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People Are Burned Out On Dating Chasing To Chosen From Kelsey Gaudreault · Arroe Collins Like It's Live

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Speaker 2: Hi, good money.
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Speaker 2: I'm amazing?
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Speaker 1: and you'll be amazing. And so when I hear you
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Speaker 1: do it, I'm going she did that much more and
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Speaker 1: she is amazing.
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Speaker 2: Oh my gosh, I love that. Yeah, that is really
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Speaker 2: how I want to live my life, like, I just
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Speaker 2: want to be happy. That's really the goal.
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Speaker 1: Right, Well, you're bringing people closer together with this book.
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Speaker 1: Oh my god. If this doesn't speak this street, how
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Speaker 1: did you get the courage to do that?
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Speaker 2: Oh my gosh. Yeah, I'm not gonna lie. I'm totally
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Speaker 2: in this moment where I'm like, holy moly, the book
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Speaker 2: is out, people are reading this, what's gonna happen? It
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Speaker 2: looked really scary. Honestly, it was really scary, but also
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Speaker 2: really exciting because I do know it's going to be
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Speaker 2: life changing. But yeah, it's definitely not easy putting yourself
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Speaker 2: out in the world like that either.
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Speaker 1: Right, Yeah, because we've entered this stage. I know that
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Speaker 1: way back in because I've been married for thirty two years.
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Speaker 1: The thing is is that way back in those days,
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Speaker 1: we didn't have the internet, we didn't have apps, We
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Speaker 1: had to actually do the physical work to get into
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Speaker 1: a relationship. And you're really kind of opening up that
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Speaker 1: door when it comes to the framework and agility of
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Speaker 1: what the dating market is presently, Like.
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Speaker 2: Yeah, yeah, I would say it's kind of a mess
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Speaker 2: right now with a lot of people.
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Speaker 1: Wow, is that the reason why people are choosing to
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Speaker 1: have groups of friends rather than having a relationship then?
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Speaker 1: Because it is so tough, I would say so.
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Speaker 2: And I think a lot of people are choosing to
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Speaker 2: not even date anymore. I think that, you know, we're
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Speaker 2: just seeing like a really big culmination of exactly about
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Speaker 2: like there's so many options, so many ops. And I
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Speaker 2: think that a lot of people have a lot of
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Speaker 2: unprocessed trauma. And I think that we're starting to realize
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Speaker 2: that and we're starting to recognize like, hey, wow, it
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Speaker 2: is not got easy to build a relationship with somebody else.
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Speaker 2: But then we see people like yourself who have done
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Speaker 2: thirty years like that's amazing, right, Like that truly is incredible.
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Speaker 2: So that's something that our generation is missing for sure.
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Speaker 1: Well, I think it all starts with and I'm such
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Speaker 1: a freak on this is that when when I see
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Speaker 1: people in public holding on too hands, I as loud
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Speaker 1: as I can to get everybody's attention. I'll go, that's
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Speaker 1: why people stay married thirty plus years. They're holding onto
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Speaker 1: hands and they're not afraid to do it in public.
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Speaker 1: And what it is, it's something so freaking simple, and
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Speaker 1: they're thinking that that's how you get to thirty two years. Yeah,
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Speaker 1: because it's a relationship. It's talking, it's sharing, it's laughing,
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Speaker 1: it's disagreeing, and you're giving us an eye opening experience
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Speaker 1: inside your book saying hey, look it doesn't have to
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Speaker 1: be what you think it is. Because three percent of
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Speaker 1: the people say, I don't believe in this anymore. I
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Speaker 1: got burnout. Well let's change it. Then, let's work and
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Speaker 1: get these people growing forward. And it's taking you to
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Speaker 1: open that door exactly one hundred percent.
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Speaker 2: Yeah, And I think what's really happening too is we
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Speaker 2: need to have a lot of compassion. Like everyone is
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Speaker 2: so scared of being hurt, but the second that they
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Speaker 2: see one there's one little disagreement, one thing like you
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Speaker 2: just mentioned, you know, there's there's gonna be conversations, there's
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Speaker 2: got to be disagreements, there's going to be deep, real intimacy.
