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The Mouth "Verbal Tattooing" - Pastor Dave Cornell · Mount Eaton Church

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Well, it is great to be back here with you today.
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Sometimes I just have to say, okay, now what
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day is this? What church am I in, okay? I love
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being at Mount Eaton. I've got to tell you, I
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love Joe Cain. He is the real deal. He and I
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sat together at the Pregnancy Resource Banquet
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a month ago or so, and we just had a great time
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together. And I need to tell you, I did a baptism
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here January 3rd for three people who know me
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from kind of a previous life. And the church
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was gracious enough, Jody and Joe worked together,
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the church was gracious enough to open the baptistry
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for us. After worship practice, we were under
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there looking for why it was cold and the water
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was not. We had 40 people here for a private
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baptism, and Joe was here that day cleaning up.
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He's the real deal. I've been to churches all
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across this country. I was in our church, which
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is a church of about 300 for 38 years. Started
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a bunch of churches. I have kids all over the
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country. God has blessed you with a really good
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man. Period end. There's nothing I get from this,
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although you can think about that. He is the
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real deal. I want to tell you that. So I love
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Mount Eaton. I love coming here. Did a lot of
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work here in 22 until Joe at the installation
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service. Some of you remember that. And then
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he was here. I would be here to come to church,
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but I live in Stroudsburg. And we go to Mount
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Bethel Church down in Mount Bethel. That's my
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Scandinavian church, my wife's background. And
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I love what they're doing down there, but that's
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not my community. Just like I love what you're
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doing here, but this is not my community. I'm
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still committed to Stroudsburg and to all kinds
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of people there. I teach, I speak, I mentor a
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private foundation, visit a lot of older people.
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do more than my share of funerals at this point,
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but I'm really glad to be here with you. We're
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going to be talking about the mouth this morning,
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and there is an outline in your bulletin. I put
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the title on it as verbal tattooing. You could
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talk about it as words have power, whatever you
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kind of wish, but that's what we're going to
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be talking about. I'd like to read for us, before
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we go any further, kind of a parallel piece to,
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Owen, you didn't read Proverbs, did you? You
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did. I don't recall that. Okay. Maybe I was talking
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to Jody. I don't know. I'd like to read from
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James 3 and contrast that to the power of life
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and death is in the tongue. Compare and contrast
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it. James chapter 3, reading verses 1 through
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12. Let not many of you become teachers, my brethren,
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knowing that as such we will incur stricter judgment.
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For we all stumble in many ways. If anyone does
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not stumble in what he says, he is a perfect
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man, able to bridle the whole body as well. Now
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if we put the bits into horses' mouths so that
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they will obey us, we direct their entire body
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as well. Look at the ships also. Though they
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are so great and driven by strong winds, are
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still directed by a very small rudder whenever
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the inclination of the pilot desires. So also
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the tongue is a small part of the body, yet it
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boasts great things. See how great a forest is
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set aflame by such a small fire? And the tongue
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is a fire, the very world of iniquity. The tongue
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is set among our members as that which defiles
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the entire body and sets on fire the course of
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our life and is set on fire by hell. For every
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species of beasts and birds and reptiles and
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creatures of the sea is tamed and has been tamed
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by the human race. But no one can tame the tongue.
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It is a restless evil and full of deadly poison.
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With it we bless our Lord and Father, and with
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it we curse men who have been made in the likeness
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of God. From the same mouth come both blessing
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and cursing. My brethren, these things ought
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not to be this way. Does a fountain send out
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from the same opening both fresh and bitter water?
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Can a fig tree, my brethren, produce olives?
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Or a vine produce figs? Nor can salt water produce
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fresh. May God add his blessing. to His Word.
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Can we bow for just a word of prayer? Oh Lord
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God, we believe that this is in fact Your truth,
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Your Word, Your ideas put into written form.
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Lord, I thank You for that. I need that. I thank
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You for my friends here. Lord, I ask that You
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might take these faltering lips, this inadequate
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message, and Lord, that you might direct it by
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your Holy Spirit and use it in people's lives.
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I thank you for this church, and I thank you
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for the people. I pray you protect it and encourage
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it and use it as a lighthouse continually. For
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it's in Jesus' name we pray. Amen. Have you ever
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said something, and right after you said it,
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you wish you could take it back? Nobody, right?
