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155. Reality Transurfing | The Power of Attitude · The Kathie Owen Perspective Podcast

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  You ever have one of those days where your attitude just can't seem to shift?
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  Well, we're talking about that today and.
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  Let's see how to cultivate a positive attitude, because that will help you find success, help you feel better in your life.
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  Even when things may be falling apart.
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  All around you.
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  Picture this you're looking in the mirror with a sour face, a sour attitude, and then a few seconds later, go to the mirror and look at yourself with a positive attitude with the positive facial expression.
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  I talk about the ripple effect a lot, because I am a firm believer and what you put out there ripples into the world, and you may not even know it.
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  We are prone to.
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  Think more negative than we are positive.
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  Why?
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  Because our brains are wired that way.
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  We want to be safe your brain is going to alert you when something negative is going on.
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  You're listening to Kathie's coaching podcast.
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  I'm your host, Kathie Owen.
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  Let's talk about a Reality Transurfing quote that I'm going to pull from the book right here.
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  The circumstances of a person's life are not only created by their actions, but also by the nature of their thoughts.
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  If a person has a hostile attitude towards the world, They will find that the world responds to them with the same.
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  If a person constantly expresses dissatisfaction.
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  They will find more and more reasons to be dissatisfied.
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  If a person's attitude to life is predominantly negative.
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  The world will show them the worst side of its nature.
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  Conversely having a positive attitude is the most natural way to change your life for the better.
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  I'm going to repeat that because it's important.
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  Having a positive attitude is the most natural way to change your life for the better.
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  People get what they choose like it or not.
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  That is how life works.
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  Vadim Zeland, Reality Transurfing.
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  You may have heard me say this before attitude.
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  Is everything.
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  And today we're going to talk about that.
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  We're going to talk about Reality Transurfing yes, I am back.
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  So I love to open up the book Reality Transurfing, just randomly open it up and it comes up with so many profound insights that it's like, oh, okay.
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  I never thought of it like that.
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  Even though I may have read it before or done it in another way.
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  And we're going to talk about that today.
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  We're gonna talk about shifting.
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  Your attitude, how you can do that to make your life just feel like it's the way it's supposed to be.
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  So Vadim tells us that there is a profound truth in life, and that is your attitude.
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  Is everything.
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  Like it or not.
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  So our attitude, our thoughts, our beliefs, our behaviors, all affect what's happening around you.
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  It is a simple truth.
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  And I'm going to give you some examples of universal law that explains that.
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  Number one, the law of correspondence.
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  You hear in Reality Transurfing the mirror principle?
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  Well, the mirror principle is just what this whole quote is talking about.
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  It's what you believe, what you put out there is what you're going to get back.
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  What you're looking at in the mirror.
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  Is the beliefs and the thoughts that you have.
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  So.
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  Picture this you're looking in the mirror with a sour face, a sour attitude, and then a few seconds later, go to the mirror and look at yourself with a positive attitude with the positive facial expression.
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  And that is what you're going to give back because that's how the brain works.
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  At these smile.
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  You just feel better.
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  It sends signals to your brain.
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  Research has shown it.
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  That when you smile, you send signals to your body, that everything is okay.
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  It helps.
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  That is the attitude adjustment shift yet you want to take.
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  In the mirror principle in the law of correspondence.
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  Then we have the ripple effect of dissatisfaction.
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  I talk about the ripple effect a lot, because I am a firm believer and what you put out there ripples into the world, and you may not even know it.
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  For example, I'm a big proponent of storytelling in.
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  Just different places and it never ceases to amaze me when people come back and they're like, oh, I remember this story you told me.
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  And I'm like, okay, they get some parts of this story.
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  Right.
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  And some parts of it they don't get.
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  Right.
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  But what happens when you tell a story is it causes a ripple effect that person's brain means they go into.
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  Their own ideas of what's going on inside that story.
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  Therefore they're getting their emotions involved, they're feelings involved, but what comes back is a different story because of that interpretation.
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  However, almost all the time, the stories bottom line that I was trying to get to gets across because of the way storytelling works because of that ripple effect.
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  And that is a profound difference as opposed to.
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  Just telling a story, just putting it up.
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  That is where the ripple effect takes place in there.
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  And then we have the negativity bias.
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  We are prone to.
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  Think more negative than we are positive.
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  Why?
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  Because our brains are wired that way.
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  We want to be safe your brain is going to alert you when something negative is going on.
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  And so we're biased towards negativity.
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  It takes effort to have a positive attitude.
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  Especially in a trying time, that's just the nature of our being human and all that good stuff.
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  But.
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  You get what you choose like Vadim says in this quote, when we get what we choose.
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  Um, positive or negative.
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  It takes effort to think that way.
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  For example, let's say it's been raining for a week where you live and it's been dark and dreary and sad and depressing.
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  You have to work to think positive in those times you have to work because your brain is just soaking in all of this dreary stuff.
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  That's your negativity bias taking place.
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  And then number four, the power of choice.
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  Amidst the chaos of life.
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  We have the choice of hope to think hopeful thoughts in the chaos.
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  This is the power of choice.
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  I think back to my custody battle.
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  You hear me talk about this all the time.
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  I was in a custody battle that lasted 14 years with a very mentally ill man.
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  But this person is still like 25 years later, still suffering from his mental illness.