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Speaker 2: People see one little thing and instantly it's like oh
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Speaker 2: my flags throw them out the door, and it's like
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Speaker 2: whoa hold happen? Like we're all human beings. There's someone
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Speaker 2: for each and every single one of us. We all
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Speaker 2: need to actually learn to love each other.
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Speaker 1: Yeah yeah, and just turn it into a song like
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Speaker 1: Sea and Taylor Swift, They'll turn it into a song.
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Speaker 1: If I have a bad relationship, turn it into a song.
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Speaker 2: Oh oh my gosh. Yeah, I mean, and this is
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Speaker 2: the issue, right, I think that we're all just conditioned
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Speaker 2: to uh from childhood with the new the heart break news,
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Speaker 2: and you know, my thirteen year old stepdaughter brings up
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Speaker 2: like songs where I'm cheating and I'm like, oh my goodness,
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Speaker 2: Like we are not listening to the radio. This is insane.
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Speaker 2: Like there's just so much in the air and so
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Speaker 2: much out there that I think has everyone just so
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Speaker 2: scared to open their hearts fully and love and be loved.
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Speaker 1: So now, do you actually believe that that that love
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Speaker 1: is not earned? Is is it something you grow into?
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Speaker 1: Is it something that you you shape, I mean, what
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Speaker 1: is what is your belief inside your heart?
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Speaker 2: Yeah, I definitely think that, you know, I think that
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Speaker 2: we are each time we've seen on one of us
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Speaker 2: like really the embodiment of love, Like we are love
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Speaker 2: and we are here to love. And I don't actually
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Speaker 2: think that we're supposed to withhold any of that. I
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Speaker 2: tell my clients all the time, like, when you're in
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Speaker 2: love with someone, yes, of course you can feel their
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Speaker 2: feelings of love, but more than anything, you are feeling
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Speaker 2: your own feeling of love towards this person, Right, So
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Speaker 2: that experience of being in love when we hold ourselves back,
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Speaker 2: when we, you know, have these crazy high standards that
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Speaker 2: no one can reach, which is really just this like
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Speaker 2: really sneaky protection mechanism to not be hurt. But when
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Speaker 2: we do all of these games and we do all
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Speaker 2: of these things, what we're really doing is just preventing
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Speaker 2: ourselves from feeling that really deep love that's already present
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Speaker 2: ourselves that wants to be expressed. Right. So, yeah, I
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Speaker 2: think that there's work involved in creating a really beautiful relationship,
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Speaker 2: but I don't think that there's any work for any
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Speaker 2: of us to just love freely and love openly, and
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Speaker 2: then it's up to us to create the proper parameters
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Speaker 2: for a proper relationship that right, like that, standards, the boundaries,
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Speaker 2: things like that. But most people aren't even willing to
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Speaker 2: just open our heart to love.
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Speaker 1: Well, am I be in a real butt head when
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Speaker 1: people say, oh, man, I broke up. Good, that's fine,
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Speaker 1: find out find out what your borderlines are right now,
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Speaker 1: and when you get back together, which you will, then
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Speaker 1: you're gonna look at that borderline that you just created
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Speaker 1: and you say, we're not going there. But but yeah,
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Speaker 1: if you if you know, ah, we broke up, Okay, good,
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Speaker 1: I'm glad. Okay, now let's grow now, Okay that you
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Speaker 1: just learned what what what?
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Speaker 2: You know?
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Speaker 1: What is right? What is wrong? Now? Grow?
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Speaker 2: Yeah? Yeah, but you know right though that I think
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Speaker 2: that that's such a beautiful perspective, But most people don't
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Speaker 2: have that. Right the second that they get hurt, they
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Speaker 2: go through that breakup boom, yeah, shut down, they don't
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Speaker 2: want to do it anymore, right. Yeah.
