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Good Moms Bad Choices: Misconceptions of a Wild Mom · The Breakfast Club

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  Speaker 1: Once upon a time there was a good old traditional housewife.
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  Speaker 2: She couldn't She cleaned and cared for her children and
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  Speaker 2: the man of the house, and of course she didn't
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  Speaker 2: talk back. She was both obedient and soft by nature.
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  Speaker 1: She was a good woman who always made good choices.
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  Speaker 2: We're good Mom's bad choices, two single mom who said,
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  Speaker 2: but the patriarchy shared all their bad choices and found
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  Speaker 2: out they were so bad after all. We're experts over
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  Speaker 2: shares and your new besties. Sit back and enjoy the ride.
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  Speaker 2: I can do it. Welcome back to good Mom's Bad Choices.
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  Speaker 2: I'm Erica and I'm Meila, and it's a Wednesday, motherfuckers.
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  Speaker 3: It's another good Wednesday, y'all, and we are here at
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  Speaker 3: the Church of Good Moms to speak to you the
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  Speaker 3: good word of the good moms of the not so
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  Speaker 3: good world.
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  Speaker 2: How's it going?
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  Speaker 3: Amen, hallelujah, Let's just say amen. Wh need to get
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  Speaker 3: some of those like orchestra. Where are sound effects?
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  Speaker 2: Orlando? Cue the sound? Oh sound effects. I need a button.
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  Speaker 2: I need to be like a producer. I think that
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  Speaker 2: we just need to invest in our own little pad
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  Speaker 2: right here, and we just do it ourselves. Well, because
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  Speaker 2: we like. We only we know our comedic timing.
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  Speaker 3: When I start to preaching, I need some organs, like
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  Speaker 3: the organ sound.
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  Speaker 2: That is it. I'm getting another one of those. I'm
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  Speaker 2: putting it right here. We need to get those sounds
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  Speaker 2: on Facebook Marketplace asap.
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  Speaker 3: They have everything on Facebook Marketplace. You know, this is
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  Speaker 3: not a segment, but I'm just gonna make it one
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  Speaker 3: right now. And it's called mom Tip of the Week,
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  Speaker 3: and the mom tip of the motherfucking week and of
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  Speaker 3: all the year is go on Facebook fucking Marketplace because
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  Speaker 3: you can sell and buy pretty much anything. I'm pretty
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  Speaker 3: sure you could buy exotic animals on that bitch.
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  Speaker 2: You could. Literally you can't. You can buy land. I look,
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  Speaker 2: I was looking up land in Costa Rica on Facebook
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  Speaker 2: Marketplace because that's where they're selling it. Because you know,
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  Speaker 2: like the old people, they're on Facebook. That's where they're
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  Speaker 2: don't tell anybody that, Oh sorry, never mind, really, yeah, girl,
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  Speaker 2: you can buy farms on Facebook.
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  Speaker 3: Well, this is another announcement. I want to buy a farm.
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  Speaker 3: We want to buy a good mom's farm. It's gonna
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  Speaker 3: be like a community where everybody has duties and like
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  Speaker 3: we could just leave the world and go off grid
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  Speaker 3: and like deliver our own babies and I don't know,
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  Speaker 3: source our own water and make our own fires, and
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  Speaker 3: I don't know. I think it's time that we're going
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  Speaker 3: from podcasts to community. We're going from the podcast to
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  Speaker 3: the Good Mom's community. If you want to apply to move.
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  Speaker 2: To the community.
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  Speaker 3: It's a tribe style living. You know, we have like
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  Speaker 3: two people babysit once a night, we rotate. Everybody gets
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  Speaker 3: free time.
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  Speaker 2: Yep, I love it. I love it. Yeah. Also, if
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  Speaker 2: you want to donate to building the property of in
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  Speaker 2: our land on Costa Rica, you too can have three
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  Speaker 2: vacations once the once the bungalow goes up, you can
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  Speaker 2: have three vacations with your family there. If you donate
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  Speaker 2: five thousand dollars so that we can build our road
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  Speaker 2: in Costa Rica.
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  Speaker 3: This is a community land that we're buying. And so
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  Speaker 3: if you want to be a part of the Good
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  Speaker 3: Mom's Community in Costa Rica and you want to have.
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  Speaker 2: A time share on our land, send us.
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  Speaker 3: Your your pastuffs so you can make sure that you
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  Speaker 3: can afford five thousand dollars and then you two can
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  Speaker 3: stay at our property I don't know, three times in
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  Speaker 3: the next three years.
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  Speaker 2: For today's Yeah, thirty days. It's a month, thirty fucking days,
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  Speaker 2: five thousand dollars. I mean that's a steal. That is
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  Speaker 2: a steal, right, Yeah, your family can come. I'm actually
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  Speaker 2: not kidding. I know you're not. We're gonna bet you.
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  Speaker 2: I'm gonna look you deep in your eyes, and I'll
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  Speaker 2: know that's because looking deep in somebody's eyes. Yeah, I'm
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  Speaker 2: pretty good read on people. I could look in their
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  Speaker 2: eyes and be like, that bitch is crazy, says every
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  Speaker 2: bitch ever. I knew she was crazy when I'm looking
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  Speaker 2: to her eyes, but I ignored it anyway. I just
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  Speaker 2: did that recently. Fuck you ignored someone's crazy in their eyes? Yeah? Yeah,
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  Speaker 2: and then they're crazy? Yeah, what would you say? The
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  Speaker 2: indication of crazy looks like it's like something in the eyes.
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  Speaker 2: It's like a dead it's like a deadness. It's a
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  Speaker 2: little bit of a deadness in the eye or like
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  Speaker 2: you're just not all there, or like it's like a
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  Speaker 2: crazy eye. Like it's a little Yeah, it's like one
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  Speaker 2: is big, one eyes bigger than the other. You know
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  Speaker 2: what it is, like one eyes bigger than the other.
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  Speaker 2: Or is this this the dead eye where it's like
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  Speaker 2: a little helpless and lost. That's just tired, mom, it's
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  Speaker 2: overwhelmed Momay, that's make eye contact, if you know.
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  Speaker 3: The hard part about filtering out the crazy people to
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  Speaker 3: the same people is that I hate to break it
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  Speaker 3: to everyone, but like ninety percent of the people right
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  Speaker 3: now are crazy, and I don't even think it's their fault.
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  Speaker 3: It's just like the state of the world plus society
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  Speaker 3: plus western everything.
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  Speaker 2: It's you're lucky to find a sane friend. Well, you
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  Speaker 2: find sane. What is your version of saying.
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  Speaker 3: My version of saying is uh, self aware, not like
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  Speaker 3: crashing out more than like like not crashing out like
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  Speaker 3: golden crashing out like once a quarter.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, not like every day. Oh yeah, I feel like Luna.
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  Speaker 3: Recently, Luna used the term crash out.
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  Speaker 2: She went to I just realized.
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  Speaker 3: She went to a play date and she was like, yeah,
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  Speaker 3: I was playing with so and so, and she just
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  Speaker 3: got so mad and she started crying and crashing out.
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  Speaker 2: Actually, I think she told me that the girl who
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  Speaker 2: got beat up at the school was crashed out. Oh yeah,
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  Speaker 2: it was she was. She said she crashed out in
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  Speaker 2: the bathroom. Luna went to school and her friend got
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  Speaker 2: beat up in the bathroom, got jumped in the bathroom.
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  Speaker 2: This is fourth grade.
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  Speaker 3: Guys had like a very predominantly Caucasian charter school. I
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  Speaker 3: was very shocked. I was like, wait, what happened. Apparently
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  Speaker 3: one of the little girls calculated this is what I
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  Speaker 3: thought was very interesting. Basically, I said, how was the
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  Speaker 3: last day of school? She said it was horrible. It's
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  Speaker 3: the last It was the worst last day of school
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  Speaker 3: I've ever had. And I said, whoa, what the fuck happened?
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  Speaker 3: She's like, I can't wait to tell you the tea.
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  Speaker 3: First of all, she can't wait to tell me or
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  Speaker 3: Land of the tea, especially this fucking gossip queen Orlando
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  Speaker 3: over there, because he loves he's a messy bitch.
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  Speaker 2: So she's telling me.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah, so so and so called my other friend into
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  Speaker 3: the bathroom and beat her up.
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  Speaker 2: And I was like, what do you mean? I like why.
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  Speaker 2: She was like, I don't know.
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  Speaker 3: Last week she said, she like must have shoved her
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  Speaker 3: or said something to her. I said, whoa, wait, let
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  Speaker 3: me get this street. Your ten year old friend calculated
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  Speaker 3: this for a week and then proceeded to beat the
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  Speaker 3: girl up in the bathroom. She said, yeah, she told
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  Speaker 3: her other friend last week that she was going to
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  Speaker 3: do it. She was going to wait till the after
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  Speaker 3: school party down the street at the pizza parlor, but
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  Speaker 3: I guess she couldn't wait. And then furthermore, she asked
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  Speaker 3: another girl to stand by the bathroom and watch and wait,
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  Speaker 3: as like.
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  Speaker 2: To like make sure like no one came by. Yes,
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  Speaker 2: oh my gosh. She kicked out, no, I don't think so.
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  Speaker 3: What she said, little bitch was at the party after
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  Speaker 3: after school.
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  Speaker 2: She was at the party.
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  Speaker 3: I I realized at this moment, this might have been
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  Speaker 3: a bad choice.
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  Speaker 2: I was cracking at is that your bad choice of
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  Speaker 2: the week? That was my bad choice of me? Because
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  Speaker 2: I was like.
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  Speaker 3: She was like, I was like nah, I was like, no,
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  Speaker 3: she didn't calculate it. I said, what the fuck did
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  Speaker 3: she do to her? I said, what did she say
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  Speaker 3: to her for her to wait? I said, that's a
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  Speaker 3: crazy bitch. She waited a week. I said, I don't
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  Speaker 3: know any ten year old who has patients and calculations
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  Speaker 3: enough to.
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  Speaker 2: Wait a week to beat somebody up and then plan it.
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  Speaker 2: And then I was like, so, she's like it was
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  Speaker 2: so bad. Mom. I was crying. I was like, you
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  Speaker 2: and your friends are soft I can't wait to see
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  Speaker 2: who this little girl grows up to be. With all
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  Speaker 2: this patience, she makes like a Russian mobster. So I
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  Speaker 2: was like, was she Russian? Yeah? I was like, you know,
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  Speaker 2: russiansn't fuck around. I know.
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  Speaker 3: I was like, why were you crying? She's like I
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  Speaker 3: was scared. And I was like, girl, you better you.
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  Speaker 3: I better not here by anybody beating you up. You
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  Speaker 3: better not be soft. And then I later, like late
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  Speaker 3: at night, I was like sleep. I was like, fuck,
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  Speaker 3: I should have never said that. I was like, I
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  Speaker 3: have I lack emotional maturity.
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  Speaker 2: Now.
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  Speaker 3: She doesn't think it's okay to cry when her friends
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  Speaker 3: get beat up. So the next day she had to
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  Speaker 3: like smooth it up, Like, remember you told me you
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  Speaker 3: were crying at the fight.
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  Speaker 2: She's like yeah. I was like, it's okay to cry.
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  Speaker 3: Actually, when I saw my first fight in the sixth grade,
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  Speaker 3: I was pretty hysterical too.
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  Speaker 2: And then I just relived what I said and I
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  Speaker 2: was like, haha, she's soft. What the fuck is wrong
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  Speaker 2: with you? I don't know, I don't know.
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  Speaker 3: It just seemed I just was caught off guard. I
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  Speaker 3: was completely caught off guard by the conversation. It was
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  Speaker 3: hilarious at the time. I needed to know more details,
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  Speaker 3: and I was just like, I was like, damn.
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  Speaker 2: Your friend's soft. She got beat up in the bathroom.
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  Speaker 3: I was like, I need you guys to get your
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  Speaker 3: fucking boxing moves up. And then I realized that was
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  Speaker 3: not the best reaction to the fight. And then I
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  Speaker 3: got home, like, tell Orlando, Orlando, guess what happened at
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  Speaker 3: school today.
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  Speaker 2: Oh my god, Oh, oh my god.
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  Speaker 3: But yeah, the kids are getting more advanced. Be careful.
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  Speaker 2: I mean, that's why kids need to know self defense.
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  Speaker 2: Because first of all, the school called me saying, Luna.
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  Speaker 3: Got beat up. I'm coming to beat a little ten
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  Speaker 3: year old's ass. And I don't even think they called
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  Speaker 3: the girl's mom until like.
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  Speaker 2: We yeah, I don't know her or something.
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  Speaker 3: But I was like, this is absolutely insane that this girl.
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  Speaker 3: And then she said that the other girl who was
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  Speaker 3: the lookout, she was like, she went in the bathroom
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  Speaker 3: to find her friend. She's like, oh, don't go in there,
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  Speaker 3: and she's like why and she's like, I don't know.
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  Speaker 3: She went there and saw the bitcher wailing on.
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  Speaker 2: The other girl, and I said, did she try to
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  Speaker 2: break it up? Luna was just like, what are you doing?
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  Speaker 2: Oh god, what are you doing? And then the girl
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  Speaker 2: ran was bleeding and she bleeding, there was blood, there
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  Speaker 2: was blood. Oh my god, these little bitches are crazy,
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  Speaker 2: That's what I said.
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  Speaker 3: I'm like, not in this fucking charter school. I didn't
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  Speaker 3: see this coming. I don't even know there was any like,
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  Speaker 3: there's not even really catty girl beef like that.
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  Speaker 2: So this one little bit she took it to the
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  Speaker 2: next level.
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  Speaker 3: Okay, shit, And my Luna had told me one time
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  Speaker 3: that that girl tries to like she told me she
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  Speaker 3: was like, I told my other friend that she tries
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  Speaker 3: to like manipulate her and I was like, manipulate her.
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  Speaker 3: She was like, yeah, she tries to be the boss
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  Speaker 3: of her. And then I tried to remind her that
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  Speaker 3: she said that, and I was like, didn't you say
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  Speaker 3: that that girl be manipulating and like trying to be
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  Speaker 3: the boss of people. She's like, yeah, but she's been
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  Speaker 3: n like she's not like that for real. She was
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  Speaker 3: like trying to make excuses. I was like, that's what
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  Speaker 3: happens when you're manipulative a little bit, you get beat up.
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  Speaker 3: I didn't say that, but I was like trying to
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  Speaker 3: be like, well, didn't you tell me something about her?
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  Speaker 3: And she was like no, I guess I should have also.
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  Speaker 2: Tried not to justify her getting beted. Oh my god,
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  Speaker 2: did you ever get into any little fights when you
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  Speaker 2: were in Luna's age around that time? School? No? Not
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  Speaker 2: in school.
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  Speaker 3: One time, my father dropped me off in the hood
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  Speaker 3: what of, like the hood of like West Philadelphia, with
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  Speaker 3: like my very hood cousin, and yeah, I got in
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  Speaker 3: a fight there and then he came to pick me up,
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  Speaker 3: probably like five days later, because my parents were fucking
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  Speaker 3: dropping me off forever, and I had flea bites and sorry,
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  Speaker 3: it was it was it was really hood like it
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  Speaker 3: was a numbers house.
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  Speaker 2: Do you know what that is? No? What's that?
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  Speaker 3: Numbers houses on the East Coast? People who play numbers.
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  Speaker 3: It's like a gambling house.
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  Speaker 2: Oh okay.
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  Speaker 3: So not only did they he drop off in the
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  Speaker 3: hoodie hood hood and I had to be like ten,
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  Speaker 3: maybe nine. It was a numbers house, which means there
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  Speaker 3: are gamblers and guns, and.
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  Speaker 2: Who was there, like, who was there to watch by gambling? Uncle? Nobody?
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  Speaker 3: And he came to get me and they're like he's like,
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  Speaker 3: came and pick me up and they're like, look, she
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  Speaker 3: could fight, and it hit me in my face and
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  Speaker 3: I was just like, and I'm pretty sure it was
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  Speaker 3: a boy, Like I got to.
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  Speaker 2: Fire the boy and he's like, your dad watched this happen.
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  Speaker 3: He was just like okay, trying to go and he'll
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  Speaker 3: never forget because every time I remember time I dropped
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  Speaker 3: off in the head.
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  Speaker 2: And I picked you up and they're like, look, Miles,
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  Speaker 2: she could fight trauma who lovely.
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  Speaker 3: So in addition to my flea bites, I did get
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  Speaker 3: in that one fight, but a lot of my fights, Gratto,
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  Speaker 3: we're like as adults, not like as a young adult
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  Speaker 3: like in my twenties. But I realized that my problem
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  Speaker 3: is I'm better now, but I can't let go of shit,
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  Speaker 3: like if some I think the one time I do
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  Speaker 3: remember fighting somebody, like outside the club is it was
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  Speaker 3: the girl was talking shit and someone had just told
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  Speaker 3: me and I was like, really, I just saw that
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  Speaker 3: bitch and she didn't say shit. And then I saw
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  Speaker 3: her at the club and I was like, don't say anything,
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  Speaker 3: don't say anything, and then she like slid by me
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  Speaker 3: and I was like, hey, somebody told me that you
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  Speaker 3: said blah blah blah, She's like, what the fuck are
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  Speaker 3: you talking about?
