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Break Free from Cocaine and Cigarettes - Hypnosis for Toxic Attachment · The Hypnotist

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Welcome to The Hypnotist, the show that gives you inside
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access to cutting edge hypnosis with real clients facing
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genuine. Issues.
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Brought to you by The Hypnotherapist, demanded by
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celebrities, CEOs and even royalty, Adam Cox.
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These recordings took place live from Adam's clinic in London's
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world famous Harley Street. So get yourself comfortable and
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enjoy today's episode of The Hypnotist.
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Hi, it's Adam here. Maybe you have an unhealthy
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relationship with a substance. Maybe it's a behaviour.
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Now this hypnosis session was specifically working with
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someone. That had.
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An unhealthy relationship with cocaine and cigarettes.
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They knew. That it was.
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Costing them financially, costing their health, costing
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their opportunities, costing them emotionally in terms of
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shame and guilt and frustration, but it was also giving them
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something. And that might be?
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A sense of energy boost. Or it might a sense of
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connection or a sense. Of escapism.
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It was doing something for them. But at a huge.
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Cost and what was interesting is this this particular.
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Client had. Recalled a moment where they
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ended a relationship with their ex that was giving them
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something but it was taking a lot more and they reached a
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point where they just said. I'm done.
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And they were able to permanently walk away from that
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relationship, even though it was giving them some value but
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taking a lot more. This hypnosis session uses a
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romantic relationship as an analogy with a relationship with
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a substance and frames it as an abusive, deceptive, gaslighting
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kind of relationship where the relationship promises all of
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these wonderful things but actually takes a lot more.
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And it uses narcissistic. Language like gaslighting.
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It uses an element called the Stockholm Syndrome, which you
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may have heard in situations where the hostages start
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justifying. And defending.
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Their captors and a lot of people have experienced
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something like this because of the cognitive biases that take
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place When you're doing something fundamentally
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destructive, you start justifying it in different ways.
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It's a form of cognitive dissonance where you say, yeah,
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but it's not that bad or it's not causing you that much
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problem. And that delusion keeps people
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trapped in these unhealthy patterns, these unhealthy
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relationships. Imagine how you would feel if
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you were in a relationship and that you discovered that your
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partner was secretly poisoning you.
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Not by. Big amounts, but bits of
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something poisonous or toxic. Maybe putting bleach and things
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like that in your drinks or your food.
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If you figured that out, you would have an immediate emotive
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reaction to probably, you know, get very angry with your
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partner, but certainly leave that relationship.
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And a lot of substance abuse is like that.
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There is this element of ignoring the consequences, the
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health consequences, the destructive consequences, and so
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disassociating from that and associating into the pleasure or
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the good things. And I want you to think of who a
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person would be that you consider very attractive and
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desirable, but would be very toxic, deceitful.
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And you could imagine that if you were in a relationship like
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that, because they are very desirable, you might overlook
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all of their obvious flaws because it's giving you
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something that you value. And a lot of people have that
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kind of relationship with some kind of a substance or
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behaviour. This is designed to use an
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analogy of disassociation, looking at your life like a case
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file to actually see it for what it really is.
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Because if these kind of things were happening to someone that
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you care about or you love, you would probably try and assist or
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intervene for them to see what's really going on.
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It's more difficult to do that when it's within your own life.
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So if you have some kind of unhealthy relationship with
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something, maybe you're watching too much social media, maybe
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you're gambling too much, maybe it is a substance or overeating
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or sugary foods. Even though this was created
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for. A client where?
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Their thing was cocaine and cigarettes.
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It might be something different for you.
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So just think of it in terms of that.
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How could that be an unhealthy relationship?
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It was created for an individual.
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Not all of the suggestions are going to be suitable for you, so
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if you do like the idea of having a bespoke session, me
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working directly with you, there will be a link not only in the
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description but also on my website whichisadamcox.co.uk
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where you can book a free consultation call and we can
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explore working together. And now though, find a quiet,
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comfortable place where you won't be disturbed.
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Relax and enjoy the session. Take a deep breath in, and as
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you breathe in, breathe in that slow, long, relaxing breath and
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as you exhale. Feel that Wonderful.
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Feeling of release, as if any tension, stress and worries are
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slowly but surely leaving your body in your outward breath.
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Breathing in relaxation and exhaling tension.
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Breathing in worthiness and exhaling shame.
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Breathing in certainty and exhaling doubt.
