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Episode #314: Stop Chasing Validation · Tea Time w/Amie & Bev

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  Speaker 1: Hi, everybody, Welcome to tea time with Amy and bev
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  Speaker 1: l again.
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  Speaker 2: Good day again, Good moments again, Good moments, Yeah, good moments.
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  Speaker 1: I'm navigating being around a certain personality and really taking
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  Speaker 1: taking uh the opportunity life is giving me the opportunity
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  Speaker 1: to heal some other layers around this type of personality.
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  Speaker 1: Haven't been doing so well for the past couple months
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  Speaker 1: with it. I will get there. It's getting easier. But
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  Speaker 1: this is what we do. We are given an opportunity
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  Speaker 1: to heal and grow and shed layers and dig deeper.
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  Speaker 1: And I'm in it. So and I will say or
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  Speaker 1: do something or have an attitude and then a person
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  Speaker 1: will walk away and I'm just like, ah, I could
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  Speaker 1: have done better. You're not practicing what you preach. You're
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  Speaker 1: better than that, You're a coach, and give myself a
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  Speaker 1: talking to and then I'm like, well, I'll have another opportunity,
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  Speaker 1: no doubt. We'll keep working on this.
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  Speaker 2: So yeah, And from my perspective, it's great that you're
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  Speaker 2: expressing all this, because you know, it's easy to look
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  Speaker 2: at someone and think, oh, yeah, everything's going great all
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  Speaker 2: the time, and it's like it's a constant evolution. It
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  Speaker 2: just is and that's that's been a word for me
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  Speaker 2: since April first, because I was told it's time to
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  Speaker 2: start the evolution. So and it's interesting because if you
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  Speaker 2: listen to the last video, I start recognizing. I'm recognizing
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  Speaker 2: for myself all these things that are evolving within me,
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  Speaker 2: these new understandings. And then with all that being said,
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  Speaker 2: not to lose hope, because when I was going through
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  Speaker 2: a lot of the stuff that I was going.
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  Speaker 3: Through, I felt freaking lost.
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  Speaker 2: I didn't feel like I could give out any information
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  Speaker 2: to anybody. I didn't feel like I held value for anyone,
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  Speaker 2: and it was humbling, and it was just growing through
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  Speaker 2: this experience and just like you are right now going
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  Speaker 2: through growing through all this because we're learning so much
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  Speaker 2: more about ourselves. And it's okay, But there was sometimes
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  Speaker 2: in the last year that's been pretty heavy. I thought
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  Speaker 2: that this is the dark knight of a soul and
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  Speaker 2: this is what I'm going to get for a Kundalini awaking.
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  Speaker 3: Forget it.
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  Speaker 2: I am like, I am done, take me off the list.
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  Speaker 3: I'm over it.
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  Speaker 2: So we don't need to fast forward exactly. Peace peace out, bro.
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  Speaker 2: But that's exactly it. But it's but with all that
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  Speaker 2: being said, I had there was a lot of times
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  Speaker 2: that I felt lost. And it's even though I have
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  Speaker 2: an amazing Oh my gosh, Raymond's so amazing and he's
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  Speaker 2: walks this journey with me and we constantly evolved together too,
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  Speaker 2: and it's I'm thankful for all that, but sometimes when
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  Speaker 2: I was going through it, it feels like you're so alone
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  Speaker 2: because you know no one understands it. And I could
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  Speaker 2: have been I guess it could have been a victim
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  Speaker 2: mentality in a lot of ways. But I felt like
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  Speaker 2: all the things that I've believed in thought and I
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  Speaker 2: felt grounded into and this is right.
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  Speaker 3: And it's like it was like a band they got
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  Speaker 3: ripped off of me and it's like no, no, this
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  Speaker 3: is an amus is true.
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  Speaker 2: Which is so amazing when I think about this, because
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  Speaker 2: if I go back to when I was.
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  Speaker 3: Having group over a year ago in April, that's when
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  Speaker 3: it stopped.
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  Speaker 2: When I go back to that timeframe, I realized I
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  Speaker 2: could have had people constantly like at a boy even
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  Speaker 2: doing a great job and staying in that space, and
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  Speaker 2: I could not grow anymore from that space.
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  Speaker 3: I couldn't.
