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Do You Really Need Goals? · Wealthy Woman Lawyer Podcast, Helping you create a profitable, sustainable law firm you love

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  Hello Hello, I'm Davina Frederick. And I'd like to
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  welcome you to wealthy woman lawyers first episode for 2022.
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  you're here today listening to this episode because I think
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  let's dive into today's topic. This topic came to me while I
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  was reading and listening to other online law firm marketers
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  and coaches discuss how goal setting is rather passe that
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  instead you should simply change your mindset and good things
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  will come to you no need for goals. So I chuckled to myself,
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  because I know for a fact that those very same markers and
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  coaches not only set goals, but they hire coaches and they
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  invest 1000s of dollars and hours. In working to achieve
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  those goals. It's just what ambitious driven people do. We
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  like to compete, especially against ourselves. So yeah, most
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  of us are goal setters. But it got me thinking about whether or
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  not setting goals can feel off putting to some people, maybe
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  because they have set them in the past and they felt let down
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  when they didn't achieve them. Maybe you can relate to that. Or
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  maybe because it feels like so much pressure to set goals.
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  Perhaps it's because they believe something is wrong with
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  them, if they change their minds about what they want. But
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  they're stuck because they made some public declar declaration
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  about a goal they set back in New Years. Right. So can you
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  relate to any of that?
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  I know, I've certainly been in those different situations. Have
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  you seen that meme going around that says something like change
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  your plan, but NEVER BE Goal guides. So if we set a goal to
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  lose 40 pounds in 2022, but after we lose 30 We find we feel
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  pretty good that way and losing any more would make us look
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  emaciated. What we can't change our goal to lose 40 pounds. I
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  mean, that's silly. I mean, of course you can change your
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  goals. I say they're your goals, and you don't need anyone's
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  permission to change them. Nor do you owe anybody an
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  explanation. Many times we think what we think we want is not
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  what we want at all. But only setting goals and taking action
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  to achieve them provides that clarity for us. So I've worked
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  with many women, law firm owners who who start out thinking that
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  their goals are XYZ. And then as time goes along, and they do the
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  work and they get into their business, they begin to realize
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  that maybe their goals weren't lofty enough, or maybe that's
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  not really what they wanted those goals that they set. So
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  certainly you're free to change your goals. Good goals are
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  really just about your vision for the future. They are an
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  articulation of what you want for yourself. And when we create
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  them, when we write them down, we say them aloud. They are very
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  powerful tools in helping us live the life we imagine we want
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  to live. Recently though, I was in conversation with someone who
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  suggested that instead of thinking in terms of goals,
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  which can feel really bloated for some people, we might want
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  to shift to fantasizing. fantasizing sounds way more fun
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  and sexy than goals doesn't. In our fantasies, everything we
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  desire, we can have instantaneously. So no hard work
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  is required. No buy in from others, no money is required.
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  You don't need permission from anybody, you can just go to that
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  happy place in your head. So it was quite an interesting idea to
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  me because my philosophy has been a bit different throughout
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  my entire life. I never wanted my life to live only in danger.
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  I remember being a young woman and reading romance novels, or
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  having if you've ever read Harlequin romance novels or any
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  of those historical romance novels, maybe some of you still
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  do. But I decided I can either read about love or I can go out
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  and I can find it. I get livid. I didn't want to read fantasies
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  I wanted To lift them up. So for me, that's what goals are really
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  about. It's about taking that fantasy that life been dreaming
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  about, and taking action to make it a reality. What do you what
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  do I want grasping? What do I want? What is step one to
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  achieving it, what is step two, and so on and so forth. Weirdly,
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  though, it's both worked for me and not worked. And I suspect
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  that's just the human condition, everyone is going to experience
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  hills and valleys in their life, regardless of how much goal
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  setting you do, and how many goals you achieve, right. As I
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  got older, though, I realized that fantasies play a much more
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  important role than I realized, when I was younger. How
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  fantasies allow us to a way to get into the emotional state of
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  having what we believe it is we must have to be happy, content
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  or satisfied. So you see, I never considered how important
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  it is to be in the right emotional state, before taking
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  action on my goals. That is until I tried to bulldoze my way
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  through life toward my goals, and wound up burnout and deeply
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  unsatisfied. Having a strong vision, or a fantasy, about what
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  life will be like when we achieve our goals actually helps
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  us to achieve those goals in a much faster, much easier way.
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  Why? Because we are in the emotional state experiencing all
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  the feelings of already having everything we desire. And when
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  we do so we are vibrating on a higher frequency where those
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  things we desire likely live, whether that's a loving
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  relationship or prosperity, or traveling the world, whatever
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  that fantasy is for you. As Abraham Hicks says, for those of
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  you know, know that I love law of attraction, Abraham Hicks and
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  study that Abraham Hicks says it's like tuning your radio into
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  the frequency so you can clearly hear your favorite show. So if
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  you're just a few notches over on the dial, everything sounds,
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  staticky, the more dialed in you are the better everything
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  sounds. So the way to dial in to what you most desire is to
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  fantasize to elevate your frequency to already get in that
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  happy place in your mind.
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  Where you already have everything you already want. And
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  then pay attention to what those fantasies reveal to you about
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  you. Then when you're feeling all the joy of already having
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  everything you desire, you're in the perfect place to begin to
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  take not just action, but inspire action. Perhaps by
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  setting and baby stepping your way through your goals. Now
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  you're coming from a place of inspiration, not a place of half
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  to the minute your goals begin to feel like pressure or
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  drudgery. It is time to go back to your happy place in your mind
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  and fantasize a little bit more. And feel the satisfaction of
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  knowing that at any time, you can feel the joy of having
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  everything your heart desires. Truth be told that and not goal
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  setting is your real superpower. It's my real superpower, all of
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  our all human being superpower. What would happen in your life
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  in your business today, if you started activating this
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  superpower more often. So that's a wrap for this episode of
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