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  Speaker 2: And I was like bet.
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  Speaker 3: Then we left the club and then I think she
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  Speaker 3: was talking some more shit and then we just fodder.
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  Speaker 2: Oh it was it was a group effort. It was
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  Speaker 2: a group of My friend Shawnee was there. Actually, I
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  Speaker 2: wonder if she remembers.
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  Speaker 3: But I was just like I could have just shut
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  Speaker 3: the fuck up and let it go. I could have
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  Speaker 3: just been like, oh, okay, this bitch was talking shit.
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  Speaker 3: She wasn't my friend or anything, but no, no, no, no,
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  Speaker 3: no no.
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  Speaker 2: I had to.
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  Speaker 3: Say, hey, bitch, were you talking shit? Because I just
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  Speaker 3: saw you last week and you were saying motherfucking thing.
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  Speaker 3: So it's the Philly and me and I think it's
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  Speaker 3: down to five percent at this point, so I don't
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  Speaker 3: think I would beginning into any over thirty fights. But
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  Speaker 3: that was really just the only time I think that
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  Speaker 3: I can think of from the top of my head.
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  Speaker 2: What about you? No no adult fights, well sword, not really.
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  Speaker 2: It was like a bitch in the bathroom that was
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  Speaker 2: taking Like I was knocking and she got mad and
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  Speaker 2: she came out swinging and like we were like fighting
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  Speaker 2: through the door, like fighting through the crack at the
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  Speaker 2: car this was a not cosa Vega. MEXICALI, you're a fa.
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  Speaker 2: You had to be drunk as ship. It was to
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  Speaker 2: my own MEXICALI. I was thinking to my own back
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  Speaker 2: with that one. Yeah, MEXICALI shot if you're if you're
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  Speaker 2: a valley girl like me or MEXICALI, you know that
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  Speaker 2: bitch actually down the street. You know it's still open.
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  Speaker 2: I know the food was never was horrible. It was
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  Speaker 2: so bad. I just want to know how the get
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  Speaker 2: underage drink. That's why it was. Like, you know, there's
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  Speaker 2: certain like La spots. There was a sushi spot on Sunset,
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  Speaker 2: there was MEXICALI, there was there's the spot over an Encina.
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  Speaker 2: The spot didn't have a bar though, they just had houkah,
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  Speaker 2: but they could have hookah. But you could be like twelve. Yeah,
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  Speaker 2: I was at the spot at like four am when
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  Speaker 2: I was twelve. I don't know why. Yeah, of course
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  Speaker 2: you were, because it was down the street from your house. Yeah,
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  Speaker 2: I can't with mexico I still open.
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  Speaker 3: That food is horrible, but they're obviously still going strong. Wait,
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  Speaker 3: so you fought them through the door.
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  Speaker 2: And then that was it? And then yeah and then
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  Speaker 2: like she like busts through and like ran out and
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  Speaker 2: I was like, bitch, get out of here. And I
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  Speaker 2: was like, oh, yeah, I'm not about to fight, you know.
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  Speaker 2: I think like I've never really had a lot of
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  Speaker 2: fights because they've they've just never fully escalated. And then
• 14:32
  Speaker 2: also I'm not scared to fight, but also like I
• 14:34
  Speaker 2: don't want to be in I don't want anyone to
• 14:36
  Speaker 2: hit my face. I don't either. I was very much like,
• 14:38
  Speaker 2: I don't even it's not even that deep to me, Like, actually,
• 14:41
  Speaker 2: the fact that you are jumping out a character lets
• 14:44
  Speaker 2: me know that you have nothing. I've won. I've won,
• 14:47
  Speaker 2: because now you're acting crazy and I'm just sitting here
• 14:50
  Speaker 2: like I was getting very much Kambella like still pretty,
• 14:53
  Speaker 2: but except didn't get in the fight, and that doesn't count,
• 14:57
  Speaker 2: I think.
• 14:58
  Speaker 3: I think not too long ago, like the last couple
• 15:00
  Speaker 3: of years, me and Danielle went out to the club
• 15:03
  Speaker 3: at the w I don't know what the club is
• 15:04
  Speaker 3: called right now, and we were waiting for an uber
• 15:07
  Speaker 3: and apparently like this white lady was also waiting for
• 15:10
  Speaker 3: the uber and she got into our uber and I
• 15:12
  Speaker 3: was like, this is our uber. She was like, what
• 15:14
  Speaker 3: the fuck are you talking about? Bitch, and I was like,
• 15:19
  Speaker 3: she like I couldn't believe him.
• 15:21
  Speaker 2: I was like, yeah, bitch.
• 15:21
  Speaker 3: And then we got in the car and I was like,
• 15:23
  Speaker 3: I really went to punch her bit she just got
• 15:24
  Speaker 3: that one.
• 15:24
  Speaker 2: Yeah, but that's probably like you know, sometimes all you
• 15:27
  Speaker 2: need just like you're just like you need to talk
• 15:28
  Speaker 2: about it for like three weeks and then and then
• 15:31
  Speaker 2: I pulled that bitch and the nose. Sometimes it's all
• 15:35
  Speaker 2: you need. You just need a little tiny bit of
• 15:37
  Speaker 2: action for a long shit talking session.
• 15:40
  Speaker 3: And this makes me know that I probably need to
• 15:44
  Speaker 3: go to boxing or something more aggressive, because there's some
• 15:47
  Speaker 3: obviously some inks that needs to be released that anybody
• 15:52
  Speaker 3: could get poked.
• 15:53
  Speaker 2: I mean, I think, I think when you start doing
• 15:55
  Speaker 2: those type of things, at least that's what I think about,
• 15:57
  Speaker 2: like wisha Ken because he's so like calm, but he
• 15:59
  Speaker 2: could also like kill you in four seconds. Is like
• 16:01
  Speaker 2: when you start like tapping into those type of modalities boxing, kickboxing,
• 16:06
  Speaker 2: muy thai, like you realize the power that you yield
• 16:09
  Speaker 2: and then you're like, you don't even you don't even
• 16:11
  Speaker 2: use it.
• 16:11
  Speaker 3: I don't know if I have any moy Thaie power,
• 16:13
  Speaker 3: but listen, baby.
• 16:14
  Speaker 2: No but when you if you did, oh yeah, I'm
• 16:16
  Speaker 2: just saying like, once you start doing those type of practices,
• 16:19
  Speaker 2: you actually don't even really utilize them as much.
• 16:23
  Speaker 3: Probably, I mean, I don't really utilize them now, but
• 16:25
  Speaker 3: apparently I have some things I need to get out.
• 16:27
  Speaker 3: So I fought my mom a few.
• 16:29
  Speaker 2: Times, lovely, so get out. Yeah, me and my mom
• 16:33
  Speaker 2: slapped each other around once. Is that what we have
• 16:36
  Speaker 2: to look forward to? And I hope not. I don't, like,
• 16:43
  Speaker 2: I can't. Oh my god, I can't even imagine. Are
• 16:44
  Speaker 2: we smacking me? They're fucking huge. I think Loda tried
• 16:47
  Speaker 2: to get like buck with me, like and I was like,
• 16:49
  Speaker 2: and I was like, I'll fuck you up. I might blackout.
• 16:51
  Speaker 2: I would black out. I would black I think. I yeah,
• 16:53
  Speaker 2: I get it. That's probably why your mom blacked out.
• 16:55
  Speaker 2: She's just nuts, I mean nuts plus the mom plus
• 16:59
  Speaker 2: the black Yeah, you know, Like, but I had to
• 17:01
  Speaker 2: tell my mom at a certain age like yo, you
• 17:04
  Speaker 2: talking like there's been a lot of times. Again, my
• 17:06
  Speaker 2: mom is grown a lot, and she is from Philly,
• 17:09
  Speaker 2: But there are times where I'm like, you do realize
• 17:11
  Speaker 2: I'm a grown ass bitch and you keep talking this shit, girl,
• 17:14
  Speaker 2: and it's not gonna be mom, daughter, It's gonna be
• 17:17
  Speaker 2: bitch on the street. You're using bitch on the street language.
• 17:21
  Speaker 3: And I remember we were in the car and I
• 17:23
  Speaker 3: was in the passenger seat, and this is a while ago.
• 17:25
  Speaker 2: I think I told you we were friends.
• 17:27
  Speaker 3: Luna was in the back seat and me and her
• 17:28
  Speaker 3: going back and forth, and I was being really conscious
• 17:31
  Speaker 3: because Luna was in the back sat. She was five,
• 17:33
  Speaker 3: But Luna was in the back seat talking shit too,
• 17:35
  Speaker 3: like I remember this, my.
• 17:36
  Speaker 2: Mom, you better hours. I remember. God.
• 17:38
  Speaker 3: I was like everybody's ghetto, everybody in the whole family.
• 17:41
  Speaker 3: I was like, I was just like really like I
• 17:44
  Speaker 3: was really just like praying, like get the fuck out
• 17:45
  Speaker 3: of the car. We gotta get just shut the fuck
• 17:47
  Speaker 3: up and get out of the car. Just I was
• 17:49
  Speaker 3: just like looking at her, and I just looked.
• 17:50
  Speaker 2: Back at Luna and she's like, my mom, that is
• 17:52
  Speaker 2: not And I was like, let's.
• 17:54
  Speaker 3: Get out of here before it goes south. We're all
• 17:57
  Speaker 3: in jail, mom, daughter, granddaughter. The lineup, the lineup, A
• 18:02
  Speaker 3: five year old fucking twenty thirty year old Luna.
• 18:06
  Speaker 2: Cry. Yeah, every's crying. It's looking just aike.
• 18:12
  Speaker 3: Oh man, this is my ghetto of confessions. These I'm
• 18:15
  Speaker 3: my confessions, my goodness. Anyway, Dear God, please don't ever
• 18:23
  Speaker 3: let me have to get into any physical altercations with
• 18:25
  Speaker 3: my child, because that is ghetto.
• 18:27
  Speaker 2: And we are moving on from that. We are healing that,
• 18:29
  Speaker 2: We're healing our lineage. No more ghetto fights amongst our families.
• 18:34
  Speaker 3: And I promise I won't drop off Luna any trap
• 18:36
  Speaker 3: houses or number houses or in the hoods, except that
• 18:40
  Speaker 3: one time I did drop profit the projects in Harlem
• 18:44
  Speaker 3: to go out Forgive me, anyway, Have.
• 18:55
  Speaker 2: You been any bad choices this week? Have I made
• 19:04
  Speaker 2: any bet? You keep putting me on the spot. I
• 19:06
  Speaker 2: gotta like really think about this. I had sex on
• 19:16
  Speaker 2: the couch and then my friend came over and sat
• 19:18
  Speaker 2: on it. I don't know if it's a bad choice.
• 19:22
  Speaker 2: It is your couch, I know, but I like kind
• 19:24
  Speaker 2: of got wet. It was like, who's your friend? Oh
• 19:27
  Speaker 2: my god. They're like why, I'm not gonna tell you
• 19:29
  Speaker 2: why your couch? Damn No, I tried it. I put
• 19:32
  Speaker 2: like a blow dryer on it. Yeah, okay, when you
• 19:37
  Speaker 2: come back to my couch, it's fully clean. Now which couch,
• 19:40
  Speaker 2: don't worry about it. Now I'm not gonna sit anywhere.
• 19:42
  Speaker 2: I'm like, no, no, no, no, cool, I'm gonna say it.
• 19:43
  Speaker 2: I was gonna go in the backyard. Everyone knows that
• 19:46
  Speaker 2: your couches are to be fucked on, and everyone's couch
• 19:49
  Speaker 2: has been fucked on and you've sat on it, including
• 19:51
  Speaker 2: I've sat on your couch that you've been fucked on.
• 19:54
  Speaker 2: Of course I don't.
• 19:55
  Speaker 3: I don't even go to people's couches thinking you fucked
• 19:57
  Speaker 3: on it. I just like my mind already knows that
• 19:58
  Speaker 3: you fuck.
• 19:59
  Speaker 2: Like you know, just next time you lay your head
• 20:01
  Speaker 2: on someone's couch to lay down when you're tired, just
• 20:04
  Speaker 2: know that someone's ass was there too, and maybe seatement. No,
• 20:10
  Speaker 2: there will be no semen on my couch.
• 20:12
  Speaker 3: It will be no, because I got that that green
• 20:15
  Speaker 3: velvet and that ship shows you won't put no cement
• 20:18
  Speaker 3: on my couch. In fact, I feel like some people
• 20:20
  Speaker 3: were like trying to fuck on my couch and I
• 20:21
  Speaker 3: was like, hold on, hold on, guys, and it's I
• 20:24
  Speaker 3: got all these towels like okay.
• 20:26
  Speaker 2: Because I don't. I don't like a lot take the
• 20:28
  Speaker 2: couch up there. So it took a lot to get
• 20:30
  Speaker 2: that couch.
• 20:31
  Speaker 3: Up that couch is gonna if I leave. It's saying
• 20:33
  Speaker 3: I'm not taking that. That took six grown. You know,
• 20:36
  Speaker 3: we both got couches on the same day. Remember we
• 20:38
  Speaker 3: went to that fucking warehouse about this. You're like, I'm
• 20:40
  Speaker 3: getting a on fucking Facebook marketplace.
• 20:43
  Speaker 2: Yeah.
• 20:45
  Speaker 3: I had this poor landa about this cheap little couch
• 20:47
  Speaker 3: that got it. Did It's good for like six months,
• 20:50
  Speaker 3: and Erica was like, I'm at the couch place. I
• 20:52
  Speaker 3: was like, FaceTime me, I need a new couch. I
• 20:54
  Speaker 3: was trying not to hurt a land of feelings that I
• 20:56
  Speaker 3: need to get a new couch, but it was time,
• 20:57
  Speaker 3: and so she was just like slowly panning this like
• 21:00
  Speaker 3: one one place. I was like, well go back, yeah, yeah, yeah, see,
• 21:03
  Speaker 3: they'll give us a deal for that to couch.
• 21:05
  Speaker 2: I don't think they gave us the deal, but we
• 21:07
  Speaker 2: got them anyway. Yeah we did.
• 21:09
  Speaker 3: And then I had a party and then I really
• 21:11
  Speaker 3: needed to get the couch up, and so I was
• 21:13
  Speaker 3: like a total lando. I'm like, once everybody gets here,
• 21:15
  Speaker 3: I'm gonna make all the men go get the.
• 21:17
  Speaker 2: Couch from the garage. He's like okay. So we're like,
• 21:20
  Speaker 2: oh yeah, that's like okay, before we get too comfortable, everybody,
• 21:23
  Speaker 2: I'm gonna need you, you, you, everybody with the penis
• 21:26
  Speaker 2: follow Orlando to the garage.
• 21:27
  Speaker 3: We need to take this big ass couch up two
• 21:29
  Speaker 3: flights of stairs. It'll be easy, be great. And then
• 21:32
  Speaker 3: they came back sweating profusely.
• 21:34
  Speaker 2: It was pretty intenseing me. That's I think that's a
• 21:36
  Speaker 2: great plan, because what do you what You're drinking my liquor.
• 21:38
  Speaker 2: You're in my home, Come on, come on. The least
• 21:40
  Speaker 2: you could do is bring my couch up. Yeah. Those
• 21:41
  Speaker 2: people may not ever came back over my house ever again.
• 21:44
  Speaker 2: But that reminds me of from Costa Rica when we
• 21:47
  Speaker 2: like went on the poetry lounge and we waited for
• 21:49
  Speaker 2: them to recite all their poetry for them to then
• 21:52
  Speaker 2: come help us get the car out of the ditch.
• 21:54
  Speaker 3: Thank god that car I just asked. I was just
• 21:56
  Speaker 3: asking Gilly about that recently. Oh my god, I do
• 21:59
  Speaker 3: have another bad choice. Speaking of Gilly, shout out to
• 22:02
  Speaker 3: Gilly the god who uh in perto I went to
• 22:07
  Speaker 3: his house because we had a long wait before we like,
• 22:09
  Speaker 3: between checkout and leaving and his baby. Oh my god,
• 22:13
  Speaker 3: it feels so bad. This is a bad choice. He's
• 22:15
  Speaker 3: one and I was eating like plantain chips and I
• 22:18
  Speaker 3: was like giving him little pieces and he's like sucking
• 22:20
  Speaker 3: on it, and he was like getting excited because they're salty,
• 22:22
  Speaker 3: and then I must have like give him one and
• 22:23
  Speaker 3: he got too excited, and then he started bleeding in
• 22:26
  Speaker 3: his little gums and I was like, and Gilly, you
• 22:29
  Speaker 3: know it's their first kid. Gilly's baby mama was She's like.
