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Self-Love Isn't Selfish: 5 Psychology-Backed Signs Your Actions Reflect True Self-Love · A Capture Deep Vibs A Positive Space For Inspiration And Embracing Of Heart

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  Speaker 1: What do you think it means to have self-love? Would
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  Speaker 1: you say that you love yourself? And if so, do
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  Speaker 1: you think your actions reflect a self-love? Some people might
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  Speaker 1: feel guilty about practicing self-love, mistaking it for selfishness or narcissism.
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  Speaker 1: But self-love is anything but selfish. In fact, famous psychologists
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  Speaker 1: such as Eric Fromm and Alfred Alder believed self-love to
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  Speaker 1: be necessary for a healthy sense of self-esteem, self-worth, and self-enhancement.
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  Speaker 1: According to licensed psychotherapist Sharon Martin, self-love means accepting yourself fully,
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  Speaker 1: treating yourself with kindness and respect, and nurturing your own
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  Speaker 1: growth and well-being. Now, does that sound like a bad
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  Speaker 1: thing to do? Well, if you're still on the fence
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  Speaker 1: about it, here are five psychology-backed signs from experts that
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  Speaker 1: what you're doing isn't selfish. It's self-love. Positivity vs. Superiority
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  Speaker 1: Just because self-love is about taking care of yourself doesn't
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  Speaker 1: mean it should come at the expense of others. This
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  Speaker 1: is one of the most common misconceptions people have and
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  Speaker 1: why they sometimes mistake self-love for selfishness. Self-love isn't about
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  Speaker 1: ignoring everyone else's needs, explains self-help author Susanna Nusinen. Rather,
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  Speaker 1: it's about having a more positive relationship with yourself and
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  Speaker 1: supporting yourself as much as you do those around you.
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  Speaker 1: That's why one of the most telling signs you're practicing
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  Speaker 1: self-love and not selfishness is if it brings more positivity
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  Speaker 1: into your life. Your actions and choices need to balance
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  Speaker 1: loving and respecting yourself just as much as you do
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  Speaker 1: everyone else. According to psychology researcher and Courtney E. Ackerman,
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  Speaker 1: some benefits of self-love include more peace of mind, greater authenticity,
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  Speaker 1: less anxiety and stress, and better overall life satisfaction. Self-confidence
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  Speaker 1: versus narcissism. The ironic thing about narcissism, according to licensed
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  Speaker 1: clinical social worker Jill Dano, is that it's actually rooted
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  Speaker 1: in a lack of self-confidence, not an overabundance of it.
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  Speaker 1: People who are selfish and narcissistic put themselves above everyone
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  Speaker 1: else because they lack a sense of security in their
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  Speaker 1: own worth and value. So they feel they need to
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  Speaker 1: be as competitive and show-offish as possible to convince everyone
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  Speaker 1: else of it. But the ones who do things that
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  Speaker 1: come from a place of self-love don't feel the need
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  Speaker 1: to boast about their accomplishments or tear other people down
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  Speaker 1: just to feel good about themselves. They're able to accept
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  Speaker 1: praise and compliments for a job well done without being
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  Speaker 1: too high and mighty about it. Because they know they're
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  Speaker 1: not desperate to prove anything. They know their own positive
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  Speaker 1: deeds and qualities and they celebrate it. They don't rub
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  Speaker 1: everybody else's face in it. If you find this video
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  Speaker 1: and subscribe to the channel. Now, moving on to the
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  Speaker 1: next point. Self-compassion versus self-criticism. According to psychologist Dr. Nicole Siegfried,
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  Speaker 1: most of us are often raised to believe that we
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  Speaker 1: need to criticize ourselves in order to push ourselves to
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  Speaker 1: be better. But what most people fail to understand is
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  Speaker 1: that it can do a lot more harm than good
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  Speaker 1: to our ego. because it may keep us from treating
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  Speaker 1: ourselves with compassion. So the next time you make a mistake,
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  Speaker 1: observe how you react and talk to yourself about it.
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  Speaker 1: Are you quick to blame yourself and say harsh things
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  Speaker 1: to yourself about it? Or do you try to show
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  Speaker 1: yourself some understanding and compassion? It's not selfish to do
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  Speaker 1: the latter instead. Resilience versus self-sabotage. When you focus on
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  Speaker 1: yourself and your own growth, That self-love can pave the
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  Speaker 1: way for more happiness and peace to come into your life.
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  Speaker 1: Practicing self-love and treating yourself with kindness, even in the
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  Speaker 1: face of hardship, cultivates hope, optimism, and emotional resilience, says
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  Speaker 1: psychologist Sharon Martin. So the next time you're struggling with something,
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  Speaker 1: know that it's self-love to ask for help when you
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  Speaker 1: need it, not selfishness, according to therapist Dr. Sherry Jacobson.
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  Speaker 1: This is because self-love encourages self-awareness and self-improvement, while selfishness
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  Speaker 1: encourages self-destruction. It's a form of self-love to know your limits,
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  Speaker 1: respect the limits of others, and communicate what you need clearly.
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  Speaker 1: Setting vs. Overstepping Boundaries According to psychologist Dr. Christina Gomez,
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  Speaker 1: self-love in action can look a lot like taking initiative
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  Speaker 1: and being more assertive. That's because when you love yourself,
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  Speaker 1: you prioritize your well-being and strive to meet your own needs,
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  Speaker 1: not just leave it up to everybody else. You make
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  Speaker 1: healthy choices most of the time and set healthy boundaries
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  Speaker 1: for yourself. You understand that you don't need to sacrifice
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  Speaker 1: your own happiness just to give other people theirs, and
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  Speaker 1: that thinking that way is harmful. Self-love is about knowing
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  Speaker 1: what truly matters, says Dr. Gomez. So it's not selfish
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  Speaker 1: to take care of your own needs. What's selfish is
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  Speaker 1: taking from others and using them for your own gain
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  Speaker 1: without any consideration for their well-being, which is what you
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  Speaker 1: would be letting other people do by not setting healthy boundaries.
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  Speaker 1: To quote American self-help author Wilfred Allen Peterson, Be gentle
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  Speaker 1: with yourself. Learn to love yourself. To forgive yourself. For
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  Speaker 1: only as we have the right attitude towards ourselves can
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  Speaker 1: we have the right attitude towards others. Let us know
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  Speaker 1: in the comments down below what are some ways that
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  Speaker 1: you practice self-love in your life. Till next time, Psych2Goers,
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  Speaker 1: and remember, you matter.