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Rabbi Moshe Haber Perashat Tzav-Pesah The Divine Motivation of Preparation and Presence 3.27.26 · Rabbi Moshe Haber - Daily Mussar/Weekly Perasha

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  There's a theme in front of Shot Saab. 96. 96 very good that's
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  actually the amount of the sakim and the parashah.
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  So we're making up the fact that 2 we see what we had like the
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  longest reading the history of mankind.
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  We have a Caleb Picude and everything is part of shot.
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  The whole is very long. This One South is now back on
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  the shortest side of things. So what is the theme Parashat
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  Saab? Because I always believe that
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  every part of shot even has some of the theme or just try to find
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  one. It's one that relates to this
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  time of year, not to the holiday piss off per SE, but more
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  importantly for now to the preparation valor, and that is a
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  preparation in one way or another is chaotic.
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  Either it's chaotic for people because spending a lot on
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  clothing, chaotic for people because they're spend a lot of
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  time cleaning their home and their cars and their things and
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  being conscious of every crumb. And TSA also.
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  Exactly. I say that is that it's like,
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  you know, for those who scrub their fridge.
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  We're not going to give you too much of A passage TSA.
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  So I'll put that into our Barshaw's falls by the very same
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  emotional lemur. I sent the mushroom a mitzvahed
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  salvat. Our own vet wanna command our
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  own and his children Lemur zotura taola he Allah mukdam is
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  bear koala a boque. Tell Aaron the rules of the
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  Caban Ola of the things that are being brought on them as they
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  are there she was back to Kabul as the fire will always be lit
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  and I shall not tell her. I don't certain laws about
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  Mazbeah. But the word is SA.
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  What does SA mean? That means command says.
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  Where is she wanting me to tell her I don't command?
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  Obviously if I don't ask him, it's what he has to do as a
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  coherent better Mishkan of course, commend them.
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  What's the actual word command? Obviously it's a commandment,
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  right? She a very interesting concept
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  and Saab tell them tell them and Saab Ella Lashon's rizzut Hashem
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  Hassan Mon share you need to motivate Aaron.
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  Why does I don't need any motivation right to a Shia
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  concert. I'd be very surprised ready.
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  Why do you need the Rizut Amara be Shimon bio Ted sarika Katuv
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  Lizarez We need to motivate a person when it comes to a
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  mitzvah more in certain areas. What are these areas that
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  require mobile motivation job. You know what the areas are
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  areas where you're not going to make money, rather you're going
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  to lose money. On this topic, our own is being
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  told you need to be motivated. We're sure to make sure that
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  motivate your brother our own in the service in the area of the
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  Qurban Ola because the Quran Ola, he doesn't get anything out
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  of it. He doesn't get any skin, he
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  doesn't get any meat because the Quran, Allah goes all to Hashem.
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  So in this specific Qurban, I need you to motivate your
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  brother because he's not making any money as a Quran.
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  In the beta Mikdash, they normally got something out of
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  it. Almost every service in the beta
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  Mikdash gave some sort of call, a kickback to the Quran, and
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  that was that. How they made money.
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  They had no business. This is how they made their
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  money. I need you to motivate our own
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  when it comes to Qurban Ola, because this is the one Qurban
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  is losing money or at least not making, right?
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  He's putting a lot of Labor and effort into this and he's not
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  making money. And therefore you need a
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  motivation. What does that mean?
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  You're telling me? I don't know, go hand to Qawani
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  need to be motivated to do it with father because they're not
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  making money. Is that what you're telling me?
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  And the answer is, like I said, everything in this theme will
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  translate to this time of year, the time of year of preparing
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  for the holiday. And the theme is is preparing
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  for this holiday cost? Is preparing for the holiday
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  cost officer, the costly. What do you think?
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  I'm, is it costly or? Yeah, man, like, like maybe
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  $50.00 for a bottle of oil. Yeah.
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  Olive oil. The price of each triple ones.
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  It's holiday preparation is extremely costly.
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  If you go to Landau during this time of year, Mozza and gold are
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  the same Friday. Exactly.
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  I don't know. They're right.
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  They do buy the house. No.
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  Costco Coco Paco sauce. C Costco sauce.
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  Cheap. Yeah.
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  Oh, well, what does Costco Schmoorer monster look like?
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  Good. Yeah, yeah.
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  So fun in general. In general, BJ's all right,
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  that's a good investment. But in general, it's it's very
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  expensive holiday the children's clothing.
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  Tell us the wives clothing, your clothing, right.
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  Cleaning the house, the extra help or if you're not, if you're
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  not home when you're going away, it's even more expensive on and
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  on and on. It's extremely expensive out and
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  a person at times is prone to, you know, to, to to be very
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  frustrated at the expense to say to themselves, oh, they're price
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  gouging, which maybe they are, I don't know.