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Ever sent an email or a text, put the send button,
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and you, oh no! Yeah, I know you can wipe it
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away, but guess what? It doesn't always happen.
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I was at an event recently, and I was talking
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with my wife and another woman, and a person
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came up who is severely challenged ethically.
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He wanted to connect, and I verbally kneecapped
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him. And then I was proud of myself, and then
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I was grieved. And now I have to apologize. I
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don't want to do that. Any one of you would say,
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if I gave you the background of this, off. He
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deserved it. He got what was coming to him. But
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that's not true because the Bible says, vengeance
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is mine, saith the Lord. And when you or I take
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vengeance on somebody, guess what we're doing?
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We're stealing from God. And I don't want to
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be in that category. We can remove tattoos. I've
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called this verbal tattooing. You can see that.
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We can remove tattoos, but we can't remove words.
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Not easily. Words express how we feel and how
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we think, don't they? They can hurt, and yet
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they can also heal. And today I would like to
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talk more about healing than hurting, but we're
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going to start with the first. Job said to his
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comforters in chapter 19, How long will you vex
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my soul and break me in pieces with words? Words
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matter, and being in the Lord's work all these
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years has made me acutely aware of the significance
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of not just people's words, but my words. Phrases
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assembled in my mind are understood by those
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who hear them through the grid of thousands of
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experiences, all sorts of backgrounds and personalities.
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A word, a tone, a gesture can mean so many different
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things to various people, things that maybe I
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don't want to communicate at all. If it were
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not for the truth of the Word of God and the
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presence of the Spirit, I couldn't speak. Friends,
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I know the power of words to wound. And maybe
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you have been wounded really badly or really
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recently. I don't know. But I also know the power
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of words to heal. And I'm so grateful for that.
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I have heard words so appropriate, so gracious,
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so timely, so loving, which have so wonderfully
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addressed the need of the moment that I'm speechless.
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That's why words are so important to God as well.
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Because our words carry impact, God holds us
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accountable for them, not only for the harmful,
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hurting ones that wound, but also for those that
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lack of them when they could heal, or their presence
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when they heal. Now there's a teaching outline
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in your bulletin, and here's the idea. Living
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wisely means speaking wisely. And this is taken
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from James, because James is the only book of
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wisdom in the New Testament. And I would like
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to consider this morning how James contrasts
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and compares to Proverbs 18 .21. The power of
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life and death is in the tongue. So think with
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me. James 3 is a primer on, first of all, the
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seriousness of negative words. And he outlines
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five principles, if you look at those first six
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verses, to show their gravity. I'm going to take
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this from James 3, verses 1 through 5 and 6,
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okay? He says, we all stumble. Yeah, we do. I
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do, regularly. Stumble indicates that the words
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that I use when they're negative are immature.
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That's the idea. If any person does not stumble,
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he is a full or complete or mature person, not
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sinless. And who has not felt the piercings of
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negative words, right? Maybe false words, maybe
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even true words. but certainly unkind and inconsiderate.
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Stumble indicates that these words are words
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of immaturity. Words may seem small, and he uses
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the idea of a horse's bit or a rudder for a ship,
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small in comparison to a larger situation, but
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that masks their significance. That's the missing
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word. Words seem really small, but that masks
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their significance. Termites are really tiny
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too, but they are a terror. Someone was telling
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me that the pillars on the support beams down
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in the basement of the church over there were
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taken out because of powder beetles. How about
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that? Words can shower sparks, missing word,
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that create big problems. Maybe it's a lust for
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gossip. Maybe it's a shading of the conversation
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show you or I come across as being better, more
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significant, and more appropriate than we are.
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Shading conversations can really lead to trouble.
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In James 3, verse 6, the source of sinful speech
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is indicated as evil or hell. Jode Stoll, a great
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exposer, calls them the dynamite in our dentures.
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And you know what? And I've done this. Maybe
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you have. Our words can switch from poison to
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pious in a moment, can't they? But God is not
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fooled. Matthew 12, verse 34 says, Out of the
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abundance of the heart the mouth speaketh. Proverbs
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12, 18 expands on this at the top of your outline.