• 22:34
  Speaker 2: Oh my god, we could take him the hospital. Guy.
• 22:36
  Speaker 3: I was like, okay, everybody. Then Gilly's cussing her out.
• 22:39
  Speaker 3: Why are you not watching Him'm like, it's my fault.
• 22:41
  Speaker 2: I gave him. I gave him chips. It's my fault.
• 22:44
  Speaker 2: He's like she's the mother like yelling at her. He's bleeding.
• 22:47
  Speaker 2: I was like, we don't need to do the hospital.
• 22:49
  Speaker 2: It's just a chip.
• 22:50
  Speaker 3: Everybody keep calm.
• 22:53
  Speaker 2: I was like, do you are your breast? Videos like
• 22:54
  Speaker 2: put your boob in his mouth, Just put your boob
• 22:57
  Speaker 2: in his mouth.
• 22:58
  Speaker 3: He he has teeth right or not really, but they
• 23:01
  Speaker 3: were sharp. We probably like they probably cut his little
• 23:03
  Speaker 3: gumb baby. I felt so bad. I was like, I'm
• 23:06
  Speaker 3: a terrible fucking auntie. I'm not going to anyone else's house.
• 23:10
  Speaker 3: I text her later.
• 23:11
  Speaker 2: You know you can't be giving people babies foreign foods.
• 23:14
  Speaker 2: You shut up. You haven't got no kids talking about
• 23:16
  Speaker 2: exactly anyway.
• 23:20
  Speaker 3: Yeah, I'm like, damn, did I list my baby feet?
• 23:23
  Speaker 3: Like I don't know about babies anymore? My kids ten,
• 23:26
  Speaker 3: I don't fucking know anymore. Gotta relearn myself.
• 23:30
  Speaker 2: I thought you were gonna say something worse, honestly, what
• 23:32
  Speaker 2: she choked or something. I mean, because I remember one
• 23:35
  Speaker 2: time I fucking gave irin you god damn apple, a
• 23:37
  Speaker 2: little piece of apple, and she fucking choked, and I
• 23:40
  Speaker 2: literally saw my life flash before my eyes. Were you
• 23:43
  Speaker 2: home alone? I think every has that has every parent
• 23:45
  Speaker 2: experienced this, like when your child you give them a
• 23:48
  Speaker 2: popcorn they choked. And then you're like, do I remember
• 23:51
  Speaker 2: any of the high looking No, I don't. All I
• 23:55
  Speaker 2: know is I'm gonna go to jail.
• 23:58
  Speaker 3: Actually, you know, it's so crazy about almost dying. It's
• 24:01
  Speaker 3: like you never forget because I was. I choked on.
• 24:04
  Speaker 2: A piece of candy.
• 24:05
  Speaker 3: I know what kind of candy it was that, like,
• 24:06
  Speaker 3: you know, the the candy that looks like the strawberry
• 24:08
  Speaker 3: and the packaging. Oh yeah, yeah, And I lived in Alabama,
• 24:11
  Speaker 3: which had to mean I was like two, Like I
• 24:14
  Speaker 3: had to be like one or two I was a baby,
• 24:16
  Speaker 3: or like three, I don't know, And that shit got
• 24:19
  Speaker 3: lodged in my throat and I never forgot that shit
• 24:22
  Speaker 3: ever again.
• 24:22
  Speaker 2: And I'm thirty seven, I can like remember it, like,
• 24:25
  Speaker 2: because when shit gets stuck in your throat, like there's
• 24:28
  Speaker 2: you can't even be calm, no, like you can't even
• 24:31
  Speaker 2: like it's just it's it's terrifying. Even when something goes
• 24:34
  Speaker 2: down the wrong hole.
• 24:36
  Speaker 3: Sometimes you can't like catch your breath even when people
• 24:39
  Speaker 3: are around.
• 24:39
  Speaker 2: I'm like, I'm gonna die. Jesus, Yeah, don't kill your kids, guys.
• 24:44
  Speaker 3: When when we go to our through our second iteration
• 24:47
  Speaker 3: of mothering again, we're gonna have to like revisit a
• 24:50
  Speaker 3: lot of things like the Heimlich maneuver, like the Himli
• 24:53
  Speaker 3: fucking maneuver, Like what the fuck do I do with
• 24:55
  Speaker 3: this kid?
• 24:56
  Speaker 2: Like I don't know. I think it's gonna be like
• 24:58
  Speaker 2: a whole new starting over to remember because when I
• 25:02
  Speaker 2: gave that kid and he started bleeding from the mouth,
• 25:03
  Speaker 2: I was like, oh God, I am not a good mom.
• 25:08
  Speaker 2: Oh well, you know, first time parents are gonna freak out.
• 25:10
  Speaker 2: They were freaking out. I was like, oh God, not
• 25:13
  Speaker 2: Gilly yelling at her. I know. I like, relax, she's
• 25:19
  Speaker 2: a mom, she should know. I was like, oh God,
• 25:21
  Speaker 2: what are you doing.
• 25:21
  Speaker 3: Yeah, he was outside outside cutting off the tree.
• 25:26
  Speaker 2: I felt really bad.
• 25:27
  Speaker 3: So shout out to Gilly and I'm really sorry, baby Pharaoh.
• 25:32
  Speaker 3: I'm a good aunt, I swear, speaking of motherhood and
• 25:37
  Speaker 3: small children, to large children and all the children in between,
• 25:41
  Speaker 3: God's children. We have a very special list to bring
• 25:44
  Speaker 3: to you today, very very important, and it's the five
• 25:50
  Speaker 3: misconceptions of the liberated wild mom.
• 25:55
  Speaker 2: Break it down, baby number one.
• 25:59
  Speaker 3: So as you know, good mom's bad choices. Its foundation
• 26:05
  Speaker 3: is built on breaking breaking stereotypes, breaking the glass, getting.
• 26:15
  Speaker 2: Out of this bitch.
• 26:16
  Speaker 3: And when we first were birthed seven and a half
• 26:19
  Speaker 3: years ago, we were really adamant about not falling into
• 26:24
  Speaker 3: the trap, the trap and the constructs of what perfect.
• 26:29
  Speaker 3: Oh this is a word from our book of fuck
• 26:35
  Speaker 3: we even smoked yet, I know, okay, Jesus fuck.
• 26:39
  Speaker 2: Oh.
• 26:42
  Speaker 3: Toxic motherhood, toxic motherhood syndrome. Yes, we coined it because
• 26:46
  Speaker 3: we're smart. That's in our book. And if you haven't
• 26:49
  Speaker 3: gotten the book, it's called good Mom's Choice. Good Mom's
• 26:51
  Speaker 3: Guide to Making Bad Choices is available everywhere. And we
• 26:54
  Speaker 3: wrote it with our own brain, not chat GBT, our.
• 26:57
  Speaker 2: Own hands, our hands and our brain word. No ghost writers, bitch,
• 27:01
  Speaker 2: no ghostwriters, no nothing, just us and our brains and
• 27:04
  Speaker 2: our pen because I don't even like to type. I
• 27:06
  Speaker 2: just I just wrote it down because I'm fucking.
• 27:08
  Speaker 3: Strange, because I'm still living in the nineteen forties.
• 27:12
  Speaker 2: I was like, Eric, it's hard to type, and I
• 27:14
  Speaker 2: gotta write it. She had twenty two thousand notebooks. Literally,
• 27:17
  Speaker 2: I like put them on this I'd like see them.
• 27:20
  Speaker 3: If there's any doctors listening, tell me if this means
• 27:22
  Speaker 3: I have problems, I have to see them all. At
• 27:25
  Speaker 3: the same time, I can't even turn the page. I
• 27:26
  Speaker 3: literally was in Mexico with Orlando, and I've taped every
• 27:30
  Speaker 3: page next to each other so I can't remember what
• 27:32
  Speaker 3: I said already, and so that it would be like
• 27:34
  Speaker 3: my eyes needed to see them like that.
• 27:36
  Speaker 2: I mean that makes sense, Okay, thanks, because like, yeah,
• 27:39
  Speaker 2: probably I wonder how redundant I was. Well, that was
• 27:41
  Speaker 2: my thing, Like I only know so many time did
• 27:44
  Speaker 2: I say the same fucking word over it over again.
• 27:46
  Speaker 2: I literally was like, am I smart? Do I say
• 27:48
  Speaker 2: the same terms? Like?
• 27:49
  Speaker 3: I really had a hard time, but I one of
• 27:51
  Speaker 3: the things we talked about in the book is toxic
• 27:54
  Speaker 3: motherhood syndrome.
• 27:55
  Speaker 2: I think that was it. We also talked about toxic positivity.
• 27:59
  Speaker 2: But one of the things we birth this podcast is
• 28:02
  Speaker 2: because we weren't going to be like old haggish mothers.
• 28:07
  Speaker 3: We were still gonna be fine, and we're gonna still date,
• 28:09
  Speaker 3: and we're still gonna shake ass, and we're gonna still
• 28:11
  Speaker 3: you know, do all the things that women do. And
• 28:15
  Speaker 3: so I thought today that we should discuss just breaking
• 28:19
  Speaker 3: out of those formats and the misconceptions of a liberated mom,
• 28:24
  Speaker 3: because I think this is really important for the women.
• 28:26
  Speaker 2: It's important for.
• 28:27
  Speaker 3: The men in society who use these standards to ridicule
• 28:30
  Speaker 3: and be mean to women and to be judgy. But
• 28:33
  Speaker 3: most importantly, it's also really important that other moms don't
• 28:38
  Speaker 3: hold each other to that standard, and that you don't
• 28:39
  Speaker 3: hold yourself to that fucking standard. So if you're pregnant,
• 28:41
  Speaker 3: if you think about getting pregnant, if you're ten years in,
• 28:44
  Speaker 3: or if you're fucking twenty years.
• 28:45
  Speaker 2: In, listen, listen up see if this, if you fall
• 28:49
  Speaker 2: into this category, into these categories, and how you can
• 28:53
  Speaker 2: dig yourself out of one, and how you can change
• 28:55
  Speaker 2: your mind and stop going with the programming and think
• 28:58
  Speaker 2: for your fucking self. Hmen.
• 29:00
  Speaker 3: So number one, this is my most number one one.
• 29:03
  Speaker 3: This is my most number one one.
• 29:04
  Speaker 2: But first you do that, I'm gonna light the backwood
• 29:06
  Speaker 2: because I feel like step one. Smoke a blunt smoke one.
• 29:10
  Speaker 2: Step one moms can smoke weed. Step one, moms can smoke.
• 29:14
  Speaker 2: Moms can smoke weed. Guess what, guys, I'm a mom.
• 29:18
  Speaker 2: Look at me. Look it's not crack. Are you acting crazy?
• 29:24
  Speaker 2: I think my brain is still working. Yes. Now, if
• 29:27
  Speaker 2: you were like a young teenage mom and you get
• 29:30
  Speaker 2: lazy and you maybe you have other things you should
• 29:33
  Speaker 2: be doing, maybe wait till your frontal lobe develops after
• 29:36
  Speaker 2: three steps smoking lots of backwoods or doing any extracurricular drugs.
• 29:42
  Speaker 3: Like if you're doing a lot of extracurricular drugs, maybe
• 29:44
  Speaker 3: wait should have a baby.
• 29:47
  Speaker 2: But if you already are a mom, and you're a
• 29:49
  Speaker 2: teen mom, you should wait to do any of these things.
• 29:52
  Speaker 2: Not any of these things, but these things, these things.
• 29:55
  Speaker 3: So I just want to say for the record, for
• 29:57
  Speaker 3: anyone listening, for anyone who's ever snared their little nose
• 30:00
  Speaker 3: up at us, for who snared their little nose up
• 30:03
  Speaker 3: at anybody else who's smoking trees.
• 30:05
  Speaker 2: It is a plant.
• 30:06
  Speaker 3: And if someone is indulging in plant medicine and they're
• 30:09
  Speaker 3: still of right mind, and they're still doing their duties
• 30:11
  Speaker 3: and taking care of their responsibilities and aware that their
• 30:14
  Speaker 3: kids are alive and thriving.
• 30:15
  Speaker 2: Shut the fuck up. Shut the fuck up.
• 30:17
  Speaker 3: Let the bitch, Let the mother. I say, bitch with
• 30:20
  Speaker 3: all the love in my heart. Queen, smoke the weed.
• 30:23
  Speaker 3: It is of the earth. God made dirt, So dirt
• 30:25
  Speaker 3: don't hurt, but don't smoke dirt. Smoke weed, good weed.
• 30:31
  Speaker 2: We get a lot of messages from moms who are like,
• 30:35
  Speaker 2: I can't believe you guys are smoking weed. I'm so happy
• 30:37
  Speaker 2: I smoke weed.
• 30:38
  Speaker 3: And I realize we're in LA so it's legal, and
• 30:40
  Speaker 3: it's like much more acceptable. And if you're in between
• 30:43
  Speaker 3: states a lot of weird shit going on around there,
• 30:45
  Speaker 3: don't let people make you feel bad because weed.
• 30:48
  Speaker 2: Is not a drug. It's medicine.
• 30:53
  Speaker 3: It is medicine, and honestly, I don't know how any
• 30:55
  Speaker 3: of you people are raw doging raw raw dogging life,
• 31:00
  Speaker 3: like condoms for sex.
• 31:02
  Speaker 2: Let alone this life shit.
• 31:05
  Speaker 3: I was talking to my homegirl, actually Shannie, and my
• 31:08
  Speaker 3: best friend is coming to town tomorrow.
• 31:10
  Speaker 2: But she has three girls. She's eight years older than me,
• 31:13
  Speaker 2: and her girls are like now, seventeen and eighteen, sixteen
• 31:16
  Speaker 2: and eighteen, and they just started having sex.
• 31:18
  Speaker 3: I was like, did the girls have sex set they're twins.
• 31:20
  Speaker 3: She's like, yeah, I told them I don't like condoms.
• 31:23
  Speaker 3: I said, that's the worst thing.
• 31:24
  Speaker 2: Oh, Shani Shney. No. I don't know if I should
• 31:29
  Speaker 2: have blasted her like this, But and her kids, they're
• 31:32
  Speaker 2: like sex, Oh God, don't make this a clip. Not
• 31:38
  Speaker 2: pull it out, not edit it out. Don't make it
• 31:39
  Speaker 2: a clip. Don't make everyone everyone hide in the catalog.
• 31:44
  Speaker 2: Don't tell her. And if one of you bitches tales,
• 31:47
  Speaker 2: I know it's one of you. I feel like that
• 31:51
  Speaker 2: was a bit too honest of her to tell her
• 31:52
  Speaker 2: kids that, but I also respect it because her parents.
• 31:54
  Speaker 2: You know, her daughter said, mom, that is irresponsible. Oh
• 31:59
  Speaker 2: you know, she's doing a good job up. You know,
• 32:00
  Speaker 2: sometimes you got to test your kids a little bit.
• 32:02
  Speaker 2: I would have been like, yeah, that's what I thought
• 32:05
  Speaker 2: that was.
• 32:10
  Speaker 3: Because guess what, nobody likes condoms. Nobody never that's step
• 32:14
  Speaker 3: two is okay, Well, you.
• 32:16
  Speaker 2: Know what as a as a young girl having sex
• 32:18
  Speaker 2: or a young teen having sex, I did like condoms
• 32:21
  Speaker 2: because I didn't know any better, and I was scared,
• 32:23
  Speaker 2: and I was like, yes, put the condom on, because
• 32:25
  Speaker 2: this is going to protect me and keep me safe.
• 32:27
  Speaker 2: It's when you get older and then one boy one
• 32:31
  Speaker 2: day says, let me just put the tip in. Let
• 32:34
  Speaker 2: me say okay, and then he puts the whole fucking
• 32:36
  Speaker 2: thing in and then you're like, whoa, this feels a
• 32:38
  Speaker 2: lot different.
• 32:38
  Speaker 3: And you're like, never you like something when I was
• 32:41
  Speaker 3: When I was a teenager, I was sixteen in Vegas
• 32:43
  Speaker 3: with my baby daddy because we high school sweethearts and
• 32:45
  Speaker 3: we were at a wedding for his family.
• 32:47
  Speaker 2: Because we were inseparable, might go dependent.
• 32:50
  Speaker 3: So my uncle, my dad's friend, came and got us
• 32:52
  Speaker 3: to take us to a Nelly concert after the wedding.
• 32:55
  Speaker 3: We missed the reception, so we go to Nelly concert
• 32:56
  Speaker 3: and in the car, my uncle turns the rear view
• 33:00
  Speaker 3: mirrored us and goes, I want to tell you guys something.
• 33:03
  Speaker 3: I was like Okay, never ever, ever, ever, ever have
• 33:07
  Speaker 3: sex without a condom, because you're never going to go back.
• 33:09
  Speaker 2: And I was like, too late.
