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Does Johnjay possess traits he doesn't even know about yet? · Johnjay & Rich On Demand

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  Speaker 1: Okay. I'm going to go over something that I have
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  Speaker 1: not pre-read because the title of the article I feel
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  Speaker 1: speaks to me and other people.
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  Speaker 2: Okay.
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  Speaker 1: What does it say? People who ignore calls and forget
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  Speaker 1: to text back usually have these nine distinct personality traits. Interesting.
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  Speaker 2: Okay.
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  Speaker 1: Okay. I never call back.
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  Speaker 3: Okay, I was like, do you feel like this applies
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  Speaker 3: to you, or are you calling out people that do
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  Speaker 3: this to you?
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  Speaker 1: I haven't read it.
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  Speaker 3: Okay.
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  Speaker 1: That's what I'm saying. It could be brutal. It could
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  Speaker 1: be awesome. Okay. Most of these tests that we take
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  Speaker 1: or that I go over usually have me highlighted as
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  Speaker 1: a super genius.
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  Speaker 3: Right.
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  Speaker 1: And I swear to God, I have not looked at this.
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  Speaker 1: So you'll have to forgive me for my reading if
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  Speaker 1: I'm reading it. What you're saying to us all is
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  Speaker 1: this headline. speaks to you. The headline, I was like, man,
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  Speaker 1: I do that. Like, what if it goes, he's a serial,
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  Speaker 1: they're serial killers.
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  Speaker 2: Right.
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  Speaker 1: Like, you're like, oh, that headline is me. I'd like
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  Speaker 1: to see what traits do I have. Right. Like, I
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  Speaker 1: saw this thing one time that said, people who drink
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  Speaker 1: coffee black with no sugar, nothing, are serial killers. I
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  Speaker 1: was like, dang. That's what the energy they get. So
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  Speaker 1: here we go. People who ignore calls and forget to
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  Speaker 1: text back have these nine personality traits. So this is you.
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  Speaker 1: Number one, they are selective. In a busy, over-connected world,
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  Speaker 1: you either run yourself ragged or make an intentional choice
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  Speaker 1: to prioritize your interactions. That's what people who ignore calls
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  Speaker 1: and forget to text back certainly do. Studies show some
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  Speaker 1: people who identify as introverts live intentionally. They practice discernment
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  Speaker 1: with how they choose to spend their time. This doesn't
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  Speaker 1: mean they're purposely ignoring people in their life. It's something,
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  Speaker 1: it's time-sensitive or they're locked in on a task. They
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  Speaker 1: can put those things ahead of checking their phones. Okay,
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  Speaker 1: I can see that's not necessarily.
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  Speaker 3: A bad thing.
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  Speaker 1: I agree with that. Number two. They are easily distracted.
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  Speaker 1: That's you. Yeah, 100%. Number three, they are perfectionists. If
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  Speaker 1: someone holds themselves to ridiculous high standards, they're likely a perfectionist.
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  Speaker 1: They set goals that may be unattainable. It drives them
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  Speaker 1: to accomplish everything they can, which can affect whether they
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  Speaker 1: text someone back or not.
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  Speaker 2: Okay. That's interesting because, you know, my wife's not a
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  Speaker 2: call me backer and she fits those categories.
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  Speaker 1: They are easily overwhelmed. Oh, yeah. We are all juggling
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  Speaker 1: a long list of responsibilities from our friends and family
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  Speaker 1: to careers and activities. We're constantly being pulled in different directions.
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  Speaker 1: Managing our own feelings is a hard task. When we
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  Speaker 1: add in other people's, it can feel overwhelming. You can't
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  Speaker 1: do everything. You can't do it. They have anxiety. Younger
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  Speaker 1: generations are struggling with talking on the phone. It's an
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  Speaker 1: actual phobia called telephobia. It's making them avoid calls entirely. Yeah.
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  Speaker 3: Weird.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah.
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  Speaker 2: That sounds weird to me. Yeah.