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  Speaker 2: I don't from not to where I'm at right now,
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  Speaker 2: not how I've grown to the person, to the thoughts,
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  Speaker 2: to the allowing, the surrendering.
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  Speaker 3: There's so many things that I've done that.
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  Speaker 2: I was not even capable of doing that, and had
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  Speaker 2: many meltdowns and many little child my little girl came
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  Speaker 2: forward and like didn't understand these things. And now it's
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  Speaker 2: the light at the end of the tunnel, is that
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  Speaker 2: there is an understanding. And even still I would have
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  Speaker 2: glimpses we've talked about it, have like all of a sudden,
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  Speaker 2: we're on this little plateau and as everything's going great,
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  Speaker 2: and let's take a breath because we're about to dive
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  Speaker 2: in again. And now I feel like something has shifted
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  Speaker 2: to the point where everything feels like it's more easier
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  Speaker 2: to navigate, to flow with. When someone says, go with
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  Speaker 2: the flow, jump on your little lea or your lotus
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  Speaker 2: and float down the river.
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  Speaker 3: I get it.
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  Speaker 2: And now when I just say that, I can see
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  Speaker 2: myself holding on to the sides of you know, holding
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  Speaker 2: onto the pedals and like just with the big old
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  Speaker 2: smile on my face, water going by and just just
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  Speaker 2: seeing where it's going, just enjoying this journey.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah, but it was a loss.
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  Speaker 2: It was it felt lost, and if I let go
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  Speaker 2: of that there had to be any place to go to.
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  Speaker 2: It was all fine, It was all going exactly that
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  Speaker 2: word it needed to go to. It was just me
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  Speaker 2: slowly letting go of each strand of grass that was
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  Speaker 2: on the side of the bank of this river that
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  Speaker 2: I just wouldn't let go of, and then realize, oh,
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  Speaker 2: it's okay, this is so much more fun just to
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  Speaker 2: let go, Tosh.
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  Speaker 3: My hands don't hurt as much from gripping so tightly
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  Speaker 3: to what was.
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  Speaker 1: Yep, our little person inside just has a temper tantrum
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  Speaker 1: and it shows out shows up in many different ways
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  Speaker 1: based mainly because we're operating from the eight year old
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  Speaker 1: seven year old zero to seven year old who only
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  Speaker 1: knew how to get that get their way by having
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  Speaker 1: a temper tantrum. And it didn't always work out that
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  Speaker 1: way either. Sometimes well in our generation, we just got
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  Speaker 1: in trouble for it. But our little I would say,
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  Speaker 1: like our person inside, who has already been programmed in
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  Speaker 1: that zero to seven time frame, is having the temper
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  Speaker 1: tantrum of change, the temper tantrum of it's not safe
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  Speaker 1: to do that right then, the temper tantrum of you
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  Speaker 1: can't trust these people. And the adult version of ourselves,
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  Speaker 1: who has now lived life and is very more has
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  Speaker 1: more knowledge and wisdom than that seven or eight year
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  Speaker 1: old per se as a human let's put at less
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  Speaker 1: preface as a human, not and as the spirit because
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  Speaker 1: that zero to seven year old very spiritual, very connected.
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  Speaker 1: But the human adult has more wisdom and knowledge than
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  Speaker 1: that little person that's still inside who doesn't feel safe
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  Speaker 1: or or is very scared, has a lot of fear
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  Speaker 1: because of the experiences that I would say you and
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  Speaker 1: I have had at that and those h fras at
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  Speaker 1: those timeframes. So they just having a temper tantrum. And
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  Speaker 1: so it's like you're battling two sides of yourself. This
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  Speaker 1: this adult version who has seen life, grown through life,
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  Speaker 1: had experiences, ready for something different. But that internal version
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  Speaker 1: of ourselves is like, no right holding us back. And
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  Speaker 1: so there's that still that fear, the angst or anxiety
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  Speaker 1: that shows up. That's that that says, don't do it.