• 33:12
  Speaker 3: Me and him are like, oh, he's right, but yeah,
• 33:16
  Speaker 3: I think you should have uncomfortable conversations with your kids.
• 33:19
  Speaker 3: And I think also speaking of wild or liberated moms,
• 33:22
  Speaker 3: one thing I'll say about a liberated mom is shout
• 33:25
  Speaker 3: out to Shawnie. You're going to be honest with your kids,
• 33:27
  Speaker 3: and your kid is going to know they can come
• 33:29
  Speaker 3: talk to you.
• 33:29
  Speaker 2: So if you're wild, you're.
• 33:31
  Speaker 3: Generally probably more likely to talk about things that most
• 33:34
  Speaker 3: moms won't. And I think because of that, your kid
• 33:36
  Speaker 3: is less likely to get into funck shit without telling you,
• 33:38
  Speaker 3: because they're like, my mom's fucking nuts.
• 33:40
  Speaker 2: I could tell this crazy bitch.
• 33:42
  Speaker 3: One time, Luna was talking something about penises or like
• 33:45
  Speaker 3: about or we're talking about something, and I was like,
• 33:47
  Speaker 3: she's like something penis and I was like, do you
• 33:50
  Speaker 3: want to see one? She was like no, and I
• 33:53
  Speaker 3: was like, okay, I'm just telling you. We want to
• 33:54
  Speaker 3: see when I can show you.
• 33:57
  Speaker 2: I did the same thing when I found out Iri
• 33:59
  Speaker 2: was looking at penises on the internet. I was like,
• 34:01
  Speaker 2: she was looking at diagrams like they were drawings, and
• 34:04
  Speaker 2: I was like, do you want to see a real one,
• 34:05
  Speaker 2: because like, maybe are you you need to know what
• 34:07
  Speaker 2: it looks like. And she was like, nah, I just crying.
• 34:10
  Speaker 2: I'm like, this is so dramatic.
• 34:11
  Speaker 3: I've been meaning to tell you I have a big
• 34:13
  Speaker 3: plan for our kids, but I figured maybe I should
• 34:15
  Speaker 3: ask the mother first.
• 34:15
  Speaker 2: I was just gonna do it.
• 34:16
  Speaker 3: But since we're here talking about it, oh, I this year,
• 34:19
  Speaker 3: I've had big plans. I'm busting out my my penis
• 34:23
  Speaker 3: models and my vagina model.
• 34:25
  Speaker 2: Let's start with the vagina. I'm down.
• 34:26
  Speaker 3: I was gonna just I was gonna do it all
• 34:28
  Speaker 3: the same time, but maybe I'll do it in days.
• 34:29
  Speaker 3: And now I was just gonna bring them in the
• 34:31
  Speaker 3: living room and just pull off pull off the cover
• 34:33
  Speaker 3: from them and be like, I want to show you
• 34:34
  Speaker 3: guys something.
• 34:35
  Speaker 2: And I think that we should.
• 34:36
  Speaker 3: I was gonna put some nutella on the ass, what
• 34:40
  Speaker 3: so I could teach them like how you wipe yourself properly,
• 34:42
  Speaker 3: how pap like, how.
• 34:44
  Speaker 2: Toilet paper doesn't always do the trick. What you assume
• 34:53
  Speaker 2: kids know shit, but they don't know if you don't
• 34:55
  Speaker 2: show them.
• 34:55
  Speaker 3: Oh my god, and then I was gonna tell the
• 34:58
  Speaker 3: ale other, you know, important things.
• 35:01
  Speaker 2: I'm really glad you're telling me this, thanks because I
• 35:04
  Speaker 2: first of all to tell us iris a favorite snack.
• 35:07
  Speaker 2: So that's gonna be really acusing. I can hear.
• 35:10
  Speaker 3: Something else peanut about her, like I don't okay, I've
• 35:13
  Speaker 3: made peanut butter since nobody likes peanut butter. But you know,
• 35:15
  Speaker 3: you get the point. I think now's the time I
• 35:18
  Speaker 3: was thinking in my head. I was like, I was
• 35:19
  Speaker 3: driving the car.
• 35:20
  Speaker 2: I was like, Yep, that's what I'm gonna do.
• 35:21
  Speaker 3: I'm gonna bust out my models and I'm gonna rip
• 35:24
  Speaker 3: off the cover and I'm like, it's time for me
• 35:26
  Speaker 3: to teach her some things. I don't know if it's
• 35:28
  Speaker 3: gonna be traumatizing, but I realized, like, these are things
• 35:30
  Speaker 3: that you have to learn, like if someone literally something
• 35:33
  Speaker 3: like the last couple of times I was in the
• 35:35
  Speaker 3: shower with Luna.
• 35:36
  Speaker 2: I was like lifting my leg up.
• 35:38
  Speaker 3: I was like, you see how you opened them, this
• 35:40
  Speaker 3: is how you rin this is really how you've really
• 35:43
  Speaker 3: clean your vagina. I was like the right side, the
• 35:45
  Speaker 3: left side, and she was just looking at me like bitch.
• 35:50
  Speaker 3: The last time I take a shower.
• 35:53
  Speaker 2: I mean I've done I've definitely like shown Iri like
• 35:56
  Speaker 2: my vulva and like this is how I mean. She
• 35:58
  Speaker 2: hated every moment of it and she's like barely looked
• 36:00
  Speaker 2: at me when I did it. But you know, I
• 36:03
  Speaker 2: think it is important. I think it's not enough to
• 36:06
  Speaker 2: just be like ripe, here's the piece. Yeah, like first
• 36:08
  Speaker 2: of all, the paper doesn't work.
• 36:09
  Speaker 3: Second of all, these are things you have to like
• 36:13
  Speaker 3: like no, And I realized that because someone told me that,
• 36:15
  Speaker 3: Like a teacher was, like she was at school and
• 36:18
  Speaker 3: realized a bunch of kids didn't know how to iron
• 36:20
  Speaker 3: or didn't know how to turn on the iron or
• 36:22
  Speaker 3: plug it in like step one, step two, and she's like,
• 36:24
  Speaker 3: what the fuck? And then she's like, you have to
• 36:26
  Speaker 3: realize that kids have to be shown visually for them
• 36:31
  Speaker 3: to understand.
• 36:32
  Speaker 2: Like you assume kids know things. But that's the problem
• 36:34
  Speaker 2: with these new generations.
• 36:36
  Speaker 3: They're dumb because your mom assumed that your new things
• 36:38
  Speaker 3: because back in our day, oh my god, I just say,
• 36:41
  Speaker 3: back in our day. Back in our day, it's called
• 36:46
  Speaker 3: common sense. Now it's not so common, so you have
• 36:49
  Speaker 3: to break it down and show them. So maybe I'll
• 36:53
  Speaker 3: include you can get models online. They're not that expensive,
• 36:57
  Speaker 3: like maybe thirty dollars, And this is probably good for you.
• 37:00
  Speaker 3: And also, you know what show I appreciated that you
• 37:02
  Speaker 3: guys should also watch. I don't know if you watch.
• 37:03
  Speaker 3: This is a good one. It's a series called sex Education.
• 37:06
  Speaker 3: I remember that series and I was like obsessed and
• 37:08
  Speaker 3: I really liked it. I'm actually want to watch it again.
• 37:11
  Speaker 3: Can you have me the lighter? Okay, sorry, back to
• 37:14
  Speaker 3: the list.
• 37:15
  Speaker 2: It's next to you.
• 37:18
  Speaker 3: Number two misconception of a liberated mommer?
• 37:24
  Speaker 2: Are those? Number two? I think is you have to
• 37:26
  Speaker 2: dress a certain way. This is my favorite one because
• 37:28
  Speaker 2: everybody knows that I don't dress appropriately, like they gotta.
• 37:32
  Speaker 2: You gotta pack it up. You gotta put the hoochia
• 37:34
  Speaker 2: gear away, gotta put those titties away.
• 37:36
  Speaker 3: You gotta put on pearls and stockings, and you gotta
• 37:38
  Speaker 3: wear that college shirt.
• 37:39
  Speaker 1: You know.
• 37:40
  Speaker 2: I don't even like I don't even know if it's
• 37:41
  Speaker 2: that extreme, but I will say that I see like
• 37:45
  Speaker 2: I do see like a difference. I'll see like a
• 37:47
  Speaker 2: person that I maybe knew in my like young younger life,
• 37:50
  Speaker 2: my younger outside life. And then they have kids and
• 37:53
  Speaker 2: then they're like their whole style, Like it's like their
• 37:56
  Speaker 2: style just went to shit, like what like we stopped
• 37:58
  Speaker 2: shopping at the same places, like they decided they needed
• 38:01
  Speaker 2: to only shop the Banana Republic. Oh my god, I
• 38:03
  Speaker 2: hate Rebecca. I fucking hate Banana Republic. I hate it.
• 38:07
  Speaker 2: Like I really need you to join YouTube so you
• 38:12
  Speaker 2: can teach me the facial expression.
• 38:14
  Speaker 3: I'm so happy you specifically said Banana Republic because I
• 38:18
  Speaker 3: hate it so much.
• 38:20
  Speaker 2: It's my least favorite.
• 38:23
  Speaker 3: You know, they had like one good season, but not
• 38:25
  Speaker 3: even that, and it's overpriced and it's like.
• 38:27
  Speaker 2: Kate Spade even the Gap.
• 38:31
  Speaker 3: Or that one star Black and White.
• 38:33
  Speaker 2: Oh god, oh god. Sorry for the people that are
• 38:36
  Speaker 2: listening who are like I love that store. Okay, So
• 38:38
  Speaker 2: if you're listening and you feel ashamed, good, listen good.
• 38:46
  Speaker 2: I need you to go. I want you to stop
• 38:48
  Speaker 2: this episode right now, and I want you to go
• 38:50
  Speaker 2: in your fucking closet and pull all the Black and
• 38:52
  Speaker 2: White Gap and Banana Republic you have out right now,
• 38:56
  Speaker 2: right now, and I want you to blade on the
• 38:59
  Speaker 2: bed and I want you to take a good look
• 39:00
  Speaker 2: at it, and I really want you to really really
• 39:03
  Speaker 2: think about these choices. And whether you can remove at
• 39:06
  Speaker 2: least four of these items from your closet. You can
• 39:08
  Speaker 2: remove at least four because they all look very similar,
• 39:11
  Speaker 2: like you gotta they gotta go.
• 39:12
  Speaker 3: However, if you're one of those people who've always dressed
• 39:15
  Speaker 3: this way, this is the gap.
• 39:16
  Speaker 2: Is your style?
• 39:17
  Speaker 3: If been in a republic is all you. I have
• 39:19
  Speaker 3: an aunt like this, shout out to my aunt. I
• 39:22
  Speaker 3: will never speak her name on camera because she is
• 39:24
  Speaker 3: a very private person.
• 39:26
  Speaker 2: Okay, like she would think she's famous, but she must
• 39:30
  Speaker 2: have scared the shit out of you. She did. Absolutely.
• 39:33
  Speaker 2: She does not play any like, she won't post any pictures.
• 39:37
  Speaker 2: It's very serious. But she has.
• 39:39
  Speaker 3: Always dressed like a fucking square. That's been her that's
• 39:41
  Speaker 3: been her identity, and I respect that.
• 39:43
  Speaker 2: If you're just a.
• 39:44
  Speaker 3: Square and she's like, oh I love square nerdy outfits.
• 39:47
  Speaker 2: I love it. So you know, there's like there's like
• 39:49
  Speaker 2: a conservative fashion or like it's like New York. It's like, yeah,
• 39:54
  Speaker 2: there's that you No, I couple's therapy. No oh, what
• 39:59
  Speaker 2: another thing you must throw out? The kitten heel. The
• 40:03
  Speaker 2: kittenhill must go. Kitten heel, the kitten Hill's got to go.
• 40:06
  Speaker 3: If you're not going to commit to a full heel.
• 40:08
  Speaker 3: This is my version of a kitten hill.
• 40:10
  Speaker 2: This is it.
• 40:12
  Speaker 3: This is the smallest hill I own. And this is
• 40:13
  Speaker 3: because this is a cute and they have a cool print.
• 40:16
  Speaker 2: But you don't think the kitten heel looks good on
• 40:18
  Speaker 2: like skinny long girls that maybe long girls and like
• 40:21
  Speaker 2: are dressed in like little mini skirts. Like what if
• 40:23
  Speaker 2: you have like a mini skirt on with a kitten heel.
• 40:26
  Speaker 2: I've seen girls pull it off. Because there's this one
• 40:28
  Speaker 2: girl that I follow and she always is wearing like
• 40:30
  Speaker 2: the Fendy kitten heels like New York. She lives in Chicago,
• 40:33
  Speaker 2: but she's always flying around and she's like sponsored. She's
• 40:36
  Speaker 2: like deal, And I was gonna say this, Actually, it's
• 40:39
  Speaker 2: the deal. It's the door. Remember I remember, I remember
• 40:41
  Speaker 2: I bought a kitten heel. Could I say something? I'm ashamed? Okay?
• 40:46
  Speaker 2: So I went to like a consignment shop in Bethlehem, Pennsylvania.
• 40:49
  Speaker 2: Of course, but the consignment shop was hitting okay because
• 40:53
  Speaker 2: they didn't No one has style there. And then there
• 40:55
  Speaker 2: was this Dior kitten heel and I was like, I
• 40:59
  Speaker 2: put it on and my mom was like, oh, those
• 41:02
  Speaker 2: are in style. My Mom was like, that's in style
• 41:04
  Speaker 2: right now, and I was like, huh my thick calf
• 41:07
  Speaker 2: with my kitten heel on. I'm like, I don't know, Mom, Like,
• 41:10
  Speaker 2: it's not like I don't know if it's doing. It's
• 41:12
  Speaker 2: like you just have the right outfit on. I'm like, okay,
• 41:14
  Speaker 2: heavy war them since bitch, I sold them, I got,
• 41:17
  Speaker 2: I sold them on Poschmark. I'm gonna get a Postmark.
• 41:19
  Speaker 2: I'm gonna put postmark just for skinning girls.
• 41:20
  Speaker 3: You know, I think maybe I am biased because I'm short,
• 41:23
  Speaker 3: so just it just doesn't do.
• 41:24
  Speaker 2: Anything like when I see long, lanky, tall girls with
• 41:28
  Speaker 2: like like mini skirts, not like a fucking you can't
• 41:32
  Speaker 2: wear a skirt that's past your knee and a kitten
• 41:34
  Speaker 2: heel that is called church amish or I don't know.
• 41:39
  Speaker 2: That's just I don't know. I don't even I don't
• 41:41
  Speaker 2: shame religions, but it's just not it okay.
• 41:43
  Speaker 3: But you know, if you have a short skirt, you
• 41:45
  Speaker 3: have to like you have to call you can't just
• 41:48
  Speaker 3: do all the gap and banana Republic and a kitten heel.
• 41:51
  Speaker 3: But I do now that you said that about that
• 41:53
  Speaker 3: girl that you follow, I do feel like kitten heel.
• 41:55
  Speaker 2: Screams rich. It does. It's like the kitten heel and
• 41:59
  Speaker 2: like the folding purse, the foldable purse.
• 42:02
  Speaker 3: This Chanelle called Janelle bash the chain. Maybe when I
• 42:05
  Speaker 3: get rich, I'll rock the kitten heel. When I start
• 42:07
  Speaker 3: rocking kitten hill. You know I made it when you
• 42:11
  Speaker 3: see me with that kitten heel. Baby, you know I'm
• 42:13
  Speaker 3: on the yacht.
• 42:14
  Speaker 2: Okay, oh no, I'm not gonna let that happen. Please God,
• 42:21
  Speaker 2: I don't care howbrid should get.
• 42:23
  Speaker 3: I yeah, I rebuke that that you have to dress
• 42:27
  Speaker 3: a certain way as a mom, Like I'm not gonna pop.
• 42:29
  Speaker 3: I don't know I'm even gonna stick by that. I'm
• 42:30
  Speaker 3: gonna say I'm not gonna be seventy rocking my cleavage
• 42:32
  Speaker 3: out because that's a goddamn lie.
• 42:34
  Speaker 2: If I get these titties are still sitting. I mean,
• 42:38
  Speaker 2: I people will talk about I remember. I remember actually
• 42:41
  Speaker 2: my friend spashed and his stepmom would always comment on
• 42:44
  Speaker 2: my tits because I never wore bra before I had
• 42:46
  Speaker 2: my before I had my boobs done, I still never
• 42:48
  Speaker 2: wore bra. Actually have a bra today because I wanted
• 42:52
  Speaker 2: to really push the girls up. But back in my
• 42:56
  Speaker 2: other day when I had a size B tit, I
• 42:58
  Speaker 2: never wore bra be small bee, and I remember her
• 43:06
  Speaker 2: like commenting like, Eric, why don't you ever wear a
• 43:08
  Speaker 2: bra like she and she would say it like she
• 43:10
  Speaker 2: said it like multiple times, and I was like, why
• 43:13
  Speaker 2: the fuck are you looking at my tits? Like why
• 43:15
  Speaker 2: are you saying that to boobs? And also I'm twenty
• 43:18
  Speaker 2: that's why for exactly. But also I'm thirty seven and
• 43:22
  Speaker 2: I'm still not wearing a broth so maybe it wasn't that,
• 43:25
  Speaker 2: But I just feel like I just feel like, first
• 43:27
  Speaker 2: of all, your titties out, Like I don't understand, no
• 43:31
  Speaker 2: one has a problem with you feeding your their babies
• 43:33
  Speaker 2: with these things, but the moment you want to show
• 43:35
  Speaker 2: them or they help balance at your outfit or accentuate
• 43:38
  Speaker 2: something or you just feel confident or sexy, it becomes
• 43:40
  Speaker 2: this whole thing about like you just want attention. I mean.