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  It doesn't matter to me to say to themselves, oh, this is very
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  difficult. It's hard to pull the money
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  together. Sure, all right.
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  And it's true. And therefore you need and
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  you're on the risk by the way of losing the beauty of the holiday
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  preparation because of the cost, losing the good feel of this
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  season because of the expense. There are two ways you're on the
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  risk of the truth of the matter is the time before pass off that
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  we're in right now is really a very powerful time.
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  Preparing for a holiday is supposed to be a special time.
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  And I remember early on in my marriage, it was a very
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  stressful time, a shimmy stressful time.
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  And I told my wife just yesterday, I said I hope we are
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  able to change this time. We're trying to change it.
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  We're able to change that stress and translate into a beautiful
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  time because it's meant to be a beautiful time.
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  There are two ways it loses that beauty.
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  One, with the stress of money, 2, with the stress of work.
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  Both of these things remove the beauty and so it's solved.
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  Arona was saying you need to give out on more motivation
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  because there's an area where he's not making money in the
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  sense he's losing money. He's going to work very hard for
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  the Caban Ola and not getting anything out of it.
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  So he's spending all that time, he's not making money.
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  When you put time and don't make money, you're losing money.
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  So because that I don't need motivation.
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  And the motivation is what can the motivation be?
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  How can you talk to him when he's losing money?
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  How can you talk to us? We're spending so much money on
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  the heart. And the motivation is you're
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  doing the will of Hashem. And that itself is a beautiful
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  thing. That should be the motivation to
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  push us to feel good about our spending, to feel at least I'm
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  doing the right thing on my spending.
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  It's very costly. Listen, sadly, for the people
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  who can't afford it to hold them in Balkan, she won't buy it.
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  I had to hold them in Balkan. I'm talking about people who can
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  afford it. It's just a little bit of a pain
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  for those people. The feeling has to be I'm
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  spending on something beautiful and I'm all in and I'm highly
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  motivated to do so. I'm not, you know, giving a pass
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  for the organization, for the companies deciding the
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  mayonnaise during this time of year, the same mayonnaise needs
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  to be $8. I'm not giving a pass for that.
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  I'm not giving a pass to the fact that meat price double s
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  now, I'm not giving a pass that was a killer.
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  Why I don't understand either people right?
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  But giving a pass in your mind for yourself, feeling good about
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  the spending How do you feel good and solve why can't the.
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  Robber use that word SAB and talk to all these companies, the
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  riots and. The the because this or that
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  they shouldn't make money right in business.
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  Better the high enough as it. Is I can't not, not.
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  I don't know the. Answer.
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  God bless why you got to this point.
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  Exactly. And that's one stop.
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  So then the bad shot goes through.
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  We offer the people that can't. Afford.
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  Now that's something else. Those who can't afford it.
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  It's very frustrating. It happens to be.
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  As an aside, there's so many generous people out there.
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  It's an unbelievable thing to witness a generosity during the
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  season who are really picking up those who are struggling in an
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  unbelievable way. Something shocking.
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  But these organizations for the rabbis and the teachers and the
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  coil guys and the people who probably.
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  Give money. So many of them.
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  Well. Somebody over here, you write a
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  check to somebody and every other Rob Boy knows about it and
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  they've sent. You a novel that's how we're
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  going past our health in general right October has in the field
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  exactly very good. So that's salva salva.
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  I don't have to be misares and then we have the next part next
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  pursuit. But Avast Aron me dobat.
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  I don't get dressed in a certain government or Mr. Sebadio Bashi.
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  And then the pasuk says after I don't get dressed and as a pasuk
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  says, he wears linen tunic, he's drinking linen, very made
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  tardesha. He has another mitzvah.
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  First we told him you have to do something that doesn't make
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  money and you have to do it with the motivation and excitement.
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  We got that next step and it's directly relates to preparation
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  of Pesach as well. And that is that he wears
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  clothing, linen clothing. And what does he do when he puts
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  on that linen clothing, special garment?
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  What does he do? He bends down and the past
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  success, the remit addition, he scoops up the ashes.
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  There was a special mitzvah for the guanine to scoop up the
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  ashes. The edges of the leftover
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  korban. He scoops up that inserts.
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  You know ashes are dirty thing, right?
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  Whatever was leftover from the fire burning the korban Ola Adam
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  is bare this somewhere. He moves the ashes over to a
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  certain area and then the next step is in a second.
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  So what do you have? The second step is I don't get
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  dressed in special clothing to scoop up the ashes.
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  Why does I don't put on a special garment to scoop up that
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  ashes? Why do them to?
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  Show them that. It's a special thing to show
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  them they even though you're bending down at the dirt little
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  the ashes and you're about to get blackened and dirty.