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  Speaker 1: Don't let go of that blade of grass and just
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  Speaker 1: float down the river and enjoy yourself, enjoy the temperature
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  Speaker 1: and the breeze and all the thing. Don't do that
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  Speaker 1: don't relax. We we have to work hard. We have
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  Speaker 1: to we have to we gotta grind, we gotta we
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  Speaker 1: gotta show up, and we gotta do these things in
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  Speaker 1: order to get rewarded. And and we're like, no, I'm
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  Speaker 1: just gonna let go of that blade of grass and
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  Speaker 1: just float. And the sense of relief when you finally
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  Speaker 1: do that, the the physical shift that happens when you
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  Speaker 1: just surrender and be like, okay, here we are, let's
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  Speaker 1: just see what happens. Right, But it's giving our internal
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  Speaker 1: self that that safety and the sense of feeling okay
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  Speaker 1: by doing it. So one of my biggest things is
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  Speaker 1: speaking in front of people. That's like the top one
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  Speaker 1: of the top three fears for all people. The more
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  Speaker 1: I do it, the easier it gets. And you know
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  Speaker 1: you're talking about, you know, getting those kudos and pats
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  Speaker 1: on the back. I've been getting that because I've been
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  Speaker 1: I've done a few speeches over these past couple months,
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  Speaker 1: and every time I've had a lot of people come
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  Speaker 1: up to me and say, wow, I was really great.
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  Speaker 1: That was touching. I enjoyed that. You know, you hit
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  Speaker 1: somebody the other night, tell me you know what you
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  Speaker 1: really you know how to capture the attention of the audience,
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  Speaker 1: and it feels good because it's building my confidence. So
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  Speaker 1: some things that we do, we do need that kudos
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  Speaker 1: for a while. But when you notice that, it becomes
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  Speaker 1: a need, and that's you're doing it just.
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  Speaker 3: For the approval.
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  Speaker 1: Now there's an issue, and if you don't recognize that,
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  Speaker 1: you're going to stay stuck in that and that's where
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  Speaker 1: you're going to live. Whereas when you recognize, oh, I'm
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  Speaker 1: staying stuck in this energy in this arena to get
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  Speaker 1: the approval of people who are and it's not a
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  Speaker 1: good or bad it's not a judgment, but they're at
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  Speaker 1: a lower vibrational frequency than I am, and I'm matching
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  Speaker 1: their energy to help guide them and coach them. I'm
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  Speaker 1: holding a little bit higher energy. But eventually it I've
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  Speaker 1: noticed it myself, it'll wear you down. And now you're
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  Speaker 1: matching them. And when you start recognizing that you are
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  Speaker 1: dependent on their approval and acceptance and quote unquote love,
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  Speaker 1: it's time to change something because that's not where you're
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  Speaker 1: meant to stay. And so for now, for me, getting
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  Speaker 1: those kudos is kind of a need in the sense
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  Speaker 1: that it's helping build me up and help me grow
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  Speaker 1: in my confidence that I am doing a good job.
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  Speaker 1: I am speaking to the people in the audience. I am,
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  Speaker 1: you know, planting seeds in whatever way I can't like,
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  Speaker 1: I am making a difference in speaking in front of people,
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  Speaker 1: and people letting me know that.
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  Speaker 3: Great.
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  Speaker 1: I need that right now because I still get nervous
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  Speaker 1: speaking in front of people, and that each time it
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  Speaker 1: helps me relax more and more because it's telling my
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  Speaker 1: inner person, we're okay and we're safe. Yeah, like the crowd.
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  Speaker 1: If the crowd laughs because I cracked a joke, not
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  Speaker 1: because I couldn't pronounce a word or not because I
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  Speaker 1: didn't get the answer right, that's our programming from school, right,
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  Speaker 1: all the kids laughed at us, and so, oh, climb up.
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  Speaker 1: Can't do that, that's not safe. I've messed up my words.
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  Speaker 1: I've had to repeat a sentence because I jumbled it up.
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  Speaker 1: I've stumbled. I've been shaking like no tomorrow trying to
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  Speaker 1: give a speech without my voice cracking so much. Right,
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  Speaker 1: so or I've gotten teary eyed because of something, and
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  Speaker 1: I've had to pause. My nose runs when I'm speaking.
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  Speaker 1: And then it's like all these things and you know what,
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  Speaker 1: I survived every single one of them, and that each
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  Speaker 1: time gives me more and more of a sense of
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  Speaker 1: safety and relief within myself to know I can do this.
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  Speaker 3: And it's like confirmation too.