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I want you to feel that there is a profound difference between
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knowing what to do and feeling committed to doing what is best
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for you. There's one thing to say I'm
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done and another to be done, and just imagine priming those
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normal pathways that know the difference from knowing what to
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being someone that aligns with what serves you.
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The deeper you breathe, the more relaxed you feel.
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And the more relaxed you feel, the deeper you breathe.
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So much so that each breath takes you deeper and deeper.
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Relaxed Now, that's it. Give permission to allow your
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nervous system to settle. Not into sleep, but into
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clarity. Clarity, not drowsiness, will
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set you free, and you've had moments of clarity in your past
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that enable decisions linked to feelings of certainty that
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change the trajectory of your life.
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So breathe in that clarity and exhale any confusion because
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this is not about escaping anything.
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What if it's about seeing something accurately and
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clearly, seeing something for what it really is, not what it
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pretends to be? Sometimes people have had an
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experience of observing their own life in the same way that
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perhaps they would a friend or a family member.
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As you breathe in and breathe out, maybe you can notice how
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easy it is to solve the problems of other people, and how much
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more. Difficult it.
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Is when those same problems our our own.
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So in a moment, I'm going to invite you the step out of the
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role of your current self and into a different role
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altogether. No longer is the person inside
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the experience with all of those words, connotations, meanings,
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words like user, addict, right, Wrong.
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Detach from that version of you experiencing and imagine that
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you're the one reviewing it, reviewing your own life like a
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stranger would. I want you to imagine Now you're
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seated at a desk, feeling calm, neutral and grounded.
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And maybe it's a big wooden desk, perhaps made of mahogany
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or something else, And in front of you is a file, a document.
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But it's not a judgement. It's not an accusation.
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Consider it a case review, and the name on the file is yours,
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but you're reviewing it in the same way you would if it was a
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file about someone else. Consider this forensic
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distancing. You get to review a relationship
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between you and something else, and as you open the file,
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imagine seeing a timeline when it started, Patterns of use and
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no use, moments of blowouts and moments of feeling.
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You don't want it, you don't need it, but observing it like a
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file. Observe promises and then those
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promises followed by consequences.
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This is a file not about you, but about a relationship that
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you have not with a person, but with a substance, and maybe more
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than one, because this is a relationship under review, and
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even though it's not with a person, it sometimes behaves
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exactly like 1 because for a while you've been in a
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relationship. With.
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Something charismatic, persuasive, knows how to push
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your buttons, knows exactly what to say.
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And maybe, maybe this is a relationship that represents
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cocaine or cigarettes, and this is an attractive partner,
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stylish, confident, seductive. And as you review the evidence,
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you notice something unsettling. But every time this partner
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promises relief, the outcome is depletion.
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Moments of high energy followed by energy down, health eroded,
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sleep disrupted, anxiety increased.
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And yet the partner always refuses any responsibility.
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It's almost like you're the problem.
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It's never them. You needed this.
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I helped you cope. This time doesn't count.
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But now notice something important.
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As the voice says, something like this will give you energy,
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clarity. This will wake you up.
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The body tells a different story.
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Tension, fatigue, acceleration followed by a crash.
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Maybe that voice says you're in control.
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And so the pattern repeats predictably.
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False promises with a similar aftermath.
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And from this position of observing the relationship not
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being in it, you see it clearly. This partner lies in real time,
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not loudly, but quietly and convincingly.
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Isn't that how gas lighting works?
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Telling you what you want to hear.
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Making up facts and information to fit a narrative that's never
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real. And as you continue reviewing,
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you realise something else secret.
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Sneaky poisoning. Not dramatic poisoning.
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Not the kind of poisoning in movies where one drink of
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something suddenly kills someone instantly.
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Not instant collapse. I want you to imagine observing
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a different form of small regular poisoning.
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Almost like micro dosing harm. Small enough to deny and slow
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enough to rationalize. Like someone who smiles while
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they slip poison into your drink.
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It's just enough that you don't notice at first until weeks turn
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into months and months into years.
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But observe how that cost accumulates, health
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deteriorates, self trust eroded, dignity diluted, shame
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increased. As you continue observing the
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file, thinking of yourself like another person in a relationship
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with something abusive, narcissistic, toxic.
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As you continue, you discover the most disturbing part of the
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file. You've started to defend your
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abuser. You make excuses for this
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destructive relationship, how the harm isn't quite so bad.