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  It's it's far from Hashem. You're dealing with the Qurban
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  and therefore it's a beautiful thing.
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  So relate this directly and it would play it out to our class
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  of the course of a week and a second but relates to this
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  season as well. You're involved in cleaning.
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  You're involved in scrubbing one way or another.
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  You're involved what you may say you don't get involved, but you
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  definitely getting involved in something.
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  You are your wife is your chosen are there is cleaning going on
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  and it's taking over your house. And the person at times says,
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  this is beneath me. This is not why I should get
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  involved in scrubbing dirt and cleaning things out and delving
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  into this. The mindset has to be either for
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  you or your wife. The mindset should be it's the
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  work of Hashem and I'm going to put on a special garment before
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  I do this mitzvah of scrubbing dirt.
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  That should be the feeling that a person has to get themselves
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  over this challenge, which is how can I accept the fact that
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  I'm getting so involved in cleaning and scrubbing and
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  doing. It's beneath me in a sense.
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  Our own was told we have special clothing.
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  We should be told we have special clothing now, but you
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  still say why do you need to take this person down and that
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  special clothing, the scoop up there.
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  This is the theme. But Hovote, I want to have 1/4
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  over here go a step further and he says that Hashem wanted
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  interesting. Hashem wanted.
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  He says God wanted that our own should shift gears and realized
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  that if it's filed without Hashem, this is the most
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  glorious thing I can do. So I get dressed in special
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  clothing and I delve into the dirt and I say to myself, I
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  shouldn't be about Galvao and hold myself back.
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  I double and this is the next step.
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  This plays right into our weekday class.
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  And then as we've been talking all week about your mode and the
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  challenge is arrogance. Place all right or montage and
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  here's the way to play it out. A lot of people are in the
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  arrogant. They have a hard time doing
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  certain things. Part of arrogance is people
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  believe they're above it. Above what about whatever comes
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  their way that is beneath their status and it takes them away
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  from dealing with people who are smaller than them.
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  It takes them away from helping their wife in menial tasks.
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  It takes them away. This above it mindset takes away
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  from many things in life that are you asked to do.
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  I don't get justice. Special clothing and then bends
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  down with a shovel and shovels up ashes.
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  Why? Because as a Jew, you're never
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  above it. There's no other thing as being
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  above it. If Hashem tells you to do it,
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  you're in it. And that means if a person's a
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  very prestigious person and he asked them how to deal with,
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  let's call them Hazi people, people are challenging people,
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  right? If you have the above a mindset,
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  you're never going to get involved.
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  If you have the Jew mindset, you're going to talk to them,
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  give them a nice word and lift them up, right?
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  I'm a person doesn't want to do certain things because I don't
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  want to get myself dirty. I don't want to physically get
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  dirty. I don't want to get involved in
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  that mess. You're not above it if you think
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  you are because that's arrogance.
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  But based on this concept with telling out on trust special
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  cans and ice clothing and then bend down and shovel up the
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  ashes, that means as a Jew, as the kohan, as the kohan gadol in
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  beautiful clothing, you're not above it.
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  It's the service of Hashem and we have to do it.
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  They give a classic basuk with davila.
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  Melev had a little bit of a challenge with his wife and that
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  was he was dancing like crazy in front of the Aron or in front of
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  the Torah rather. And his wife told him, it's
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  beneath you here. You're the melech.
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  And he said the words. I have the quote over here and I
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  don't have the quote actually, he says there's no interesting
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  as GABA in front of Hashem. I'm not above.
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  I have the king, but I don't have to carry myself as the king
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  when it comes to in front of Hashem.
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  And that right there, that statement is meant to be the
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  guiding light to this concept, which is as great as a person
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  may be, as prestigious as you may be, as big a deal as you are
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  in any area, whether it be a rabbi, a well, well person, the
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  community leader, whatever. Maybe your father does not
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  matter when it comes to the service of Hashem and the things
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  that Hashem wants, you're not above it.
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  In fact, this is where your Gava will shine.
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  And that is you feel very proud of the fact that you do in
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  Hashem as well. So you dress in nice clothing to
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  say this is my area, follow me. At the same time, the final
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  threat of this season they want to bring from Alpa Soup is that
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  if the add on scoops up the ashes after he does so, we have
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  some fall. 2 points #1A person should be highly motivated even
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  if it costs money, because the will of our shin, highly
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  motivated, even if it's beneath them, was the will of our shin.
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  And thirdly, after these two things are done, you need to
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  know that when you go into the holiday, you do the following as
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  this whole month. Call it stress, call it work,
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  call it what it is, right? Even if a person's traveling,
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  there's still a lot going on during this month.
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  When they say the night comes and Pesa comes, you got to do
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  this is the final thread you have from Al Pesha.