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  Speaker 2: It's when when you're getting that afterwards. To me, it
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  Speaker 2: feels good to have the confirmations. It kind of it
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  Speaker 2: kind of gives you the idea that you're on the
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  Speaker 2: right path, that you're going in the right direction.
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  Speaker 3: This feels right, it does. I remember the first time.
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  Speaker 2: That you and I had a group together, that we
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  Speaker 2: sat down in front of an eye I was I
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  Speaker 2: was kind of nervous about it, but I remember being
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  Speaker 2: I felt like I was going to do something wrong,
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  Speaker 2: and I think that's where my most of my stuff
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  Speaker 2: came from. But then it's like, as we were sitting
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  Speaker 2: there talking, it never there's some things in life that
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  Speaker 2: feel so right, and that felt so right. It just
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  Speaker 2: felt like this was a natural process, the progression. So
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  Speaker 2: it's like we just sit and see how it plays out.
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  Speaker 2: You know, as we're growing, Like you've talked about, you know,
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  Speaker 2: even with your job, how much you've gained from it,
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  Speaker 2: and you and you're doing it with from a place
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  Speaker 2: of gratitude, which also opens the doorway for more more
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  Speaker 2: of the things that you want. And it's like, Okay,
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  Speaker 2: I've learned everything I can from this and now it's
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  Speaker 2: on to the next So there's going to be some
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  Speaker 2: new stuff coming forward. And that's fun. It's fun when
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  Speaker 2: we recognize it from this perspective. It's not fun when
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  Speaker 2: we recognize it from everything that you said earlier about
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  Speaker 2: the child, the inner child and all these feelings and gosh,
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  Speaker 2: you freaking nailed it. Really all put words to a
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  Speaker 2: lot of the things that that's how I felt growing up.
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  Speaker 3: You know, it's kind of scary.
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  Speaker 2: And it's also knowing that when my inner child has
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  Speaker 2: comes forward, it's.
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  Speaker 3: She's being seen. She's being seen.
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  Speaker 2: For this, and it's like we're gaining different information from it,
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  Speaker 2: so it kind of changes the whole programming.
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  Speaker 3: As soon as we do that stuff. I don't feel, like.
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  Speaker 2: I've said before, and I understand it now that I
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  Speaker 2: don't feel like I have to go digging for the
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  Speaker 2: things inside of me, because otherwise I'm constantly searching inside
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  Speaker 2: of me for what's wrong?
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  Speaker 3: Why did this happen, Why did that happen? How could
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  Speaker 3: I do differently?
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  Speaker 2: But but by me asking how can I do things differently?
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  Speaker 2: How can I show up better for myself and in
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  Speaker 2: all my relationships, I start being things start happening and
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  Speaker 2: it's all different because I have it created a different
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  Speaker 2: asking withinside of myself. Excuse me, because I want the
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  Speaker 2: good relationships. I want to have the good experiences. I
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  Speaker 2: want to have the flow the conversations. I'm not a
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  Speaker 2: person that does very well in shallow conversations.
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  Speaker 3: I just don't.
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  Speaker 2: It's not it's not appealing to me, and it's which
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  Speaker 2: is nice. I'm the person that's going through the cash
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  Speaker 2: register or the cashier at the stores and they're telling
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  Speaker 2: me all their stuff, of everything they've experienced in the
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  Speaker 2: last several years, and it's like, I'm kind of surprised
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  Speaker 2: because there's more people that are around, but it just
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  Speaker 2: goes to show you where we're at. People are ready
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  Speaker 2: to expand and they don't want to be limited by
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  Speaker 2: all of our experiences and programming that we've had already.
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  Speaker 2: So it's this is pretty fun. It's pretty fun. I
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  Speaker 2: enjoy it. I'm thankful for you. I don't tell you
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  Speaker 2: probably enough of that, but I am thankful for you
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  Speaker 2: because you did see a lot of things in me
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  Speaker 2: that I did not see, and you've stuck around with
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  Speaker 2: all of it, and you've done very well in my dad,
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  Speaker 2: So thank you.
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  Speaker 1: Wait, don't stop, keep going.