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  And it's having a ripple effect like we just talked about, but it's having a ripple effect on his life.
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  What happened with me?
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  I chose the power of hope, the power of a positive thought processes.
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  And I took what they call the higher road by doing that.
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  It shifted my perspective of everything.
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  I just let go of all my attachments.
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  I dropped importance.
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  All the things that we talk about in Reality Transurfing and it affected everything.
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  My ripple effect became a positive one.
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  That's now coming back to me, you know, how a ripple will go out.
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  And then also when it's real close in, it's just very profound and very many ripples take place.
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  And so my ripple effect is a positive one, but his was not so positive and it's taking its effect on him.
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  But that.
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  That is what it is.
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  I mean, I don't wish that on him and actually I pray Ho'oponopono over him and hope for the best.
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  If that makes sense.
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  So I have bonus downloads on Reality Transurfing on dealing with pendulums.
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  You are welcome to and download that.
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  I have a link to that in the show notes and description below.
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  And let's get back into the video.
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  So the first four things that are actionable steps that are from this quote in the book, Reality Transurfing are the law of correspondence.
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  The ripple effect of dissatisfaction.
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  The negativity bias.
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  And the power of choice.
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  So let's talk about some practical strategies that can help you cultivate.
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  A positive attitude.
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  Number one.
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  You're going to know what's coming.
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  An attitude of gratitude, shifts, everything.
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  For example, like when I was talking about the rainy rainy days and you're just tired of the rain.
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  You could take an attitude of gratitude with that rain and look at things like, look at different things you could be grateful for.
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  Maybe it's the birds chirping.
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  Or maybe it's just the simple raindrop ripple effect that we were talking about.
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  You can always find something to be grateful for in any situation, gratitude practice is very helpful.
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  Number two challenge those negative thoughts.
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  Just challenge them.
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  Just see why there are even there.
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  Ask them.
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  Why do I have to complain about this certain situation?
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  Challenge that and break it down.
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  And become aware of your unconscious beliefs about that.
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  So if you are stuck in traffic, for example, And you're really getting angry and mad and talking about.
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  Y you're going to be there.
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  Challenge those thoughts.
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  Why don't you think of it in a different way?
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  Why don't you find something to listen to that you can take advantage of?
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  That you're going to be.
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  It's just stuck in traffic.
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  You have to pay attention to the road, but you can listen to a podcast.
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  You could listen to a book.
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  You could listen to my podcast.
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  Those kinds of things can help you overcome the dissatisfaction of being stuck in traffic.
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  And you will challenge those negative thoughts.
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  Number three, surround yourself with positivity.
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  Your environment plays a crucial role in your attitude.
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  That's just a given.
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  So if you're going to surround yourself with.
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  Positive things like I just talked about in that example, when you're stuck in traffic, you surround yourself with a positive podcast learning experience.
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  You could even surround yourself with positive friends and a good environment with that, or go to an environment where you feel a positive influence on yourself.
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  Another thing.
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  I like to think when it comes to environment and surrounding myself with positivity is establishing a hobby, find something you enjoy doing.
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  That's going to bring you relaxation and also enhance that positive attitude.
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  And shift your perspective in the moment.
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  Practice mindfulness meditation, cultivate a habit of becoming mindful and quieting the inner chatter.
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  We talk to ourselves more than we talk to anybody else.
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  And.
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  I like the quieting of the mind and understanding oh.
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  And questioning those thoughts and also just letting go, letting go of attachments when you're practicing your mindfulness meditation.
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  It helps tremendously.
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  Affirmations and visualization.
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  I like the word auto suggestion instead of affirmations, just because I'm suggesting to myself to have a positive attitude.
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  I'm suggesting to myself to let go of expectations of what I think or how I think things are supposed to be.
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  Your subconscious mind takes everything.
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  Literally.
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  It takes it for what you say.
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  If you say I'm having a bad day, that's what you're going to get.
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  That is the bottom line of this quote, in fact, so let's shift those auto suggestions, those affirmations, yeah.
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  Things may be bad, but switch it to say every day more and more so good things are happening to me every day, more and more.
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  So I am seeing things in a positive light as opposed to being negative and having that negative attitude.
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  And visualization, you know, um, Neville Goddard teaches us in The Feeling is The Secret.
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  To visualize yourself winning the race.
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  Public speaking.
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  Doing successfully.
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  And practice, practice your visualization.
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  Practice the skills that help you accomplish whatever you're trying to accomplish, especially to accomplish a positive attitude.
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  So the four things that we could cultivate to help us on this journey of cultivating a positive attitude are practicing gratitude.
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  Challenge those negative thoughts.
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  Surround yourself with positivity.
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  Practice mindfulness meditation.
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  And auto suggestions and visualization.
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  So those are the five things that we can focus on to help us.
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  Cultivate a positive attitude.
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  You know, I often say this on my channel.
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  It's not just a destination of a positive attitude.
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  It's a journey, the journey and the destination are one because we're always evolving.
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  So in the grand tapestry of life.
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  Your attitude is the paintbrush.
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  We're on a journey to cultivate that positive attitude.
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  It's not just a destination, the journey and the destinationare one.
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  All right.
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  That's the episode for today.
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  I trust that you found it helpful.
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  If you know somebody who could benefit from this, please share it with them.
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  And until next time I will see you next time.
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  Peace out and Namaste.
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  Bing.