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What's the worst thing you can do to a narcissist? · The Mental Healness Podcast

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  So what's the worst thing that you could do to a narcissist?
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  Like the worst thing. The thing they will put them in
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  the most hurt, the most pain, emotional pain, not physical
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  y'all. I know how some of y'all get to
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  thinking, but that's what we're talking about today, y'all.
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  The worst thing you can do to a narcissist.
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  If you're new here, my name is Lee Hammock.
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  I'm a diagnosed narcissist. And welcome to another episode
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  of The Narcissist Code. Boom, welcome back folks,
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  welcome back, welcome back. Narcissistic people.
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  Toxic people hate when these type of things happen.
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  Like what's the work level lady? Just get back to the point.
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  What's the worst thing that you can do to them since you got
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  your degree? Easy help.
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  Yeah, that's just precious. But seriously, what's the worst
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  thing you can do to a narcissist?
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  One of the worst things you can do to a narcissist is to match
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  their energy. Give them a taste of their own
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  medicine. Like literally treat them the
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  exact same way that they are treating you.
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  Narcissist that people hate. This right here.
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  Y'all hate it with a raw seething passion.
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  Hate it. Loathe it.
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  Just like cannot stand it, like, and there's a lot of people ask
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  me like, do narcissists know that they're treating you bad?
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  Do the same thing to them. Do the same things to them that
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  they are doing to you and see how they go about it.
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  See how they enjoy it, see how they like it.
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  Most times they're not going to like it.
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  Most times they're not going to enjoy it.
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  Most times they're going to sit right there and just be.
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  Most times they're going to get angry as hell.
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  When you give them a taste of their own medicine, they
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  typically spit it back up. When you give ignorances a taste
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  taste a taste of their own medicine, they split it back up
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  because they know it's not good. That's why I keep telling people
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  like they don't match their energy.
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  Now let me let me reel it in a little bit.
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  When I say match their energy, I'm not telling you to do the
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  exact same thing because if if they're cheating on you, I'm not
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  telling you to go out there and cheat back.
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  Although some of y'all might write you like well, Lee, I had
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  to cheat back. I had to get them a taste of
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  their own medicine. I wanted to see them crying.
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  I wanted to see them hurt. I wanted to see them throwing
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  up. I wanted to see all of that,
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  Lee. So I wanted to see all that.
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  Look, cheating back might make you question your own morality
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  and make you feel bad about yourself.
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  Just if you don't cheat, you really need to cheat back.
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  Leave them. That's matching their energy
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  right there. Leave them.
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  Don't forgive them, don't take them back, don't reconcile with
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  them. Believe forgiveness is in the
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  box. Everybody don't believe in the
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  Bible, y'all. I just feel like that's just so
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  it's such a thing right there. No, I do I believe in the Bible,
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  yes, but everybody does not believe in the Bible.
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  Everybody does not believe in the forgiveness.
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  Forgiveness for everybody. Don't just try to force it on
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  people. Just just boy, just don't do
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  that, right, because everybody doesn't believe in it.
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  Have the same belief system you do, but like match their energy.
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  Don't give them back. Don't give them what I said.
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  Don't give them a reprieve. Well, well, you only cheated on
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  me twice. You could three times.
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  The third time's the charm. No match their energy.
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  Give them a taste of their own medicine.
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  They're giving you the silent treatment.
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  Give you the silent treatment. I know this sounds challenging.
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  I know it sounds pity, y'all, you don't have to do this, but
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  I'm just saying this is what this is the worst thing you can
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  do, though. But if they're giving you, if
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  they're stonewalling you, Stonewall them.
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  Y'all, let's keep it. I knew it was coming.
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  I got a rant bubble. Fuck them, y'all.
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  At the end of the day, who can't?
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  Like if they're giving you the silent tribute, give it right
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  back to them. Who the fuck are they to give
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  you the silent tribute and stop talking to you?