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  OK, Pasuk says, Abd Aaron shovels up the ashes.
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  You know what he does up? I shot at big Adaf.
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  He takes off those clothing and garments that he wore for that
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  service, but avars begadim akrem and he puts on new clothing.
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  Why does he change his clothing? The rabbi say, you know why he
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  changes his clothing even though we just told you it's a
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  beautiful thing to get involved and do the will of Hashem and
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  scoop up there. He changes his clothing because
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  we have a concept. Don't the one, what's the word?
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  The guy who? The person.
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  The apron that you wear in the kitchen should not be the
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  garment that you serve the food with.
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  All right, Good. This person wore that clothing
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  to make you a food in the restaurant.
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  Why shouldn't they come out with that stained apron?
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  Why not? Because apron you wear in the
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  kitchen should not be the garment that you used to serve
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  the food in the restaurant. So you say one second.
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  Does that mean I have a problem with the apron?
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  No. The apron's a perfect garment
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  for the kitchen. Does that mean they should only
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  be wearing what they're wearing to serve?
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  No, they wear the apron, but they wear this comment, which
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  means and how is modern day the mindset a person has during the
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  season, which is in preparation of the holiday.
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  I put a lot of work in, be scrubbed, late nights.
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  It shouldn't be some degree of stress, spending money, a lot of
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  effort. That's all true.
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  The moment the holiday comes, you get undressed from that
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  clothing and you put on new clothing.
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  What does that mean? You come in peaceful come, we're
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  here. We finally made it.
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  Let's dig in Friday, the Saturday night meal conversation
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  should not be about oh, I spent so much on this and I spent so
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  much on that and I spent two weeks cleaning.
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  That's in the past. That's the will of Hashem.
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  You did it done. Now in the holiday comes, you
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  undress from that mindset and you get dressed into the new
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  mindset. And that is literally again a
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  parallel from Alfred. And that is I'm now in the
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  mindset of digging in to the Haggadah, to the Seder, to the
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  family, to the feeling, to the beauty, to the enjoyment of the
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  night, to the peace, to the special Shimida we have on Pesa.
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  I'm digging into all that. Follow me.
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  So there are stages of how a Jewish serves Hashem.
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  He served this man spending a lot of money.
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  So you have to be motivated to handle those costs.
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  And hopefully I shall send you the money to handle those those.
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  That's Part 1. 2A person does have to get dirty.
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  Like, I don't know, can God dressed in the special clothing
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  before he got stained? You have to get dirty.
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  You have to put on the apron. All right.
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  And it's a beautiful thing. And when you do it, don't be
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  arrogant enough to say it's beneath me.
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  Nothing is beneath you when it's the service of Hashem.
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  Nothing that's fake. Galvan makes a person believe
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  that I can't talk to someone, so I can't delve into such a job.
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  I can't deal with that issue. It's not for me.
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  It's beneath me. No, get dirty if it's been a
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  will of Hashem. You get dirty like Davida Mela
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  who's willing to dance, Dada Mel, dance like a child.
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  He went crazy in front of the child and his wife said it's
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  beneath you and he said it's not beneath me for the sake of
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  Hashem. That has to be our mindset
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  during the season. And thirdly, once the holiday
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  comes, you get undressed from that clothing and you get
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  redressed into nice, find your mindset and say we did a lot of
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  work together here, right? How much work are you doing
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  together? How many late nights?
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  Every single night I feel like I'm going to sleep 1:00 in the
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  morning, whether I'm cleaning anything or not.
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  But I have to, you know, I can't let cleaning go on while I just
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  going to bed. It doesn't work right.
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  It's not really a healthy relationship.
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  So not exactly so exactly. So the point is you have to shed
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  see you later. You have to shed that mindset
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  and come into the holiday and come in fresh, peaceful
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  enjoyment. Whatever challenge is going on
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  during the season, whatever stress, whatever even maybe a
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  little scuffle that you had, whatever may be, it's gone.
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  I'm coming into holiday for the most beautiful nights of the
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  year as they are the most powerful nights of the year, the
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  most impactful nights of the year as they are right, They
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  consider the most impactful nights for the year for our
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  families. And if that's the case, we want
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  to enjoy them. And you can't enjoy them if
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  you're dealing with the residue of all all the work that you put
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  in. If you're talking about the
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  holiday meal, about how much cleaning you did and how much
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  spending you did and without all that closing cost and that
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  closing cost and this meal cost, that's a bad idea.
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  Instead, I'm in, I made it. Now let's dig in, let's enjoy.
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  So this is a thought for now. I'll put a shot to relate to our
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  time, solve getting into the dirt.
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  And then undressing from that and serving our shem because the
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  person who wears the apron in the kitchen should not wear that
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  apron to serve the customers. That's the ID.
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  Stop by that.