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Speaker 1: I blame that on rom comms, I really do. Because
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Speaker 1: everybody thinks that there's gonna be a happy song somewhere
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Speaker 1: in the middle of the breakup and then they're all
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Speaker 1: going to get back together again and say, quit waiting
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Speaker 1: for the movie make your own story.
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Speaker 2: Totally. I love that, Yeah, totally. Yeah. And I talked
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Speaker 2: about online, like my relationship, we had to go through
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Speaker 2: uh some separations in order to really grow as individuals
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Speaker 2: and really figure out who we were. And I think
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Speaker 2: that that's really what made our love so strong, was
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Speaker 2: the fact that we consistently just keep choosing each other
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Speaker 2: even when it can be challenging at times, because you know,
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Speaker 2: we're all so in We've had so many different backgrounds
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Speaker 2: and lifestyles and beliefs and all the things. It's not.
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Speaker 2: I don't want to say that it has to be hard,
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Speaker 2: but like it's not, it does require a willingness to grow.
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Speaker 1: Like you said, yeah, please do not move. We've got
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Speaker 1: more with Kelsey Goodrow coming up next the name of
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Speaker 1: her book, Chasing Two Chosen. We are back with Love
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Speaker 1: Expert Kelsey Goudreau. You bring up something I've never heard
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Speaker 1: of before, but I really want people to dig deep
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Speaker 1: into it because you're You're confident enough, and you're also
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Speaker 1: very transparent. When it comes to the black cat backlash.
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Speaker 1: I never heard of it, but boy, it is an
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Speaker 1: eye opener.
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Speaker 2: Yeah, that whole It's funny because in the book we
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Speaker 2: have to really reference that it's like a social media trend,
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Speaker 2: right because obviously if someone reads this book fifty years
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Speaker 2: from now, they're going to be like, what the heck,
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Speaker 2: what's a black fuck? But it's just like it's so
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Speaker 2: so wounded for anyone's listening. It's so wounded. Right. It's
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Speaker 2: like women are so scared of just loving so openly
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Speaker 2: that they've decided that they want to be this black
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Speaker 2: cat and they want to play this game to pretend
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Speaker 2: that they're really cold and they don't care that they
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Speaker 2: can they can have like create this golden retriever boyfriend.
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Speaker 2: That's the whole dynamic, right, And that's so crazy to me, Like,
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Speaker 2: first of all, why are we a lay behind ourselves
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Speaker 2: like your man as a golden retriever. And now there's
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Speaker 2: a whole thing. I'm an orange cat, not a black cat,
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Speaker 2: or my men's a Golberman, not in cold. And it's like,
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Speaker 2: oh my goodnes's okay. But it's really just it's wounds,
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Speaker 2: and it's games and it's strategies. It's all these like
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Speaker 2: subtle strategies to try to feel safe because if your
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Speaker 2: man is like a quote unquote golden retriever, she doesn't
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Speaker 2: have to worry, right because he's like a puppy dog
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Speaker 2: following her around and she can feel safe in that.
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Speaker 2: That's not love. Like, those are games, And what people
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Speaker 2: don't realize is that if you're playing and you'se egoic
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Speaker 2: to get love, well, it's gonna be some sort of
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Speaker 2: weird surface level. It's not love, right, it's ego it's games.
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Speaker 2: It maybe gives us cool illusion, yeah, that you have
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Speaker 2: a man who's chasing you, But that's what the intimacy
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Speaker 2: that you and your wife have after thirty two years, right, Like,
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Speaker 2: that's not what that creates.
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Speaker 1: No, you get inventive. I mean it's like today we've
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Speaker 1: got a date night or our date day is what
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Speaker 1: we're gonna have. So we're gonna you know, movie theaters
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Speaker 1: nowadays have a restaurants and stuff in them, So we're
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Speaker 1: gonna go and get food at the restaurant and go
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Speaker 1: watch the movie. Michael, and we're old people and we
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Speaker 1: still take freaking dates. Man.