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  Why the fuck do they? Why the why the hell does their
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  voice matter more than yours? Right.
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  Why does their voice matter more than yours does?
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  Why does their language, why? Why does their ability to
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  communicate matter more than yours?
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  No, of course y'all, you got to be careful because some of these
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  bastards will get angry at you and try to put their hands on
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  you or try to hurt you or somebody might even try to UN
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  alive you right. So of course you have to be
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  careful. Of course you have to be safe.
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  Of course you have to protect yourself at the end of the day,
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  but at the end of the day, hell no, like like no, I'm not
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  talking to you, I'm not. I'm going to pretend you don't
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  exist. I'm a ghost.
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  You shit. You ghost me.
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  They're going to get away with it.
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  Hell, no. So at the end of the day, why
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  does their words matter more? Why do their behaviors, why do
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  their actions matter more? Hell, no.
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  Hell no. We're not playing.
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  Yeah, this is the this is 2025. We almost.
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  Yeah, we almost at the halfway point of the year, we got to
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  start. Look, ain't no more taking a
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  shit. There's no more doing that.
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  Like we, we matching energy. We're fighting back.
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  What's the worst thing you can do?
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  Give them a taste of their own medicine.
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  Hell no. Like they they not responding to
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  your text messages within a timely manner.
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  Don't respond to that shit within a timely manner or
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  believe they get mad. So yeah, yeah, of course.
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  Again, use discretion to be safe.
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  Do they care about you getting mad when you don't respond when
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  they when you don't? Do they care about you getting
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  mad when you when they don't respond to you?
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  No, What the hell with that? If you don't respond at one
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  minute, you, you automatically cheated.
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  No, take your time that's the worst thing you do to them.
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  They do get them. Hey, of course it's going to get
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  them angry again. Y'all, you have to be safe.
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  You have to be careful. I know people go clip this video
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  like Lee trying to get people hurt.
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  No, I'm not trying to anybody hurt.
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  I'm just telling y'all the ways you can get get the way you can
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  get back at them. Hey, but seriously ran over.
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  You know, I love a good rant bubble every once in a while.
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  A good rant bubble help. A good rant bubble helps the
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  helps today. A ramp bubble a day keeps the
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  doctor away, Right. But this is what happens, y'all.
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  This is why I try to this is the messages that I try to convey to
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  people. They're like, yo, you matter.
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  You matter. So the worst thing you can do to
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  a narcissist is match their energy.
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  Now, no other people want to say, well, lady, the worst thing
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  you can do to a narcissist is to expose them, which is also true.
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  Yeah, absolutely. You can definitely expose them
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  and that will definitely get that.
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  That will definitely rile them up, right?
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  Exposing a narcissist is probably one of the worst things
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  that you can do to them, right? That really is that really is
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  one of the worst things you can do to a narcissist is to expose
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  them for who they really are. You're not lying on them.
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  You're not making stuff up. You're just exposing them for
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  who they actually are. You're exposing them for what
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  they actually do. You're telling on them for what
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  they, like I said, you're telling on them for something.
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  You're telling the truth. That's crazy.
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  Yeah. Ain't it crazy that you, you
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  telling the truth is you got to be careful telling the truth
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  about somebody. That's always been wild to me.
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  Like you have to be careful telling the truth because
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  exposing them is absolutely one of the worst things that you can
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  do. It just is one of those things
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  that like they, they fear exposure.
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  They fear you telling them exactly what telling everybody
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  exactly what they have done, which again, is another sign
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  that they know what they're doing to you.
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  It's bad. If they didn't think it was bad,
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  why are they trying to hide it? Why they trying so vigorously to
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  hide it? If they don't think it's bad,
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  that's something to consider as well.
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  If they do not think that is bad, why are they trying so
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  vigorously to hide it? These are bad.
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  Why they trying so vigorously to hide it?
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  That's what goes on right there. So yes, exposing them can be one
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  of the worst things you can do to them.