• 43:42
  Speaker 3: Also, I mean people shamed me, and I'm sure people
• 43:45
  Speaker 3: are getting shamed right now at this very moment for breastfeeding.
• 43:47
  Speaker 3: I mean, because I would bove a titty out anywhere
• 43:49
  Speaker 3: because I'm feeding my kid, and you know, I'd prefer
• 43:51
  Speaker 3: to be topless anyway.
• 43:53
  Speaker 2: But I Shaming women.
• 43:55
  Speaker 3: For breastfeeding and claiming that it's for attention is absolutely ridiculous.
• 43:59
  Speaker 3: Shaming women for any thing they choose to wear. Even
• 44:01
  Speaker 3: when I catch myself thinking like she should not be
• 44:03
  Speaker 3: having that on, I'm like, bitch, stay in your link,
• 44:05
  Speaker 3: just keep.
• 44:06
  Speaker 2: Your eyes focused. Bitch, sat her where the fuck you want,
• 44:09
  Speaker 2: because you know, I have that club in front of
• 44:10
  Speaker 2: my house and baby baby wearing some shade over there.
• 44:13
  Speaker 2: I mean, I have I have some I know some
• 44:15
  Speaker 2: people that do not dress what I would say would
• 44:19
  Speaker 2: be flattering to their body type. But bitch, they're coughing.
• 44:24
  Speaker 2: They coughed, They looked in the mirror, and they said, hell, yeah,
• 44:26
  Speaker 2: I look good and I'm out and I'm out and
• 44:28
  Speaker 2: I'm here for it, okay, because I said the same
• 44:30
  Speaker 2: thing and now I'm out, So what the fuck am
• 44:32
  Speaker 2: I to tell you any differently? But I I mean,
• 44:34
  Speaker 2: I've had Luna definitely be like, are you gonna put
• 44:36
  Speaker 2: on this or that? And I'm like, no, because this
• 44:39
  Speaker 2: is my body. You go put on what the fuck
• 44:40
  Speaker 2: you want to put on?
• 44:42
  Speaker 3: And I think she just I asked her, oh, she
• 44:45
  Speaker 3: said recently. I was like, what do you how do
• 44:46
  Speaker 3: you feel about me being naked all the time or
• 44:48
  Speaker 3: something because she made a comment. Was one of my
• 44:50
  Speaker 3: non friend's kids came over, like a school friend and
• 44:54
  Speaker 3: she I was cleaning. I was like, had no shirun.
• 44:57
  Speaker 3: She's like, why is your mom having any clothes on it?
• 44:59
  Speaker 3: She's like, oh, she's changing. And then she's like, then
• 45:01
  Speaker 3: you just kept sweeping.
• 45:04
  Speaker 2: You just kept cleaning, yeah, and then you moved on
• 45:06
  Speaker 2: to the windows, and then you wipe the TV down.
• 45:09
  Speaker 2: And I was like, well, we're all girls. Like she's
• 45:11
  Speaker 2: like a little girl.
• 45:12
  Speaker 3: So I was just like, so I asked her, how
• 45:13
  Speaker 3: do you feel about me being naked? Or what do
• 45:15
  Speaker 3: you think that means? That's what I said, what do
• 45:17
  Speaker 3: you think that means? And she goes that you're free,
• 45:20
  Speaker 3: So even if she doesn't like it, at least that's
• 45:22
  Speaker 3: where she equates it too. But I so, now do
• 45:25
  Speaker 3: you put shirts on when her friends come over? I'll
• 45:27
  Speaker 3: probably be more conscious of it when that little girl
• 45:29
  Speaker 3: comes over. But all of my other friends are my
• 45:31
  Speaker 3: friend's kids and you already you already know, so no,
• 45:35
  Speaker 3: But I'm like, god, I have to consider somebody else
• 45:36
  Speaker 3: in my own motherfucking house. But you know, I mean,
• 45:39
  Speaker 3: because I will keep my shirt off. With any guest
• 45:42
  Speaker 3: over like Orlando's friends, male friends, Like.
• 45:46
  Speaker 2: My dad comes over, I'll put on a shirt. But
• 45:48
  Speaker 2: like that's pretty much it. No one gets special treat
• 45:50
  Speaker 2: me this motherfucker. But I I I'm not smoking weed
• 45:54
  Speaker 2: because like this is something I've encountered where like I smoke.
• 45:56
  Speaker 2: I've like I smoke. I res knows I smoke weed.
• 45:58
  Speaker 2: I obviously And when her friends are when like she's
• 46:02
  Speaker 2: had friends over and I'm like, I'm gonna smoke, I'm
• 46:04
  Speaker 2: going go outside. I'm like sometimes I've had the question
• 46:07
  Speaker 2: like should I hide, like not because maybe their parents
• 46:12
  Speaker 2: haven't had this conversation with them. And then now I'm
• 46:15
  Speaker 2: the one that's brought this up. And now I'm smoking
• 46:18
  Speaker 2: dope in the backyard. Well how do they know if
• 46:20
  Speaker 2: it's not a cigarette? Like people smoke cigarettes. I don't know.
• 46:23
  Speaker 2: So that's why I don't think of it the same
• 46:25
  Speaker 2: because I.
• 46:25
  Speaker 3: Think, oh, well, it could be a cigarette, don't kid,
• 46:27
  Speaker 3: you don't have the fuck. But when parents, but they
• 46:28
  Speaker 3: might know the smell, I don't know.
• 46:30
  Speaker 2: Well, if you know the smell and your mom's smoking too, shit,
• 46:32
  Speaker 2: nobody like mommy, it didn't smell like a cigarette. It
• 46:35
  Speaker 2: smelled like something el I will prove it. But if
• 46:39
  Speaker 2: the parent comes to get the kid, I hide. I hide,
• 46:42
  Speaker 2: like spray down, No I do. I'll hide that.
• 46:44
  Speaker 3: I won't smoke when kids from school are over, like
• 46:47
  Speaker 3: unless I'm on the balcony or but I will hide
• 46:49
  Speaker 3: all of the paraphermilium. You're gonna lie because I don't
• 46:52
  Speaker 3: need you.
• 46:52
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• 47:15
  Speaker 2: It's like this big. I'm like, maybe I'll just I'm
• 47:18
  Speaker 2: always like, come on.
• 47:19
  Speaker 3: Lonna, let's go. And that's why I looks. Also because
• 47:24
  Speaker 3: there's not that many black kids at our school. I
• 47:25
  Speaker 3: just don't need any trouble. But then I'm like, bitch,
• 47:27
  Speaker 3: this is your brand.
• 47:28
  Speaker 2: Yeah I don't. I've warned it to school. I don't
• 47:31
  Speaker 2: really give a fuck, you know you. Also, I feel
• 47:33
  Speaker 2: like your school's a little bit more like urban not
• 47:36
  Speaker 2: urban kind of, I guess, but either way, or we're
• 47:44
  Speaker 2: in la Yeah, yeah, I'm surprised by me. Yeah, rock
• 47:53
  Speaker 2: the hoodie.
• 47:54
  Speaker 3: I feel like a lot of a lot of the
• 47:57
  Speaker 3: parents at my kids' school shop.
• 47:58
  Speaker 2: I've been in a republic, so yeah, and then I
• 48:02
  Speaker 2: don't want to have to like, I know all the
• 48:04
  Speaker 2: girls and my the mom's in my school wearing skims exactly.
• 48:07
  Speaker 2: They were like in skims, matching sets with their butt's done.
• 48:11
  Speaker 3: Oh oh, there's show bbls at my school.
• 48:14
  Speaker 2: Oh, there's lots of b oh body's done.
• 48:16
  Speaker 3: App Oh no, no, no, no, ye, my school is
• 48:19
  Speaker 3: very Are you her mother or her grandma?
• 48:21
  Speaker 2: Who knows? Yeah, and who knows? Oh.
• 48:25
  Speaker 3: It reminds me of on Abbot Elementary, there's an episode
• 48:28
  Speaker 3: shout out to Quinta Quinta. There is an episode where
• 48:31
  Speaker 3: the mom keeps showing up for school and things that
• 48:33
  Speaker 3: say like slat bitch, and then so that the teacher
• 48:37
  Speaker 3: has a conversation with her like you know, some of
• 48:39
  Speaker 3: your outfits dropping off little Johnny and she's like, oh,
• 48:44
  Speaker 3: so you are stereotyping me because this is my brain
• 48:46
  Speaker 3: that I made one million dollars in last year, so.
• 48:49
  Speaker 2: That that's us. And I was like, oh my god,
• 48:52
  Speaker 2: that's me.
• 48:53
  Speaker 3: And she was like and then she like looked her
• 48:54
  Speaker 3: up and she was like super successful and like changing
• 48:57
  Speaker 3: the word.
• 48:57
  Speaker 2: Slat and bitch. And I was like, oh my god,
• 49:00
  Speaker 2: is that me? I'm that mom?
• 49:03
  Speaker 3: I uh Iri and Luna I said this already. I
• 49:06
  Speaker 3: don't know if I said this. Went to summer camp
• 49:09
  Speaker 3: and they insisted on being fucking that they have all
• 49:12
  Speaker 3: these cool activities or like they could.
• 49:14
  Speaker 2: Do dance, girl power, aerial like fucking a making Yeah,
• 49:20
  Speaker 2: and they chose girl power and I told her we
• 49:23
  Speaker 2: better not change it. They called me from camp like
• 49:25
  Speaker 2: your daughter would love to change the girl power and
• 49:27
  Speaker 2: I'm like, tell her no, saying we both were doing
• 49:30
  Speaker 2: they're both of our kids were calling us. They were
• 49:31
  Speaker 2: both like no, but you know what that's like, we're
• 49:33
  Speaker 2: girl power. That's why. Well that's why I called He's like,
• 49:35
  Speaker 2: I was like, I am girl power. You don't need
• 49:37
  Speaker 2: any more of this ship. You're the most girl powered
• 49:39
  Speaker 2: girl there is because of me. I was like, we
• 49:43
  Speaker 2: learned how to shoot guns. Mom. I was like, okay,
• 49:44
  Speaker 2: that sounds about that. That was the only thing I was like,
• 49:46
  Speaker 2: I'm okay with that.
• 49:47
  Speaker 1: That.
• 49:47
  Speaker 2: I was like, that's what we need to learn how
• 49:50
  Speaker 2: to do, Loki. I know, Fuck god, we need to
• 49:52
  Speaker 2: go camp to the goddamn shooting eight.
• 49:54
  Speaker 3: Every week we say okay, yeah, but we're the sea
• 49:58
  Speaker 3: through shirt where the lay share. Obviously we're to the
• 50:00
  Speaker 3: appropriate place, like to the dinner where it's dimly lit.
• 50:03
  Speaker 2: You don't have to wear it to the mall. Or
• 50:05
  Speaker 2: it is like a job interview, depending on what job
• 50:08
  Speaker 2: you're trying to get. Unfortunately, we're just not that ahead
• 50:10
  Speaker 2: at the times yet, guys. I you know, every time
• 50:13
  Speaker 2: I've ever had a job interview, I really struggled in
• 50:15
  Speaker 2: that department of outfits.
• 50:16
  Speaker 3: I sometimes struggle here because I can't be on YouTube
• 50:19
  Speaker 3: with my tits out look.
• 50:20
  Speaker 2: I'm just a little what's that? Oh my god? Can
• 50:25
  Speaker 2: we do an episode where there's like just something right
• 50:27
  Speaker 2: in front of us and we're just like naked, but
• 50:29
  Speaker 2: never just like no like one leaf, yeah in the jungle?
• 50:35
  Speaker 2: Those are our only fans episodes. What's number three? Baby?
• 50:40
  Speaker 2: I don't know, because you have the computer in front of.
• 50:42
  Speaker 3: You Okay, I'm a reporter, guys, let me look it up. Oh,
• 50:47
  Speaker 3: I think there's a big misconception about how, oh this
• 50:52
  Speaker 3: is a big like your dating status as a liberated mom,
• 50:55
  Speaker 3: or like that you're bringing a bunch of guys into
• 50:58
  Speaker 3: the house and introducing every guy ever redated to your kids,
• 51:01
  Speaker 3: like having one night stance with your kid in the
• 51:03
  Speaker 3: next room, and you know that probably may happen if
• 51:06
  Speaker 3: the babysitter goes home. But like, I think there's this
• 51:08
  Speaker 3: misconception that women who are single and dating as moms
• 51:13
  Speaker 3: are just outside not paying attention, like doing reckless shit.
• 51:17
  Speaker 2: I agree, and.
• 51:19
  Speaker 3: That's just absolutely most moms are just not reckless, no
• 51:22
  Speaker 3: matter how.
• 51:22
  Speaker 2: Reckless you are personally. You well, you know, I'm gonna
• 51:26
  Speaker 2: just say that if there's like a learning curve when
• 51:29
  Speaker 2: you become a parent, because if you are a reckless
• 51:31
  Speaker 2: thinger before kid life, you don't just become unreckless suddenly,
• 51:34
  Speaker 2: But when you become a mom, there's a learning curve
• 51:36
  Speaker 2: that happens. So you might actually be outside a little
• 51:39
  Speaker 2: bit and then you finally fucking learn. There's a lot
• 51:41
  Speaker 2: of things. I mean, it could because of age, but
• 51:43
  Speaker 2: there is something that switches. Yes, there is something that
• 51:45
  Speaker 2: switches and you just become more mindful. And yeah, there's
• 51:49
  Speaker 2: there's things that happen. And I think that like when
• 51:51
  Speaker 2: you when you become a single mom, because there's not
• 51:55
  Speaker 2: always the support that you need there, Like there are
• 51:58
  Speaker 2: times where you might bring the guy home and the
• 52:02
  Speaker 2: babies that went home, but the baby's asleep, so you're like,
• 52:04
  Speaker 2: all right, fuck it right, you know, And it's like
• 52:07
  Speaker 2: I don't think that there should be I don't think
• 52:08
  Speaker 2: we should be shamed for that. Like we get asleep,
• 52:12
  Speaker 2: like and there's a door and a lock between me
• 52:14
  Speaker 2: and any child that he wakes up. Yeah, Like I
• 52:16
  Speaker 2: don't know. Like the internet is so weird and people
• 52:19
  Speaker 2: are so sensitive and people have experienced their own bouts
• 52:24
  Speaker 2: of traumas and I get all of that, but it's
• 52:26
  Speaker 2: like at some point, like we can't just live in
• 52:29
  Speaker 2: fear of everything and also like villainize every man, like
• 52:33
  Speaker 2: every man is a fucking predator and a pedophile. Yeah, it's
• 52:37
  Speaker 2: it's bizarre.
• 52:38
  Speaker 3: And it's also like you're not allowing women and moms
• 52:41
  Speaker 3: to be human, like you.
• 52:43
  Speaker 2: Have have you done that some shit? Okay?
• 52:45
  Speaker 3: Well, like just because I might do something that maybe
• 52:49
  Speaker 3: quote unquote wild like have a white night stand doesn't
• 52:52
  Speaker 3: mean that like that in any way, shape or form
• 52:55
  Speaker 3: affects how I show up as a mother, if that
• 52:57
  Speaker 3: is going to affect my child in any way, Like
• 52:59
  Speaker 3: I'm not you know, I just I'm not saying move
• 53:02
  Speaker 3: a nigga in in the studio apartment.
• 53:04
  Speaker 2: Let them let you.
• 53:04
  Speaker 3: And you're like everybody's sharing a bed, like this is
• 53:06
  Speaker 3: not what we're saying, but like you're you're going to.
• 53:10
  Speaker 2: And I think it's and I also think it's okay
• 53:12
  Speaker 2: for moms who maybe didn't have their ho fas before
• 53:16
  Speaker 2: kids to have their whole face. You're allowed to have
• 53:18
  Speaker 2: your whole face. You need to have your home. It's okay, babe,
• 53:21
  Speaker 2: you can do it. It's not too late. Like fuck
• 53:24
  Speaker 2: what they said, you can do. You can have your
• 53:25
  Speaker 2: whole phase after motherhood if you did, if you're relate
• 53:28
  Speaker 2: to the party, welcome, Okay. Obviously your whole fase is
• 53:31
  Speaker 2: gonna be a little bit different than the whole phase
• 53:33
  Speaker 2: you would have had before kids. I'm so sorry that
• 53:35
  Speaker 2: you didn't get to experience the whole phase and its
• 53:37
  Speaker 2: full whole glory. However, without the shame and the guilty people.