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  Speaker 2: I was, but that changes the energy, right, And if
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  Speaker 2: we find more people that were doing that, like, find
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  Speaker 2: the things that they're doing that are that feel good
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  Speaker 2: to you and say something about it, because so many
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  Speaker 2: times I didn't. I don't think I ever stopped and
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  Speaker 2: told my mom how beautiful she was. I don't really
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  Speaker 2: don't think I did. I don't think anybody ever said
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  Speaker 2: that to me. So I didn't know how to approach
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  Speaker 2: that kind of stuff or even have a desire to.
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  Speaker 2: But now it's like, well, I tell her, I tell
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  Speaker 2: her how beautiful she is. And because the relationships continue,
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  Speaker 2: they don't just stop because they they left their physical
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  Speaker 2: or their avatar.
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  Speaker 3: I wouldn't even call it physical. It's just an avatar
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  Speaker 3: to me.
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  Speaker 1: So I called this a human spirit vehicle.
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  Speaker 3: What are you driving today, my HSD.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, it's a different color today. It's got some hearts
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  Speaker 1: and it's pink.
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  Speaker 3: But that's right, that's right.
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  Speaker 2: I like it.
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  Speaker 3: It's a fun.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, that's uh. Going back what I was talking about
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  Speaker 1: as far as the need and the dependency on others.
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  Speaker 1: That's how I coach is I don't want you dependent
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  Speaker 1: on me. And in the past couple of years, I've
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  Speaker 1: had some clients who have blossomed tremendously from us spending
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  Speaker 1: time together. Now watching them and the joy that they're
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  Speaker 1: experiencing in life and the things they're pursuing in their
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  Speaker 1: life is that's what matters. That's what matters, right, And
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  Speaker 1: so it's important that if you in general audience that
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  Speaker 1: if you are feeling dependent on somebody for your happiness
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  Speaker 1: two to uh, you know you need them around so
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  Speaker 1: that you know, you know when you have conversations, they're
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  Speaker 1: gonna lift you up, they're gonna bring better energy, they're
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  Speaker 1: gonna make you happy to you know those words that
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  Speaker 1: we use. When you're dependent on that, there's some healing
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  Speaker 1: to be done, some internal healing. So I I, for
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  Speaker 1: several years now have looked at it as if I
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  Speaker 1: enjoy myself, I can be with myself, I can laugh
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  Speaker 1: with myself, me by myself in a room, not listening
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  Speaker 1: to anything. I could just laugh if I want to laugh,
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  Speaker 1: and I don't need somebody to do that to trigger
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  Speaker 1: that in me. So, when you're dependent on outside sources,
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  Speaker 1: is it helpful? Yeah, absolutely, it's helpful. Bev and I
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  Speaker 1: get on here and we have these conversations. It lingers,
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  Speaker 1: you know, for a while. And with the conversations we have,
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  Speaker 1: I contemplate and it's beneficial. However, I am not dependent
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  Speaker 1: on these conversations to help me grow and learn and
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  Speaker 1: expand and be joyful and have glimpses of excitement, don't.
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  Speaker 1: I don't need her and I don't need other people
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  Speaker 1: to do that for me. That's up to me to
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  Speaker 1: do that. So I just want people to understand and
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  Speaker 1: the difference that when you're dependent on somebody, you're saying
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  Speaker 1: you need somebody to throw you the rope to pull
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  Speaker 1: you out of the quicksand you can do it on
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  Speaker 1: your own. You can. And I say that in a
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  Speaker 1: sense of you're the one that can pick up a
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  Speaker 1: podcast or listen to a podcast, or pick up a
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  Speaker 1: book and read some words, or maybe for you it's
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  Speaker 1: the Bible. I don't there's some kind of spiritual context.
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  Speaker 1: There are resources that will help you do that, which
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  Speaker 1: is very beneficial. And those are tools, right, There are
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  Speaker 1: so many tools availables available to us to help us
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  Speaker 1: shift our energy. One of my go tos listen to Abraham.
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  Speaker 1: I get in a funk, I go listen to Esther Hickson.
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  Speaker 1: Abraham helps me every single time, and sometimes I have
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  Speaker 1: to listen to it for days. Yeah, just keep listening
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  Speaker 1: to their recordings every single day to help shift me.
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  Speaker 1: But I'm taking the initiative and I'm doing the work
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  Speaker 1: to help make that happen, to help shift my energy.