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  Yeah. Another thing you can do to
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  them. Another worst thing is drum
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  roll. Narcissistic drum roll please.
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  Sound like drama. One of the worst things you
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  could do. Another worst thing is you could
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  do to them. Y'all is to go no contact.
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  Ghost to him. Ghost them.
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  Go no contact on their birthday. Go to contact.
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  Go no contact on Chris Lee. Lee, you get lead a narcissistic
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  party just coming out. I can see it.
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  Your eyes got dark. You're devilish bastard.
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  We knew it was still in your. Lee, you telling us how to be
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  narcissist? You.
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  This is a narcissist channel teaching other people how to be
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  narcissist. No, I'm telling you what affects
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  narcissists the most and you go in no contact absolutely will
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  devastate them. I'll do it.
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  Matter of fact, it's it's so devastating that I'll do my own,
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  I'll do the owns an own separate video about going no contact
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  with the narcissist and how it will affect them, but it will
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  destroy them. You go in no contact with them.
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  We'll literally set them out. We'll set most of them out.
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  Some of them will pretend they don't care.
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  Some of them might actually just use, some of them might actually
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  want you to leave and want you to go no contact so they can
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  find a new supply. But most of them absolutely
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  cannot stay in no contact. Most narcissist cannot stand for
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  you to go no contact. They hate it because that means
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  you're in control. That means you have the power,
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  that means you have everything going for you.
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  That really is genuinely how it goes.
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  You know what I mean? And I tell it to people all the
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  time, like you go in no contact is probably the most effective
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  weapon. You go in no contact, probably
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  especially if it's abrupt and they don't know.
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  Of course, again, y'all, I have to, I have to use these
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  disclaimers. Of course, go and no contact is
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  difficult. If you have kids or you have
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  businesses, you have things that you have to you have to stay
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  attached to them for go no contact is very tough.
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  So you go in low contact can be almost as it can be almost can
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  be nearly just as effective, right?
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  But no contact is the the most low contact can be nearly as
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  effective. No contact is the ultimate
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  effect, right? Because they automatically are
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  going to think that you have somebody else.
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  They're my like narcissist mind automatically shifts to you
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  being with someone else. They can't look.
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  It can't be the fact that it can't be the fact that you're
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  just unhappy and want to and want to be alone, right?
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  Like they can't just be that they automatically going to
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  assume that you have somebody else and some of them might pop
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  the top. Some of them because they lose
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  their access to you because they lose that type of control over
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  you. Some of them might actually
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  absolutely pop their top. And then once they pop their
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  top, it's on and popping. Y'all, let's keep it real.
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  Once they pop the top, it's absolutely on and popping like
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  literally because going no contact is probably one of the
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  worst things that you can do to a narcissist.
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  Like no contact sucks. That's why.
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  That's why you hear so many people tell them.
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  Talk about no contact, y'all? I think no contact is one of the
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  most searched terms in the field of narcissistic healing,
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  narcissistic abuse. Going no contact is absolutely
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  part of it, right? Going no contact is absolutely a
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  huge part of that type of stuff, right there.
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  A huge part of everything that goes on, a huge part of a huge
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  hindrance, you know what I mean? A narcissistic abuse.
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  So narcissists don't want you to go no contact because they lose
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  their control, they lose their access, they lose that quote UN
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  quote power. And sometimes they just, all
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  these thoughts are going through their minds.
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  So going no contact could absolutely set them off to the
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  point where they start stalking you.
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  They pop up at your job, they are emailing you everywhere
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  they're trying to go. They're going to restaurants you
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  frequent waiting around for you. Some of them might, some of them
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  might actually hire a private investigator.
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  I've heard this before. Some of them hire a private
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  investigator to find you. They have hired a private
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  investigator to find you or to get your number or to find what
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  you move to if you don't give them the address like go no
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  contact and ghost to them and disappear off the like you
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  disappeared off the face of the earth.
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  Boy that just that does have an effect on them.
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