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Unleashing Unshakeable Confidence With Melinda Lee · Speak In Flow

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  Melinda Lee: Welcome to the Speak In Flow podcast. I am so
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  glad you're here today, we are going to dive into both stepping
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  into your Unshakable Confidence and influence. Unshakable
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  Confidence is when you feel and embody with every fibre
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  beingness bone cell in your body you feel and the sense of
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  confidence, a sense of peace. Confidence allows for connection
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  and trust with you and your audience. Influence is how you
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  inspire people to take action. I remember a time when I define
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  myself as a number, purely a number, I'd be in my bathroom,
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  looking down at that scale, and afraid of what it was going to
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  tell me because that number was who I was for that day. When it
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  stepped on the scale, and I'd see a number that was higher
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  than my ideal weight. broke me, it defined who I was, and, or
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  am, I was a failure. It broke my heart, I couldn't bear to see
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  heavier weight as a person who had struggled with an eating
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  disorder for decades. That's what that meant to me and meant
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  the world to me that number. And so it was became so challenging
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  because then I couldn't work. I couldn't focus. Sometimes I
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  couldn't even help my daughter couldn't have the energy. And I
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  finally decided I had enough. I didn't care what was going to
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  happen whether I gain weight, loss weight, what I needed to be
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  free from this, set myself free from this trap this prison. So I
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  got a nutritionist, a Workout Trainer, and also a mindset
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  coach, because I knew I was in for a journey, I could not help
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  myself anymore. What I was doing to myself was all incorrect. So
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  I needed to trust somebody else. And I did. It was not easy. But
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  I knew I needed to do this for my daughter. And to finally do
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  this for myself, I felt so disconnected from myself. And
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  what I learned is I finally learned to give myself food.
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  When I was hungry. I wouldn't do that before. If I was hungry,
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  I'd starve. And then if I was full, I keep eating sometimes
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  because I feel so guilty for being full. So then what that's
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  what my mindset coach would work on me to continue to help clear
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  my mind clear my thoughts of all this limiting negative feelings
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  and emotions I had about myself. It was like a two year process.
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  That to myself, the wholeness of myself, I let go of the negative
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  thoughts I had about my body so that I can connect back and
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  listen to what it needed. I was more focused on doing what I was
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  told by these nutritionists doing what I was told. And
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  finally, I remember the day running down and jogging down my
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  block. Feeling free. I had tears in my eyes because I could see
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  the trees, I could see the sun beaming to feel the sun beaming
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  on my face. comfort to me letting me know that you did it.
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  You are free. You're no longer bound by a number. You are way
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  more than that. You're here to do bigger things. And that is
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  why I'm so thrilled to be with you today. Because I'm fully
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  here I'm fully present, where before I was so focused on that
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  number, I couldn't serve anybody else. But I had to do a lot of
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  inner work to get here. build my confidence, build my ability to
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  connect with others, and to allow others to connect with me.
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  If I had felt any doubt about my weight, I wouldn't allow you to
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  connect with me because I didn't think I would be good enough. So
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  you can imagine the day I felt free I felt excited. I'm like
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  I'm ready to do this. I'm ready to get clients Let's go. And
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  speaking on that stage and thinking I was gonna get more
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  clients It's good. I didn't, I didn't know why I was so
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  frustrated. I thought, Wait, I just did all this work to feel
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  confident again, but hole again. And yet there was something
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  missing. People were not acting. So I studied more again, here's
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  another journey, another layer toward influence, how can I
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  influence my audience in a way that inspires them motivates
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  them to do something. And I realised that storytelling was
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  the next key skill that I needed to learn. I had a lot of
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  resistance, I don't know how to tell good stories. I don't have
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  any experiences to share. But then I started realising that I
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  do, because I started diving in asking myself questions, writing
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  down on a chart, my life journey. I do have experiences
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  to share. And they're meant to be shared. And so I learned a
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  framework for telling powerful stories. And including those
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  into my presentations, and learning how to include stories
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  within my presentations, so that I can continue to connect with
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  the audience, continue to engage them, and continue to take my
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  audience on the same ride with me. So we're both on the ride
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  together. And inspiring people motivating them. Getting them,
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  like fired up and passionate about solving our problems, all
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  the problems that we have in the world. So let's do this. Let's
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  do this together. And I need the support of the people in the
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  room. And that is when I started to create influence. And if
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  people were out there, naysayers that were out there, I knew I
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  could trust myself to be in the moment to answer difficult
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  questions. And that is how we can all collaborate, and work
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  together. I realised the difference between confidence
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  which builds connection, trustworthiness and influence,
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  which motivates inspires people to ask people know what the next
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  step is. Those two combined is the powerful approach system
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  that that we learned in the speaking flow programme, both
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  stepping into confidence and influence. So that you can make
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  a bigger difference. So that you can inspire and, and have a team
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  and have people in your community and, and have
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  meaningful relationships because it is finally time that we all
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  change the way that we communicate in this world. It
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  matters, communication, connection, and influence. With
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  the way AI is going, communication is a way that
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  we're going to continue to have humanity sustain humanity. So
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  until I hope that you had taken this, my story and my example to
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  inspire you, to let you know that it is possible. Your
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  confidence is not far from you. It's always been within you.
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  Back to the wholeness of yourself, back to the confidence
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  self. A self that trust that you can influence and lead people.
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  That's the journey that we're on. I'm glad that you're here
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  until I see you again on the other side. I'm your sister in
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  flow. Take care