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  Speaker 1: Whereas Bev and I could have a conversation and she
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  Speaker 1: could lift me up or I could lift her up.
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  Speaker 1: But if I become dependent on her to lift me
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  Speaker 1: up every single time, then there's some healing and growing
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  Speaker 1: that needs to take place. So just kind of giving
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  Speaker 1: people an idea of what we're really talking about when
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  Speaker 1: we're saying those things.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, because we're guides. We're just a guide. I'm a
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  Speaker 2: guid guide someone back into themselves. I'm not going to
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  Speaker 2: fix you. I'm not responsible for you, for anybody. I mean,
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  Speaker 2: I'm responsible when my grandkids are with me to make
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  Speaker 2: sure they stay safe, but they're actually great teachers for myself.
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  Speaker 3: So you know.
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  Speaker 2: But it's looking at a lot of that stuff, and
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  Speaker 2: I know there's been a lot of people explore the
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  Speaker 2: information that's flowing out there. There's been a lot of
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  Speaker 2: people that have been put into a guru status that
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  Speaker 2: have actually been shown to not be very what people thought,
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  Speaker 2: not saying they didn't have valuable information that came forward.
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  Speaker 2: But it's to not idolize another. It's not to get
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  Speaker 2: wrapped up in that, and to recognize if you do
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  Speaker 2: have someone.
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  Speaker 3: If you're talking to Amy all the time.
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  Speaker 2: And she does lift you up, it's recognizing you have
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  Speaker 2: that within selfs that's all that. It's a mirror to
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  Speaker 2: you to let you know that you have this. And
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  Speaker 2: I love listening to Abraham as well. I've just listened
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  Speaker 2: been listening to her in the last few days, honestly,
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  Speaker 2: just a little random stuff because it's it lifts. It's
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  Speaker 2: it's not so much the words that are being stated.
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  Speaker 2: It's it's so much about the energy that I feel.
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  Speaker 2: And when you just tune into that, I could probably
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  Speaker 2: when I haven't tried doing it, I probably just watch
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  Speaker 2: a video with her talking, but I usually see, you know,
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  Speaker 2: they usually have animated stuff going on with her talking,
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  Speaker 2: and I probably would pick up just as much as
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  Speaker 2: I would by listening to the words, it's it's an
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  Speaker 2: energy thing, it's it's being. It's an alignment, and you
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  Speaker 2: feel more aligned when you're listening to that kind of stuff.
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  Speaker 2: I do, and I know you do because it and
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  Speaker 2: it really does. It really helps. And I like to
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  Speaker 2: listen to Alan Watson and stuff too because there's a lot,
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  Speaker 2: a lot of awesome information. It's just so philosophical. There's
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  Speaker 2: so much information that's out there that we can find.
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  Speaker 2: But again, just like you stated, it's not a matter
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  Speaker 2: of being dependent on those it's a matter of it.
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  Speaker 2: It's the opportunity for it to come forward right that moment,
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  Speaker 2: because there's a message for you. It's nothing, it's just
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  Speaker 2: a brief thing, just like I was telling you earlier.
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  Speaker 2: For me, everything is a message, and so for me,
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  Speaker 2: i've seen a pair of peaguine falcons flying around together.
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  Speaker 3: There's a message for that.
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  Speaker 2: I've been able to witness the paraguine falcons sitting in
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  Speaker 2: the nest on some eggs.
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  Speaker 3: That's awesome.
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  Speaker 2: I was driving to work the other day and I
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  Speaker 2: know that antelope are fast moving and they're quick on
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  Speaker 2: their feet, but it's like they were and also cautious
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  Speaker 2: and kind of looking around to see where they were
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  Speaker 2: to jump in. It reminds me of double Dutch, you know,
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  Speaker 2: rope You got to know when you can jump into
• 23:04
  Speaker 2: that whole mix to be able to maintain it without
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  Speaker 2: getting all wrapped up in the ropes. But I got
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  Speaker 2: to see four of those, and so I know numbers
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  Speaker 2: mean something to me as well. And then we had
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  Speaker 2: a pair of cranes in the front yard this morning.