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Reckless words pierce like a sword, but the tongue
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of the wise brings healing. How many of you have
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ever gone on a fishing boat out of New Jersey,
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beyond land, getting bass or bluefish or something
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like that? Anybody done that? All right, a few
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of you. You know what happens when you get the
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fish, you give them to the mate afterwards, and
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he fillets them, right? And the boat is pitching,
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sometimes a lot more than you want it to. The
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boat's rocking, and the mate's filleting the
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fish on the back end. And that knife is, and
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you think, oh man, this guy's, he's got his hand
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like this and he's cutting like that. That knife
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is really, really, really sharp. And that's better
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than not because you don't want to try to do
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that twice or struggle with it. You want to do
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it cleanly and neatly and not cut your finger.
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Words can cut like knives or like box cutters
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or like a sharp knife slicing open flesh. That
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gains our attention. The truth is that all too
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many people, and all too many of us, me included,
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have spoken at times with daggers, who have box
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cutter -like conversations, people who would
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never think of drawing a knife and slashing it
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across a stomach or a face or a hand. And God
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gives that picture in order to draw our attention
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to it. It's an image. It's an image the Bible
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wants us to have as it speaks of the seriousness
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of false, maybe brutally honest, or slanderous,
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or malicious speech. and I am personally grieved
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at my own part in this, and yet personal discomfort
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should not prevent me from speaking it just because
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I'm uncomfortable. Someone asked me, I won't
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tell you who it was, but someone asked me, are
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you preaching to us or are you preaching to yourself?
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And you know what the answer is? I'm preaching
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to myself. And if God uses that in your soul,
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great, glad to hear it. But this message is a
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message for me, and I believe for you. And it's
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what God laid on my heart several months ago
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when Joe asked if I'd speak today. Now the Bible
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does not say that no man can tame the tongue
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to make us miserable and hopeless. But so that
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we might know this, that self -effort cannot
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cure us. We must have the indwelling control
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of the Lord. In other words, as you see here,
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our evil cannot be self -managed. That's the
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idea. Either Christ controls us or the venom
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of self will. It's not to make us hopeless. And
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I would say right away, right at the beginning
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of the message, if you're here this morning and
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you don't know where you stand with Christ, where
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you stand with God, then I would urge you, take
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a few minutes and come to the place that I did
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when I was a sophomore in college, 20 years,
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a lot more than 20 years ago. Hey, watch that.
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I'm talking about speech here. That's not nice.
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Oh, man, what a crowd. I was 20 years old. And
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a friend of mine had become a believer. Great
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guy. He'd been a wild man. Great guy. And we
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got together the next year, sophomore year, and
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I said to him, hey, we're both athletes. And
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I said, hey, Don, what's with you? You're different.
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You're still a great guy. He said, Dave, I've
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begun a relationship with God through Jesus Christ.
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Can I share that with you? I said, yeah. And
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he shared with me a gospel pamphlet. I wasn't
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ready to sign on, but I thought about it. I thought
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about it a long time, months. Finally, one night,
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I became convinced that the resurrection of Jesus
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was real. And if I was trying to manage and direct
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my life myself, I was a fool. And so that night
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where I lived, I knelt down where I lived and
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I said, Lord, I believe that you rose from the
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dead. And I want to entrust my life to you. I
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believe you died for me and rose from me. Nothing
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special happened that night except that I became
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a Christian, a follower of Christ. And if you're
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not sure where you are, where you stand with
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God, before this day is out, take some time and
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say, oh God, and mean it. If you don't mean it,
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God won't take it. Oh Lord, I want to trust my
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life to you. I want to make sure that I'm rightly
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related to you. You will not regret it. We must
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have the indwelling control of the Lord. And
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while transforming our tongues requires supernatural
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strength, God has made some real solid resources
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available to us. These resources are called the
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truth or the armor of God. The first piece of
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armor that God gives us is truth. The Bible teaches
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that truth is our source of spiritual energy.
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That's why Joe is a great Bible teacher. I've
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got to tell you, he's wonderful. I love listening
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to him. He knows the Word, and he's committed
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to giving it to you. And by the way, he leaves
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it all out in the field. He deserves that break
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that you as a congregation have given to him.
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I hope he comes back refreshed. And as we discover
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and process God's word, the indwelling spirit
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of Jesus, the Holy Spirit, transforms truth into
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growth and growth into a pattern of managing
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life by the strength of God. And so God has blessed
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us with a wealth of truth when it comes to having
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positive speech and managing the tongue. And
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here is the good news. That little member of
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our body, that's going to eat the pizza, is just
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as able to heal as it is to wound. And that is
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what I think we want to focus on today. How do
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I have that? I'd like to emphasize speaking helpfully,
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not negatively. Many of the best instructions
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for us are given in Proverbs, and so I'll quote
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liberally from that. So what does Scripture say
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about the power of positive words? We're going
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to take a look at their marks, number one, and
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their makings, number two. So first of all, their
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marks. What are they? Well, they are honest.