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Speaker 2: I love that. Yeah, I love that. She's a lucky lady.
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Speaker 2: Like that's the way I'm not. We're all just so simple, right,
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Speaker 2: we just want, yeah, like to be loved out, loud,
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Speaker 2: held hands, go on dates, listen to each other, support
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Speaker 2: each other. It's really not hard when you think about it.
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Speaker 1: No, but you you bring up something here that God,
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Speaker 1: my heart like stopped when I when I read about it,
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Speaker 1: the mere pattern, because it's like, okay, okay, we all
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Speaker 1: know of it, but we don't speak of it. Oh
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Speaker 1: but here comes Kelsey, she's got we're going to talk
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Speaker 1: about it, and all of a sudden, now it's out there.
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Speaker 2: M Yeah, yeah. I do a lot of the work
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Speaker 2: on like the mirroring and the patterns and what we see.
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Speaker 2: But it's pretty like, you know, if we say, I
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Speaker 2: think that our world is really ready, like even just
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Speaker 2: the kids. We're talking about gas arting and psychology and
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Speaker 2: all these different things, but I feel like we're ready.
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Speaker 2: But relationships really are just here to mirror what's going
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Speaker 2: on internally, and a lot of what we're perceiving is
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Speaker 2: really just projection, right, And a lot of our relationship
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Speaker 2: like that in my book and in my world, the
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Speaker 2: masculine energy which we all have is really responding to
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Speaker 2: the feminine. So our relationship really mirrors where we're meant
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Speaker 2: to grow. And even Carl Young talks about this, like
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Speaker 2: the whole goal of a relationship is to make the
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Speaker 2: unconscious conscious. So everything that's not seen become seen. Right,
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Speaker 2: Like you're you're with your partner and you're grumpy after
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Speaker 2: a day of work. Well, your partner's gonna they're gonna
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Speaker 2: tell you, they're gonna bring it up, They're gonna mirror
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Speaker 2: it back to you, and you go, you're gonna go, oh, yeah, shoot,
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Speaker 2: I am kind of a jerk when I found a
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Speaker 2: really long day at work. Why do I do that? Right?
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Speaker 2: So it's kind of beautiful, Like again, if we can
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Speaker 2: look at things just through this and you said it
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Speaker 2: this gross like this growth mindset relationships out a place
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Speaker 2: where we can grow the most.
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Speaker 1: So are you like me being an outsider? You do.
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Speaker 1: You'll kind of set things up almost like an instigator
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Speaker 1: or an enabler in the way of you'll ask a
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Speaker 1: question just to test how how deep the relationship is.
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Speaker 1: Because I'll be because I work at a grocery store
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Speaker 1: and we have these these fuel prices and stuff, and
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Speaker 1: I'll sit there and say, wow, with your current fuel
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Speaker 1: price points, here you have thirty five gallons at a
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Speaker 1: dollar off. I said, the two of you can go
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Speaker 1: and share the gas. And when they tell me, oh,
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Speaker 1: I'll take my car, I'm going you ain't working. This
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Speaker 1: is over. You should be sharing that gasoline. In this
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Speaker 1: day of four dollars a gallon and more, you got
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Speaker 1: to be sharing that gasoline. Man, Now I see a relationship.
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Speaker 1: Do you play games like that too to measure the depth?
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Speaker 2: Well, I don't know. My whole thing is not playing games.
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Speaker 2: I don't know that I play games, but I think
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Speaker 2: that I naturally am a disruptor. Naturally. Yeah, I tell
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Speaker 2: you out to try. Like, people come into my road
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Speaker 2: and it's funny, like I'll go, I'll meet couples and
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Speaker 2: then next thing, you know, they're telling me these deep
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Speaker 2: secrets and all these things. I'm like, oh my goodness,
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Speaker 2: I can't help it though, it just happens naturally.
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Speaker 1: How do you feel about overgiving? Oh my god, somebody's
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Speaker 1: always got to be the overgiver.
