaker 4: It's not down dramatically, but now I feel much more
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  Speaker 4: gratifying that every day I feel like my life is
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  Speaker 4: more meaningful. People's values are what they are. As much
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  Speaker 4: as I have come out and realized my life can't
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  Speaker 4: be just about work, there are many who will not
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  Speaker 4: have that death driven epiphany, so they won't realize it,
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  Speaker 4: and so it is important for them to find a
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  Speaker 4: new beginning, should be encouraged to really do what they love.
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  Speaker 4: It's really important for us not to let the current
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  Speaker 4: prejudices or beliefs.
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  Speaker 2: These are the good job.
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  Speaker 4: Doctors, lawyers, engineers, these are the good jobs. Well, many
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  Speaker 4: of these jobs will be gone too. Within each area,
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  Speaker 4: certain jobs will open up, certain jobs will close down.
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  Speaker 4: You got to work hard at it, right, I think
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  Speaker 4: that's going to have a higher bar than ever before.
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  Speaker 4: So that self motivation I think needs to be there. Also,
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  Speaker 4: I think you've got to be doing something you love
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  Speaker 4: to do. I don't think anyone can be amazing unless
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  Speaker 4: they're doing what they love. Those two are really combined.
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  Speaker 4: I think there was a book by Malcolm Gladwell where
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  Speaker 4: he talked about the ten thousand hour rule, and that
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  Speaker 4: really continues to be true. So it's got to be
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  Speaker 4: that ten thousand hours plus something you're deeply passionate about.
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  Speaker 4: You've got to have an open mind. I think if
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  Speaker 4: you start with any prejudice that Chinese companies are just
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  Speaker 4: copycats or Silicon Valley people just don't work hard, then
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  Speaker 4: I think you have blinders on and don't look at
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  Speaker 4: the whole picture. And I think another important thing is
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  Speaker 4: meet a lot of people who are smarter than you
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  Speaker 4: and ask them questions and pay attention and follow up
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  Speaker 4: and validate and check the things that you learn. So
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  Speaker 4: if you feel the whole world can be your teacher
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  Speaker 4: and you're learning, asking questions keeping an open mind, that
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  Speaker 4: I think probably is what I have done.
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  Speaker 2: Be brave because no one remembers a coward.
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  Speaker 1: Be brave, be bold, be courageous, Take risks, take chances,
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  Speaker 1: take opportunities, grab life with both hands, take the bull
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  Speaker 1: by the horns, and live. We all know that we
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  Speaker 1: have one chance at life, So why not say I'm
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  Speaker 1: all in? Why not risk everything to live the life
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  Speaker 1: you are capable of. The world wants the best version
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  Speaker 1: of you. The world wants to see what you are
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  Speaker 1: capable of, and it wants to see what impact you
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  Speaker 1: can make on the world.
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  Speaker 2: So why are you denying the world of your gifts
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  Speaker 2: and talents? Why are you hiding in the shadows of
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  Speaker 2: other great people?
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  Speaker 1: You just need to decide, decide to step up to
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  Speaker 1: the play, Decide to step out of the shadow, decide
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  Speaker 1: to let go of the fear. You have to decide
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  Speaker 1: to be great because you are capable.
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  Speaker 5: Either somebody is in the midst of adversity or just
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  Speaker 5: came out of adversity, or won't be long before they
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  Speaker 5: head in two adversity, So you need to be prepared
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  Speaker 5: either way, and so we all go through adversity opposition.
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  Speaker 5: I think that's the thing that makes us all in
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  Speaker 5: common as people, right, no matter if you're from London, Atlanta, Florida, California,
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  Speaker 5: New York. Like we're all going to go through something
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  Speaker 5: at some point or phase in our life.
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  Speaker 3: Right.
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  Speaker 5: And as cliche as it sounds when the quote says
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  Speaker 5: it's never about what happens to you, it's about how
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  Speaker 5: you respond to it, that's very true, right. But in
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  Speaker 5: the same sense, I think what's most important is when
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  Speaker 5: we go through something, what's the perspective that we have
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  Speaker 5: of it?
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  Speaker 1: Right?
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  Speaker 5: Because for most people, when you go through something, the
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  Speaker 5: person's natural perspective is Okay, what did I lose?
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  Speaker 1: Right?
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  Speaker 5: What happened to me? Like I took a loss. Right,
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  Speaker 5: people never look at it and say, okay, man, tell
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  Speaker 5: me what did you gain? Right, even though I know
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  Speaker 5: it hurt you didn't want to go through it, but
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  Speaker 5: look at it in a way to where you can say,
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  Speaker 5: what's the lesson in this?
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  Speaker 1: Right?
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  Speaker 5: What would you say? Life is trying to teach you
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  Speaker 5: from dealing with this? And so when I went through it,
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  Speaker 5: my perspective was, Okay, what can I extract from it
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  Speaker 5: to apply to other areas and aspects of my life
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  Speaker 5: that I feel can help other people? And I firmly
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  Speaker 5: believe the quicker you can shift your perspective from yourself
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  Speaker 5: to others. When you're in the midst of adversity, the
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  Speaker 5: quicker you'll get through it.
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  Speaker 1: Right.
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  Speaker 5: Martin Luther King has a quote that says, life's most
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  Speaker 5: persistent and urgent question is what are you doing to
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  Speaker 5: help other people? I'm not telling you not to say, Man,
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  Speaker 5: I'm going through this in this heart. I'm not saying that.
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  Speaker 5: I'm saying when you go through it, look at it,
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  Speaker 5: step back from the picture, and say, Okay, I'm dealing
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  Speaker 5: with this. Nine out of ten times is somebody else
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  Speaker 5: that's either dealt with it or they gonna deal with
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  Speaker 5: something similar to this. And if I deal with it
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  Speaker 5: in the right way, I can use it to add
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  Speaker 5: value to lives of other people. This too shall pass, right,
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  Speaker 5: And the reason I would say that is, like I said,
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  Speaker 5: I champion adversity.
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  Speaker 1: Right.
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  Speaker 5: We know what to do when things go right. But
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  Speaker 5: the next time it gets tough, the next time you
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  Speaker 5: question your purpose, the next time you question your existence,
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  Speaker 5: your mission. If you're supposed to be doing what you're
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  Speaker 5: doing and it gets tough and challenging, just whisper to yourself,
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  Speaker 5: this too shall pass. This too shall pass