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Righteous lips, Proverbs says, are a delight
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of kings. What does that mean? It means right
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means straight. I'll be straight with you, honest
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with you. Healing words may be words of reproof.
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You know what? I had a guy in my church, about
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every year and a half, he'd come to me and say,
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Dave, I need to talk to you about this. And it
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stung, but he was right, and it helped me. Righteous
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words may be words of reproof, or words that
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excise, cut out the problem, or spiritual infection
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in our lives, and then allow real growth to occur.
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Proverbs 27 .6 says, Faithful are the wounds
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of a friend, but deceitful are the kisses of
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an enemy. That is really true. A true friend
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will carefully but occasionally say, you know
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what? You need to understand this. You need to
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hear this. I'm risking our relationship. You
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need to hear this. Proverbs 17 .10 says this
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as a balancer, though, a counter. A rebuke goes
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into a wise man a hundred times deeper than into
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a fool. That means be really careful if and when
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you rebuke somebody. Be careful. Secondly, not
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only will they be apt, they will be few. Proverbs
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17 .8 makes the point. Even a fool can be mistaken
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as being wise if he says nothing. In other words,
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the less said, the less that can be used against
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you. And for a neighbor's good, fewer words may
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maintain a friendship. In other words, don't
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show up in their house, call them on the phone,
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text them and email them all the time. Did I
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hurt anybody's feelings with that? I don't know
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of anybody here doing that. I don't. When words
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are many, Proverbs 10 .19, transgression is not
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lacking. James 1 .17 says, let everyone be quick
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to hear, slow to speak, slow to anger. That is
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the best counseling verse I know. Thirdly, they
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will be calm. Healing words are calm. Sparing
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use of words is commended as the mark of a cool
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spirit in Proverbs 17. And that often denotes
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a person of understanding, wisdom, and grace.
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Why? It allows for a fair hearing. Your parents,
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I have six children. I know something about being
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a parent and something about making mistakes.
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I learned hard you better not accuse your kids
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of something if you don't have all the facts.
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It's very easy to come to a prejudicial conclusion.
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Calm words allow for a fair hearing. They allow
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tempers to cool, and its influence is potent.
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Comfort is a ministry of the Holy Spirit. and
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the people in which he lives, those who belong
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to Christ. Comfort or soothing has a sense of
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to soften or loosen to it. You can read about
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that in Ecclesiastes and in Revelation 22 too,
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where it says, and the leaves of the tree were
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for the therapy or the healing of the nations.
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Proverbs 15 .4 says, a wholesome tongue is a
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tree of life. It bears and supports lots of good
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things, but a false lying tongue wounds. Think
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about what you would like in a friend. I've had
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some great friends across my life. I still have
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a bunch of them. Think about what you'd want
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in a friend. You want someone who's encouraging,
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right? Someone who shares solid perspective when
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asked. By the way, don't give advice unless you're
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asked, or unless you're asked to preach. Paul
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Tournier, a great old Christian medical doctor
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from Switzerland, said this. Unsolicited advice
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is really criticism in disguise. That's a potent
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statement. Think about what you'd like in a friend.
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Someone who shares an encouraging perspective,
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a solid perspective when they're asked, who perceives
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need when it's present, who restrains themselves
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even when provoked. You know what? There's not
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a lot of good said about passion. in Scripture.
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In fact, it says passion is rottenness to the
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bones. I know it's a big cultural word now. Everybody
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has passion. There's a passion for that, a passion
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for the next thing. Not a lot of good said about
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passion. A lot of good said about calmness and
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comfort. What does a friend like that feel like?
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It feels really good, especially in a time of
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need. Not a sharp tongue, but a soothing tongue.
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Sharp is made to cut. Soothing is made to comfort.
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Fourthly, they'll be apt. They are honest, few,
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calm, and apt. A right answer is crafted with
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love and thought to the need of the moment and
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given with grace. Like apples of gold and settings
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of silver, as the proverb says, which is quoted
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by Abraham Lincoln in his second inaugural address
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and carved in stone in Washington. Aptness, the
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words of a good person, a good friend, a good
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companion, a good Christian are a tree of life.