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Selective memory of the highs and waving off those lows.
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That shame, that feeling of fatigue, anxiety, maybe even
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paranoia. And what if from here, it's
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obvious This is not desire, This is Stockholm syndrome.
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You've bonded into this relationship through
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intermittent relief and harm, through fear and reward, through
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confusion. And notice the difference now,
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as you observe yourself like you're someone else, distance
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brings clarity. You've been too close to this,
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and that brought blindness. And then there's a moment in the
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file where everything changes. Imagine a sentence or a phrase,
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the simple comparison. If this was your child, a good
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friend, if this was happening to someone you love, would you
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intervene immediately? Feel that reaction.
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Feel it deep inside, not intellectually.
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Emotionally, because the moment that you wouldn't allow this to
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continue with someone you care about, the illusion collapses
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like a House of Cards falling down.
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Logically, emotionally, intellectually, it all collapses
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into a realization. The relationship fails the most
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basic test and I want you to feel as you observe.
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Seeing yourself now in this toxic relationship is abusive
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relationship full of lies, deceit, deception and control,
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grooming and punishing. Notice what happens next is you
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intervene as you would for someone you care about because
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you do care about you and not with anger, just a quiet
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grounded certainty. Imagine saying when thinking
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about this relationship, I see you, I know what you are, I
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refuse to continue, I'm done. Attraction is never enough to
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return to something toxic if you knew for.
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Certain. Your favorite food was laced
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with poison. It looking desirable and
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appetising is not enough. Once deception is seen clearly,
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it loses all of its leverage, persuasiveness and influence.
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And when you feel that you are indeed done, that you can't put
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the toothpaste back in the tube, you see it for what it really
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is, an abusive, deceitful, toxic relationship that takes more
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than it gives when emotionally you feel done.
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Let me know about nodding your head.
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That's it. Recall the time you also felt
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this way. Sometimes there can't be a lag,
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a lag time, a delay between the decision and when reality
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catches up. But in this moment, you're done.
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Everything else is just reality catching up with this decision.
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So allow yourself to see yourself forwards in time, maybe
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weeks or months from now. See this person who is done and
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see who this person has become. Maybe clearer, more grounded,
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self respecting. And then imagine that the idea
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of returning to that old relationship.
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Notice how it feels now, no longer tempting or exciting
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beneath you. Irrelevant, perhaps even
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embarrassing. Wouldn't it be embarrassing to
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go back to someone that abused you and calling it love?
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That identity no longer fits. Allow a new truth to settle.
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Not as effort but as alignment. You don't need to fight a toxic
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relationship, you just outgrow it.
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You don't crave poison once you recognize the taste.
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This has been a vicious wolf hiding in.
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Sheep's clothing. But you see it now, and the part
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of you that protects life, health and dignity is now back
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in charge, no longer to make excuses for this abusive
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relationship. And I want you to see yourself
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in that future. If any cravings, any physical
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sensations come up, that version of you will just assume.
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That you are. Thirsty.
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Or that your body is. Craving nutrition, not a
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substance, but something that gives you life vitality.
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When someone's been abused for years, what they need is
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healing, and I want you to feel that.
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Water and nutrients. Heal.
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Perhaps you can imagine yourself in the kind of situation that
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you would have an urge, an impulse of craving, and just
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imagine that temptation to return to that toxic
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relationship now creates a desire to drink a glass of
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water, to have some fruits and vegetables or a salad, to do
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something for you. Rather than falling into that
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trap of inviting even more abuse when you're unconscious, accepts
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that you've outgrown that toxic, abusive relationship.
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Let me know by nodding your head.
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That's it. And don't be surprised if you
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have thoughts, ideas, even dreams about what life is like
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now that you're done with this relationship.
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It doesn't serve you anymore. I need to imagine very soon I
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will count from 1:00 to 10:00 to awaken you.
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And you will awaken as someone that has seen something that
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cannot be unseen, someone that doesn't drink from poisoned
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wells anymore, someone that no longer defends their capital.
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So take a deep breath in through your nose and out through your
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nose. Just wiggle your fingers and
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wiggle your toes. Connect and calibrate into the
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here and the now as I now count from 1:00 to 10:00 to awaken the
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done version of you. 123 Waking up. 456 More alert 7-8 Open your
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eyes. Open your eyes. 910 Wide awake,
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wide awake, wide awake. Thank you so much for joining me
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