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  Speaker 1: They can be lazy. That's me. I totally feel lazy.
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  Speaker 1: We often don't have patience for people who come across
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  Speaker 1: as lazy. It can be frustrating when you want to
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  Speaker 1: hear from someone, but they don't want to put in
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  Speaker 1: the effort to reply. That's a big one for me.
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  Speaker 1: I don't want to call them back.
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  Speaker 2: Well, sometimes when you get a text message, they're just
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  Speaker 2: telling you something. You don't need to reply to it.
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  Speaker 2: You've already seen what they're saying. So you're good.
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  Speaker 1: Do you think that this applies to the people who
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  Speaker 1: read text messages and then forget to text back too?
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  Speaker 1: I don't know if it says people who ignore calls
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  Speaker 1: and forget to text back. They have these nine characteristics.
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  Speaker 1: They are hardworking. Our phones are little distractions in our pocket.
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  Speaker 1: One breaks from scrolling can turn into a detour that
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  Speaker 1: makes completing a task even more difficult. That's true. Sometimes
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  Speaker 1: I'll be out there and I'm like, oh my God,
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  Speaker 1: I can't believe it's been 20 minutes. I could have
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  Speaker 1: done this. That's true. They are private. Texting can put
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  Speaker 1: a strain on our relationships while it can be beneficial
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  Speaker 1: allowing us to talk to people from anywhere at any time.
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  Speaker 1: It can decrease the quality of our conversations. This can
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  Speaker 1: make private individuals struggle. They may not want to be
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  Speaker 1: available to others 24-7. Here's another thing. They don't do
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  Speaker 1: well under pressure. Some texts and phone calls are urgent.
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  Speaker 1: The person on the other end needs to get in
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  Speaker 1: touch with you for whatever reason, and you feel pressured
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  Speaker 1: to reply. Psychology has shown that humans don't always work
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  Speaker 1: well under those circumstances. We can overthink what we're saying
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  Speaker 1: or feel nervous about failure. Some people can feel the
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  Speaker 1: pressure even over the phone. When this happens, we can
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  Speaker 1: perform below what we know we are capable of. Instead
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  Speaker 1: of tackling that challenge, they avoid calls or ignore texts
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  Speaker 1: to prevent that feeling entirely.
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  Speaker 2: Do you think those are the same people that refuse
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  Speaker 2: to answer the door when the doorbell rings too because
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  Speaker 2: they don't want that confrontation?
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  Speaker 3: Maybe they're just avoiding serial killers.
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  Speaker 1: If you remember, I dismantled my doorbell. Oh, you're even extra.
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  Speaker 2: You took out your doorbell. Ding dong to it.
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  Speaker 1: I took out my doorbell. The only way I go
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  Speaker 1: to the door is when I hear my dogs go
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  Speaker 1: crazy and I'm like, someone must be at the door.
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  Speaker 1: I better go. I've never ignored anyone at the door
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  Speaker 1: except for Christmas carolers.
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  Speaker 2: They just want to carol.
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  Speaker 1: You're out of line. You just want to spread cheer.
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  Speaker 1: Out of line, anyway. The best way to spread Christmas cheer.
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  Speaker 1: John may remove his doorbell, but he won't carol with us.
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  Speaker 1: We will carol without.
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  Speaker 3: Him and spread our holiday cheer. Bro, I rang the
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  Speaker 3: doorbell at this fancy house, and no joke, dozens of
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  Speaker 3: dogs came barking, and the doorbell never even made a noise.
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  Speaker 3: I started to sing Jingle Bell Rock, and Bro turned
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  Speaker 3: the lights off and went back to watching Ted Lasso.
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  Speaker 1: I consider myself a go-with-the-flow guy. Shut up!
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  Speaker 3: Yes, you have.
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  Speaker 1: We can confirm that. Hold on. I think I do
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  Speaker 1: go with the.
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  Speaker 3: You're going to make me pay.
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  Speaker 1: You're going to stop.
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  Speaker 2: You're going to stop.
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  Speaker 3: Shut up.