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Think about what a large fruit or nut tree, like
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a hickory tree. A lot of shagbark hickory around
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here. I mentioned this is the first service.
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Hickory nuts, great food, good for you. Terrific
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wood for building or supporting or beams, mine
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timbers, houses, etc. And great for burning fires.
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It's supportive, nourishing, encouraging, warm.
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Proverbs 15, 4 say, a good man finds his words
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bearing fruit. both in the good that comes back
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to him as well as the benefits which accrue to
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others. Fifthly, they'll be timely words. Oh,
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this is really important. To speak a word in
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season to him that is weary. In season means
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at the appropriate time. Feelings can be lacerated
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by a clumsy or a cruel thrust. Chapter 18, verse
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14. On the other hand, they may be revitalized
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by a timely word. Their sweetness to the soul,
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Proverbs 16, 24. Timely. I wouldn't be a bit
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surprised if every one of us has someone come
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across the orbit of our life this week who gives
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to us that sense of this person really needs
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a lift today. God allows that in his sovereignty,
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and God uses us in our preparedness for that.
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Next, they are grace -filled words. Colossians
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4, 6 says, let your speech be seasoned with grace
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as it were with salt, that you might know how
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to respond to the need of the moment. You know,
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you'll come across people, maybe this week, they've
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lost their job. Their child has really strayed.
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There's an impending divorce. The ex is doing
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awful things. Maybe they lost a family member.
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Maybe their finances are shattered. How do you
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speak? How do you speak when you come across
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a situation like that? Do you say, oh, you know,
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whenever God closes a window, he opens a door?
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You know what that is? That's Christian blather.
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Yeah, blather. In other words, something trite,
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which sounds like Christian speak or Christianese,
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but it literally has no thought behind it at
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all. Or do we pause? Do we digest the importance
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of this moment to that person and then try to
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be supportive? in that moment, in a way that
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gives them more hope and strength than they had
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previously. You know, I know Joe's going to be
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gone this week and going to be out of town. If
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you'd like, I can come over and take care of
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the baby so you can go food shopping so that
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when he comes home, you don't have to do that.
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You can spend that time with him. Okay? Those
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are the marks of healing speech. How are they
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made? How are they produced? Well, having Christ
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in your life, Lord of your life, your God, Savior,
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is the starting point because then the moment
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you trust Him, His Spirit comes to indwell your
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life. And He wants to use your life and my life.
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Speak through us and use us. He wants people,
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He wants the world to recognize that we're children
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of our Heavenly Father by the way we act, by
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the way we speak, by the way we be, by the priorities
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we set, by the way we use our money and so forth.
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So I need to have Christ in me, His Spirit living
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within me. And second line, need to live out
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Colossians 3 .8. Put aside anger, wrath, malice,
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slander. Let no abusive speech come from my heart
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through my mouth. It comes from my heart. It's
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an ongoing process. And I blow it regularly.
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Typically in my life, I like to make funnies.
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And sometimes they don't come across as funny.
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They're useless. So the old timers, that's more
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than me. For all those of you who have left.
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Middle ages and on. Used to call this the mortification
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of the flesh. The putting to death that flesh
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that I want to put me first. And wisdom is the
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guiding principle. And wisdom comes from putting
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the Lord first. The fear of the Lord is the beginning
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of wisdom. The deep respect. Not my feelings.
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The fear of the Lord is the beginning of wisdom.
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That means I want what I say to please the one
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who I call God. And so I'm aware that the words
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I utter will be recorded. Then when I set aside
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my feelings and ask God to do the driving of
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my life, his wisdom helps to discriminate whether
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to speak and when to speak and how to say it.