• 53:41
  Speaker 2: I mean, you're gonna still be shamed and guilty.
• 53:42
  Speaker 3: You always be shaing guilty, but they try to shame
• 53:44
  Speaker 3: you more. They try to shame me, you so much
• 53:45
  Speaker 3: that you don't even have it.
• 53:46
  Speaker 2: But that's the point. It's like you're gonna get shamed anyway,
• 53:49
  Speaker 2: So do what you need to do, you know, Like,
• 53:52
  Speaker 2: you know, we speaking of I had. I wore our
• 53:54
  Speaker 2: shirt the other day, our heel first, hoe later shirt.
• 53:57
  Speaker 2: I think we do because I got a lot of
• 53:58
  Speaker 2: compliments of it. Did you get that shirt? They're like, oh,
• 54:01
  Speaker 2: I like that shirt. I'm like out with Iri.
• 54:05
  Speaker 3: My dad saw He's like, you spelled HO wrong. I
• 54:07
  Speaker 3: was like, that's how you spell her. And I was
• 54:11
  Speaker 3: like thank you.
• 54:12
  Speaker 2: And I was like really hoping Iri wasn't going to
• 54:13
  Speaker 2: look at my shirt and be like heal first, ho later.
• 54:20
  Speaker 2: It's like, thank you, thank you anyway.
• 54:22
  Speaker 3: So honestly that this is going to be an important
• 54:25
  Speaker 3: topic when I pull up a couple of years after
• 54:27
  Speaker 3: I pull out my manuals, that's gonna be one you
• 54:30
  Speaker 3: should heal first and ho later. Yeah, I'm going to
• 54:32
  Speaker 3: teach my kid that. Yeah, you know, like let's let's
• 54:35
  Speaker 3: work on this first and then you know, do what
• 54:37
  Speaker 3: you do intentionally. It's funny one of my friends. I
• 54:40
  Speaker 3: was talking to one of my friends yesterday and she
• 54:43
  Speaker 3: had this role when she was being celibant.
• 54:44
  Speaker 2: She was she's trying to like find her husband, and
• 54:47
  Speaker 2: she was.
• 54:47
  Speaker 3: Just like she waited to have sex with this guy
• 54:50
  Speaker 3: and then come to find out like it just wasn't him,
• 54:52
  Speaker 3: Like it was it wasn't that guy.
• 54:54
  Speaker 2: So I talked to her recently.
• 54:55
  Speaker 3: She's dating again, and she's like, I'm dating this guy
• 54:57
  Speaker 3: who I you know, I had met on hinge a
• 54:58
  Speaker 3: while ago and she was just like, yeah, I hate
• 55:00
  Speaker 3: my pussy And like I said, did you just like
• 55:02
  Speaker 3: a dick? She's like yeah, and it was really nice
• 55:04
  Speaker 3: and she's like, you know, I've actually been thinking about
• 55:08
  Speaker 3: it if I'm gonna like stay with this, like I
• 55:10
  Speaker 3: think it was like a ninety no, maybe it's like
• 55:12
  Speaker 3: a six month rule or something like that.
• 55:14
  Speaker 2: And I was like telling her, I was like, that's
• 55:15
  Speaker 2: a long that's a long time to be wasting. I
• 55:18
  Speaker 2: was just telling her.
• 55:19
  Speaker 3: I was like, honor yourself, you know, you know, if
• 55:22
  Speaker 3: you feel safe or intentional, and just know that like
• 55:24
  Speaker 3: even if.
• 55:25
  Speaker 2: You break the celibacy or whatever.
• 55:27
  Speaker 3: You're the rule you put on yourself, like you you
• 55:30
  Speaker 3: are hopefully at this point intentional about who you share
• 55:32
  Speaker 3: yourself with and know that like you feel good about it.
• 55:35
  Speaker 3: You need some dick and like this seems like a
• 55:37
  Speaker 3: safe person, and that's okay. If it's your nigga, it's
• 55:38
  Speaker 3: your nigga forever. And if not, there's no need to
• 55:40
  Speaker 3: beat up your beat yourself up. You don't have to
• 55:42
  Speaker 3: like rego into your virgin years to fucking.
• 55:45
  Speaker 2: Only and punish yourself. Yeah, no, no, no, I mean
• 55:48
  Speaker 2: I think I understand that. You know, I'm a I'm
• 55:51
  Speaker 2: a newly proponent of celibacy before relate, like before whatever,
• 55:55
  Speaker 2: devoting yourself to a guy. However, I will say that
• 56:00
  Speaker 2: doing that over and over and over again for years
• 56:02
  Speaker 2: and hoping that you like you doing that over and over,
• 56:06
  Speaker 2: you'll be five years in underfucked and not with your nigga.
• 56:12
  Speaker 2: So I feel like you gotta find the balance in
• 56:14
  Speaker 2: between there. You got to like bend the rules when needed,
• 56:17
  Speaker 2: you know, you know when you're supposed to and obviously
• 56:21
  Speaker 2: and also like whatever he's giving to you too, if
• 56:23
  Speaker 2: he's like just trying to fuck, then you already know,
• 56:25
  Speaker 2: like I don't really want to fuck you. Like, so
• 56:27
  Speaker 2: if you're with someone who's respecting your boundaries, honoring what
• 56:31
  Speaker 2: you need, and honoring your requests, then I feel like
• 56:35
  Speaker 2: there's more space to be a little bit more flexible there. Yeah.
• 56:38
  Speaker 3: So yeah, don't give yourself such strict rules that you
• 56:41
  Speaker 3: can't even break them under the guise of your own intention.
• 56:47
  Speaker 2: I've definitely had some like.
• 56:49
  Speaker 3: Good hearty, necessary fun unattached like one night stands and
• 56:56
  Speaker 3: I left, I'm like that was nice, that was good,
• 56:59
  Speaker 3: you know, and then like that and versus you do
• 57:01
  Speaker 3: it and like, oh god, I feel like shit, why
• 57:03
  Speaker 3: the fuck.
• 57:03
  Speaker 2: Did I do that?
• 57:04
  Speaker 3: And then you know, you know, gooda goddamn we shouldn't
• 57:05
  Speaker 3: have done it. But if it's like this seems fun, whoo,
• 57:08
  Speaker 3: do what you gotta do and like indulge in your
• 57:10
  Speaker 3: pleasure in that way. Sometimes everything every sex partner, though
• 57:14
  Speaker 3: sex is sacred, doesn't necessarily mean it's gonna be your
• 57:17
  Speaker 3: long term partner.
• 57:18
  Speaker 2: And that's okay. Yeah, thank god Jesus. Even though I'm
• 57:22
  Speaker 2: like I need I cleanse me. God, I was just
• 57:30
  Speaker 2: I was just my phone is overfilled and I can't
• 57:33
  Speaker 2: fucking take any more videos, and so I'm like going
• 57:35
  Speaker 2: through my storage and it's like telling me, like what
• 57:38
  Speaker 2: my biggest files are. I'm sitting there with Orlando and
• 57:40
  Speaker 2: I'm like going through the videos and then I'm like,
• 57:44
  Speaker 2: oh god, there's like a sex video of me and
• 57:46
  Speaker 2: my ex. And I was like, I'm like watch it
• 57:48
  Speaker 2: for a second. And I was like and I was like,
• 57:52
  Speaker 2: you know, some of this shit does not need to
• 57:53
  Speaker 2: live in my phone forever. Like part of me was
• 57:55
  Speaker 2: like should I save it so I could look back
• 57:57
  Speaker 2: and be like the time wait, because there was this
• 58:00
  Speaker 2: time with this ex in particular because he was such
• 58:02
  Speaker 2: a psycho and jealous because he was cheating on me,
• 58:04
  Speaker 2: where he wanted me to delete all of my previous
• 58:08
  Speaker 2: my previous sex videos, my like pictures with guys, like
• 58:12
  Speaker 2: fixtures with guys, Like there's no reason for you to
• 58:14
  Speaker 2: even have these romantic photos in your phone anymore? Why
• 58:18
  Speaker 2: do you have this? And I was like, He's like,
• 58:21
  Speaker 2: I deleted all mine. I was like, first of all,
• 58:23
  Speaker 2: you're fucking line. He was like, so anyway, I didn't
• 58:25
  Speaker 2: do it, but he thought I did. And I literally
• 58:28
  Speaker 2: just dropped them all into a drive, all of my exes,
• 58:32
  Speaker 2: I was like, because if this doesn't work out, what
• 58:34
  Speaker 2: if I want to see that picture? And I'm so glad,
• 58:37
  Speaker 2: so glad that I did, because recently I went back
• 58:39
  Speaker 2: and I was like, oh, look at me and happy
• 58:40
  Speaker 2: bay mean I look at that, oh Bee, I'm like, yeah,
• 58:46
  Speaker 2: fuck all that. But I don't have I did. I
• 58:50
  Speaker 2: did delete all my sex videos from my phone every
• 58:55
  Speaker 2: single year. I have no. I think there's something like
• 58:58
  Speaker 2: that backfolder that actually that you drop that backup folder
• 59:01
  Speaker 2: that I have, you like an actual hard drive, Like
• 59:03
  Speaker 2: where is it your computer? It's in my drop it's
• 59:06
  Speaker 2: my drop box. It's my drop box. That's actually smart.
• 59:10
  Speaker 3: You could just leave it somewhere else, not to be
• 59:12
  Speaker 3: seen until you intentionally need to look at it. Sometimes
• 59:15
  Speaker 3: I should be popping up on a day I didn't
• 59:17
  Speaker 3: even ask to see this shit.
• 59:18
  Speaker 2: Yeah yeah yeah, email us. What do you guys think?
• 59:23
  Speaker 3: Should you delete all of the sex videos all of
• 59:25
  Speaker 3: your memories from X I definitely have some sex videos.
• 59:28
  Speaker 3: I mean not that I'm like going in my folder
• 59:29
  Speaker 3: like looking at them in my closet. I just I
• 59:32
  Speaker 3: didn't even think to do erase them. Yeah, I don't have.
• 59:36
  Speaker 2: Many, though. Do you have a hidden folder of course,
• 59:38
  Speaker 2: so in your hidden folder, that's where they live then, right, Yeah, yeah,
• 59:43
  Speaker 2: I have all types of things. What's the next one?
• 59:50
  Speaker 2: I think the next one was around career, which we
• 59:53
  Speaker 2: kind of touched on already, but maybe we can a
• 59:55
  Speaker 2: lot we didn't really touch on that we're talking about
• 59:56
  Speaker 2: dressing for careers. I think that there is a lot
• 59:59
  Speaker 2: of of shame around a women prioritizing their careers because
• 1:00:07
  Speaker 2: it does require balance and you will be imbalanced. But
• 1:00:11
  Speaker 2: I think that that's inevitable in any with anything, you
• 1:00:14
  Speaker 2: know what I mean, Like, no one's shaming dads that
• 1:00:16
  Speaker 2: are traveling out doing their thing. And I think that
• 1:00:20
  Speaker 2: as working moms, as women that have dreams and aspirations,
• 1:00:26
  Speaker 2: our kidney to see us do our thing. I know,
• 1:00:28
  Speaker 2: my mom literally was on set from six am to
• 1:00:32
  Speaker 2: eleven pm for a lot of my life. So I
• 1:00:34
  Speaker 2: would get nights with her, and I would get not
• 1:00:36
  Speaker 2: even nights, I'd get cuddles with her early early mornings,
• 1:00:40
  Speaker 2: and then i'd get the weekends. And for me, like,
• 1:00:43
  Speaker 2: that's not why I'm in therapy. It wasn't because mommy
• 1:00:47
  Speaker 2: wasn't around, because she was working, you know, like I
• 1:00:50
  Speaker 2: if anything, I saw her do that, and it think
• 1:00:54
  Speaker 2: has inspired me to be able to manage and do
• 1:00:58
  Speaker 2: all the things, to be able to dream the way
• 1:00:59
  Speaker 2: I dream. And I hope that I re sees that
• 1:01:02
  Speaker 2: and realizes that is and that that that's a possibility.
• 1:01:05
  Speaker 2: But I also think that I think the difference is
• 1:01:10
  Speaker 2: is that I didn't ever see my mom rest. I
• 1:01:13
  Speaker 2: didn't ever see her prioritize herself. And I think that
• 1:01:16
  Speaker 2: that's where I come in in this iteration of motherhood,
• 1:01:20
  Speaker 2: is like, yes, you can do all those things, but
• 1:01:22
  Speaker 2: you have to also equally take care of yourself, Like
• 1:01:25
  Speaker 2: it does no one any good to just be fucking
• 1:01:28
  Speaker 2: running yourself down into the ground. So I think it's
• 1:01:30
  Speaker 2: like finding the balance. But I think there's a lot
• 1:01:32
  Speaker 2: of shame for women choosing their careers.
• 1:01:35
  Speaker 3: And I don't even want to say over motherhood, but
• 1:01:38
  Speaker 3: like just still prioritize, prioritizing both. Yeah, you know, I
• 1:01:42
  Speaker 3: think even and I think that there's a like such
• 1:01:46
  Speaker 3: a disconnect because what we what we see is success
• 1:01:50
  Speaker 3: and then what we see, what we also say, is
• 1:01:52
  Speaker 3: the standard of which a mom should be present or
• 1:01:54
  Speaker 3: whatever in the life of their child. Like even for us,
• 1:01:57
  Speaker 3: I think we were like, oh, I want to travel
• 1:01:59
  Speaker 3: a lot. You know, I really going to be able
• 1:02:00
  Speaker 3: to travel with while I work bringing the kids, which
• 1:02:02
  Speaker 3: obviously kids have to go to school and shit, so
• 1:02:04
  Speaker 3: it's not as easy as it sounds. But like there's
• 1:02:06
  Speaker 3: such thing as like refining the manifestation and like you
• 1:02:12
  Speaker 3: could have a season if you're going really hard, and
• 1:02:14
  Speaker 3: then you're like, let me rest, and like I mean
• 1:02:16
  Speaker 3: rest always, but and then you're like, maybe you are
• 1:02:19
  Speaker 3: going to rearrange what's.
• 1:02:20
  Speaker 2: Priority to priority to you as you evolve. It's just
• 1:02:23
  Speaker 2: how it works.
• 1:02:24
  Speaker 3: As you get older, you're like, I'm working really hard
• 1:02:26
  Speaker 3: for what, Like yeah, things are nice, but like.
• 1:02:28
  Speaker 2: What do I really need? So I can have a
• 1:02:31
  Speaker 2: balance of both and you're allowed to.
• 1:02:35
  Speaker 3: And I think they're almost come from the same place.
• 1:02:37
  Speaker 3: Like even a lot of our success came after we
• 1:02:39
  Speaker 3: had kids. Like our womb is what creates. Our womb
• 1:02:43
  Speaker 3: is like it literally creates people, and it births ideas
• 1:02:46
  Speaker 3: and it bursts things.
• 1:02:46
  Speaker 2: And it's like you have to feed your creativity and
• 1:02:50
  Speaker 2: work in your purpose as well as you know, alongside motherhood,
• 1:02:54
  Speaker 2: which is also a purpose, but most of us have
• 1:02:57
  Speaker 2: additional purposes outside of motherhood. You know what and and
• 1:03:00
  Speaker 2: as you said that, I'm like, don't you think that's
• 1:03:02
  Speaker 2: not ironic? It actually makes total sense that usually after
• 1:03:05
  Speaker 2: women give birth, that's when they like really start to
• 1:03:07
  Speaker 2: prioritize their dreams, their career. Maybe not even their dreams,
• 1:03:11
  Speaker 2: I mean that's not maybe that's not true, but like
• 1:03:14
  Speaker 2: they get into creation mode. It activates you. Yeah, it's
• 1:03:18
  Speaker 2: a rite of passages. And it's not necessarily just because
• 1:03:21
  Speaker 2: you maybe have to be the provider, because yes, there
• 1:03:23
  Speaker 2: is that potentially, but it allows you i think when
• 1:03:27
  Speaker 2: you see a child in play and you see your
• 1:03:30
  Speaker 2: child's like experience of the world in all its newness,
• 1:03:36
  Speaker 2: it can't it can't help but inspire you to kind
• 1:03:40
  Speaker 2: of rethink what it is that you want to do.