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Speaker 2: Yeah, you know, it's really like it's I do have
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Speaker 2: a whole chapter about that in my book. And it's
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Speaker 2: really it's tough because you know, I remember a client
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Speaker 2: once was like, well, I do this and then I
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Speaker 2: do the dishes and all these things. I'm like, why
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Speaker 2: can't they just do that for me? And I stopped
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Speaker 2: and I was like, whoa hold on, are we doing
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Speaker 2: all those things? We want to do all those things?
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Speaker 2: Or are you doing all those things because you want
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Speaker 2: them to do it too? And instantly I saw like
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Speaker 2: the light bulb moment and it was like, oh, I'm
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Speaker 2: doing that so that I can be loved in that
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Speaker 2: way as well, So you right right, yeah, yeah, And
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Speaker 2: it's really hard to recognize that because then we realize,
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Speaker 2: oh my goodness, all that giving that I'm putting out
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Speaker 2: I'm trying to get, trying to get something is a
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Speaker 2: really distorted energy, right, And it's like I don't like
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Speaker 2: the word people that like this word, but it is
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Speaker 2: kind of a manipulation. It's like, if I love you
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Speaker 2: so much, then you're going to love me too. No, no, no,
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Speaker 2: why don't you take all that love that you were
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Speaker 2: trying to throw out there to try to somehow get
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Speaker 2: them to love you back, love yourself, pouring to yourself,
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Speaker 2: and let the right people come and love you. Because
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Speaker 2: when you're overgiving, you're depleted, you're resentful, you're bitter, you're angry,
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Speaker 2: you're all these things. We need to break that pattern.
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Speaker 2: Take all that love, pour it into yourself, take a
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Speaker 2: bas take care of yourself, go to the gym right like,
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Speaker 2: stop over extending yourself trying to get some sort of
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Speaker 2: love outside of yourself, and trust that you're already full
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Speaker 2: of love because now you're finally pouring it back into yourself.
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Speaker 2: And the right person who's going to want to love you,
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Speaker 2: Not because you did all these crazy things for them
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Speaker 2: at drill forty five minutes and picked up their laundry
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Speaker 2: and whatever. No, they're going to love you because they
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Speaker 2: want to love you. The more simple, the.
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Speaker 1: More and more I dug into your chapter on overgiving,
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Speaker 1: I mean the more and more because I take notes
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Speaker 1: while I write. I don't care what book it is,
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Speaker 1: I'm always going to take notes. And what I pinned
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Speaker 1: out while going through that was that the overgiver is
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Speaker 1: the one that thinks they are the sunshine when in reality,
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Speaker 1: and this is what I got from reading, when in
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Speaker 1: reality they are the shadow. They're not the sunshine. They
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Speaker 1: are the shadow. And it's like, okay, we got to
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Speaker 1: get that person back to being the sunshine without thinking that,
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Speaker 1: Oh I did this, I did this, I did this,
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Speaker 1: I did this. Oh but it didn't have a payoff
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Speaker 1: the shadow So it just really am You open people's
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Speaker 1: minds and heart so well that you put them in
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Speaker 1: a position of where they have to answer their own questions.
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Speaker 2: Yeah, yeah, I do love that. It's really shadowy, and
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Speaker 2: yeah that is the work like in the you know,
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Speaker 2: people can't You can throw stuff at people as much
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Speaker 2: as you want, Yeah, it won't get them unless they
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Speaker 2: can actually come to their own conclusions. Right, So this
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Speaker 2: is why I love like asking questions and journal prompts
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Speaker 2: and helping people get to their own conclusions that they
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Speaker 2: can actually have realizations and recognize. Oh my goodness, I
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Speaker 2: am very you know, shadowy right now, I'm overgiving and
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Speaker 2: I'm doing all these kind of interesting things to get
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Speaker 2: well when it's it really doesn't have.