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It's not enough, friends, just to refrain from
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speaking, to zip the lip, right? That's not good
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enough. That's kind of like the citizen. You
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know, you don't go to prison if you are a citizen
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and you obey the laws. As long as you don't break
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the law, they're not going to arrest you, I don't
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think, and put you in jail. But in God's kingdom,
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that's not enough. It's not enough just to not
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do the wrong. In God's kingdom, James says, Him
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who knows what to do, what is right to do, and
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does it not, it's sin, right? We're to do what's
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right in God's sight as well. It's not enough
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to simply refrain from speaking, to not show
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the poison that's under my tongue. Rather, the
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mind of the righteous ponders how to answer,
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Proverbs 15, 28. But the mind of the wicked pours
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out evil things. Bad, harmful, miserable, troublesome
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things. Isaiah 50, verse 4 says, The Lord has
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given me the tongue. of the trained or the disciple,
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that I may know how to sustain the weary one
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with a word. All this being said, words have
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weaknesses also. Words are no substitute for
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deeds. They cannot alter facts. Brazen denials
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and emotional excuses will have no impact to
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God. They cannot compel a response. The Bible
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says in Proverbs 29, 19, a servant is not disciplined
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by mere words. Though he understands what you're
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saying, he will not give heed. You know what
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that sounds like? My kids. And yours. There's
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got to be some discipline behind it. Sorry, that's
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old school. Okay, lastly, what hinders healing
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words? What contributes to a scorching tongue?
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If the tongue of the wise brings health, it's
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the unregulated and undisciplined that scorch
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and hurt. So here's what hinders it. Number one,
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speaking without thought or consideration. Number
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two, giving momentary relief to our feelings,
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making feel good for the minute, for piercings,
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to speaking cautiously without thought. There
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are some of us who do not bridle our verboseness
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and probably should. That means too talkative
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if you don't know what verboseness is. Versus
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the tongue of the wise is gentle and brings comfort.
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Thirdly, here's a nourishing my inner martyr.
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Do any of you have an inner martyr? Oh, man,
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I can't believe what they did to us, what he
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did to me, what she did to me. An employer, a
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church, leadership, spouse, child, parent, you
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name it. Nourishing your inner martyr won't help
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you produce healing words. What prevents me from
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having a healing tongue? What experience? Is
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it the scars that I bear that are too difficult
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to touch and make me unpleasant? You know what
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they say? Hurt people hurt people. Is it painful
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discomfort with myself that causes me to constantly
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compare myself to others? What is the healing
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the Bible speaks of and do I really want it?
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Or do I recklessly want what I want regardless?
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Do I want to think about the one who controls
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my tongue and controls what I write about online?
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Who is in control? really shows where I am with
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God. Ephesians 4 .21 says, let no unwholesome
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word, that word is the word sapros, S -A -P -R
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-O -S. We get our word sap from it. Now other
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than maple syrup and maybe birch bark, have any
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of you ever tasted the sap of a tree when you
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were kids? Broken twigs? It's bitter. That's
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where you get this word sap from, sapros. Let
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no bitter word, no unwholesome word proceed out
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of your mouth. How many of you have gardens and
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you raise tomatoes? Anybody? Got any tomatoes
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yet? Any ripe tomatoes yet? What happens when
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you get a nice, big, fat, juicy beefsteak, ripe
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tomato, and you put it somewhere in the kitchen,
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who knows where? And you put it there, and you
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forget about it, and it begins to... What does
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it smell like? It stinks! That's what God's talking
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about. Let no unwholesome... bitter word. It's
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literally used as spoiled fish, decayed trees,
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and rotten fruit. Something that smells and tastes
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bad. In each case, it's something which should
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nourish or be helpful, but which has quietly
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rotted its way into being garbage and being thrown
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out. Here's the last one, mental laziness. Too
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often we want to give the least costly answer
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in terms of time and thought. an emotional connection.
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And so we give a Christianese answer, like I
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talked about earlier, something that sounds spiritual,
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but holds little substantive truth. Well, I have,
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I've run out of gas. And I would say to you,
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that's of God, because you've heard enough. Now
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you're faced, and I am faced with a choice. I
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need to consciously say, Lord, I want you to
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be the Lord of my mouth, not just to prevent
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the venom from coming out, but so that you can
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use my mouth to bless people. Will you do that?
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Let's pray. Lord, I thank you for this church.
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I thank you for these people who have come on
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a hot Sunday to listen to your word. And I pray,
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Lord, I ask you to help these ideas and these
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words resonate, ricochet through their minds,
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Lord. And I ask you, Lord, that for the people
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who right now are asking you to take control
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of their responses so that they are apt and calm
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and few and timely and grace -filled. Oh, Lord,
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might you bless their lives. And through that,
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bless lots of others in this church and out of
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it. And we'll give you all the glory in Jesus'
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name. Amen.