• 1:03:43
  Speaker 2: And that brings me to another part of this number
• 1:03:47
  Speaker 2: four that we're on is like the shame around your
• 1:03:51
  Speaker 2: career choice to like what kind of career is suitable
• 1:03:55
  Speaker 2: for a mother, right, it's suitable for someone raising a child,
• 1:03:58
  Speaker 2: Like we talk about sex on the airwaves, on the
• 1:04:02
  Speaker 2: airwave talking about sex on the airwaves and our dating life,
• 1:04:05
  Speaker 2: and like you know, for a lot of people, I'm
• 1:04:07
  Speaker 2: sure they've looked down upon us, and like those are
• 1:04:10
  Speaker 2: mothers and they're talking about this. Yeah, bitch, And I'm
• 1:04:12
  Speaker 2: getting paid to pay pay beach and it's not even
• 1:04:18
  Speaker 2: just about the money. I'm fulfilled. Yeah, I feel good,
• 1:04:21
  Speaker 2: I'm happy. I'm being honest.
• 1:04:24
  Speaker 3: Yeah, like like I'm on here lying and shit like, Yeah,
• 1:04:26
  Speaker 3: the truth will sell shut you free, shall shut you street,
• 1:04:31
  Speaker 3: even if it's not likable to everybody else or to
• 1:04:34
  Speaker 3: everybody else's idea of what you should or how you're
• 1:04:36
  Speaker 3: supposed to show up.
• 1:04:37
  Speaker 2: Yeah. Happiness, So as long as your career is making
• 1:04:40
  Speaker 2: you feel fulfilled, making you feel happy, making you feel grounded,
• 1:04:44
  Speaker 2: not making you feel outside of yourself, outside of your body, girl,
• 1:04:48
  Speaker 2: do your bang. Yeah.
• 1:04:50
  Speaker 3: And also if you don't have it all together, like
• 1:04:52
  Speaker 3: you know, I would recommend having some shit together before
• 1:04:55
  Speaker 3: you give birth, because shit gets very real when you
• 1:04:56
  Speaker 3: don't trust me, I know. But also like there's space
• 1:05:01
  Speaker 3: to grow, like, don't feel like I know when I was,
• 1:05:03
  Speaker 3: you know, struggling financially and just trying to figure shit
• 1:05:06
  Speaker 3: out in my twenties, even in my thirties, there was
• 1:05:09
  Speaker 3: such deep guilt I felt around. You know, it's one
• 1:05:12
  Speaker 3: thing to be like figuring it out as a single
• 1:05:14
  Speaker 3: adult and you could just like figure it out, go
• 1:05:17
  Speaker 3: on a date here, you know, sleep over here. But
• 1:05:19
  Speaker 3: like when you have a kid, there's a stability that
• 1:05:21
  Speaker 3: needs to happen, and there's so much shame sometimes around
• 1:05:25
  Speaker 3: figuring it out. I mean, like you know, at least
• 1:05:26
  Speaker 3: you're attempting to figure it out. Don't feel ashamed in
• 1:05:29
  Speaker 3: the in betweens, because we're all breaking down and rebuilding
• 1:05:33
  Speaker 3: all the time. You know, we're all growing, we're all blossoming.
• 1:05:36
  Speaker 3: And it's just like just because you give birth to
• 1:05:38
  Speaker 3: a child, or because you're this age or that age,
• 1:05:40
  Speaker 3: doesn't mean you're gonna have all your shit together. Everyone's
• 1:05:43
  Speaker 3: not dealt the same cars. Everybody's in different circumstances. We're
• 1:05:45
  Speaker 3: in America, I mean some of you are not. But
• 1:05:47
  Speaker 3: the economy is crazy, life is crazy. I don't think
• 1:05:50
  Speaker 3: we're supposed to really truly have to pay in work
• 1:05:53
  Speaker 3: to live, Like we're supposed to work to live, but
• 1:05:55
  Speaker 3: not in this this not in this capitalist world that
• 1:06:00
  Speaker 3: we live in. So it's really not human. But I
• 1:06:02
  Speaker 3: think there's also shame around that. Whereas especially with single motherhood,
• 1:06:07
  Speaker 3: because it's like when it is all on you, is
• 1:06:09
  Speaker 3: the pressure of that the emotional dependency of your child, the.
• 1:06:12
  Speaker 2: Need to show up still feeling.
• 1:06:14
  Speaker 3: Good and at least for your child, even though you
• 1:06:15
  Speaker 3: might be feeling shame or sadness inside. And a lot
• 1:06:18
  Speaker 3: of times men can keep going. They're out of town,
• 1:06:21
  Speaker 3: they're living their best lives, and very rarely their friends
• 1:06:24
  Speaker 3: saying did.
• 1:06:25
  Speaker 2: You send money home to your kids? Money? When was
• 1:06:27
  Speaker 2: the last time? Did they ever say when was the
• 1:06:29
  Speaker 2: last time you saw Johnny? You do you contribute?
• 1:06:32
  Speaker 1: You know?
• 1:06:33
  Speaker 2: I even with my dynamic with my baby daddy, I'm like, damn,
• 1:06:37
  Speaker 2: your mom be over here talking to me, calling me,
• 1:06:39
  Speaker 2: texting me. I wonder if she ever asked this nigga
• 1:06:41
  Speaker 2: one time. I wonder if she asked this all one
• 1:06:45
  Speaker 2: time answered for you? Did you ever?
• 1:06:47
  Speaker 3: Have you ever sent Mila any money for Luna for school?
• 1:06:51
  Speaker 3: Have you taken any of these things? But no, the
• 1:06:54
  Speaker 3: answer is fuck no, because that's never even. I don't
• 1:06:57
  Speaker 3: even but as a mom, even if I had a son,
• 1:07:00
  Speaker 3: those are things that I would ask. But the idea
• 1:07:03
  Speaker 3: that men don't have the same sense of responsibility and
• 1:07:08
  Speaker 3: the society doesn't hold them to the same standard, because
• 1:07:10
  Speaker 3: a lot of times, if your ain't shit, father and
• 1:07:13
  Speaker 3: the child's with their kids. Chances are you're not sending
• 1:07:15
  Speaker 3: money home. So the responsibility of being there emotionally and
• 1:07:19
  Speaker 3: fucking physically and financially is fucking heavy. And it's not
• 1:07:22
  Speaker 3: something that I think men have to deal with on
• 1:07:25
  Speaker 3: a day to day basis.
• 1:07:27
  Speaker 2: And if you have a career that you might do OnlyFans, it.
• 1:07:30
  Speaker 3: Be a call girl or I don't know what the hell,
• 1:07:32
  Speaker 3: weird shit's going on, toe model, whatever it is. Don't
• 1:07:35
  Speaker 3: let people make you feel bad about what you got
• 1:07:39
  Speaker 3: to do to do.
• 1:07:39
  Speaker 2: You know, you have to do what you got to do.
• 1:07:41
  Speaker 3: I've done some shit illegal and other and what I
• 1:07:44
  Speaker 3: recommend my kid do it? No, but sometimes you have
• 1:07:48
  Speaker 3: to do what you have to do. And that's just
• 1:07:50
  Speaker 3: what it is.
• 1:07:51
  Speaker 2: Today. I had an audition that Orlando did a self
• 1:07:54
  Speaker 2: tape with me and I was a cam girl, oh huh.
• 1:07:58
  Speaker 2: And I was like, she was like a cam girl
• 1:08:00
  Speaker 2: to this old man and he just was lonely. He
• 1:08:01
  Speaker 2: just wanted to have conversation and he wanted just her
• 1:08:03
  Speaker 2: to dress up kind of like Charlie's Angels. And I
• 1:08:06
  Speaker 2: was like, I gotta do this. This thing's so bad,
• 1:08:10
  Speaker 2: and they were She was even showing no ass or nothing.
• 1:08:13
  Speaker 2: Baby in my days was pretty low key with her camming.
• 1:08:16
  Speaker 2: You hope that you get a client like that. I've
• 1:08:18
  Speaker 2: nine times, and you're gonna get some weird clients. But
• 1:08:21
  Speaker 2: I considered that.
• 1:08:22
  Speaker 3: I looked at a couple of sights and I was like,
• 1:08:24
  Speaker 3: can I live with myself if I'm only cam girl
• 1:08:27
  Speaker 3: and someone?
• 1:08:28
  Speaker 2: And then I was like, what if someone records it?
• 1:08:29
  Speaker 3: I couldn't live with the Not that I couldn't do
• 1:08:32
  Speaker 3: it, it is that I couldn't live with someone else having
• 1:08:34
  Speaker 3: video of it and then possibly going somewhere I don't
• 1:08:36
  Speaker 3: wanted to go.
• 1:08:37
  Speaker 2: I could have done it. I've thought about it. I
• 1:08:38
  Speaker 2: often think about those with my sex videos that I've
• 1:08:42
  Speaker 2: with people. I'm like, God, I'm like, I've been very
• 1:08:45
  Speaker 2: lucky to not have any vengeful ex boyfriends.
• 1:08:47
  Speaker 3: Yet let's say in prayer, dear nine pounds six ounds
• 1:08:53
  Speaker 3: Baby Jesus, for us and those listening, if any ain't
• 1:08:58
  Speaker 3: shit around this motherfucker or women for that instance, happen
• 1:09:03
  Speaker 3: to have any full frontal or back shots or head
• 1:09:07
  Speaker 3: given shots of us in their phone, I pray Baby
• 1:09:11
  Speaker 3: Jesus that you delete them right now from every device, every.
• 1:09:14
  Speaker 2: Mobile, every backup every drop box.
• 1:09:18
  Speaker 3: Lord somehow and the technologies of mercury retrograde, remove all
• 1:09:24
  Speaker 3: sex videos that no longer should be in anybody else's
• 1:09:27
  Speaker 3: phone from the phone's lord and the technology gods.
• 1:09:29
  Speaker 2: We pray Amen, Amen for real. Yeah, I got some
• 1:09:37
  Speaker 2: ship that I'm like, Oh God, I got something I'm like,
• 1:09:39
  Speaker 2: I wish I had it just to watch sometimes and
• 1:09:42
  Speaker 2: put it back in a drop box, which is not
• 1:09:45
  Speaker 2: even because it was them, because me, because I looked good,
• 1:09:48
  Speaker 2: but also, damn you look good. Look that ass. If
• 1:09:50
  Speaker 2: you're watching this and you're like, what the fuck are
• 1:09:53
  Speaker 2: the stupid bitch just talking about? Why would they do that?
• 1:09:55
  Speaker 3: Don't ever, ever, ever, ever, ever, ever, ever, ever ever
• 1:09:58
  Speaker 3: ever let him the fucking video.
• 1:10:00
  Speaker 2: Don't ever ever, don't let him use the phone ever,
• 1:10:03
  Speaker 2: and don't send it to him. Let him watch it
• 1:10:05
  Speaker 2: on your phone. Has anybody ever has anyone ever told
• 1:10:08
  Speaker 2: you to delete a video and you kept it? No
• 1:10:11
  Speaker 2: like a guy? Yeah no, really, this has happened, Not you,
• 1:10:15
  Speaker 2: that evil ass laugh. I'm gonna go ahead and say
• 1:10:17
  Speaker 2: that it has happened to you. I played the fifth Okay,
• 1:10:21
  Speaker 2: I'm just kidding. I delete everything. Anyone ever, what was
• 1:10:23
  Speaker 2: he doing with the Oh, actually I kind of I
• 1:10:25
  Speaker 2: already know what it was. I already know you don't
• 1:10:27
  Speaker 2: know shit. I know you don't know shit. I already
• 1:10:29
  Speaker 2: know what it was. You don't know shit about what
• 1:10:31
  Speaker 2: I'm talking about does involve high socks and now heels.
• 1:10:38
  Speaker 3: No, no, okay, those are from the early Those are
• 1:10:42
  Speaker 3: from the early days.
• 1:10:43
  Speaker 2: Don't try and blasphem.
• 1:10:44
  Speaker 3: Okay, if you guys are just joining us here on
• 1:10:46
  Speaker 3: this good Mom's journey, I highly, highly highly recommend going
• 1:10:49
  Speaker 3: back to seasons one and two, which is just year
• 1:10:52
  Speaker 3: one and year two, because there were no seasons. There
• 1:10:54
  Speaker 3: was like three hundred episodes in season one.
• 1:10:55
  Speaker 2: So just yeah, the first eighty four episodes, eighty eight episodes.
• 1:10:59
  Speaker 2: If you're listening to us now and you're like, whoa,
• 1:11:01
  Speaker 2: this seems so, it seems so go listen to our
• 1:11:03
  Speaker 2: first eighty eight, those first eighty eight.
• 1:11:06
  Speaker 3: If you think we seem mature and well evolved and classy, ooh,
• 1:11:09
  Speaker 3: just the eight. Just hit those first eighty eight and
• 1:11:11
  Speaker 3: come back and this is what growth.
• 1:11:13
  Speaker 2: It's called. Goddamn, oh my god.
• 1:11:18
  Speaker 3: And then, last, but not least, number five is the
• 1:11:21
  Speaker 3: number five on our list of misconceptions of a wild.
• 1:11:25
  Speaker 2: Mom, are prioritizing your relationship and not just that one
• 1:11:30
  Speaker 2: with your husband, you know, the one you got a
• 1:11:32
  Speaker 2: divorce for. Now you got a new nigga, prioritizing that one.
• 1:11:35
  Speaker 2: So I was telling me, I was thinking, like, you
• 1:11:38
  Speaker 2: always hear all this talk about prioritizing your marriage and
• 1:11:41
  Speaker 2: prioritizing your baby daddy or whatever, But I don't feel
• 1:11:46
  Speaker 2: like that same energy is for like the new men
• 1:11:50
  Speaker 2: in your life, like the new step daddy in your life,
• 1:11:53
  Speaker 2: Like there's no prioritizing that. Like that's just the new
• 1:11:55
  Speaker 2: nigga in your life that's stuck around and you're not
• 1:11:58
  Speaker 2: supposed to like go on one month vacations with your
• 1:12:01
  Speaker 2: with your partner to solidify the foundation. And I feel
• 1:12:07
  Speaker 2: like that idea is generally catered towards the child of
• 1:12:14
  Speaker 2: your father. But if that doesn't work out, then what
• 1:12:16
  Speaker 2: the next negati is ain't shit. You're not supposed to
• 1:12:18
  Speaker 2: prioritize that anymore because he didn't birth your children. I
• 1:12:21
  Speaker 2: don't believe in that. I don't believe in that because
• 1:12:23
  Speaker 2: the hope and the goal is that that person that
• 1:12:26
  Speaker 2: you're bringing into your life is going to pour into
• 1:12:28
  Speaker 2: your child and maybe become stepdaddy or maybe full time
• 1:12:31
  Speaker 2: daddy if daddy ain't around. So I think that it's
• 1:12:34
  Speaker 2: important for us as single mom specifically, I'm not talking.
• 1:12:38
  Speaker 2: I also think, yes, if you're married, prioritize your husband
• 1:12:40
  Speaker 2: all that great stuff. You already have the book and
• 1:12:43
  Speaker 2: all the stuff on the internet about that. But if
• 1:12:44
  Speaker 2: you are a single mom and you're in a serious
• 1:12:46
  Speaker 2: relationship with someone, or maybe you're trying to build something
• 1:12:49
  Speaker 2: with someone, I think it's important and it's okay to
• 1:12:51
  Speaker 2: prioritize that relationship. I agree. I mean, I'm the bitch
• 1:12:56
  Speaker 2: you want on one modification.
• 1:12:58
  Speaker 3: But I also I was like to say, like I'm
• 1:13:00
  Speaker 3: finishing my book, you know you have to like slide
• 1:13:02
  Speaker 3: other things in there, because you can't be like, I'm
• 1:13:04
  Speaker 3: gonna go solidify my relationship with my new boyfriend, help
• 1:13:07
  Speaker 3: my baby right quick.
• 1:13:09
  Speaker 2: Nobody really cares. You gotta lie.
• 1:13:11
  Speaker 3: I'd be like, it has to be work, has to
• 1:13:13
  Speaker 3: be money. Oh man, you generally have to lie.
• 1:13:16
  Speaker 2: You have to.
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  Speaker 3: You can't be like I'm gonna go stabilize my relationship.
• 1:13:20
  Speaker 3: I'm gonna go like build the foundation. You gotta be
• 1:13:22
  Speaker 3: like I'm working. It has to be money related.
• 1:13:24
  Speaker 2: Or else.
• 1:13:24
  Speaker 3: No one respects you. No, I'm like, no one really
• 1:13:27
  Speaker 3: cares if a single mom has to go like date
• 1:13:30
  Speaker 3: or find their mate. They're almost like, should have made
• 1:13:32
  Speaker 3: the first one work, bitch, and so fuck you. And
• 1:13:35
  Speaker 3: it is important, and you know, good good moms, good
• 1:13:38
  Speaker 3: moms do deserve love and you still are worthy and
• 1:13:41
  Speaker 3: they still show up for you, and you still deserve
• 1:13:44
  Speaker 3: to prioritize those relationships as if it was the person
• 1:13:47
  Speaker 3: you had the baby with, because hopefully you're creating a
• 1:13:49
  Speaker 3: foundation of family and it's also important. So don't let
• 1:13:52
  Speaker 3: like your peers or your mama, because you know your
• 1:13:54
  Speaker 3: mama be hating because you know she'd.