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  Speaker 2: It's very overcast today. It's it's like, I think the
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  Speaker 2: high was supposed to be like sixty one, which for
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  Speaker 2: us is.
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  Speaker 3: Kind of chilly this time of year.
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  Speaker 2: And so having all those experiences, there's all these messages
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  Speaker 2: that happen, and it's just being aware of it.
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  Speaker 3: That's what all this stuff is.
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  Speaker 2: It's like all these breadcrumbs that we left to go
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  Speaker 2: just to lead us back into ourselves. So it's it's like,
• 23:38
  Speaker 2: you know, just like this other person that you've experienced
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  Speaker 2: that has made you reflect more on maybe programming, you know,
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  Speaker 2: from childhood, for this showing up, it's all it is
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  Speaker 2: is opportunities for our growth.
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  Speaker 3: It's just this this looking.
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  Speaker 2: Withinside and not becoming a victim or being dragged around
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  Speaker 2: by someone else's energy or making us feel bad.
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  Speaker 3: That everything's totally up to us.
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  Speaker 2: You can spend time with it, but it's just an
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  Speaker 2: opportunity to look at that and say, Okay, this is
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  Speaker 2: this is a message for me as well, and I'm
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  Speaker 2: not going to shoot the messenger, even though it would
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  Speaker 2: be fun. Maybe I've played video games. I played lots
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  Speaker 2: of video games once a fun time. But it doesn't
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  Speaker 2: there's no solution, and it has nothing to do with
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  Speaker 2: the messenger. It's just obviously shining a light on something
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  Speaker 2: within self that still would like to feel different than
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  Speaker 2: the way it feels in that moment from that experience.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, love it, love it. So going and growing, keep going,
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  Speaker 1: keep growing, right, we just kept doing that step in
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  Speaker 1: front of and find the resources that help you grow.
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  Speaker 1: Go and grow, help you find the resources that help
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  Speaker 1: you shift your energy where you're not However, you're not
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  Speaker 1: solely dependent on that. It's not a need that somebody
• 25:03
  Speaker 1: else needs to fix you or fix your problems so
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  Speaker 1: you can experience some joy because we all have it
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  Speaker 1: within ourselves and we are a reflection of each other.
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  Speaker 1: So when Bev says, you know, when somebody is influenced
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  Speaker 1: by our energy, we are a reflection of who they
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  Speaker 1: already are, and we're showing them who they could tap
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  Speaker 1: into within themselves. It's like looking in a mirror, but
• 25:30
  Speaker 1: when you look in that mirror, you see one of us,
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  Speaker 1: and we are there to encourage you to keep going
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  Speaker 1: and keep growing and expand. So with that, other people
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  Speaker 1: are having these conversations as well and seeking the resources
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  Speaker 1: that will help them answer their questions. So if any
• 25:52
  Speaker 1: of this has resonated with you, be sure to share it.
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  Speaker 1: Have the conversations, be the resource. You don't have to
• 25:58
  Speaker 1: be the teacher or the coach, and just let them
• 26:01
  Speaker 1: know about tea time with Amy and Bev and let
• 26:05
  Speaker 1: them know where to find us on the Amy and
• 26:06
  Speaker 1: Bev community channel of YouTube. We're also on Facebook, Instagram, TikTok, Spreaker, Spotify, podcast, Attic,
• 26:14
  Speaker 1: so we're on many platforms. Leave a comment or a question.
• 26:19
  Speaker 1: We like to get those and just help us continue
• 26:23
  Speaker 1: to go and grow in as a as a resource
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  Speaker 1: for other people. And any final words.
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  Speaker 3: Enjoy the journey.
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  Speaker 2: I'll like spend more time enjoying the journey. Even when
• 26:37
  Speaker 2: you feel lost, you're not lost. You're just on to
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  Speaker 2: the next big part of yourself finding more, finding out
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  Speaker 2: more about.
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  Speaker 1: Yourself absolutely, and that's what we can do, is just
• 26:47
  Speaker 1: be and do better within ourselves, and then we automatically
• 26:50
  Speaker 1: show up and be and do better within the world.
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  Speaker 1: And that's always my intention and my goal. So with that,
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  Speaker 1: thanks for hanging out tea timing with Amy and Bev
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  Speaker 1: and we'll see you next time.
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  Speaker 3: Bye.