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Speaker 1: To be that hard, right, I'm seeing a lot of
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Speaker 1: promise rings these days. What's the scoop on this? Why
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Speaker 1: is this suddenly or are we gonna start seeing mood
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Speaker 1: rings too very soon?
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Speaker 2: Oh my goodness, I don't know, honestly. Like it's funny
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Speaker 2: because I don't think they We're supposed to go back
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Speaker 2: to how things were right, But I also don't know
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Speaker 2: that we're supposed to We're not supposed to say how
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Speaker 2: we are. I do think that we're meant to move
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Speaker 2: forward into new train, but I do think that we
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Speaker 2: have to keep some nice old traditions. And I think
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Speaker 2: that we have to start reconditioning the population to believing
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Speaker 2: in marriage again, to believing in long term love. And like,
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Speaker 2: what is a promise ring? Like why not just get engaged?
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Speaker 1: I don't like.
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Speaker 2: I don't get that, Like it's like everyone's just trying
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Speaker 2: to keep their options open. They're trying to stay one
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Speaker 2: foot in, one foot out, protect themselves a little bit, Like, no,
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Speaker 2: how come we can't just commit like what you've done.
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Speaker 2: You commit it to someone and you're like, I'm going
17:41
Speaker 2: to make this work, and then you go and you
17:44
Speaker 2: make it work, and you burn the boats and you
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Speaker 2: make it work. Thirty two years in that's it. There's
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Speaker 2: no other options, right, Like, No, I don't like this
17:51
Speaker 2: promise ring thing by a real ring? Get married, do
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Speaker 2: large and help?
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Speaker 1: Where can people go to find out more about you?
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Speaker 1: Because twenty minutes with you is not enough. That we
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Speaker 1: are just barely scratching the surface and listeners need to
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Speaker 1: go where they can grow. And you are that needle
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Speaker 1: in a haystack.
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Speaker 2: Thank you. Yeah, I really appreciate that. So it's tough.
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Speaker 2: My name is really long. But if they can be
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Speaker 2: I guess the easiest way to find me would be
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Speaker 2: website wise, would just be become your own dream girl.
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Speaker 2: That's really easy. I feel like that. It's pretty easy.
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Speaker 2: But on Instagram Kelsey k e l s e y
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Speaker 2: and then it's g Au d Gojro. But once they
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Speaker 2: search Gau I'll come up Kelsey Godrop. Yeah. And then
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Speaker 2: my book, my brand new book is available right now
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Speaker 2: on Amazon and on Kindle, and then the audible will
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Speaker 1: I love it. You got to come back to this show.
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Speaker 1: Oh my god, you've got to come up. Because love
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Speaker 1: is every day. It's not like, oh, we're doing it
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Speaker 1: as we go into summer. Oh we're doing it before
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Speaker 1: Valentine say, no, it's every day. It really is every day.
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Speaker 2: Yeah, it totally is. It's an everyday saying. It's the
19:06
Speaker 2: same thing. If you want to have a great body,
19:07
Speaker 2: you have to go to the gym every single week.
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Speaker 2: If you want to have a business, you have to
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Speaker 2: work at it every single day. It's the same thing
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Speaker 2: with love, and you just have to go, you know,
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Speaker 2: Touch your partner, tell them that they did a great
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Speaker 2: job today, Say thank you for throwing up your gas tank.
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Speaker 2: It's really easy, but it is a daily, daily effort
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Speaker 2: for sure.
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Speaker 1: Wow. Will you be brilliant today? Okay, and please make
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Speaker 1: your way back to this path, please.
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Speaker 2: And bring me back. Thank you so much for having me.
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Speaker 2: This was such a great conversation and thank you to
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Speaker 2: everyone listening. Super excited. Send me a DM on Instagram.
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Speaker 2: I'd love to hear from you, love to hear your thoughts. Yeah,
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Speaker 2: I love to just connect with everyone.
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Speaker 1: Excellent, be brilliant today.
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Speaker 2: Okay, Thank you you too. Bye,