• 1:13:56
  Speaker 2: Be like, you gotta go for that long. I wasn't.
• 1:13:59
  Speaker 2: I never didn't know shit like you just go on
• 1:14:00
  Speaker 2: a date last night. I didn't. I never left you
• 1:14:03
  Speaker 2: for the like girl. They forget what they'd be doing,
• 1:14:05
  Speaker 2: so as your turn to do it. So I just
• 1:14:08
  Speaker 2: feel like you need to prioritize and make sure that
• 1:14:10
  Speaker 2: niggas for you, and you.
• 1:14:12
  Speaker 3: Have to read these are things that you're gonna have
• 1:14:13
  Speaker 3: to pump yourself up on. No one except us is
• 1:14:17
  Speaker 3: going to remind you. So in the moments when you're
• 1:14:19
  Speaker 3: feeling that guilt, come up about any of these above
• 1:14:22
  Speaker 3: lists that outfit, that job, that trip, if you need
• 1:14:28
  Speaker 3: to go to a Coachella, whatever the fuck of the
• 1:14:30
  Speaker 3: shit is that, you just need to get off right quick.
• 1:14:32
  Speaker 3: You know, sometimes even your closest friends will hate on
• 1:14:35
  Speaker 3: you because they want to have fun too, but they're
• 1:14:37
  Speaker 3: not gonna keep it real with you.
• 1:14:38
  Speaker 2: And hopefully they do because you have good friends.
• 1:14:40
  Speaker 3: But if not, just turn on this episode again and
• 1:14:42
  Speaker 3: we'll remind you do whatever the fuck you want to
• 1:14:44
  Speaker 3: do because you matter. And being a liberated mom doesn't
• 1:14:47
  Speaker 3: mean you're a bad mom. It means you're a good
• 1:14:49
  Speaker 3: mom and you still want to look good and you
• 1:14:51
  Speaker 3: still want to do fun shit, and that's okay.
• 1:14:53
  Speaker 2: You need to be happy. Amen. Yeah, no, I agree.
• 1:14:59
  Speaker 2: I think being a liberated mom is it's hard. It's hard.
• 1:15:03
  Speaker 2: It's not for the faint of heart. Baby. This is
• 1:15:06
  Speaker 2: not for I don't want to say it's not for everyone,
• 1:15:08
  Speaker 2: because I think it should be. But it's hard out
• 1:15:10
  Speaker 2: here because you're gonna battle yourself and you're gonna battle
• 1:15:13
  Speaker 2: people a lot. It's just the nature of being a
• 1:15:16
  Speaker 2: fucking woman that chooses herself.
• 1:15:19
  Speaker 3: And Honestly, a lot of the shit is not even
• 1:15:21
  Speaker 3: just for moms. It's just for women and women in general,
• 1:15:23
  Speaker 3: because they put age limits on how you dress and
• 1:15:25
  Speaker 3: what you do and what you should be doing and
• 1:15:27
  Speaker 3: if you should be married and if you should already
• 1:15:29
  Speaker 3: have kids, and like, it's just about checking in with yourself.
• 1:15:34
  Speaker 2: Because no one was commenting on my baby daddy when
• 1:15:37
  Speaker 2: he was making out with his girlfriend in front of
• 1:15:39
  Speaker 2: the Dubai Bergile Arab and was gone for two months,
• 1:15:41
  Speaker 2: no one said when is the last time he saw
• 1:15:43
  Speaker 2: his kid? Sorry, I just have to say that, not
• 1:15:49
  Speaker 2: in Dubai. Do you want me to go comment on that?
• 1:15:54
  Speaker 1: Bro?
• 1:15:54
  Speaker 2: They broke up. They broke up already. He had to
• 1:15:57
  Speaker 2: go do that. He had to go make sure super important,
• 1:16:01
  Speaker 2: to make sure. You know, I've been on the internet.
• 1:16:04
  Speaker 2: He's done it quite a few times so he could chill.
• 1:16:05
  Speaker 2: Not a lover boy. I don't know if we would
• 1:16:08
  Speaker 2: call it that something.
• 1:16:10
  Speaker 3: We're both lovers, not after not after the aftermath. It
• 1:16:15
  Speaker 3: doesn't seem like he turns off. He's hot and cold.
• 1:16:17
  Speaker 3: Is that Gemini? He loves you then he don't.
• 1:16:19
  Speaker 2: That's that's the true, that's the Gemini. I wonder if
• 1:16:24
  Speaker 2: my baby daddy was like, listen, jam, my baby daddy
• 1:16:27
  Speaker 2: calls me jam that's my earlier day nickname. Yeah, you
• 1:16:32
  Speaker 2: know me and so and so got to go. I
• 1:16:34
  Speaker 2: mean one time he did.
• 1:16:35
  Speaker 3: He went to Thailand for a month, and I thought
• 1:16:36
  Speaker 3: he was gonna get his life together.
• 1:16:37
  Speaker 2: But I remember that that I had hopes. He had hopes,
• 1:16:40
  Speaker 2: but then he was like going to come back. Then
• 1:16:42
  Speaker 2: he didn't come back and kept extending it. Yeah, just
• 1:16:45
  Speaker 2: go went on forever and there was nothing happening, nothing happening.
• 1:16:48
  Speaker 2: I've come back the little Buddha. Nope.
• 1:16:51
  Speaker 3: But yeah, honestly, if he said that, I would say,
• 1:16:55
  Speaker 3: what the fuck ever?
• 1:16:56
  Speaker 2: Have fun? Maybe if you go with the bitch, you'll
• 1:16:58
  Speaker 2: come back changed a little bit. Well, all we can
• 1:17:03
  Speaker 2: do is pray and wish. I think the cards to
• 1:17:05
  Speaker 2: speak their messages to us. Now, okay, I would like
• 1:17:07
  Speaker 2: to choose one. I think it's Tarot time. It's Tarot time, bitches,
• 1:17:11
  Speaker 2: do you have an information? While I pick a card?
• 1:17:24
  Speaker 3: What I was gonna say is silly, I I am
• 1:17:31
  Speaker 3: wild and free because that's the only way to be.
• 1:17:34
  Speaker 2: Okay. The other one is I'm a liberated mom because
• 1:17:37
  Speaker 2: I don't want to be incarcerated. One. Wild moms can
• 1:17:40
  Speaker 2: be good moms. Wild good moms. Wild moms are good
• 1:17:44
  Speaker 2: moms too, wild moms. Are you know what that sounds like? Right?
• 1:17:49
  Speaker 2: What black people are talented? Shut up? Fuck up, shut up,
• 1:17:55
  Speaker 2: show sat that man, I don't know what you're talking about.
• 1:18:00
  Speaker 2: I don't know. Okay, God my affirmation, wild mom? What's
• 1:18:11
  Speaker 2: that song like? Wild and free? Let your titties hang, mom,
• 1:18:18
  Speaker 2: Let show titty swang. Let's show titties swang.
• 1:18:21
  Speaker 3: Let's show titty swang. I like that one, that one,
• 1:18:22
  Speaker 3: That one sticks that way.
• 1:18:23
  Speaker 2: The affirmation is let's.
• 1:18:29
  Speaker 3: And this is good moms reminding you to let those
• 1:18:32
  Speaker 3: titty swing, especially if your mom.
• 1:18:36
  Speaker 2: I'm swinging my titties right now. I feel ten times better.
• 1:18:40
  Speaker 2: Actually you hear that. That's as mr for titties swinging.
• 1:18:48
  Speaker 4: Oh man, money on the on the way, opportunity is
• 1:19:08
  Speaker 4: on the way.
• 1:19:09
  Speaker 2: I could use a check right about now. Yeah, me too.
• 1:19:13
  Speaker 3: And I remember remember that, sorry, remember that one time
• 1:19:16
  Speaker 3: we saw the money depositing. We're opening our apps and
• 1:19:18
  Speaker 3: then we need to do it again. It's manifest opening
• 1:19:21
  Speaker 3: up our bank mobile bank apps. Oh look, it's that
• 1:19:25
  Speaker 3: one that I use I signing in.
• 1:19:28
  Speaker 2: Oh my god, Oh my goodness, twenty milo. Wait, shit,
• 1:19:38
  Speaker 2: there's there's more savings. Oh God, O good. I'm gonna
• 1:19:43
  Speaker 2: rest now. I think, actually I wanna. I don't know.
• 1:19:46
  Speaker 3: I think I just want to lay here and drink
• 1:19:48
  Speaker 3: a martini and take this all in because I didn't
• 1:19:50
  Speaker 3: even know I was getting this, this electric transfer of
• 1:19:53
  Speaker 3: four hundred thousand dollars today.
• 1:19:55
  Speaker 2: God, God is good all the time, all the time. God,
• 1:19:58
  Speaker 2: it is crazy. Oh, it is crazy all the time.
• 1:20:03
  Speaker 2: God is crazy, y'all all the time. That's our song,
• 1:20:07
  Speaker 2: cause you didn't know. It's unreleased. It's unreleased, but it's coming.
• 1:20:11
  Speaker 3: We're waiting for the for the church choir to come
• 1:20:13
  Speaker 3: in to do the backups. And we're still getting We're
• 1:20:16
  Speaker 3: still getting a what's our boy's name? Kin wait is
• 1:20:22
  Speaker 3: the most famous gospel singer, Franklin. We're still getting Kirk
• 1:20:26
  Speaker 3: Franklin on the road. That was that devoice, that was him,
• 1:20:28
  Speaker 3: that was his God is crazy, Okay, don't.
• 1:20:34
  Speaker 2: Exactly see you here it yeah, okay. A pacles a
• 1:20:40
  Speaker 2: new financial or career opportunity, manifestation, abundance. The acles, like
• 1:20:45
  Speaker 2: the other aces of the Tarot, represents new beginnings, opportunities,
• 1:20:48
  Speaker 2: and potential, and as a pinnacles car These new beginnings
• 1:20:51
  Speaker 2: correlate to the material world, finances, wealth, career, physical health,
• 1:20:54
  Speaker 2: and manifestation of your goals. You may receive a new job,
• 1:20:58
  Speaker 2: offer an unexpected sum of money, a new business or
• 1:21:02
  Speaker 2: investment opportunity may come your way, or you'll have the
• 1:21:04
  Speaker 2: chance to bring an idea to fruition. No matter the occasion,
• 1:21:08
  Speaker 2: the aspenacles heralds a sense of prosperity and abundance in
• 1:21:11
  Speaker 2: the material or financial areas of your life. The aspicles
• 1:21:15
  Speaker 2: also symbolizes wealth, not just for your bank account, but
• 1:21:17
  Speaker 2: in a holistic sense as well. You may discover opportunities
• 1:21:20
  Speaker 2: to generate a new source of income or receive a
• 1:21:22
  Speaker 2: financial gift or windfall. I love windfall, or you may
• 1:21:27
  Speaker 2: have a chance to create wealth in a broader sense. Happiness, fulfillment, No,
• 1:21:30
  Speaker 2: I'm gonna go with money, monny by happiness, with film,
• 1:21:35
  Speaker 2: a potential and love, Yes, rich, lovely, juicy, rich, rich,
• 1:21:39
  Speaker 2: rich love. This ace signifies abundance in all areas of
• 1:21:42
  Speaker 2: your life.
• 1:21:43
  Speaker 3: Enjoy it, tasteful goods, richness, so rich, abundant.
• 1:21:48
  Speaker 2: Yes, yes, I like juicy like this cardilot. That was beautiful. Well,
• 1:21:58
  Speaker 2: thanks guys, thanks for the listen. Yeah, I hope that
• 1:22:01
  Speaker 2: you know you can come back to this episode whenever
• 1:22:04
  Speaker 2: you're feeling a little out of flow with yourself, when
• 1:22:06
  Speaker 2: people are hating on you and shit, when you want
• 1:22:09
  Speaker 2: to take that trip and you want to book that
• 1:22:10
  Speaker 2: trip to the Good Vibe Retreat, or you want to
• 1:22:13
  Speaker 2: go hang out with your new boyfriend for one week
• 1:22:16
  Speaker 2: in Tulom, or you want to switch careers because your
• 1:22:20
  Speaker 2: job fucking sucks, or you want to go through your
• 1:22:22
  Speaker 2: closet and throw out all the gap and the black
• 1:22:25
  Speaker 2: and white and other stuff that we said. The kitten
• 1:22:29
  Speaker 2: heels come back here, especially the kitten heels. Unless you
• 1:22:33
  Speaker 2: have long legs and a mini skirt and you're rich.
• 1:22:38
  Speaker 2: You don't have to be rich. You'll look rich if
• 1:22:40
  Speaker 2: you do that. But if you have long legs and
• 1:22:42
  Speaker 2: mini skirt, the kitten hills might work.
• 1:22:44
  Speaker 3: I saw a sick girl with a mini skirt and
• 1:22:46
  Speaker 3: kitten heels and she looked cute.
• 1:22:48
  Speaker 2: Actually, so maybe I need to try this out. She
• 1:22:50
  Speaker 2: might not have sold my fucking kitten heels. I'm sure
• 1:22:53
  Speaker 2: there's more kitten hills to be gotten.
• 1:22:54
  Speaker 3: I actually bought a clear pair of Kitten Hills two
• 1:22:57
  Speaker 3: years ago, and I've never did I did.
• 1:23:00
  Speaker 2: I was really trying. You know what, It's funny you
• 1:23:01
  Speaker 2: said that because I was in New York. I got confused.
• 1:23:03
  Speaker 2: One day, I was out and about and I didn't
• 1:23:05
  Speaker 2: want to go home because I was already in LA
• 1:23:07
  Speaker 2: and so I went to Target and bought a whole
• 1:23:08
  Speaker 2: new outfit. I think I met up with you that day.
• 1:23:10
  Speaker 2: I went to Target and I bought This was before
• 1:23:12
  Speaker 2: the Target boycott, by the way, guys, everyone relax, and
• 1:23:15
  Speaker 2: I bought a full gene outfit. It was cute and
• 1:23:17
  Speaker 2: it was really cute. I couldn't believe it. But then
• 1:23:19
  Speaker 2: I went to DSW because I was by the Beverly Center, Yes,
• 1:23:22
  Speaker 2: because it had Target and DSW like right there. So
• 1:23:24
  Speaker 2: I hit them both at once and I've been sleeping.
• 1:23:28
  Speaker 2: Wait is it DSW or what's the other one? No?
• 1:23:31
  Speaker 2: Nort and Rock. Oh that's a better one. That was
• 1:23:33
  Speaker 2: a better one. And I got these shoes that were pink,
• 1:23:36
  Speaker 2: and when I bought them, I was like, is this
• 1:23:39
  Speaker 2: heel high enough? And I wore it that night and
• 1:23:42
  Speaker 2: it was fine. But yesterday I went to go put
• 1:23:45
  Speaker 2: on these bright pink heels, and every time I fucking
• 1:23:47
  Speaker 2: put them on, I look in the mirror and I'm like,
• 1:23:50
  Speaker 2: these are kitten heels. I have fucking I bought fucking
• 1:23:52
  Speaker 2: kitten heels. If you're unsure, it's probably three and a
• 1:23:56
  Speaker 2: half inches. They're like this. They're like just above what
• 1:24:00
  Speaker 2: I thought kit and heel was. But no, get rid
• 1:24:03
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• 1:24:46
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, I'm living been so good, can't you sale. I
• 1:25:57
  Speaker 1: went through with drought.
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  Speaker 2: That's since till I find a well made my heaven
• 1:26:00
  Speaker 2: known earth.
• 1:26:01
  Speaker 1: I used to be broken, till now I got the
• 1:26:02
  Speaker 1: blues in to like Beyonce Jasell throat shot or Pop
• 1:26:06
  Speaker 1: in his cow wearing her voices patriarch get kept it
• 1:26:08
  Speaker 1: in the box.
• 1:26:09
  Speaker 2: To it's flota.
• 1:26:10
  Speaker 1: Women put the pee in powers so it's pointless. They
• 1:26:13
  Speaker 1: want me to be good, so I make bad choices.
• 1:26:15
  Speaker 1: Bad mom, not a bad mom, but a bad mom.
• 1:26:18
  Speaker 2: It he's in on. Put cannabis in.
• 1:26:20
  Speaker 1: Their bathbone walked in boscels cap and I blew his
• 1:26:22
  Speaker 1: cat boss hot dog.
• 1:26:24
  Speaker 2: Now I'm immune to.
• 1:26:25
  Speaker 1: The cat called Herbie in the waisted straight to it
• 1:26:27
  Speaker 1: like a dollar sign. Mother, rent the lover when two
• 1:26:30
  Speaker 1: with its like a water someone where you're rent the
• 1:26:31
  Speaker 1: winter essential will when the summertime.
• 1:26:34
  Speaker 2: I do what all ain't know. When I need to
• 1:26:35
  Speaker 2: run it by